Latest / Amplify Your Marketing Message with Christine Campbell Rapin / 195 - The Identity Framework That Fuels Exponential Growth
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- 0:03If you are a B2B service based business owner and you are
- 0:06looking to gain more clients, create more impact and more
- 0:09revenue in your business, TuneIn to amplify your marketing
- 0:13message with Christine Campbell Rappin.
- 0:15Every week we're going to take you through how to build an
- 0:17audience of buyers, mastering your marketing message and
- 0:20making offers. Welcome back, everybody.
- 0:26I will tell you that next level growth requires sometimes a big
- 0:30shift in your next level identity.
- 0:32And a good friend of mine introduced me to our next guest
- 0:35who has witnessed this, supported this, led this, and
- 0:39has something really important to say about this.
- 0:41So please give a very warm welcome to Cassie Shea, who is
- 0:44going to be our guest today. Cassie, welcome to the show.
- 0:48Thanks so much for having me, Christine.
- 0:50Glad to be here. It is a pleasure.
- 0:53So let's talk about this idea that as you move into more
- 0:57wealth, as you move into more success, as you move into more
- 1:00impact, sometimes how you perceive yourself and how others
- 1:03perceive you comes out of sync. How do we tackle this and how do
- 1:08we bridge that so that it becomes fast level growth?
- 1:13Use the word bridge. That's actually exactly where it
- 1:15would go with this. So I'll give you a super recent
- 1:17example. I had a call just to date with a
- 1:20very successful entrepreneur. He's running a multi 6 figure
- 1:23business about to cross into the seven figure mark.
- 1:27And his stated problem was I don't know how to delegate sales
- 1:31and marketing. I'm sure many people in your
- 1:33world are thinking about this as we grow in our business, we want
- 1:37to learn how to bring others into the team, right?
- 1:41And the first thing he said was I'm, I'm a hard worker and I
- 1:46asked for his permission to coach a little deeper.
- 1:48Can I open up this question? But that idea that identity of
- 1:52being a hard worker is actually what's preventing you from
- 1:56bridging where you are now to where you want to go.
- 1:58Because the story we tell ourselves about what's possible
- 2:02is dictating what decisions we make.
- 2:04At the core of it, that's identity work.
- 2:06So whatever story we're telling ourselves about where we are in
- 2:08our Business Today and how that's different from where we
- 2:11want to go, that creates what's called a gap.
- 2:14And the fastest way to do that is actually to have an identity
- 2:17bridge that can get us from where we are today to where we
- 2:20want to go or create a intermediary story between, for
- 2:25example, if you're a multi 6 figure entrepreneur wanting to
- 2:27cross that 7 figure mark, it's not just enough to say I have an
- 2:31identity as a 7 figure entrepreneur.
- 2:34Your brain might be screaming, well, that's not the evidence.
- 2:36Like that's not what my bank account says.
- 2:37That's not where my client pipeline is today.
- 2:40But a bridge identity might be something like I'm crossing into
- 2:44the southern figures and I'm a super delegator.
- 2:47That actually might be a bridge identity as an example.
- 2:50That gives us the tactical framework to know what do we
- 2:53need to do to close that gap to get from where we are today to
- 2:55where we're ultimately trying to go next in our business.
- 2:59And how you were beautiful in witnessing his identity gap.
- 3:04Are there things that we can do or how we can solicit this so
- 3:08that we also have that light bulb to create an even better
- 3:12result like you were able to walk through with your client?
- 3:16One of the fastest and easiest ways to do this in a very
- 3:19tactical way, one thing that I invite my clients to do that
- 3:22anyone listening to this could do is take out a sheet of paper
- 3:25and 1st you want to start with what is the 20% of the work
- 3:29you're doing that's leading to the largest results in your
- 3:32business? For me, it might be something
- 3:34around activating my network, being on podcasts, hosting
- 3:39people on my podcast, upcoming. Like being able to develop
- 3:42deeper relationships and conversations with people would
- 3:45be one example. But we use the 8020 rule.
- 3:48So 20% of what we're doing is usually leading toward 80 or
- 3:52more percent of our results. And that also means that
- 3:54actually taking an inventory of the 80% of things we're still
- 3:57doing that we might need to fire ourselves from is really
- 4:01important to surface and look at.
- 4:03I'm in the process of expanding my team, so I've just done this
- 4:06exercise on myself, which is what I typically do with all the
- 4:09client exercises I give to clients.
- 4:11I do them on myself as well and I do them again and again to see
- 4:16how growth is really a spiral, right?
- 4:18We get to the next level and sometimes we actually need to go
- 4:20back to basics. So we use the 8020 rule.
- 4:23The 80% of things that I'm currently firing myself from are
- 4:27things that I can make SOP's and delegate around.
- 4:29In other words, I can give better instructions and clear
- 4:31instructions to my team because I realize that an identity I was
- 4:35fully gone to, perhaps for too long one might say, is the
- 4:39project manager in my company. And so when I realized order to
- 4:43get to the next evolution of my growth as a leader and an
- 4:46entrepreneur and a creator, I actually need to fire myself
- 4:49from everything having to do with project management.
- 4:51That now gives me a clear tactical frame to understand how
- 4:56the question I would ask is what would need to be true for me to
- 4:59never do project management in my company again.
- 5:01And that question, what would need to be true?
- 5:04Fill in the blank, what would need to be true?
- 5:06An example of the client I just gave you would need to be true
- 5:08for him to not necessarily be the hardest worker in the
- 5:10company, but the smartest worker, the worker with the most
- 5:13leverage, the worker with the most impact.
- 5:15Once we start shifting the words and unlocks a better question.
- 5:20So the question for me, when I looked at my 80% list of things
- 5:23that I'm doing that take up a lot of time, they do add value,
- 5:27but they add incremental value, not necessarily exponential
- 5:31value to the business. I was able to actually make that
- 5:33list very tactical and practical and understand that some of that
- 5:37was a lag of my old identity. Some of those were identities I
- 5:40used to live in that made the business prosperous up until
- 5:43now. But what got you here won't
- 5:45necessarily get you there. So quick inventory on your 8020
- 5:48list and then looking at how you can fire yourself lovingly from
- 5:52that 80% that's no longer of your highest and best is a fast
- 5:56way to start looking at some of those lag identities that did
- 5:59get you here, but they won't get you to the exponential growth
- 6:03that's next. I know more for many people, the
- 6:07biggest question to ask is what would a person at that next
- 6:12level be doing, deciding, implementing.
- 6:15And I think one of the most profound things, exercises
- 6:18similar to what you're saying is take an inventory of this.
- 6:22Think what A7 figure business in this example, what A7 figure
- 6:24business be the one updating the website?
- 6:27Would they be doing the project management work or is that the
- 6:30gap that you've got and you have to future cast?
- 6:34You have to really think about this and not just think about
- 6:38firing yourself, actually fire yourself.
- 6:40And so when you're shifting debris, how do you step around
- 6:48the debt, the wealth, the prosperity?
- 6:52Because often when we're climbing, fear comes with us.
- 6:56What do you see? How do you experience it?
- 6:58And how can we all learn from how you guide others?
- 7:02I think fear can come along for the road trip, but one of my
- 7:05roles for myself and what I encourage and invite clients
- 7:08into is fear doesn't get to press the brakes, fear doesn't
- 7:11get to accelerate, and fear doesn't get to hold the steering
- 7:13wheel. So fear might sit in the back
- 7:15seat, maybe eventually even the trunk.
- 7:18But it's unlikely that we're going to take any kind of new
- 7:20large endeavor that's going to stretch our skills.
- 7:23If we think about the science of change, in order to do something
- 7:28bigger, we're going to need new skills.
- 7:30And so there's definitely that sense of fear.
- 7:34And I would also replace the word with uncertainty.
- 7:36I think as entrepreneurs were constantly dealing with a sense
- 7:39of uncertainty and we sort of learned to stomach it almost
- 7:42like maybe being on a, a boat. We're we're riding that tide and
- 7:46we're learning how to stabilize ourselves despite the
- 7:48environment around us. One of the ways that we keep
- 7:53ourselves aware of the balance point if you're on the ocean is
- 7:58actually looking at the horizon if you're somebody that tends to
- 8:00get sea sick. And so the same principle
- 8:02applies with fear. If we look too much at literally
- 8:06where we are now in the gap of where we're going to the
- 8:09distance can be overwhelming and it can create a level of
- 8:13uncertainty that paralyzes us. But if we actually look at the
- 8:16long term perspective, the goal is that we're actually starting
- 8:19to make decisions as our future self.
- 8:21Now, I'd love that you use that word around decide.
- 8:23What is that future version of you deciding?
- 8:26So one example would be to to actually stretch the goal Baker
- 8:31and farther so that it shakes up your thinking.
- 8:34Doctor Ben Hardy talks about this a lot and the books the 2X
- 8:38is easier than 2X, which is one of my favorite texts to use with
- 8:41clients. And the idea is that if your
- 8:43goal is too small, we actually see almost unlimited pathways to
- 8:47get there. And we can get paralysis by
- 8:49analysis because there's too many options.
- 8:51The more we actually make the goal bigger.
- 8:53So for example, if you're a multi 6 figure company crossing
- 8:57into the seven figure mark, the low 7 figures crossing that
- 9:01$1,000,000 mark might be inevitable.
- 9:04But what would actually change your thinking is what if you
- 9:07actually went from multi 6 figures to over 10 million?
- 9:10The point is not to create a goal that you can't possibly
- 9:13hit, but the point is to change your thinking about the pathways
- 9:17and the decisions that would actually be required to get
- 9:21there. And there's actually fewer
- 9:23possibilities. There's fewer options if you
- 9:26stretch the goal out and make it way bigger.
- 9:28Because to your point, you're not going to be able to update
- 9:30the website and write every line of copy and also service every
- 9:34customer that comes in the door. It would be impossible to
- 9:36duplicate yourself 1000 times over to serve clients and gain
- 9:41that much revenue. So if we actually make the goal
- 9:43bigger, that will change our thinking.
- 9:46And so when I have a client that feels stuck or they're
- 9:48experiencing that fear and uncertainty, one of the things
- 9:51that guide them back to is what do you honestly want?
- 9:54And then I prompt them to actually make that request or
- 9:57that desire even bigger to see what creative pathways that
- 10:02might open up. I'm curious, in this world of
- 10:05digital where we're asking AI choose your flavor of the week
- 10:11to show me a path to 10X instead of 2X, how does our identity
- 10:16come along for the ride or not in a case like this?
- 10:20Because I love the simplicity with fewer pathways when you are
- 10:24jumping exponentially. But sometimes people see this
- 10:28exponential thing because it's fed to them by a language
- 10:31learning model. But identity isn't something
- 10:35that the AI does well, so how are you encountering this?
- 10:402 answers. I believe that all of my clients
- 10:44voicing their truth is actually a really critical component.
- 10:48And so when I'm coaching a client, either I'm live on Zoom
- 10:50with them like this, or I'm actually asking them to use
- 10:54Voxer or another voice note application to start stating
- 10:58their desires more clearly. I've learned recently that our
- 11:01voice, our intonation, is as unique as our thumbprint.
- 11:05And when we use our voice to express our truly health
- 11:07desires, we can't hide anymore from it.
- 11:11And a lot of times fear comes up at that level because clients
- 11:14say, gosh, well, if I want something bigger, if I start
- 11:16creating this grander vision, what if I don't hit it?
- 11:19It would be better to shoot smaller, play small, because
- 11:22then nobody will know if I failed, nobody will be able to
- 11:25see me, shoot for the moon and land among the stars, which I
- 11:28would still consider success. So to your point, I think AI is
- 11:34a great analysis partner. I use AI a lot for compilation.
- 11:38I would say it's a curation and compilation tool for me.
- 11:41It's not necessarily a change management tool and it's not
- 11:44always the most effective mirror to show me more of what I truly
- 11:48and authentically want. I think that change still
- 11:51happens best in the container of a relationship or a network of
- 11:55relationships. And so one of the things that's
- 11:57so beautiful even about how you and I met is through a
- 12:00relationship that we both care about.
- 12:02And so I believe with the advent of AI and what AI makes
- 12:05possible, which is frankly so much for my business in terms of
- 12:09tactical and analysis tasks, to change an identity is actually a
- 12:15relationship with yourself. And if you're not being honest
- 12:19about who you are and then what you want, I believe desire is
- 12:22kind of a defined compass. It leads us more into what we
- 12:26want more of what we want to create, what our maybe vocation
- 12:30or calling or pathway truly looks like from that soul level.
- 12:35When we ignore that and we're not deepening our relationship
- 12:38with ourselves and even deepening our relationship with
- 12:40other people on a creative and entrepreneurial adventure
- 12:43journey, we're missing something.
- 12:46The the language learning model is great for reflection of the
- 12:49past. It's not necessarily the best
- 12:52prediction of the future in my opinion.
- 12:55And a lot of identity used the word future casting.
- 12:58That's the same word I would use.
- 12:59So I feel like we're very In Sync with our language identity
- 13:03work is is partially future casting.
- 13:05It's partially relationship driven.
- 13:07It's the relationship with yourself and who you are willing
- 13:09to become. And part of that actually is
- 13:12grief. That's kind of the last thing
- 13:13that I would add that's talked about the least is the grief of
- 13:17who we leave behind when we make these big leaps forward.
- 13:21We're not static, we change. We're organic human beings.
- 13:24And so each level of growth can also bring a level of grief
- 13:28because who we are is not going to stay the same.
- 13:32And there's an invitation in that.
- 13:34But I think that processing all of that, the relationship
- 13:37component, the future casting, and the grief goes outside of
- 13:40the bounds of what a language model can really hold at this
- 13:43time. One of the most consistent
- 13:47things I do in my business as a mentor who is helping people,
- 13:50the skill to that first million is when they say, who am I to
- 13:53dream so big? And I said, let me just get out
- 13:56of mirror and reintroduce you to yourself, to your point about
- 14:00the relationship of you, It's OK to want what you want.
- 14:04And I know I watch it break. I watched it break in a room I
- 14:07facilitated on Tuesday. They're like, I actually want a
- 14:09lot and I'm scared by the size of the want.
- 14:14And I said that is indicating that you're leaving behind that
- 14:21other place and you will leave behind.
- 14:23I don't fit in that place anymore of smallness.
- 14:26And I wish I could do small. I wish I could do it things.
- 14:29And there becomes a choice. And I said you actually get to
- 14:32have what you want and you have to shift into agree and agree
- 14:37with the language piece. It's an evolution to that.
- 14:40It is a choice and it is evidence based, relationship
- 14:44based. And so you've worked with people
- 14:46who have successfully shed the skin, have successfully chosen,
- 14:52embraced and accelerated a tipping point.
- 14:57And everyone has their own tipping point of what big is,
- 15:00what the threshold is. Everyone has a, you know, a bias
- 15:03culturally and a bias in in our own shapes and forms as we
- 15:07evolve. What have you observed that gets
- 15:11us past the plateau and gets us past, Oh my God, now that I'm
- 15:17here, maybe it's easier to go back because I see that happen,
- 15:22and sabotage is sometimes part of the journey to the
- 15:28destination. Is indeed, and I typically take
- 15:33a lot of compassion for every past version of ourselves who
- 15:37couldn't have done things differently.
- 15:39That's my stance or invitation to clients.
- 15:44What you're making me think of is how I typically describe
- 15:47identity work is basically 3D's, which kind of mirrors our 3D
- 15:51reality. The 1st is desire, and we talked
- 15:53about that a lot. What what do you want?
- 15:55Do you want what you want simply because you want it?
- 15:58And learning to want what you want without justification can
- 16:01undo a lot of conditioning, frankly, because a lot of us are
- 16:04told early on what we're allowed to want culturally based on our
- 16:08family origin or where we grew up geographically.
- 16:10There's so many factors that tell us what we're allowed to
- 16:13want or how high we're allowed to shoot in life.
- 16:16And so when we start realizing this is all a game, there's
- 16:20really no rules in terms of treatment, we are creators.
- 16:25And so we are allowed to actually push the boundaries of
- 16:29what we can create in life. And I tend to work with people
- 16:32that want to create really good things in the world.
- 16:34I feel so lucky. And I think you and I probably
- 16:35share that with the people we work with.
- 16:38And what tends to happen is we bump up against what I would
- 16:41call the second, which is deserving.
- 16:43Once we're clear on what we want, a lot of people have a
- 16:45block. This.
- 16:47I've studied across age, gender, geography, and I tend to work
- 16:50with people all over, not just the US but even the world, and
- 16:55we tend to have a block around what we think we're allowed to
- 16:58have. So once we get clear on the
- 17:00desire, occasionally it happens where we're actually feeling
- 17:03unclear. Can we hold that?
- 17:06If we got it, would we still be happy?
- 17:09What might this desire do to separate us from the people we
- 17:12love? Sometimes people shift quite a
- 17:15bit away from their family of origin or their community that
- 17:17they grew up in, based on the thresholds of what we were
- 17:20allowed to want. So the deserving piece is where
- 17:23I go in to people when I'm coaching them, we actually look
- 17:26at their internal values. And the idea is that that you're
- 17:29working from the inside out to create this life that you want,
- 17:32this new identity. We can use that as a bridge to
- 17:36help you raise your deserving level, your ability to welcome
- 17:38with open arms the gifts that are coming towards you already.
- 17:42And there's a lot of layers to that.
- 17:44But I would say that the easiest way to explain it is if you're
- 17:48true to yourself from the inside out, you're using intrinsic
- 17:51motivation, you feel pulled toward, motivated internally
- 17:55toward what you're creating versus this extrinsic pushing
- 17:58energy. We all know kind of what it
- 18:00means to hustle or grind. If we've started a business or
- 18:03started any kind of entry that's made money, there's those early
- 18:05years of just taking any client that comes your way, for
- 18:08example. And eventually a lot of us get
- 18:10to the position where we realize we can choose the type of
- 18:12clients we want. We can choose the type of
- 18:14projects we want, and that's part of the deserving where you
- 18:19realize that you're no longer working because you need to.
- 18:22You're offering value to the world because you want to.
- 18:26It's a much different position to be in.
- 18:28And then the third in the process of the identity
- 18:30evolution is deciding. You talked about it a lot.
- 18:34Use the word choice many times in our conversation so far.
- 18:37There's a power to deciding for our future, for our bold vision
- 18:42for who we want to become, and we get to author that.
- 18:46And those decisions carry weight and sometimes we shy away from
- 18:49that because they have impact, positive and negative at times.
- 18:54But we do need to decide. Like we can't sit in indecision.
- 18:59That's usually a symptom of something else going on under
- 19:02the surface. So in our agency, we get to
- 19:06decide. And that's kind of the the
- 19:08evolution from desire to raising our healthy deserve level and
- 19:12continuing to for a lot of people, that's kind of like
- 19:15yoga. You're always going to get more
- 19:16flexible. You could always raise that
- 19:18deserving level and then making clear decisions as their future
- 19:21self now. I think there is such a big
- 19:24difference between I'm deciding and decided, and I know that I
- 19:30hear both in this bridge. I'm deciding to aspire.
- 19:35I'm deciding what's possible in evidence beyond my current
- 19:39reality. And when you're making those
- 19:42choices and commitments in your delegation, in your shedding, in
- 19:47your shift of identity, it becomes a real grounded place of
- 19:52certainty. I am that embodiment and it's
- 19:55beautiful to bear witness. It's beautiful to transition.
- 19:58And guys, it's going to be wobbly.
- 20:00And so you want to have support in your pocket, in your team,
- 20:07and you want people at every new level, every new aspiration to
- 20:11see you as you are, not with how you see yourself with your
- 20:14rearview mirror. So I'd love for you, Cassie, to
- 20:17share with us what's working for you right now to capture clients
- 20:22who really need what you bring to the table.
- 20:23What's working in your world? I love the focus of that
- 20:27question because when we focus on what is already working, we
- 20:30tend to multiply those efforts. So what works really well for me
- 20:33is I have such a rich and wonderful network.
- 20:36Sometimes it's almost scary. Like I have 67 unread text
- 20:40messages on my phone today. That makes me hyperventilate.
- 20:44I also feel that way too, but that's representative of
- 20:48clients. That's representative of people.
- 20:49I love that I'm checking in on family members.
- 20:52So for me, I've cultivated a very, very rich network.
- 20:55And one of the things that I've realized over time has been a
- 20:58superpower is I I catch up with people, I check in on them, I
- 21:01love on them. If something comes to mind and
- 21:04I'm thinking of them, I send them a text message, preferably
- 21:07a voice note. I tend to find that those are
- 21:10the least AI able way of reaching out to people these
- 21:12days is either a video or voice note.
- 21:15And So what works for me to get clients is I guess two things.
- 21:19Shifting my identity to I'm somebody that attracts
- 21:22magnetically the right clients to me.
- 21:25I've done a lot of work around this.
- 21:26I've done a lot of work on myself.
- 21:28I've done a lot of work with clients.
- 21:29If you could change one belief, it's I'm a great activator of
- 21:33clients. Once I decided to embody that
- 21:36identity, I started looking for evidence of where it was true.
- 21:40And then I have such rich relationships in such a deep,
- 21:42rich network. I keep up with them.
- 21:44I'm not looking for the next client.
- 21:46I'm looking to deepen the relationships I already have.
- 21:49And what tends to happen is more clients find me through LinkedIn
- 21:54and largely through my relationship network that
- 21:56already exists because I fell in love with the work and I love
- 22:00the journey with clients. And so it becomes a very natural
- 22:03extension to become referable. I feel like when you're doing
- 22:06great work and you love it. And so I very rarely ask for
- 22:09clients. I try to get out of my own way
- 22:13and change the belief structure, and what I'm working on to
- 22:16continue doing is make myself visible.
- 22:18It's harder to attract clients if they don't know who the heck
- 22:21you are. So this year I'm investing more
- 22:23in my visibility efforts, which would look like LinkedIn and
- 22:25YouTube specifically as a starting place, but I've crossed
- 22:31$800,000 of cumulative revenue. My business before I sent a
- 22:34single e-mail to an e-mail list, which I think is a really funny
- 22:38not if it doesn't have to look any certain way and all the
- 22:40things you think you need, this great website, this lead magnet,
- 22:43this e-mail list to build your marketing efforts.
- 22:47You really just need to go talk to people and love on them.
- 22:50And the business tends to grow if it's organic and healthy.
- 22:53That's been my experience. And now after six years, I'm
- 22:56going to cross the $1,000,000 mark humility in my business
- 22:58this year, I just for the first time set up an e-mail list.
- 23:01I'm like, oh, that might be a good thing.
- 23:02It might remind people that I've collected, we met over the
- 23:05years, that I still exist. So now I'm building that
- 23:08visibility engine next. People always said to me when I
- 23:12first started, don't look for clients, look for people to
- 23:14support, ways to contribute and problems to solve.
- 23:17And you will always have clients come to you.
- 23:20And I think that's a much better way to build.
- 23:22So Cassie, how do people find you to connect you to learn more
- 23:24about the work you're doing and the awesomeness that you bring
- 23:26to the world? Thanks Christine.
- 23:28Two places possibility investor.com you'll get an
- 23:32introduction to identity work and I built a calculator that
- 23:36almost forecasts your any or futurecast it like compound
- 23:39interest. If you make these investments in
- 23:41your identity, could you become in the future?
- 23:44I also love to hang out on LinkedIn, so feel free to
- 23:46connect with me there. I try to share stories and
- 23:49frankly just love on people the best I can.
- 23:52Alright guys, go step into her. Sunbeam, this is Kathy Shea.
- 23:56We are grateful for you having time to spend with us today.
- 23:59Go connect to her. Go be part of that and shift
- 24:03your identity. It's time to have the creators
- 24:06rise and to put good into the world, one relationship at a
- 24:09time. Thank you for being our guest.
- 24:11This has been amplify your marketing message and we'll see
- 24:14you on our next episode. We'll see you then.
- 24:45We'll see.