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Dear Banya: She Leaves Her Mark Everywhere We Go · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: And two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 3: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
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  Speaker 4: Oh well, stunning, thanks stunning for the eyes and ears
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  Speaker 4: for us.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 5: You know we didn't talk about what that really gave
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  Speaker 5: me the giggles last week. What Robbie being up on
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  Speaker 5: the h my friend prank?
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  Speaker 2: It was not did it make me laugh.
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  Speaker 5: Like making that like when we called that, did the
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  Speaker 5: calls like watching them in live action. I watched his
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  Speaker 5: videos that he posted like multiple times.
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  Speaker 4: We were dying laughing that you showed me them, so
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  Speaker 4: I had already seen them, and then I heard Haley rewatching,
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  Speaker 4: so I started watching and we were both laughing. Haley
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  Speaker 4: like this is so funny.
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  Speaker 1: Upper register what oh my, it's so funny.
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  Speaker 2: I've watched all like, not just his, like the trend.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like literally once a day I find one on
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  Speaker 5: Instagram to watch because I just find them so freaky.
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  Speaker 4: I actually didn't see that trend until I saw Robbie's.
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  Speaker 5: I tried to do it on you twice that stuff
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  Speaker 5: you didn't answer, so it made it really tough.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, it's not out of character for you
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  Speaker 1: to call someone in say good night. I know.
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  Speaker 5: And that's what Robbie said. He's like, it's not like
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  Speaker 5: it's not gonna hit the same because you would do
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  Speaker 5: that normally, so it would be like.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you know, like okay, good night.
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  Speaker 5: So I try to do it to Ali because like,
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  Speaker 5: I feel like Ali, it's a perfect candidate. So I
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  Speaker 5: call her to say good night. She doesn't answer. She
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  Speaker 5: texts me, Hey, did you mean to call me? And
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  Speaker 5: I said, yes, I call her back clearly she has
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  Speaker 5: her phone, doesn't answer again.
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  Speaker 4: Oh are you freaking kidding me?
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  Speaker 5: So then I just texted it, thinking it'd be funny, said,
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  Speaker 5: I was just calling say good night. And she's like,
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  Speaker 5: I've seen that trend.
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  Speaker 4: Oh that's too bad.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. She's like, try me earlier. I'm pregnant.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like it's eight forty five. Yeah, she's like that,
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  Speaker 4: she said, after five she is like zoned out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, dang yeah, dang.
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  Speaker 5: Oh.
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  Speaker 2: I also had a realization what.
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  Speaker 5: I I'm constantly asking you, like stuff about your engagement.
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  Speaker 5: I commented, you were like Haley was wearing white in
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  Speaker 5: a photo, and I was like engagement era and I
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  Speaker 5: realized I'm becoming the person that I hated when I
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  Speaker 5: was waiting to get engaged, and so I'm publicly apologizing
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  Speaker 5: and I will not do it anymore for a.
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  Speaker 4: Future Who pointed that out to you, Robbie, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 4: knew it. I was like, there's no way you realize
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  Speaker 4: this on your own. Yes, No, well, Robbie. Robbie and
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  Speaker 4: I areson Potico and I was like, you know what
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  Speaker 4: she just I had to tell Haley, don't stress out.
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  Speaker 4: She's just she she doesn't have a fixation right now,
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  Speaker 4: like she already she had her wedding, like when she
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  Speaker 4: gets pregnant, like that'll be her fixation.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm doing meet and greets with ob It's like
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  Speaker 2: that is my new fixation. By the way.
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  Speaker 4: But and I told Tyl, I was like, we don't
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  Speaker 4: feel pressure, so don't I know?
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  Speaker 5: But that's the again, I felt the same way like
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  Speaker 5: before we got engaged, there.
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  Speaker 4: Was no pressure. I'm getting engaged.
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  Speaker 5: No, no, no, like I like the pressure had already been
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  Speaker 5: like there was no Robbie's not rattled by outside.
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  Speaker 4: Right, right, and I'm not either, right. But I had
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  Speaker 4: to explain. I was like, just don't, don't think too
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  Speaker 4: much about Tanya's comments. She's like like, are you expecting,
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  Speaker 4: like what are you saying on the podcast? I'm also like,
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  Speaker 4: well you should listen. Yeah, why don't you listen to
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  Speaker 4: the podcast?
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  Speaker 5: But no, but yeah, he pointed out, he was like,
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  Speaker 5: remember like people would always be call like anytime you
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  Speaker 5: post anything, there would be like ring ring ring, ring ring, And.
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  Speaker 2: I was like yes, and he's like you're that person
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  Speaker 2: now and.
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  Speaker 4: I like no, it's oh yeah, that's tough, but no.
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  Speaker 4: And the thing is is.
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  Speaker 5: Like there's anything I'll do is I'll admit when I'm wrong, Yes,
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  Speaker 5: and I was wrong, and you will not be hearing
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  Speaker 5: any more of that until we're actually engaged.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, publicly, thank you. Yeah, I think that that is.
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  Speaker 4: I think the thing is that we are so far
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  Speaker 4: from it, like we are like, oh, like trying on
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  Speaker 4: rings and seeing but we did the ADU like there's
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  Speaker 4: been a lot going on, so we're so not even
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  Speaker 4: in that era, which is so funny because now when
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  Speaker 4: I'm posting people like I keep looking for a ring,
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  Speaker 4: I keep seeing the y'all are engaged or I think
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  Speaker 4: this is an engagement post and I'm like, you can
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  Speaker 4: just rest easy, you do easy.
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  Speaker 1: Feel pressure, and that's good. The two of you don't
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  Speaker 1: feel any pressure, that's great. Do you in your mind
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  Speaker 1: have any do you put any kind of time, Like
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  Speaker 1: when I was getting ready to propose, it's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I like to do it by this time because I'd
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  Speaker 1: like to be married before, you know, she starts these
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  Speaker 1: college classes, or I'd like to be married before I
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  Speaker 1: turned thirty or or whatever it is. Are there any
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  Speaker 1: of that in your mind calendar wise?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, no, because and I think if we were like,
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  Speaker 4: oh my gosh, we we know we want to have
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  Speaker 4: a baby, like I'm I'm a aware of the biological
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  Speaker 4: clock on that. Unfortunately, that's that's just what it is.
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  Speaker 4: But we're also we're both every time we're around kids,
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  Speaker 4: were like, what do we want?
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  Speaker 2: So we have my brother's baby because that baby is chill. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: she's around all weekend. I was like, there's a baby around, Mike. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I love.
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  Speaker 4: That's the age. I love. It's when they start going
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  Speaker 4: overwhelming two to six yeah, eight, yeah, But yeah, no,
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  Speaker 4: I don't feel that at all. And the thing is
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  Speaker 4: is like we could get engaged and then plan a
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  Speaker 4: wedding for years or months, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the world is your oyster. It is, but it's
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  Speaker 2: not coming from me anymore.
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  Speaker 5: Dang, I can assure you that publicly, well, privately, there's
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  Speaker 5: a whole other story.
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  Speaker 2: There's a difference.
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  Speaker 4: No, No, she here's the thing. I can respect what
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  Speaker 4: she's saying. She's saying. I'm not going to put the
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  Speaker 4: public pressure on you. However, my private texts and conversations
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  Speaker 4: may reflected differently. Correct and as a best friend, and
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  Speaker 4: when you have a best friend like Tanya, you go,
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  Speaker 4: you know it comes from a special place.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, love, But she's.
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  Speaker 1: Already told you that she's not gonna let you know beforehand,
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  Speaker 1: which is.
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  Speaker 4: Not giving up.
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  Speaker 2: That's why my mind is racing. That's why when she
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  Speaker 2: mentions a trip, I'm like, but.
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  Speaker 1: That might be time to let them, let her have
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  Speaker 1: some freedom, just kind of not bring it up for
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  Speaker 1: a while.
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  Speaker 4: But if I don't do it on a trip, though,
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  Speaker 4: what if I do it in my newly renovated backyard.
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  Speaker 2: We put a lot of money into it.
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  Speaker 4: Right here? He goes, should we extend our trip? And
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  Speaker 4: I was like, maybe we should just get our new place,
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  Speaker 4: will be done and enjoy the fruits of our money
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  Speaker 4: and labor.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, let's pop up vacations out there.
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  Speaker 4: I really during the renovation my front yard got like
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  Speaker 4: all my grasses dead and all the stuff that to
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  Speaker 4: redo it, and I kind of want to like learn
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  Speaker 4: how to garden what you actual garden.
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  Speaker 5: Like like lettuces and and liked, by the way, that's
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  Speaker 5: not a like a known term what gardening. Robbie sat
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  Speaker 5: in the Facebook group. He took a screenshot because somebody
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  Speaker 5: asked him if he was gardening, and he's like, what
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  Speaker 5: does this mean?
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  Speaker 2: Not like a known term?
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  Speaker 4: I mean maybe just depends on your algorithm. You know
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  Speaker 4: what you're doing when you're gardening. But no, I'm talking
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  Speaker 4: them like planting.
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  Speaker 2: Flowers, flowers, not like food.
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  Speaker 4: No Cool wants to like little.
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  Speaker 2: Gems like some art chokes.
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  Speaker 4: Hailey really wants to have that one day. But I'm
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  Speaker 4: mostly talking about like visual garden digging and soiling that I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Not so interested in.
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  Speaker 5: But if you want to get some little gems and
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  Speaker 5: art chokes in there, I'd be happy to help. Corn
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  Speaker 5: My gosh, summer twenty six is only homegrown grilled WM.
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  Speaker 4: Well we're dumping ahead, yeah, okay, we have some dear bonia,
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  Speaker 4: so you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, I will say not as many as usual those
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  Speaker 1: kind of a light week people.
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  Speaker 2: That's okay, we can do a quickie.
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  Speaker 1: Uh Instagram at scrubbing inpod. The email is scrubbing it
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  Speaker 1: at iHeartMedia dot com. Keep the flow flowing. From anonymous. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: everyone loved the podcast and the whole gang. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to reach out and get some advice. I've been with
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  Speaker 1: my girlfriend for seven years, and she recently told me
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  Speaker 1: she wants a break. She's in her mid twenties and
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  Speaker 1: I'm in my early thirties. She has been wanting to
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  Speaker 1: be more independent, try things on her own, and find herself.
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  Speaker 1: She wants to go out on her own to events
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  Speaker 1: and with friends. She says she feels guilty because I've
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  Speaker 1: asked about going. It just feels crazy to think we
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  Speaker 1: were talking about getting engaged and now she's saying she
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  Speaker 1: needs a break. I don't know how long yet. We
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  Speaker 1: will talk about it, but it hurts already, like a
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  Speaker 1: pre breakup. I think I'm trying to prepare myself, But
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  Speaker 1: what would you do during this grief?
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  Speaker 4: First of all, that's very hard, and I'm sorry that's
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  Speaker 4: I can't. I cannot. I can't even imagine celebrating seven
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  Speaker 4: years and then tell me she wants a break like
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  Speaker 4: I would be devastated. So I'm really sorry, y'all you're
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  Speaker 4: going through this. She's also in her mid twenties and
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  Speaker 4: is probably going through a because mid twenties, so that
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  Speaker 4: means y'all get together when she was pretty young.
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  Speaker 1: It seems eighteen if you're in math. If it's twenty five,
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  Speaker 1: that is fast.
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  Speaker 4: And so I'm sure she's feeling a lot of realizing
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  Speaker 4: she hasn't had her independent time as an adult on
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  Speaker 4: her own. And I think it's very i personally, and
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  Speaker 4: this is to each his own, but I think having
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  Speaker 4: that time to yourself is so crucial. And I also
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  Speaker 4: think that having a break doesn't necessarily mean a breakup.
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  Speaker 4: But I do think how you handle what I do
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  Speaker 4: think how you handle.
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  Speaker 1: Hot handle eyes and began taking all close off no,
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  Speaker 1: because I mean, I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Hot and sweaty and I'm pissed at this this email.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, why to me?
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  Speaker 5: It's so selfish? A break is basically this is what
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  Speaker 5: a break is. It's I want to have fun and
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  Speaker 5: do my own thing, but I know I have a
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  Speaker 5: really great thing going. I don't want you to go
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  Speaker 5: too far. It's selfish, and it's a cop out a break.
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  Speaker 5: I can see after a year, maybe a year and
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  Speaker 5: a half, after seven years with someone to say I
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  Speaker 5: want to break No.
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  Speaker 4: I think when you're when you start dating at eighteen
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  Speaker 4: and then your mid twenties and you realize you haven't
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  Speaker 4: had your independence, especially.
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  Speaker 2: All break up.
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  Speaker 5: Also breakup your independence and do your own thing, and
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  Speaker 5: then if you happen to come back together, then you can.
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  Speaker 2: But it's so celebration.
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  Speaker 4: Versus a divorce. It's like, you want to selfish. I
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  Speaker 4: don't think it's. I then, in my opinion, it's okay
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  Speaker 4: for her to be selfish. I think it's okay to
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  Speaker 4: be selfish when you're trying to make sure that this
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  Speaker 4: is the person you want to be with.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's okay, and you're selfish for yourself, not in
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  Speaker 5: a relationship.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's a compromise.
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  Speaker 4: I think, especially when it's two women, there's this assumption
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  Speaker 4: that everyone goes to everything and there's not the separation
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  Speaker 4: of like, hey, I'm going to go be with my friends.
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  Speaker 4: Because when you when it's a girl thing, we're both women,
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  Speaker 4: so we both really feel invited, and we're both normally
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  Speaker 4: invited and so there has to be a separation of like,
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  Speaker 4: these are my friends and I need time alone with
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  Speaker 4: them without you, and that is.
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  Speaker 2: You can do that without going on a break.
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  Speaker 4: I'm saying, though it sounds like she's never had that,
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  Speaker 4: and I think what she's looking for because they're talking
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  Speaker 4: about getting engaged, she probably had a moment of being like,
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  Speaker 4: I don't even know who I am without this person,
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  Speaker 4: Like I need to be able to make sure that
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  Speaker 4: this is what I want before I commit to an engagement.
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  Speaker 4: I'd rather her be selfish, do what she needs to do,
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  Speaker 4: have a break knowing that her person's amazing, but also
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  Speaker 4: going I need to explore this for me, and then
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  Speaker 4: seeing where she feels how things feel. But I think
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  Speaker 4: anonymous for you, even though it's hurtful, I think you
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  Speaker 4: give her the space to do it, and you also
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  Speaker 4: do your own thing and and let her be. And
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  Speaker 4: I think what's going to happen is she is going
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  Speaker 4: to realize how wonderful you are. I remember, was it
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  Speaker 4: you were Easton talking about how there was a moment
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  Speaker 4: where it was like, what's the alternative of not being Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: And it's like she might have that moment of going
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  Speaker 4: this alternative, This alternate version of my life without you
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  Speaker 4: is something I never want to experience. Or it might
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  Speaker 4: be that, hey, I I'm older now, I've I'm figuring
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  Speaker 4: out who I am, and I don't know if I
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  Speaker 4: see us you being my person forever.
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  Speaker 2: But you would rather that.
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  Speaker 4: Than go through with getting engaged and then married and
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  Speaker 4: then it happening.
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  Speaker 1: And also the engagement might have fired up a lot
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  Speaker 1: of these thoughts that the engagement talk might have also
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  Speaker 1: scared her a little bit, like, oh gosh, I've been
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  Speaker 1: with this person my whole life, an independent Sorry, Tony
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  Speaker 1: Beck is right.
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  Speaker 2: Person all it's gonna be true.
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  Speaker 5: Have you heard the new Jonah Joe Jonas album I'm
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  Speaker 5: Getting to be.
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  Speaker 2: So we both can be right? Thank you very much.
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  Speaker 5: But to me, this is selfish. I don't like it.
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  Speaker 5: I don't like what she's saying. I don't like it.
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  Speaker 5: I don't like stringing someone along while you go out
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  Speaker 5: and have your fun and have that person just waiting there.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't like it.
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  Speaker 4: I think if she didn't, I don't think she's stringing
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  Speaker 4: her along. I think she's giving her too.
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  Speaker 2: I think she literally would.
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  Speaker 4: I think she's communicating what she needs right now before
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  Speaker 4: they move to the next up of their relationship.
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  Speaker 1: And the happy ending still exists. Yeah, but you might
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  Speaker 1: not want to put all your eggs in that basket
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  Speaker 1: because you need to focus on yourself, have fun, on
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  Speaker 1: your own yes, and explore who you are without them.
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  Speaker 4: I think this could be a beautiful moment where you
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  Speaker 4: both discover an independence that probably has gotten lost in
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  Speaker 4: the last seven years. And there's going to be hard moments.
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  Speaker 4: But I also and I don't think that I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think break taking a break means that she
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  Speaker 4: needs to go and sleep around and meet other people.
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  Speaker 4: I think there needs to be clear communication on what
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  Speaker 4: the worst.
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  Speaker 2: Anonymous should go out and hang around.
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  Speaker 4: And well, no, I'm saying I don't think that's what
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  Speaker 4: she her girls.
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  Speaker 2: That's not what the girlfriend wants. She wants to have
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  Speaker 2: her cake and eat it too.
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  Speaker 4: I'm saying, I don't think she's saying she wants to
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  Speaker 4: go do that exactly.
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  Speaker 2: She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
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  Speaker 5: Does it have her independence but know that Anonymous is
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  Speaker 5: going to be right there when she's ready to be
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  Speaker 5: done with her independence.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I'm saying they should have clear boundaries on what
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  Speaker 4: independence looks like.
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  Speaker 5: Or whatever anonymous should if it's going to be a break,
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  Speaker 5: we are, we are breaking.
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  Speaker 4: Well that's what they need to have a conversation about.
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  Speaker 4: Either you have a conversation and say I don't. I
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  Speaker 4: need to know what the boundaries are for a break
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  Speaker 4: versus a breakup, because those can get very fuzzy and
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  Speaker 4: in the weeds, as we've seen on our beloved show
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  Speaker 4: friends Ross and Rachel. And you don't want to hurt
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  Speaker 4: get hurt or hurt her by not communicating that. So
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  Speaker 4: I think you need to give her what she needs,
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  Speaker 4: but also ask for clear communication on what that looks like.
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  Speaker 1: Sure, good advice.
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  Speaker 4: Wow, thank you so much. We do have a wait,
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  Speaker 4: what's the update on the boudoir photos.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we're gonna find out.
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  Speaker 4: Oh we haven't. Someone wants an update on the boudoir photos.
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  Speaker 4: Scare but we'll get to that one. We're back, all right.
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  Speaker 3: Mark Kaylee says I needed an update reaction from Tanya
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  Speaker 3: telling Robbie the story of their son trying to connect
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  Speaker 3: to the TV while they were looking at the Boudoir photos,
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  Speaker 3: listening to old episodes and just roaring at this one
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  Speaker 3: love a day one scrubber.
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  Speaker 5: I obviously when I gave him the photo album, I
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  Speaker 5: can't remember. It probably wasn't our wedding dance. That was
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  Speaker 5: probably one of the days after. But I told him
• 16:12
  Speaker 5: the story of how we were all up in the
• 16:13
  Speaker 5: room and had clouded it to the TV and I
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: told him how it said like connecting to his iPhone
• 16:19
  Speaker 5: or whatever, and he remembers it. So he remembers it vividly,
• 16:23
  Speaker 5: and he was like cracking up. Nothing actually happened. There
• 16:27
  Speaker 5: was no photos that were transferred over anywhere, so we
• 16:31
  Speaker 5: are in the clear.
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: The coast is fine. But yeah, he got a good
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: giggle out of it.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Nice. Yeah, And this is a good time to remind
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: everyone that iHeartRadio is still banned from using Dropbox because
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: of time. You're ad in a similar situation.
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: Listen, she leaves her mark everywhere she goes.
• 16:46
  Speaker 5: That's right, a legacy, She's a legend, indeed, Yes, no
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: qualms about it.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: No, no, Sierra says, I'm about to in twenty seven,
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: I would love nothing more than to find my person.
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I've resonated with how Tanya felt over the years of
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: waiting to find her person and doing what what ever
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: it takes. To get there. So I'm taking a page
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: out of her book and putting myself out there. If
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: you guys know anyone in the New York area who
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: would be interested, let me know. I made a post
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: in the Facebook group two years ago seeing if anyone
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: had someone they think would be a good fit. Since
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: my mom used to be scared of me on dating apps,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: she has sent warm to the idea, but she still
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: thinks I'm likely to find my person through a friend referral.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: I figured you guys were great friends to ask love
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: you all lost a hopeless romantic scrub sister.
• 17:27
  Speaker 5: So I guess what we need to do is if
• 17:29
  Speaker 5: anybody here that lives in the Greater New York area
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: and they have a single friend that is twenty seven
• 17:37
  Speaker 5: plus around twenty seven. She didn't say younger or older,
• 17:41
  Speaker 5: so around the age of twenty seven. Email I'm going
• 17:44
  Speaker 5: thirty three, twenty six to thirty three.
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: I think thirty three is where she'd like to end.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Up with someone. Thirty three.
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, Well we're not ages here, so we're going to
• 17:54
  Speaker 5: give a swinging.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: I've always said the guys don't really mature until they're
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: thirty three, six years older. It's very fast math sonya
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: thank you.
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: I okay. So I was with one of my single
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: friends over the weekend and she was on her date.
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: She was on I think it was Hinge and I
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: haven't seen the app or I haven't looked at a
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: dating app in so long, and it's so interesting, like
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: the prompts now, like all the pictures and like the
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: question prompts and like you kind have a voice memo
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: on there. It was these people that are on dating
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: apps right now are in the trenches. She was like this,
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: this is what it's like. And I thought, I always
• 18:37
  Speaker 4: hear people talking about it, and I'm like they're being
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: a little dramatic, like it can't be that bad. It
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: sounded really bad from what the brief thing I heard.
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: So I am really rooting for you, Sierra that you
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: meet through a friend referral.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: But I know I love a dating app.
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but that was nearly five years ago.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: Whatever.
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: I think it's gotten bad, yeah, worse.
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: I mean, here's the thing where her mom scared her
• 19:03
  Speaker 5: because she said she could be like chopped up or something.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Oh why don't she say.
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: Chopped us scared of her big un dating prefer for
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: her to meet someone through a.
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: Frien to get chopped up, saying I'm going to get
• 19:14
  Speaker 5: chopped up, and she'd prefer I met, say right here
• 19:17
  Speaker 5: and next.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Well, that's in the posto years.
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: So I understand the scare because there's like weirdos out there.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: But if you just have fine my tell everybody where
• 19:24
  Speaker 5: you're going, have your friends do life three sixty.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: I do think if you're the thing, if you're on
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: the dating apps, I do think if you're going on
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: dates regularly or going out, I do think life through
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: sixty might be the way to go.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Thank you. And again, by the.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: Way, I was interviewing potential interns for the morning show
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: at Kiss and so it's a bunch of you know,
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: they're all nineteen twenty years old, and one of the
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: questions I asked them was about dating apps. Are you
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: on them? It wasn't contingent. I was just trying to
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: get an idea of their life, and most of them said,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: I am on the dating apps more as a spectator
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: than an active participant, which that is interesting. It's almost
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: like when you're twenty, it's almost automatic that you would
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: have it and that you would have a profile on
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: it right insta Insta, but you don't really spend a
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: lot of time on it. You just kind of look
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: through it every once in a while. It doesn't seem
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: like people are really pursuing that, but it's kind of
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: standard to have it. Yeah, I thought that was interesting.
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: They were saying, I've read somewhere that like it's just
• 20:17
  Speaker 4: so not normal, Like people will be sitting in a
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: doctor's office waiting to go at the waiting room and
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: just swiping on people, And how weird that is that
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: that's how you're to connect. I mean, yeah, that's it's
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: so easy and at your fingertips. But Sierra will.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Be yeah, good luck. All right, this is anonymous. I'm
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: a little embarrassed to be writing this, but I know
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: what happens to girls all over. I need advice. I
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: am almost twenty nine years old. I am sitting on
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: my couch on Memorial Day weekend, sobbing over a man
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: who could not care less about me. This is a
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: wake up call and I need to move on, which
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: is easier said than done. What tips, tricks, ideas do
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: you have to help me move on? I want to
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: find myself again. Please don't suggest a girl night. I
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: have friends, but not a ton, and they're busy often,
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: so I really want ideas that I can do for
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: myself this summer. I'm a teacher and I only work
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: it up part time job doing the summer, so I
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: have time. Please help a broken hearted girl out. I
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: don't feel I don't want to feel like this anymore.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: I have a quick suggestion.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Is it corn? Because I would go with you. It's
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: roasted corn.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: No, Mark, I'm.
• 21:21
  Speaker 5: Taking this seriously for anonymous. All right, there's this like
• 21:26
  Speaker 5: TikTok trend right now that's like the ten ten ten whatever.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I have been doing it, but I've been doing five
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: five five.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: What is it? Explain it to those who don't know.
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: So for those that don't know, I'm up on the trends.
• 21:38
  Speaker 5: It's five things you're grateful for, five things that you
• 21:41
  Speaker 5: want to manifest in five affirmations. And I do it
• 21:44
  Speaker 5: every single day. And this like I got like a little.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: Wide for the five minute Journal.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: No, it's a journal.
• 21:49
  Speaker 5: It's like a journal, like a why it's like a
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: it's a it's like a notebook you'd buy for school
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: for kids.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: I know that five minute journal. Those are the prompts.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: No, so this is not the five Minute Journal.
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: It sounds like they just took it from the well there's.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: A ten ten ten.
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: I just chopped it down because ten felt like a
• 22:04
  Speaker 5: lot for me. So I'm doing five, five, five, and
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: I've been doing it every single day. I think I
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: started May twenty first, and I had not let a
• 22:12
  Speaker 5: day go by without doing it. And I'm loving it.
• 22:15
  Speaker 5: I'm already feeling like a shift in my mood, a
• 22:18
  Speaker 5: shift in my spirit.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 22:20
  Speaker 5: I think it's something easy that you could do on
• 22:22
  Speaker 5: a daily basis to kind of get you into a
• 22:24
  Speaker 5: different headspace.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: Five things you want to manifest every day. That seems
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: like a lot you can.
• 22:28
  Speaker 5: Repeat, you know, to do five different things you want
• 22:31
  Speaker 5: to manifest, but different iterations of it. And like things
• 22:33
  Speaker 5: pop up daily that like when I do things I'm
• 22:35
  Speaker 5: grateful for, Like the day after we got our coffee machine,
• 22:37
  Speaker 5: I was so grateful for my new coffee machine, you
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: know what I mean? Yeah, Like things pop up daily.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: I when to get rid of it. You're gonna be
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: grateful to have the space.
• 22:43
  Speaker 5: Pace back exactly exactly, but the grateful for you would
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: be surprised how many things you're grateful for when you're
• 22:48
  Speaker 5: doing five a day.
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: I I feel like I was thinking about Becca Moore
• 22:53
  Speaker 4: because she has been very public in posting about her breakup,
• 22:58
  Speaker 4: and she really started leaning in because she was so sad,
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: and she started leaning into making herself better. So she
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: started going to like workout classes, and she she was
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: never someone who liked workout classes, so she was very
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: intimidated by it at first. And so she started doing that,
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: and then she started taking acting classes, and because she
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: had always thought about wanting to do that and just
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: never felt inspired or like motivated enough to do it.
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: And it's something that she's just like love that's brought
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: so many new people into her life. So I was
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: gonna say, maybe find something that you've always wanted to
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: do and lean into it. I was also I see
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: people like fostering dogs and cats, like just for the day,
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: taking them on walks and giving them a day out
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: of the what the foster?
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah yeah.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: And I also.
• 23:45
  Speaker 5: Think decluttering and cleaning your house, like decluttering every single
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: corner of your house, making space, like cleaning out space
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: in your closet, leaving space for your future.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: Has been leaving space for your.
• 23:56
  Speaker 5: Like leaving a drawer for them, like get like allowing
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: space in your place new love to come in that
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: could be very therapeutic.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: That really was therapeutic for me.
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: But your email immediately made me think of Kate Winslet
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: in The Holiday when she loves the guy from work
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: and he just basically uses her to help him write
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: or do work stuff, and then she's having to get
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: over this person that never had love for her. And
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: then she goes and she does the house swap and
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: does something totally out of her comfort zone and ends
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: up making like these lifelong friendships and whatever. But it
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: made me feel like how she had to do something
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: really uncomfortable to find like the best part of her life,
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: you know, the best season of her life. So just
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: to remind her that it might feel uncomfortable to do
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: new things and try new things, but it could lead
• 24:47
  Speaker 4: you to the best people or parts of your life
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: that are to come.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: Amen, preach, all right, we have a fun one coming
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: up next.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: All right, we are back. We love to end with
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: a fun write in.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: This is from Annie. This is very funny. Hello, Becka, Tanya,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Mark and East and I saw this fun video where
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: they were talking about things that are embarrassing that really
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: shouldn't be embarrassing, and I thought it would be fun
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: to hear what you all find to be embarrassing that
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: shouldn't be. I feel like Becha will be able to
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: relate to this one. But I think Tanya owns everything
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: she does and doesn't get embarrassed. Mine is when my
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: windshield wipers are on high, especially if it's that rating
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: too hard in my car only has two settings, super
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: slow and super fast, and I feel like an idiot.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Some others are being sung Happy Birthday too, trying to
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: find the bathroom in a restaurant hunt, turning around and
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: walking back in the direction you just came from, or
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: walking back to your seat after taking your turn. It bowling.
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: I literally was gonna say the bowling one.
• 26:09
  Speaker 6: I hate that feeling because it's like, even if you
• 26:14
  Speaker 6: get a strike, you turn around and everyone's either no
• 26:17
  Speaker 6: one's paying attention because everyone's talking to each other, or
• 26:20
  Speaker 6: they're like yeah, and it's.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Just either way all chord.
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: There's an awkward element to it. Also, like when you're
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: in a big group and you don't know where anyone parks,
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: so everyone says bye and then everyone starts walking the
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: same way. I'm just like we just did a whole
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: hug everyone. Do I hug them again?
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: I don't find any of this embarrassing.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what she said. It's like you don't experience
• 26:46
  Speaker 4: this feeling.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I don't think I do. I'm trying to think, like
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: on my daily.
• 26:49
  Speaker 4: When people seeing happy birthday to me, I really feel
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: that too. I get that.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't mind that. I think tany and are
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: similar like that. Like I'm the one that doesn't care
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: what anybody thinks for my wife and my daughters very
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: much care with other people think as much as I
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: preach to them. How silly that is. But there is
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: something that happened this morning, and so we have a
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: couple of bathroom options here on this end of the hallway.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: One of them is just a single bathroom, and I
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: prefer that one because I don't like to be in
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: a room with other people doing their business, right But
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: that's not working right now. So I have to be
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: in the room with other people doing their business, and
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: there is always someone in there doing their business, and
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: it drives me crazy.
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: It's crazy.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: It's crazy. I was this is this morning. I was
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: one hundred percent. Every time I went in there, somebody was.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Every time I'm in there to stand, someone else is
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: in there to sit, and you can hear everything and
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: it's so awkward. But here's what was awkward to me today.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: I was washing my hands after standing, and the guy
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: that was sitting comes out of the bathroom and wants
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: to talk to me, like, I don't want to talk
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: to you. I heard you doing those things. I am
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: so embarrassed right now, and I don't even know why
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I'm not. You're doing the embarrassing thing I'm not, and
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: yet I am mortified. I don't want to be here
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: talking to you right now.
• 27:59
  Speaker 4: I would feel absolutely uncomfortable myself. Tanya, unfortunately, would be
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: the one trying to talk after doing the things with Probably.
• 28:09
  Speaker 5: True if somebody is in my stall and uh no, no, no,
• 28:16
  Speaker 5: if somebody's in my stall that I like to use
• 28:18
  Speaker 5: in the rest, even if they're even if they're doing
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: their business, I will wait for that stall to open
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: because it's my stall.
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: How many stalls are in there, Sure they feel very
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: awkward standing there.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: You probably stare through the cracks like stare. They probably
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: just see her like one eye staring to the crowd. Also,
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: did you know other countries like people that come to America,
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: they say that the the space in our bathroom is
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: like so strange, like, but why do we have this?
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know. They're right, it's ludicrous.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: And sometimes they're really wide. I'm like, I could see
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: someone's whole body show.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Some airports don't even have doors on those things. Like,
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: it's really unpleasant.
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: We the women's restaurant typically.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: There. But so wait a second. How many stalls are
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: in that bathroom? Four and the only one you will.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: Use unless yes, why it's my favorite?
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: Is it the big one? Is it the big Handicaan stall?
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: The very first one to the left.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: But what's wrong with the other ones?
• 29:24
  Speaker 5: Usually the trash cans are like locked, or there's like
• 29:28
  Speaker 5: p on the seats. There's little trash cans in every
• 29:31
  Speaker 5: stall for us that there are tampons and feminine products
• 29:34
  Speaker 5: the way, thank you very much. A lot of them
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: are locked, so it's annoying. So it's like slide your
• 29:38
  Speaker 5: stuff through. It's very uncomfortable. I just like that one.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: But but wouldn't wouldn't it be more polite to just
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: use another one rather than stand there and the person
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: knows you're standing there waiting for them. I was in
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: the stall, be like, what is wrong with this person?
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: There are three other empty stalls. I'd be so annoyed.
• 29:56
  Speaker 4: Oh, I thought of another one. Walking, you know in
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: your movie theaters is like you don't have a your
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: the exits on the other side, so you have to
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: walk in for the whole theater. I hate that.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: But you have to do it.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you do.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: And it's not cozy because.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Like even when you have to get up and sneak
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: past people on an airplane, or.
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: Like at a at a stadium where you're like need
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: to chair and you have to ask everyone and either
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: they have to stand up or turn to the side,
• 30:26
  Speaker 4: and then you have to decide am I going front
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: or back to their face?
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: My jingles are my butt in your face? Which is
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: going to be yeah, but always but the.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: Rule, I think that's what I uctually do. I don't know.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: Don't like being on elevators with people.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's awkward.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: It's awkward. Weird conversation or which is also awkward. It's
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: all awkward. If I get here in the morning and
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: I park and I see somebody else parking that I
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: know is on the fifth floor where we are, I
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: do everything I can to get to that elevator enough
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: before them that I don't have to hold the door
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: because they will head to the stairs. If they head
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: to the elevator, I'll go to the stairs and I'll
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: sprint because I do not want to go off the elevator.
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: With that, I think they're more like me and Nanny
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: than your Yeah, I like that, man. I could probably
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: think of a lot of those live we.
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: Do live, try and live unapologetically.
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: It's still unapologetically anyways. That's all for today, folks, but
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: we will be back on Monday, Monday Funday. We've had
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: a lot of Tuesday episodes lately, so don't you worry.
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: We will return on a Monday starting next week. Yes,
• 31:55
  Speaker 4: we love you, somebody love you. Bye.