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Here's How To Put a Narcissist In Their Place · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So how in do you? Put a narcissist in their place.
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  How, How do you just put them in their place finally?
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  How, how, how? Who?
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  That's what we talking about today.
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  Y'all know that's on y'all I know that's on so many people's
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  minds. But that's what we what we're
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  going to be talking about today. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to yet another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Let's get it. So how the heck the heck I said
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  the heck do you put a narcissist in their place?
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  Like what do you need to? Do how?
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  Do you go? About doing that.
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  How do you go? About surviving, How do you go
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  about putting them in their place to get them to leave you
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  the hell alone? How?
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  How Lee Lee, see you. You're dragging the video out.
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  You want it to be longer, don't you?
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  Just tell us now, I'll click off.
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  No, but seriously, the number one way to put a narcissist in
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  their place? Is to match their energy.
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  Hey, I'm just. Hey, I'm not.
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  Saying I'm. Just saying, but also let me.
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  I I have to preface this, but but but of course, by saying use
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  discretion, let's be. Real you got.
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  To use discretion, like when you doing any type of things to a
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  narcissistic person, to a toxic person, to a manipulator, to an
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  abusive person, you always have to use discretion and put your
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  own safety first, right So. How do you?
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  Put a narcissist in their place. Give them this match, their
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  energy. I'll do the same stuff to them
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  that they're doing to you. For some people.
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  That seems. To be problematic, right?
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  It seems to be like, Lee, if I do that, they're they're going
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  to be mad. If I do that, they're going to
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  hit me. Do that.
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  Well, yeah, this is the thing about narcissist.
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  They're going to do it anyway, right?
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  Let's be real. They're going to do.
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  It anyway. I'm just keeping it hot ready
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  with you. They're going regardless of how
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  it goes, regardless of what. They do.
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  They're absolutely going to do it anyway.
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  So if you. Matching their energy is the
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  best way to put them in their damn.
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  Place. Right, It really is.
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  It's doing the same thing to them that they do to you.
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  Within reason, y'all, Within reason.
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  This is Yeah, I'm not. Let me say this, I'm not a.
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  Cheat back, cheat. Back person right because if
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  you. Like if they.
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  Cheat on you, I'm not telling. You to cheat.
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  Back on them, right? Because that might.
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  Get you? Questioning your own morality or
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  your own integrity. It'll have you.
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  Feeling worse, right? I stooped to their level.
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  I did the same thing that they did.
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  You don't want to do stuff that makes you question your own
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  integrity or your morality, your religious beliefs, whatever it
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  is, right? You don't want to do that,
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  right? That's what I'm saying.
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  I'm not a fan of cheating back. Just leave their asses if they
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  cheating if if. If all possible to leave to to
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  dip on them, leave their asses. Very seriously.
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  You know, because that's the quick, the best way to put a
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  narcissist in their place is to give them the same energy back
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  that they're giving to you. If they're giving you the silent
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  treatment, you silent treatment back harder man.
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  If they give you the silent treatment, enjoy the silence.
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  They're trying to punish you. They can't punish you if you
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  enjoy it, right? Like right.
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  They can't punish you if you enjoy the punishment.
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  I'm going to punish you by give you the silent treatment.
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  Oh. You got to be silent to me.
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  Oh, so I can read a book so I can I can learn how to use a
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  needle and thread. Whatever you doing, I can go.
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  I can go for a job, I can actually get some peace and.
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  Quiet in here. Like because you already being
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  silent and being a childish ass little bastard, I can do what I
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  want to do right now and that's. Part of it right there, right?
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  That's a big piece of it. That's how it ends up going.
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  So you yourself have to understand that this is how
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  they're going to be. This is how you going to be.
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  If you don't want to leave, you can't leave your trauma bond or
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  whatever the situation is. Enjoy the silence.
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  Match their energy. What did Einstein say?
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  Was it Einstein that said that? Or was it Newton?
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  Was it like every action that has has an equal but opposite
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  reaction? Yeah, your, your if your action
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  is the solid treatment, my reaction is going to be enjoying
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  it or being silent. Back to you.
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  To hell with you, right? Right.
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  That's they they can't be thinking right there.
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  Y'all that Will Smith to. Hell, what the hell?
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  That's a good one right there y'all that's a good one right
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  I'll be using this I'm going to be using this sound on TikTok
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  today. I really go I'm really am going
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  to use this sound on TikTok. You're like to hell, what the
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  hell to hell with them Yeah, that's going to be a good one,
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  but that's how it goes to hell with him.
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  That's Will Smith. That's a big piece of it like if
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  they're. Giving you this, they're giving
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  you the. Action.
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  Equal but opposite reaction right now.
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  If they're giving you narcissistic rage, I'm not
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  telling you to match. Their energy right there if
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  their. If their.
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  Action is narcissistic rage your.
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  Reaction might be to disconnect. Your reaction might be to
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  separate yourself from the situation.
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  Your reaction might be to give yourself some distance.
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  But allow allow this person to heal or.
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  Cry or whatever they need to do that.
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  Like I said, your reaction match their energy by giving them an
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  opposite but equal. Reaction, right?
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  That's what. Ends up happening.
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  Like. That you can't like we we tired
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  of getting run over y'all we tired of getting run over How to
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  put them in their place is not giving like another way.
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  To put them in their place is by.
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  Not. Giving them the reaction that
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  they're seeking. You hear me?
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  Again, another way to get that, to put them in their place is to
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  not give them what they're after.
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  A lot of times what they're after.
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  Is to. Try to manipulate you.
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  What they're after is to. Try to hurt you.
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  What they're after, if you have you lying and have you crying
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  and screaming and begging, right?
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  That's what they're after. They're after the pain.
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  They want to they want to know that they they want to know.
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  That they hurt you, right? So we not letting them know that
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  no MO. We look we not letting them know
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  no MO. They want their reaction.
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  They want you to. Cry.
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  And beg and plead. They want to see you in pain.
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  So we're not giving them that. No mow.
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  Don't give them what they want, how they put them in their place
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  stand. Up for yourself again y'all.
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  I know that some of these. Bastards out here.
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  Are an abusive, they're hurt, they're they're liars, they're
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  manipulators, whatever the case may be.
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  So what we have to do in this situation is figure out a way to
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  get them to match, to get your energy back from them, right?
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  It really, really is. That's one of the things that
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  has to happen. You have to put them in their
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  place. Sometimes you have to stand up
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  for yourself. They're not.
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  Look, one thing about narcissistic people.
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  They are not. Expecting you to be strong.
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  They're not. Anticipating on you.
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  Fighting back they're not. Anticipating that y'all?
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  They're expecting you. To cry.
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  And beg and plead. They're expecting that from you.
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  They're not expecting. You to be like.
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  You know what? I got you.
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  You know, you know what? I got you right here.
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  I got you. You know what?
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  I, I, I promise you this is what's going to happen.
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  They're not expecting it at all. So as you are moving forward and
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  understanding what they're doing and what you're going through,
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  like they're not expecting strength, they're expecting
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  compliance. They're.
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  Expecting servitude they're. Expecting you to be meek, that's
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  what they're expecting. They're they're not expecting
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  you to be like to fight back, not by fight back I don't mean.
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  Put your hands up until I throwing them bangs back at
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  them, right? I don't mean that sometimes you
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  might, sometimes you might have to throw them hands back at
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  them, right? But.
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  They're not expecting you to fight.
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  Back. How to put them in that place is
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  to stand up for yourself, to be you.
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  Hey, let's keep it real, let's keep it real.
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  Y'all know one of the biggest ways to put them in their place
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  is to expose them? I know.
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  I know. Some people like Lee.
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  Get us the needy, greedy. Yeah.
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  You can put. Them in that place and hurt
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  their feelings. Yeah, you can.
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  Yeah, of course, y'all, you can go sleep with a brother or their
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  sister, Of course you could do that, right?
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  But at the end of the day, how does that make you feel, right?
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  At the end of the day, what's the, what's the significance of
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  that right there? How does that make you feel?
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  How does that end up? How does that end up going right
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  there? You know, do you?
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  Are you questioning your own morality?
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  In that situation. Right.
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  So the easiest way to put them in a place is really is to
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  expose them. Like you can expose.
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  Yeah, you can really expose A narcissist and put them in a
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  place. It really can not even sometimes
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  you just. Be real sometimes.
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  You don't even have to, really. Expose them.
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  It's the threat. Of exposure.
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  You could just say I want to expose everybody.
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  Going to see this. It's recording them.
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  Put them in a place by recording them.
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  That's how you get them to act right.
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  They'll be losing their mind to the camera.
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  Come on, they'd be losing their damn mind.
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  Till the camera come on you like.
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  They'd be like, shut the hell up, you lie.
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  Peep now why? Would you record me right now?
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  Why don't you do that? Why would you pull the camera?
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  I thought we were having a genuine conversation, but now
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  you pull the camera out like can we just, can you put the camera
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  down so we can talk in private, please?
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  As soon as. Soon as they.
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  Think the camera go off? They're like.
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  You lying, cheating Peep I. Didn't call you a liar, I said.
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  Sometimes you act like you were lying, cheating, scallywag whore
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  piece of shit. I didn't call you that dog.
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  You see how? Crazy it is exposing them is.
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  Probably the. Most efficient way to put them
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  in their place because sometimes a lot of narcissistic people,
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  not sometimes most times narcissists are worried about
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  their reputations of how they will be viewed by other people.
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  They're not worried about what they do to you.
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  They worry about what other people will think about them.
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  If other people saw what they're doing, if other people become
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  become like Privy to what they're doing, what they're
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  putting you through, that's what they're worried about They're
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  not worried about the actual pain and suffering that they put
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  you through. They're worried about how other
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  people will view them once this gets exposed.
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  So what I'm just telling you, exposing them is probably the
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  most efficient way to get them to put them in their place.
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  But again, exposing them comes with risks.
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  Some of these bastards are going to try to hurt you because
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  they've been exposed. They don't want to be exposed.
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  They want their life. They will, they want to live in
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  this facade of who they are. They want the world to think
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  that they are a good person. They want the world to believe
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  that they are genuinely a good person.
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  So a lot of them in these situations, they don't want to
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  be exposed. They don't want to be people to
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  see them for who they really are.
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  So they're going to act accordingly.
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  They're going to try to act right sometimes.
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  I told you this to a lady this morning.
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  I said do my one of my my Zoom calls.
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  I say anybody can act right for a small short for a short period
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  of time. Anyone can behave.
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  For a short period of time. Anyone, anybody can be on their.
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  Best behavior for a short period of time.
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  It's the consistent change behavior over an extended period
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  of time that makes the biggest differences that makes the big.
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  That just shows you people are actually trying to change their
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  behavior overtime. Consistent change behavior
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  overtime. And you don't have to give.
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  People time. That's one of the things I have.
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  I feel like I have to harp for people, harp towards people.
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  Like it's consistent change behavior over time, but you
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  don't have to give people time. Some people don't deserve it,
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  y'all, let's be real. Some people don't deserve a
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  second, third, 4th, 15th chance. They really don't.
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  So in order to put them in their place, you have to sometimes.
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  Y'all put a narcissist in their place.
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  You just have to make them feel this big.
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  Put them in their place. You just have to criticize them.
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  Put them in their place, tell them the truth about themselves.
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  That'll that'll show them tell them the truth about themselves.
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  You know everybody. People only like you because
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  they don't know the real you. What did you say?
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  Of course, y'all, any attempt to put a narcissist in a place will
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  probably probably be met with anger, frustration, rage, all
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  the other, all the other. I was going to say good stuff,
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  but all that other bad stuff, because none of this, none of
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  this stuff is good, right? You have to protect yourself
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  along the way by any means possible.
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  Y'all seriously, seriously, seriously.
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