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The One Where Lala Drinks Apple Cider Vinegar Water · Untraditionally Lala

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: Hello, my love. First of all, I want to apologize
• 0:09
  Speaker 1: for my voice being way it is. My sweet little
• 0:13
  Speaker 1: Ocean is sick and she handed it down to me,
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  Speaker 1: so is the voice. Is my voice annoying?
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  Speaker 2: Right now?
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  Speaker 3: I don't think it's annoying. I think it's kind of cool.
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  Speaker 3: It's like the Miley cyrus esque voice. Oh yeah, like
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  Speaker 3: the rasp I love when I'm sick because of that,
• 0:30
  Speaker 3: because I have such like a screechy, high pitched voice
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  Speaker 3: that when I'm sick, I feel so cool.
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  Speaker 4: Kind of brings it down.
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  Speaker 1: All yeah, I love that. So today I'm really excited
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: because it's a voicemail kind of podcast day.
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  Speaker 4: M hmm.
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  Speaker 1: I was like this voice. I canceled our guest because
• 0:48
  Speaker 1: I just this voice is fucking with me. Yeah, and
• 0:53
  Speaker 1: I feel like it is, and I feel like I'm
• 0:55
  Speaker 1: in my head and if I have a guest on,
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to be present with what you're saying.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: All I can really think about right now is the
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: fact that like it's taking a lot out of me
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  Speaker 1: to like even.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we have a lot of great voicemails too.
• 1:08
  Speaker 3: We need to catch up people still mentioning like the
• 1:11
  Speaker 3: dating app stuff that you talked about people asking about
• 1:15
  Speaker 3: your life lately, people asking about your dating life. We've
• 1:18
  Speaker 3: got a ton, yeah, so it's.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna be a ton.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I went to my trainer slash dear friend's birthday yesterday.
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  Speaker 3: So fun. How was it?
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  Speaker 1: It was so much fun? You know me, Jess, I like,
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  Speaker 1: rarely do anything.
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  Speaker 3: You never go out, Like I saw it on her
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  Speaker 3: stories this past weekend, guys that La La is out
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  Speaker 3: and I knew she had a birthday party to go to,
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  Speaker 3: which she was like, I don't know if i'll I'll
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  Speaker 3: be feeling up to going. And then I walked in
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, you went to the birthday party.
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  Speaker 3: I was so excited for you.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone knows that if I commit to something, there's a
• 1:52
  Speaker 1: ninety eight percent chance that I will cancel, okay, because
• 1:56
  Speaker 1: I'm just I'm a homebody. And then you know, I
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: don't like leaving ocean. It's just mom guilt is real,
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's actually a question that I want
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  Speaker 1: to ask when for my mommy's out there, When after
• 2:09
  Speaker 1: you guys had a baby, did you have mom guilt?
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  Speaker 1: And if so, when did it ease up? Because I
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  Speaker 1: know my mom. I was like two.
• 2:20
  Speaker 4: Weeks old, and she like took off.
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  Speaker 1: I love, and I'll say, like, yesterday, I was like
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  Speaker 1: because I went to the birthday and I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: how long I would be gone because it was in Malibuka,
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  Speaker 1: and my mom was like, she's not gonna remember.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, do you remember me leaving you? I said no,
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  Speaker 1: not at all, and like the amount of love I
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  Speaker 1: have for my mom, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Like, all right, it's fine, We'll be fine. So the
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  Speaker 3: birthday was fun, would you guys.
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  Speaker 1: Do We went to winery okay, and then we went
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  Speaker 1: to a Greek restaurant. It was fantastic, I'll say though,
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  Speaker 1: and I hope that they don't get mad at me
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  Speaker 1: for this winer eight. So we're sitting there and it's
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  Speaker 1: before we go on the.
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  Speaker 3: Tour and the wine tour okay.
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  Speaker 1: The tour guide was talking. I don't know how it
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  Speaker 1: got brought up, but someone said something about a giraffe
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  Speaker 1: and I, you know, this is my first time going in.
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  Speaker 1: My ears kind of perked up and I said, what's
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  Speaker 1: the reason for the animals?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: And she goes just because why not? And I go
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: because I don't think giraffes belong in that's why not. Yeah,
• 3:39
  Speaker 1: and she goes, well, we don't have him anymore. He's
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: in Texas, so me, I hopefully he's happier there. And
• 3:45
  Speaker 1: I go, mmmm, I don't think Texas.
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  Speaker 4: Is where giraffe should be either.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm sorry, I'm an animal activist, so yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't mean to put you on this spot. It
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  Speaker 1: was very uncomfortable. I'm bolted. I'm shocked.
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  Speaker 3: This is obviously the first time I'm hearing about it.
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  Speaker 3: That was the wrong person to say that in.
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  Speaker 4: Front of the bolted.
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  Speaker 1: But there was a guy there, my friend's husband who's
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  Speaker 1: from South Africa, and he was like, I agree with you.
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  Speaker 1: M like, I agree with what you're saying. I just
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  Speaker 1: don't think she was prepared to answer that. I was like, right,
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  Speaker 1: we live in Los Angeles. You should definitely be prepared
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  Speaker 1: for someone to ask you what's the reasoning.
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  Speaker 3: And also, uh oh, let's give you the benefit of
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  Speaker 3: the dough and assume you think that drabs exist in Texas. Naturally,
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  Speaker 3: we're just gonna let you know they don't know.
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  Speaker 1: And but but she did say and by the way,
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  Speaker 1: this tour guide had nothing to do with you know,
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  Speaker 1: she just worked there yeah, it's not responsible for right
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  Speaker 1: what animals are on the property, right. She said they
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  Speaker 1: don't have anything now except for like Lama's alpacas donkeys.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, that's that's fine. Yeah, I'll fine.
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  Speaker 3: So you, I know we've talked about this before a little,
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  Speaker 3: but is it annoying being on a wine tour and
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  Speaker 3: you don't drink or were you like, no, this is great.
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  Speaker 1: It's just so a part of my life now. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like and there was another girl there who she's not sober,
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  Speaker 1: but she doesn't drink, okay. And then there was another
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  Speaker 1: girl who showed up to dinner. She had been in
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  Speaker 1: the she's been in the program for a decade.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wow.
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  Speaker 1: So just at this point, Jess, it's just like I
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  Speaker 1: show up places and it's it's not even a thing.
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  Speaker 3: It's not a thing, like you could still have fun.
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  Speaker 3: It wasn't like, yan, I'm on this wine tour, I'm bored.
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  Speaker 3: I need to go do something else. No, oh that's good.
• 5:36
  Speaker 1: I got a cup and they had like pellegrino. Yeah yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I was drinking cambucha and then someone went to
• 5:44
  Speaker 1: hand it to me. Yeah. After I had been drinking
• 5:47
  Speaker 1: it and you know, I needed a lot of help
• 5:49
  Speaker 1: getting up and down the off the jeep because it
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: was a big drop. Now boobs are newly done. Oh yes, yes, yes, okay.
• 5:56
  Speaker 1: So someone was holding my drink and then they handed
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  Speaker 1: it back to me and said, here's your apples side
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: vinegar water, and I was like, I don't want it anymore.
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  Speaker 3: That's actually exactly that's what it is. That is do
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  Speaker 3: you like I call it kombucha. You call it kambucha.
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  Speaker 3: That's I don't know what it's called. Do you like it?
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  Speaker 1: I hate it?
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  Speaker 3: Love it? I love it. I could drink it every day.
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: But you know, when you're out and about, like doing
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  Speaker 1: things like a wine tour, you're like sure, Like, can
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  Speaker 1: I tell you every time we stopped at a new
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  Speaker 1: little area on the winery and they would try new wines,
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  Speaker 1: I would drink something different. Oh I like that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So like at one stop I had.
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  Speaker 4: Like regular pellegrina. Yeah, next it was like.
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  Speaker 1: The sand Pellegrino grape.
• 6:38
  Speaker 3: You know what that makes me think wine tours should
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  Speaker 3: offer just a non alcoholic version of like very interesting whatever.
• 6:48
  Speaker 3: If it's grape juice, these are the grapes from this region.
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  Speaker 3: I think that would be really cool.
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  Speaker 1: No, I think it would be too, because people not
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  Speaker 1: drinking is becoming like a big thing because people like
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  Speaker 1: have problems. I think people are just becoming aware of like,
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  Speaker 1: this isn't good for me, right, so I'm not going
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  Speaker 1: to partake in it.
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  Speaker 3: Well it's not enjoy But like Kyle doesn't drink, and
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  Speaker 3: he's not he never had a problem, he's not. He
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  Speaker 3: doesn't call himself sober, but he just doesn't drink. He's like,
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  Speaker 3: why even if I'm saying, Okay, I guess I'll have one,
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  Speaker 3: He's like, I feel like shit, yeah, Like what's the point?
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  Speaker 3: What's the point? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: You know what though, hmm. The only time and I
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  Speaker 1: don't feel triggered to drink, it's just when I go, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I remember, and that that was fun. This moment. I
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  Speaker 1: remember when I used to be a drinker. This moment
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  Speaker 1: was fun the very first drink because everyone's still normal. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but then they start feeling warm and you notice like
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  Speaker 1: their personalities get a little like.
• 7:45
  Speaker 3: Get a little more giddy, and they're loosening up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then you get to the end of it
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  Speaker 1: and everyone looks like fucked up, And I'm like, and
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  Speaker 1: this is where I this was not the fun part.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, this is. And that's I heard. I think
• 8:01
  Speaker 3: I saw this on Flight Attendant, that show about the
• 8:05
  Speaker 3: pink cloud, because I've heard you talk about it, but
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  Speaker 3: I guess I didn't really know what it was.
• 8:09
  Speaker 1: We talk about the pink cloud on.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because that character is spoiler alert. It's not really
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  Speaker 3: spoiler you kind of know. But she is sober this season. Okay,
• 8:17
  Speaker 3: so she goes to AA and she talks about and
• 8:21
  Speaker 3: I think they talk about it where they say something
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  Speaker 3: about like, oh, you're on the pink cloud. Eventually you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna feel comfortable enough to say I've mastered this, I've
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  Speaker 3: got it. Yeah, and you're gonna have one drink and
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  Speaker 3: then you're gonna forget it from there. You're not you
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  Speaker 3: can't just have one drink. And it's called the pink cloud.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, that's that's interesting. I'm sure
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  Speaker 3: people get to that, like, oh my god, I'm fine,
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  Speaker 3: I've mastered it. I can have a drink.
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: Well, when you first venture into sobriety, yeah, you do
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  Speaker 1: sit on a pink cloud. It's like this is amazing.
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  Speaker 1: I feel so great. But then as time goes on
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  Speaker 1: and you see, you forget why you chose sobriety, and
• 8:58
  Speaker 1: you're like, I don't have a problem. Look how long
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  Speaker 1: I've gone without a drink, Like I can have one,
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  Speaker 1: And then before you know it, your shit faced daily
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  Speaker 1: and you find yourself back in a meeting with twenty
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  Speaker 1: four hours under your belt, and it's just like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: worth it. Yeah, I feel like I'm still on the
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  Speaker 1: pink cloud a little bit, you do.
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  Speaker 5: Well.
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  Speaker 1: My sponsor tells me that I'm not on the pink
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  Speaker 1: cloud anymore, because the pink cloud doesn't last three and
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  Speaker 1: a half and some change. Yeah. Years, Maybe it does, though,
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  Speaker 1: who knows. Yeah, but I love my sobriety.
• 9:31
  Speaker 3: Maybe you feel like you're on it because you keep it.
• 9:33
  Speaker 3: Maybe the reason changes, like at first you did it.
• 9:36
  Speaker 3: You did it before you got pregnant, so I bet
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  Speaker 3: the reason then was different, and now your reason is
• 9:41
  Speaker 3: probably at the very least ocean is added to that,
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  Speaker 3: you know, So maybe it changes as like you keep
• 9:48
  Speaker 3: refreshing the reason for why you're staying sober, and it
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  Speaker 3: makes you, I don't know, filled with like some sort
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  Speaker 3: of like this is why I'm doing it?
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: You know? Can I tell you?
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  Speaker 4: Though?
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  Speaker 1: Every time I think about drinking, not me like picking up.
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: But when the thought of like just drinks, right, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I always go into this state of like, oh the
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: part where you wake up the next day. Just the
• 10:14
  Speaker 1: thought of that is enough to keep me somewhere for
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  Speaker 1: the rest of my life.
• 10:17
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 10:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so depressing.
• 10:21
  Speaker 3: Depressing and also like I look back at when I
• 10:23
  Speaker 3: was heavily drinking in college, my face so swollen, like
• 10:27
  Speaker 3: I was like what, And I would work out religiously,
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  Speaker 3: like to an unhealthy point. I don't even work out
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  Speaker 3: as close to that much anymore, and I love it.
• 10:35
  Speaker 3: I just feel better. But I would work out religiously,
• 10:38
  Speaker 3: eat healthy, and I still had that. I always looked puffy.
• 10:41
  Speaker 1: Same wild and my eyes were always glazed over. Yeah weird,
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: gross all right, now that we ventured into sobriety, that
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: took a weird turn, I know, but it was just
• 10:53
  Speaker 1: always goes back into sobriety. It does when I talk
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  Speaker 1: about going anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's just interesting.
• 10:59
  Speaker 1: I asked you that.
• 11:00
  Speaker 3: It's just interesting because you know, I see me and
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't think I could go on a
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  Speaker 3: wine tour and not drink.
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  Speaker 1: I'd be bored. So then I you you're normy. You
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  Speaker 1: should go on a wine tour and drink and drink.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, what you're supposed to do. Yeah, but it's just
• 11:13
  Speaker 3: nice that like you can go and not be bored.
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  Speaker 1: Well, the thing is is it was so beautiful. The
• 11:18
  Speaker 1: grounds were so gorgeous that it's like I don't need
• 11:21
  Speaker 1: to it's so pretty as is like I'm not here
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: for the alcohol. I'm here for the fucking scenery. It's stunning,
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  Speaker 1: and for the friends and like, oh, the company was fantastic. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I so needed that energy.
• 11:36
  Speaker 3: Was it all women? Because I saw a lot of women,
• 11:39
  Speaker 3: but you said.
• 11:39
  Speaker 1: There was a guy, a lot of chicks, okay, And
• 11:42
  Speaker 1: then Jenna brought her boyfriend, Ansley, who's so sweet, and
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: then there were I think three other dudes who were
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: partners of her friends, who were also so sweet. And
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: one of the guys he was like, I think we
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: should go around and say what we love about Jenna,
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: and I was like, this is just such a good
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: group of people.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's great.
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  Speaker 1: I had one of the most amazing times that I've
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: had in a very long time.
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  Speaker 3: I love that for you because you and I are
• 12:16
  Speaker 3: the same. And where like if I get invited somewhere
• 12:19
  Speaker 3: or there's like a birthday party or I know that
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  Speaker 3: there's like I've pushed off this, like go to get
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: drinks with a friend for weeks and I'm like, I
• 12:27
  Speaker 3: have to go. I'm always I mean, this is just
• 12:29
  Speaker 3: gonna be honest, the introverted me, I'm not looking forward
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  Speaker 3: to it. Okay, that's just how it is, because it
• 12:34
  Speaker 3: takes a lot of energy out of me. And ninety
• 12:37
  Speaker 3: nine percent of the time, I'm so glad I went.
• 12:39
  Speaker 3: And I feel like, you know, like I go and
• 12:43
  Speaker 3: I'm not looking forward to it. And then I like
• 12:45
  Speaker 3: talk to a friend or I hang out with people
• 12:47
  Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh, yeah, this isn't so bad.
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  Speaker 1: You know, yes, and you're so happy that you went.
• 12:51
  Speaker 3: Yes, And so I'm really glad you went. I think
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: that's great.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and everyone it was so and I like people
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: who drink adult like mm hmm. So, like we went
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: to the winery, they all were, you know, participating in
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: the drinking of the wine. By the time we got
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: to dinner, everyone's eyes were you know, everyone was like
• 13:11
  Speaker 1: sobering up. But it was like we've been drinking and
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: everyone was drinking like hot mint tea at and the
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  Speaker 1: guy the waiter is like, it's a birthday. Does anyone
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: want a cocktail? Everyone's like no, No. I was like,
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  Speaker 1: this is my vibe.
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  Speaker 3: That's yes. You know, adult drinkers are very different from
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: you know, the all day drinkers, and it's nice.
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: It is nice. I wouldn't know anything about that. We
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: will take a short break and we gaped it. When
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  Speaker 1: we come back. I've got your voicemails are back, Jess.
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: Can you play me a voicemail please? Yes.
• 13:51
  Speaker 5: My name is Taylor. I love your podcast. I just
• 13:58
  Speaker 5: try question for you about the guss find. We have
• 14:03
  Speaker 5: not seen them or heard from them in a while,
• 14:05
  Speaker 5: and I just wanted to sow when you were going
• 14:08
  Speaker 5: to have them back. They are wonderful and are always
• 14:11
  Speaker 5: put the fun and I just said that you just
• 14:14
  Speaker 5: revamped your podcast to a newer, better podcast, and I
• 14:18
  Speaker 5: just think that is the fun episode and I look
• 14:22
  Speaker 5: forward to potentially possibly hearing them have a great day byebye.
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: That one makes me sad. One of my gusbands got
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: a new job, which was great, and then it just
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know what happened, but he just decided that
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: my other gusband was not who he wanted in his
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: life right now. Okay, very weird.
• 14:51
  Speaker 4: I don't like it.
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: But they're not talking right now, and it's very strange,
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: and I want to shake the one guysband and be like,
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: what a are you doing?
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: I don't see them being on the podcast together anytime soon.
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: I mean, they haven't even spoken.
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: Maybe they can hash it out on the podcast. Maybe
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: we can trick them and have them both over.
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: I think at this point in time that would not
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: be a good call because I'm on my one gusband's
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: side and I have a real issue with the gusband
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: who got a new job and went into some weird
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: fucking spiral of what he wants his life to look like.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: Here's my question, not knowing, I really don't know a
• 15:30
  Speaker 3: lot about this. You guys are really anything at all?
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: But is do you think it's just a phase like
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: people go through phases.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: I do think it's a phase, okay, but when you're
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: a grown ass person mm hm, this type of phase,
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: I don't have time for it right It's weird.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: And you don't think right now like he's probably wouldn't
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: even be open to hearing anyone.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: I'm just guessing no, And honestly, if you were to
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: listen to this, he would probably call me and be like,
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I didn't know you felt that way, because I just
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: I know if I were to text him right now,
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: I would not be kind. Mmm, I would not be
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: kind at all. Yeah. I love them both. And just
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: like my one gusband said, when he snaps out of
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: it and he comes back around, who's gonna be there
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: to like pick him up? Right? The two of us will.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: And that's very true.
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: So there's the update on the gusbands, not as positive
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: but as.
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: Maybe you all makes me so sad.
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: But I truly think because I've seen obviously the gusbands together,
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: I've seen Lalla and the gusbands together, they're like, to me, unbreakable.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: So it's not like it's the end of an era.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: I hope. Not because I told him, I said, I
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: don't know what's going on, but I feel like my
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: parents are getting divorced. Yeah, like, you guys got to
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: figure it out.
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: It's just a thing. It's just a face, I hope.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: So I think he's lost his spark.
• 16:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't want that.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'll be here. I'm very forgiving.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Lala will be here. The other gusband will be here.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, what's my next one?
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: Next one?
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Hey, I was just listening to your most recent podcast.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: And this isn't a question but a recommendation for Lalla
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: and Ocean. There is a place called the Gentle Barn
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: about thirty to forty minutes north of La and Samaquarita
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: that I highly recommend you guys going to. You can
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: take the baby. It is the sweetest place where they
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: rescue animals from the food industry. They have cows that
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: you can hug, and pets and pigs and chickens. It's
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: just like the most sweetest place and it's not too
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: much money, and it's for such an amazing cause. So
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: and there's also a place quote Farm Sanctuary, but the
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: Gentle Barn is the most sweetest place. I highly recommend it.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: My name is Stephanie and love listening to you guys.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I want to go to the Gentle Barn.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: They rescue them from the food industry. I love that
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: in Ocean would be BESI herself do anything.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: She would love it. Can I tell you something? So
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: because we talked about the giraffe being in Malibu or whatever,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: and I say I'm an animal activist. Yeah, I don't
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: love meat. It just I've just never really loved meat.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: But I'm not a vegan or a vegetarian. Like there
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: are moments where I definitely have eaten meat, do eat meat.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: I really want to not eat meat right now. It's
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: just a part of like it's like, oh, that looks good,
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: I'll eat it, right I don't want to do that anymore,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: right you want to?
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: That's a really great goal, And what I've heard is
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: a small step you can make if you don't want
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: to or can't for some health reasons or whatever, become
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: a vegetarian or a vegan. I do know that if
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: you buy again, this is a not a luxury but
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: a privilege because it's usually a little more expensive. But
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: if you buy, if you are in the space in
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: your life to buy like grass fed cow, which they
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: sell it like normal grocery stores, but grass fed or
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: organic beef, or for the chickens, pasture raised eggs, because
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: I've heard that cage free is basically like just the
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: same as normal. Pasture raised is the key words you're
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: looking for, and that's like they actually let the chickens
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: out legally. They have to run around in a grass
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: area and then like you know, free range, grass fed
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: beef and stuff. Again, I know a lot of vegetarians
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: and vegans will be like, you should just give it up.
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: It's not that hard. But if you're trying to make
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: a small step, id I have heard that's I try
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: and do that because.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: It's just like, don't even enjoy even enjoy it. It's
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: just when you go and order things for some reason,
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: it's just like we're we're programmed to just like eat meat,
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Like here's a chicken taco, here's a beef taco. Like
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: we weren't. We didn't come into this world and have
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: it where you roll up in a restaurant and it's
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: like veggie taco. That's definitely a part of the menu now, right.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: But like the other night I went to a Mexican
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: food joint and I got, oh my god, it was
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: so good. Yes, what was it? It was a mushroom
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: taco and it was so bombed.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: I bet you're to be like, I got a chicken
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: taco and.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: It was so mushroom taco.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Please call Candela on Libreak. And they have corn tacos.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: Corn tacos.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just corn taco Wednesdays, yum. Oh my god, mushroom taco.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: You can do a lot with mushroom and Jackfrew, I
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: love a black bean and rice taco.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: See. So so it's just getting myself to just go
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: that direction and just switch the way that I've been
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: programmed because I don't fucking enjoy meat that much. And
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: then when I go into all of this stuff about
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: like how he cares so much about certain like all
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: these animals. But then it's like I look at a
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: count and I'm like, I love that cow and I've
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: eaten one of them. Yeah, that makes me sick stomach.
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: And perpetuating the the yeah, I know she Jamie Lynn
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: talked about it, but perpetuating like the industry where kows
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: are just basically shoved it next to each other and
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: can't move.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, it makes me sick to I have
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: to make a change.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, But there are like you know, and I've heard
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: like I've heard again, don't know this for a fact,
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Eating too much like tofu and soy is also not
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: good for you. But there's so many hours in moderation.
• 21:50
  Speaker 6: Right.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: I think a kid died from drinking too much water,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: like years ago.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: You could drown from drinking too much literally right.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: It was like a yeah, is it an initiation for
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: like a f oh what it is? Yes, initially they
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: had to they had him drink a certain amount of
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: water and he like literally died because.
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: Well that's hazing, hazy. Yes, you can drink too much water.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: You can drown in in a centimeter of water. And
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: they mean that by you can over hydration. I used
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: to see it in school sports all the time, such
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: a real thing. People pass out they're overhydrated because they
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: know they have I saw it in track a lot.
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: I would watch the track meets in my school and
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: we had this one girl who had to go to
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: the hospital and was like in really bad condition, was
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: there for three days because she was over hydrated. Yeah,
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: so everything in moderation, I get it, But there are
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: how did we get on? Oh the farm? The farm there,
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: it is the Gentle Barn and it's an in Santa Clarita.
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: Going, I love that taking ocean immediately, what's the next voicemail?
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: Okay, hi Lave, my name is me and I'm from Massachusetts. First,
• 23:02
  Speaker 6: I love your podcast. I've been binge listening if that's
• 23:05
  Speaker 6: the thing for the last few weeks, and I'm filing
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: up to date. We had babies around the same time,
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: so I'm digging all the baby talk. It's so nice
• 23:12
  Speaker 6: to hear a different side of you on the podcast,
• 23:14
  Speaker 6: and it really gives listeners the opportunity to get to
• 23:17
  Speaker 6: know you so much more than what we see on
• 23:18
  Speaker 6: random Pump Goole. Congratulations on your sobriety. You should be
• 23:22
  Speaker 6: so proud of yourself. My question actually comes from some
• 23:25
  Speaker 6: of the content you've shared with us, as I believe
• 23:27
  Speaker 6: it can use in life too. If you mentioned with
• 23:29
  Speaker 6: sobriety you live one day at a time. For people
• 23:32
  Speaker 6: like myself, I need to live more in the moment.
• 23:34
  Speaker 6: You cut down on stress and anxiety and often try
• 23:37
  Speaker 6: to practice living in the moment, but it's so hard.
• 23:39
  Speaker 6: So in a future podcast, could you speak a little
• 23:42
  Speaker 6: more about best practices with that even if people aren't sober.
• 23:45
  Speaker 6: I think it's a great way to think and would
• 23:47
  Speaker 6: love to learn more about how to practice this on
• 23:49
  Speaker 6: a daily basis, if possible, how to get in that
• 23:52
  Speaker 6: mindset or whatnot. Thanks for taking that question, wishing you
• 23:55
  Speaker 6: and open the very best.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Oh sorry, I love that question. It's strange because I
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: feel like it's easier in sobriety to take it one
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: day at a time. And that may not be for everybody,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: but like for me, it's easier for me to stay
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: present in my sobriety than it is for me to
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: stay present like in life. My anxiety is high right now,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: and I just have a lot of stress and I'm
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: dealing with a lot, and I feel like sometimes it
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: does take away from me living in the moment and
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: enjoying things. And I have a lot of worry.
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: So I wish that I could like.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Give my advice on how to live more in the moment.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: But I mean, I am struggling with it too, especially
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: right now where I think like a million steps ahead
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: and I'm worried about the unknown of everything. Think just
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: like trying to keep my head above water. And I
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: feel like there's so many times where I do like
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: interviews or I'm talking to people and I'm doing Instagram
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: posts and I'm like I'm doing great, like I'm great,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: but I'm like I'm struggling. So I would also like
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: to know how to stay present and try to not
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: worry and fight anxiety and depression and things like that,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: and I know mine's situational. But if anyone has advice,
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: because I love that question. So if anyone is listening
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: and you have advice, I would love for you to
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: call in and help me as well.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: Fuck sorry, don't be sorry. I think that was a
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: great question. And you see how people are dealing with
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: it every day. You are this person is I mean
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: I everyone is, and it's just some way worse than others.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: I mean, we won't get into you know, I couldn't
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: be dealing personally with you know, all the stuff you
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: deal with your like I said, have said before. One
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: of the strongest people I know. I know, it's like
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: how do you live in the moment? And I feel
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: like so many people have anxiety, stress, depression. It's like
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: all three every day just getting out of bed. For people,
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: it's like wake up.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: What am I?
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: Why am I getting out of bed?
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: You know, and you start the grind all over again.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: It's fucking exhausting.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I've heard, I've read and heard, you know, because
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: I don't she wouldn't mind me saying this, but I
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: have a sister who deals with the same things. Extreme anxiety.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: Has been in the hospital because of panic attacks, and
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: and there are and they sound cliche and and like
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: I've said them to her before and she's like, that
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: doesn't like that's not gonna help. It's but because they're
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: so simple. But sometimes you literally just have to breathe
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: and Okay, I literally you could start from like, think
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: about the things you're thankful for. Again. I know so
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: many people are gonna sound be frustrated because it's like no, no,
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: like I can't right now. But I've heard when you
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: let yourself and you force yourself sometimes it helps being
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: in the moment. Okay, I right now have I'm healthy
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: or I right now have literally you could say like
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: I have my arms and legs, I'm thankful for that.
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: I have my legs, I can walk, I have a
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: roof over my head. And sometimes you have to because
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: it's like if I don't start with like the smallest
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: I have a chair that I can sit in and
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: eat breakfast right then it's like you're gonna go crazy.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: You have just moments of gratitude, yes, when you take
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: your when you have a those dark moments, M yeah, no,
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: and I.
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: Agree with you.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: But there's some days where you're just like fuck everything, yeah,
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: and I know that I'll go through cycles and yes,
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: no matter if I'm in a great head space or
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: it's kind of just a lower vibration type of day,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: I know that you will not break me. I know
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: that everything will be okay. But there's always a small
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: part of me that goes to the what ifs, and
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: that can become traumatizing. Yeah, and take me to a
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: place that I don't want to go to.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: So, I mean, how many of us wake up and
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: we feel like ten years ago was literally just yesterday?
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: I know, even thinking about the pandemic, what that was
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: that started two years ago. So it's almost like, if
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: you have the capacity and the energy to remind yourself,
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: I have to live in this moment because I'm going
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: to wake up tomorrow and it's going to be ten
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: years down the road.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: I know. And then that opens a whole new can
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: of worms for me, where then I start having I
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: go on my guilt trip of all the moments that
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: I wasted worrying.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: M And it's such a it's a vicious cycle because
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: then as you're on in the guilt trip, worried about
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: all the moments you wasted, you're making more moments that
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: you're wasting. Yeah, I know.
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: So, as Medina said to me, he was like, you
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: have got to allow the universe to do what it
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: is prepared to do, right, You've got to fight the anxiety.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: He's like this thing with Chris Medina, He's I've said
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: this many times, he's very gifted. He was telling me
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: things that I was doing that he wouldn't know that
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: I was doing. No one would know that I was
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: doing these things. Yeah, you know, it's like an internal
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: thing that I do to myself. And he was like
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: on the money, and he said, you've got to stop.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: You will be just fine. I told you that the
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: moment I did your podcast back in September, you will
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: be okay. Let the universe and time catch up with
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: what you know. Yeah, because it will.
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: It will.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: And it's so.
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: I could see it being so frustrating, and it is
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: so frustrating when you sit there and you have to think,
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: remind yourself the universe, it'll be fine, This too shall
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: pass blah blah blah blah blah, over and over again
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: for days, for weeks, for months, for years. It's like,
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: oh my god. When though, when you get to a
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: point where you're like, but when though, and it's frustrating.
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Well, like my best friend Madison said to me, she
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: was like, you don't get to tell the universe what
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: timeline it should be on. Yeah, you don't have that right.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: It's so true. I'm like, oh shit.
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because all this this time, it's like it's like
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: a blink of an eye, Like the universe is like, yeah,
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: a couple of years, relax, And for us it's like
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: every day is torture and we just have to learn
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: to deal with it for whatever we're trying to get
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: toward or work toward or And it's like, but it
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: will all happen when it's supposed to. And it's the
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: hardest thing. And I like, get I give credit to
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: the people who don't live with that, huge credit to
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: those people. I talked to a friend about it this
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: past weekend who's like, no, no, no, I don't believe
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: in a god. I don't believe in a higher power.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: I get things happen that we can't explain. I just
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: don't believe in that. If I want something to happen
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: in my life, I do that myself. And I was like,
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: it gave me anxiety because I was like, good, good
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: for you, because if I had to live my life
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: based on me, do you know how much pressure that
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: is me? I'm gonna my life is determined one hundred
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: percent by me, and I can't trust that like things
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: will happen when they're supposed to.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: I'm done.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: I'm not getting out of bed tomorrow.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: If that was my brain live that way.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: I couldn't live that way.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: There's no fucking way.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: So I mean, I do give credit to people who
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: are like, no, I'm getting like I make my life.
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: That's one way to look at it. I'm very well.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: Of course I don't sit here and go. The universe
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: is gonna point me in all the direction rights and
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: God has my back. No, Obviously, if I want, like
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: I believe in God, right, well, God gave me a
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: brain and fucking use it. And if I want something
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: to happen, I'm going to make it happen. But the
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: universe will step in when something is not right. So
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: if something feels like you're banging your head against a
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: brick wall, take a different. The universe is saying, I'm
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: trying to show you that it's not working, So use
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: your brain that God gave you to pick a different route.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you. You don't listen to that, you end up
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: in situations that you should.
• 32:58
  Speaker 5: Not be in.
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: Yes, And I always say in my prayers every night,
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: because my belief is like I have I'm healthy, and
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: i have the brain I have and whatever to work
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: my ass off, and I'm not gonna get rewarded unless
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: i work my ass off so I can. My mindset
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: is like if I work my ass off and do
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: everything I possibly can, then there's no like I don't
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: have an excuse, like things don't come to me. And
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: I'm like I can say, but I'm trying. I'm doing
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: everything I can right, So in my prayers I always say,
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: please continue, like to guide me if I'm if I'm
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: not on the right path, please like, if I'm not
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: hearing you, like speak a little louder, please help if
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: I'm not on the right path or I'm like maybe
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: veering off, or please guide me back on, Like if
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: there's a door that should be opening, please help me
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: see it, just all the things that like I kind
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: of put it. If I'm not seeing it or hearing it,
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: please like help a little but really overall, just like
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: continue to guide me, and I will pray to like
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: my grandpa and my uncle and like.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: Of course those are your guides. Yeah, yeah, those are
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: those are your every days. Yeah, it's crazy right, yeah, No,
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: I could not live without believing in the higher power.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you don't, that's the only thing. I'm
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: not pushing anything on you. But good lord, there are
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: moments where I'm like, this moment is going to break
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: me and I got to hand it off, exact, hunt
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: it to something greater.
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, handing Get me out.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: On that note, Let's cut to a short little break
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: and then do you have more voicemails for me?
• 34:29
  Speaker 6: Just?
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: Yes, we do. I want to hear them all. We'll
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: be right back. We have time for one more.
• 34:37
  Speaker 7: Yeah, hey, Lala, this calling from Granberry, Texas. And I
• 34:42
  Speaker 7: need some advice. I do not drink, and I have
• 34:45
  Speaker 7: a really hard time going out to social events about
• 34:47
  Speaker 7: people bringing it up and dry attention to it and
• 34:51
  Speaker 7: just making it awkward in general. I know that I've
• 34:54
  Speaker 7: heard you say before that you have a lot of
• 34:56
  Speaker 7: fun when you still go out and everyone's drinking, And
• 34:59
  Speaker 7: I just want to I know your secret.
• 35:01
  Speaker 6: What do you do?
• 35:02
  Speaker 7: How do you get people to just stop talking about
• 35:05
  Speaker 7: it and have a good time. Can't wait to listen.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: Oh babe, I love this question. You know what, I
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: don't think that anyone should. If you go out and
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: you're sober and you feel like being in a situation
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: where people are drinking is not for you, don't force it.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm I'm lucky and I also my
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: and this is this is gonna come off weird, but
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: this is what the very first person that I went
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: into when I got sober, who's one of my angels, said,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: you're a unicorn. This is not normal for you. And
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: if at any point in time it doesn't work for
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: you anymore, I want you to listen to that. It's
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: worked for me so far. I'm okay going to wineries.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: I'm okay going into a bar. My mind goes to
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: a place where it's like, this is my life. I
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: have so much to lose, and I for sure am
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: not going to lose use everything over a fucking drink.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: It's not happening. If you are the type of person
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: where you don't have fun and you're triggered by places
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: like that, don't go. Because there were times at the
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: very beginning of my sobriety where I was like, it's
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: just not a good idea for me to For some reason,
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling it in my gut, I shouldn't go to
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: this bar tonight with my friends. Right I'm not feeling
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: triggered right now, but my gut is telling me steer clear,
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: and I wouldn't go. That's good. Yeah. So I don't
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: even know how to tell someone to not because I
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: have people that I sit in rooms with who have
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: been sober, you know, ten twenty years, who still say
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: if I go into a bar, I'm gonna be triggered
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: to drink.
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: So I think it's just a matter of I don't
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: think you can teach how to get into that zone.
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: And this is coming from a non sober person. But
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: I and I know you said that you don't drink.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: You just put I don't drink. I don't know if
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: you shared that with a ton of people or if
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: you're making the decision now. But I have nights I
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: go out and I don't want to drink. People are
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: annoying and they'll say, especially since I'm not sober, and
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: they'll go, no, no, no, just have a drink, Just
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: take a shot and I get annoyed with it, and
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: I'm sick of like it taking up twenty minutes of
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: the conversation. So what I do is I just trick them.
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: I literally go up. I wait till they're in another conversation.
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: I go up to the bar and I say, hey,
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: could I have a drink in a cocktail glass? Could
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: you make it grapefruit juice? And usually I get soda
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: water and I literally pretend I'm drinking all night, and
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: that is unfortunately sometimes, and I know it's like shallow
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: and not as deep. Sometimes that's just what I have
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: to do. It's annoying. People are annoying, especially when they
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: get more drunk and they go shot shot, I'll go, no,
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: I don't want to puke all over everyone, so I'm
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: not going to take a shot, and it would embarrass me.
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: And if I took a shot, I would throw up
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: all over you. I'm sipping on my cocktail and it's
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: not a cocktail, it's none alcoholic.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: That's so strange to me, though, what that people are
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: because if you say you're not drinking tonight, there's pure pressure.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: But I'll tell you what, when when people ask me
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: if I want to drink and I say no, I'm good,
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: and then they say are you sure, and then I
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: say no, I'm sober. I've been sober for three and
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: a half years. They automatically disengage. So maybe if even
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: if you just if if you don't drink, you're enorman,
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: you've just decided you don't want to drink, or you
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: have a drinking problem. I say, just go straight to
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: the sober just go I'm sober. I'm sober, right And
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: if they freak disengage unless.
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: You're with friends that know, like what are you talking about? No,
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: you're not, you were just drinking last night, then you
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: can fake fake it.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: But even now I still have I still ask.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: For like, uh, mocktailary a.
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: I don't love mocktails, you know, because sugar to sugary.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: I just say, give me sparkling water in a short
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: glass with a line right, looks like you're drinking a
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: vodkis soda? No, yeah, asking you anything.
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: And either way, I do it anyway, because if I
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: am drinking, I drink waters in between, like soda waters. Yeah,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: So I'll just do it anyway.
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: At that party that we went to a while ago,
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: at Tom Tom do you remember.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: Yes you forget or the yeah the birthday.
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: I had so many people yeah, being like, you're not
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: fucked up right now, and you're like, or you weren't
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: fucked up last night. I'm like, okay, first of all,
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: is that an insult? I'm like, no, I haven't had
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: a drink in yeah, over three and a half years. Yeah,
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: So I think if you just keep that in your
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: hand and you look like you're enjoying yourself, yeah, people
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: are gonna be like she was worse.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah or no exactly. And at that party, someone just
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: to let anyone know who knows me, if you I'm sorry,
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: but if you buy me a shot, it never goes
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: in my mouth, it goes over my shoulder, it goes
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: on the floor. I'm not kidding. It's just happens.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: And so all the alcohol, the alcoholic in me has
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: so much anxiety that I just.
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: I know, I have been at a long time ago.
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: I went to Vegas with some people for like the
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: Super Bowl, and we got like a table in one
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: of the clubs and they got bottle service. I think
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: bottle service is dumb. It's so it's so so stupid,
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: so expensive. But they got patrone every shot, you guys
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: went on the floor, which is like rude of me.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: I did have paper towels and tried to soak it up.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: But every shot they tried to make me take when
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: over my shoulder or on the floor, and so much
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: so that I'm sure hundreds of dollars of liquor was wasted.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: But here's the thing. They say, take a shot, Take
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: a shot. I say, I don't want one. I don't
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: want one. Take a shot in.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I don't want to.
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: I don't want to go back and forth. I don't
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: want to. There are just moments where I don't want
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: to stand up for myself and make a point. And
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, your fault. You're gonna tell me to
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: take a shot. You just spent this much on this bottle.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: Guess where it's going on the ground. You should have
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: listened to me when I said no.
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: Thanks, speaking of bottle service, just ye, so do you remember, oh,
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: so yesterday at the party, I was like, guys, there
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: was a girl who was These women were all very accomplished.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: I'm sure a lot of them. If I were to
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: say who was there, you would know who I'm talking about.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: But there was one girl who was a therapist. And
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: I asked, because you know, I'm really holding on to
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: this guy who went to the strip club, like I
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: know that it's not right, but like I had to
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: ask for a second, third, fourth opinion. And the girl
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: was like, so tell me how it went down. I
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: was like, it was his birthday. I told him happy birthday.
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: We texted whatever. I went to bed. The next day,
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: I wake up. It was like mourning for me after nude.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: For him, he said, sorry, I was out all night.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: We went to a strip club.
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: Lol.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: And she goes no. She goes, no, that's not the
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: energy you want, that's not the vibration you need with
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: what you've been through.
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: No.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: And I said, I'm listening to you, but all I
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: could think about with the bottle service, what you just
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: said being stupid.
• 41:59
  Speaker 4: Okay, me back to thinking about this guy.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: Okay, So on his Instagram the night before he was
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: in a restaurant with sunglasses on. Okay, So, when he
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: tells me he's at this he went to a strip club,
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Me and my sober state of mind could just picture
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: a fucking stupid They all look right like drunk, thinking
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: they're fucking cool with their stupid fucking sung glasses on
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: at night, you know, and like fit inside with pitch black,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: with like women shaking their asses. Talented women by the way, Yes,
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: the strippers don't look stupid. No, you look stupid.
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: You look stupid.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: I just can't stay with the bottle service. When I
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: go into a club and I'm sober and I see
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: these people and they bring out like the sparklers and
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: the champagne, and they're thinking they're so cool. They got
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: their phones.
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: Out for the GRAM.
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you all look like I'm living. I see
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: it for what it is. Yes, right, I'm sober. Yeah,
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: you look dumb.
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: You're like, oh, you just spent eight hundred dollars on it,
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: one hundred dollars bottle of liquor.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: Am I supposed to am?
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: I supposed to think that's cool.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: Nope, But they all do. And they're like they're like
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: you see them filming themselves, like yeah, yeah, show the chain.
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I hate all of.
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: The cool bro Oh my god, No, that's that's true.
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: It angers me.
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: That's why I love the Instagram account influencers in the wild.
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: Do you follow it? Oh my god, La, it's you
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: know what you're talking it's that ship. It's videos of
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: people just like or like dancing. They'll be dancing on
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: the beach and it's girls and and it's a video
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: and they'll be like dancing and then and then the
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: music stops and they like check it and it's so funny.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: It's mortifying.
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: It's mortified. You go through TikTok and you see these
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: like cool videos of women dancing, but you never really think,
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: like what set does actually look like. They're on the beach.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: There's beach goers laying trying to enjoy and they're like
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: kicking stand in their face.
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah. No, can I tell you what it's like. Can
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: I see people on planes? Yeah, they're in first class
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: and they're like you see the picture, and they're like
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: lounged out, they take a selfie, They've got like their
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: glass of champagne. You're like, oh my god, so chic.
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: But then I transport myself to walking down the aisle
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: and watching that person do that, and I'm like, you're
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: a fucking idiot. You look dumb, Like no, and I'm sorry,
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: I refuse to look stupid just for one Instagram post, just.
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: For one You have to think about what's behind the photo.
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: You guys, it's like another.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I'm so bad at Instagram.
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: Well it's the other thing too. It's like, I love
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: there's TikTok accounts that are like the real shot or whatever,
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: and there's all these like gorgeous shots that influencers take
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: when they're like out of the country and they're on
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: this iconic like rock, and then you see a literal
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: hour and a half long line of people waiting to
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: get the shot on the rock, and it's like never
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: and it's just one shot on the rock, and then
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: they run away and then someone else stands on the
• 44:55
  Speaker 3: rock and it's like you see this iconic photo on Instagram,
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: but what you don't see is the and a half
• 45:00
  Speaker 3: line of people waiting to get this one shot on
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: this like rock and Bali or something whatever.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Wow, we've hit a lot of notes
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: to you. I know, we have cried, We've spoken about sobriety,
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: we've spoken about idiots.
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: I know, I know you said two more voicemails, but
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: we have so many good ones. I think we save
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: the rest for later.
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: Let's save the rest for later. Okay, you guys, thank
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: you so much for tuning into another episode. Of give
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: them Lalla podcast. I love you so much. Remember to
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: take your vitamins to not get what Ocean gave to me.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: Remember to wear your sunscreen because sun's out, buns out.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: I want you guys to protect that skin. I love
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: you so much, Catch you next week.
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: Ah, with your cold, you sounded like Kurmit.