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279 - Human Design Centers: The Head Center · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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flow without sacrificing results.
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Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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according to your human design.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here, continuing
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our Centers Series together.
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There are nine centers in the human design body graph.
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We are going through each and every one of them in a
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dedicated episode in this series.
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For the last six weeks on Wednesdays, we have dropped a different center where we
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have deep dived into that specific center.
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What does it mean?
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How does it work?
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What does it mean to have it defined, undefined, all of that fun stuff.
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We have done that for each of the centers.
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This is our seventh, we still have two more after this episode.
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We've already covered the root center, the sacral center, the solar plexus,
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the spleen, g center, and the ego.
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So, if any of those interest you, I encourage you, just go back every
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single week, you will be able to see one of those centers being featured.
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Today, we're talking about Head Center.
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They're all really interesting, they're all really cool, they're all really
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valuable to know about, and really what I hope you're taking away from
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this series is you're understanding maybe what your relationship to that
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center is, to that specific aspect.
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Like for me, why is the head center one of the most fascinating?
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Well, my conscious sun and my conscious earth are both head center gates.
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64 and 63.
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There are three gates in the head center.
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Two of them are defined in my chart and they are defined in
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my two most prominent positions.
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So no wonder I find the head center so fascinating and so illuminating,
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since that is my ultimate gift in life, is to be illuminating in some way.
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So, the Head Center is the center of inspiration.
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And what's interesting about it, because there's only three gates, that means
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there's only three channels in it, that means there's only three possibilities
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you'd need, three possibilities for that center to be defined.
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All the other centers have more options.
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If the center has nine gates in it, nine channels, then there's nine
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possibilities for that center to be defined by those channels being defined.
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There's only three in the head center, so the probability goes down.
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That's why 70 percent of the world has the head center undefined.
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Myself included in this.
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So if you have the head center that's white on your chart, this will be a
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theme for you that comes and goes.
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You're gonna have a different relationship to it than if you are
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somebody listening to this who has it colored in when you look at your chart.
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If it's colored in, it's gonna be a consistent process for you.
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It's going to be a consistent theme for you.
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So let's talk a little bit more because I think the head center is
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interesting, similarly to the way that the root center is interesting.
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And we started with the root center.
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So the root center and the head center make up the sandwich of the
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body graph, that's the bread and everything else is the meat in there.
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The root center is at the bottom, pressure comes in from the
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bottom, and then the head center pressure comes in from the top.
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These are our two pressure centers in the body graph.
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Now some of what I share in these episodes is textbook stuff, textbook
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definitions, things that if you read a book, you would hear it this way.
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And some of it's just my own personal contemplations on this.
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And trust me, the Head Center has been constant contemplation for
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me because it is such an important center in my particular chart.
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So, do you have anything defined in there is one question you
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want to be asking yourself.
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But one of the things that I find interesting about the head center, that
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I find particularly noteworthy about it, is that it is this pressure center.
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And pressure never goes away, even if you have it defined.
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The difference here, it's not a theme that you don't have.
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We're always experiencing pressure.
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But if you have it defined, you have a consistent way of dealing
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with that mental pressure.
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And if you have it undefined, like me, you have an inconsistent way of
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dealing with that mental pressure.
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So for me, my life's work has very much revolved around learning to
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develop my own process, and letting that process change and be different,
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and be open to all the different ways I can process mental pressure.
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And to not be thrown by it.
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I think the Head Center is one of the ones that illustrates conditioning, and
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how conditioning pulls us off course.
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I think it's the easiest one for so many people to see.
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One, because so many people have it undefined.
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So they get it.
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They're like, yes, that's me.
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But think about this world, this is the center of inspiration.
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And it's the center of mental pressure.
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Now, if you think about that, think about this world.
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We're all dealing with the pressure.
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Now if you have the center open, if you have it undefined, it's
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white in your chart, how do you deal with mental pressure?
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Maybe you obsess over things.
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And then how do you deal with obsessing over things?
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Usually we try to consume stuff.
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Why?
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Because we're trying to answer questions.
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What questions?
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Any and all questions.
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Can be the news that we're taking in, could be the thing that we saw on social
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media, how we get obsessed with stuff.
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And we want to figure it all out, and we want to tell people,
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and we want to consume more, and we want to try to fix it.
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How much of that consumes your time?
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And not that this does not happen for people with defined heads.
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However, in my experience, they are just less interested in the outside noise
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because they're less susceptible to it.
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They have their own mental process that's going on and there's a
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whole different game with that.
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There's a different game of learning to manage your own mental process.
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Because it is happening all the time and you have a consistent way of
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mentally putting pressure on yourself rather than the outside world.
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So you see how these centers sort of give us a little peek, a really
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in depth detailed, interesting, and useful peek into our inner process.
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How we work, what makes us tick, what gets us stuck, why we have patterns, why
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we deal with them the way that we do, why we seem to end up in the same place
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over and over and over again, even when we seemingly tried to do something else.
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If you have an open head, most likely something that's keeping you
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stuck has something to do with what you're consuming, how much you're
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consuming, and why you're consuming it.
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What are you listening to?
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What are you watching on television?
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What are you reading?
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Who are you reading?
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Who are you listening to?
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And then what are you trying to action as a result of all of that consumption?
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It's the way we live now.
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We live in an information age.
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We live in an age where we are valued for what we know.
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But we spend far too much time if you really look at where your time goes.
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You know, that screen time data point on your phone that tells you how much
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time you spent looking at your phone.
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Consuming.
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What were you doing?
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Consuming.
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Consuming.
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Even if it was a podcast like this one, where is the need to act coming from?
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And by need to act, that could be what question are you trying to solve?
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The not self of the head says, I'm trying to answer questions
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that don't really matter to me.
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I got to answer that question.
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I got to figure that out.
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Think about all the things in the world we're told to care about.
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By whom?
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And I'm not saying that we shouldn't care about the things
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that are happening other places.
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We have to be conscious.
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I'm not at all advocating for that, what do they call it?
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Like spiritual bypassing.
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It's messing with my vibe so I'm not going to pay attention to the
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horrors and atrocities in the world.
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How much time are you spending obsessing over things that you
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cannot change and you cannot control?
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And who's telling you?
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If you have an open head, you are highly susceptible to other people's
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ideas, to other people's thoughts.
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You can adopt them as your own until you become conscious of it and you
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start to become discerning, which is what human design allows you to do.
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We can become discerning about the action that we take.
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And we don't do that based on reading in a book that it's
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not good to consume too much.
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Cause that's not necessarily true.
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We get to look at our process.
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We get to look at what is consistent for us.
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We get to look at what our tendencies are and then we get to observe them.
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And then when we can become a neutral observer and we act from our strategy and
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authority, from what is consistent for us.
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From what is true for us, from what is our power.
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You hear people talk about power, operating from your power.
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Operating from your power means operating from your consistency.
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And human design gives us this beautiful, simple framework to understand what
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our consistency is, what our power is.
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And if we can keep coming back to that, like I said, it's
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simple, but it's not easy.
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It's not so easy to do things so differently than
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you've done your entire life.
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It's not so easy to just change and be different.
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And I think that that's unfortunately how a lot of us feel we should be.
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We should just have results immediately.
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We should just know immediately, and if we don't we're a failure.
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And it's just not true.
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I've been doing this for years, and I'm still learning.
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And I'm still deconditioning, and I'm still working at it, and I'm still
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becoming more magnetic, authentic, more open, expanded, and more in
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love with life every single day.
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Why?
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Because I feel grounded in myself, in my purpose.
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My conditioning no longer pushes me into action.
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And I'm not gonna say it never does.
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Sure it does.
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I'm just aware of it very quickly and I can see it.
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I look at it with curiosity, not criticism.
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I don't beat myself up for getting it wrong.
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I'm like, there's a nice example of what not to do.
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I remember that now.
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I understand it now.
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I have muscle memory of what not to do and I know how to get back to what is
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true for me, to what is aligned for me.
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It's all just data.
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And data helps us make better decisions.
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And data helps us get closer to what we want.
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You can't have data if you're beating yourself up, because
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you're taking it personally.
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And you ruin the whole game that way.
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That's more conditioning.
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That gets you acting from the shame, and from the guilt, and from all of the stuff.
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But when you get past that, and you can just observe what's happening,
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what you're doing and why, and you go, see what I did there.
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Silly Nicole.
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I'm not gonna do that again.
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I'm gonna be more aware next time.
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You know why?
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Because I made the mistake.
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I experimented.
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I got pulled off my path for just a moment.
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I'm not far from my real path when I do that.
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It's when we are unconscious.
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It's when we are on autopilot.
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Moving away from our path, doing things over and over and over again that are
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not aligned for us, that are in alignment with our conditioning and not with our
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authenticity, our power, and our truth.
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It's when we do that and we're unconscious to it that we end up way far off our path.
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And then we're looking around being like, whoa, how did I get all the way out here?
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I don't even know where I am, let alone know how to get back.
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And that can feel really disheartening.
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And that can feel really depleting of our energy because we just
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think it's gonna be so hard.
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And we feel like we've already tried so hard and we failed.
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No, the more you work at this and the more you do this, the faster you start to see.
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Like, I can tell sometimes when I step slightly outside of the line of alignment.
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And I go, oh, okay.
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And then I move right back.
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That's power.
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That's when you're magnetic because people sense from you
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that there is this core strength.
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In the Gene Keys, we call it core stability, that there
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is an inner stability to you.
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And I call it becoming unshakeable.
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It roots you to the ground.
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And if we are talking about business and we are talking about how to
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magnetize our ideal client, how to call in a higher level client.
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If I had a nickel for every time somebody told me I just need to connect with
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a higher level client or I'm trying to message for a higher level client.
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A higher level client will never hire an ungrounded coach or person.
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Or if they do, it will be a mistake that they make and they regret.
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I've done it.
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I've hired somebody I had total red flags for and I did not trust myself.
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I hired her and I was like, this was a mistake.
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Again, didn't beat myself up, but I've learned to trust my
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intuition with these things.
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A higher level client that you are looking to attract is looking
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for somebody to hold them down.
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Not that they need to hold down.
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Not somebody that's going to bring chaos, or anxious energy into their field.
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They want grounding because they want to expand more.
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And if they've gotten further, they understand what that is.
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So it's the work you do on you first, and that's what most people miss.
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So understanding things like these centers.
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The head center, understanding that most of the world is open.
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So most people, you're in good company.
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If what you do to deal with the pressure is try to take in more information
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so that it makes you feel better.
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Cause it feels like a warm blanket.
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I'll just listen to another podcast and then I'll feel better.
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I'll get an idea over there about how to fix this thing that maybe
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isn't my problem to begin with.
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And if you're defined, understanding what your mental process is, the specifics
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of it, and the chart will tell you that chatter that you have in your head, that
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constant busyness in your head, how it comes, it becomes less personal then.
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You can start to see it.
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How maybe you start to doubt yourself, or maybe you start to really rehash
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the past, or you spin in circles in your mind and your thoughts and
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you can't actually move to action.
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The chart starts to tell you how that works and when you start to
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see it, it's like, oh, okay, now I get how I can work with this.
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Human design gives you more than just a peek, it gives you a deep
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understanding of how your energy works.
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What your tendencies and levers are going to be about how
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you deal with certain things.
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And then you can start to deal with those patterns, one at a time.
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And then you get more and more aligned.
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You start taking action from your power and not from your conditioning.
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And that's when life changes.
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And that's when life gets easy.
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And that's when business starts to flow.
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And you can always find your way back home to you.
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And it just feels really darn good being yourself.
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I'm not going to lie.
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It's freeing.
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I spent a lot of my life holding back, feeling like I was too much.
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Feeling like I wouldn't be accepted if everybody could see all of me.
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And noticing that those were specific elements of my chart, and knowing how I
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could work with each one of them to start stepping into what is correct for me.
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For me, not for somebody else.
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