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Why Everyone Is Not Staring at You · PTT Music Podcast

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  Welcome to the PTT Music Podcast, where music is so much more than entertainment.
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  It's a powerful catalyst for inspiration, personal growth, and positive change.
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  I'm Jordan Sterling.
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  And I'm Ava Brooks.
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  Whether you've been with us from the beginning or you're joining us for the very
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  first time, we're so glad you're here!
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  As positive behavior specialists, Jordan and I love exploring practical behavioral
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  techniques and showing how purposeful music can help you build confidence,
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  elevate your mindset, and thrive in everyday life.
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  That's right, Ava.
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  On the PTT Music Podcast, our mission is to explore Music With Purpose and Sound
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  With Impact.
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  We break down empowering behavioral science and pair it with inspiring music to help
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  you strengthen your mind, step into your potential, and carry uplifting energy into
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  everything you do.
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  And today, we're diving into a fantastic positive behavior topic that touches almost
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  everyone at some point.
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  I was reviewing some classic social psychology research this week on how we perceive
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  ourselves in social and professional settings.
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  Many people step into a meeting, a stage, or a new room thinking that every eye is
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  locked onto them, analyzing every single move.
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  It's such a common phenomenon in human psychology!
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  People often assume everyone around them is hyperfocused on their presence,
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  when in reality, people are primarily focused on their own lives and their own
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  thoughts.
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  Exactly!
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  Back in two thousand, Tom Gilovich of Cornell University, along with Victoria Husted
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  Medvec of Northwestern University and Kenneth Savitsky of Williams College,
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  ran a classic experiment on what we call the spotlight effect.
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  They published it in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,
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  in a paper titled "The Spotlight Effect in Social Judgment."
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  Tell us about that Cornell experiment, Ava.
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  How did they test this mindset?
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  They had Cornell undergraduates put on a T-shirt with a large photo of singer Barry
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  Manilow and briefly step into a room where other students were filling out a
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  questionnaire.
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  Afterward, the researchers asked the shirt wearers to estimate how many people in
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  the room would be able to say who was on their shirt.
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  And I'm guessing the wearers assumed almost everyone in the room noticed.
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  On average, they estimated that nearly half of the room, about forty six percent,
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  would notice.
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  But when the researchers checked with the people in the room,
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  do you know how many actually noticed?
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  Knowing how busy human minds are, I'd imagine it was significantly lower.
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  Only about twenty three percent!
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  The wearers overestimated by roughly double.
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  The researchers explained that we anchor on our own experience and don't adjust
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  enough for other people's perspectives.
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  When we're conscious of something about ourselves, we overestimate how much others
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  notice.
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  That's such an empowering realization.
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  Understanding that people aren't critically judging you gives you complete freedom
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  to express yourself authentically.
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  It removes unnecessary tension and lets you show up with confidence.
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  Yes!
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  It ties into a related idea called the illusion of transparency,
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  which Thomas Gilovich, Kenneth Savitsky, and Victoria Husted Medvec studied in a
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  nineteen ninety eight paper in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
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  They found that people overestimate how well others can discern their internal
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  states.
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  We believe our feelings leak out more than they really do, so people are often less
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  aware of what we're feeling than we assume.
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  Think about how that applies to music and creative work.
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  An artist might fixate on a subtle detail in a song, assuming listeners will notice
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  it, when a listener may simply be enjoying the message, the melody,
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  and the uplifting feeling of the track!
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  That's so true, Jordan.
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  When you realize the spotlight is mostly an illusion, you can direct all your energy
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  into creating, serving others, and bringing your best self forward.
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  So how can we use this understanding of positive behavior to step into any situation
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  with clarity and focus?
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  The key is shifting from self focused awareness to goal focused contribution.
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  When you focus on what you can give to the room, your confidence naturally rises and
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  your energy shifts to positive action.
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  Absolutely!
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  And a sound cue can help you set that state of mind.
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  For instance, whenever you want to focus on your purpose and ground yourself in what
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  you can contribute, you could start with the PTT Music track "Create."
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  "Create" is a great choice.
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  Pairing a song you love with a clear intention can help you turn your attention
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  toward possibilities.
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  It really can.
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  And when you want to add joy and confidence to that routine,
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  another PTT Music song to try is "Do My Dance."
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  Oh, "Do My Dance" is a perfect fit!
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  The title says it all.
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  It's an invitation to step into your presence, celebrate who you are,
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  and enjoy being yourself.
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  Think about what that title asks of you.
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  "Do My Dance" is a first person statement.
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  It puts you in charge of how you express yourself, instead of waiting on anyone
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  else's approval.
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  And that connects right back to the spotlight effect.
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  If people are noticing far less than we think, then you have room to move,
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  speak, and create in your own style.
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  Listening to "Do My Dance" before an event can be a reminder to bring your own style
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  with you.
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  Now compare that with "Create."
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  The word itself is an action.
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  It points you toward making something and contributing, which is exactly the goal
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  focused mindset you described earlier, Ava.
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  Yes!
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  Try this.
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  Play "Create" while you prepare, and ask yourself, "What am I here to make or give
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  today?"
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  Then, right before it's time to step forward, play "Do My Dance" and ask,
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  "How do I want to show up?"
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  One song points your attention to your contribution, and the other to your authentic
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  expression.
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  That's a simple way to build a positive habit cue.
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  Pairing "Create" with "Do My Dance" gives you a toolkit for your daily routine.
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  You can let "Create" be your cue for mental clarity, and "Do My Dance" be your cue
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  for celebration and enthusiasm.
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  It creates a structured routine before any event.
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  You can build your own sound anchor routine whenever you prepare to step into a new
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  environment or start a creative session.
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  Step one, select an inspiring track like "Create" or "Do My Dance" that energizes
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  you.
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  Step two, pair that music with a clear focus statement, such as,
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  "I'm here to bring value, share joy, and inspire others."
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  I love that technique!
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  Instead of wondering how you'll be received, you enter the space anchored in your
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  purpose and dedicated to inspiring those around you.
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  Exactly.
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  You move forward with proactive energy, backed by positive behavior strategies and
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  energizing music, knowing that you have full freedom to shine and succeed.
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  Because when you anchor yourself in positive purpose, you inspire everyone around
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  you to do the very same.
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  That's the power of Music With Purpose and positive mindset strategies working hand
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  in hand.
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  Again, thanks for spending this time with us on the PTT Music Podcast.
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  We hope today's conversation left you inspired, encouraged,
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  and ready to carry that energy with you wherever life takes you.
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  I'm Jordan Sterling...
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  and I'm Ava Brooks.
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  We'll see you next time for another conversation that celebrates creativity,
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  purpose, and the power of music.
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  could use a little inspiration today.
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  Until next time, keep moving forward, and let the PTT Music continue to move you.