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This Is Why Gen Z Secretly Struggles with Lust · Off The Kirb Ministries

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  OK, I want you guys to take a look at this chart and this one,
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  and most importantly this one here.
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  When I was 10 years old, I was listening to rock music on my
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  computer and by total accident, I first got my first exposure of
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  this stuff. Then at 13 years old, one of my
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  friends took me up to his brother's room and we watched it
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  for the first time. And then by the age of 15, I was
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  watching it nearly every single day.
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  And this pattern continued for many, many years until at my
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  peak, I was watching it three to four times a day.
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  I thought it would go away when I married the girl of my dreams,
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  a woman way out of my league. And yet even then, I was
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  secretly watching this stuff. Guys, if you're cringing right
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  now, please know this. There is no one cringing.
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  There is no one more embarrassed than me to share this story.
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  So why do I do it? I do it for one reason and one
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  reason alone. I now, in the Lord's grace, have
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  been able to break free from this.
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  And actually, every 8th of April, me and my wife, we go out
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  for a meal to celebrate how it's been another year of the keeping
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  me free from this sin. And I share this with you
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  because I believe as a guy who's a little bit older, I'm not in
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  Gen. Z, as you can probably tell.
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  I'm here now to tell you how you also can break free because if
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  God did it for me, the worst of sinners, the chief of sinners,
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  he can also do it for you. And that is why I'm here today
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  to tell you how. All right, take a look at this.
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  We're back to concrete facts again.
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  This right here is a healthy brain scan.
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  This is what your brain should look like for a normal brain.
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  And this is the kind of brain that consumes this stuff on a
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  regular basis. But here's the scary part.
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  You probably have never had your brain scanned.
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  So how do you know which brain you have?
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  Well, one of the big signs is this.
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  You cannot focus for very long. Your concentration span has
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  diminished to nothing. And that, for me, bothers me
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  more than anything because the person who needs to listen to
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  these next three tips is the same person.
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  You'll click off this video within a few seconds because you
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  cannot focus. So I plead with you.
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  I'm going to ask you, will you stick around and will you you
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  give me the opportunity to try and build some of these
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  principles that can help you finally break free and live a
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  life for the Lord Jesus Christ of holiness?
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  OK tip #1 you need to retrain your brain.
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  Imagine this scenario. You live next to a field and on
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  one side you've got a gate to the field and then on the other
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  side you've got a gate that leads to another field.
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  And every morning you walk, you follow the same footsteps from
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  this gate to the other gate. What is going to happen overtime
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  when you've got this thick luscious?
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  What is going to happen if you follow those same footsteps over
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  and over again? Eventually you're going to get a
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  nicely formed path. Did you know your brain is
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  exactly the same? Your brain works 3 pathways and
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  when you do something over and over again, you build a habit.
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  So if every day you do bicep curls in the morning at 8:00,
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  first thing in the morning, overtime, your brain builds this
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  pattern that, OK, Joe wakes up and he does bicep curls, he
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  tries to lift a few weights to try and get a bit of muscle.
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  And it works exactly the same way for good habits, but also
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  for bad habits. And what I'm telling you right
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  now is you have a habit of watching wrong things on the
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  Internet. You can't stop doing it.
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  But listen to this. If you're in Gen.
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  Z, do you know what your generation is called?
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  It's called the generation of social media.
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  You've grown up with Facebook when you were very, very young,
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  Instagram, TikTok. And what happens when you're on
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  these apps? You're on TikTok and suddenly a
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  dance video comes up and it's not good to see that.
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  It's not helpful to see that. Or you go on the Internet and
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  you're just scrolling through Google Images.
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  You see another unhelpful image, or maybe your friend sends you a
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  picture, or you've got an advertisement in the bottom side
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  of the screen, or even an advert in front of a YouTube video.
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  That's why I don't put adverts on my videos.
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  It's one of the main reasons I don't monetize.
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  You see all of this stuff. What do you need to do?
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  The very second you see that and you know that your heart has
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  been drawn away to this thing, what should you do?
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  Get on the floor and pray, Lord God, cleanse my mind.
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  If you've looked a bit too long and you know that sinners
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  entered into your heart, you say, Lord God, please wash me
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  clean. Wash me with the blood of the
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  Lord Jesus Christ. Have mercy on me.
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  And I literally, even though I've not watched this stuff,
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  even though I've not done the thing that goes with this stuff
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  for years, even to this day, I will get down on the floor.
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  Whenever I see something, an advert in the corner of the
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  screen on YouTube, I'll get my face into the floor and I'll
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  say, Lord, have mercy on me. Wash away my sins.
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  If my heart's been LED away, Lord, please just just cleanse
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  me. I want to be a pure vessel
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  before you. And if you do that over and over
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  again, honestly, it's quite a difficult thing.
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  And suddenly you've retrained your mind to think these things.
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  They don't lead to happiness, they lead to sadness.
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  Just as the Bible says, there is a godly sorrow that leads to
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  repentance. Let me let you into secret.
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  I knew I was going to cover this video today and I pray to God
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  give me wisdom on what to say and the very first Bible verse I
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  read in my private devotion this morning was this Bible verse.
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  Are you ready for it? 2nd Corinthians 7 verse one.
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  Therefore having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse
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  ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting
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  holiness in the fear of God. So all day long you want to be
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  cleansing yourself, asking God to clean you, to wash away any
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  sins. And this even happens when I'm
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  walking down the street. Obviously I can't get down and
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  put my face in the floor and kneel down and do that active
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  effort which is very difficult to do.
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  But I can do this when I'm walking down the street just
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  privately in my mind say Lord forgive me.
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  The old Saints of the past, they used to call it this, keep short
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  accounts with God. In other words, if you've ever
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  done a business, you know you've got to keep an account of
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  everything you've done and you've got 2 choices.
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  Either you can do your accounts at the end of the day.
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  Now if you're a painter you can say right, I've got £50 for
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  painting this wall and yesterday I've got £30 for painting that
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  door. You can do it that way or like
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  most people do, they have all of their accounts.
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  They let it build up and at the end of the year they then have
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  to trape through all of these accounts and it takes forever.
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  And you and I want to be the wise one who does it at the end
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  of the day, or even at the very moment, keep very short accounts
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  of God and tell him that you've sinned immediately or tell him
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  your mind has seen something that's unhelpful.
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  And that way you can stay close to the throne of God all day
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  long #2 learn while you can. When I was 21 years old, around
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  that age, an older Christian man, a preacher, rang me up and
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  he said to me, Joe, you need to try and memorize as much
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  Scripture. You need to try and learn as
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  much biblical teaching, get as much doctrine inside of you now,
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  because when you are 30 years old, you will struggle to
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  remember. And he said the things that I
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  remembered before 30 have stuck with me for the rest of my life.
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  And I thought, what total hogwash.
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  That's nonsense. Over 30, you're trying to tell
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  me you don't learn anything. And no, he was isn't trying to
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  say that, but there is something to be said about that.
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  Even now I'm in my well, I actually turned 34 tomorrow.
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  I know that's probably the most shocking thing for this entire
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  video, but even now I struggle to remember things like I did
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  when I was in my 20s. I remember sermons, I remember
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  lines. I can remember entire things
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  that were just so easy back then.
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  So if you're a Gen. Z, if you're a young person
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  right now, you need to really capitalize on this.
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  Don't be wasting time just filling all of your mind with
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  TikTok videos which will get stored into your memory and then
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  you won't have the same room to remember the things of God.
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  Here is an absolutely vital verse if you're 1A young person
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  and if two you struggle with sin.
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  Psalm 119 verse 9 says how can a young man cleanse his way by
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  taking heed according to your word.
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  And then verse 11, your word I have hidden in my heart that I
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  might not sin against you. So in other words, if we hide
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  the Word of God, if we bury it deep inside of us, suddenly sin
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  will not be as easy to commit because we've got God's Word
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  inside of us and it protects as it builds A barrier against sin.
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  There was a little girl and every day her mother used to
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  dress her in the most beautiful, pristine white dresses.
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  But the mother would say to the little girl, when you go out and
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  play with your friends, I want you to be so careful that you do
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  not get any mud on your dress. So away went the little girl.
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  She was having lots of fun playing with her friends,
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  skipping, dancing, doing all this fun.
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  Then she'd come home, knock on the door.
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  Do you think that little girl had a clean dress or a dirty
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  dress? What do you think?
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  It was covered from head to toe in mud.
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  She'd got it really dirty. And this pattern repeated itself
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  every day. The mother would say, here you
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  are. You're in this beautiful white
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  dress. Don't get it dirty, Keep it
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  clean. And every day the little girl
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  would come home and it was dirty until one day something changed.
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  What changed? That little girl grew up.
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  She became a woman. And suddenly the spirit of the
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  mother was in parted to this younger girl, to this little
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  girl. So my dear friend, if you
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  haven't realized yet, that little girl is you.
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  You see the Lord God, he wants you to have his desires.
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  He wants you to learn his mind, his ways, his thoughts.
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  And the only way we can do that is by getting in the word of God
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  every single day. So if you're not reading the
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  Bible and you're wondering why you're struggling so much with
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  sin, that is why. So first thing in the morning,
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  get out of bed and get in the word Bible before breakfast and
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  make sure you can get the word of God into you before the world
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  gets into you first. Finally #3 and if you remember
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  one thing from this video, remember this.
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  It is not too late for you. I've got a friend and he tells
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  me that when he falls into sin, he feels like for a week, 2
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  weeks, a couple of days at least, cannot approach God in
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  prayer. He cannot think about God.
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  He can't come before God because he feels so unclean at what he's
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  done. And I know he's not the only
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  one. You know, you've got people,
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  people who say I can't share the gospel because I'm living in
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  this sin. I can't go out to church.
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  I can't take communion. I can't do any of this because
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  I'm sinning and, and I know I've, I've, I've messed up.
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  If you've ever thought like that, you absolutely have to
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  hear this verse in the book of Micah, because I think there'll
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  be some people who've never ever heard of this.
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  And it's talking exactly about you.
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  Do not rejoice over me, my enemy.
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  When I fall, I will arise. When I sit in darkness, the Lord
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  will be a light to me. I will bear the indignation of
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  the Lord because I have sinned against him until he pleads my
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  case and executes justice for me.
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  He will bring me forth to the lights.
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  I will see His righteousness. So come on, Joe, tell us, what
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  does this verse mean? Well, put very simply, this
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  verse is telling you that you have an enemy who laughs, who
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  rejoices over you when you sin. Do you know what the name Satan
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  literally means? It means adversary.
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  It means the accuser. And what Satan does whenever you
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  sin, he through his many minions will make you think, He will
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  influence you to think you're too far gone.
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  God doesn't love you anymore. How can you say you're a
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  Christian? How can you say you love God and
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  yet you've gone to that sin over and over and over again.
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  You're a fake, you're a fraud, you're a hypocrite.
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  When God sees you on the day of judgement, he will say, depart
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  from me. I never knew you.
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  All of these things will come to you in that moment.
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  And yet what does this verse say?
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  No boldly you will say there is one who will plead my case.
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  There is One who loved me enough to bleed and die on a cross,
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  knowing all of my failings, knowing all of the rottenness
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  that's in me, He still loved me enough to die for me.
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  Who is that man? Is the God man, Jesus Christ,
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  who bore in his body your sins, past, present and future.
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  All of your sins were put on him and there on that cross, He was
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  punished in your place so you can be forgiven and washed
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  clean. And if you're someone who hides
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  from God after you do these sins, can I ask you a very, very
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  serious question? What was the cross all about?
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  What was that all about when Jesus died there?
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  We're trying to somehow clean ourselves up before God.
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  The message of the Bible is we're saved by grace.
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  And if we come to Him and we say, Lord God, wash away my
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  sins, we have an advocate with one who is righteous, the Lord
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  Jesus Christ. He will plead our case and he
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  will wash us again and He will give us a second chance because
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  God is in the business of second chances.
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  My dear friend, I hope you are listening to this right now.
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  I hope this is sinking in. I am by number means saying we
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  should be light or we should be easy on sin, but I am saying
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  this every time you do sin, get your face on the floor, humble
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  yourself, bow down before him and say, Lord have mercy on me.
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  I'm a Sinner and do it instantly.
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  Don't hide from him. Come to the cross straight away.
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  Hey, this next part's a little bit important, so you might just
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  want to catch this, but I want you to get a pen and piece of
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  paper now and I want you to write two things down South.
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  You can just remember this video.
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  We might never see each other again.
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  YouTube might never recommend this video to you again.
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  You might never see me again, but I want you to remember this.
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  If you've got this piece of paper, the first thing I want
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  you to write down is this. When we sin, we do not lose our
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  salvation, but we lose the joy of our salvation.
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  As David wrote in Psalm 51, restore to me the joy of your
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  salvation. So when we sin, we don't lose
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  our salvation. We lose the joy, we lose the
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  intimacy, we lose the peace of God.
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  And then the second thing I want you to write down is a quote by
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  a very famous preacher called Charles Spurtun.
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  He once said as numerous as your wanderings, so numerous your
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  restorations will be. What did Spurgeon mean when he
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  said that? He was saying yes.
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  You might wander many times, many times you might fall into
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  sin, but remember this, the Lord God is willing to restore you
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  just as many times. As long as you come to Him with
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  a true, humble and contrite spirit, He can restore you.
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  So never forget that. Keep fighting the sin, keep
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  being ruthless with it. Remember that overtime,
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  eventually, if you get into the Word, if you keep turning from
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  this sin, eventually the Spirit of God will come into you and He
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  will dwell in you and He will give you new desires and a new
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  heart until you can walk victory.
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  And maybe who knows, you and your wife, you and your husband,
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  if you're a lady and you're watching this, you can go out
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  for a victory meal every year to say, look, this is all what God
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  has done by grace. He's delivered me from this sin.
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  Guys, just be honest with me. Was this video helpful in any
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  way? If it was and you'd like to see
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  more videos like this, please do subscribe.
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  But hey, now, if you are one of those people who admits that you
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  have messed up your concentration span and you want
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