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Owning Your Identity: Treating Your Life Like It Matters (S5) S4:E4 · Inspirations for Your Life

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It is John C.
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All right.
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We've been talking about a very, very interesting
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topic all, well, week and now we're basically
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getting into Tuesday.
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We still have a little bit left of
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the week to go.
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And hopefully these things make a difference in
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your life.
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That's my desire for you.
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So this is the Inspirations for Your Life
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show.
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It's the daily motivational show, ladies and gentlemen.
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You know, this week we're talking about how
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to be unstoppable.
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Your glow up error.
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This is series five, by the way.
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And, you know, I think a lot of
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people like they don't realize like what actually
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goes on or, you know, what's happening and
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how our mind can see possibilities.
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Again, this is a series five.
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Show number four, an episode.
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Yes.
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Yes.
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Can you believe, guys, that we are on
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episode number.
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Yeah, we're at episode number four and we're
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on show number four.
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So, again, it's so great to be with
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everybody here and to be celebrating being on
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the year actually over four years.
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This is our twenty first day in the
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fifth year.
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And it is great, really great to be
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with you guys.
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So hello once again and welcome back to
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Inspirations for Your Life.
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The daily motivational show where growth is intentional.
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Mindset is powerful and progress is built.
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One focused decision at a time.
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I'm your host, guys.
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I'm John Seymour, a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing
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specialist, video producer, podcast host, also a coach,
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graduate student and a passionate lifelong learner.
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It's my privilege and pleasure to be with
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you today or this evening over the years,
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guys, of building businesses, solving complex problems and
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coaching others through uncertainty.
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I've learned this truth.
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Your life moves in the direction of your
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focus.
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Today's episode is all about training your mind
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to stop staring at problems and start seeing
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possibility.
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Number one, your brain will always find what
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you constantly look for.
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Start looking for solutions, guys.
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Yeah, start looking for solutions.
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And when you look for solutions, like I
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said, your mind basically changes.
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Your mind changes.
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And you know, it might not happen like
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overnight, but I'm going to tell you guys
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something.
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It's going to change.
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And you're going to be like, wow, like
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I didn't realize, you know, that that was
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going to happen in my life.
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You know, I didn't realize how it was
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going to happen or how it was going
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to work, or how something was going to
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fit in that maybe, I don't know, maybe
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you just didn't think about for whatever reason,
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right?
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I mean, whatever was pretty much going through
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your head for that moment.
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You know, you maybe you're going one direction,
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you're like, well, I don't know how to
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get to their side.
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Or I don't know why I'm on this
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path right now.
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And the pathway could just be something having
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to do with you and your core values
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in life.
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And that's something that a lot of people,
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they miss this guys, they definitely miss this.
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And I wanted to say this to you,
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because ladies gentlemen, it is so important that
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you understand the keys to changing your life,
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because you have this ability, guys, you absolutely
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have this ability.
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And I want you to know that you
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can make these changes in your life, whenever
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you want to make them.
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You know, so tonight, I'm going to take
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you from stuck to unstoppable.
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Okay, in your globe.
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And again, we're all about tonight, let's own
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your own identity.
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Treating your life like, well, it matters.
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Owning your identity, treating your life like it
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matters.
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And that's important for us to understand.
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Because when we understand that we know that
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there's possibilities, we know that there is potential.
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We know that what happened yesterday is not
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going to happen tomorrow.
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We learn about our confidence, which is built
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from within, no one else builds that.
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And success begins with self respect.
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And I think sometimes self respect, takes a
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backseat, not because it wants to, but because
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we procrastinate.
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And that's what causes that problem, to be
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quite honest with everyone.
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So we're all about ownership and owning who
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you are, how you show up in the
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life you're building.
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And this is all about owning your identity,
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treating your life like, well, it matters.
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Because when you begin to live as if
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your life has weight, meaning and impact, everything
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about how you move through the world changes.
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You're not random guys.
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You're a walking assignment.
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Your existence carries purpose.
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Act like your life is important because it
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is guys.
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Self respect sets the tone for everything else.
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Number three, guys, you're not just here.
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You're here to impact something, to make an
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impact in this amazing world.
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Presence matters.
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And you might say, John, well, no, it
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doesn't.
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I'm here to tell you, your presence matters.
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So when you understand that presence matters, you'll
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be able to do some amazing stuff.
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I don't care what skills you have right
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now.
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But when you know your presence matters, that's
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when you start creating some amazing, special things
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in your life.
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Number four, guys, start living like your choices
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echo into other people's lives.
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Because you know what guys, they do.
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They echo into other people's lives.
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And you might be saying, John, all that
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doesn't happen.
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Yes, it does.
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It happens every single day of your life.
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It's just you might not be tuned into
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it at the moment.
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Okay, you might not be tuned into it.
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And if you're not tuned into it, it's
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like, well, what do I do?
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What do I say?
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Okay.
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You have a lot of potential, my friends,
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a lot of potential.
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Number five, you are someone's inspiration, even if
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you don't see it yet.
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You know, you might help somebody who was
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going to give up on their dreams.
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You might help a parent decide that they
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can do something they didn't think they could.
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You might help somebody, even at work, solve
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a problem or challenge or take on a
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project that maybe they didn't have the confidence
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for and you help them build that.
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Number six, stop living like a backup plan
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in your own story.
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When I hear people living on a backup
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plan, I feel so sorry for them because
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they don't have enough confidence in their main
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plan.
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Number seven, you're not optional.
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You're essential to someone's breakthrough.
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Start appreciating that.
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Your presence changes rooms.
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Walk in with intention, and you'll create a
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different mindset.
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And so everybody else in that room have
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one.
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Number nine, you're allowed to carry yourself like
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you matter, because you know what, ladies and
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gentlemen, you do matter.
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I'm tired of people saying, oh, John, you
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know what, I don't really, I'm not really
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valued.
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I'm nobody.
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Nobody is nobody.
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I want to say that right now.
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Nobody is nobody.
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And if nobody is nobody, right, I mean
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that you are somebody.
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That's what I'm trying to say.
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I think that's a, I think that's a
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very important thing to understand.
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You know, maybe you're saying to me, John,
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I don't quite get how this works.
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And you know, that's okay if you don't
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get how it works.
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It's perfectly okay.
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Number 10, when you respect your time, energy,
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and your boundaries, guess what, your life goes
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into this massive upgrade moment.
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Yeah, it upgrades.
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That's pretty cool.
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Number 11, you're not needy for wanting more.
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You're aware.
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And when you're aware, that becomes, well, a
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very, very big thing to realize.
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Very, very big thing to realize.
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Number 12, guys, treat your goals like appointments
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you refuse to miss.
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I think when we do that, our life
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really can be making this amazing, amazing jump.
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Number 13, show up for yourself the way
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you show up for others.
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You show up for others all the time,
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don't you?
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But I want you to show up for
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yourself the same way.
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You matter.
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You're important.
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Yes, you are.
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I think the sooner you realize that, the
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sooner that you, I can make a difference
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in my life.
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You absolutely can make a difference in your
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life.
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Number 14, your standards are not too high,
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guys.
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They are a filter.
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Yes.
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Number 15, you teach people how to treat
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you by how you treat yourself.
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Number 16, stop auditioning for rooms you were
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born to own.
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I think once you get that praise, or
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once you get that pat on the back,
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even though you don't do it for that
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reason, that causes the confidence to start
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sprouting, start growing inside you.
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It's like this rock coming down a mountain,
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right?
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Once it gets enough inertia and energy behind
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it, nothing can stop that snowball.
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Once we get enough energy behind us, nothing
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can stop us.
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Let's start believing that every day.
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When we believe that, our life has the
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power to change.
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Now, it doesn't change by just snapping our
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fingers.
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I'm sorry, guys.
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It changes when we decide that we can
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make a difference in our lives.
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Okay?
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When we make that decision, that's when we
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can see, well, breakthroughs in our life.
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Some very big breakthroughs.
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Number 17, you're not a low priority.
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Stop scheduling yourself last.
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You matter.
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You're important.
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I know from being on the side of
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the coin, you know, we always want to
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help people.
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For years, I don't care whether it's an
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elderly person, senior, something younger.
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I don't want you to think that just
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because somebody's older, somebody's younger, that that means
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you can put yourself down.
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I think that's the big thing that I
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want to say to you guys.
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If you understand that, then and only then,
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can you actually make a big, big difference
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in your life.
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And I think some people say to me,
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Oh, John, you know, this isn't really the
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way I want to go.
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But I'm here to tell you that the
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way you're going right now is based on
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your thoughts.
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It's based on your energy.
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And so if you can change that energy,
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well, then you can basically change where you
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want to go, who you want to be,
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what you want to do.
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Right?
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people say to me, Hey, John, I don't
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know what I want to do.
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I don't know what I want to be.
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I feel like the world is not, I
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don't want to say it's not being kind,
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but maybe you're feeling lost in this world.
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I think that's a huge problem for a
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lot of people.
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I was talking to somebody the other day.
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And we were talking about the fact of
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discrimination, right?
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And we know there's discrimination of race, religion,
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sexual orientation, creed, color, political party, right?
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But did you know something?
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I don't know if you know this.
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You actually have discrimination for what?
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You have discrimination for even things in your
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own culture.
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Right?
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In your own culture.
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And then when you're expected to act a
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certain way, right?
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Life seems like it gives you unfair cards.
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And this has happened in some different places.
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I have to tell you that, um, you
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know, if you ask for support and you
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don't get it, maybe people are pushing their
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agenda.
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But when you have your agenda, it's like,
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well, they're too busy, too busy to help
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with your agenda, because their agenda is more
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important.
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Okay?
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I think when we know that we know
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our world changes, like, like that overnight, number
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18, guys, your name deserves to be attached
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to things you're proud of.
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What are you proud of right now?
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Are you proud of who you are?
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Are you proud of your skills?
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Are you proud of your intelligence?
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Are you proud of your athletic ability?
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Are you proud of your core values, like
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the fact that maybe you're resilient, or you're
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trustworthy, or that you're respectable?
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Or the fact that maybe you're accountable, right?
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Or maybe the fact that you're loving.
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Or maybe the fact that you're forgiving.
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These are important things, guys.
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Number 19, you don't have to dim your
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passion to be accepted.
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There's nothing wrong with having passion for who
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you are.
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Where the problem comes in is when we
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try to put our ego out there.
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And we try to make people think that
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what we're doing is more important than everybody
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else.
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See, that's when we get bit in the
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butt.
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Okay?
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We need to be humble, have humble pie.
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Number 20, guys, you're not dramatic for caring
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deeply about your life.
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So there was a gentleman a while back,
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I'm going to say several years ago.
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And so what happened is, he'd always have
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these challenges, and he would need help.
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And he's an older gentleman.
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So I always want to help him like
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he'd have TV problems, or have computer issues.
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And I do that stuff, as you know.
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And I was like, I'd put my life
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on a back burner.
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Whether that was filming the show, doing the
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live.
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I'd go down to help him maybe around
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eight or nine o'clock.
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I figured I'd be gone maybe about an
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hour or two.
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Eight to nine, nine to 10, 10 to
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11.
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Sometimes, I wouldn't get back to 12 or
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one o'clock that I'd come back and
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I would do my show.
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And the thing that hit me was there
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wasn't a real solid thank you.
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I thought there would be.
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It was an expectation that I'll always be
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there.
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And finally, I decided that I think I
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was being abused.
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People that want to be the nice guy,
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you know, they say nice guys finish last.
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I understand why that's a truth today.
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A lot of times, it's when the nice
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guy does the same thing over and over
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and doesn't take care of him or herself.
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That's when he finishes last.
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A nice guy doesn't finish last if he
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or she understands the choices need to be
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made in their lives to protect their boundaries,
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their assets, their core beliefs.
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How many times have you been in grammar
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school or high school, and somebody said to
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you, oh, well, you know, you have to
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do that because all the guys are doing
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that.
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So you feel like a schmuck if you
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don't do it, right?
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But you're actually replacing your core values for
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something that's less important to you all because
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you want to impress your friends.
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I got news for you guys.
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They're not really friends.
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Number 21, own your uniqueness, your gifts, and
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your pace.
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When you do this, guys, guess what?
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Peace will be at your feet.
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Have you taken time to think about the
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moment?
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Or are you so drawn in that the
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moment becomes fleeting for you?
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Number 22, guys, your uniqueness is leverage.
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It's not a liability.
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And we have to stop treating it like
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that because when it's not a liability, we're
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like, hey, there's so much we can do
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in our life.
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Number 23, walk like you're headed somewhere, not
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wandering.
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One of my parents told me this a
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long time ago when I was going somewhere.
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I wasn't sure I belonged.
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He said, John, walk like you belong.
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And when you do that and you have
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that confidence, nobody will bother you.
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Maybe it was going out somewhere at night
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or whatever.
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And when you walk like you were scared
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or you walk like you felt like you
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didn't fit in, well, you stuck out like
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a red thumb.
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But when you walk like you own the
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street, people leave you alone.
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Number 24, guys, your life is a message.
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Make it one you're proud to send.
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Not one that you're going to say, oh,
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my gosh, what am I going to do?
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Be proud of who you are.
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Be proud of your life.
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Be proud of what you do.
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That's important, guys.
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It's so important that you do that and
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you understand that.
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Number 25, guys, if you treat your goals
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casually, they'll treat you like a hobby.
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If your life's a hobby, it doesn't matter
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to you whether you get anywhere.
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You're just doing it for fun.
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I've said this before in life.
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Don't just think about surviving.
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You've been doing that most of your life.
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Think about how you can thrive in your
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life.
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Think about how you can make a difference
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in your life.
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Number 26, guys, you are the main decision,
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the maker of your destiny.
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You're the main event, guys, every single day.
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But maybe you're saying to me, John, I
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don't feel I'm worthy.
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Well, stop thinking that way.
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That's the first thing you've got to do.
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Stop thinking that way because when you stop
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thinking that way, you will realize one important
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thing.
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And that is that you are a unique
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person, and there's no one in this world
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like you.
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No one in this world like you.
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That's important, guys, really important.
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And when you realize that, then the world
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becomes your oyster.
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Not yesterday, not next week, not next month,
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not next year, right now.
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But you've got to understand you've got to
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make this world your oyster, and you can
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do it with belief.
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Number 27, guys, stop shrinking your dreams to
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match small opinions, maybe your friends or so
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-called friends, or maybe even your family.
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I know they mean good, but if they're
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here to tell you something to get you
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to stop your dream, that's a problem.
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I know many years ago, my parents didn't
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want me to work for myself.
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Maybe they were concerned because it was hard
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in the beginning.
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But I think that made me appreciate my
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life even more.
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When you can have that kind of realization,
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you start to be like, wow, I got
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an incredible life.
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I love getting out of bed every morning.
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If you don't have that kind of mentality
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about, wow, I love getting out of bed
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every morning, something's got to change.
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Because if it doesn't, you're going to keep
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living your life on autopilot.
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And when you live your life on autopilot,
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the minutes flow, the days go by, the
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months, the years, and you don't enjoy the
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time you're in.
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You're always rushing something.
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Number 28, guys, your identity is not a
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debate topic.
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Some people might say it is.
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Some people may try to get you to
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get up on a – let's say a
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pedestal or on a soapbox and stand for
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a cause.
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But if that cause doesn't resonate to you
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in your heart, don't do it.
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Your identity is one of the most precious
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things, and I'm not talking about identity like
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things like the lock services to protect your
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credit.
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I'm not talking about that.
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I'm talking about your identity of who you
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are in the world and who others see
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you in the world as.
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Do you know who you are and who
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others see you as?
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If you don't, take some time tomorrow or
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later on today and write down what it
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means to you.
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Until you can get serious about what your
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life means, it's just going to be a
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hobby.
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I hate to break that to you, but
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it's the truth.
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Number 29, guys, you are the exact person
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needed for the life you're dreaming about.
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Yeah.
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I know sometimes life gets scary.
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Life gets challenging.
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We've all been down these paths before.
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But it's these paths that inspire us to
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dig deep and say, wait a minute, I
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can do this.
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I've done this and this, and look at
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my results.
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Surely I can do this.
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If you believe you can, you're right.
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As Henry Ford said, if you believe you
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can't, you're also right.
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So I think we've got to put more
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energy into focusing on positive belief and things
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we can do.
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I'm not saying they're going to be easy.
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I'm just saying we can do it and
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we can get better at it each day.
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Number 30, guys, today, act like your life
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is a big deal because, ladies and gentlemen,
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it is.
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Maybe it's not to someone else, but that
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doesn't mean that you should not celebrate every
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day of your life.
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The fact that you're able to get up
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in the morning, the fact that you're able
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to breathe, the fact that you're able to
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make a difference in this world.
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The fact that you are your own person,
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your own personality, your own traits.
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You like things other people like, you might
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dislike things people like, and you're different.
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I think that's what makes the world go
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round.
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This is always an amazing show, and this
27:46
has been inspirations for your life, ladies and
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gentlemen.
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This is The Daily Motivational Show, where people
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who are ready to stop playing games and
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minimizing themselves and start living with true intention
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come for inspiration and direction.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, reminding you that when you
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own your identity, you give yourself permission to
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live a life that truly matters.
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And you know what, guys?
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When you live that kind of life, miracles
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happen every day.
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Have a great one, everyone, and check out
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BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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I'll catch you real soon.