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Speaker 3: So this is positivity, yes, positivity and possibilities. So to
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welcome this episode for September, let's introduce our guest Mia.
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Our title is outdated, Neva or evolving. Gen Z's take
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on marriage today is with us already? Yes, she is
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with us now Okay.
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Speaker 5: Our guest is the owner of CMC boutique. Will ask
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her what CMC stands for. And she is a graduate
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of the University of Northern ab UNLV.
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Speaker 3: University of Nevada, Las Vegas.
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Speaker 5: John She's a graduate of UNLV. She is also the
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Miss United States Global Icon of twenty twenty four, Miss
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Nevada Regency International twenty twenty three. Mess mil Fay Galera. Oh,
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and the bride to be. She's getting married in September.
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That's what's on in September, said mil Faygallera. Paglina, and
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welcome to the show.
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Speaker 7: Happy Wednesday.
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Speaker 3: How are you O good? She's also a host here
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producer is a pH OV Radio high.
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Speaker 7: Streymil I thank you for having me.
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Speaker 3: Your video.
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Speaker 1: More.
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Speaker 3: Uh, that is going to prepare it. So I say
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best wishes to you.
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Speaker 7: Thank you. Can you hear me? Okay, yes we.
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Speaker 3: Can, Yes, Sonan questioned Mona. Before we go into the
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details of your big plan for yourself, we have we
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have our angel guide cards. Would you like to pick
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a card for today? Yes, so just give me a
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number and uh get the deck a card for you
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from this deck eight number eight from the top or
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from the bottom, from the bottom. Okay, so we will.
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I will am picking a card right now. We will
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talk about it afterwards, all right, Okay, s Miya has
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a question for you, Ama. But does CMC stand for.
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Speaker 7: CMC stands for so it's a family business. It actually
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stands for my dad's name, which is Carillo, my mom's name,
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which is Mila, and then my name is Sarah mal
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So CMC.
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Speaker 5: Oh have you been not the dev Yes?
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Speaker 1: I have.
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Speaker 3: I went there to Uh, I don't know. I was
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looking for the owner.
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Speaker 8: More.
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Speaker 3: I thought your mom was the owner.
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Speaker 8: Yeah, yes, yes, yes, said I was going to ask.
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Speaker 3: Her for I know, oh yeah, something something like that,
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something something Filippini. I have a cloth fabric that I
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wanted made and a lady at the counters. She said, uh,
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if I if I could give her my number? I did.
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I never did get to call again, and she never
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did call, so I said, never.
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Speaker 7: Mind, Moona, We'll have her call you then. I'm so sorry.
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Speaker 3: Do you? But do you do that? Do you?
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Speaker 7: We would have to see, we haven't really because we
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have suppliers and seamstress and the Philippines that do all
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of that for Yeah, so we would have to see
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if somebody here can do it for you, since you
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have the fabric here already.
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Speaker 3: I see. Okay, all right, So so that's just a
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little story about that. Your mom, Your mom and I
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we talked a little bit in one of the events. Yeah,
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and uh yeah, so I understand your name to be
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a combination of your mom's and dads' names.
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Speaker 7: Yes, yes, very Filipino.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Okay, so answer the question, but to go to
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the answer is no, no, outdated or let's just rephrase that.
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What is your take on marriage today? You're getting married,
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of course, so what's your take about that?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 7: Well, I don't know does this I don't know if
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this applies to me because I'm not gen Z. I'm millennial. Yeah,
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so I don't know. I have some friends who are
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in the millennial that don't believe in marriage, and you know,
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they already have kids and they prefer to just have
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a family and not get married. And I have friends
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who are you know, gen z who do believe in marriage.
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So it's kind of like I feel, it's varying between
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the different generations. For me, the reason I believe in
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marriage is because maybe it's my old school ways or
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the way I was raised by my parents. You know,
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even though I've been with my fiance for eleven years,
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I consider us pretty much almost married. We're just legally
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binding ourselves, you know, going to the altar, getting our
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marriage license and papers like that. But I don't know.
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The reason I believe in is because I feel like
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it's just the correct way and legal way to like
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finally officially put us together.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, eleven years, but you just look like you're twenty.
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I know, how old were you when you were and
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you got engaged eleven years old?
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Speaker 7: What so I'm pretty one now?
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Speaker 3: Oh no, okay, I'm thirty one now.
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Speaker 7: We met when we were twenty years old, but we
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got engaged about five years ago, right, before COVID, So
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COVID happened, and we kind of just said, Okay, we'll
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wait for planning because there's no really, there's no need
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to plan right now because nothing's open. And then I
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joined I decided to join a pageant in twenty twenty three,
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and then you know that that takes a lot of
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you know, your day and your year. So we decided, okay,
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let's just finish the pageant out and then we'll get
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married finally.
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Speaker 5: So that's where we are now, the long engagement five years.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, what's his name?
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Speaker 7: His name is Spencer again, Spencer, Spencer.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, Spencer. So do you think n the
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marriage shit you're seeing it is a parents small Yeah?
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Do you think he would be able to carry the
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values of that marriage into your own?
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Speaker 7: Yeah? Absolutely. I still live with my parents at home,
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so I am around them, even though I'm already thirty
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years old. I'm around them pretty much every day, and
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they still teach me a lot about you know, love,
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marriage and being there for your partner, and it really
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has shaped a lot of you know, my beliefs in
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marriage nowadays, and especially since Spencer still lives with his
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parents too, we get a lot of advice still from them,
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and we really I owe it to them, both of
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our parents for the reason why I we're together for
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so long.
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Speaker 3: Now I pressed the mute the dead air. So, so
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you're living with your parents, he's living with his parents,
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and then when you're married, you're going to live on
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your own.
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Speaker 7: Correct, We will move out and live in together.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and so that will be a very huge change.
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Is he is he Filipino?
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Speaker 7: No, he's Italian and half half Italian half Nigerian.
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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, so does he speak?
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Speaker 7: Yeah? How did we meet?
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Speaker 3: Yeah?
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Speaker 7: In college at UNLV, we had mutual friends. So Spencer
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had seen me, I think on social media or one
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of those social media and he reached out because he
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saw that we had a mutual friend, so he asked
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her to introduce us to each other, and then the
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rest is history.
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Speaker 5: And I came right away.
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Speaker 7: Yeah. So the reason why my friend was so excited
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to introduce us to each other is because she's known
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him for a while and then I went to high
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school with her. So she told me that our interests
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aligned very closely, and so she was very excited to
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introduce us to each other. And then from the first
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day we met, we like, we love to do it.
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We went bowling, we got sushi, we went ice skating.
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And I think another thing that makes our relationship, you know,
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so strong, is even if we didn't like something that
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the other, like, if we didn't like one of our
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each other's interests, we would always try it for each
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other and give it a chance. And then that we
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still bonded somehow through that way.
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Speaker 3: You do things together.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then you grew up together.
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Speaker 3: Basically, Yeah, I guess the long friendship is Uh, it's
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a big factor in marrying someone now. Yes, yeah, it's
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great to marry your friend. Yes. Yeah.
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Speaker 7: When when I look back on it, I think, what
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what pushes me to want to get married is because
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I consider him my best friend and to be able
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to spend the rest of my life with somebody like that,
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it's it makes me happy and it solidifies that that's
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the reason why I want to get married and also
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have a family. But you know, like it just makes
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me so sure and wanting to get married because I
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know I get to spend the rest of my life
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with my best friend.
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Speaker 3: Ah, how nice valley. Reason to get you right? So
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me and what made you ask that question earlier.
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Speaker 9: I say, the question was before before we created the
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title C Yeah, yeah, we thought of is it still
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Is it still a thing?
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Speaker 7: You know?
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Speaker 3: Do people still want to get married? Because Mia, what's
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your take on that.
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Speaker 5: I've encountered so many, as Cerimon said, millennials, we don't
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believe in marriage anymore. Yeah, it makes me wonder what
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their reasons are. Do you ask them? Have you heard
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of their reasons why they don't believe in marriage anymore.
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Speaker 7: I've heard from some people that they don't they just
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don't believe in relationships at all. Wow, some of them
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just prefer I know the difference between like millennials and
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Gen Z millennials. You know, we were in that generation
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where we still had the chance to go out with
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our friends. When we were you know, we played outside,
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we built physical relationship. I remember when I needed to
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go see my friend, I have to walk to their
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house and on the door. Nowadays, this new generation, everything's
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on the phone. You can just call, you can FaceTime.
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It's a little bit harder for them to connect physically.
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So I feel like one of the one of my
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Gen Z friends told me that it's easier for her
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to just worry about herself and and not worry about
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somebody else in a relationship. And you know that's just
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how it is.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I do. I don't understand it. Yeah.
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Speaker 5: And also with with how you met Spencer too, it's
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kind of more traditional to compare to you know, the
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dating apps now.
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Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, yeah, I have a lot of like a
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lot of our best friends, they are having their struggling
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to find a partner in life. So I feel like
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with gen Z too, when when they get let down
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or when it's when it's a little bit tough to
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find that right person, they kind of just accept that
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maybe a relationship is not for me, you know, And
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that's why.
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Speaker 3: We're different.
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Speaker 7: Now, Yeah, it's not interesting.
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Speaker 3: It is very interesting because I have four kids. Yeah,
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two of them believe in marriage and two do not.
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So those who believe in marriage, she's already married now,
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she has three kids. She's gonna have three kids, her
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third kids soon. The other one who believes in marriage,
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that's that's my son, the youngest. He's very picky with
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who he goes out with, but he's still open to marriage.
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But he doesn't want to have a girlfriend. She's really
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very sure of her and So that's a different take
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Nomania on what men or how young men think about
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dating or going out with women. He's going to be
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twenty six, but he doesn't believe in just having a girlfriend.
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You know, he goes out with so many women with.
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Speaker 5: So open relationship. Yeah, when you open, I'm confused. So
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I'm alane so well as a specific person that he's dating.
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Speaker 3: No, no friendship. I'm so it's just friendship me yet.
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Speaker 5: And nothing, no relationship at all, just friendship, pure clean friendship.
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Speaker 3: Hasn't met the one. He did have a girlfriend before,
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but he broke up. That's exactly the point. He hasn't
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met the one yet. But my my, I guess what
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I appreciate about that is he's not going to have
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a girlfriend until he's very sure that that is someone
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he wants to stay with for a long time. So
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that's one point of view among young people his age.
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The two other ladies, one is thirty eight, the other
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thirty six, they don't want to get married, they don't
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want to have kids, And I'm also okay with that.
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Why because for the reason that you mentioned earlier, Miya,
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the way the world is running right now, pollution, instability,
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in our governance in the world, you know, unsure, uncertainty,
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So that's their reason. So in your case, Cerameo, you
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despite whatever it is that you see in the world,
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you see that it is still worthy to spend your
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life together with someone.
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Speaker 10: Yeah.
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Speaker 7: Absolutely, I feel like the innership for us, even though
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you know there is chaos or you know there's hardships
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going on. I feel like, for me, as long as
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I have my person next to me and we can
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take on the world together, everything well we'll find its way.
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Speaker 3: Oh that's very hopeful.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's very romantic.
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Speaker 3: I know it is you and me against the world.
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Speaker 5: Romantic.
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Speaker 7: You know what another thing, too, is I've talked to
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or I've also had this, not myself. When it comes
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to kids. You know that financial I don't know. I
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don't think hardship is the right word, but that that financial.
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Speaker 3: The financial aspect of it.
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Speaker 7: Responsibility, the responsibility. I think a lot of you know
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kids nowadays like us. I I've gone I'm already thirty
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one and I don't have a kid yet, and I
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have friends who have many kids. And for me, I've
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gone back and forth with you know, it's kind of
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nice not having a child to, you know, take care
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of and I can go do what I want to do.
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And I think that goes hand in hand with getting married.
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You know, they don't these people, these kids nowadays, are like, oh,
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I don't have anyone. I don't have to worry about
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answering to anybody or worrying about a partner. I can
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just take care of myself and do what i'm you know,
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do take care of my needs.
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Speaker 3: Right. I hear that too.
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Speaker 5: In fact, one of my children said that it's said,
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don't expect any grandchildren from her because I intend to
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have kids. So I'm not ready to be ala yet.
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But yeah, so they know already they plan for it. Yeah,
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I know to me, but I guess that's a decision
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they made.
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Speaker 3: What mean yeah, yeah, yeah. It's on the one hand,
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I feel responsible for creating dissolution. I would just say
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dissolution or let's say, or or hopelessness among young people.
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On the other hand, that's on one hand I feel responsible.
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On the other hand, I would say not really, So
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why do I feel responsible? It's collectively we adults or
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we married people. You know, me, I've had a bad
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marriage and it's gone. But then I got married again,
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and it's a good one. So the the what am
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I putting out there in the world that makes young
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people shy away from having kids and marriage, Well, let
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me just speak in behalf of other adults who are
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very negative. For example, if I'm which I am not,
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I am not?
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Speaker 1: Not.
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Speaker 3: If I say, if I complain a lot about the
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world or politics, or relationships or my husband or children
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and finances and all that, what message am I giving
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to the young people? But if I'm appreciative and grateful,
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that's a positive message that I'm giving young people. Right,
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So coming from you, same from your parents, you've probably
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heard a lot of positive things or you saw a
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lot of positive energies from your parents. And what are these?
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What are these?
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Speaker 7: Well, okay, working with so we all work together as
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a family. Of course, it's not you know, there are
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some things that come with working with your parents. But
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I've seen that, you know, my mom and dad, throughout
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all these years of being together and working together, they
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still find a way to each.
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Speaker 3: Other and do what sorry said, to take care of.
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Speaker 7: Each other for each other, even if it's just something small,
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you know, like if my mom needs food that needs
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to be cooked for her, my dad will you know,
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always do it for her or you know, like even
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if it's just laundry. It's the small things that like
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that that make a big.
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Speaker 3: Difference in the relationship.
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Speaker 5: And I think that it's a natural tendency for parents.
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You know, when something bad happens to your relationship, you
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feel guilty and you kind of, yeah, you're gonna get
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scared that it's going to happen to your children. But really,
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I think the children are intelligent enough and they can
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decide on their own and they kind of see what
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happened and you know, you don't have to blame yourself.
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Speaker 3: Or yeah, yeah, that is the other hand of it. Yeah,
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like you're correct me, because they have a will of
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their own, they have their own intelligence, they have their
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own inner guidance and wisdom to guide them and uh,
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you know, experiences to correct, correct, correct, And so Spencer
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he sees the same things from his parents.
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Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, so he an only kid?
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Speaker 3: Are you? Are you only kids?
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Speaker 7: I'm an only child from my mom and dad. So
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my dad had a previous marriage and then he has
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a son. But my brother, my half brother, is a
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lot older. I would say he's fifteen years older.
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Speaker 1: Than me.
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Speaker 7: Yeah, and then Spencer has so his parents are also remarried.
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He has a stepdad, but this is his birth mom.
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But his stepdad has been there since he was six
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months older, almost a year old, and he basically calls
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that his dad.
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Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, that's the culture of being half Nigerian. I
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think Italian starts similar to Filipinos. But yeah, half Nigerian
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and Italian. What's the mix there, what's the culture?
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Speaker 7: He doesn't know? So his since is his real dad
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left when he was such a baby. He never really
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got to learn about his Nigerian cultures. Very Italian oriented.
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Speaker 3: Okay.
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Speaker 7: But he has an older sister, about five years older
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than him. She is someone who doesn't believe in having children.
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She's just kind of closed that off. And she's also
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kind of not sure about relationships right now either. She's
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been in a few, but she's had some bad experiences.
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So I think when it comes to the people that
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we're surrounded with, just like Ati Dot said, we have
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our own We take things, you know, with a grain
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of salt, and we learn from them, and but we
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also remember we have our own experiences and stuff like that.
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So yeah, that's a combination of learning from everything, the
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good the bad, right.
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Speaker 5: And I've also met a millennial who in the beginning
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said they're not going to have children and they ended
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up having two.
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Speaker 3: It changes. Also, that's not true, that's so true. I
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like what my my mentor said. I can always change
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my mind once I know better, once I know better.
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So that's uh. I said, Oh wow, okay, you don't
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have to stick to your own ideas because we all grow,
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we all evolved, and so we change our minds. So
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one moment, that is because I don't want to have lead,
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I don't want to have daughters. I just want to
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have sons. I not that lumba bay. And I even said,
29:52
at some point when I was in college, I said,
29:54
if I'm gonna have a son, you know, this is
29:58
stupid talk.
29:59
Speaker 1: You know.
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Speaker 3: I said, I'm gonna flash him down the toilet, you
30:02
know that kind of silly talk. And then I kept
30:06
wishing for a son, and finally I gave up, and
30:09
then he came. So you know how how things change,
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you know. So it's well, Salita, it's always different, It's
30:20
always different.
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Speaker 5: Nice, you know, I applaud the meal for believing still
30:28
in marriage.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, when we come back from a short break. Can
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we have that video of you in your community bridal shower? Yes, yes,
30:43
yes I wasn't there. I got the invitation through you
30:46
know the thing that went around, but yes I wasn't there.
30:50
So let's take a very very short break and I'm
30:52
going to see that. Stay with us.
30:55
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Speaker 4: It's a lunch hour in Vegas and we're on the
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dot with Dot and Mia here on PHLV Radio.
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Speaker 3: Yeah. Hello, we're back. We have our very special guest, Sermeuil,
33:36
the bride to be and que you something I think
33:40
will be the you of her. Okay. So the video
33:48
you just watched is from alex Iala. It's an invitation
33:53
for the Grand Reunion and Convention of the University of
33:56
the Philippines Alumni Association in America in Houston, Texas is coming.
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Oh next month, Na, next month?
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Speaker 8: Nah?
34:05
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, October seventeen and eighteen. So miss Sermeo, Y
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prepared for your video. More do you want to see
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a well, this will also entail Clearyo's attention to Mamana.
34:24
Your card for card Cleo. Yeah, okay, let's have the
34:29
card and here it is. It is called self acceptance.
34:36
You see that?
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Speaker 7: Yes, I do, look at that.
34:41
Speaker 3: Look at that. When I saw the picture, the first
34:45
thing that came to my mind was like a bridal crown. Yeah,
34:52
what do you sense from it? Self acceptance?
34:57
Speaker 8: Wow?
34:57
Speaker 7: I actually resident Nate with that a lot right now,
35:01
especially with these last two weeks becoming a bride and
35:06
realizing that I'm changing my last name and I'm changing
35:10
into a different person, like kind of a different chapter
35:15
in my life, you know, I'm evolving. I've had to
35:19
come to terms with a lot of self acceptance, kind
35:23
of shedding my old you know, the younger me and
35:27
the person who I was before and coming into a
35:32
new woman and this new part of my life. So
35:36
it's been a lot of self reflecting lately. So I
35:40
feel like that card is very, very beautiful and very
35:46
perfect for this season.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it says here. So this is from Kyle Gray.
35:52
Kyle Gray is an angel reader. He says, you are
35:57
making incredible efforts to heal and release habits and thoughts
36:03
that once held you back. So take a moment to
36:06
look at yourself, like you said, self reflection through the
36:10
loving eyes on God, and appreciate how far you have come,
36:16
all the adversity you have faced, and the person you
36:19
are today. So take a look at that. Angels are
36:22
wrapping their wings around you and encouraging you to see
36:27
what they see, and they see you as perfect just
36:31
the way you are.
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Speaker 7: Way.
36:38
Speaker 3: Yes, if your confidence has dropped recently or you have
36:42
not been as positive as you would like to have been.
36:46
Change that now by giving yourself credit where it is due.
36:50
I don't know if you have bridal jitters.
36:55
Speaker 7: This is great. Last night, I'm going to be very honest,
36:58
it was very tough for me with everything that's been
37:03
going on. I've learned that planning a wedding is just
37:07
not my cup of tea. It's very I mean, the
37:13
marriage is the beautiful part, but you know, the decorations
37:17
and dealing with inviting people and creating all the seating
37:22
chart it, yes's it's been daunting on me and make
37:29
me feel like I've lost my spark for.
37:35
Speaker 1: Months.
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Speaker 7: So last night I was crying a little bit because
37:39
I just I cannot wait to be done with this,
37:42
and I feel like I want to go back to
37:45
my normal self already.
37:46
Speaker 8: So that card is like me, it is for you,
37:51
It is for you, and so this is just a
37:53
temporary spot in your life.
37:56
Speaker 3: You know, it's just a production. Yeah, look at it
37:59
like that. The marriage, he said, is the is the
38:03
best thing, but the wedding is the production.
38:08
Speaker 5: Have a funny story when when I was planning the
38:12
wedding in the Philippine, so Citty was here in the state,
38:16
and he was trying to change the deep and everything
38:19
was planned, the leddy, the reception, everything, and it was
38:24
changing the date. You know what I said, serving the Oh.
38:37
Speaker 10: My goodness is so hard. Yeah, I don't know.
38:44
Speaker 5: Someone Wow, Okay, they can't change. They know it's very
38:50
hard to plan a weddy it is.
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Speaker 3: It is like that. Yeah, yeah, that's why I just
38:58
we just invited thirty people to our wedding and that's it.
39:02
But your community, your community leader, sermil that's why people
39:08
look up to you and your beauty queen, so like
39:13
you have a responsibility, celebrity ca I'm lucky looking celebration
39:20
more so, here's what it says. Continuing, maybe you have
39:25
discovered that negative talk and thoughts are not working for you.
39:30
This is the time to try loving yourself instead. Like
39:33
you said, you want to take a break now to
39:35
get started. Try speaking to yourself more respectfully and giving
39:40
yourself some leeway and some time to change exactly as
39:44
you said you're going to change. When this card appears,
39:48
know that your self esteem and confidence have taken some
39:51
mocks over the years, probably over the few days, and
39:55
you have had thoughts that are no longer serving you,
39:58
So goodbye, Nasamaga. Old thoughts not that are your angels
40:05
want nothing more than for you to be happy and
40:09
at peace, and they are drawing close now to help
40:13
restore your confidence in yourself. You have the ability to
40:16
live a life that you loved, but to experience that fully,
40:21
you have to recognize that you are so worthy of it.
40:24
Killing down card. So take some time today to realize
40:29
that Heaven loves you unconditionally, and then take small steps
40:33
to loving yourself the same way. The outer world you
40:37
experience is the mirror of the conversations you have on
40:41
the inside with yourself, so align them with love. Yeah, conversations,
40:49
Oh yeah, to me love love finders.
41:02
Speaker 5: Very romantic and into So when you saw Spencer are
41:07
you first day? When did you find out that he's
41:11
still one?
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Speaker 7: Well, here's the thing. So when Spencer and I first met,
41:18
we had just gotten out of relationships. So we're both
41:22
kind of just like, we were both a little bit like, okay,
41:24
well we're not sure. Let's start, you know, just being
41:29
friends and stuff like that and hanging out. But then
41:33
I think what made first okay, let me go back,
41:36
Spencer said the day that he met me in person,
41:40
he had already like fallen in love with me, which
41:43
I love at first sight, first sight, and he told
41:49
me that when we met in the parking lot romantic,
41:54
I know, we said lot, He's like, oh, I'm going
41:58
to marry this girl already. It's so sweet. But for me,
42:04
you know, I think maybe a woman we like to
42:08
we don't like to jump into things. Yeah, we like
42:11
to be sure. For me, when it was I think
42:15
the third date or the fourth date of us hanging out,
42:20
and I just was so excited to see him again,
42:24
like I can't wait till I can see you again.
42:26
That's when I knew, like, oh, I really really like
42:28
this person and I want to spend more time with them.
42:33
Speaker 3: I love love love love.
42:39
Speaker 7: Not so funny. We need to get him on one
42:41
of these shows, I know.
42:47
Speaker 5: So he can defend himself.
42:51
Speaker 3: Is he prepared to live a life with you, to
42:55
share the limelight with you, to share your limelight, to
43:00
be in your limelight, because you know you're not gonna
43:04
let go of your community service, are you? No?
43:07
Speaker 7: Absolutely not. You know this, This community means so much
43:10
to me. And I mentioned this at the bridal shower
43:13
that you know I grew up as an only child
43:17
and to have this community you know, by my side
43:21
every single day. It's my extended family. I don't consider
43:25
them friends anymore. I could. I consider you guys all
43:27
from my family. And something Spencer that Spencer mentioned something
43:32
that night that really touched my mom's heart and mind
43:36
you were talking about it. He just he said that
43:39
he wanted to thank all of the community for accepting
43:42
him as part as you know, as our own and
43:46
he has fallen in love with our culture so much
43:50
and it just means a lot for him to know
43:52
that he has us to come to. And so that's
43:56
how I know he was willing to continue, you know,
44:00
sharing the limelight with me, especially because when it comes
44:04
to vendor events for the boutique or like the fashion show,
44:08
Spencer is always there. If he has work, he will
44:11
show up and I know for a fact that he will,
44:15
you know, support us for the rest of time.
44:19
Speaker 3: Galleen and Galen, So, is is that your motif? Powder blue?
44:26
Speaker 7: Yeah, dusty blue and.
44:27
Speaker 3: Gold, dusty blue and a Philipinia.
44:31
Speaker 7: Yes, I had to put It's not required, but we're
44:35
asking the guests if they want to wear please come,
44:38
you know, dressed in their Filipiniana attire otherwise just wear forma.
44:42
My goal with this with the wedding was, since I
44:45
have so many different people coming from all different walks
44:49
of our our life, I want everyone to showcase their
44:53
culture and showcase their express their fashion, express themselves and
44:57
then you know, joy together in union all of us
45:01
and and celebrate because there's no this is the only
45:05
day that we're all going to be together from you know,
45:08
all like from the community, from my friends to my family.
45:12
This is the only time that we will all be
45:14
in the same room.
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Speaker 3: Galling. I'm guling. So that's like four cultures, uh top
45:24
of my head. Italian, Terian, Filipino, An American, Yes, correct, yeah, yeah?
45:32
Are you going to Italy? You're going to where?
45:37
Speaker 7: We don't know yet, because this is the funny part.
45:44
We have Fiesta Filipino right after the wedding anywhere. Yeah,
45:53
but Spencer really wants to go to Japan. That's one
45:57
of his his dream vacations. And then I really wanted
46:02
to take him to the fourteens because the last two
46:05
times we went, he never got to go, and he's
46:07
been asking.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then of course you go to Italy as well. Yeah,
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that's a beautiful place. I want to say hello to Adele.
46:17
Hello Adele. Yeah, she says, hi, miss Surreal. Is that
46:24
the she said? Soon to be missus.
46:30
Speaker 7: Last name?
46:31
Speaker 10: Yeah?
46:32
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, so Adele is watching? Will you be giving
46:35
up your what will happen to your title once you
46:37
get married? All your titles?
46:41
Speaker 7: Yeah, they're they're done, so that those will just be
46:43
like former miss.
46:47
Speaker 3: Yeah all right, then joined missus America? Yeah, missus now missus.
46:59
So we wish you all the best. So my my
47:05
gift for you, my public gift for you is that
47:10
may you give and receive love imperfect balance. May you
47:17
give and receive love imperfect balance.
47:22
Speaker 7: Thank you?
47:22
Speaker 3: That acting gift me.
47:26
Speaker 8: Yeah.
47:28
Speaker 3: And then on Rapper Rapper rap Here rap here self
47:35
accept us know the card it says holy love anyway,
47:43
that's another one, holy love. So may your love be
47:47
divine perfect? Yes? Yeah, So are you ready for to
47:55
quote Mia?
47:57
Speaker 1: Yes?
47:57
Speaker 5: Yes, um anonymous, You're not just a bride to be,
48:02
You're a walking fairy tale waiting to happen, a.
48:11
Speaker 3: Walking to waiting to happen. Oh, my heart, I love you,
48:20
my heart. Yeah, lots lots of them, and uh yeah, good,
48:27
good good and tons up, So all the best for
48:31
you and Spencer's remeal.
48:33
Speaker 5: Okay, I hope for your marriage because it's based on friendship.
48:38
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, So don't entertain anything negative or anything
48:46
that would bring death to a relationship. Don't ever let
48:51
that in. Don't be tempted to let that in. That's
48:55
just my my advice, my worldly advice. I'll solicited advice.
49:01
So final words from you cur email.
49:05
Speaker 7: Thank you both for having me on here, and again
49:08
thank you to the community for you know, really being
49:11
so supportive of our business, but also me and just
49:17
you know, being the best at this and Kuyas and
49:19
Tita's and Tito's like I can never ask for. And yeah,
49:24
we've got less than two weeks away until I change
49:29
my last name and become a married woman. So I
49:33
just want to say thank you everyone for all your
49:35
support and on Instagram, I've been getting into a lot
49:40
of social media lately. Uh so wedding content is there.
49:44
And then finally Fiesta Filipino on October fourth, we have
49:49
CMC Boutique will be having a fashion show. We did
49:53
a casting call with everyone across the Las Vegas Valley,
49:57
so we have everyone from ages six all the way
50:00
up to like seventy or sixty years old. We recommend
50:05
you all come and check it out.
50:07
Speaker 3: Yay, all right, that will be at the M, right, yeah,
50:11
at the M all right.
50:12
Speaker 5: Them, let's see, let's before anymore.
50:19
Speaker 3: I'll still be here, still be here. Yeah yeah. Thank
50:26
you so much, Thank you so much, ambassador. Bye, have
50:35
a great life, Sey Meal. Buy me again next week.
50:39
Speaker 10: Friends, Thank you Bye.
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Speaker 2: M