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Raising Good Humans - Relax Your Way Into Parenting · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Hi,
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  everyone.
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  Welcome
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  parenting
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She's
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  the
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  founder
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  of
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  Habit
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  Coach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  How
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  are
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  you
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  doing
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  today?
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  I
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  am
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  fine.
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  I'm
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  having
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  a
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  fun
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  day.
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  I
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  like
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  your
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  new
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  lipstick.
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  Thank
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  you,
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  I
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  got
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  it.
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  Okay,
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  let
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  me
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  just
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  tell
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  you
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  how
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  I
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  got
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  this.
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  This
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  is
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  bad.
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  Do
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  not
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  go
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  into
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  department
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  stores.
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  I'm
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  telling
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  you,
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  they
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  are
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  so
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  good
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  at
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  sucking
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  you
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  in.
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  All
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  I
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  did
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  was
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  I
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  was
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  at
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  Bergdorf's
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  to
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  use
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  the
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  bathroom,
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  but
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  the
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  bathroom
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  is
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  in
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  the
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  cellar
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  and.
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  The
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  cellar
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  or
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  the
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  bottom?
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  The
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  makeup
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  department.
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  That's
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  the
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  makeup
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  department.
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  So
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  I
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  walked
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  by
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  Christian
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  Dior
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  Danger.
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  I
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  know.
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  And
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  I
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  saw
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  this
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  really
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  nice
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  lipstick
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  color
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  which
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  I
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  took
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  and
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  I
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  start
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  playing
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  with
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  it.
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  Well,
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  of
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  course
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  you
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  loved
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  it
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  because
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  it's
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  the
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  same
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  color
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  as
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  all
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  of
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  your
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  lipsticks.
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  I
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  know.
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  I
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  always
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  buy
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  the
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  same
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  color.
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  I
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  buy
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  the
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  same
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  color
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  all
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  the
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  time.
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  I
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  wear
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  the
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  same
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  colors
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  all.
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  But
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  anyway,
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  so
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  the
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  nice
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  man
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  pulls
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  me
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  in
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  and
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  he's
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  like,
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  well,
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  tell
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  me
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  about
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  your
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  face.
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  do
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  to
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  your
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  face?
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  And
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  so
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  next
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  thing
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  I
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  know,
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  he's
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  doing
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  my
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  whole
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  face.
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  And
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  so
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  I
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  felt
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  bad.
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  I
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  felt
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  like,
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  well,
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  I
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  should
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  buy
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  something.
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  And.
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  And
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  I'm
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  telling
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  you.
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  Do
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  you
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  know
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  how
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  expensive
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  there
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  are
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  creams
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  there?
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  That
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  there
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  was
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  a
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  cream
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  that
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  he
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  wanted
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  me
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  to
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  buy.
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  $1,700.
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  Good
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  grief.
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  I
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  know.
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  $1,700.
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  I
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  know.
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  I
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  said
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  I
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  could
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  probably
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  get
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  a
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  facelift
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  for
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  that.
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  I
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  don't
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  have
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  really
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  bad
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  facelifts.
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  Well,
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  but
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  still,
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  I
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  didn't
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  buy
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  that.
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  But
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  I
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  ended
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  up
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  just.
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  I
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  bought
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  a
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  few
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  things.
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  What
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  could
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  possibly
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  be
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  in
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  this
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  cream
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  that
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  makes
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  it
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  so.
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  I
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  don't
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  know,
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  it's
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  like
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  a
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  mini
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  plastic
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  surface
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  surgeon
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  who
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  does
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  work
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  on
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  your
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  face.
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  I
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  don't
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  know,
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  but
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  it's
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  insanity.
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  But
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  they
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  gave
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  me
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  samples
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  of
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  it,
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  so
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  I've
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  been
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  using
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  the
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  samples.
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  Yeah,
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  I
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  will
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  say
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  you
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  are
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  glowing.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  Well,
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  I'm
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  using
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  the
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  samples
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  of
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  the
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  very
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  expensive
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  stuff
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  on
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  my
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  face.
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  And
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  so
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  I.
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  But
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  I
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  will
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  not
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  be
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  buying
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  it
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  because
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  I.
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  I
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  can't
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  afford
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  that.
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  But
• 2:11
  who
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  can
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  I.
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  Some,
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  I
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  don't
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  know,
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  maybe
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  like
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  seven.
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  People
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  can
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  afford
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  to
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  be
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  using
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  seventeen
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  hundred
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  dollar
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  face
• 2:19
  cream
• 2:19
  cream.
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  I
• 2:19
  don't
• 2:20
  know
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  who
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  they
• 2:20
  thought
• 2:20
  I.
• 2:20
  Was
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  there
• 2:21
  was
• 2:22
  expensive.
• 2:22
  That's
• 2:23
  crazy.
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  That
• 2:24
  was
• 2:24
  just
• 2:24
  one
• 2:24
  cream.
• 2:25
  That
• 2:25
  was
• 2:26
  one
• 2:26
  cream.
• 2:26
  Anyway.
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  But
• 2:27
  I
• 2:27
  Did
• 2:27
  buy
• 2:28
  one
• 2:28
  thing
• 2:28
  that
• 2:29
  I
• 2:29
  don't
• 2:29
  think
• 2:29
  really
• 2:30
  works,
• 2:30
  but
• 2:31
  anyway.
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  But
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  I
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  still
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  end
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  up
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  spending
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  hundreds.
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  Of
• 2:35
  dollars
• 2:36
  on
• 2:36
  one
• 2:36
  thing
• 2:36
  and
• 2:37
  a.
• 2:37
  Little
• 2:37
  six,
• 2:38
  three
• 2:38
  things.
• 2:38
  A
• 2:39
  lipstick,
• 2:39
  a
• 2:39
  cream,
• 2:40
  and
• 2:40
  a
• 2:40
  powder.
• 2:41
  Okay,
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  three
• 2:42
  things.
• 2:42
  Okay.
• 2:43
  But
• 2:43
  still,
• 2:44
  that's
• 2:44
  why
• 2:44
  I
• 2:44
  go
• 2:44
  to
• 2:44
  Sephora.
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  feel
• 2:45
  like
• 2:45
  Sephora
• 2:46
  doesn't
• 2:46
  have
• 2:46
  anything
• 2:47
  more
• 2:47
  than
• 2:47
  like
• 2:47
  2,
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  200.
• 2:48
  And
• 2:49
  that's
• 2:49
  a
• 2:49
  crazy
• 2:50
  purchase
• 2:50
  from
• 2:51
  Sephora
• 2:51
  for
• 2:51
  one
• 2:52
  item.
• 2:52
  Well,
• 2:52
  I,
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  know
• 2:53
  nobody
• 2:54
  approaches
• 2:55
  you
• 2:55
  in
• 2:55
  Sephora.
• 2:56
  You
• 2:57
  need
• 2:57
  to
• 2:57
  approach
• 2:57
  them
• 2:58
  if
• 2:58
  you
• 2:58
  want
• 2:58
  help.
• 2:59
  Like,
• 2:59
  they're
• 3:00
  not
• 3:00
  coming
• 3:01
  for
• 3:01
  you
• 3:02
  the
• 3:02
  way
• 3:02
  that
• 3:02
  they
• 3:02
  do
• 3:03
  at
• 3:03
  Bergdorfs
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  or
• 3:04
  Saks.
• 3:04
  Makeup
• 3:05
  departments
• 3:05
  are
• 3:06
  really
• 3:07
  dangerous
• 3:08
  in
• 3:08
  a,
• 3:08
  in
• 3:09
  a
• 3:09
  department
• 3:09
  store.
• 3:10
  They
• 3:10
  know
• 3:10
  how
• 3:11
  to
• 3:11
  suck
• 3:11
  you
• 3:11
  in
• 3:12
  and
• 3:12
  sell
• 3:12
  you.
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  And
• 3:14
  they
• 3:14
  got
• 3:14
  you.
• 3:15
  They
• 3:15
  do.
• 3:15
  They
• 3:15
  got
• 3:16
  me.
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  And
• 3:16
  they
• 3:16
  could
• 3:17
  have
• 3:17
  been
• 3:17
  worse.
• 3:17
  Thank
• 3:18
  God.
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  felt
• 3:18
  like
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  got
• 3:19
  out
• 3:19
  cheap
• 3:20
  compared
• 3:20
  to
• 3:20
  how
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  could
• 3:21
  have
• 3:21
  gotten
• 3:21
  out.
• 3:22
  Yeah.
• 3:22
  Well,
• 3:23
  I'm
• 3:23
  really
• 3:23
  proud
• 3:23
  of
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  for
• 3:24
  exercising
• 3:24
  restraint,
• 3:25
  sort
• 3:25
  of.
• 3:25
  And
• 3:26
  I
• 3:26
  am
• 3:26
  never
• 3:26
  going
• 3:27
  back
• 3:27
  again
• 3:28
  because
• 3:29
  that
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  like,
• 3:30
  no,
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  can't
• 3:31
  do
• 3:32
  that.
• 3:32
  You
• 3:33
  go
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  use
• 3:33
  the
• 3:33
  bathroom
• 3:34
  and
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  lose
• 3:35
  $500.
• 3:35
  Yeah.
• 3:36
  That's
• 3:36
  the
• 3:36
  most
• 3:36
  expensive
• 3:37
  bathroom
• 3:37
  trip.
• 3:38
  It
• 3:38
  was.
• 3:38
  I've
• 3:38
  ever.
• 3:39
  Very
• 3:39
  expensive.
• 3:40
  Very
• 3:40
  expensive.
• 3:41
  But
• 3:41
  we
• 3:41
  are
• 3:42
  not
• 3:42
  here
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  talk
• 3:42
  about
• 3:43
  makeup.
• 3:43
  No.
• 3:43
  We
• 3:44
  are
• 3:44
  here
• 3:44
  to
• 3:44
  talk
• 3:44
  about
• 3:45
  raising
• 3:45
  good
• 3:46
  humans.
• 3:46
  Yes,
• 3:47
  that's
• 3:47
  the
• 3:47
  book
• 3:47
  that
• 3:48
  we'll
• 3:48
  be
• 3:48
  covering
• 3:48
  today.
• 3:49
  It
• 3:49
  is
• 3:49
  by
• 3:50
  Hunter
• 3:51
  Clark
• 3:52
  Fields.
• 3:53
  Fields,
• 3:54
  the
• 3:55
  title
• 3:55
  gives
• 3:56
  Is
• 3:56
  Giving
• 3:57
  Yoga
• 3:57
  Retreat.
• 3:58
  Hey,
• 3:59
  Humans
• 4:00
  Today.
• 4:01
  And
• 4:01
  honestly,
• 4:01
  the
• 4:02
  rest
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  book
• 4:02
  kind
• 4:03
  of
• 4:03
  does
• 4:03
  too.
• 4:03
  Yes,
• 4:04
  it's
• 4:04
  about
• 4:05
  meditation
• 4:06
  a
• 4:06
  lot,
• 4:07
  which
• 4:08
  not
• 4:08
  my
• 4:09
  personal
• 4:09
  bag,
• 4:10
  if
• 4:11
  that's
• 4:11
  what
• 4:11
  you're
• 4:11
  into.
• 4:13
  Maybe
• 4:13
  this
• 4:13
  is
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  book
• 4:14
  for
• 4:14
  you.
• 4:15
  I
• 4:16
  felt
• 4:16
  it
• 4:16
  was
• 4:16
  a
• 4:16
  bit
• 4:16
  vague.
• 4:17
  Teen,
• 4:17
  on
• 4:18
  a
• 4:18
  scale
• 4:18
  of
• 4:18
  scientist
• 4:18
  to
• 4:19
  parent,
• 4:19
  how
• 4:19
  readable
• 4:19
  was
• 4:20
  this
• 4:20
  book?
• 4:20
  Well,
• 4:21
  scientist
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  parent,
• 4:23
  it
• 4:23
  was
• 4:24
  more
• 4:24
  readable.
• 4:25
  I
• 4:25
  think
• 4:25
  we
• 4:25
  should
• 4:26
  in
• 4:26
  this
• 4:27
  case,
• 4:27
  call
• 4:27
  it
• 4:28
  like.
• 4:29
  Oh,
• 4:29
  what's
• 4:29
  like
• 4:30
  yoga
• 4:30
  retreat
• 4:31
  to
• 4:33
  regular.
• 4:34
  Wiccan
• 4:34
  to,
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  parent.
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  feel,
• 4:36
  I
• 4:37
  mean,
• 4:37
  yeah,
• 4:37
  no,
• 4:38
  not
• 4:38
  Wiccans.
• 4:38
  You
• 4:38
  don't
• 4:38
  think
• 4:39
  she's
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  Wiccan?
• 4:40
  Wiccans.
• 4:40
  Aren't
• 4:40
  they
• 4:40
  witches?
• 4:42
  No,
• 4:42
  I,
• 4:43
  I,
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  know,
• 4:44
  this
• 4:44
  book.
• 4:44
  Gave
• 4:44
  me
• 4:45
  wickedy
• 4:45
  vibes.
• 4:46
  It
• 4:46
  gave
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  wicked
• 4:47
  vibe.
• 4:47
  I
• 4:48
  felt
• 4:48
  like
• 4:48
  there
• 4:48
  was
• 4:48
  a
• 4:49
  cauldron.
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  felt
• 4:50
  like
• 4:50
  there
• 4:50
  were
• 4:51
  potions.
• 4:52
  It
• 4:53
  was
• 4:53
  giving
• 4:53
  Wiccan
• 4:54
  nature.
• 4:55
  Maybe
• 4:56
  Wiccans
• 4:56
  are
• 4:56
  misunderstood.
• 4:57
  No,
• 4:57
  maybe
• 4:58
  I,
• 4:58
  I,
• 4:59
  I'm
• 4:59
  thinking
• 4:59
  more
• 5:00
  like.
• 5:00
  Remember
• 5:01
  we
• 5:01
  used
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  have
• 5:02
  a
• 5:02
  psychic
• 5:03
  who,
• 5:03
  I
• 5:03
  know
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  remember.
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  loved
• 5:04
  her.
• 5:05
  Siobhan.
• 5:05
  Yes.
• 5:06
  And
• 5:07
  she
• 5:07
  was
• 5:07
  just
• 5:08
  very
• 5:08
  gentle
• 5:09
  and
• 5:10
  very
• 5:11
  about
• 5:12
  mindfulness
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  meditation.
• 5:16
  But
• 5:16
  she
• 5:16
  was
• 5:17
  a
• 5:17
  legitimate
• 5:17
  psychic.
• 5:18
  Yeah,
• 5:18
  she
• 5:19
  was
• 5:19
  A
• 5:19
  really
• 5:19
  good
• 5:19
  psychic.
• 5:19
  Didn't
• 5:20
  she
• 5:20
  predict
• 5:21
  that
• 5:21
  I
• 5:21
  would
• 5:22
  be
• 5:22
  born.
• 5:23
  I
• 5:24
  vaguely
• 5:24
  remember
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  telling
• 5:25
  me
• 5:25
  this
• 5:25
  because
• 5:25
  you
• 5:26
  struggled
• 5:26
  to
• 5:27
  have
• 5:27
  me,
• 5:27
  and
• 5:28
  you
• 5:28
  were
• 5:28
  really
• 5:28
  reaching
• 5:29
  a
• 5:29
  point
• 5:29
  where
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  were
• 5:30
  like,
• 5:30
  sorry
• 5:30
  if
• 5:30
  I'm
• 5:30
  violating
• 5:31
  your
• 5:31
  hipaa,
• 5:31
  but
• 5:32
  I'm
• 5:32
  gonna
• 5:32
  go
• 5:32
  ahead
• 5:32
  and
• 5:32
  violate.
• 5:33
  Yeah,
• 5:34
  she
• 5:34
  predicted
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  lot
• 5:35
  of
• 5:35
  things,
• 5:35
  including
• 5:36
  that.
• 5:36
  Yeah.
• 5:36
  And
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  would
• 5:37
  have
• 5:37
  a
• 5:37
  daughter
• 5:38
  and
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  would
• 5:38
  be
• 5:39
  your
• 5:39
  best
• 5:39
  friend.
• 5:39
  Yes.
• 5:40
  Yes,
• 5:41
  she
• 5:41
  did.
• 5:41
  But.
• 5:41
  But
• 5:42
  she
• 5:42
  was
• 5:42
  always.
• 5:43
  Her
• 5:43
  vibe
• 5:44
  was
• 5:44
  so
• 5:45
  mellow.
• 5:46
  She
• 5:46
  was
• 5:46
  very
• 5:46
  gentle
• 5:47
  and
• 5:47
  gentle,
• 5:49
  and
• 5:50
  that's
• 5:50
  the
• 5:51
  vibe
• 5:51
  of
• 5:51
  this
• 5:51
  book.
• 5:53
  And.
• 5:56
  For
• 5:56
  me,
• 5:56
  personally,
• 5:57
  it's
• 5:57
  very
• 5:57
  hard
• 5:58
  to.
• 5:58
  To
• 6:00
  not
• 6:01
  lose
• 6:01
  it
• 6:02
  when
• 6:02
  people
• 6:02
  are
• 6:03
  being
• 6:03
  like
• 6:03
  that.
• 6:03
  It's
• 6:04
  like,
• 6:04
  I
• 6:05
  feel
• 6:05
  like
• 6:05
  I
• 6:05
  took.
• 6:05
  Hurry
• 6:06
  up.
• 6:06
  Yeah.
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  feel
• 6:07
  like
• 6:07
  I
• 6:07
  took
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  quaalude
• 6:08
  when
• 6:08
  I
• 6:08
  read
• 6:09
  this
• 6:09
  book.
• 6:09
  I
• 6:09
  was
• 6:09
  like,
• 6:11
  what
• 6:11
  are
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  telling
• 6:12
  me
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  do?
• 6:12
  Right.
• 6:13
  Right.
• 6:13
  Well,
• 6:13
  okay.
• 6:14
  I
• 6:14
  will
• 6:14
  say
• 6:14
  there's
• 6:15
  two
• 6:15
  parts
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  the
• 6:15
  book,
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  we'll
• 6:16
  talk
• 6:16
  about
• 6:16
  both.
• 6:17
  The
• 6:17
  first
• 6:18
  part
• 6:18
  is
• 6:18
  like
• 6:18
  teaching
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  about
• 6:20
  mindfulness
• 6:21
  and
• 6:21
  meditation
• 6:23
  and
• 6:24
  a
• 6:24
  lot
• 6:24
  of
• 6:25
  words
• 6:25
  that.
• 6:26
  That
• 6:26
  make
• 6:26
  me
• 6:28
  crazy.
• 6:29
  We
• 6:29
  are
• 6:29
  neurotic,
• 6:30
  if
• 6:30
  you
• 6:31
  haven't
• 6:31
  already
• 6:32
  observed.
• 6:33
  Right.
• 6:33
  Very,
• 6:34
  very,
• 6:34
  like.
• 6:36
  Yeah.
• 6:36
  So
• 6:37
  for
• 6:37
  me,
• 6:37
  it
• 6:38
  was
• 6:38
  very,
• 6:38
  very
• 6:38
  hard.
• 6:41
  But
• 6:41
  the
• 6:41
  second
• 6:42
  part
• 6:42
  of
• 6:43
  the
• 6:43
  book,
• 6:43
  I
• 6:44
  thought
• 6:44
  had
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  lot
• 6:45
  of
• 6:45
  good
• 6:45
  ideas,
• 6:46
  maybe
• 6:46
  that.
• 6:47
  That
• 6:47
  you
• 6:47
  would
• 6:48
  try
• 6:48
  and
• 6:48
  be
• 6:49
  worth
• 6:49
  trying.
• 6:50
  And
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  was
• 6:50
  good
• 6:50
  parenting
• 6:51
  advice.
• 6:51
  Yes.
• 6:52
  So
• 6:52
  it's
• 6:52
  just
• 6:52
  the
• 6:53
  first.
• 6:53
  Get
• 6:53
  through
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  first
• 6:54
  part.
• 6:55
  Right,
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  first
• 6:55
  part.
• 6:56
  Could
• 6:56
  you
• 6:56
  skip
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  first
• 6:57
  part?
• 6:58
  I
• 6:58
  don't
• 6:58
  think
• 6:58
  so.
• 6:58
  I
• 6:59
  think
• 6:59
  you
• 6:59
  need
• 6:59
  some
• 6:59
  of
• 6:59
  the
• 6:59
  foundational
• 7:00
  stuff
• 7:00
  because
• 7:01
  she
• 7:01
  references
• 7:01
  it
• 7:01
  a
• 7:02
  lot.
• 7:02
  Yeah.
• 7:02
  Yeah.
• 7:03
  I
• 7:03
  think
• 7:03
  it's
• 7:03
  helpful
• 7:03
  to
• 7:04
  look
• 7:04
  and,
• 7:04
  you
• 7:04
  know,
• 7:05
  it's
• 7:05
  like,
• 7:06
  all
• 7:06
  my
• 7:06
  life
• 7:06
  I've
• 7:07
  been
• 7:07
  hearing,
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  should
• 7:08
  meditate.
• 7:10
  You
• 7:11
  should,
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  know,
• 7:11
  you
• 7:12
  should
• 7:12
  be
• 7:12
  more
• 7:12
  mindful,
• 7:13
  be
• 7:13
  present,
• 7:14
  be
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  the
• 7:15
  moment.
• 7:15
  I
• 7:16
  know.
• 7:16
  Those
• 7:16
  are
• 7:16
  good
• 7:16
  things.
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  know
• 7:18
  that.
• 7:18
  I
• 7:18
  wish
• 7:18
  I
• 7:19
  could
• 7:19
  be
• 7:19
  that
• 7:19
  way.
• 7:19
  I
• 7:20
  am
• 7:20
  not
• 7:20
  that
• 7:20
  way.
• 7:21
  And.
• 7:22
  And
• 7:22
  I've
• 7:22
  never
• 7:22
  been
• 7:22
  able
• 7:23
  to
• 7:23
  calm
• 7:23
  my
• 7:23
  mind
• 7:24
  enough
• 7:24
  to
• 7:24
  do
• 7:25
  any
• 7:25
  of
• 7:25
  that.
• 7:26
  I'm
• 7:26
  simply
• 7:26
  too
• 7:27
  busy.
• 7:27
  I've
• 7:27
  got
• 7:27
  a
• 7:28
  lot
• 7:28
  to
• 7:28
  do.
• 7:28
  And
• 7:28
  again,
• 7:29
  people
• 7:29
  are
• 7:30
  like,
• 7:30
  you'll
• 7:30
  be
• 7:31
  astounded
• 7:31
  at
• 7:32
  the
• 7:32
  benefit.
• 7:32
  I
• 7:32
  know.
• 7:33
  You
• 7:33
  will
• 7:33
  be
• 7:33
  calmer,
• 7:34
  more
• 7:35
  patient,
• 7:36
  more
• 7:36
  organized.
• 7:37
  And
• 7:37
  I'm
• 7:37
  like.
• 7:37
  I
• 7:38
  mean,
• 7:38
  maybe,
• 7:39
  but,
• 7:39
  like,
• 7:39
  I
• 7:40
  know
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  can't.
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  can't
• 7:41
  sit
• 7:42
  still
• 7:42
  for
• 7:42
  five
• 7:43
  minutes,
• 7:44
  much
• 7:44
  less
• 7:45
  quiet
• 7:46
  my
• 7:46
  mind.
• 7:47
  Oh,
• 7:47
  my
• 7:47
  God.
• 7:47
  And
• 7:48
  empty
• 7:48
  my
• 7:48
  spirit.
• 7:49
  Well,
• 7:49
  I
• 7:50
  don't
• 7:50
  think
• 7:50
  you're
• 7:50
  supposed
• 7:50
  to
• 7:50
  empty
• 7:51
  your
• 7:51
  spirit,
• 7:53
  but
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  are
• 7:54
  supposed
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  quiet
• 7:55
  your
• 7:55
  mind.
• 7:55
  Yes.
• 7:57
  Okay.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:57
  so
• 7:58
  anyway,
• 8:00
  that's
• 8:00
  the
• 8:01
  first
• 8:01
  half
• 8:01
  of
• 8:01
  the
• 8:01
  book.
• 8:01
  Okay.
• 8:02
  So
• 8:03
  the
• 8:03
  beginning
• 8:04
  is
• 8:04
  called
• 8:05
  breaking
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  cycle
• 8:06
  of
• 8:06
  reactivity.
• 8:07
  And
• 8:07
  the
• 8:08
  idea
• 8:08
  is,
• 8:08
  if
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  are
• 8:09
  losing
• 8:10
  it
• 8:10
  with
• 8:10
  your
• 8:10
  child,
• 8:11
  if
• 8:11
  you're
• 8:11
  having
• 8:11
  these
• 8:12
  automatic
• 8:12
  negative
• 8:13
  reactions,
• 8:14
  then
• 8:15
  there's
• 8:15
  something
• 8:16
  inside
• 8:16
  of
• 8:16
  you
• 8:17
  that
• 8:17
  is
• 8:17
  behind
• 8:18
  it.
• 8:18
  And
• 8:18
  that
• 8:18
  if
• 8:19
  you
• 8:19
  can
• 8:19
  get
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  the
• 8:19
  bottom
• 8:20
  of
• 8:20
  that,
• 8:21
  whatever
• 8:21
  that
• 8:21
  thing
• 8:22
  is
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  many
• 8:23
  people
• 8:23
  go
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  years
• 8:23
  of
• 8:24
  therapy
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  get
• 8:24
  to.
• 8:25
  But
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  could
• 8:26
  do
• 8:26
  it
• 8:26
  through
• 8:26
  mindfulness.
• 8:27
  Maybe
• 8:28
  you
• 8:28
  can
• 8:28
  be
• 8:28
  less
• 8:29
  reactive
• 8:29
  in
• 8:29
  the
• 8:30
  moment.
• 8:30
  You
• 8:31
  can
• 8:31
  respond
• 8:31
  more
• 8:31
  thoughtfully,
• 8:32
  and
• 8:32
  you
• 8:33
  can
• 8:33
  get
• 8:33
  your
• 8:34
  own
• 8:34
  needs
• 8:34
  met.
• 8:35
  You
• 8:35
  can
• 8:35
  still
• 8:36
  have
• 8:36
  boundaries,
• 8:37
  but
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  can
• 8:38
  raise
• 8:38
  a
• 8:38
  very
• 8:39
  good
• 8:39
  human
• 8:40
  being.
• 8:40
  Yes.
• 8:41
  And
• 8:41
  that's
• 8:42
  really.
• 8:42
  That's
• 8:43
  what
• 8:43
  the
• 8:44
  essence
• 8:44
  of
• 8:44
  this
• 8:44
  book
• 8:44
  is.
• 8:44
  It's
• 8:45
  a
• 8:45
  desirable
• 8:45
  outcome.
• 8:46
  Yes,
• 8:46
  yes,
• 8:47
  yes.
• 8:47
  And
• 8:47
  in
• 8:48
  the
• 8:48
  first
• 8:48
  pages,
• 8:49
  okay,
• 8:50
  it's
• 8:50
  so
• 8:50
  funny.
• 8:51
  We
• 8:51
  had
• 8:51
  the
• 8:51
  same
• 8:51
  kind
• 8:51
  of
• 8:51
  reaction.
• 8:52
  But
• 8:52
  first
• 8:53
  few
• 8:53
  pages,
• 8:53
  literally,
• 8:54
  you
• 8:54
  find
• 8:55
  out,
• 8:55
  to
• 8:55
  do
• 8:56
  this
• 8:56
  book
• 8:56
  correctly,
• 8:57
  you
• 8:58
  are
• 8:58
  going
• 8:58
  to
• 8:58
  be
• 8:59
  needing
• 8:59
  to
• 8:59
  journal
• 9:00
  and
• 9:01
  you're
• 9:01
  gonna
• 9:01
  be
• 9:01
  needing
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  meditate.
• 9:02
  And
• 9:03
  I'm
• 9:03
  sitting
• 9:03
  there
• 9:03
  going
• 9:04
  a
• 9:04
  lot
• 9:04
  of
• 9:04
  assignments.
• 9:04
  Oh,
• 9:05
  yeah,
• 9:05
  how
• 9:06
  am
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  gonna
• 9:06
  do
• 9:06
  that?
• 9:06
  Teen,
• 9:07
  we
• 9:07
  don't
• 9:07
  curse
• 9:07
  on
• 9:07
  this
• 9:08
  podcast.
• 9:08
  I'm
• 9:08
  sorry.
• 9:09
  It's
• 9:09
  okay.
• 9:09
  We'll
• 9:09
  bleep
• 9:09
  you
• 9:09
  out.
• 9:09
  Bleep
• 9:10
  me
• 9:10
  out.
• 9:10
  But
• 9:10
  I'm
• 9:11
  like,
• 9:12
  oh,
• 9:12
  my
• 9:12
  God,
• 9:13
  really?
• 9:14
  I
• 9:14
  have
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  journal.
• 9:15
  I
• 9:16
  have
• 9:16
  to.
• 9:16
  I
• 9:16
  know.
• 9:17
  I
• 9:17
  was
• 9:17
  like,
• 9:17
  don't
• 9:18
  give
• 9:18
  me
• 9:18
  an
• 9:19
  exercise.
• 9:19
  Don't
• 9:20
  give
• 9:20
  me
• 9:20
  more
• 9:20
  work
• 9:20
  than
• 9:21
  reading
• 9:21
  the
• 9:21
  book.
• 9:22
  Yeah.
• 9:22
  It's
• 9:22
  like,
• 9:22
  I
• 9:22
  have
• 9:23
  enough
• 9:24
  going
• 9:24
  on.
• 9:24
  I
• 9:25
  am
• 9:25
  a
• 9:25
  working
• 9:26
  mother.
• 9:26
  Right,
• 9:27
  Right.
• 9:27
  But,
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  know,
• 9:28
  I
• 9:29
  guess,
• 9:29
  you
• 9:30
  know,
• 9:30
  if
• 9:30
  you
• 9:31
  really
• 9:31
  are
• 9:31
  losing
• 9:32
  it
• 9:32
  with
• 9:32
  your
• 9:32
  child.
• 9:33
  Yeah.
• 9:33
  This
• 9:33
  is
• 9:33
  worth
• 9:33
  reading.
• 9:34
  Then
• 9:34
  maybe
• 9:35
  you
• 9:35
  should
• 9:36
  be
• 9:36
  journaling
• 9:37
  and
• 9:38
  investigate.
• 9:38
  Maybe.
• 9:39
  Yeah.
• 9:40
  Yeah.
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  mean,
• 9:41
  although,
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  will
• 9:41
  say
• 9:42
  I
• 9:42
  feel
• 9:42
  like
• 9:43
  this
• 9:43
  book
• 9:44
  is
• 9:44
  a
• 9:44
  book
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  will
• 9:45
  ultimately
• 9:45
  be
• 9:45
  preaching
• 9:46
  to
• 9:46
  the
• 9:46
  choir.
• 9:46
  I
• 9:46
  don't
• 9:47
  feel
• 9:47
  like
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  people
• 9:47
  who
• 9:48
  will
• 9:48
  need
• 9:48
  this
• 9:48
  book
• 9:48
  the
• 9:49
  most
• 9:49
  will
• 9:49
  ultimately
• 9:50
  pick
• 9:50
  it
• 9:50
  up.
• 9:51
  Because
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  title,
• 9:52
  it's
• 9:53
  not
• 9:53
  off
• 9:53
  putting,
• 9:54
  but
• 9:55
  it
• 9:55
  also
• 9:56
  doesn't
• 9:56
  feel
• 9:57
  super
• 9:57
  actionable.
• 9:58
  Right.
• 9:58
  It's
• 9:59
  like
• 9:59
  raising
• 9:59
  good
• 9:59
  humans.
• 10:00
  Well,
• 10:00
  what
• 10:01
  do
• 10:01
  you
• 10:01
  mean
• 10:01
  by
• 10:01
  this?
• 10:02
  Right.
• 10:02
  And
• 10:03
  we're
• 10:03
  about
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  tell
• 10:04
  you
• 10:04
  what
• 10:04
  she
• 10:04
  means
• 10:05
  by
• 10:05
  that.
• 10:05
  Well,
• 10:05
  we'll
• 10:05
  tell
• 10:05
  you.
• 10:06
  Or
• 10:06
  he.
• 10:06
  I
• 10:06
  don't
• 10:06
  know
• 10:07
  if
• 10:07
  it's
• 10:07
  written
• 10:07
  by
• 10:07
  a
• 10:07
  man
• 10:07
  or
• 10:08
  a
• 10:08
  woman.
• 10:08
  Wait,
• 10:10
  Hunter,
• 10:11
  you're
• 10:11
  right.
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  don't
• 10:11
  know.
• 10:12
  Could
• 10:12
  be
• 10:12
  anyone.
• 10:12
  But
• 10:13
  it
• 10:13
  goes
• 10:13
  both
• 10:13
  ways.
• 10:14
  But,
• 10:15
  yeah,
• 10:16
  but
• 10:16
  anyway,
• 10:17
  so
• 10:18
  we
• 10:18
  don't.
• 10:18
  Know
• 10:18
  what
• 10:19
  they
• 10:19
  meant.
• 10:20
  Is
• 10:20
  there
• 10:20
  a
• 10:20
  picture?
• 10:21
  Is
• 10:21
  there
• 10:21
  an
• 10:21
  about
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  author
• 10:22
  picture?
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  hate
• 10:23
  about
• 10:23
  the
• 10:23
  author
• 10:24
  pictures.
• 10:24
  They're
• 10:25
  so
• 10:25
  awkward.
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  feel
• 10:26
  like
• 10:26
  they
• 10:26
  always
• 10:26
  have,
• 10:27
  like,
• 10:27
  a
• 10:27
  thousand
• 10:27
  yards.
• 10:29
  Like.
• 10:30
  But
• 10:30
  anyway,
• 10:31
  we
• 10:31
  could
• 10:31
  look
• 10:32
  her
• 10:32
  up.
• 10:33
  There's
• 10:33
  got
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  be
• 10:33
  a
• 10:33
  picture
• 10:34
  in
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  back
• 10:34
  of
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  book
• 10:35
  about
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  author.
• 10:35
  There's
• 10:36
  no
• 10:36
  picture.
• 10:36
  What?
• 10:37
  No
• 10:37
  picture.
• 10:37
  We
• 10:38
  don't
• 10:38
  know.
• 10:38
  It
• 10:39
  could
• 10:39
  be
• 10:39
  a
• 10:39
  man,
• 10:39
  it
• 10:39
  could
• 10:39
  be
• 10:39
  a
• 10:40
  woman.
• 10:40
  But
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  did
• 10:41
  notice
• 10:42
  that
• 10:42
  you
• 10:43
  said
• 10:43
  there's
• 10:44
  something
• 10:44
  on
• 10:44
  page
• 10:44
  10.
• 10:44
  It's
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  parenting
• 10:46
  manifesto.
• 10:47
  Yes.
• 10:47
  Mindful
• 10:48
  parenting
• 10:48
  manifesto.
• 10:49
  I
• 10:49
  actually
• 10:49
  cut
• 10:49
  that
• 10:50
  out,
• 10:50
  so
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:51
  gonna
• 10:51
  just
• 10:51
  give
• 10:51
  you
• 10:51
  guys
• 10:52
  the
• 10:52
  manifesto
• 10:52
  real
• 10:53
  quick.
• 10:53
  Talk
• 10:53
  about
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  manifesto.
• 10:54
  So,
• 10:54
  mindful
• 10:55
  parenting
• 10:55
  manifesto.
• 10:56
  A
• 10:56
  mindful
• 10:56
  parent
• 10:57
  is
• 10:57
  a
• 10:57
  new
• 10:57
  generation
• 10:58
  of
• 10:58
  parent
• 10:59
  present,
• 10:59
  evolving,
• 11:00
  calm,
• 11:00
  authentic,
• 11:01
  and
• 11:01
  free.
• 11:02
  Mindful
• 11:02
  parents
• 11:02
  reject
• 11:03
  the
• 11:03
  culture
• 11:03
  of
• 11:04
  not
• 11:04
  good
• 11:04
  enough,
• 11:04
  knowing
• 11:05
  that
• 11:05
  when
• 11:05
  we
• 11:05
  free
• 11:05
  ourselves
• 11:06
  from
• 11:06
  unnecessary
• 11:07
  stress
• 11:07
  and
• 11:08
  and
• 11:08
  limiting
• 11:08
  stories,
• 11:09
  our
• 11:09
  authentic,
• 11:09
  peaceful
• 11:10
  nature
• 11:11
  shines
• 11:11
  through.
• 11:12
  Well,
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  like
• 11:12
  that.
• 11:12
  I
• 11:13
  like
• 11:13
  not.
• 11:15
  Not
• 11:15
  thinking.
• 11:15
  You
• 11:16
  have
• 11:16
  to
• 11:16
  be
• 11:16
  a
• 11:16
  perfect
• 11:16
  parent.
• 11:17
  I
• 11:17
  think
• 11:17
  that
• 11:17
  is
• 11:18
  great.
• 11:19
  Very
• 11:19
  valuable.
• 11:19
  Very
• 11:20
  good.
• 11:20
  Yeah.
• 11:20
  Mindful
• 11:21
  parents
• 11:22
  practice
• 11:22
  self
• 11:23
  compassion
• 11:23
  and
• 11:23
  see
• 11:24
  their
• 11:24
  challenges
• 11:24
  as
• 11:25
  teachers,
• 11:25
  not
• 11:26
  flaws.
• 11:27
  Mindful
• 11:28
  parents
• 11:28
  value
• 11:29
  wisdom
• 11:29
  over
• 11:29
  reactivity,
• 11:30
  empathy
• 11:31
  over
• 11:31
  obedience,
• 11:32
  and
• 11:32
  begin
• 11:33
  anew
• 11:33
  and
• 11:34
  every
• 11:34
  day.
• 11:34
  So
• 11:35
  I
• 11:35
  guess
• 11:35
  you're
• 11:35
  not
• 11:35
  supposed
• 11:35
  to
• 11:35
  hold
• 11:35
  a
• 11:36
  grudge,
• 11:36
  right?
• 11:37
  Start
• 11:37
  over
• 11:37
  every
• 11:38
  day.
• 11:38
  If
• 11:38
  you
• 11:38
  messed
• 11:39
  up
• 11:39
  yesterday,
• 11:40
  clean
• 11:40
  slate.
• 11:41
  Yeah,
• 11:41
  fair
• 11:41
  enough.
• 11:42
  That's
• 11:42
  good.
• 11:42
  Mindful
• 11:43
  parents
• 11:43
  live
• 11:44
  what
• 11:44
  we
• 11:44
  want
• 11:44
  our
• 11:44
  kids
• 11:45
  to
• 11:45
  learn,
• 11:45
  knowing
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  the
• 11:46
  best
• 11:46
  parenting
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  modeling.
• 11:48
  I
• 11:48
  fully
• 11:48
  agree
• 11:49
  with
• 11:49
  this.
• 11:49
  Yes.
• 11:50
  You
• 11:50
  must
• 11:51
  show
• 11:51
  and
• 11:51
  not
• 11:52
  tell,
• 11:53
  both
• 11:53
  when
• 11:54
  writing,
• 11:55
  making
• 11:55
  movies,
• 11:56
  telling
• 11:56
  stories.
• 11:57
  Yes.
• 11:57
  And
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  have
• 11:58
  to
• 11:58
  do
• 11:58
  this
• 11:58
  for
• 11:58
  your
• 11:59
  kids
• 11:59
  be
• 11:59
  because
• 12:00
  they
• 12:01
  will
• 12:01
  imitate
• 12:02
  you.
• 12:02
  Right.
• 12:03
  They
• 12:03
  really
• 12:03
  will.
• 12:03
  I
• 12:03
  guess
• 12:04
  that
• 12:04
  is
• 12:04
  good
• 12:04
  advice.
• 12:04
  I
• 12:04
  guess
• 12:05
  the
• 12:05
  manifesto
• 12:05
  is
• 12:05
  pretty
• 12:06
  good.
• 12:06
  So
• 12:06
  far.
• 12:06
  The
• 12:06
  manifesto
• 12:07
  is
• 12:07
  working
• 12:07
  for
• 12:07
  me.
• 12:08
  Okay.
• 12:08
  Mindful
• 12:09
  parents
• 12:09
  go
• 12:10
  within
• 12:10
  and
• 12:10
  get
• 12:10
  quiet
• 12:11
  to
• 12:11
  access
• 12:11
  their
• 12:12
  power.
• 12:12
  This
• 12:12
  is
• 12:13
  where
• 12:13
  you
• 12:13
  lose
• 12:13
  me.
• 12:13
  Okay.
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  don't
• 12:15
  quite
• 12:15
  understand
• 12:16
  what
• 12:16
  going
• 12:16
  within
• 12:17
  and
• 12:17
  getting
• 12:18
  quiet
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  access
• 12:19
  my
• 12:20
  power
• 12:21
  means
• 12:22
  in
• 12:22
  a
• 12:23
  practical
• 12:23
  way.
• 12:24
  I
• 12:25
  digress.
• 12:26
  Mindful
• 12:26
  parents
• 12:26
  practice
• 12:27
  presence,
• 12:28
  create
• 12:28
  their
• 12:28
  experience,
• 12:29
  embrace
• 12:29
  imperfection,
• 12:30
  and
• 12:30
  love
• 12:31
  themselves.
• 12:32
  Okay.
• 12:33
  Mindful
• 12:34
  parents
• 12:34
  are
• 12:35
  motivated,
• 12:36
  knowing
• 12:36
  that
• 12:36
  with
• 12:37
  every
• 12:37
  step,
• 12:37
  they
• 12:37
  are
• 12:37
  changing
• 12:38
  things
• 12:38
  for
• 12:38
  the
• 12:39
  generations
• 12:39
  that
• 12:39
  follow.
• 12:40
  I
• 12:40
  am
• 12:41
  a
• 12:41
  mindful
• 12:41
  parent.
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  like
• 12:42
  that
• 12:42
  last
• 12:43
  idea
• 12:44
  because
• 12:44
  I
• 12:44
  do
• 12:45
  think,
• 12:46
  you
• 12:46
  know,
• 12:47
  healing
• 12:47
  generational
• 12:48
  trauma
• 12:48
  is
• 12:48
  important.
• 12:49
  I
• 12:49
  think
• 12:50
  we
• 12:50
  can
• 12:50
  always
• 12:50
  do
• 12:51
  things
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  little
• 12:52
  more
• 12:53
  gently
• 12:53
  than
• 12:53
  our
• 12:53
  parents
• 12:54
  before
• 12:54
  us.
• 12:54
  Unless
• 12:55
  you're
• 12:55
  me.
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  had
• 12:55
  some
• 12:56
  very
• 12:56
  gentle
• 12:56
  parents,
• 12:58
  but
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  feel
• 12:59
  like
• 12:59
  you
• 12:59
  didn't
• 12:59
  have
• 13:00
  gentle
• 13:00
  parents.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  your
• 13:01
  parents
• 13:02
  generation
• 13:02
  was
• 13:03
  much
• 13:03
  harsher
• 13:04
  than
• 13:05
  you
• 13:05
  guys
• 13:05
  were.
• 13:05
  Much
• 13:05
  stricter.
• 13:06
  Yes.
• 13:07
  Yes.
• 13:07
  Huh?
• 13:08
  Yeah.
• 13:10
  And
• 13:10
  there
• 13:10
  was
• 13:11
  a
• 13:11
  lot
• 13:11
  of
• 13:11
  fighting
• 13:12
  in
• 13:12
  my
• 13:12
  house.
• 13:13
  And
• 13:13
  it
• 13:13
  was
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  different
• 13:14
  kind
• 13:14
  of
• 13:15
  upbringing
• 13:15
  than
• 13:15
  you
• 13:16
  had.
• 13:16
  Yes,
• 13:16
  totally.
• 13:17
  You
• 13:17
  and
• 13:17
  dad
• 13:17
  never
• 13:18
  fought?
• 13:18
  No.
• 13:18
  You.
• 13:19
  Neither
• 13:19
  of
• 13:19
  you.
• 13:20
  The
• 13:20
  only
• 13:20
  time
• 13:20
  you
• 13:21
  ever
• 13:21
  raised
• 13:21
  your
• 13:21
  voice
• 13:21
  at
• 13:22
  me
• 13:22
  I
• 13:22
  was.
• 13:23
  When
• 13:23
  we
• 13:23
  were
• 13:23
  at
• 13:23
  the
• 13:23
  doctor's
• 13:24
  office
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  was
• 13:25
  losing
• 13:25
  my
• 13:25
  mind
• 13:26
  because
• 13:26
  he
• 13:26
  made
• 13:26
  me
• 13:26
  wait
• 13:27
  two
• 13:27
  hours.
• 13:27
  I
• 13:28
  remember
• 13:28
  that
• 13:29
  I've
• 13:30
  raised
• 13:30
  my
• 13:30
  voice
• 13:30
  at
• 13:30
  you
• 13:31
  twice,
• 13:31
  actually.
• 13:31
  What
• 13:32
  was
• 13:32
  the
• 13:32
  other
• 13:32
  time?
• 13:32
  That
• 13:33
  time
• 13:33
  at
• 13:34
  the
• 13:34
  doctor's
• 13:34
  office,
• 13:34
  we
• 13:35
  were
• 13:35
  really
• 13:35
  fighting,
• 13:36
  and
• 13:37
  another
• 13:37
  parent
• 13:38
  actually
• 13:39
  said
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  me,
• 13:41
  you
• 13:41
  need
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  calm
• 13:42
  down.
• 13:43
  I
• 13:43
  was
• 13:43
  like,
• 13:44
  okay.
• 13:46
  No,
• 13:46
  I
• 13:46
  didn't
• 13:46
  say
• 13:47
  okay.
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  said,
• 13:47
  mind
• 13:47
  your
• 13:48
  own
• 13:48
  business.
• 13:48
  Good
• 13:49
  for
• 13:49
  you.
• 13:49
  I
• 13:49
  was
• 13:49
  not.
• 13:50
  I
• 13:50
  was
• 13:50
  pissed
• 13:50
  at
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  at
• 13:51
  that
• 13:51
  moment,
• 13:52
  but
• 13:52
  we
• 13:53
  were
• 13:53
  fighting.
• 13:54
  But
• 13:54
  then
• 13:55
  the
• 13:55
  other
• 13:55
  time
• 13:56
  I
• 13:56
  yelled
• 13:57
  at
• 13:57
  you
• 13:57
  was
• 13:58
  that
• 13:58
  time
• 13:58
  that
• 13:59
  you
• 13:59
  came
• 13:59
  to
• 13:59
  visit
• 14:00
  me
• 14:00
  in
• 14:00
  Miami
• 14:01
  and
• 14:01
  you
• 14:01
  stayed
• 14:01
  out
• 14:02
  all
• 14:02
  night
• 14:02
  and
• 14:02
  you
• 14:02
  didn't
• 14:03
  call
• 14:03
  me.
• 14:03
  Yes.
• 14:03
  And
• 14:04
  I
• 14:04
  thought
• 14:04
  you
• 14:04
  were
• 14:05
  dead
• 14:05
  somewhere.
• 14:05
  Even
• 14:06
  though
• 14:06
  I
• 14:06
  was
• 14:06
  an
• 14:06
  adult.
• 14:07
  I
• 14:07
  know,
• 14:07
  but
• 14:07
  it
• 14:07
  doesn't
• 14:08
  matter.
• 14:08
  I
• 14:08
  no
• 14:08
  longer
• 14:08
  lived
• 14:09
  in
• 14:09
  your
• 14:09
  house.
• 14:10
  It
• 14:10
  doesn't
• 14:10
  matter
• 14:11
  when
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  have
• 14:11
  even
• 14:11
  a
• 14:12
  guest
• 14:12
  and
• 14:12
  they
• 14:13
  go
• 14:13
  out
• 14:13
  and
• 14:13
  don't
• 14:13
  come
• 14:13
  back.
• 14:14
  Yeah,
• 14:14
  you
• 14:15
  don't.
• 14:15
  You
• 14:15
  worry.
• 14:16
  You
• 14:16
  worry.
• 14:17
  And
• 14:17
  I
• 14:17
  worried.
• 14:18
  And
• 14:18
  I
• 14:18
  was
• 14:18
  so
• 14:18
  angry
• 14:19
  at
• 14:19
  you.
• 14:20
  And
• 14:20
  I
• 14:20
  did
• 14:20
  lose
• 14:21
  it.
• 14:21
  I
• 14:21
  admit
• 14:21
  that.
• 14:22
  But
• 14:22
  that
• 14:22
  was
• 14:23
  two
• 14:23
  times
• 14:23
  in
• 14:24
  all.
• 14:24
  Of
• 14:24
  my
• 14:24
  whole
• 14:25
  life.
• 14:25
  Your
• 14:25
  whole
• 14:25
  life
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  I
• 14:26
  have
• 14:26
  yelled
• 14:27
  at
• 14:27
  you.
• 14:27
  Dad
• 14:27
  has
• 14:28
  never
• 14:28
  once
• 14:28
  raised
• 14:29
  his
• 14:29
  voice
• 14:29
  at
• 14:29
  me.
• 14:30
  When
• 14:30
  my
• 14:30
  dad
• 14:30
  is
• 14:30
  disappointed
• 14:31
  in
• 14:31
  me,
• 14:31
  he
• 14:31
  goes
• 14:32
  like
• 14:32
  this.
• 14:32
  Ugh,
• 14:33
  Skyler.
• 14:34
  And
• 14:35
  that's
• 14:35
  about
• 14:35
  as
• 14:35
  bad
• 14:35
  as
• 14:36
  it
• 14:36
  gets.
• 14:36
  Like,
• 14:37
  one
• 14:37
  time,
• 14:37
  I
• 14:37
  wanted
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  be
• 14:38
  a
• 14:38
  fashion
• 14:38
  designer,
• 14:39
  so
• 14:39
  I
• 14:40
  cut
• 14:40
  up
• 14:40
  a
• 14:40
  bunch
• 14:40
  of
• 14:40
  his
• 14:40
  ties.
• 14:41
  I
• 14:41
  remember
• 14:41
  that.
• 14:42
  And
• 14:42
  I
• 14:42
  sewed
• 14:42
  them
• 14:42
  onto
• 14:43
  my
• 14:43
  American
• 14:43
  Apparel
• 14:43
  tube
• 14:44
  dress.
• 14:45
  And
• 14:45
  I
• 14:45
  remember
• 14:45
  that,
• 14:46
  yes,
• 14:47
  he
• 14:47
  was
• 14:47
  mad,
• 14:48
  but
• 14:48
  all
• 14:48
  I
• 14:48
  got
• 14:48
  was
• 14:49
  an
• 14:49
  oh,
• 14:50
  Skyler.
• 14:51
  Those
• 14:51
  were
• 14:51
  such
• 14:52
  expensive
• 14:52
  ties
• 14:53
  that
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  cut
• 14:54
  up.
• 14:54
  I
• 14:54
  had
• 14:54
  no
• 14:54
  idea.
• 14:54
  Yeah,
• 14:55
  they
• 14:55
  were
• 14:55
  designer
• 14:56
  ties.
• 14:56
  They
• 14:56
  were.
• 14:57
  To
• 14:57
  me.
• 14:57
  Your
• 14:58
  closet
• 14:58
  was
• 14:58
  mood
• 14:59
  fabrics.
• 15:00
  No.
• 15:01
  No.
• 15:01
  Oh,
• 15:02
  God.
• 15:02
  Okay.
• 15:03
  No.
• 15:03
  Yeah,
• 15:03
  you.
• 15:04
  You
• 15:04
  did
• 15:04
  come
• 15:05
  up
• 15:05
  in
• 15:05
  a
• 15:05
  quieter
• 15:06
  house.
• 15:06
  Yes,
• 15:07
  There
• 15:07
  wasn't,
• 15:07
  but.
• 15:08
  Okay.
• 15:09
  Is
• 15:09
  that
• 15:09
  the
• 15:09
  end
• 15:09
  of
• 15:09
  the.
• 15:10
  That's
• 15:10
  the
• 15:10
  manifesto.
• 15:11
  And
• 15:11
  you
• 15:11
  like
• 15:11
  the
• 15:11
  manifesto?
• 15:12
  I
• 15:12
  like
• 15:12
  elements
• 15:13
  of
• 15:13
  the
• 15:13
  manifesto.
• 15:14
  I
• 15:14
  think
• 15:14
  some
• 15:14
  parts
• 15:14
  of
• 15:14
  the
• 15:15
  manifesto
• 15:15
  are
• 15:15
  weird
• 15:16
  and
• 15:16
  vague
• 15:16
  and
• 15:17
  again,
• 15:17
  like,
• 15:17
  I
• 15:18
  prefer
• 15:18
  actionable
• 15:19
  steps,
• 15:19
  practical
• 15:20
  application.
• 15:21
  And
• 15:22
  a
• 15:22
  lot
• 15:22
  of
• 15:22
  this
• 15:23
  has
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  do
• 15:23
  with
• 15:24
  looking
• 15:24
  inward
• 15:25
  and
• 15:25
  reflecting,
• 15:27
  which
• 15:27
  is
• 15:27
  valuable.
• 15:29
  Yes.
• 15:29
  What
• 15:30
  do
• 15:30
  I
• 15:30
  do
• 15:30
  with
• 15:30
  that?
• 15:31
  Well,
• 15:31
  okay,
• 15:32
  so
• 15:32
  they
• 15:32
  talk
• 15:32
  about
• 15:33
  how
• 15:33
  do
• 15:33
  you
• 15:34
  break
• 15:34
  the
• 15:35
  cycle
• 15:35
  of
• 15:36
  reactivity,
• 15:37
  which
• 15:37
  is
• 15:37
  overreacting.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:39
  they
• 15:40
  talk
• 15:40
  about,
• 15:41
  keep
• 15:41
  your
• 15:41
  cool
• 15:42
  by
• 15:42
  being
• 15:43
  more
• 15:43
  mindful.
• 15:45
  And
• 15:45
  they
• 15:45
  say
• 15:46
  our
• 15:46
  stress
• 15:46
  response
• 15:47
  is
• 15:47
  wired
• 15:48
  to
• 15:48
  react
• 15:48
  next
• 15:48
  negatively
• 15:49
  to
• 15:49
  parenting
• 15:50
  challenges.
• 15:50
  Like,
• 15:51
  if
• 15:51
  your
• 15:51
  child
• 15:51
  is
• 15:51
  having
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  tantrum,
• 15:53
  you're
• 15:53
  gonna
• 15:53
  have
• 15:53
  a
• 15:53
  very
• 15:54
  negative
• 15:54
  response,
• 15:54
  most
• 15:55
  likely.
• 15:55
  Or
• 15:55
  crying,
• 15:56
  most
• 15:56
  likely.
• 15:57
  But
• 15:57
  if
• 15:57
  we
• 15:58
  learn
• 15:58
  to
• 15:58
  become
• 15:58
  more
• 15:59
  mindful
• 15:59
  through
• 16:00
  meditation,
• 16:01
  you
• 16:01
  can
• 16:01
  just
• 16:02
  be
• 16:02
  present
• 16:02
  in
• 16:03
  those
• 16:03
  moments.
• 16:04
  You
• 16:04
  can
• 16:04
  be
• 16:04
  non
• 16:05
  reactive,
• 16:05
  less
• 16:06
  judgmental,
• 16:07
  and
• 16:07
  more
• 16:07
  curious
• 16:08
  about
• 16:09
  why
• 16:09
  is
• 16:09
  he
• 16:09
  crying
• 16:11
  but
• 16:12
  not
• 16:12
  upset.
• 16:14
  So
• 16:14
  that's
• 16:15
  really
• 16:16
  what
• 16:16
  they're
• 16:16
  talking
• 16:16
  about
• 16:17
  with
• 16:17
  mindfulness.
• 16:19
  And
• 16:19
  the
• 16:19
  chapter
• 16:20
  at
• 16:20
  the
• 16:21
  beginning
• 16:21
  teaches
• 16:21
  you
• 16:22
  there
• 16:22
  are
• 16:23
  exercises
• 16:23
  in
• 16:24
  meditation,
• 16:24
  how
• 16:25
  to
• 16:25
  become
• 16:25
  more
• 16:25
  mindful,
• 16:27
  more
• 16:28
  grounded
• 16:28
  in
• 16:28
  your
• 16:28
  body.
• 16:29
  If
• 16:30
  you
• 16:30
  want
• 16:30
  to
• 16:30
  explore
• 16:30
  meditation,
• 16:31
  people
• 16:31
  like
• 16:32
  that
• 16:32
  guy
• 16:32
  Joe
• 16:33
  Espinoza,
• 16:34
  don't
• 16:34
  know
• 16:35
  who.
• 16:35
  I
• 16:35
  think
• 16:35
  that's
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  only
• 16:36
  person
• 16:36
  I
• 16:37
  hear
• 16:37
  anybody
• 16:37
  talk
• 16:37
  about
• 16:38
  when
• 16:38
  it
• 16:38
  comes
• 16:38
  to
• 16:38
  meditation.
• 16:39
  And
• 16:39
  it
• 16:39
  sounds
• 16:39
  like
• 16:39
  what
• 16:40
  he
• 16:40
  does
• 16:40
  is
• 16:40
  he
• 16:40
  gives
• 16:41
  you
• 16:41
  like
• 16:41
  one
• 16:42
  minute
• 16:42
  practices,
• 16:43
  five
• 16:43
  minute
• 16:43
  practices,
• 16:43
  and
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  sort
• 16:44
  of
• 16:44
  build.
• 16:45
  Okay.
• 16:45
  And
• 16:45
  people
• 16:45
  swear
• 16:46
  by
• 16:46
  it.
• 16:46
  Okay,
• 16:47
  people.
• 16:47
  Not
• 16:48
  me,
• 16:48
  but
• 16:49
  people.
• 16:49
  Maybe
• 16:50
  that
• 16:50
  would
• 16:50
  be
• 16:50
  another
• 16:50
  place
• 16:51
  to
• 16:51
  look
• 16:51
  for
• 16:51
  help
• 16:51
  about
• 16:53
  meditation
• 16:53
  and
• 16:54
  that
• 16:54
  sort
• 16:54
  of
• 16:54
  thing.
• 16:55
  And
• 16:55
  you
• 16:55
  laughed
• 16:56
  at
• 16:56
  the
• 16:56
  eating
• 16:57
  the
• 16:57
  raisin
• 16:58
  exercise.
• 16:58
  Yeah.
• 16:59
  What?
• 16:59
  So
• 17:00
  there's
• 17:00
  an
• 17:00
  exercise
• 17:01
  where
• 17:01
  you're
• 17:01
  supposed
• 17:01
  to
• 17:01
  eat
• 17:02
  a
• 17:02
  raisin,
• 17:02
  but
• 17:03
  you're
• 17:03
  not
• 17:03
  supposed
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  eat
• 17:04
  the
• 17:04
  raisin,
• 17:04
  you're
• 17:05
  supposed
• 17:05
  to
• 17:05
  touch
• 17:05
  the
• 17:06
  raisin,
• 17:06
  examine
• 17:07
  the
• 17:08
  raisin,
• 17:08
  smell
• 17:09
  the
• 17:09
  raisin,
• 17:10
  feel
• 17:11
  the
• 17:11
  raisin,
• 17:12
  be.
• 17:12
  The
• 17:12
  raisin,
• 17:13
  be
• 17:13
  present
• 17:14
  with
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  raisin
• 17:15
  before
• 17:16
  you
• 17:16
  eat
• 17:16
  it.
• 17:16
  So
• 17:17
  that's
• 17:17
  like,
• 17:18
  that's
• 17:18
  building
• 17:18
  your
• 17:19
  mindfulness.
• 17:20
  That's
• 17:20
  right.
• 17:21
  Being
• 17:21
  present.
• 17:23
  Okay.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:24
  then.
• 17:26
  All
• 17:27
  right,
• 17:27
  so
• 17:27
  then
• 17:27
  the
• 17:27
  next
• 17:28
  thing
• 17:28
  we
• 17:28
  get
• 17:28
  into
• 17:29
  is
• 17:29
  how
• 17:29
  can
• 17:30
  we
• 17:30
  disarm
• 17:31
  the
• 17:31
  things
• 17:31
  that
• 17:32
  trigger
• 17:32
  us?
• 17:33
  Okay.
• 17:34
  And
• 17:34
  we
• 17:34
  can
• 17:35
  do
• 17:35
  this
• 17:35
  through
• 17:36
  journaling,
• 17:38
  exercising,
• 17:39
  meditation,
• 17:40
  sleeping,
• 17:41
  make
• 17:41
  sure
• 17:41
  you
• 17:41
  get
• 17:42
  enough
• 17:42
  sleep.
• 17:42
  Being
• 17:43
  around
• 17:43
  friends
• 17:43
  and
• 17:43
  family.
• 17:44
  I
• 17:44
  love
• 17:44
  that.
• 17:46
  Fill
• 17:46
  your
• 17:46
  cup,
• 17:46
  Fill
• 17:47
  your
• 17:47
  cup.
• 17:47
  Step
• 17:47
  away,
• 17:48
  self
• 17:48
  talk,
• 17:49
  dancing,
• 17:50
  shaking
• 17:50
  it
• 17:50
  out.
• 17:51
  So
• 17:51
  then
• 17:52
  there's
• 17:52
  an
• 17:52
  exercise
• 17:53
  called
• 17:53
  how
• 17:54
  were
• 17:54
  you
• 17:54
  parented?
• 17:55
  And
• 17:56
  okay,
• 17:56
  this
• 17:56
  is
• 17:56
  on
• 17:57
  page
• 17:57
  37.
• 17:57
  I
• 17:58
  want
• 17:58
  to
• 17:58
  go
• 17:58
  to
• 17:58
  that.
• 17:59
  Because
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  made
• 18:00
  a
• 18:00
  note
• 18:01
  that
• 18:01
  you
• 18:01
  were
• 18:02
  going
• 18:02
  to
• 18:02
  cut
• 18:02
  this
• 18:02
  out
• 18:03
  and
• 18:03
  I
• 18:03
  didn't.
• 18:04
  I
• 18:04
  forgot.
• 18:05
  You
• 18:05
  forgot.
• 18:05
  Okay.
• 18:06
  And
• 18:06
  you
• 18:07
  said
• 18:07
  that
• 18:07
  you're
• 18:07
  going
• 18:07
  to
• 18:08
  cut
• 18:08
  it
• 18:08
  out.
• 18:08
  And
• 18:08
  I,
• 18:09
  I
• 18:09
  was
• 18:09
  reading
• 18:10
  it
• 18:10
  and
• 18:10
  it's
• 18:10
  like,
• 18:11
  it's
• 18:11
  like
• 18:12
  you
• 18:12
  are
• 18:12
  examining
• 18:13
  how
• 18:14
  you
• 18:14
  were
• 18:14
  parented.
• 18:15
  And
• 18:15
  I
• 18:15
  guess
• 18:15
  it's
• 18:16
  like,
• 18:17
  what
• 18:17
  about
• 18:17
  your
• 18:18
  parenting
• 18:18
  maybe
• 18:19
  causes
• 18:20
  you
• 18:20
  to
• 18:20
  be
• 18:20
  triggered?
• 18:21
  And
• 18:21
  how
• 18:21
  will
• 18:21
  you
• 18:22
  do
• 18:22
  things
• 18:22
  differently
• 18:23
  with
• 18:23
  your
• 18:23
  own
• 18:23
  child?
• 18:24
  And
• 18:25
  like,
• 18:25
  things
• 18:25
  like,
• 18:25
  you
• 18:26
  know,
• 18:26
  let's
• 18:27
  see,
• 18:27
  how
• 18:27
  did
• 18:27
  you
• 18:28
  get
• 18:28
  along
• 18:28
  with
• 18:28
  your
• 18:28
  parents?
• 18:29
  How
• 18:29
  did
• 18:30
  your
• 18:30
  relationship
• 18:31
  shift
• 18:31
  over
• 18:31
  time?
• 18:32
  Did
• 18:32
  you
• 18:32
  ever
• 18:33
  feel
• 18:33
  rejected
• 18:34
  or
• 18:34
  threatened
• 18:34
  by
• 18:35
  your
• 18:35
  parents?
• 18:36
  And
• 18:36
  I
• 18:36
  mean,
• 18:36
  you
• 18:37
  know,
• 18:37
  I
• 18:37
  think
• 18:37
  if
• 18:37
  you
• 18:38
  did
• 18:38
  have
• 18:38
  a
• 18:38
  tough
• 18:39
  experience
• 18:39
  with
• 18:40
  your
• 18:41
  own
• 18:41
  parents,
• 18:41
  I
• 18:42
  think
• 18:42
  that
• 18:42
  is
• 18:42
  worth
• 18:42
  exploring.
• 18:44
  How
• 18:44
  did
• 18:44
  your
• 18:44
  parents
• 18:45
  discipline
• 18:45
  you?
• 18:46
  How
• 18:46
  did
• 18:46
  you
• 18:46
  respond
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  that
• 18:47
  when
• 18:47
  you
• 18:48
  were
• 18:48
  young?
• 18:50
  How
• 18:51
  did
• 18:51
  your
• 18:51
  parents
• 18:51
  respond
• 18:52
  when
• 18:52
  you
• 18:52
  were
• 18:52
  Distressed
• 18:53
  or
• 18:53
  made
• 18:53
  mistakes.
• 18:54
  How
• 18:54
  did
• 18:54
  they
• 18:54
  make
• 18:55
  you
• 18:55
  feel?
• 18:56
  And
• 18:57
  on
• 18:57
  and
• 18:57
  on
• 18:58
  about
• 18:59
  what
• 18:59
  terrible
• 19:00
  parents
• 19:00
  you
• 19:00
  probably
• 19:00
  had.
• 19:02
  I
• 19:02
  did
• 19:02
  not
• 19:02
  have
• 19:03
  terrible
• 19:03
  parents.
• 19:03
  Well,
• 19:03
  I
• 19:04
  just
• 19:04
  want
• 19:04
  to
• 19:04
  ask
• 19:04
  you
• 19:04
  why
• 19:05
  you
• 19:05
  wanted
• 19:05
  to
• 19:06
  cut
• 19:06
  it
• 19:06
  out.
• 19:07
  Wanted
• 19:07
  to
• 19:08
  cut
• 19:08
  it
• 19:08
  out
• 19:08
  for
• 19:08
  the
• 19:08
  sake
• 19:09
  of
• 19:09
  others
• 19:09
  and
• 19:10
  not
• 19:10
  for
• 19:10
  me.
• 19:10
  Because
• 19:10
  I
• 19:11
  actually.
• 19:11
  If
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  wasn't
• 19:12
  a
• 19:12
  great
• 19:12
  parent,
• 19:12
  you
• 19:13
  could
• 19:13
  tell.
• 19:13
  No,
• 19:13
  teen,
• 19:14
  you
• 19:14
  were
• 19:14
  a
• 19:14
  great
• 19:14
  parent.
• 19:15
  You
• 19:15
  were
• 19:15
  a
• 19:15
  great
• 19:15
  parent,
• 19:15
  and
• 19:16
  so
• 19:16
  was
• 19:16
  dad.
• 19:16
  You
• 19:16
  were
• 19:16
  both
• 19:16
  very
• 19:17
  different
• 19:17
  parents.
• 19:18
  You
• 19:18
  were
• 19:18
  more
• 19:18
  hands
• 19:19
  on,
• 19:20
  and
• 19:20
  dad
• 19:21
  was
• 19:21
  more
• 19:21
  hands
• 19:22
  off.
• 19:23
  I
• 19:24
  feel
• 19:24
  like
• 19:24
  you
• 19:25
  met
• 19:26
  us
• 19:26
  where
• 19:26
  we
• 19:26
  were,
• 19:27
  and
• 19:27
  dad
• 19:28
  was
• 19:28
  sort
• 19:28
  of
• 19:28
  like,
• 19:29
  join
• 19:29
  me
• 19:29
  over
• 19:30
  here.
• 19:30
  You
• 19:31
  know,
• 19:31
  like,
• 19:31
  with
• 19:32
  my
• 19:32
  brother,
• 19:32
  my
• 19:33
  dad
• 19:33
  had
• 19:33
  sports
• 19:34
  with
• 19:34
  me,
• 19:34
  he
• 19:35
  had
• 19:35
  jazz.
• 19:36
  Right.
• 19:37
  So
• 19:38
  he
• 19:38
  would
• 19:38
  take
• 19:39
  me
• 19:39
  out
• 19:39
  to
• 19:39
  jazz
• 19:40
  clubs
• 19:40
  with
• 19:41
  him.
• 19:41
  And
• 19:42
  I
• 19:42
  loved
• 19:42
  it.
• 19:42
  It
• 19:43
  was
• 19:43
  our
• 19:43
  special
• 19:43
  time.
• 19:44
  I
• 19:44
  really
• 19:45
  enjoyed
• 19:45
  it.
• 19:45
  It
• 19:46
  was
• 19:46
  kind
• 19:46
  of
• 19:46
  crazy
• 19:46
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• 19:47
  I
• 19:47
  was
• 19:47
  like
• 19:47
  10
• 19:47
  or
• 19:47
  11
• 19:48
  at
• 19:48
  a
• 19:48
  jazz
• 19:49
  club,
• 19:49
  but
• 19:50
  it
• 19:50
  was
• 19:50
  amazing.
• 19:51
  Like,
• 19:51
  I
• 19:51
  looked
• 19:51
  forward
• 19:52
  to
• 19:52
  it
• 19:52
  all
• 19:52
  week.
• 19:53
  And
• 19:53
  you
• 19:54
  and
• 19:54
  I,
• 19:54
  I
• 19:54
  feel
• 19:54
  like
• 19:55
  we
• 19:55
  had,
• 19:55
  like,
• 19:55
  one
• 19:55
  or
• 19:55
  two
• 19:56
  tough
• 19:56
  years,
• 19:56
  but
• 19:56
  for
• 19:56
  the
• 19:57
  most
• 19:57
  part,
• 19:57
  we
• 19:57
  really,
• 19:57
  really
• 19:58
  got
• 19:58
  along.
• 19:59
  And
• 19:59
  I
• 20:00
  wanted
• 20:00
  to
• 20:00
  cut
• 20:00
  that
• 20:00
  out
• 20:00
  again
• 20:00
  for
• 20:01
  the
• 20:01
  sake
• 20:01
  of
• 20:01
  other
• 20:01
  people.
• 20:02
  I
• 20:02
  think
• 20:02
  for
• 20:02
  others,
• 20:03
  it
• 20:03
  would
• 20:03
  be
• 20:04
  worth
• 20:04
  it.
• 20:05
  Investigating.
• 20:05
  If
• 20:06
  there
• 20:06
  are
• 20:06
  consistent
• 20:07
  issues
• 20:07
  that
• 20:07
  you're
• 20:08
  seeing
• 20:08
  coming
• 20:08
  up
• 20:09
  with
• 20:09
  you
• 20:09
  and
• 20:10
  your
• 20:10
  child,
• 20:10
  it's
• 20:11
  worth
• 20:11
  investigating.
• 20:12
  Like,
• 20:12
  huh.
• 20:13
  Does
• 20:13
  this
• 20:13
  have
• 20:14
  anything
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  do
• 20:14
  with
• 20:15
  something
• 20:15
  I
• 20:15
  might
• 20:15
  have
• 20:16
  picked
• 20:16
  up
• 20:17
  from
• 20:17
  my
• 20:18
  own
• 20:18
  parents?
• 20:18
  Okay.
• 20:19
  Yeah.
• 20:19
  Okay.
• 20:19
  But
• 20:20
  don't
• 20:20
  worry,
• 20:20
  you
• 20:20
  guys
• 20:20
  were
• 20:21
  perfect.
• 20:21
  Thank
• 20:22
  you.
• 20:22
  I
• 20:22
  thought
• 20:23
  we
• 20:23
  were,
• 20:23
  but
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  just
• 20:24
  wanted
• 20:24
  to
• 20:24
  make
• 20:24
  sure
• 20:25
  you
• 20:25
  guys
• 20:25
  are.
• 20:25
  The
• 20:25
  perfect
• 20:25
  parents
• 20:26
  for
• 20:26
  me.
• 20:27
  You
• 20:27
  really
• 20:28
  were.
• 20:28
  Because
• 20:29
  you
• 20:29
  were
• 20:30
  permissive,
• 20:30
  which
• 20:31
  is
• 20:31
  what
• 20:31
  I
• 20:31
  needed
• 20:32
  to
• 20:32
  become
• 20:33
  myself.
• 20:34
  Right.
• 20:34
  I
• 20:35
  feel
• 20:35
  like
• 20:35
  had
• 20:35
  you
• 20:35
  guys
• 20:35
  been
• 20:36
  more
• 20:36
  restrictive,
• 20:37
  we
• 20:37
  would
• 20:37
  have
• 20:37
  fought
• 20:38
  more.
• 20:38
  Because
• 20:39
  I
• 20:40
  just.
• 20:40
  I
• 20:41
  really.
• 20:41
  I
• 20:41
  struggled
• 20:42
  with
• 20:42
  authority
• 20:42
  a
• 20:42
  lot
• 20:43
  as
• 20:43
  a
• 20:43
  kid,
• 20:43
  and
• 20:43
  I
• 20:44
  think
• 20:44
  you
• 20:44
  guys
• 20:44
  realize
• 20:45
  that
• 20:45
  pretty
• 20:45
  early.
• 20:45
  And
• 20:46
  we're
• 20:46
  like,
• 20:46
  the
• 20:47
  further
• 20:47
  we
• 20:47
  try
• 20:47
  and
• 20:48
  push
• 20:48
  her
• 20:48
  towards
• 20:48
  something,
• 20:49
  the
• 20:49
  harder
• 20:50
  she
• 20:50
  will
• 20:50
  push
• 20:50
  back.
• 20:51
  Right.
• 20:51
  So
• 20:52
  we're
• 20:52
  gonna
• 20:52
  let
• 20:52
  her
• 20:52
  discover
• 20:53
  things
• 20:53
  herself,
• 20:54
  and
• 20:54
  we'll
• 20:54
  be
• 20:54
  there
• 20:55
  if
• 20:55
  she
• 20:55
  needs
• 20:55
  us.
• 20:56
  But
• 20:56
  ultimately,
• 20:58
  I
• 20:58
  learn
• 20:59
  by
• 20:59
  doing.
• 21:00
  Yeah.
• 21:01
  You
• 21:01
  know,
• 21:01
  looking
• 21:02
  back,
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  feel
• 21:02
  I
• 21:03
  should
• 21:03
  have
• 21:03
  probably
• 21:04
  set
• 21:04
  more
• 21:04
  boundaries
• 21:05
  than
• 21:06
  I
• 21:06
  did.
• 21:07
  Well,
• 21:07
  that's
• 21:07
  a
• 21:07
  you
• 21:08
  thing.
• 21:09
  That's
• 21:09
  a
• 21:09
  me
• 21:09
  thing.
• 21:10
  I
• 21:10
  don't.
• 21:12
  Well,
• 21:12
  look,
• 21:13
  yeah,
• 21:13
  I
• 21:13
  should
• 21:13
  have
• 21:13
  been
• 21:14
  harder
• 21:14
  on
• 21:14
  you
• 21:14
  guys.
• 21:15
  I
• 21:15
  feel
• 21:15
  like
• 21:15
  I
• 21:15
  was
• 21:16
  so
• 21:16
  easy
• 21:17
  on
• 21:17
  you
• 21:17
  guys,
• 21:18
  and
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  just
• 21:20
  didn't
• 21:20
  have
• 21:20
  it.
• 21:21
  I
• 21:21
  don't
• 21:21
  know.
• 21:21
  I
• 21:22
  loved
• 21:22
  you
• 21:23
  so
• 21:23
  much,
• 21:23
  and
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  know
• 21:23
  that's
• 21:24
  not
• 21:24
  good.
• 21:25
  That's
• 21:26
  good.
• 21:26
  I
• 21:26
  loved
• 21:26
  you
• 21:27
  so
• 21:27
  much,
• 21:27
  but
• 21:27
  I
• 21:27
  didn't
• 21:28
  want
• 21:28
  you
• 21:28
  to
• 21:29
  suffer.
• 21:30
  But
• 21:30
  in
• 21:30
  any
• 21:30
  way,
• 21:31
  I
• 21:31
  felt
• 21:31
  like
• 21:31
  you
• 21:32
  guys
• 21:32
  were.
• 21:32
  You
• 21:32
  specifically
• 21:33
  were
• 21:33
  really
• 21:34
  in
• 21:34
  adjustment
• 21:35
  with
• 21:35
  Sam
• 21:36
  and
• 21:36
  I.
• 21:36
  You
• 21:37
  were
• 21:37
  flexible
• 21:37
  with
• 21:37
  us.
• 21:38
  You
• 21:38
  didn't
• 21:38
  have
• 21:38
  a
• 21:39
  rigid
• 21:39
  idea
• 21:39
  of
• 21:40
  what
• 21:40
  you
• 21:40
  expected
• 21:41
  of
• 21:41
  us,
• 21:42
  and
• 21:42
  you
• 21:42
  sort
• 21:42
  of
• 21:43
  took
• 21:43
  what
• 21:43
  we
• 21:43
  gave
• 21:43
  you
• 21:44
  and
• 21:45
  were
• 21:45
  willing
• 21:45
  to
• 21:46
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• 21:46
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• 21:46
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• 21:47
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• 21:47
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• 21:48
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• 21:48
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• 21:49
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• 21:49
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• 21:49
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• 21:49
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• 21:49
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• 21:49
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• 21:50
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• 21:50
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• 21:50
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• 21:50
  me,
• 21:50
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• 21:51
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• 21:51
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• 21:51
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• 21:51
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• 21:52
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• 21:53
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• 21:54
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• 21:54
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• 21:54
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• 21:54
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• 21:55
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• 21:55
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• 21:55
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• 21:56
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• 21:56
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• 21:57
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• 21:58
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• 21:58
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• 21:59
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  wonder
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  should
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  I
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  be
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  Should
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  be
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• 23:05
  them?
• 23:06
  Do
• 23:06
  I
• 23:06
  need
• 23:06
  to
• 23:07
  go
• 23:07
  to
• 23:07
  a
• 23:07
  specialist?
• 23:08
  Does
• 23:08
  he
• 23:08
  need
• 23:08
  to
• 23:08
  be
• 23:09
  tested?
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  mean,
• 23:09
  there's
• 23:10
  so
• 23:10
  much
• 23:10
  that
• 23:10
  you
• 23:11
  go
• 23:11
  through
• 23:11
  as
• 23:12
  your
• 23:12
  kids
• 23:12
  are
• 23:12
  growing
• 23:13
  up.
• 23:17
  But
• 23:18
  each
• 23:18
  time
• 23:18
  we
• 23:19
  read
• 23:19
  a
• 23:19
  parenting
• 23:20
  book,
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  learn
• 23:21
  more
• 23:21
  and
• 23:21
  I
• 23:21
  go,
• 23:22
  should
• 23:22
  I
• 23:22
  have
• 23:23
  done
• 23:23
  that?
• 23:23
  And
• 23:25
  yeah,
• 23:25
  but
• 23:25
  the
• 23:25
  mindfulness
• 23:26
  just,
• 23:26
  again,
• 23:28
  I
• 23:28
  think
• 23:28
  it
• 23:29
  for
• 23:29
  a
• 23:29
  lot,
• 23:29
  like
• 23:30
  you
• 23:30
  said,
• 23:30
  for
• 23:30
  a
• 23:30
  lot
• 23:30
  of
• 23:31
  people,
• 23:31
  it
• 23:31
  is
• 23:32
  worth
• 23:32
  looking
• 23:33
  at
• 23:33
  the
• 23:33
  way
• 23:33
  you
• 23:34
  were
• 23:34
  parented.
• 23:35
  How
• 23:35
  is
• 23:36
  it
• 23:36
  impacting
• 23:36
  you
• 23:37
  today
• 23:37
  in
• 23:37
  the
• 23:38
  way
• 23:38
  you're
• 23:38
  parenting
• 23:38
  your
• 23:39
  own
• 23:39
  children?
• 23:41
  And,
• 23:41
  you
• 23:42
  know,
• 23:42
  do
• 23:42
  you
• 23:42
  want
• 23:42
  to
• 23:43
  be
• 23:43
  the
• 23:44
  same
• 23:44
  way?
• 23:44
  Do
• 23:45
  you
• 23:45
  want
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  be
• 23:45
  different?
• 23:46
  I
• 23:47
  hope
• 23:47
  I
• 23:47
  can
• 23:47
  be
• 23:47
  similar.
• 23:48
  Okay.
• 23:49
  Like,
• 23:49
  I
• 23:49
  just,
• 23:49
  my
• 23:49
  baby
• 23:50
  is
• 23:50
  so
• 23:50
  young,
• 23:50
  I
• 23:51
  have
• 23:51
  no
• 23:51
  idea
• 23:51
  what
• 23:51
  she's
• 23:52
  going
• 23:52
  to
• 23:52
  be
• 23:52
  like.
• 23:52
  Right.
• 23:53
  But
• 23:53
  I
• 23:53
  hope
• 23:54
  I
• 23:54
  can
• 23:54
  be
• 23:54
  in
• 23:54
  adjustment
• 23:55
  with
• 23:55
  her
• 23:55
  the
• 23:55
  way
• 23:55
  that
• 23:56
  you
• 23:56
  were
• 23:56
  with
• 23:56
  me,
• 23:57
  where
• 23:57
  it's
• 23:57
  like,
• 23:58
  I'll
• 23:58
  see
• 23:58
  what
• 23:58
  she
• 23:58
  gives
• 23:59
  me
• 23:59
  and
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  will
• 24:00
  go
• 24:00
  with
• 24:01
  it.
• 24:01
  You
• 24:02
  know,
• 24:02
  like,
• 24:02
  I
• 24:02
  don't
• 24:02
  want
• 24:03
  to
• 24:03
  try
• 24:03
  and
• 24:03
  push
• 24:03
  her
• 24:04
  to
• 24:04
  be
• 24:04
  things
• 24:04
  that
• 24:04
  she's
• 24:05
  not.
• 24:05
  Right.
• 24:05
  I
• 24:06
  think
• 24:06
  that's
• 24:06
  kind
• 24:06
  of
• 24:06
  a
• 24:06
  Waste
• 24:06
  of
• 24:07
  energy.
• 24:08
  You
• 24:08
  know,
• 24:08
  if
• 24:08
  she's
• 24:08
  really
• 24:09
  interested
• 24:09
  in
• 24:09
  school
• 24:09
  and
• 24:10
  is
• 24:10
  really
• 24:10
  good
• 24:10
  in
• 24:10
  it,
• 24:11
  great.
• 24:11
  If
• 24:11
  she's
• 24:12
  really
• 24:12
  interested
• 24:12
  in
• 24:12
  something
• 24:13
  else,
• 24:13
  then
• 24:13
  I
• 24:14
  will
• 24:14
  absolutely
• 24:14
  support
• 24:15
  that.
• 24:15
  Right.
• 24:15
  Whatever
• 24:16
  it
• 24:16
  is.
• 24:16
  Right.
• 24:17
  I
• 24:17
  think
• 24:17
  that's.
• 24:17
  That's
• 24:18
  a
• 24:18
  good
• 24:18
  plan.
• 24:19
  I
• 24:19
  think
• 24:19
  that's
• 24:20
  a
• 24:20
  good
• 24:20
  plan.
• 24:20
  Because
• 24:20
  you
• 24:20
  don't
• 24:21
  know
• 24:21
  how
• 24:22
  you
• 24:22
  need
• 24:22
  to
• 24:22
  be
• 24:23
  until
• 24:23
  you
• 24:23
  get
• 24:23
  there
• 24:24
  and
• 24:25
  you
• 24:25
  see
• 24:25
  what's
• 24:26
  going
• 24:26
  on.
• 24:27
  But
• 24:28
  there
• 24:28
  were
• 24:28
  some
• 24:28
  interesting
• 24:29
  thoughts
• 24:30
  here.
• 24:31
  They
• 24:32
  talk
• 24:32
  about
• 24:33
  practicing
• 24:34
  and
• 24:34
  receiving
• 24:35
  loving
• 24:35
  kindness
• 24:36
  and
• 24:36
  compassion
• 24:37
  towards
• 24:37
  yourself.
• 24:38
  How
• 24:39
  we
• 24:39
  are
• 24:39
  so
• 24:39
  critical
• 24:40
  of
• 24:40
  ourselves
• 24:40
  and
• 24:41
  that
• 24:41
  when
• 24:41
  we
• 24:42
  have
• 24:42
  those
• 24:42
  voices
• 24:43
  in
• 24:44
  our
• 24:44
  minds
• 24:45
  that
• 24:45
  say,
• 24:46
  oh,
• 24:46
  you
• 24:46
  are
• 24:47
  so
• 24:47
  fat.
• 24:48
  You
• 24:48
  know,
• 24:48
  which
• 24:48
  I
• 24:49
  used
• 24:49
  to
• 24:49
  say
• 24:49
  to
• 24:49
  myself
• 24:50
  all
• 24:50
  the
• 24:50
  time,
• 24:50
  you
• 24:50
  are
• 24:50
  so
• 24:51
  fat,
• 24:51
  you
• 24:51
  look
• 24:51
  terrible.
• 24:53
  If
• 24:53
  I.
• 24:53
  You
• 24:53
  are
• 24:53
  so
• 24:54
  small.
• 24:54
  But
• 24:55
  I.
• 24:55
  But
• 24:55
  I've,
• 24:56
  you
• 24:56
  know,
• 24:56
  grow.
• 24:57
  You
• 24:57
  know,
• 24:57
  I've
• 24:57
  gone
• 24:58
  through
• 24:58
  periods
• 24:59
  of
• 25:00
  that,
• 25:00
  you
• 25:00
  know,
• 25:01
  feeling
• 25:01
  overweight
• 25:02
  or
• 25:02
  what?
• 25:02
  I'm
• 25:03
  just
• 25:03
  saying
• 25:03
  negative
• 25:04
  self
• 25:04
  talk.
• 25:04
  Yeah,
• 25:05
  what
• 25:05
  she
• 25:05
  says
• 25:06
  or
• 25:06
  he.
• 25:06
  We
• 25:06
  don't
• 25:06
  know.
• 25:07
  When
• 25:08
  you're
• 25:08
  saying
• 25:08
  things
• 25:08
  like
• 25:09
  that,
• 25:09
  you.
• 25:09
  Instead
• 25:10
  of
• 25:10
  saying
• 25:11
  mean
• 25:11
  things
• 25:11
  to
• 25:12
  yourself,
• 25:12
  you
• 25:12
  just
• 25:12
  say,
• 25:13
  I
• 25:13
  am
• 25:14
  having
• 25:14
  a
• 25:14
  thought
• 25:15
  that
• 25:15
  I
• 25:15
  am
• 25:15
  so
• 25:15
  fat
• 25:16
  as
• 25:16
  a.
• 25:17
  I
• 25:17
  don't
• 25:17
  know.
• 25:17
  I'm
• 25:18
  not
• 25:18
  sure
• 25:18
  if
• 25:18
  that
• 25:18
  helps.
• 25:20
  That's
• 25:20
  one
• 25:20
  thing
• 25:20
  you
• 25:20
  can
• 25:21
  do
• 25:21
  is.
• 25:21
  Just
• 25:21
  maybe
• 25:22
  that
• 25:22
  creates
• 25:22
  some
• 25:22
  distance.
• 25:23
  Yeah.
• 25:23
  I'm
• 25:23
  having
• 25:24
  this
• 25:24
  thought.
• 25:25
  As
• 25:25
  opposed
• 25:25
  to
• 25:26
  telling
• 25:26
  yourself
• 25:26
  you
• 25:26
  are.
• 25:27
  That
• 25:27
  I
• 25:28
  see.
• 25:28
  Okay.
• 25:28
  So
• 25:29
  instead
• 25:29
  of,
• 25:29
  like,
• 25:30
  taking
• 25:30
  it
• 25:31
  on
• 25:31
  as
• 25:31
  something
• 25:31
  you
• 25:32
  own,
• 25:32
  it's
• 25:33
  just
• 25:33
  something
• 25:33
  you
• 25:33
  are
• 25:33
  feeling
• 25:34
  like
• 25:34
  I'm
• 25:34
  having.
• 25:35
  You
• 25:35
  are
• 25:35
  not
• 25:35
  an
• 25:36
  asshole.
• 25:36
  You
• 25:36
  are
• 25:37
  being
• 25:37
  an
• 25:37
  asshole.
• 25:38
  Yes.
• 25:39
  Right.
• 25:39
  You're
• 25:39
  acting
• 25:40
  like
• 25:40
  an
• 25:40
  asshole,
• 25:41
  but
• 25:41
  not.
• 25:41
  You
• 25:41
  are
• 25:41
  an
• 25:42
  asshole.
• 25:42
  Yeah.
• 25:43
  Oh,
• 25:43
  is.
• 25:43
  Do
• 25:44
  we
• 25:44
  have
• 25:44
  to
• 25:44
  bleep
• 25:44
  out
• 25:44
  asshole?
• 25:45
  I
• 25:45
  don't
• 25:45
  know.
• 25:45
  I
• 25:45
  think
• 25:45
  that's
• 25:46
  for
• 25:46
  us
• 25:46
  to
• 25:46
  decide.
• 25:47
  I
• 25:47
  feel
• 25:47
  like
• 25:47
  maybe
• 25:47
  that's
• 25:48
  as
• 25:48
  crazy
• 25:48
  as
• 25:48
  we'll
• 25:48
  get.
• 25:49
  Okay.
• 25:49
  Okay.
• 25:50
  But
• 25:50
  anyway.
• 25:51
  Or
• 25:52
  the
• 25:52
  other
• 25:52
  thing,
• 25:53
  when
• 25:53
  you
• 25:53
  have
• 25:53
  a
• 25:53
  mean
• 25:54
  thought
• 25:54
  about
• 25:54
  yourself
• 25:55
  instead
• 25:55
  of
• 25:56
  realizing,
• 25:57
  thinking
• 25:58
  that
• 25:58
  you
• 25:58
  really
• 25:58
  are,
• 25:59
  whatever
• 25:59
  mean
• 26:00
  thing
• 26:00
  you're
• 26:00
  thinking,
• 26:01
  you
• 26:01
  go,
• 26:01
  hello,
• 26:02
  old
• 26:02
  pattern.
• 26:04
  That
• 26:04
  was
• 26:05
  funny.
• 26:05
  That
• 26:05
  was
• 26:05
  cute.
• 26:06
  That
• 26:06
  was
• 26:06
  cute.
• 26:07
  Yeah,
• 26:07
  that
• 26:07
  was
• 26:08
  cute.
• 26:08
  I
• 26:08
  liked
• 26:08
  that.
• 26:09
  It
• 26:09
  reminded
• 26:09
  me
• 26:09
  of
• 26:09
  Carrie
• 26:10
  Bradshaw
• 26:10
  when
• 26:11
  she
• 26:11
  went
• 26:11
  into
• 26:11
  her
• 26:11
  closet
• 26:12
  and
• 26:12
  would
• 26:12
  go,
• 26:12
  hello,
• 26:13
  Old
• 26:13
  friends.
• 26:14
  See
• 26:14
  her
• 26:14
  shoes.
• 26:15
  But
• 26:15
  anyway.
• 26:16
  And
• 26:16
  then
• 26:16
  they
• 26:17
  give
• 26:17
  you
• 26:17
  mantras
• 26:18
  that
• 26:18
  just
• 26:18
  help
• 26:19
  you
• 26:19
  become
• 26:19
  a
• 26:19
  little
• 26:19
  more
• 26:20
  patient
• 26:20
  with
• 26:20
  yourself.
• 26:21
  Like
• 26:22
  mantras
• 26:22
  like,
• 26:22
  just
• 26:23
  be
• 26:23
  kind
• 26:24
  or
• 26:24
  this
• 26:24
  will
• 26:24
  pass.
• 26:25
  Or
• 26:26
  when
• 26:26
  things
• 26:26
  get
• 26:26
  hard,
• 26:27
  just
• 26:27
  breathe.
• 26:28
  It
• 26:29
  is
• 26:29
  what
• 26:29
  it
• 26:29
  is.
• 26:30
  Do
• 26:31
  you
• 26:31
  have
• 26:31
  any
• 26:31
  mantras?
• 26:34
  I.
• 26:34
  I
• 26:34
  will
• 26:34
  say
• 26:35
  to
• 26:35
  myself
• 26:35
  when
• 26:35
  I
• 26:35
  get
• 26:36
  really
• 26:36
  nervous
• 26:37
  and
• 26:37
  I'll
• 26:37
  say,
• 26:38
  relax.
• 26:40
  Relax.
• 26:40
  That's
• 26:41
  sort
• 26:41
  of.
• 26:41
  Sometimes
• 26:42
  I
• 26:42
  think
• 26:42
  I
• 26:43
  actually
• 26:43
  took
• 26:43
  EST
• 26:44
  a
• 26:44
  hundred
• 26:44
  years
• 26:45
  ago.
• 26:45
  EST.
• 26:47
  Earhart,
• 26:48
  something.
• 26:49
  Training.
• 26:50
  It
• 26:50
  was
• 26:50
  big
• 26:51
  in,
• 26:51
  like,
• 26:51
  the
• 26:51
  70s.
• 26:52
  Okay.
• 26:53
  And
• 26:53
  they
• 26:53
  had
• 26:54
  a
• 26:54
  guy
• 26:55
  who
• 26:55
  was
• 26:56
  our
• 26:56
  leader,
• 26:57
  and
• 26:57
  he
• 26:57
  would
• 26:58
  lead
• 26:58
  us
• 26:58
  in
• 26:58
  meditations,
• 26:59
  and
• 26:59
  he
• 26:59
  kept
• 27:00
  going,
• 27:01
  relax,
• 27:03
  relax.
• 27:04
  That's
• 27:04
  how
• 27:04
  he
• 27:04
  did
• 27:04
  it.
• 27:05
  Relax.
• 27:06
  In
• 27:06
  this
• 27:07
  funny
• 27:07
  voice.
• 27:08
  And
• 27:08
  then
• 27:08
  somehow
• 27:09
  I
• 27:09
  remember
• 27:09
  that
• 27:10
  when
• 27:10
  I
• 27:10
  get
• 27:10
  all
• 27:11
  worked
• 27:11
  up
• 27:11
  and
• 27:11
  I
• 27:12
  think,
• 27:12
  relax.
• 27:14
  Just
• 27:14
  like
• 27:14
  that.
• 27:15
  And
• 27:15
  it
• 27:15
  kind
• 27:16
  of
• 27:16
  goes,
• 27:16
  okay.
• 27:18
  Calms
• 27:18
  me
• 27:19
  down.
• 27:19
  It
• 27:19
  was
• 27:19
  something
• 27:20
  from
• 27:20
  100
• 27:20
  years
• 27:21
  ago.
• 27:21
  Funny,
• 27:22
  anyway.
• 27:22
  Crazy.
• 27:24
  Okay.
• 27:24
  But
• 27:25
  so
• 27:25
  he's.
• 27:26
  She's.
• 27:26
  She.
• 27:27
  Or
• 27:27
  he
• 27:27
  talks
• 27:27
  about
• 27:28
  cultivating
• 27:29
  an
• 27:29
  inner
• 27:29
  voice
• 27:30
  of
• 27:30
  loving
• 27:31
  kindness
• 27:32
  that
• 27:32
  if
• 27:33
  we
• 27:33
  have
• 27:33
  that
• 27:33
  voice
• 27:34
  for
• 27:34
  ourselves,
• 27:34
  well,
• 27:35
  it
• 27:35
  will
• 27:35
  improve
• 27:35
  our
• 27:35
  relationship
• 27:36
  with
• 27:36
  our
• 27:36
  children.
• 27:38
  Okay.
• 27:38
  And
• 27:38
  then
• 27:39
  now
• 27:39
  taking
• 27:39
  care
• 27:39
  of
• 27:40
  difficult
• 27:40
  feelings.
• 27:41
  That's
• 27:41
  another
• 27:41
  thing.
• 27:42
  Yes.
• 27:42
  She
• 27:43
  talks
• 27:43
  about
• 27:43
  they.
• 27:44
  He.
• 27:44
  We
• 27:44
  don't
• 27:45
  know.
• 27:45
  I
• 27:45
  really
• 27:46
  wish
• 27:46
  we
• 27:46
  had
• 27:47
  an
• 27:47
  answer,
• 27:48
  but
• 27:49
  whatever.
• 27:49
  Okay.
• 27:50
  They
• 27:51
  discuss
• 27:51
  this
• 27:51
  idea
• 27:52
  of
• 27:52
  an
• 27:52
  anger
• 27:53
  refractory
• 27:54
  period
• 27:54
  when
• 27:54
  all
• 27:55
  the
• 27:55
  information
• 27:55
  that
• 27:56
  we
• 27:56
  take
• 27:56
  in
• 27:56
  confirms
• 27:57
  that
• 27:57
  we
• 27:58
  are
• 27:58
  angry
• 27:58
  and
• 27:59
  justifies
• 27:59
  our
• 28:00
  anger,
• 28:00
  and
• 28:00
  it
• 28:01
  amps
• 28:01
  us
• 28:01
  up.
• 28:02
  And
• 28:02
  I
• 28:02
  like
• 28:03
  putting
• 28:03
  that
• 28:03
  feeling
• 28:04
  to
• 28:04
  words.
• 28:04
  I've
• 28:05
  never
• 28:05
  heard
• 28:05
  it.
• 28:06
  Mm.
• 28:07
  Discussed
• 28:08
  that
• 28:08
  way,
• 28:08
  but
• 28:09
  I.
• 28:09
  It
• 28:09
  makes
• 28:09
  total
• 28:10
  sense
• 28:10
  to
• 28:10
  me.
• 28:10
  It
• 28:11
  makes
• 28:11
  me
• 28:11
  think
• 28:11
  of
• 28:12
  an
• 28:12
  anger
• 28:12
  kaleidoscope.
• 28:13
  Okay.
• 28:14
  You
• 28:14
  know,
• 28:15
  where
• 28:15
  it's
• 28:15
  like,
• 28:15
  when
• 28:16
  you're
• 28:16
  pissed
• 28:16
  about
• 28:16
  something,
• 28:17
  it's
• 28:18
  just
• 28:18
  in
• 28:18
  your
• 28:18
  mind.
• 28:19
  You're
• 28:19
  just
• 28:19
  going
• 28:19
  like,
• 28:20
  somebody
• 28:20
  says
• 28:20
  something
• 28:20
  to
• 28:21
  you
• 28:21
  on
• 28:21
  the
• 28:21
  street,
• 28:21
  and
• 28:22
  you're
• 28:22
  like.
• 28:22
  You're
• 28:22
  rehearsing
• 28:23
  ways
• 28:23
  you
• 28:23
  could
• 28:23
  have
• 28:23
  handled
• 28:24
  it
• 28:24
  differently.
• 28:24
  It's
• 28:25
  like,
• 28:25
  oh,
• 28:25
  I
• 28:25
  was.
• 28:26
  I've
• 28:26
  been
• 28:27
  wronged.
• 28:27
  Right.
• 28:28
  And
• 28:28
  I
• 28:28
  was
• 28:28
  like
• 28:29
  that.
• 28:29
  I
• 28:29
  like
• 28:29
  that
• 28:29
  idea.
• 28:30
  Well,
• 28:31
  but
• 28:31
  they
• 28:31
  say
• 28:32
  that
• 28:32
  when
• 28:32
  you
• 28:32
  have
• 28:33
  those
• 28:33
  ideas,
• 28:34
  there
• 28:34
  are
• 28:35
  things
• 28:35
  that
• 28:35
  most
• 28:36
  people
• 28:36
  do.
• 28:38
  We
• 28:39
  sort
• 28:39
  of
• 28:39
  reject
• 28:40
  them.
• 28:40
  And
• 28:41
  he
• 28:41
  calls
• 28:41
  them
• 28:42
  blocking
• 28:43
  or
• 28:43
  flooding.
• 28:44
  Yeah.
• 28:44
  You
• 28:45
  know,
• 28:45
  so
• 28:46
  these
• 28:46
  are
• 28:46
  responses.
• 28:47
  Or
• 28:47
  she
• 28:48
  or
• 28:48
  what?
• 28:48
  Or
• 28:49
  she.
• 28:49
  Or
• 28:49
  she.
• 28:50
  Or
• 28:50
  she.
• 28:50
  Right.
• 28:52
  But
• 28:53
  that,
• 28:53
  you
• 28:53
  know,
• 28:53
  things
• 28:53
  like,
• 28:54
  you
• 28:54
  know,
• 28:54
  you
• 28:54
  might
• 28:55
  drink,
• 28:56
  you
• 28:56
  might
• 28:57
  go
• 28:57
  shopping,
• 28:58
  you
• 28:58
  might
• 28:59
  do
• 28:59
  things
• 28:59
  to
• 28:59
  sort
• 28:59
  of
• 29:01
  hide
• 29:01
  those
• 29:01
  feelings
• 29:02
  that
• 29:02
  you're
• 29:02
  really
• 29:02
  having.
• 29:03
  And
• 29:03
  that.
• 29:04
  That's
• 29:04
  not
• 29:04
  good.
• 29:04
  And
• 29:05
  that
• 29:05
  what
• 29:05
  we
• 29:05
  need
• 29:05
  to
• 29:06
  do
• 29:06
  is
• 29:06
  move
• 29:07
  through
• 29:08
  hard
• 29:08
  feelings.
• 29:09
  We
• 29:09
  need
• 29:09
  to
• 29:09
  let
• 29:09
  them
• 29:10
  into
• 29:10
  our
• 29:11
  bodies
• 29:11
  and
• 29:12
  feel
• 29:12
  them.
• 29:13
  And
• 29:13
  the
• 29:13
  way
• 29:14
  you
• 29:14
  can
• 29:14
  feel
• 29:14
  them
• 29:15
  is
• 29:15
  through
• 29:16
  the
• 29:16
  rain
• 29:17
  system,
• 29:17
  which
• 29:17
  is
• 29:18
  recognize
• 29:19
  what
• 29:19
  you're
• 29:19
  feeling,
• 29:20
  accept
• 29:21
  what
• 29:21
  you're
• 29:21
  feeling,
• 29:22
  kind
• 29:22
  of
• 29:22
  investigate
• 29:23
  it
• 29:24
  and
• 29:24
  nurture
• 29:24
  it.
• 29:25
  Like,
• 29:25
  okay,
• 29:26
  angry.
• 29:27
  I'm
• 29:27
  angry.
• 29:28
  I
• 29:28
  guess
• 29:29
  I
• 29:29
  like
• 29:29
  that
• 29:29
  one
• 29:30
  line,
• 29:30
  too.
• 29:31
  When
• 29:31
  you
• 29:31
  squeeze
• 29:32
  an
• 29:32
  orange,
• 29:32
  orange
• 29:33
  juice
• 29:33
  comes
• 29:34
  out.
• 29:34
  When
• 29:34
  you
• 29:35
  are
• 29:35
  squeezed,
• 29:36
  what's
• 29:36
  inside
• 29:37
  will
• 29:37
  come
• 29:38
  out.
• 29:38
  So
• 29:39
  in
• 29:39
  these
• 29:39
  stressful
• 29:39
  situations,
• 29:40
  when
• 29:40
  you
• 29:41
  are
• 29:41
  being
• 29:41
  squeezed,
• 29:42
  the
• 29:43
  feelings
• 29:43
  you
• 29:43
  are
• 29:43
  Feeling
• 29:44
  will
• 29:44
  ultimately
• 29:45
  come
• 29:46
  out.
• 29:46
  Right.
• 29:47
  And
• 29:47
  I
• 29:47
  liked
• 29:47
  that.
• 29:47
  I
• 29:48
  like
• 29:48
  that
• 29:48
  imagery.
• 29:49
  I
• 29:49
  like
• 29:50
  the
• 29:50
  picture
• 29:50
  that.
• 29:50
  That
• 29:51
  painted.
• 29:51
  So
• 29:52
  if
• 29:52
  you
• 29:52
  really
• 29:52
  are
• 29:52
  angry
• 29:53
  and
• 29:53
  you're
• 29:53
  hiding
• 29:54
  it
• 29:54
  and
• 29:54
  suddenly
• 29:55
  you're
• 29:55
  under
• 29:55
  pressure,
• 29:56
  it's
• 29:56
  gonna
• 29:57
  come
• 29:57
  out.
• 29:57
  Y.
• 29:58
  That's
• 29:58
  why.
• 29:58
  Just
• 30:00
  not
• 30:00
  hiding
• 30:01
  it
• 30:01
  or
• 30:01
  blocking
• 30:02
  it
• 30:02
  or
• 30:02
  whatever.
• 30:03
  Just
• 30:04
  let
• 30:04
  it
• 30:04
  move
• 30:05
  through
• 30:05
  your
• 30:05
  body,
• 30:05
  whatever.
• 30:06
  So
• 30:06
  maybe
• 30:06
  it
• 30:07
  won't
• 30:07
  come
• 30:07
  out
• 30:07
  at
• 30:07
  the
• 30:08
  wrong
• 30:08
  time.
• 30:09
  Okay.
• 30:10
  I
• 30:10
  think
• 30:11
  that's
• 30:11
  good.
• 30:12
  And
• 30:12
  the
• 30:13
  author
• 30:13
  says
• 30:13
  when
• 30:14
  our
• 30:14
  child
• 30:14
  is
• 30:14
  crying,
• 30:15
  accept
• 30:16
  it.
• 30:16
  Because
• 30:16
  people
• 30:17
  need
• 30:17
  to
• 30:17
  cry.
• 30:18
  It's
• 30:18
  cathartic.
• 30:19
  So
• 30:19
  it's
• 30:20
  okay.
• 30:20
  Let
• 30:20
  them
• 30:20
  cry.
• 30:21
  Trying
• 30:21
  to
• 30:21
  solve
• 30:22
  it
• 30:22
  right
• 30:22
  away
• 30:22
  isn't
• 30:23
  always
• 30:23
  the
• 30:23
  best
• 30:24
  practice.
• 30:24
  Yeah,
• 30:24
  let
• 30:25
  them
• 30:25
  go
• 30:25
  through
• 30:25
  it.
• 30:25
  And
• 30:26
  same
• 30:26
  with
• 30:26
  a
• 30:26
  tantrum.
• 30:27
  Just
• 30:27
  sit
• 30:28
  with
• 30:28
  them
• 30:28
  and
• 30:29
  be
• 30:29
  silent
• 30:31
  and
• 30:31
  tell
• 30:31
  them,
• 30:32
  get
• 30:32
  it
• 30:32
  all
• 30:32
  out.
• 30:33
  If
• 30:33
  it's
• 30:33
  happening
• 30:34
  in
• 30:34
  the
• 30:34
  middle
• 30:34
  of
• 30:34
  a
• 30:35
  store
• 30:35
  or
• 30:35
  at
• 30:36
  a
• 30:36
  restaurant,
• 30:37
  get
• 30:38
  it
• 30:38
  all
• 30:38
  out.
• 30:39
  Get
• 30:39
  it
• 30:39
  out.
• 30:39
  I
• 30:39
  don't
• 30:40
  think.
• 30:40
  Or
• 30:40
  at
• 30:40
  per
• 30:41
  se
• 30:41
  have
• 30:42
  a
• 30:42
  meltdown.
• 30:44
  No,
• 30:44
  I
• 30:45
  mean,
• 30:45
  I
• 30:45
  think
• 30:45
  maybe
• 30:46
  get
• 30:46
  them
• 30:46
  out
• 30:46
  of
• 30:46
  there
• 30:46
  and
• 30:47
  let
• 30:47
  them
• 30:47
  get
• 30:47
  it
• 30:47
  all
• 30:48
  out,
• 30:48
  you
• 30:48
  know,
• 30:49
  and.
• 30:49
  But.
• 30:50
  And
• 30:50
  then
• 30:51
  hug
• 30:51
  it
• 30:51
  out
• 30:51
  afterwards.
• 30:52
  Yeah,
• 30:52
  that's.
• 30:52
  That's.
• 30:53
  That's
• 30:53
  sweet.
• 30:53
  That
• 30:54
  is
• 30:54
  sweet.
• 30:54
  I
• 30:54
  hope
• 30:54
  I
• 30:54
  can
• 30:55
  practice
• 30:55
  that.
• 30:56
  I
• 30:56
  also.
• 30:56
  It's
• 30:57
  hard
• 30:57
  though.
• 30:57
  It's
• 30:57
  like,
• 30:58
  I
• 30:58
  feel
• 30:58
  like
• 30:58
  when
• 30:59
  our
• 30:59
  kids
• 30:59
  are
• 30:59
  having
• 30:59
  a
• 31:00
  meltdown,
• 31:00
  particularly
• 31:01
  in
• 31:01
  public,
• 31:02
  it
• 31:02
  feels
• 31:03
  like
• 31:03
  a
• 31:03
  reflection
• 31:04
  of
• 31:04
  our
• 31:04
  parenting.
• 31:05
  Like
• 31:05
  we
• 31:05
  haven't
• 31:06
  done
• 31:06
  enough.
• 31:06
  When
• 31:06
  real
• 31:07
  kids
• 31:08
  cry,
• 31:08
  kids
• 31:09
  freak
• 31:09
  out.
• 31:10
  It's
• 31:10
  natural,
• 31:10
  it's
• 31:11
  normal,
• 31:11
  it's
• 31:12
  healthy.
• 31:13
  My
• 31:13
  grandmother
• 31:14
  in
• 31:14
  law
• 31:14
  asked
• 31:15
  me
• 31:15
  the
• 31:15
  other
• 31:15
  day,
• 31:16
  she's
• 31:16
  like,
• 31:16
  are
• 31:16
  you
• 31:16
  letting
• 31:17
  the
• 31:17
  baby
• 31:17
  cry
• 31:17
  enough?
• 31:18
  She
• 31:18
  needs
• 31:18
  to
• 31:19
  cry
• 31:19
  for
• 31:19
  her
• 31:19
  lungs.
• 31:20
  And
• 31:20
  I
• 31:20
  was
• 31:20
  like,
• 31:20
  really?
• 31:21
  What?
• 31:22
  Really?
• 31:22
  I
• 31:23
  guess,
• 31:23
  but
• 31:23
  maybe
• 31:23
  she's
• 31:24
  right.
• 31:24
  And
• 31:24
  I
• 31:24
  was
• 31:24
  like,
• 31:25
  maybe
• 31:25
  that's
• 31:25
  like
• 31:25
  old
• 31:25
  school
• 31:26
  wisdom.
• 31:26
  I
• 31:27
  don't
• 31:27
  know,
• 31:27
  but
• 31:27
  I
• 31:28
  don't
• 31:28
  know.
• 31:28
  I
• 31:28
  guess
• 31:28
  so
• 31:28
  for
• 31:29
  her
• 31:29
  lungs.
• 31:29
  Yeah,
• 31:30
  she's
• 31:30
  gonna
• 31:30
  develop
• 31:30
  her
• 31:31
  lungs.
• 31:31
  My
• 31:31
  child
• 31:31
  has
• 31:32
  very
• 31:32
  strong
• 31:32
  lungs.
• 31:32
  I
• 31:33
  know
• 31:33
  she
• 31:34
  howl
• 31:35
  right.
• 31:35
  But
• 31:36
  maybe.
• 31:36
  But
• 31:36
  I
• 31:36
  don't
• 31:37
  know
• 31:37
  with
• 31:37
  a
• 31:37
  little
• 31:37
  baby,
• 31:38
  if
• 31:38
  that's
• 31:39
  the
• 31:39
  right.
• 31:40
  With
• 31:40
  a
• 31:40
  little
• 31:40
  baby,
• 31:41
  a
• 31:41
  lot
• 31:41
  of
• 31:41
  times
• 31:41
  it
• 31:42
  can
• 31:42
  be
• 31:42
  solved.
• 31:43
  Well,
• 31:43
  I
• 31:43
  practice
• 31:43
  the
• 31:44
  pause,
• 31:44
  which
• 31:44
  we
• 31:45
  learned
• 31:45
  in
• 31:45
  another
• 31:45
  parenting
• 31:46
  book,
• 31:46
  right.
• 31:47
  Where
• 31:47
  you
• 31:47
  don't
• 31:47
  immediately
• 31:48
  intervene.
• 31:49
  You
• 31:49
  wait,
• 31:50
  you
• 31:50
  see
• 31:50
  if
• 31:51
  this
• 31:51
  is
• 31:51
  really
• 31:51
  something
• 31:52
  that
• 31:52
  like
• 31:53
  needs
• 31:53
  you
• 31:54
  to
• 31:54
  get
• 31:54
  involved
• 31:54
  in
• 31:55
  or
• 31:55
  if
• 31:55
  your
• 31:55
  child
• 31:56
  can
• 31:56
  soothe
• 31:56
  themselves
• 31:57
  and.
• 31:57
  And
• 31:58
  has
• 31:58
  she
• 31:58
  been
• 31:58
  soothing
• 31:58
  herself?
• 31:59
  Yeah,
• 31:59
  sometimes,
• 32:00
  not
• 32:00
  always.
• 32:01
  Like,
• 32:01
  if
• 32:01
  it
• 32:01
  goes
• 32:02
  on
• 32:02
  for.
• 32:02
  She
• 32:02
  has
• 32:02
  like
• 32:03
  two
• 32:03
  kinds
• 32:03
  of
• 32:03
  cries.
• 32:04
  One
• 32:04
  is
• 32:05
  literally
• 32:05
  just
• 32:05
  like
• 32:05
  a
• 32:06
  W
• 32:07
  where
• 32:07
  like,
• 32:07
  I'm
• 32:08
  like,
• 32:08
  you
• 32:08
  want
• 32:08
  my
• 32:08
  attention?
• 32:09
  What
• 32:09
  do
• 32:09
  you.
• 32:09
  What
• 32:09
  do
• 32:09
  you
• 32:09
  need
• 32:10
  and
• 32:10
  then
• 32:10
  she
• 32:10
  can
• 32:11
  like
• 32:11
  wail.
• 32:12
  And
• 32:12
  when
• 32:12
  she's
• 32:12
  wailing,
• 32:13
  I
• 32:13
  know
• 32:13
  she.
• 32:13
  Really,
• 32:14
  she
• 32:14
  has
• 32:15
  something
• 32:15
  she
• 32:15
  needs.
• 32:16
  Yeah.
• 32:16
  But
• 32:16
  when
• 32:16
  she's
• 32:17
  just
• 32:17
  going
• 32:17
  like,
• 32:19
  I'm.
• 32:19
  Like,
• 32:20
  girl,
• 32:21
  what
• 32:21
  do
• 32:21
  you
• 32:21
  need?
• 32:22
  Just
• 32:22
  let
• 32:23
  me
• 32:23
  know.
• 32:23
  Okay,
• 32:24
  well,
• 32:24
  that's
• 32:24
  interesting.
• 32:25
  So
• 32:25
  actually
• 32:25
  that
• 32:25
  could
• 32:26
  be
• 32:26
  good
• 32:26
  advice.
• 32:27
  Ask,
• 32:27
  ask
• 32:28
  your
• 32:28
  mother
• 32:28
  in
• 32:28
  law
• 32:30
  what
• 32:30
  she
• 32:30
  means
• 32:30
  by
• 32:31
  that.
• 32:31
  Like,
• 32:31
  well,
• 32:32
  my
• 32:32
  grandmother
• 32:33
  in
• 32:33
  law.
• 32:33
  Oh,
• 32:34
  it
• 32:34
  was
• 32:34
  your
• 32:34
  grandmother
• 32:35
  in
• 32:35
  law.
• 32:35
  I
• 32:35
  know
• 32:36
  who
• 32:36
  that
• 32:36
  was.
• 32:36
  Okay.
• 32:37
  Yeah,
• 32:37
  yeah,
• 32:37
  yeah.
• 32:37
  Ask
• 32:38
  her
• 32:38
  what
• 32:38
  she
• 32:38
  means
• 32:39
  by
• 32:39
  that.
• 32:39
  I
• 32:39
  will.
• 32:39
  She
• 32:40
  also,
• 32:40
  I
• 32:40
  think
• 32:40
  she
• 32:40
  was
• 32:40
  a.
• 32:40
  Teacher
• 32:41
  too
• 32:41
  for
• 32:41
  a
• 32:41
  while.
• 32:42
  We
• 32:42
  have
• 32:42
  so
• 32:42
  much
• 32:42
  education
• 32:43
  in
• 32:43
  our
• 32:43
  family.
• 32:44
  We
• 32:44
  do.
• 32:45
  It's
• 32:45
  great.
• 32:45
  It's
• 32:46
  great.
• 32:46
  It's
• 32:46
  great.
• 32:46
  I
• 32:47
  know.
• 32:47
  And
• 32:47
  even
• 32:48
  we
• 32:48
  have
• 32:48
  questions.
• 32:49
  Yeah,
• 32:49
  well,
• 32:50
  even.
• 32:50
  Just
• 32:50
  because
• 32:51
  you're
• 32:51
  an
• 32:51
  educator
• 32:52
  does
• 32:52
  not
• 32:52
  mean
• 32:52
  you
• 32:52
  know
• 32:52
  all
• 32:53
  the
• 32:53
  answers.
• 32:53
  I
• 32:54
  promise
• 32:54
  you
• 32:54
  that.
• 32:55
  Tell
• 32:56
  you
• 32:56
  that
• 32:56
  for
• 32:56
  free.
• 32:57
  No,
• 32:57
  Anyway.
• 32:59
  Okay,
• 32:59
  so
• 33:00
  now
• 33:01
  part
• 33:01
  two.
• 33:01
  This
• 33:01
  is
• 33:02
  the
• 33:02
  part
• 33:02
  we
• 33:02
  kind
• 33:02
  of
• 33:02
  like.
• 33:02
  Yes.
• 33:03
  This
• 33:03
  is
• 33:03
  the
• 33:03
  part
• 33:03
  we
• 33:04
  really
• 33:04
  both
• 33:04
  liked,
• 33:04
  which
• 33:04
  is.
• 33:05
  Okay,
• 33:05
  first
• 33:06
  of
• 33:06
  all,
• 33:06
  raising
• 33:07
  kind,
• 33:07
  confident
• 33:08
  kids,
• 33:08
  that's
• 33:08
  the
• 33:09
  air.
• 33:09
  That's
• 33:09
  the
• 33:09
  topic.
• 33:10
  And
• 33:10
  then
• 33:11
  I
• 33:11
  thought
• 33:11
  this
• 33:12
  was
• 33:12
  good.
• 33:12
  If
• 33:12
  your
• 33:12
  child
• 33:13
  comes
• 33:13
  to
• 33:13
  you
• 33:13
  with
• 33:13
  a
• 33:13
  crisis,
• 33:14
  you
• 33:14
  need
• 33:14
  to
• 33:14
  ask
• 33:15
  yourself,
• 33:15
  whose
• 33:16
  problem
• 33:16
  is
• 33:17
  this
• 33:17
  really?
• 33:17
  Is
• 33:17
  it
• 33:18
  their
• 33:18
  problem
• 33:19
  or
• 33:19
  is
• 33:19
  it
• 33:19
  my
• 33:20
  problem?
• 33:21
  And
• 33:21
  they
• 33:22
  say,
• 33:22
  you
• 33:23
  know,
• 33:23
  you
• 33:23
  don't
• 33:23
  have
• 33:23
  to
• 33:24
  solve
• 33:24
  all
• 33:24
  your
• 33:24
  child's
• 33:25
  problems.
• 33:26
  You
• 33:27
  should
• 33:27
  be
• 33:28
  thinking
• 33:28
  of
• 33:28
  yourself
• 33:28
  as
• 33:29
  a
• 33:29
  helper
• 33:30
  to
• 33:30
  your
• 33:30
  child
• 33:30
  when
• 33:31
  they
• 33:31
  have
• 33:31
  a
• 33:31
  problem.
• 33:32
  Not
• 33:33
  a
• 33:33
  fixer.
• 33:33
  Not
• 33:34
  a
• 33:34
  fixer.
• 33:35
  So
• 33:35
  you
• 33:36
  listen
• 33:37
  empathetically.
• 33:38
  And
• 33:38
  as
• 33:38
  you
• 33:39
  listen,
• 33:40
  if
• 33:40
  you
• 33:40
  find
• 33:40
  yourself
• 33:41
  becoming
• 33:42
  reactive,
• 33:43
  getting
• 33:44
  upset,
• 33:44
  or
• 33:45
  you
• 33:45
  know,
• 33:45
  just
• 33:45
  practice
• 33:46
  self
• 33:46
  compassion
• 33:47
  and
• 33:47
  let
• 33:47
  go
• 33:47
  of
• 33:48
  judgment.
• 33:49
  Which
• 33:49
  is
• 33:49
  like,
• 33:50
  okay,
• 33:50
  that's
• 33:51
  kind
• 33:51
  of
• 33:51
  hard.
• 33:51
  But
• 33:51
  yeah,
• 33:52
  okay,
• 33:52
  we'll
• 33:52
  try.
• 33:53
  Try.
• 33:54
  And
• 33:54
  then
• 33:54
  be
• 33:54
  present.
• 33:55
  Listen
• 33:56
  mindfully.
• 33:57
  So
• 33:57
  it's
• 33:57
  words
• 33:58
  like
• 33:58
  this
• 33:58
  that
• 33:58
  kind
• 33:59
  of
• 33:59
  make
• 33:59
  me.
• 33:59
  I'm
• 33:59
  like,
• 34:00
  what
• 34:00
  does
• 34:00
  this
• 34:00
  mean?
• 34:01
  I
• 34:01
  know,
• 34:02
  but
• 34:02
  I
• 34:02
  get
• 34:02
  it.
• 34:03
  Okay.
• 34:03
  Be
• 34:03
  present.
• 34:04
  Okay.
• 34:04
  Try
• 34:05
  to
• 34:05
  be
• 34:05
  mindful.
• 34:06
  Cultivate
• 34:06
  a
• 34:06
  connection
• 34:07
  with
• 34:08
  your
• 34:08
  child
• 34:08
  so
• 34:08
  they
• 34:08
  feel
• 34:09
  heard.
• 34:09
  Let
• 34:10
  them
• 34:10
  say
• 34:10
  what
• 34:10
  they
• 34:10
  feel.
• 34:10
  You
• 34:10
  are
• 34:10
  seen,
• 34:11
  you
• 34:12
  are
• 34:12
  heard.
• 34:13
  Don't
• 34:13
  you
• 34:14
  put
• 34:14
  your
• 34:14
  phone
• 34:14
  away.
• 34:15
  Focus
• 34:15
  your
• 34:15
  attention
• 34:16
  on
• 34:16
  them.
• 34:16
  Don't
• 34:17
  interrupt
• 34:17
  them.
• 34:19
  Don't
• 34:19
  be
• 34:19
  judgmental.
• 34:20
  Don't
• 34:20
  offer
• 34:20
  solutions.
• 34:21
  Just
• 34:22
  listen
• 34:22
  and
• 34:22
  maybe
• 34:23
  reflect
• 34:23
  back
• 34:23
  what
• 34:24
  they
• 34:24
  say
• 34:26
  and
• 34:26
  then
• 34:26
  see
• 34:26
  if
• 34:27
  you
• 34:27
  can
• 34:27
  allow
• 34:27
  the
• 34:27
  child
• 34:28
  to
• 34:28
  work
• 34:29
  the
• 34:29
  problem
• 34:29
  out
• 34:29
  for
• 34:29
  themselves.
• 34:30
  I
• 34:30
  think
• 34:31
  that's
• 34:32
  a
• 34:32
  good
• 34:32
  idea
• 34:32
  to
• 34:33
  try.
• 34:33
  What
• 34:34
  do
• 34:34
  you
• 34:34
  think?
• 34:34
  I
• 34:35
  think
• 34:35
  so
• 34:35
  too.
• 34:35
  I
• 34:36
  agree.
• 34:36
  I
• 34:36
  do
• 34:36
  think
• 34:37
  that's
• 34:37
  a
• 34:37
  good
• 34:37
  idea
• 34:37
  to
• 34:37
  try.
• 34:38
  Okay.
• 34:39
  Okay.
• 34:39
  Then
• 34:40
  another
• 34:40
  thing
• 34:40
  she
• 34:40
  said
• 34:41
  or
• 34:41
  he.
• 34:42
  It's
• 34:42
  important
• 34:43
  not
• 34:43
  to
• 34:43
  loom
• 34:44
  over
• 34:44
  your
• 34:44
  kids.
• 34:45
  When
• 34:46
  talking
• 34:46
  to
• 34:46
  them
• 34:47
  or
• 34:47
  their
• 34:47
  nervous
• 34:48
  system
• 34:48
  will
• 34:48
  perceive
• 34:49
  you
• 34:49
  as
• 34:49
  a
• 34:49
  threat.
• 34:50
  So
• 34:50
  physically,
• 34:51
  the
• 34:51
  suggestion
• 34:52
  is
• 34:52
  to
• 34:52
  get
• 34:53
  down
• 34:53
  to
• 34:53
  their
• 34:53
  level,
• 34:54
  talk
• 34:55
  to
• 34:55
  them
• 34:55
  face
• 34:55
  to
• 34:56
  face.
• 34:56
  Eye
• 34:57
  contact.
• 34:57
  Eye
• 34:58
  contact
• 34:58
  is
• 34:58
  super
• 34:58
  important
• 34:59
  because
• 34:59
  another,
• 34:59
  that's
• 35:00
  another
• 35:00
  thing
• 35:00
  that
• 35:00
  they
• 35:00
  will
• 35:01
  model
• 35:01
  then
• 35:02
  in
• 35:02
  their
• 35:02
  own
• 35:02
  lives
• 35:03
  with
• 35:03
  other
• 35:03
  people
• 35:05
  saying
• 35:05
  the
• 35:05
  right
• 35:05
  things
• 35:07
  about
• 35:07
  when
• 35:07
  they
• 35:07
  have
• 35:07
  a
• 35:08
  problem.
• 35:10
  And
• 35:10
  another
• 35:10
  line
• 35:11
  that
• 35:11
  I
• 35:11
  really
• 35:11
  appreciated
• 35:12
  is
• 35:12
  your
• 35:12
  needs
• 35:13
  are
• 35:13
  as
• 35:13
  important
• 35:13
  as
• 35:14
  your
• 35:14
  child.
• 35:15
  I
• 35:15
  think
• 35:15
  particularly
• 35:16
  as
• 35:16
  moms,
• 35:17
  we
• 35:17
  put
• 35:18
  everyone
• 35:19
  ahead
• 35:19
  of
• 35:19
  us.
• 35:20
  You
• 35:20
  know,
• 35:20
  it's
• 35:21
  like,
• 35:21
  it's
• 35:21
  hard
• 35:22
  because
• 35:24
  I
• 35:24
  wonder
• 35:25
  if
• 35:26
  that
• 35:26
  is
• 35:26
  more
• 35:27
  for
• 35:27
  us
• 35:28
  or
• 35:28
  for
• 35:28
  them.
• 35:29
  Do
• 35:29
  we
• 35:29
  need
• 35:29
  to
• 35:30
  feel
• 35:30
  needed
• 35:30
  or
• 35:31
  they
• 35:31
  do
• 35:31
  they
• 35:32
  really
• 35:32
  need
• 35:32
  us?
• 35:33
  Like,
• 35:34
  I
• 35:34
  will
• 35:34
  do
• 35:34
  everything
• 35:34
  for
• 35:34
  everyone
• 35:35
  in
• 35:35
  my
• 35:35
  house.
• 35:36
  Right.
• 35:36
  And
• 35:37
  I
• 35:37
  wonder
• 35:38
  if
• 35:38
  it
• 35:38
  would.
• 35:38
  I
• 35:38
  mean,
• 35:39
  obviously
• 35:39
  my
• 35:39
  child's
• 35:39
  an
• 35:39
  infant,
• 35:40
  so
• 35:40
  eventually
• 35:40
  she
• 35:41
  will
• 35:41
  be
• 35:41
  able
• 35:41
  to
• 35:41
  do
• 35:41
  things
• 35:42
  for
• 35:42
  herself.
• 35:42
  But
• 35:42
  like
• 35:43
  at
• 35:43
  a
• 35:43
  certain,
• 35:44
  like
• 35:44
  what's
• 35:44
  the
• 35:44
  point?
• 35:44
  That
• 35:44
  it
• 35:45
  serves
• 35:45
  them
• 35:45
  to
• 35:46
  start
• 35:46
  doing
• 35:46
  some
• 35:46
  things
• 35:46
  for
• 35:47
  themselves,
• 35:48
  you
• 35:48
  know,
• 35:48
  and.
• 35:48
  Also
• 35:48
  to
• 35:49
  see
• 35:49
  me.
• 35:50
  Yeah.
• 35:50
  But
• 35:50
  also
• 35:50
  to
• 35:51
  see
• 35:51
  me
• 35:51
  as
• 35:51
  a
• 35:52
  person
• 35:52
  who
• 35:52
  is
• 35:52
  autonomous,
• 35:53
  who
• 35:54
  has
• 35:54
  other
• 35:55
  things
• 35:55
  going
• 35:55
  on
• 35:56
  in
• 35:56
  their
• 35:56
  life
• 35:57
  than
• 35:58
  just
• 35:58
  my
• 35:58
  kids.
• 35:59
  Right.
• 36:00
  You
• 36:00
  have
• 36:00
  needs
• 36:00
  too.
• 36:01
  And
• 36:03
  you
• 36:03
  have
• 36:04
  to
• 36:04
  be
• 36:04
  aware
• 36:04
  of
• 36:04
  what
• 36:04
  your
• 36:05
  needs
• 36:05
  are
• 36:06
  as
• 36:06
  well.
• 36:06
  And
• 36:07
  what
• 36:08
  they
• 36:08
  say
• 36:08
  in
• 36:08
  the
• 36:09
  book
• 36:09
  is
• 36:09
  let
• 36:09
  your
• 36:10
  child
• 36:10
  know
• 36:11
  when
• 36:11
  they're
• 36:11
  not,
• 36:12
  when
• 36:12
  they're
• 36:12
  an
• 36:12
  infant,
• 36:12
  but
• 36:12
  when
• 36:13
  they're
• 36:13
  a
• 36:13
  little
• 36:13
  older.
• 36:14
  Let
• 36:14
  your
• 36:14
  child
• 36:15
  know
• 36:15
  when
• 36:15
  their
• 36:15
  behavior
• 36:16
  is
• 36:16
  impinging
• 36:17
  on
• 36:17
  your
• 36:17
  needs.
• 36:19
  Impinge.
• 36:20
  You
• 36:20
  are
• 36:20
  impinging
• 36:21
  on
• 36:21
  my
• 36:21
  needs.
• 36:22
  Children
• 36:22
  need
• 36:22
  healthy
• 36:23
  boundaries
• 36:23
  to
• 36:24
  be
• 36:24
  set
• 36:24
  for
• 36:24
  them.
• 36:26
  And
• 36:28
  the
• 36:28
  way
• 36:28
  not
• 36:29
  to
• 36:29
  communicate
• 36:30
  your
• 36:30
  needs
• 36:30
  is
• 36:30
  by
• 36:31
  ordering
• 36:31
  them,
• 36:31
  threatening
• 36:32
  them,
• 36:32
  blaming
• 36:33
  them,
• 36:33
  judging
• 36:33
  them,
• 36:33
  that
• 36:34
  sort
• 36:34
  of
• 36:34
  thing.
• 36:34
  But
• 36:35
  to
• 36:35
  let
• 36:36
  them
• 36:36
  know,
• 36:38
  in
• 36:39
  fact,
• 36:39
  she
• 36:40
  gives
• 36:40
  you
• 36:40
  or
• 36:40
  he
• 36:41
  gives
• 36:41
  you
• 36:41
  ideas
• 36:42
  of
• 36:43
  language
• 36:44
  you
• 36:44
  can
• 36:44
  use.
• 36:46
  You
• 36:46
  know,
• 36:47
  don't
• 36:47
  use
• 36:48
  you
• 36:48
  language
• 36:49
  like
• 36:49
  accusation
• 36:50
  language.
• 36:51
  Don't
• 36:51
  be
• 36:51
  like,
• 36:51
  you
• 36:52
  left
• 36:52
  a
• 36:52
  mess
• 36:53
  and
• 36:53
  now
• 36:53
  I
• 36:53
  have
• 36:53
  to
• 36:54
  clean
• 36:54
  it
• 36:54
  up.
• 36:55
  Don't
• 36:55
  do
• 36:55
  that.
• 36:56
  Use
• 36:56
  I
• 36:57
  language,
• 36:57
  which
• 36:57
  is,
• 36:58
  I
• 36:58
  feel
• 36:59
  discouraged
• 36:59
  when
• 37:00
  I
• 37:00
  see
• 37:00
  such
• 37:00
  a
• 37:01
  big
• 37:01
  mess
• 37:01
  in
• 37:01
  your
• 37:02
  room.
• 37:02
  I
• 37:02
  think
• 37:03
  that's
• 37:03
  a
• 37:03
  healthy
• 37:04
  suggestion.
• 37:05
  Even
• 37:06
  between
• 37:06
  two
• 37:06
  adults.
• 37:07
  When
• 37:08
  you're
• 37:08
  trying
• 37:08
  to
• 37:08
  solve
• 37:09
  a
• 37:09
  conflict,
• 37:10
  blame
• 37:10
  is
• 37:11
  often
• 37:11
  not
• 37:11
  helpful.
• 37:13
  You
• 37:13
  have
• 37:13
  to
• 37:13
  express
• 37:13
  how
• 37:14
  the
• 37:14
  situation
• 37:15
  makes
• 37:15
  you
• 37:15
  feel
• 37:15
  and
• 37:16
  just
• 37:16
  put
• 37:16
  it
• 37:16
  out
• 37:16
  there
• 37:17
  and
• 37:18
  let
• 37:18
  the
• 37:18
  other
• 37:18
  person
• 37:18
  do
• 37:19
  with
• 37:19
  that
• 37:19
  what
• 37:19
  they
• 37:19
  want.
• 37:20
  Right.
• 37:20
  I
• 37:21
  like
• 37:21
  that.
• 37:21
  I
• 37:21
  think
• 37:22
  that
• 37:22
  is
• 37:22
  good.
• 37:22
  I
• 37:23
  don't
• 37:23
  think
• 37:23
  I
• 37:23
  did
• 37:23
  that.
• 37:26
  I
• 37:26
  feel
• 37:26
  so
• 37:26
  discouraged
• 37:27
  when
• 37:27
  I
• 37:28
  see
• 37:28
  your
• 37:28
  room
• 37:28
  looking
• 37:29
  like
• 37:29
  this
• 37:29
  because
• 37:29
  it's
• 37:30
  going
• 37:30
  to
• 37:30
  be
• 37:30
  so
• 37:30
  much
• 37:31
  work
• 37:31
  to
• 37:32
  put
• 37:32
  it
• 37:32
  back
• 37:32
  together.
• 37:34
  And
• 37:35
  maybe
• 37:35
  the
• 37:35
  child
• 37:36
  might,
• 37:36
  if
• 37:37
  you're
• 37:37
  lucky,
• 37:38
  go,
• 37:39
  me
• 37:39
  too,
• 37:39
  mom.
• 37:40
  I
• 37:40
  feel
• 37:40
  discouraged.
• 37:41
  Huh?
• 37:42
  What
• 37:42
  Are
• 37:42
  we
• 37:42
  gonna
• 37:43
  do
• 37:43
  about
• 37:43
  this
• 37:44
  as
• 37:44
  opposed
• 37:44
  to
• 37:45
  a
• 37:45
  big
• 37:45
  fight?
• 37:46
  Yeah.
• 37:46
  Over
• 37:47
  the
• 37:47
  mess.
• 37:47
  Yeah.
• 37:48
  You
• 37:48
  know,
• 37:48
  I.
• 37:48
  I
• 37:49
  don't
• 37:49
  judge
• 37:50
  my
• 37:50
  mess.
• 37:51
  She
• 37:51
  said
• 37:51
  this
• 37:51
  is
• 37:52
  describing
• 37:53
  without
• 37:53
  judging,
• 37:55
  you
• 37:56
  know,
• 37:56
  and
• 37:57
  just
• 37:57
  get
• 37:57
  on
• 37:57
  the
• 37:57
  child's
• 37:58
  level
• 37:58
  and
• 37:59
  connect
• 37:59
  with
• 37:59
  your
• 37:59
  child.
• 38:00
  As
• 38:00
  you
• 38:00
  say
• 38:00
  it.
• 38:01
  She
• 38:01
  says
• 38:01
  connect
• 38:02
  and
• 38:02
  then
• 38:03
  correct.
• 38:03
  Connect
• 38:04
  and
• 38:04
  then
• 38:04
  correct.
• 38:05
  That's
• 38:05
  just
• 38:05
  good.
• 38:06
  Turn
• 38:06
  that
• 38:06
  into
• 38:06
  a
• 38:07
  bumper
• 38:07
  sticker.
• 38:07
  Right,
• 38:08
  right.
• 38:08
  Also,
• 38:09
  she
• 38:09
  talks
• 38:09
  a.
• 38:10
  About
• 38:11
  making
• 38:11
  deposit
• 38:12
  into
• 38:12
  your
• 38:12
  child's
• 38:13
  emotional
• 38:13
  bank,
• 38:14
  which
• 38:14
  I
• 38:14
  like.
• 38:15
  I
• 38:15
  like
• 38:15
  again,
• 38:16
  the
• 38:16
  imagery
• 38:17
  of
• 38:17
  that.
• 38:17
  Yes.
• 38:18
  You
• 38:18
  know,
• 38:19
  with
• 38:19
  praise
• 38:19
  and
• 38:20
  compliments.
• 38:20
  It's
• 38:21
  like
• 38:21
  we're
• 38:21
  building
• 38:22
  up
• 38:22
  their
• 38:22
  confidence,
• 38:23
  and
• 38:23
  it's
• 38:24
  as
• 38:24
  if
• 38:24
  it's
• 38:24
  a
• 38:24
  bank
• 38:24
  account,
• 38:25
  you
• 38:25
  know,
• 38:25
  is
• 38:26
  their
• 38:26
  bank
• 38:26
  account
• 38:26
  of
• 38:27
  praise
• 38:27
  full?
• 38:28
  Is
• 38:28
  their
• 38:29
  bank
• 38:29
  account
• 38:29
  of
• 38:30
  praise
• 38:31
  have
• 38:31
  insufficient
• 38:32
  funds.
• 38:32
  Right.
• 38:33
  Because
• 38:33
  consider
• 38:34
  that
• 38:34
  if
• 38:35
  they
• 38:35
  are
• 38:35
  feeling
• 38:36
  loved,
• 38:36
  if
• 38:36
  they
• 38:37
  are
• 38:37
  feeling,
• 38:38
  you
• 38:38
  know,
• 38:38
  support,
• 38:40
  then
• 38:40
  you
• 38:40
  can
• 38:41
  say
• 38:41
  something
• 38:41
  like,
• 38:42
  oh,
• 38:42
  my
• 38:43
  gosh,
• 38:43
  this
• 38:43
  mess
• 38:44
  is.
• 38:45
  Is
• 38:45
  making
• 38:46
  me
• 38:46
  nervous.
• 38:48
  What
• 38:48
  am
• 38:48
  I
• 38:49
  gonna.
• 38:49
  What
• 38:49
  are
• 38:49
  we
• 38:49
  gonna
• 38:50
  do
• 38:50
  about
• 38:50
  it?
• 38:50
  I
• 38:50
  mean,
• 38:51
  this
• 38:51
  mess.
• 38:51
  I'm
• 38:52
  fearful.
• 38:52
  I'm
• 38:53
  fearful
• 38:53
  that
• 38:54
  it's
• 38:54
  going
• 38:54
  to
• 38:55
  take
• 38:55
  over
• 38:55
  the
• 38:55
  whole
• 38:56
  room.
• 38:56
  What's
• 38:56
  hiding
• 38:57
  under
• 38:57
  those?
• 38:58
  Don't
• 38:58
  say
• 38:58
  that.
• 38:59
  That
• 38:59
  might
• 38:59
  scare
• 38:59
  them.
• 39:00
  But
• 39:01
  are
• 39:01
  there
• 39:01
  snakes
• 39:02
  under
• 39:02
  there.
• 39:02
  Are
• 39:03
  there
• 39:03
  snakes
• 39:04
  under
• 39:04
  your.
• 39:04
  Under.
• 39:05
  Under
• 39:05
  your
• 39:05
  mess?
• 39:06
  I
• 39:06
  don't
• 39:06
  know.
• 39:06
  But.
• 39:07
  But
• 39:07
  before
• 39:07
  you
• 39:07
  say
• 39:08
  something
• 39:08
  negative,
• 39:08
  they're
• 39:09
  feeling
• 39:09
  terrifying,
• 39:11
  you
• 39:11
  know,
• 39:12
  then
• 39:12
  they
• 39:12
  might
• 39:12
  be
• 39:13
  a
• 39:13
  little
• 39:13
  more
• 39:13
  open
• 39:14
  to
• 39:14
  perhaps
• 39:15
  helping
• 39:15
  with.
• 39:16
  To
• 39:16
  solve
• 39:16
  the
• 39:17
  problem.
• 39:17
  Yeah.
• 39:17
  I
• 39:18
  don't
• 39:18
  know.
• 39:18
  There
• 39:18
  are
• 39:18
  other
• 39:19
  books
• 39:19
  we've
• 39:19
  read
• 39:19
  that
• 39:20
  said,
• 39:20
  that
• 39:21
  said,
• 39:21
  you're
• 39:21
  making
• 39:21
  a
• 39:21
  mistake
• 39:22
  if
• 39:22
  you
• 39:22
  think
• 39:22
  you
• 39:23
  can
• 39:23
  reason
• 39:23
  with
• 39:23
  kids,
• 39:24
  but
• 39:24
  I
• 39:24
  don't
• 39:25
  know,
• 39:26
  maybe
• 39:26
  you
• 39:26
  can.
• 39:27
  And
• 39:27
  especially
• 39:28
  if
• 39:29
  their
• 39:29
  bank
• 39:29
  account
• 39:29
  is
• 39:30
  full
• 39:30
  of
• 39:30
  love
• 39:31
  and
• 39:31
  support
• 39:32
  and
• 39:33
  you
• 39:33
  try
• 39:33
  to
• 39:34
  get
• 39:34
  them
• 39:34
  involved
• 39:34
  in
• 39:34
  problem
• 39:35
  solving
• 39:36
  as
• 39:36
  opposed
• 39:36
  to
• 39:37
  a
• 39:37
  conflict.
• 39:38
  Yes.
• 39:38
  Don't
• 39:39
  invite
• 39:39
  them
• 39:39
  to
• 39:40
  fight.
• 39:40
  Yeah.
• 39:41
  Compliment.
• 39:41
  Sandwich
• 39:42
  your
• 39:42
  kids.
• 39:43
  It's
• 39:43
  effective
• 39:44
  with
• 39:44
  adults.
• 39:45
  It's
• 39:45
  effective
• 39:45
  with
• 39:46
  children.
• 39:46
  That's
• 39:46
  right.
• 39:47
  Well,
• 39:47
  and
• 39:48
  another
• 39:48
  thing
• 39:48
  they
• 39:48
  talk
• 39:48
  about,
• 39:49
  and
• 39:49
  I
• 39:49
  love
• 39:49
  this,
• 39:49
  which
• 39:50
  is
• 39:50
  set
• 39:50
  your
• 39:51
  limits
• 39:51
  playfully,
• 39:53
  because
• 39:53
  kids
• 39:54
  will
• 39:54
  go
• 39:54
  along
• 39:54
  with
• 39:54
  that.
• 39:55
  Like
• 39:55
  if
• 39:55
  you,
• 39:56
  you
• 39:56
  know,
• 39:57
  first
• 39:57
  of
• 39:57
  all,
• 39:57
  you
• 39:58
  make
• 39:58
  up
• 39:58
  a
• 39:58
  little
• 39:58
  character
• 39:59
  that
• 40:00
  talks
• 40:01
  about,
• 40:01
  you
• 40:01
  know,
• 40:02
  how
• 40:02
  we
• 40:02
  have
• 40:02
  to
• 40:02
  clean
• 40:02
  the
• 40:03
  room,
• 40:03
  and
• 40:03
  you
• 40:03
  say
• 40:03
  it
• 40:03
  in
• 40:04
  a
• 40:04
  funny
• 40:04
  voice
• 40:05
  or
• 40:05
  you
• 40:05
  use
• 40:05
  a
• 40:06
  stuffed
• 40:06
  animal
• 40:06
  or
• 40:07
  a
• 40:07
  puppet
• 40:07
  to
• 40:08
  get
• 40:08
  them
• 40:08
  involved
• 40:09
  in.
• 40:09
  Now
• 40:10
  let's
• 40:11
  not
• 40:11
  just
• 40:11
  cleaning
• 40:12
  the
• 40:12
  room,
• 40:12
  but,
• 40:12
  you
• 40:13
  know,
• 40:13
  now
• 40:13
  it's
• 40:13
  time
• 40:14
  for
• 40:14
  you
• 40:14
  to
• 40:14
  take
• 40:15
  a
• 40:15
  bath.
• 40:15
  Even
• 40:15
  when
• 40:16
  they
• 40:16
  don't
• 40:16
  want
• 40:16
  to.
• 40:16
  I
• 40:17
  know,
• 40:17
  I
• 40:17
  hate
• 40:17
  taking
• 40:18
  a
• 40:18
  bath.
• 40:19
  You
• 40:19
  know,
• 40:19
  they.
• 40:20
  If
• 40:20
  it's
• 40:20
  playful,
• 40:21
  they
• 40:21
  might
• 40:21
  engage.
• 40:22
  And
• 40:22
  they're
• 40:23
  very
• 40:23
  like,
• 40:23
  it's
• 40:24
  not
• 40:24
  going
• 40:24
  to
• 40:24
  turn
• 40:24
  into
• 40:24
  a
• 40:25
  conflict.
• 40:25
  Yeah.
• 40:26
  Because
• 40:26
  how
• 40:26
  can
• 40:27
  you
• 40:27
  fight
• 40:27
  with
• 40:27
  a
• 40:27
  puppet?
• 40:28
  It's
• 40:28
  well.
• 40:28
  Right.
• 40:29
  Especially
• 40:30
  a
• 40:30
  really
• 40:30
  cute
• 40:30
  puppet.
• 40:31
  Or
• 40:31
  be
• 40:32
  very
• 40:32
  incompetent,
• 40:33
  like,
• 40:33
  or
• 40:33
  you
• 40:34
  know,
• 40:34
  where
• 40:34
  you
• 40:35
  act
• 40:35
  like
• 40:35
  you're
• 40:36
  incompetent
• 40:37
  and
• 40:37
  they
• 40:37
  want
• 40:37
  to
• 40:37
  help
• 40:38
  you,
• 40:38
  like.
• 40:38
  Yeah.
• 40:39
  I
• 40:39
  don't
• 40:39
  even
• 40:39
  know
• 40:40
  where
• 40:40
  to
• 40:40
  start.
• 40:40
  What
• 40:40
  should
• 40:41
  I
• 40:41
  do
• 40:41
  with
• 40:41
  this
• 40:42
  room?
• 40:42
  I
• 40:42
  can't.
• 40:43
  I
• 40:43
  don't
• 40:43
  even
• 40:43
  know.
• 40:43
  They
• 40:44
  might
• 40:44
  actually
• 40:44
  say,
• 40:44
  well,
• 40:45
  let's
• 40:45
  start
• 40:45
  here.
• 40:45
  Do
• 40:46
  you
• 40:46
  take
• 40:46
  a
• 40:46
  bath
• 40:46
  in
• 40:47
  water
• 40:47
  or
• 40:48
  marbles?
• 40:48
  Right.
• 40:49
  I
• 40:49
  mean
• 40:49
  you
• 40:49
  get
• 40:50
  hell.
• 40:51
  Right.
• 40:51
  They
• 40:51
  will
• 40:52
  jump
• 40:52
  into
• 40:52
  that
• 40:53
  if
• 40:53
  you
• 40:53
  can
• 40:53
  engage
• 40:53
  them
• 40:54
  in
• 40:54
  a
• 40:54
  game.
• 40:55
  That's
• 40:55
  a
• 40:55
  great
• 40:55
  idea.
• 40:56
  I
• 40:56
  like
• 40:56
  just
• 40:57
  trying
• 40:57
  it
• 40:57
  and,
• 40:58
  and
• 40:58
  doing
• 40:58
  the
• 40:58
  opposite,
• 40:59
  you
• 40:59
  know,
• 40:59
  demanding
• 41:00
  the
• 41:00
  opposite.
• 41:01
  Like
• 41:02
  it's
• 41:02
  bath
• 41:03
  time.
• 41:03
  But
• 41:03
  I'd
• 41:03
  rather
• 41:03
  you
• 41:04
  stay
• 41:04
  dirty.
• 41:05
  Let's
• 41:05
  go
• 41:05
  to
• 41:05
  bed
• 41:05
  dirty
• 41:06
  tonight.
• 41:06
  What
• 41:06
  do
• 41:06
  you
• 41:07
  think
• 41:07
  they
• 41:07
  might
• 41:08
  say?
• 41:08
  Yes,
• 41:08
  but
• 41:09
  no.
• 41:10
  Absolutely.
• 41:11
  Those
• 41:11
  are
• 41:11
  great
• 41:11
  ideas.
• 41:12
  That's
• 41:12
  funny.
• 41:13
  I'll
• 41:13
  try
• 41:13
  that.
• 41:14
  I
• 41:14
  thought
• 41:15
  that
• 41:15
  was
• 41:15
  great.
• 41:15
  Yeah,
• 41:16
  that
• 41:16
  was
• 41:16
  good.
• 41:17
  Okay,
• 41:18
  so
• 41:18
  should
• 41:18
  we
• 41:18
  talk
• 41:18
  about.
• 41:19
  Oh,
• 41:19
  mindful
• 41:20
  problem
• 41:21
  solving?
• 41:22
  Mindful
• 41:23
  Keyword.
• 41:25
  Always
• 41:25
  a
• 41:25
  good
• 41:26
  word.
• 41:26
  Mindful.
• 41:26
  Mindful.
• 41:27
  We
• 41:27
  don't
• 41:28
  know
• 41:28
  what
• 41:28
  it
• 41:28
  means,
• 41:28
  but
• 41:29
  we're
• 41:29
  going
• 41:29
  to
• 41:29
  say
• 41:29
  it
• 41:30
  a
• 41:30
  lot.
• 41:31
  Being
• 41:32
  present.
• 41:32
  Be
• 41:33
  in
• 41:33
  the
• 41:33
  moment.
• 41:33
  Okay.
• 41:34
  So
• 41:34
  they
• 41:34
  talk
• 41:35
  about
• 41:35
  different
• 41:35
  types
• 41:36
  of
• 41:36
  parenting.
• 41:36
  The
• 41:37
  authoritarian
• 41:38
  parent
• 41:38
  who
• 41:39
  lays
• 41:39
  down
• 41:40
  the
• 41:40
  law
• 41:40
  and
• 41:40
  the
• 41:40
  child
• 41:41
  has
• 41:41
  to
• 41:41
  obey
• 41:43
  and
• 41:43
  that
• 41:44
  she
• 41:44
  or
• 41:45
  he
• 41:45
  says
• 41:45
  this
• 41:46
  causes
• 41:46
  resentment.
• 41:48
  That
• 41:48
  it
• 41:48
  can
• 41:48
  be
• 41:48
  psychologically
• 41:49
  damaging
• 41:50
  when
• 41:50
  you're
• 41:50
  just
• 41:51
  always
• 41:51
  ordering
• 41:52
  your
• 41:52
  child
• 41:52
  around.
• 41:52
  Like
• 41:53
  they
• 41:53
  may
• 41:53
  do
• 41:53
  what
• 41:54
  you
• 41:54
  tell
• 41:54
  them
• 41:55
  to
• 41:55
  do,
• 41:55
  but
• 41:55
  it's
• 41:56
  to
• 41:56
  avoid
• 41:56
  punishment.
• 41:57
  And
• 41:57
  they'll
• 41:57
  seethe.
• 41:58
  They
• 41:59
  will
• 41:59
  not
• 41:59
  be
• 41:59
  happy.
• 42:00
  Yeah.
• 42:00
  And
• 42:02
  they
• 42:03
  don't
• 42:03
  gather,
• 42:04
  you
• 42:04
  know,
• 42:04
  inside
• 42:05
  of
• 42:05
  them.
• 42:05
  They
• 42:06
  don't
• 42:06
  create
• 42:06
  a
• 42:06
  moral
• 42:07
  code.
• 42:08
  It
• 42:08
  doesn't
• 42:08
  fill
• 42:09
  their
• 42:09
  emotional
• 42:09
  bank
• 42:10
  account.
• 42:10
  No,
• 42:10
  it's
• 42:11
  take,
• 42:11
  it
• 42:12
  depletes,
• 42:12
  it
• 42:12
  depletes.
• 42:13
  It
• 42:13
  is
• 42:13
  not
• 42:14
  accretive,
• 42:14
  it
• 42:15
  is
• 42:15
  dilutive.
• 42:16
  But
• 42:16
  the
• 42:17
  opposite
• 42:17
  is
• 42:17
  the
• 42:17
  permissive
• 42:18
  parent,
• 42:19
  you
• 42:20
  know,
• 42:20
  let
• 42:20
  the
• 42:20
  kids
• 42:21
  rule
• 42:21
  the
• 42:21
  roost,
• 42:22
  which
• 42:22
  is
• 42:22
  they.
• 42:22
  Then
• 42:23
  they
• 42:23
  become
• 42:23
  very
• 42:23
  self
• 42:24
  centered.
• 42:24
  They
• 42:24
  think
• 42:24
  it's
• 42:25
  all
• 42:25
  about
• 42:25
  me.
• 42:26
  They
• 42:27
  don't
• 42:27
  learn
• 42:27
  self
• 42:28
  discipline.
• 42:28
  That's
• 42:29
  not
• 42:29
  good
• 42:29
  either.
• 42:29
  Not
• 42:30
  good.
• 42:30
  And
• 42:31
  then
• 42:31
  there's
• 42:31
  the
• 42:31
  middle
• 42:31
  path,
• 42:32
  which
• 42:32
  she
• 42:32
  just
• 42:33
  calls
• 42:33
  the
• 42:33
  middle
• 42:33
  path.
• 42:35
  At
• 42:35
  habit
• 42:35
  coach
• 42:36
  we
• 42:36
  call
• 42:37
  it
• 42:37
  authoritative
• 42:39
  because
• 42:39
  it's
• 42:39
  not
• 42:40
  authoritarian,
• 42:40
  but
• 42:41
  it's
• 42:41
  authoritative.
• 42:42
  So
• 42:42
  it's
• 42:42
  like
• 42:43
  a
• 42:43
  little
• 42:44
  authoritative,
• 42:44
  a
• 42:44
  little
• 42:45
  bit
• 42:45
  touch.
• 42:46
  It's
• 42:46
  setting
• 42:47
  boundaries
• 42:48
  but
• 42:48
  being
• 42:49
  a
• 42:49
  little
• 42:49
  bit
• 42:49
  more
• 42:49
  gentle
• 42:50
  about
• 42:50
  it
• 42:50
  and
• 42:51
  getting
• 42:51
  the
• 42:51
  child
• 42:51
  involved.
• 42:52
  Okay.
• 42:53
  And
• 42:53
  talking
• 42:53
  to
• 42:54
  the
• 42:54
  child,
• 42:56
  you
• 42:56
  know,
• 42:56
  it's
• 42:57
  like.
• 42:57
  And
• 42:57
  she
• 42:57
  gives
• 42:58
  a
• 42:58
  lot
• 42:58
  of.
• 42:59
  Or
• 42:59
  he
• 42:59
  gives
• 42:59
  a
• 42:59
  lot
• 43:00
  of
• 43:00
  examples.
• 43:00
  I
• 43:01
  really
• 43:01
  wish
• 43:01
  we
• 43:01
  knew
• 43:02
  who
• 43:02
  this
• 43:02
  person
• 43:02
  is.
• 43:04
  Oh,
• 43:04
  thank
• 43:04
  you.
• 43:05
  Thank
• 43:05
  you.
• 43:06
  We've
• 43:06
  got
• 43:06
  a
• 43:07
  note.
• 43:08
  It's
• 43:08
  a
• 43:08
  she.
• 43:09
  It's
• 43:09
  a
• 43:09
  she.
• 43:09
  And
• 43:09
  we're.
• 43:10
  Thank
• 43:10
  you.
• 43:10
  We're
• 43:11
  glad.
• 43:11
  We're
• 43:12
  glad
• 43:12
  to
• 43:12
  know
• 43:12
  you're
• 43:13
  not.
• 43:13
  I
• 43:14
  mean,
• 43:14
  not
• 43:14
  that
• 43:14
  it
• 43:14
  would
• 43:14
  matter.
• 43:14
  I
• 43:15
  would
• 43:15
  like.
• 43:15
  I
• 43:15
  would
• 43:15
  take
• 43:16
  this
• 43:16
  information
• 43:16
  from
• 43:17
  anyone,
• 43:17
  but
• 43:17
  I.
• 43:17
  I
• 43:18
  sort
• 43:18
  of
• 43:18
  had
• 43:18
  a
• 43:18
  feeling.
• 43:19
  Does
• 43:19
  she.
• 43:20
  Oh,
• 43:20
  my
• 43:21
  God.
• 43:21
  She
• 43:21
  has
• 43:22
  a
• 43:22
  podcast.
• 43:23
  All
• 43:23
  right,
• 43:23
  you
• 43:23
  could
• 43:23
  what?
• 43:24
  You
• 43:24
  can
• 43:24
  listen
• 43:24
  to
• 43:24
  her.
• 43:24
  I
• 43:25
  will
• 43:25
  listen
• 43:25
  to
• 43:25
  her
• 43:25
  podcast.
• 43:26
  I'm
• 43:26
  sure
• 43:27
  she
• 43:27
  has
• 43:27
  great
• 43:27
  ideas.
• 43:28
  Okay.
• 43:30
  Okay.
• 43:31
  Thank
• 43:31
  God.
• 43:32
  Thank
• 43:32
  you.
• 43:32
  Okay,
• 43:32
  that's
• 43:33
  so
• 43:33
  good
• 43:33
  to
• 43:33
  know
• 43:34
  because.
• 43:34
  All
• 43:34
  right.
• 43:35
  You
• 43:35
  can
• 43:35
  watch
• 43:35
  her
• 43:35
  podcast.
• 43:36
  Listen
• 43:36
  to
• 43:36
  her
• 43:37
  podcast.
• 43:37
  I
• 43:37
  will
• 43:38
  be.
• 43:38
  Yeah,
• 43:38
  no,
• 43:38
  I.
• 43:39
  I
• 43:39
  mean,
• 43:39
  I.
• 43:39
  There.
• 43:39
  The
• 43:40
  ideas
• 43:40
  are
• 43:41
  good.
• 43:41
  It'.
• 43:42
  It.
• 43:42
  And
• 43:43
  I'll
• 43:43
  be
• 43:43
  interested
• 43:43
  in
• 43:44
  her
• 43:44
  voice
• 43:44
  too.
• 43:44
  Me
• 43:45
  too.
• 43:45
  Is
• 43:45
  it
• 43:45
  the
• 43:46
  gentle
• 43:46
  voice
• 43:47
  we
• 43:47
  are
• 43:47
  imagining?
• 43:48
  Imagined.
• 43:49
  She's
• 43:50
  like
• 43:50
  a
• 43:50
  rough
• 43:51
  and
• 43:51
  tumble
• 43:51
  broad.
• 43:52
  I
• 43:52
  don't
• 43:53
  think
• 43:53
  so.
• 43:54
  I
• 43:54
  don't
• 43:54
  think
• 43:55
  so.
• 43:55
  But
• 43:55
  we'll
• 43:55
  see.
• 43:56
  I
• 43:56
  don't
• 43:56
  know.
• 43:56
  I
• 43:56
  know.
• 43:57
  I'm
• 43:57
  excited.
• 43:58
  Yeah.
• 43:58
  Yeah.
• 43:59
  But
• 43:59
  anyway,
• 44:00
  so
• 44:00
  she
• 44:00
  talks
• 44:01
  about
• 44:01
  how
• 44:02
  being
• 44:02
  an
• 44:02
  authoritative
• 44:03
  parent
• 44:03
  or
• 44:03
  taking
• 44:04
  the
• 44:04
  middle
• 44:04
  path,
• 44:05
  you
• 44:05
  can
• 44:06
  set
• 44:06
  boundaries,
• 44:07
  but
• 44:07
  in
• 44:08
  a
• 44:08
  very
• 44:08
  reasonable
• 44:08
  way.
• 44:09
  Like,
• 44:09
  she
• 44:09
  gives
• 44:10
  an
• 44:10
  example.
• 44:12
  If
• 44:12
  a
• 44:12
  child
• 44:12
  keeps
• 44:12
  interrupting
• 44:13
  you
• 44:13
  when
• 44:13
  you're
• 44:14
  on
• 44:14
  the
• 44:14
  phone,
• 44:15
  you
• 44:15
  just
• 44:16
  say,
• 44:16
  hey,
• 44:16
  you
• 44:17
  know,
• 44:17
  when
• 44:17
  you
• 44:17
  keep
• 44:17
  interrupting
• 44:18
  me,
• 44:18
  I
• 44:18
  feel
• 44:19
  very
• 44:19
  annoyed
• 44:19
  because
• 44:20
  I
• 44:20
  can't
• 44:20
  hear
• 44:20
  what
• 44:21
  my
• 44:21
  boss
• 44:21
  is
• 44:21
  saying
• 44:22
  to
• 44:22
  me.
• 44:22
  So
• 44:23
  you
• 44:23
  could
• 44:23
  say
• 44:23
  something
• 44:23
  like
• 44:24
  that
• 44:24
  or
• 44:25
  you
• 44:25
  can
• 44:25
  say,
• 44:26
  you
• 44:26
  can
• 44:27
  connect
• 44:27
  with
• 44:27
  them
• 44:27
  while
• 44:28
  you're
• 44:28
  having.
• 44:28
  While
• 44:28
  they're
• 44:29
  trying
• 44:29
  to
• 44:30
  interrupt.
• 44:31
  And
• 44:31
  you
• 44:31
  could
• 44:32
  say
• 44:32
  it
• 44:32
  looks
• 44:32
  like
• 44:33
  you're
• 44:33
  very
• 44:33
  worried
• 44:33
  that,
• 44:35
  that
• 44:36
  I'm
• 44:36
  going
• 44:36
  to
• 44:36
  just
• 44:36
  keep
• 44:36
  talking
• 44:37
  and
• 44:37
  forget
• 44:37
  all
• 44:37
  about
• 44:38
  you.
• 44:38
  But
• 44:38
  I'll
• 44:38
  tell
• 44:39
  you
• 44:39
  what,
• 44:39
  let
• 44:39
  me
• 44:39
  finish
• 44:40
  this
• 44:40
  call
• 44:40
  and
• 44:41
  as
• 44:41
  soon
• 44:41
  as
• 44:41
  I'm
• 44:41
  done,
• 44:42
  I
• 44:42
  will
• 44:42
  give
• 44:42
  you
• 44:43
  all
• 44:43
  of
• 44:44
  my
• 44:44
  attention.
• 44:45
  And
• 44:45
  so
• 44:45
  you
• 44:45
  might
• 44:45
  be
• 44:46
  able
• 44:46
  to
• 44:47
  bargain
• 44:48
  a
• 44:48
  little
• 44:48
  bit
• 44:48
  like
• 44:49
  that.
• 44:49
  Yeah.
• 44:50
  And
• 44:51
  the
• 44:51
  conflict
• 44:52
  is
• 44:52
  over.
• 44:52
  We
• 44:53
  hope.
• 44:53
  We
• 44:53
  hope.
• 44:54
  We
• 44:54
  hope.
• 44:54
  But
• 44:54
  I
• 44:55
  would
• 44:55
  try
• 44:55
  that.
• 44:55
  I
• 44:56
  would
• 44:56
  try
• 44:56
  all
• 44:56
  of
• 44:56
  these
• 44:57
  things
• 44:58
  because
• 44:58
  it's
• 44:58
  a
• 44:59
  calmer
• 44:59
  way
• 45:00
  of
• 45:00
  getting
• 45:01
  to
• 45:01
  a
• 45:01
  solution.
• 45:02
  Yeah.
• 45:03
  I
• 45:03
  also
• 45:03
  feel
• 45:03
  like,
• 45:04
  I
• 45:04
  don't
• 45:04
  know,
• 45:04
  maybe
• 45:04
  your
• 45:05
  generation
• 45:05
  takes
• 45:06
  phone
• 45:06
  calls.
• 45:07
  I
• 45:08
  don't.
• 45:09
  You
• 45:09
  are
• 45:09
  missing
• 45:10
  out.
• 45:10
  You
• 45:10
  are
• 45:10
  so
• 45:11
  missing
• 45:11
  out.
• 45:11
  I
• 45:12
  do.
• 45:12
  I
• 45:12
  so
• 45:13
  disagree
• 45:14
  with
• 45:14
  you
• 45:14
  on
• 45:14
  your
• 45:15
  whole
• 45:15
  generation
• 45:16
  on
• 45:16
  that.
• 45:16
  But
• 45:17
  yeah,
• 45:18
  I
• 45:18
  mean,
• 45:18
  we
• 45:19
  send
• 45:19
  voice
• 45:19
  notes,
• 45:20
  but
• 45:20
  like,
• 45:20
  I'll
• 45:21
  be
• 45:21
  honest,
• 45:21
  I
• 45:21
  just
• 45:22
  read
• 45:22
  the
• 45:22
  dictation
• 45:22
  most
• 45:23
  of
• 45:23
  the
• 45:23
  time.
• 45:23
  Unless
• 45:23
  it's
• 45:24
  like
• 45:24
  a
• 45:24
  really
• 45:24
  good
• 45:25
  friend
• 45:25
  with
• 45:25
  really
• 45:25
  good
• 45:26
  gossip.
• 45:26
  But
• 45:27
  yeah,
• 45:27
  I.
• 45:27
  You.
• 45:28
  You
• 45:28
  have
• 45:28
  to.
• 45:29
  Our
• 45:29
  children
• 45:29
  need
• 45:29
  to
• 45:30
  Learn
• 45:30
  to
• 45:30
  talk
• 45:30
  to
• 45:31
  each
• 45:31
  other.
• 45:32
  That's
• 45:32
  how
• 45:32
  you
• 45:32
  communicate.
• 45:33
  I
• 45:34
  believe
• 45:34
  that
• 45:35
  so
• 45:35
  strongly.
• 45:36
  It
• 45:36
  was
• 45:36
  interesting.
• 45:37
  This
• 45:37
  is
• 45:37
  a
• 45:37
  little
• 45:37
  aside.
• 45:38
  I
• 45:38
  was
• 45:39
  doing
• 45:39
  a
• 45:39
  podcast
• 45:40
  or
• 45:40
  not
• 45:40
  a
• 45:40
  podcast,
• 45:41
  a
• 45:41
  webinar
• 45:42
  on
• 45:42
  what
• 45:42
  is
• 45:42
  the
• 45:43
  difference?
• 45:43
  We'll
• 45:43
  get
• 45:43
  into
• 45:43
  that
• 45:44
  later.
• 45:44
  Anyway,
• 45:45
  I
• 45:45
  was
• 45:45
  doing
• 45:46
  a
• 45:46
  webinar
• 45:46
  about
• 45:46
  colleges
• 45:47
  with
• 45:47
  some
• 45:47
  college
• 45:48
  experts.
• 45:48
  And
• 45:49
  one
• 45:49
  of
• 45:49
  the
• 45:49
  things
• 45:49
  colleges
• 45:50
  are
• 45:50
  looking
• 45:50
  for
• 45:52
  are
• 45:52
  kids
• 45:53
  who
• 45:53
  can
• 45:53
  actually
• 45:54
  make
• 45:54
  small
• 45:54
  talk.
• 45:56
  And
• 45:56
  I
• 45:56
  thought
• 45:56
  to
• 45:56
  myself,
• 45:57
  that
• 45:57
  is
• 45:57
  crazy
• 45:58
  because
• 45:59
  years
• 46:00
  ago
• 46:00
  in
• 46:01
  my
• 46:01
  generation
• 46:02
  everybody
• 46:03
  could
• 46:03
  make
• 46:03
  small
• 46:03
  talk
• 46:04
  because
• 46:04
  we
• 46:04
  talked
• 46:04
  to
• 46:05
  each
• 46:05
  other.
• 46:06
  But
• 46:06
  now
• 46:07
  people
• 46:07
  don't
• 46:07
  talk
• 46:07
  to
• 46:08
  each
• 46:08
  other.
• 46:08
  They
• 46:08
  text,
• 46:10
  they
• 46:10
  write
• 46:10
  email.
• 46:11
  They
• 46:11
  don't
• 46:11
  write
• 46:11
  emails.
• 46:12
  They
• 46:12
  text
• 46:13
  or
• 46:13
  whatever.
• 46:14
  Emails.
• 46:15
  No
• 46:15
  long
• 46:15
  form.
• 46:16
  Old.
• 46:16
  Old.
• 46:17
  But
• 46:17
  they
• 46:17
  send
• 46:18
  faxes.
• 46:18
  Yeah,
• 46:19
  but,
• 46:19
  but
• 46:20
  kids
• 46:20
  are,
• 46:21
  are
• 46:21
  not
• 46:23
  taught
• 46:23
  to
• 46:24
  really
• 46:24
  talk
• 46:24
  and
• 46:25
  communicate
• 46:25
  that
• 46:25
  way.
• 46:26
  It's
• 46:26
  so
• 46:26
  important.
• 46:27
  Yeah.
• 46:27
  It's
• 46:27
  the
• 46:28
  best
• 46:28
  way
• 46:28
  to
• 46:28
  communicate.
• 46:29
  And
• 46:30
  how
• 46:30
  are
• 46:30
  you
• 46:30
  ever
• 46:30
  going
• 46:31
  to
• 46:31
  have
• 46:31
  a
• 46:31
  relationship
• 46:32
  with
• 46:32
  somebody
• 46:32
  if
• 46:33
  you
• 46:33
  can't
• 46:33
  talk
• 46:33
  to
• 46:33
  people?
• 46:34
  Well,
• 46:34
  that's
• 46:34
  what's
• 46:34
  nice
• 46:34
  about
• 46:35
  New
• 46:35
  York
• 46:35
  City
• 46:35
  is
• 46:36
  I
• 46:36
  am
• 46:36
  faced
• 46:36
  with
• 46:37
  strangers
• 46:38
  all
• 46:38
  day
• 46:38
  and
• 46:39
  all
• 46:39
  night
• 46:40
  and
• 46:40
  you
• 46:41
  just,
• 46:41
  again,
• 46:41
  you
• 46:41
  get
• 46:42
  in
• 46:42
  the
• 46:42
  habit.
• 46:42
  I
• 46:42
  also
• 46:43
  used
• 46:43
  to
• 46:43
  have
• 46:43
  a
• 46:43
  job
• 46:43
  where
• 46:43
  I
• 46:44
  would
• 46:44
  have
• 46:44
  to
• 46:44
  approach
• 46:44
  every
• 46:45
  single
• 46:45
  person
• 46:45
  in
• 46:45
  the
• 46:45
  room.
• 46:46
  And
• 46:46
  you
• 46:46
  just
• 46:47
  practice
• 46:47
  makes
• 46:47
  perfect.
• 46:48
  Always
• 46:48
  practice
• 46:49
  any
• 46:49
  interaction
• 46:50
  you
• 46:50
  have
• 46:50
  and
• 46:50
  encourage
• 46:51
  your
• 46:51
  child
• 46:51
  to
• 46:51
  do
• 46:52
  this.
• 46:52
  It's
• 46:53
  just
• 46:53
  like
• 46:54
  say
• 46:54
  hello
• 46:54
  and
• 46:55
  ask
• 46:55
  a
• 46:55
  stranger
• 46:56
  a
• 46:56
  question.
• 46:56
  Right.
• 46:57
  And
• 46:57
  listen.
• 46:57
  Yeah.
• 46:58
  And
• 46:59
  have
• 46:59
  a
• 46:59
  conversation.
• 47:00
  It's
• 47:00
  like,
• 47:01
  it
• 47:01
  is
• 47:01
  so
• 47:02
  important.
• 47:02
  I
• 47:03
  have
• 47:03
  seen
• 47:04
  kids.
• 47:05
  A
• 47:05
  safe
• 47:05
  looking
• 47:05
  stranger.
• 47:06
  Safe
• 47:06
  strangers.
• 47:07
  Yeah,
• 47:07
  exactly.
• 47:08
  But
• 47:09
  you
• 47:09
  know,
• 47:10
  but
• 47:10
  that's
• 47:10
  fine.
• 47:11
  Yeah.
• 47:11
  Talk
• 47:12
  to
• 47:12
  people.
• 47:12
  Yeah.
• 47:13
  And
• 47:13
  learn
• 47:13
  how
• 47:13
  to
• 47:13
  talk
• 47:14
  to
• 47:14
  people.
• 47:14
  It's,
• 47:14
  it's
• 47:15
  an
• 47:15
  important
• 47:15
  skill
• 47:17
  that,
• 47:17
  that
• 47:18
  I
• 47:18
  think
• 47:18
  got
• 47:19
  lost
• 47:20
  when.
• 47:21
  In
• 47:21
  the
• 47:21
  war.
• 47:22
  In
• 47:22
  the.
• 47:22
  Well,
• 47:24
  but
• 47:24
  when
• 47:24
  people
• 47:25
  kind
• 47:25
  of
• 47:26
  started
• 47:26
  getting
• 47:27
  so
• 47:27
  into
• 47:28
  online,
• 47:29
  you
• 47:29
  know,
• 47:29
  social
• 47:30
  media,
• 47:30
  this.
• 47:30
  And
• 47:31
  I
• 47:31
  think
• 47:31
  now
• 47:31
  we're
• 47:31
  pulling
• 47:32
  back
• 47:32
  more
• 47:33
  and
• 47:33
  parents
• 47:33
  are
• 47:33
  realizing
• 47:35
  that
• 47:35
  too
• 47:35
  much
• 47:35
  of
• 47:36
  that
• 47:36
  is
• 47:36
  not
• 47:36
  a
• 47:36
  good
• 47:37
  thing.
• 47:37
  Yeah.
• 47:37
  And
• 47:38
  so
• 47:39
  I
• 47:39
  think
• 47:39
  we're
• 47:40
  gonna
• 47:40
  have
• 47:40
  a
• 47:40
  little
• 47:40
  bit
• 47:40
  of
• 47:41
  a
• 47:41
  rebound.
• 47:41
  I
• 47:41
  hope,
• 47:42
  I
• 47:42
  hope,
• 47:42
  I
• 47:42
  hope
• 47:42
  the
• 47:42
  phone
• 47:43
  has
• 47:43
  a
• 47:43
  renaissance.
• 47:44
  Well.
• 47:44
  And
• 47:44
  maybe
• 47:45
  I
• 47:45
  can
• 47:45
  be
• 47:45
  a
• 47:45
  part
• 47:46
  of
• 47:46
  it.
• 47:46
  Don't
• 47:46
  you
• 47:46
  like
• 47:47
  talking
• 47:47
  like
• 47:47
  to
• 47:47
  me
• 47:47
  on
• 47:48
  the
• 47:48
  phone?
• 47:48
  I
• 47:48
  like
• 47:48
  to
• 47:49
  you
• 47:49
  on
• 47:49
  the
• 47:49
  phone
• 47:49
  and
• 47:49
  I
• 47:50
  like
• 47:50
  talking
• 47:50
  to
• 47:50
  my
• 47:50
  friend
• 47:50
  Laura
• 47:51
  on
• 47:51
  the
• 47:51
  phone.
• 47:51
  Right.
• 47:52
  But
• 47:52
  like
• 47:52
  everybody
• 47:53
  else.
• 47:53
  Yeah.
• 47:54
  Kind
• 47:54
  of
• 47:54
  take
• 47:54
  or
• 47:55
  leave.
• 47:55
  Well,
• 47:56
  yeah,
• 47:56
  I
• 47:56
  mean
• 47:56
  it's
• 47:57
  sometimes
• 47:57
  you,
• 47:57
  you
• 47:58
  don't.
• 47:58
  Because
• 47:58
  it
• 47:59
  does
• 47:59
  take
• 47:59
  a
• 47:59
  longer
• 48:00
  time.
• 48:01
  But
• 48:03
  I
• 48:03
  don't
• 48:03
  know,
• 48:03
  I
• 48:04
  just
• 48:04
  think
• 48:04
  it's
• 48:05
  important
• 48:05
  to
• 48:06
  be
• 48:06
  able
• 48:06
  to
• 48:06
  do
• 48:06
  it.
• 48:07
  And
• 48:08
  also
• 48:09
  as
• 48:09
  a
• 48:10
  lawyer,
• 48:11
  I'm
• 48:11
  always
• 48:12
  about
• 48:12
  not
• 48:12
  putting
• 48:13
  things
• 48:13
  in
• 48:13
  writing.
• 48:15
  Hot
• 48:15
  tip,
• 48:16
  Put
• 48:17
  nothing
• 48:17
  in
• 48:17
  writing
• 48:18
  because
• 48:18
  that
• 48:18
  makes
• 48:19
  it
• 48:19
  discoverable.
• 48:20
  It
• 48:20
  can
• 48:20
  all
• 48:20
  come
• 48:21
  back
• 48:21
  to
• 48:21
  haunt
• 48:21
  you
• 48:22
  on
• 48:23
  an
• 48:23
  email,
• 48:24
  in
• 48:24
  a
• 48:24
  tag.
• 48:26
  Don't
• 48:26
  write
• 48:26
  when
• 48:26
  you
• 48:26
  can
• 48:27
  speak
• 48:27
  and
• 48:27
  don't
• 48:28
  speak
• 48:28
  when
• 48:28
  you
• 48:28
  can
• 48:28
  nod.
• 48:29
  That
• 48:29
  was
• 48:29
  your
• 48:29
  father's
• 48:30
  sage,
• 48:30
  sage
• 48:31
  advice.
• 48:31
  But
• 48:31
  anyway,
• 48:32
  we
• 48:32
  are
• 48:33
  also
• 48:34
  with
• 48:35
  a
• 48:35
  lawsuit.
• 48:35
  You
• 48:36
  might
• 48:36
  beat
• 48:36
  the
• 48:36
  rap,
• 48:37
  but
• 48:37
  you
• 48:37
  won't
• 48:37
  beat
• 48:38
  the
• 48:38
  ride.
• 48:38
  That's
• 48:39
  true.
• 48:39
  So
• 48:40
  we,
• 48:40
  none
• 48:40
  of
• 48:40
  us
• 48:40
  want
• 48:40
  lawsuits.
• 48:41
  Okay.
• 48:42
  Why
• 48:42
  are
• 48:42
  we
• 48:42
  talking
• 48:43
  about
• 48:43
  lawsuits
• 48:44
  anyway?
• 48:44
  All
• 48:45
  right,
• 48:45
  let's
• 48:45
  go
• 48:45
  back.
• 48:45
  Okay.
• 48:47
  Okay.
• 48:47
  So
• 48:48
  she
• 48:48
  really
• 48:48
  talks
• 48:49
  about
• 48:49
  how
• 48:50
  to
• 48:50
  set
• 48:51
  boundaries
• 48:52
  and
• 48:53
  she
• 48:53
  gets
• 48:54
  into
• 48:55
  handling
• 48:55
  sibling
• 48:56
  conflicts.
• 48:57
  I
• 48:57
  thought
• 48:57
  this
• 48:57
  was
• 48:57
  very
• 48:58
  good
• 48:58
  advice.
• 48:59
  She
• 48:59
  said,
• 49:01
  you
• 49:01
  know,
• 49:02
  make
• 49:02
  sure
• 49:03
  when
• 49:03
  they're
• 49:03
  fighting,
• 49:04
  you
• 49:04
  want
• 49:05
  to,
• 49:06
  you
• 49:07
  know,
• 49:07
  center
• 49:07
  yourself.
• 49:08
  Center
• 49:08
  yourself,
• 49:10
  Be
• 49:11
  mindful.
• 49:12
  So
• 49:12
  you've
• 49:12
  centered
• 49:13
  yourself.
• 49:13
  And
• 49:13
  then
• 49:14
  acknowledge
• 49:14
  what's
• 49:15
  happening.
• 49:16
  Center
• 49:16
  yourself,
• 49:16
  center
• 49:17
  yourself
• 49:17
  before
• 49:17
  you
• 49:18
  speak.
• 49:18
  And
• 49:19
  then
• 49:19
  acknowledge
• 49:20
  what's
• 49:20
  happening
• 49:20
  without
• 49:21
  judging.
• 49:22
  And
• 49:22
  then
• 49:22
  coach
• 49:23
  your
• 49:23
  kids
• 49:23
  to
• 49:24
  express
• 49:24
  to
• 49:24
  each
• 49:25
  other
• 49:25
  their
• 49:26
  feelings
• 49:26
  and
• 49:26
  to
• 49:27
  state
• 49:27
  their
• 49:27
  needs
• 49:28
  to
• 49:28
  each
• 49:28
  other.
• 49:29
  And
• 49:29
  then
• 49:29
  let
• 49:30
  them
• 49:30
  try
• 49:30
  to
• 49:30
  resolve
• 49:31
  it.
• 49:31
  You
• 49:32
  know,
• 49:32
  again,
• 49:32
  you
• 49:32
  can
• 49:33
  be
• 49:33
  the
• 49:33
  coach
• 49:34
  helper.
• 49:35
  Yeah.
• 49:35
  But
• 49:35
  don't
• 49:36
  solve
• 49:36
  the
• 49:36
  problem.
• 49:37
  Yeah.
• 49:37
  And
• 49:37
  don't
• 49:37
  have
• 49:38
  them
• 49:38
  plead
• 49:38
  their
• 49:38
  case
• 49:39
  to
• 49:39
  you.
• 49:39
  Right.
• 49:40
  So
• 49:40
  you're
• 49:40
  not
• 49:40
  the
• 49:40
  kids.
• 49:40
  You
• 49:40
  can
• 49:40
  be
• 49:41
  the
• 49:41
  decision
• 49:41
  maker.
• 49:41
  Exactly.
• 49:42
  They
• 49:42
  need
• 49:43
  to
• 49:43
  learn
• 49:43
  to
• 49:43
  have
• 49:43
  conflicts
• 49:44
  with
• 49:44
  other
• 49:44
  people
• 49:44
  and
• 49:45
  resolve
• 49:45
  them
• 49:46
  mano
• 49:47
  a
• 49:47
  mano.
• 49:48
  Yeah.
• 49:48
  Do
• 49:48
  you
• 49:48
  remember
• 49:49
  when
• 49:49
  you
• 49:49
  and
• 49:50
  your
• 49:50
  and
• 49:50
  Sam
• 49:51
  used
• 49:51
  to
• 49:51
  fight?
• 49:51
  I
• 49:51
  mean,
• 49:52
  did
• 49:52
  I
• 49:52
  get
• 49:52
  involved?
• 49:53
  I
• 49:53
  don't
• 49:53
  remember.
• 49:53
  I
• 49:53
  don't
• 49:54
  know.
• 49:54
  I
• 49:54
  feel
• 49:54
  like
• 49:54
  Sam
• 49:55
  and
• 49:55
  I,
• 49:56
  I
• 49:56
  don't
• 49:56
  remember
• 49:56
  fighting
• 49:57
  with
• 49:57
  Sam
• 49:57
  a
• 49:57
  lot.
• 49:58
  I,
• 49:58
  I,
• 49:58
  maybe,
• 49:59
  maybe
• 49:59
  we
• 49:59
  did,
• 50:00
  maybe
• 50:00
  we
• 50:00
  didn't.
• 50:00
  I,
• 50:01
  I
• 50:02
  have
• 50:02
  always
• 50:02
  had
• 50:02
  a
• 50:02
  very
• 50:02
  close
• 50:03
  relationship
• 50:03
  with
• 50:03
  my
• 50:04
  brother.
• 50:04
  I'm
• 50:05
  sure
• 50:05
  when
• 50:05
  we
• 50:05
  were
• 50:06
  little
• 50:06
  we
• 50:06
  fought,
• 50:07
  but
• 50:08
  we
• 50:08
  had
• 50:08
  like,
• 50:08
  we
• 50:09
  were
• 50:09
  like
• 50:09
  also
• 50:09
  best
• 50:10
  buddies.
• 50:10
  You
• 50:11
  were,
• 50:11
  you
• 50:11
  played
• 50:11
  together
• 50:12
  very
• 50:12
  well.
• 50:12
  Yeah,
• 50:13
  I,
• 50:13
  I
• 50:13
  slept
• 50:13
  under
• 50:14
  his
• 50:14
  bed
• 50:14
  because,
• 50:16
  and
• 50:16
  sang
• 50:17
  him
• 50:17
  songs
• 50:17
  all
• 50:17
  night
• 50:18
  because
• 50:18
  he
• 50:19
  didn't.
• 50:19
  I
• 50:19
  didn't
• 50:20
  like
• 50:20
  to
• 50:20
  be
• 50:20
  alone.
• 50:20
  Sam
• 50:21
  didn't
• 50:21
  care.
• 50:21
  Sam
• 50:21
  was
• 50:22
  fine,
• 50:22
  but
• 50:22
  I
• 50:22
  was
• 50:22
  on
• 50:22
  the
• 50:23
  other
• 50:23
  side
• 50:23
  of
• 50:23
  the
• 50:23
  room
• 50:23
  and
• 50:24
  that
• 50:24
  felt
• 50:24
  too
• 50:24
  far
• 50:24
  away.
• 50:25
  So
• 50:25
  I
• 50:26
  pulled
• 50:26
  a
• 50:26
  mattress
• 50:27
  under
• 50:27
  his
• 50:28
  bed.
• 50:28
  I
• 50:28
  remember
• 50:28
  that.
• 50:29
  Yeah.
• 50:30
  Yeah.
• 50:30
  No,
• 50:32
  now
• 50:32
  that's,
• 50:32
  Yeah.
• 50:33
  I
• 50:33
  was
• 50:33
  lucky
• 50:33
  because
• 50:34
  you
• 50:34
  guys
• 50:34
  did
• 50:34
  get
• 50:34
  along
• 50:35
  pretty
• 50:35
  well.
• 50:35
  But
• 50:37
  I
• 50:37
  do
• 50:37
  remember
• 50:38
  seeing
• 50:38
  other
• 50:39
  parents
• 50:39
  stay
• 50:39
  out
• 50:40
  of
• 50:40
  their
• 50:40
  children's
• 50:40
  battles.
• 50:41
  And
• 50:41
  I
• 50:41
  always
• 50:42
  thought,
• 50:43
  really,
• 50:43
  you
• 50:44
  know,
• 50:44
  you
• 50:44
  can
• 50:45
  stay
• 50:45
  out
• 50:45
  of
• 50:45
  your
• 50:45
  kids
• 50:46
  fights.
• 50:46
  You
• 50:46
  don't
• 50:46
  have
• 50:46
  to.
• 50:46
  They'll
• 50:47
  figure
• 50:47
  it
• 50:47
  out.
• 50:48
  Yeah.
• 50:49
  Any
• 50:49
  fight
• 50:49
  I
• 50:49
  think
• 50:50
  that
• 50:50
  your
• 50:50
  kids
• 50:50
  have
• 50:51
  at
• 50:51
  that
• 50:51
  age,
• 50:51
  it's
• 50:52
  not
• 50:52
  going
• 50:52
  to
• 50:52
  be
• 50:52
  a
• 50:52
  Lifelong
• 50:53
  vendetta.
• 50:53
  No.
• 50:54
  You
• 50:54
  know,
• 50:54
  they'll
• 50:54
  get
• 50:54
  past
• 50:55
  it.
• 50:55
  They'll
• 50:55
  get
• 50:55
  through
• 50:55
  it.
• 50:56
  And
• 50:56
  it's
• 50:56
  natural
• 50:56
  for
• 50:57
  kids
• 50:57
  to.
• 50:57
  There's
• 50:58
  going
• 50:58
  to
• 50:58
  be
• 50:58
  conflict
• 50:59
  and
• 50:59
  resolution.
• 51:00
  Very
• 51:00
  important
• 51:01
  to
• 51:01
  learn
• 51:01
  how
• 51:02
  to
• 51:02
  handle
• 51:02
  that.
• 51:02
  And
• 51:03
  then
• 51:03
  supporting
• 51:04
  a
• 51:04
  peaceful
• 51:05
  home.
• 51:06
  She
• 51:07
  says
• 51:07
  by
• 51:07
  being
• 51:07
  a
• 51:08
  mindful
• 51:08
  parent,
• 51:09
  our
• 51:09
  connected
• 51:10
  relationships
• 51:10
  with
• 51:10
  our
• 51:11
  kids
• 51:11
  will
• 51:11
  cultivate
• 51:12
  a
• 51:12
  more
• 51:12
  willing
• 51:13
  cooperation.
• 51:15
  Kids
• 51:15
  want
• 51:15
  to
• 51:16
  please
• 51:16
  us,
• 51:16
  and
• 51:16
  when
• 51:17
  they're
• 51:17
  treated
• 51:17
  with
• 51:17
  love
• 51:17
  and
• 51:18
  respect
• 51:21
  and
• 51:21
  when
• 51:21
  we
• 51:22
  manage
• 51:22
  our
• 51:22
  reactivity,
• 51:24
  there
• 51:24
  will
• 51:24
  be
• 51:25
  less
• 51:25
  conflict
• 51:26
  at
• 51:26
  home.
• 51:28
  We
• 51:28
  want
• 51:28
  to
• 51:29
  cultivate
• 51:29
  meaningful
• 51:30
  connections
• 51:31
  with
• 51:31
  our
• 51:31
  kids
• 51:31
  through
• 51:31
  hugs
• 51:32
  and
• 51:32
  snuggles
• 51:33
  and
• 51:33
  special
• 51:33
  time
• 51:34
  and
• 51:35
  praise
• 51:35
  and
• 51:35
  encouragement.
• 51:38
  And
• 51:39
  then
• 51:40
  with
• 51:40
  effective
• 51:41
  parenting
• 51:41
  habits.
• 51:42
  Things
• 51:42
  like
• 51:43
  she
• 51:43
  talks
• 51:43
  about.
• 51:44
  First,
• 51:44
  you
• 51:44
  want
• 51:45
  to
• 51:45
  teach
• 51:45
  your
• 51:45
  kids
• 51:45
  they
• 51:46
  have
• 51:46
  to
• 51:46
  do
• 51:46
  their
• 51:46
  responsibilities
• 51:47
  first.
• 51:47
  Then
• 51:48
  they
• 51:48
  can
• 51:48
  have
• 51:48
  fun.
• 51:48
  Yes,
• 51:49
  that's
• 51:50
  first.
• 51:50
  And
• 51:50
  then
• 51:51
  again,
• 51:52
  I.
• 51:52
  I
• 51:52
  totally
• 51:53
  agree.
• 51:53
  Establish
• 51:54
  routines
• 51:54
  and
• 51:55
  schedules
• 51:55
  at
• 51:55
  home.
• 51:56
  Great
• 51:57
  advice.
• 51:57
  Great
• 51:58
  advice.
• 51:58
  We'll
• 51:58
  take
• 51:59
  it.
• 51:59
  Great
• 51:59
  advice.
• 52:00
  Help
• 52:00
  your
• 52:00
  child
• 52:01
  be
• 52:01
  independent
• 52:02
  at
• 52:02
  home
• 52:02
  and
• 52:02
  do
• 52:03
  as
• 52:03
  much
• 52:03
  as
• 52:03
  they
• 52:03
  can
• 52:03
  for
• 52:04
  themselves.
• 52:05
  Simplify.
• 52:06
  Don't
• 52:07
  give
• 52:07
  them
• 52:07
  too
• 52:07
  many
• 52:08
  things.
• 52:08
  Yeah.
• 52:09
  Yeah.
• 52:09
  I
• 52:09
  love
• 52:09
  that.
• 52:10
  Agree.
• 52:11
  So
• 52:11
  much
• 52:11
  stuff.
• 52:11
  You
• 52:12
  had
• 52:12
  way
• 52:12
  too
• 52:12
  much
• 52:12
  stuff.
• 52:13
  I
• 52:13
  did.
• 52:13
  I
• 52:14
  had
• 52:14
  way
• 52:14
  too
• 52:14
  much
• 52:14
  stuff.
• 52:15
  Way
• 52:15
  too
• 52:15
  much.
• 52:15
  I.
• 52:15
  I'm
• 52:16
  looking
• 52:16
  back,
• 52:16
  that.
• 52:17
  That's.
• 52:17
  That
• 52:17
  was
• 52:17
  part
• 52:17
  of
• 52:18
  the
• 52:18
  problem.
• 52:18
  It's
• 52:18
  going
• 52:18
  to
• 52:18
  be
• 52:19
  hard
• 52:19
  with
• 52:19
  my
• 52:19
  daughter,
• 52:19
  too,
• 52:20
  because
• 52:20
  she's
• 52:20
  the
• 52:20
  first
• 52:21
  grandchild
• 52:22
  on
• 52:22
  both
• 52:22
  sides
• 52:23
  and
• 52:23
  everyone
• 52:24
  just
• 52:24
  wants
• 52:24
  to
• 52:24
  give
• 52:24
  her
• 52:24
  the
• 52:25
  world.
• 52:25
  And
• 52:25
  it's
• 52:25
  really
• 52:26
  sweet,
• 52:26
  and
• 52:26
  I
• 52:26
  love
• 52:26
  it.
• 52:27
  But
• 52:27
  as
• 52:27
  she
• 52:27
  gets
• 52:27
  older,
• 52:28
  we'll
• 52:29
  probably
• 52:29
  have
• 52:29
  to
• 52:29
  regulate
• 52:30
  a
• 52:30
  little
• 52:30
  more.
• 52:31
  Right?
• 52:31
  You
• 52:31
  don't
• 52:31
  want
• 52:31
  to.
• 52:32
  It's
• 52:32
  too
• 52:32
  much
• 52:32
  junk
• 52:33
  in
• 52:33
  the
• 52:33
  house.
• 52:33
  And
• 52:34
  I
• 52:34
  am
• 52:34
  a
• 52:34
  minimalist.
• 52:35
  I
• 52:35
  don't
• 52:36
  like
• 52:36
  things
• 52:37
  everywhere.
• 52:37
  And
• 52:38
  it's
• 52:38
  funny,
• 52:38
  I
• 52:38
  can
• 52:38
  already
• 52:39
  see
• 52:39
  my
• 52:39
  husband
• 52:39
  and
• 52:40
  I.
• 52:40
  He's
• 52:40
  like,
• 52:40
  yeah,
• 52:40
  when
• 52:40
  you
• 52:41
  have
• 52:41
  a
• 52:41
  baby,
• 52:41
  you
• 52:41
  have
• 52:41
  baby
• 52:41
  stuff
• 52:42
  everywhere.
• 52:42
  I'm
• 52:42
  like,
• 52:42
  no,
• 52:43
  you
• 52:43
  don't.
• 52:43
  You
• 52:43
  don't
• 52:43
  have
• 52:43
  a
• 52:43
  baby
• 52:44
  stuff
• 52:44
  has
• 52:44
  a
• 52:44
  plate,
• 52:45
  and
• 52:45
  when
• 52:45
  it's
• 52:45
  not
• 52:45
  being
• 52:46
  used,
• 52:46
  it
• 52:46
  lives
• 52:46
  in
• 52:47
  its
• 52:47
  place,
• 52:47
  and
• 52:47
  that's
• 52:48
  that.
• 52:48
  He's
• 52:48
  like,
• 52:48
  I
• 52:48
  want
• 52:48
  to
• 52:49
  put
• 52:49
  a
• 52:49
  bouncer
• 52:49
  in
• 52:50
  the
• 52:50
  living
• 52:50
  room.
• 52:50
  I'm
• 52:50
  like,
• 52:51
  no,
• 52:51
  absolutely
• 52:52
  not.
• 52:53
  No,
• 52:54
  no.
• 52:54
  In
• 52:54
  the.
• 52:54
  In
• 52:55
  the
• 52:55
  playroom.
• 52:55
  In
• 52:56
  the.
• 52:56
  Or
• 52:56
  bedroom
• 52:57
  or
• 52:57
  whatever.
• 52:57
  She
• 52:58
  has
• 52:58
  a
• 52:58
  bedroom.
• 52:58
  That's
• 52:59
  where
• 52:59
  her
• 52:59
  stuff
• 52:59
  is.
• 52:59
  Yeah.
• 53:00
  And
• 53:00
  again,
• 53:00
  it
• 53:01
  can.
• 53:01
  When
• 53:01
  she
• 53:01
  wants
• 53:02
  to
• 53:02
  use
• 53:02
  it.
• 53:02
  When
• 53:02
  you
• 53:03
  want
• 53:03
  to
• 53:03
  use
• 53:03
  it
• 53:03
  with
• 53:03
  her,
• 53:04
  put
• 53:04
  it
• 53:04
  wherever
• 53:04
  you
• 53:04
  want.
• 53:05
  Right.
• 53:05
  But
• 53:06
  when
• 53:06
  it's
• 53:06
  not
• 53:06
  being
• 53:07
  used,
• 53:07
  it
• 53:07
  goes
• 53:08
  in
• 53:08
  its
• 53:08
  place.
• 53:09
  Just
• 53:09
  makes
• 53:09
  your
• 53:09
  house
• 53:09
  a
• 53:10
  more
• 53:10
  peaceful
• 53:10
  house.
• 53:10
  Also,
• 53:11
  we
• 53:11
  have
• 53:11
  a
• 53:11
  thousand
• 53:12
  animals.
• 53:13
  If
• 53:13
  we
• 53:13
  leave
• 53:14
  her
• 53:14
  stuff
• 53:14
  everywhere,
• 53:15
  the
• 53:15
  cat's
• 53:16
  Gonna
• 53:16
  take
• 53:16
  it
• 53:16
  over.
• 53:17
  The
• 53:17
  dogs
• 53:18
  are
• 53:18
  gonna
• 53:18
  get
• 53:18
  into
• 53:18
  it.
• 53:19
  It's
• 53:19
  like
• 53:20
  yesterday
• 53:21
  I
• 53:21
  almost
• 53:22
  took
• 53:22
  my
• 53:23
  cat
• 53:23
  into
• 53:23
  the
• 53:23
  street
• 53:24
  because
• 53:24
  he
• 53:25
  was
• 53:25
  asleep
• 53:26
  in
• 53:26
  her
• 53:26
  stroller
• 53:27
  in
• 53:27
  the
• 53:28
  bottom
• 53:28
  compartment.
• 53:28
  And
• 53:29
  I
• 53:29
  had
• 53:29
  no
• 53:30
  idea.
• 53:30
  Oh,
• 53:31
  my
• 53:31
  God.
• 53:31
  And
• 53:31
  he
• 53:31
  came
• 53:32
  out
• 53:32
  just
• 53:32
  as
• 53:33
  I
• 53:33
  was
• 53:33
  getting
• 53:33
  into
• 53:33
  the
• 53:33
  elevator.
• 53:34
  Oh,
• 53:34
  my
• 53:35
  God.
• 53:35
  And
• 53:35
  I
• 53:36
  lost
• 53:36
  it.
• 53:37
  Yeah,
• 53:37
  I
• 53:37
  would,
• 53:37
  too.
• 53:38
  Because
• 53:38
  not
• 53:39
  that
• 53:39
  my
• 53:39
  cat
• 53:39
  would
• 53:39
  go
• 53:39
  anywhere.
• 53:40
  He's
• 53:40
  not
• 53:40
  an
• 53:40
  adventurous
• 53:41
  cat.
• 53:42
  Still,
• 53:42
  if
• 53:42
  suddenly
• 53:43
  he
• 53:43
  jumped
• 53:43
  out
• 53:44
  on
• 53:44
  the
• 53:44
  street
• 53:45
  in
• 53:45
  New
• 53:45
  York,
• 53:45
  honestly,
• 53:46
  he'd.
• 53:46
  Probably
• 53:46
  just,
• 53:46
  like,
• 53:47
  sit
• 53:47
  in
• 53:47
  the
• 53:47
  lobby.
• 53:48
  He,
• 53:48
  like,
• 53:48
  doesn't.
• 53:49
  I
• 53:49
  let
• 53:49
  him
• 53:49
  outside
• 53:50
  when
• 53:50
  we're,
• 53:51
  you
• 53:51
  know,
• 53:51
  not
• 53:51
  in
• 53:52
  New
• 53:52
  York.
• 53:52
  And
• 53:52
  he
• 53:53
  just
• 53:53
  goes
• 53:53
  to
• 53:54
  the
• 53:54
  door
• 53:54
  of
• 53:54
  the
• 53:54
  house.
• 53:55
  Good.
• 53:55
  And
• 53:56
  is
• 53:56
  like,
• 53:56
  I'd
• 53:57
  like
• 53:57
  to
• 53:57
  go
• 53:57
  in,
• 53:57
  please.
• 53:57
  Yeah.
• 53:58
  I've
• 53:58
  had
• 53:58
  a
• 53:58
  lost
• 53:58
  cat,
• 53:59
  as
• 53:59
  you
• 53:59
  know.
• 53:59
  You
• 54:00
  hired
• 54:00
  a
• 54:00
  pet
• 54:00
  detective.
• 54:01
  I
• 54:01
  did.
• 54:02
  To
• 54:02
  find
• 54:02
  the
• 54:02
  cat.
• 54:03
  Yes.
• 54:03
  A
• 54:03
  man
• 54:03
  from
• 54:04
  Georgia
• 54:04
  with
• 54:04
  bloodhounds
• 54:05
  to
• 54:06
  search
• 54:06
  Miami
• 54:07
  Beach.
• 54:07
  I
• 54:08
  did.
• 54:08
  And
• 54:08
  the
• 54:08
  cat
• 54:08
  was
• 54:09
  located.
• 54:09
  It
• 54:09
  never
• 54:10
  left
• 54:10
  the
• 54:10
  building.
• 54:11
  It
• 54:11
  was.
• 54:11
  Right.
• 54:12
  But
• 54:13
  it
• 54:13
  was
• 54:13
  gone
• 54:13
  for
• 54:13
  two
• 54:13
  weeks.
• 54:14
  Yeah,
• 54:14
  he
• 54:14
  was.
• 54:15
  Yeah.
• 54:15
  Yes.
• 54:15
  Scary.
• 54:16
  It
• 54:16
  was
• 54:17
  really
• 54:17
  awful.
• 54:18
  Really
• 54:18
  awful.
• 54:18
  But
• 54:19
  was
• 54:19
  okay
• 54:19
  eventually.
• 54:20
  Thank
• 54:20
  God.
• 54:21
  Okay.
• 54:21
  And
• 54:22
  then
• 54:23
  one
• 54:23
  thing
• 54:23
  she
• 54:24
  says
• 54:24
  is,
• 54:24
  don't
• 54:24
  over
• 54:25
  schedule
• 54:25
  your
• 54:25
  child.
• 54:26
  Which
• 54:27
  I
• 54:27
  do
• 54:27
  think,
• 54:27
  in
• 54:27
  general
• 54:28
  is
• 54:29
  probably
• 54:29
  very
• 54:29
  good
• 54:30
  advice.
• 54:31
  But
• 54:31
  I
• 54:32
  do
• 54:32
  remember,
• 54:32
  I
• 54:32
  just
• 54:33
  want
• 54:33
  to
• 54:33
  bring
• 54:33
  this
• 54:33
  up,
• 54:33
  that,
• 54:34
  you
• 54:34
  know,
• 54:35
  one
• 54:35
  time
• 54:35
  when
• 54:35
  you
• 54:36
  were
• 54:36
  having
• 54:36
  real
• 54:37
  problems
• 54:37
  at
• 54:37
  school,
• 54:38
  and.
• 54:38
  And
• 54:39
  I
• 54:39
  think
• 54:39
  we
• 54:39
  went.
• 54:40
  And
• 54:40
  that's
• 54:40
  when
• 54:40
  we
• 54:40
  got
• 54:42
  that
• 54:43
  therapist
• 54:43
  who
• 54:44
  was
• 54:44
  really
• 54:44
  good.
• 54:45
  Sean.
• 54:45
  And
• 54:47
  he
• 54:47
  said,
• 54:48
  schedule
• 54:48
  her
• 54:49
  every
• 54:49
  day.
• 54:50
  Keep
• 54:50
  her
• 54:51
  out
• 54:51
  of
• 54:51
  trouble.
• 54:52
  Yeah,
• 54:52
  yeah.
• 54:52
  Because
• 54:52
  she'll
• 54:53
  be
• 54:53
  doing
• 54:53
  things
• 54:53
  that
• 54:54
  will
• 54:54
  be
• 54:54
  good
• 54:54
  for
• 54:55
  her,
• 54:55
  and
• 54:55
  she
• 54:55
  will.
• 54:56
  Enriching.
• 54:56
  Enriching.
• 54:57
  And
• 54:57
  she
• 54:58
  will
• 54:58
  not
• 54:58
  be
• 54:58
  out
• 54:58
  on
• 54:59
  the
• 54:59
  street
• 54:59
  or
• 54:59
  doing
• 54:59
  anything
• 55:00
  being
• 55:00
  insane.
• 55:01
  Right.
• 55:01
  And
• 55:02
  do
• 55:02
  you
• 55:02
  think
• 55:02
  that
• 55:02
  was
• 55:03
  in
• 55:03
  your
• 55:03
  situation?
• 55:04
  Yeah,
• 55:04
  Well,
• 55:05
  I
• 55:05
  also
• 55:05
  was
• 55:05
  really
• 55:05
  into
• 55:06
  a
• 55:06
  lot
• 55:06
  of
• 55:06
  things.
• 55:06
  I
• 55:06
  was
• 55:07
  really
• 55:07
  into
• 55:07
  ballet.
• 55:08
  I
• 55:08
  was
• 55:08
  really
• 55:08
  into
• 55:08
  the
• 55:09
  circus,
• 55:10
  like.
• 55:10
  So
• 55:10
  we
• 55:10
  scheduled
• 55:11
  a
• 55:11
  lot.
• 55:11
  Yeah,
• 55:11
  you
• 55:11
  scheduled
• 55:12
  me
• 55:12
  a
• 55:12
  lot.
• 55:13
  You
• 55:13
  also
• 55:13
  made
• 55:13
  me
• 55:14
  do
• 55:14
  things
• 55:14
  I
• 55:14
  didn't
• 55:14
  like
• 55:14
  to
• 55:15
  do,
• 55:15
  like
• 55:15
  tutoring
• 55:16
  and
• 55:16
  kuma.
• 55:18
  Yeah,
• 55:19
  I
• 55:19
  know.
• 55:20
  But
• 55:20
  whatever.
• 55:20
  Neither
• 55:21
  here
• 55:21
  nor
• 55:21
  there.
• 55:22
  I
• 55:22
  survived.
• 55:22
  You
• 55:23
  got
• 55:23
  through
• 55:23
  it.
• 55:23
  But
• 55:24
  anyway,
• 55:24
  so
• 55:24
  sometimes.
• 55:25
  I
• 55:25
  don't
• 55:25
  know.
• 55:25
  I
• 55:26
  think
• 55:26
  you
• 55:26
  play
• 55:26
  that
• 55:26
  one
• 55:27
  by
• 55:28
  right.
• 55:28
  There
• 55:28
  should
• 55:29
  be
• 55:29
  a
• 55:29
  balance.
• 55:30
  Establish
• 55:31
  limits
• 55:32
  on
• 55:32
  screen
• 55:32
  time.
• 55:33
  Yes.
• 55:33
  Always
• 55:34
  good.
• 55:34
  And
• 55:35
  just
• 55:35
  give
• 55:35
  as
• 55:35
  much
• 55:35
  unconditional
• 55:36
  love
• 55:36
  as
• 55:37
  possible.
• 55:37
  Yes.
• 55:38
  Yeah.
• 55:38
  Yeah,
• 55:39
  I
• 55:39
  agree
• 55:39
  with
• 55:39
  that
• 55:40
  totally.
• 55:41
  So
• 55:41
  from
• 55:42
  scientist
• 55:42
  to
• 55:43
  parent,
• 55:43
  how
• 55:43
  readable
• 55:44
  was
• 55:44
  this
• 55:44
  book?
• 55:45
  It
• 55:45
  was
• 55:45
  very
• 55:46
  readable.
• 55:46
  I
• 55:46
  would
• 55:47
  say
• 55:47
  it's
• 55:47
  like
• 55:47
  an
• 55:49
  eight.
• 55:49
  I
• 55:49
  mean,
• 55:50
  it's
• 55:50
  for
• 55:51
  readability.
• 55:51
  For
• 55:51
  readability.
• 55:52
  It
• 55:52
  was
• 55:53
  just
• 55:53
  the
• 55:53
  parts
• 55:53
  about
• 55:54
  Mindfulness.
• 55:55
  I
• 55:55
  just
• 55:56
  have
• 55:56
  a
• 55:56
  visceral
• 55:56
  reaction
• 55:58
  because
• 55:58
  I.
• 55:58
  Maybe
• 55:59
  because
• 56:00
  my
• 56:00
  mind
• 56:00
  does
• 56:00
  move
• 56:01
  too
• 56:01
  fast.
• 56:01
  I
• 56:02
  might
• 56:02
  be
• 56:02
  the
• 56:02
  person
• 56:02
  who
• 56:03
  needs
• 56:03
  that
• 56:03
  the
• 56:04
  most,
• 56:04
  actually.
• 56:05
  But.
• 56:06
  So
• 56:06
  I.
• 56:06
  I
• 56:07
  do
• 56:07
  have
• 56:07
  a
• 56:07
  negative
• 56:08
  reaction
• 56:09
  to
• 56:09
  that
• 56:09
  myself.
• 56:09
  Yeah.
• 56:10
  But,
• 56:12
  you
• 56:13
  know,
• 56:13
  maybe
• 56:14
  someday
• 56:14
  I
• 56:14
  will
• 56:15
  learn
• 56:16
  to
• 56:16
  be
• 56:17
  someone
• 56:18
  who
• 56:18
  meditates.
• 56:18
  I
• 56:19
  don't
• 56:19
  know.
• 56:19
  I
• 56:20
  feel
• 56:20
  like
• 56:21
  a
• 56:21
  simpler
• 56:22
  way
• 56:22
  to
• 56:22
  get
• 56:22
  into
• 56:22
  mindfulness
• 56:23
  is
• 56:24
  yoga.
• 56:25
  For
• 56:25
  people
• 56:25
  like
• 56:25
  you
• 56:26
  and
• 56:26
  I
• 56:26
  who
• 56:27
  have.
• 56:27
  Who
• 56:27
  struggle
• 56:28
  to
• 56:28
  quiet
• 56:28
  our
• 56:28
  minds.
• 56:29
  If
• 56:29
  our
• 56:29
  bodies
• 56:29
  can
• 56:30
  be
• 56:30
  involved,
• 56:31
  I
• 56:31
  often
• 56:31
  find
• 56:32
  that
• 56:32
  it's
• 56:32
  a
• 56:32
  little
• 56:32
  easier.
• 56:33
  Well,
• 56:33
  that's
• 56:34
  interesting.
• 56:34
  Okay.
• 56:36
  Yeah.
• 56:36
  Yeah,
• 56:38
  that's.
• 56:38
  That's
• 56:39
  a
• 56:39
  good.
• 56:39
  That's.
• 56:39
  That's
• 56:39
  a
• 56:40
  good
• 56:40
  thing.
• 56:40
  You're
• 56:40
  probably
• 56:41
  right
• 56:41
  about
• 56:41
  that.
• 56:41
  Yeah.
• 56:42
  Overall,
• 56:42
  I
• 56:42
  think
• 56:42
  I
• 56:43
  would
• 56:43
  recommend
• 56:43
  this
• 56:43
  book.
• 56:44
  There
• 56:45
  were
• 56:45
  some
• 56:45
  parts
• 56:45
  I
• 56:45
  really
• 56:46
  enjoyed,
• 56:46
  and
• 56:46
  then
• 56:46
  there
• 56:46
  were
• 56:47
  some
• 56:47
  parts
• 56:47
  that,
• 56:47
  again,
• 56:48
  like
• 56:48
  you,
• 56:48
  I
• 56:48
  was
• 56:48
  like,
• 56:49
  I'm
• 56:50
  just
• 56:50
  not
• 56:50
  the
• 56:50
  audience
• 56:51
  for
• 56:51
  this.
• 56:51
  Right.
• 56:52
  But
• 56:52
  if
• 56:52
  this
• 56:52
  is
• 56:52
  the
• 56:52
  kind
• 56:53
  of
• 56:53
  thing
• 56:53
  you're
• 56:53
  into.
• 56:53
  Yeah.
• 56:54
  Really
• 56:54
  good
• 56:54
  book.
• 56:55
  Good
• 56:55
  book.
• 56:55
  Solid,
• 56:56
  solid
• 56:56
  book.
• 56:57
  Nothing
• 56:57
  I
• 56:57
  hated,
• 56:59
  which
• 56:59
  is
• 56:59
  saying
• 56:59
  something.
• 57:00
  And
• 57:01
  what
• 57:01
  is
• 57:01
  it
• 57:02
  that
• 57:02
  we
• 57:02
  want
• 57:02
  to
• 57:02
  raise.
• 57:03
  We
• 57:03
  all
• 57:04
  want
• 57:04
  to
• 57:04
  raise
• 57:04
  a
• 57:04
  good
• 57:05
  human.
• 57:05
  That's
• 57:06
  the
• 57:06
  goal.
• 57:06
  I
• 57:06
  mean,
• 57:07
  the
• 57:07
  goal
• 57:07
  isn't
• 57:08
  to
• 57:08
  just
• 57:08
  have
• 57:08
  a
• 57:09
  baby.
• 57:09
  The
• 57:09
  goal
• 57:10
  is
• 57:10
  to
• 57:11
  raise
• 57:11
  a
• 57:12
  child
• 57:12
  into
• 57:13
  a
• 57:14
  human
• 57:14
  being
• 57:15
  who's
• 57:15
  a
• 57:15
  good,
• 57:15
  kind,
• 57:16
  compassionate,
• 57:17
  happy
• 57:17
  person.
• 57:18
  And
• 57:18
  that's
• 57:18
  what
• 57:19
  this
• 57:19
  is
• 57:19
  going
• 57:19
  for.
• 57:20
  Someone
• 57:20
  who
• 57:20
  contributes.
• 57:22
  Yes.
• 57:22
  You
• 57:22
  know.
• 57:24
  Yes.
• 57:24
  Thank
• 57:25
  you
• 57:25
  so
• 57:25
  much
• 57:25
  for
• 57:26
  joining
• 57:26
  us
• 57:26
  for
• 57:26
  this
• 57:27
  episode
• 57:27
  of
• 57:27
  Other
• 57:27
  People's
• 57:28
  Parenting.
• 57:28
  And
• 57:29
  we
• 57:29
  hope
• 57:29
  to
• 57:29
  see
• 57:29
  you
• 57:30
  next
• 57:30
  week.