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Focus on YOU, Not Others: Overcome Hard Times & Become Unstoppable · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: If you find your passion, you're gonna have this tremendous energy.
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  Speaker 1: It's sustainable energy. What momentum requires you always do the
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  Speaker 1: next thing to keep the momentum going. And the reason
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  Speaker 1: you get yourself in a passionate place is so that
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  Speaker 1: you change your life. And the only thing that changes
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  Speaker 1: your life is making a decision.
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  Speaker 2: And I want you to live the dream. I'm living
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  Speaker 2: the dream because I was obedient to the call of
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  Speaker 2: the dream. So I want you to leave here today
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  Speaker 2: thinking about what is the dream for you?
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  Speaker 3: What is God's dream for you?
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  Speaker 2: What does the Creator's dream hold for you?
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  Speaker 4: You have to get fluid in the language of success,
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  Speaker 4: so you speak it with ease, surround yourself with people
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  Speaker 4: who've accomplished their dreams, and immerse yourself in the culture
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  Speaker 4: of achievement, and before you know it, you go to
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  Speaker 4: speaking the life of your dreams into existence. You know,
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  Speaker 4: it's impossible to think of the impossible.
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  Speaker 3: It's not possible.
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  Speaker 4: So if you think it, it's possible. And if you
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  Speaker 4: live your life impossibilities instead of probabilities, you have a
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  Speaker 4: greater chance of finding happiness. Seriously, never live your life
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  Speaker 4: in probability. Probability is the probability of something happened. There's
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  Speaker 4: a statistic attract attached.
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  Speaker 5: To the probability.
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  Speaker 4: One in every three thousand people do this. One and
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  Speaker 4: every that's a probability. A possibility has no status attached
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  Speaker 4: to it. Live your life impossibilities and.
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  Speaker 3: You change it.
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  Speaker 5: Just change the way you think.
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  Speaker 3: That's all I want you to do.
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  Speaker 6: When you look at your dream, Let's say to yourself
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  Speaker 6: every day it's possible.
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  Speaker 3: Let's say that every day to.
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  Speaker 6: Yourself, it's possible.
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  Speaker 3: And so as you begin to.
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  Speaker 6: Look at where you want to go, beginning to embrace
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  Speaker 6: that it's possible.
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  Speaker 7: And once you realize when you rewind the tape of
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  Speaker 7: your own life, is that there are these crucial moments
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  Speaker 7: where if the luck had gone the other way, you
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  Speaker 7: might have gotten killed. And so what you have to
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  Speaker 7: do is to always be putting those extra disciplines in place.
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  Speaker 7: Because I was lucky to live, and what I took
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  Speaker 7: from that is I never want to have to.
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  Speaker 3: Be lucky to live again.
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  Speaker 5: I want to live because of my discipline, not because
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  Speaker 5: of my life.
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  Speaker 8: You must remove temptations. If you are going to have
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  Speaker 8: self discipline, you need to put yourself on punishments. You
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  Speaker 8: need to tell you no more TV, no more snacks,
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  Speaker 8: no more desserts, more no.
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  Speaker 3: We work it out now.
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  Speaker 8: I don't want a life where something else is controlling me.
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  Speaker 8: You know, life real when I left home and say
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  Speaker 8: I don't want to be controlled no more. I don't
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  Speaker 8: want nothing to control me but me, And so I
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  Speaker 8: got to put myself under extreme discipline to make sure
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  Speaker 8: I'm free. So when people see me, you get up
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  Speaker 8: a three, you don't drink, you don't spoke. I'm not
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  Speaker 8: doing that because I think I'm better than nobody else,
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  Speaker 8: or I think you gonna go to hell because you
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  Speaker 8: had a drink.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just want I want to control.
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  Speaker 8: I want freedom, and for me, disciplining myself means more freedom.
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  Speaker 9: The next step is that is you, that is you
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  Speaker 9: that no one can do it for you but you.
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  Speaker 9: And even though you face disappointments, even though you will
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  Speaker 9: experience some setbacks, it girls with the territory. You must
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  Speaker 9: understand that you want to take responsibility for your life.
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  Speaker 9: I got me here, I can get me out of this,
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  Speaker 9: and I'm getting out. I'm not gonna be a volunteer victim.
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  Speaker 10: But I have been committed to everything that I ever
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  Speaker 10: started in my life, and I never stopped and I
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  Speaker 10: never quit it. And so by being committed to everything
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  Speaker 10: I started.
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  Speaker 5: I finished it.
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  Speaker 11: It built a certain type of spirit, it felt a
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  Speaker 11: certain type of mentality, it built a certain type of individual.
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  Speaker 11: And so now I couldn't quit even if I wanted to.
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  Speaker 11: I couldn't lay in the vent even if I wanted to.
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  Speaker 11: I couldn't stop even if I wanted to.
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  Speaker 3: I had too much more actually.
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  Speaker 11: In my life and everything that I was doing, because
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  Speaker 11: I understood my existence wasn't about me. I went from
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  Speaker 11: me to way a long time ago.
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  Speaker 9: I understood the process is.
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  Speaker 11: More important in the product. It wasn't about the outcome
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  Speaker 11: for me, what that made it to the NFL or
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  Speaker 11: not that was inconsequential in God's playing for my life.
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  Speaker 3: But I was going to.
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  Speaker 11: Fall in love with that process because I understood by
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  Speaker 11: falling in love with that process, it.
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  Speaker 3: Was going to turn me into a machine. That's all
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  Speaker 3: I want you to do.
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  Speaker 6: When you look at your dream, just say to yourself
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  Speaker 6: every day it's possible. Just say that every day to
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  Speaker 6: yourself it's possible. Because what does that do?
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  Speaker 9: See? It begins to change your belief system. See the
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  Speaker 9: way in which we operate, ladies and gentlemen. It's a
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  Speaker 9: manifestation of what we believe, what's possible for us. Whatever
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  Speaker 9: you've done up to this point, all that it really
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  Speaker 9: is is a duplication. It's a reproduction of what you
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  Speaker 9: believe subconsciously that you deserve and what's possible for your life.
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  Speaker 9: Most people operate out of their personal history, out of
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  Speaker 9: their memory. Things have done, things, have experienced, things, they
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  Speaker 9: have seen, things that they have observed. What I'm suggesting
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  Speaker 9: that you operate out of a larger vision of yourself.
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  Speaker 9: I want you to see yourself doing what you want
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  Speaker 9: to do, experiencing what you want to experiencing having what
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  Speaker 9: you want to have, doing what is that gives your
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  Speaker 9: life some meaning of value. Operate out of your imagination,
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  Speaker 9: not your memory, because whenever you look at where you
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  Speaker 9: want to go, I'm wanting to warn you, you will
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  Speaker 9: have some conversation.
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  Speaker 3: Back here after you go through the.
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  Speaker 9: Data that you've experienced in life, saying you can't do it.
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  Speaker 9: And so what you want to begin to do is
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  Speaker 9: ignore that inner conversation. Well, most for ladies and gentlemen,
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  Speaker 9: when something happens to them, what they do is they
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  Speaker 9: begin to believe that that's the way it is, that's
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  Speaker 9: why it's always been and they can't see the possibility
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  Speaker 9: of it being any different. Example, before, in April nineteen
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  Speaker 9: fifty four, the common belief, the universal belief, because it
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  Speaker 9: had been tried again and again and again and people
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  Speaker 9: have failed. The belief was that man was not physically
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  Speaker 9: capable of breaking the four minute barrier, that he could
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  Speaker 9: not run a mile in less than four minutes. That
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  Speaker 9: was the belief on the planet. It had never been done.
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  Speaker 9: But here's what happened, ladies and gentlemen. Roger Banister came
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  Speaker 9: along and he worked the four minute barrier. Now here's
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  Speaker 9: what's significant about that. Since that time, up to this day,
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  Speaker 9: over twenty thousand people have done it, including high school kids.
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  Speaker 5: What change?
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  Speaker 9: Twenty thousand people? What change? Here's what happened.
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  Speaker 10: When they got on the track.
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  Speaker 9: They knew it had been done. And because I knew
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  Speaker 9: it had been done, there was.
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  Speaker 3: A new belief about this barrier, about this goal that
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  Speaker 3: was unreachable.
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  Speaker 10: And those twenty thousand people got in the race believing,
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  Speaker 10: knowing in their heart that someone had done it, that
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  Speaker 10: it's possible that they could do it, And I'm saying
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  Speaker 10: that if you.
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  Speaker 9: Know anybody that had some goal, some dream, something they
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  Speaker 9: wanted to do and they did it, denied saying that
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  Speaker 9: you know in your heart that if someone has done.
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  Speaker 12: It, then you can do it.
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  Speaker 9: It's possible, and that if someone can make that dream
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  Speaker 9: become a reality, that it's possible that you can make
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  Speaker 9: your dream become reality. And so as you began to
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  Speaker 9: look at where you want to beginning to embrace that,
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  Speaker 9: it's tough. I'm blessed in highly favored. I've got a
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  Speaker 9: lot going for me. I got some good stuff in me,
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  Speaker 9: and it's possible that I can bring my greatness out
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  Speaker 9: here in the universe, that I can do what I
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  Speaker 9: want to do.
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  Speaker 5: It's possible.
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  Speaker 9: I can write my own book, I can have my
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  Speaker 9: own business. I can take the trip and travel around
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  Speaker 9: the world.
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  Speaker 1: It's possible.
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  Speaker 9: I can bounce back from adversity and reinvent my life.
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  Speaker 9: It's possible. Regardless of where I am, the things can
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  Speaker 9: get better for me. It's possible.
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  Speaker 5: I keep getting asked this type of question, how do
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  Speaker 5: I get disciplined, or how do I want discipline or
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  Speaker 5: how do I maintain discipline? And the answer it's a
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  Speaker 5: simple answer, but obviously it's not easy. And there's all
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  Speaker 5: kinds of little tricks and methods that people talk about,
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  Speaker 5: and you know they have some merit.
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  Speaker 3: You know, maybe they do work.
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  Speaker 5: These these things, you know, do the little things people say,
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  Speaker 5: and wake up early, I say that, and write things
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  Speaker 5: down and take cold showers and tell everyone what you're
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  Speaker 5: going to do, so broadcast it and make promises or
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  Speaker 5: or make bets with your friends of something that you
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  Speaker 5: don't want to lose.
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  Speaker 3: And those things, those ideas, they're they're cool.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sure they're going to have some impact. And if
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  Speaker 5: they work for you, that's that's awesome. But the fact
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  Speaker 5: of the matter is that the reason discipline is hard
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  Speaker 5: to maintain is because it is hard to maintain.
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  Speaker 3: That's what makes discipline hard. It's hard.
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  Speaker 5: And if you hear me claim that discipline is easy
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  Speaker 5: for me, then straight up, that's just my ego talking.
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  Speaker 3: That's what that is, because.
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  Speaker 5: I'm unfortunately just as human as everyone else.
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  Speaker 3: And it is work to maintain the discipline.
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  Speaker 5: That's what it is.
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  Speaker 3: Work, holding the.
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  Speaker 5: Line, maintaining the standard, giving no slack none, that's the discipline.
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  Speaker 5: That's the discipline, and it is hard, and if there's
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  Speaker 5: one thing I would say that does make it easier,
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  Speaker 5: it's to envision what it feels like when you're done.
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  Speaker 5: What it feels like after you've worked out, or you've
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  Speaker 5: held the line on your food intake, or you've pushed
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  Speaker 5: through some monotonous project that you have to do. In
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  Speaker 5: all those things, when they're done, they feel good, and
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  Speaker 5: contrary to that, envision what you will feel like later.
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  Speaker 3: When you let the discipline slack. You know the feeling.
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  Speaker 5: Feeling weak and defeated, and you know that you're falling behind.
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  Speaker 5: So get to know those two different types of feelings
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  Speaker 5: and ask yourself which one you want.
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  Speaker 3: To feel in ten minutes or in a half an hour.
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  Speaker 5: When the thing is done, when the discipline has been implemented,
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  Speaker 5: Remember what that feels like. And then remember that those
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  Speaker 5: minutes and those hours they turn into weeks and months
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  Speaker 5: and years, and holding the line in those critical minutes
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  Speaker 5: will put you in an infinitely better place physically and
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  Speaker 5: mentally if.
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  Speaker 3: You maintain the discipline. So work through.
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  Speaker 5: The weakness, fight through the temptation, hold the line, hold the.
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  Speaker 3: Line, maintain the discipline. It is not easy, but it
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  Speaker 3: is worth it.
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  Speaker 5: Because yes, because discipline equals freedom.
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  Speaker 12: I talk to a lot of people who are about
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  Speaker 12: to have a breakthrough, right, they're about to have a breakthrough.
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  Speaker 12: But they have convinced themselves in here of one thing,
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  Speaker 12: and let me tell you what it is. They've convinced
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  Speaker 12: themselves that what they're going through no one's ever gone
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  Speaker 12: through before, That their wall is thicker than everybody else's wall,
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  Speaker 12: That their difficulty, no one knows how hard it is.
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  Speaker 12: But you don't know what I'm going through. But you
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  Speaker 12: don't know my difficult You don't know my family. You
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  Speaker 12: don't know my heartache. You don't know my enemy. You
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  Speaker 12: don't know who I'm fasing. You don't know this opponent,
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  Speaker 12: he's so manipulative. You don't know how the industry is.
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  Speaker 12: You don't know how the market is. You don't know
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  Speaker 12: the company I'm a part. You don't know everything that said.
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  Speaker 12: You don't know my wife. You don't know my boyfriend.
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  Speaker 12: You don't know my husband, you don't know my parents,
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  Speaker 12: You don't know who I am. My difficulties are bigger
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  Speaker 12: at your difficulties. And that's why I can't overcome these difficulties.
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  Speaker 12: It makes myself to you.
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  Speaker 3: You know it's the angelus.
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  Speaker 12: I think you actually believe that, because if you actually
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  Speaker 12: believe it, you are right. There's nobody else that can
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  Speaker 12: do any convincing for you. But it's in that moment.
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  Speaker 12: Look at Hollywood, you think everybody in Hollywood's a good actor. Honestly,
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  Speaker 12: I can name you twenty people that are terrible actors
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  Speaker 12: who have had a career of twenty plus years. You
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  Speaker 12: can as well. But they persevere. They believe they belonged
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  Speaker 12: in that space, even though how many auditions you.
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  Speaker 1: Think they got passed.
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  Speaker 12: Aline you think in basketball everybody's got a god given talent.
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  Speaker 12: Do you think Steph Curry can jump like Lebron James
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  Speaker 12: or Vince Carter? I would say Vince Carter's got god
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  Speaker 12: given abilities.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if Steph Chris got.
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  Speaker 12: The same kind of god given abilities as Lebron or.
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  Speaker 3: Vince Carter or any of these guys.
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  Speaker 12: In baseball, you think everybody's got this perfect twenty twenty vision,
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  Speaker 12: like Ted Williams had a lot of guys that hit
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  Speaker 12: a wall that have overcome, a lot of guys that
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  Speaker 12: had to play TRIPAA for a couple of years before
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  Speaker 12: somebody picked them up. A lot of them, so is
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  Speaker 12: in business. But no matter what you're doing, anticipate the wall.
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  Speaker 12: You're going to hit it, and in those moments, whatever
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  Speaker 12: you tell yourself, if you convince yourself that the difficulty
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  Speaker 12: your face and it's harder than everybody else's, and you
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  Speaker 12: buy it, you will stay where you're at. But if
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  Speaker 12: you convince yourself that whatever your wall you've hit other people,
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  Speaker 12: I've overcoming and so can you, you go through that
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  Speaker 12: wall as well.