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Episode 10: The Spirit of Positivity Without the Pressure of Expectation · From My Planit to Yours...

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SPEAKER_00: I am most proud of this episode and I haven't even recorded yet.
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SPEAKER_00: Picture this, you hopped on the band rocket and now you're on Planet Butter,
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SPEAKER_00: a world made of delicious, sparkly peanut butter volcanoes and an adorable disco ball
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SPEAKER_00: of self-reflection is whirling around in her red convertible.
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SPEAKER_00: This is the Self-Friendship Podcast. I'm Blizzard Planet.
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SPEAKER_00: Self-friendship is the daily practice of embracing, understanding, and enjoying ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: The more we practice, the sooner we embody our party of one, which is having fun,
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SPEAKER_00: with ourselves, for ourselves, as ourselves, anywhere, everywhere, no matter who's there.
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SPEAKER_00: The key to understanding self-friendship and my greater mission of united individualism
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SPEAKER_00: is the two ends of the spectrum required to create this cultural shift.
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SPEAKER_00: Kids and adults. Adults have been conditioned out of their parties of one,
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SPEAKER_00: which is why I start adults with,
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SPEAKER_00: practicing self-friendship so they can return to their innate party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: Kids are born as their party of one. And when they're surrounded by a culture of adults who
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SPEAKER_00: practice self-friendship, the kids can be conditioned in to their self-friendship
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SPEAKER_00: practice, allowing them to sustain their already existing party of one,
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SPEAKER_00: rather than perpetuating the current cycle of conditioning people out of their party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: So I'm super excited about the release,
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SPEAKER_00: of Planet Butter's first picture book, Planet Butter Party of One.
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SPEAKER_00: The book will be officially, for sure, for certain, pinky promise,
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SPEAKER_00: available as an e-book and hard copy this weekend, February 9th, 10th, 11th, 12th weekend,
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SPEAKER_00: and in store at a super fucking cool bookstore called Dalai Zin in the Miami Design District
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SPEAKER_00: in the next two weeks. The book is where the world of Planet Butter comes to life,
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SPEAKER_00: and Blissy, the disco ball of self-reflection,
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SPEAKER_00: bops around,
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SPEAKER_00: showing off her new book, Planet Butter Party of One.
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SPEAKER_00: Exactly what self-friendship looks like in action as her party of one.
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SPEAKER_00: If you or anyone you know has a cute, cool, local bookshop anywhere in the world that
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SPEAKER_00: might be interested in offering some copies, reach out to me. I'd love to meet you.
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SPEAKER_00: Also, I recently started offering one-on-one sessions to angel invest in your thoughts with
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SPEAKER_00: me, where we'll creatively brainstorm, practice critical thinking, and practice perspective
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SPEAKER_00: shifting. I'm currently offering a free 15-minute book, Planet Butter Party of One,
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SPEAKER_00: and I'll be posting a link to it in the description.
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SPEAKER_00: email me your answer to any of the questions that I end the show with, or share a story about your
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SPEAKER_00: party of one, again, email me, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: Today, I'm going to tell you my answer to last week's question, why Christopher Columbus did
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SPEAKER_00: discover America, an uncommon time to congratulate someone, why don't give up is shit advice,
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SPEAKER_00: why faking a smile can help, self-friendship and your name, a book title that excited me,
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SPEAKER_00: a party of one from this week, a key to understanding manifesting, my unique thought
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SPEAKER_00: for your consideration, and then we'll finish up with a brand new question for you to self-reflect,
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SPEAKER_00: self-connect, and email me if you so desire, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, my answer to last week's question, which was, how does it make you feel to go into a movie
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SPEAKER_00: without knowing anything other than that it's supposedly well done? And what do you think this
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SPEAKER_00: says about your perspective in all that you do?
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SPEAKER_00: I prefer to go to the movies like this because I don't like knowing anything about anything.
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SPEAKER_00: I like to know that it's supposedly well done because it's the spirit of positivity
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SPEAKER_00: without the pressure of expectation. Oh, I like that. The spirit of positivity without
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SPEAKER_00: the pressure of expectation. This way, I don't have any biases or expectations going into the
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SPEAKER_00: movie by knowing or seeing any information about it in advance. Also, a well-executed
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SPEAKER_00: movie is a movie that's not necessarily a movie that's not necessarily a movie that's not necessarily
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SPEAKER_00: a movie. We'll tell you everything that you need to know while you watch it. That's kind of the
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SPEAKER_00: point. So it's like when people ask questions before anything is revealed in the movie, like,
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SPEAKER_00: who is that? Oh, what's that? Wait, blah, blah, blah, like all that stuff in the middle of the
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SPEAKER_00: movie. But like, if you shut up and watch, you'll find out what you're supposed to find out.
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SPEAKER_00: Which brings me to the second part of the question, which was, what does that tell me
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SPEAKER_00: about the way I approach life? Similarly, I don't try to know more than I need to know,
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SPEAKER_00: so life will tell me my story. We're all the main characters of our own movies. You may have
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SPEAKER_00: heard that analogy before somewhere over the rainbow. So for me, I don't really like to ask
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SPEAKER_00: too many questions. I mean, I ask a lot of questions because I'm curious, but not questions
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SPEAKER_00: about the unfolding of my life. I don't try to get like a sneak peek. There's no trailer. I just let
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SPEAKER_00: it happen. I know that I'm supposed, I know what I'm supposed to know, and I'm told what I'm
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SPEAKER_00: supposed to be told. If there's something that I'm curious about, of course I inquire because
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SPEAKER_00: that's my role in my movie, but I'm not overextending myself to find out things that are not my business.
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SPEAKER_00: I just let it happen. So that's my answer. Let me know yours. Email me if you want
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SPEAKER_00: selffriendshippodcast.gmail.com. Now, why Christopher Columbus did discover America.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, before anyone rattles a political cage, let me remind you that this
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SPEAKER_00: is the self-friendship podcast. So I'm giving this topic a cute little spin. The longer you
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SPEAKER_00: hang around Planet Butter, the more I hope to inspire you to critically think about an array
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SPEAKER_00: of perspectives, especially for controversial topics. So Christopher Columbus did discover
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SPEAKER_00: America for himself. He was showing up as his party of one. Hello. In doing so, he shared it
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SPEAKER_00: with a lot of other people. He shared it with a lot of other people. So I'm giving this topic a
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SPEAKER_00: He might not have been the first one, but to say he didn't discover it is simply not true.
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SPEAKER_00: The definition of discovery is quote unquote finding slash finding out. He did find it for
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SPEAKER_00: him and his people who didn't previously know it existed, which reminds me of Steven Steigler's law
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SPEAKER_00: of eponymy spelled E-P-O-N-Y-M-Y, which is a humorous principle in academic and scientific
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SPEAKER_00: circles that suggests scientific and scientific research are not the same. So I'm giving this topic
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SPEAKER_00: a cute little spin. So I'm giving this topic a cute little spin. So I'm giving this topic a cute little
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SPEAKER_00: rather than the first person. In other words, it highlights the tendencies for credit to be given
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SPEAKER_00: to individuals who are not the original discoverers or creators, but who may have popularized or
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SPEAKER_00: publicized the idea more effectively. The best part of this is Steven humorously acknowledges that the
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SPEAKER_00: idea itself isn't original to him. Steven is my kind of dude. And so Christopher Columbus did discover
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SPEAKER_00: America for himself, shared it with his people, and is a perfect example of Steigler's law of eponymy.
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SPEAKER_00: Eponymy. Eponymy. Eponymy. It's kind of hard to say. Eponymy. And for sure was not morally sound
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SPEAKER_00: as far as our current societal moral compass. Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: How about that? Now, an uncommon time to congratulate someone.
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SPEAKER_00: When someone quits a job is my favorite. One of my best friends has quit so many jobs in her life
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SPEAKER_00: and every time she does it, she texts me or calls me and I always, always meet her with a warm and
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SPEAKER_00: loving congratulations because almost every time it's in the person's best interest. And I've
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SPEAKER_00: seen people who quit and I feel like a lot of the time people perceive quitting as something not in the
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SPEAKER_00: person's best interest or with there's some sort of negative something around it. It doesn't need to
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SPEAKER_00: be that way. It's exciting. Somebody is removing themselves from something that they don't feel is
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SPEAKER_00: aligned with them. Most likely, right? I don't, everyone, context is always the best policy, but
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SPEAKER_00: for the most part, I love congratulating people who quit their jobs. It's exciting. They're about to
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SPEAKER_00: start something. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting.
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SPEAKER_00: It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting. It's exciting.
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SPEAKER_00: They're sticking to their gut. They're doing what is best for them. Self-fucking-friendship.
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SPEAKER_00: Speaking of which, why don't give up is shit advice. Giving up sometimes can be a good thing.
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SPEAKER_00: If we think about giving up as more of a pivot in a stronger direction toward whatever it is we
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SPEAKER_00: are working toward. Giving up actually kind of has a negative connotation now that I'm talking about
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SPEAKER_00: it. I don't find that very productive. So instead of don't give up,
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SPEAKER_00: maybe it's do I need to pivot or do I need to keep going? The difference between pivot and keep
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SPEAKER_00: going is nuanced. Pivot is to do something differently while still working toward the same
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SPEAKER_00: goal while keep going is continue to do what you're doing because you're receiving obvious
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SPEAKER_00: signs that whatever it is you're doing is working. Okay. Very cool. Now, why faking a smile can help.
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SPEAKER_00: I read a LinkedIn post the other day that said,
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SPEAKER_00: something about how faking a smile is toxic positivity and people in pain need to feel
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SPEAKER_00: understood and supported. Here's the thing. There is a world, and I hope it's this one,
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SPEAKER_00: where we can feel our pain, empathize with one another, and occasionally force a smile
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SPEAKER_00: when we don't think we have one left in ourselves. Because smiling does help.
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SPEAKER_00: Scientifically speaking, when we smile, even if it's fake,
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SPEAKER_00: our body does not feel like it's fake. We don't feel like we're smiling.
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SPEAKER_00: We do not know the difference. So we still release endorphins and serotonin. This is not
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SPEAKER_00: to dismiss or minimize the intense emotions that we are experiencing. The pain that this person
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SPEAKER_00: was referencing on LinkedIn. It's more so to give perspective and to create strength for enduring
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SPEAKER_00: those more difficult emotions. Self-friendship and your name. Anytime I meet someone from another
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SPEAKER_00: country and they tell me, my name is...
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SPEAKER_00: blank. But you can call me blank. A piece of my heart breaks.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, I will never call someone the dumbed down version of their name.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's just make lazy Americans step it up. Like, seriously. Because that is your name.
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SPEAKER_00: Your name is usually beautiful and you're simplifying it just because Americans are
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SPEAKER_00: lazy about actually saying the accent or they're uncomfortable because they don't speak another
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SPEAKER_00: language or they don't want to try because they're nervous of sounding like that.
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SPEAKER_00: It's like, too fucking bad. Make them say your fucking name. Curse, curse, curse. Fuck, fuck, fuck.
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SPEAKER_00: But really, if you are somebody who is nervous about saying somebody's name because it's not
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SPEAKER_00: in an accent that you're used to saying, just give it a try. That person is not judging you.
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SPEAKER_00: And for the people who are willing to change your name, stop it. Unless you actually want
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SPEAKER_00: to change your name because you prefer it, do that. But if you don't actually prefer it, do it.
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SPEAKER_00: And you're doing it because it feels easier. Fuck that. Make them step up. All right. I'm done
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SPEAKER_00: cursing and yelling about that. Now, the book title that I saw was, After All, There Is No
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SPEAKER_00: Finish Line. I love that because in a literal sense, there's no finish line for life. Some
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SPEAKER_00: people might say it's when you die. I disagree strongly. Depending on what you do with your
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SPEAKER_00: lifetime, your life on earth can continue after your physical body is no more.
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SPEAKER_00: And then depending on your belief in spirituality, your energy carries on well beyond earth. And so
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SPEAKER_00: that's kind of what I got for you on that. That was it. It was just intriguing. I hope you'll
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SPEAKER_00: think about it too. Now, my party of one this week, I was invited to a friend's real estate
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SPEAKER_00: event in Miami. It was for interior designers and developers and all things real estate.
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SPEAKER_00: And then there was me, voice actor, podcast host, author, creative director.
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SPEAKER_00: And now most people would call this a networking event. That's not how I view anything. Life is a
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SPEAKER_00: connection event. You're connecting with people who you're supposed to meet when you're supposed
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SPEAKER_00: to meet them. So little me goes to this real estate event and I left with a voiceover opportunity.
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SPEAKER_00: So go to the quote unquote wrong type of place and you can still meet the quote unquote right people.
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SPEAKER_00: More to the point that you can't control anything other than how you show up and you could be
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SPEAKER_00: anywhere in the world at any time and you will still meet the right people for you when you are
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SPEAKER_00: practicing your self-friendship and showing up as your party of one. Now, a key to understanding
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SPEAKER_00: manifesting. A lot of people will say that you have to already be the version of yourself who
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SPEAKER_00: is and has a lot of power. And I think that's a really good point. I think that's a really good
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SPEAKER_00: thing. And I think that's a really good point. I think that's a really good point. I think that's
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SPEAKER_00: the thing that you're manifesting. So I see that as a spectrum of actualization. You essentially
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SPEAKER_00: do to whatever extent that you are currently capable to create the existence of the eventual
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SPEAKER_00: thing that you are manifesting. So in some form, that thing becomes true and your energy and your
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SPEAKER_00: intentions are already there. So with time, that thing becomes more and more true because you are
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SPEAKER_00: already there. So with time, that thing becomes more and more true because you are already there.
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SPEAKER_00: already doing it to whatever degree you possibly can. So even if it's the lowest end of that
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SPEAKER_00: spectrum of being, you are still being it. And then it just becomes and becomes and becomes
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SPEAKER_00: bigger and bigger until you achieve what you have originally set out to do and more. Because you
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SPEAKER_00: never know what the universe is going to gift us with. My unique thought on projection. The
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SPEAKER_00: definition of projection in psychology is a psychological phenomenon where feelings directed
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SPEAKER_00: towards the self are displaced towards other people. Psychoanalysts regard projection as a
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SPEAKER_00: defense mechanism concerning quote-unquote inside content mistaken to be coming from the quote-unquote
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SPEAKER_00: outside. Now what I personally find so interesting about the concept of projection is that it
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SPEAKER_00: actually shows a level of self-awareness.
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SPEAKER_00: It's actually a perfect way to depict the unconscious mind at work. If you think that
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SPEAKER_00: you don't project, you're probably fairly unconscious in general. If you can catch
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SPEAKER_00: yourself projecting or you can be aware of your own projections, you're likely a more conscious
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SPEAKER_00: individual. Think about that. Projection, whether unconscious or conscious, demonstrates a level of
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SPEAKER_00: self-awareness. Okay. Which is actually similar to what I was talking about with manifesting.
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SPEAKER_00: On...
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SPEAKER_00: Some level of the spectrum, there is self-awareness. Even if it's unconscious,
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SPEAKER_00: you are on the spectrum of self-awareness. Good fucking job. See? You can make everything
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SPEAKER_00: positive. Okay. Now, two phrases. One, emotional adventure rather than emotional rollercoaster.
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SPEAKER_00: It feels fresher because it's new. So it's fresh. Emotional adventure over emotional
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SPEAKER_00: rollercoaster. Rollercoaster makes it sound like a negative chaos versus an adventurous
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SPEAKER_00: adventure. Rollercoaster is like more optimistic and exciting. It's an emotional adventure,
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SPEAKER_00: in my opinion. And I also came up with a new mantra. Today, I release my subconscious fears
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SPEAKER_00: and allow abundance to be my safe space. One more time. Today, I release my subconscious fears
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SPEAKER_00: and allow abundance to be my safe space. Let me know what you think about that. And lastly,
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SPEAKER_00: our question for the week.
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SPEAKER_00: What is a situation where you have caught yourself projecting? Let's practice self-awareness together,
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SPEAKER_00: shall we? All right. Have a beautiful week. Check out Planet Butter's first book,
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SPEAKER_00: Party of One, available this weekend. Check out the link in my bio on Instagram,
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SPEAKER_00: planetbutter, P-L-A-N-I-T. The I is for individualism. You can get the ebook, the hard
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SPEAKER_00: copy, or if you're in Miami, you can go to the Dalai Zin bookstore in the next couple of weeks and
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SPEAKER_00: buy the book in person.
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SPEAKER_00: I might, if I can, while I'm still here, put a little surprise treat in the books that'll be there.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you're interested in angel investing in your thoughts, again, link in my Instagram bio,
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SPEAKER_00: reach out for your free 15-minute session. And as always, Self-Friendship Podcast Thursdays.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you are listening, you already know that, so there's no point in saying it.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, cool. Have an amazing week. Thank you guys so much, and I'll
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SPEAKER_00: see you on Planet Butter.