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Almost Good Advice Part VIII · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: This new segment, Almost Good Advice has been something we've
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  Speaker 2: really enjoyed doing, and as listeners, we really appreciate you listening.
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  Speaker 2: Your feedback and your insights and your questions have been amazing.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a bit since we did an almost Good Advice,
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  Speaker 2: not because of a lack of success, mostly because of
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  Speaker 2: the success of the Almost Famous podcast and all the
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  Speaker 2: interviews we've had coming out and all the great people
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  Speaker 2: we get to talk to. But your questions have been
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  Speaker 2: piling up in our inboxes, and so today we're doing
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  Speaker 2: an almost Good Advice. We got some good questions, Ashley,
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  Speaker 2: take it away.
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  Speaker 3: The first one is probably our juiciest h It's from
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  Speaker 3: anonymous says I found a box of empty condoms at
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  Speaker 3: my boyfriend's place, and we don't use condoms. And before
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  Speaker 3: you jump to the okay, maybe it's an old box
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  Speaker 3: and he's a messy dude who just keeps empty things around. Well,
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  Speaker 3: her boyfriend thirty years old and she twenty eight years old,
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  Speaker 3: have been together for over a year, almost two years. Anyway,
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  Speaker 3: I'm allergic to latex and I've been on birth control
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  Speaker 3: for years, so we've never used condoms. In fact, we've
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  Speaker 3: never even mentioned or talked about using them. Well, today
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  Speaker 3: I found a box of condoms in my boyfriend's underwear
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  Speaker 3: drawer and it's empty, and he most definitely didn't use
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  Speaker 3: them with me. What do I do? What would you do?
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  Speaker 3: You guys live alone. It's in his underwear drawer. Oh,
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  Speaker 3: it's bad, bad stuff right here. What you gotta do
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  Speaker 3: is confront him, and you have to. He might give
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  Speaker 3: you bullshit and you might have to figure out how
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  Speaker 3: to see through it. He might tell you the truth.
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  Speaker 3: But it's really hard for me to believe that that
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  Speaker 3: box has been sitting there empty for two years.
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  Speaker 2: At the beginning of this, you said, before you jump
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  Speaker 2: to the conclusion that this could be an old box,
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  Speaker 2: you said, don't do that. Why'd you say don't do that?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I said, well, thinking that like they were in
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  Speaker 3: a new relationship, a newer relationship. Yeah, years, two years
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  Speaker 3: sitting in the in the drawer.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, would you, I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Not shocking if somebody left a box of something in
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  Speaker 2: their drawer for two years.
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  Speaker 3: I know I'm thinking the same thing. Like my nightstand,
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  Speaker 3: I definitely have things I probably haven't used for two years.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, this is this to me? Is this would
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  Speaker 2: be a really difficult thing to find. My advice would be,
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  Speaker 2: don't let your mind go to the worst possible place
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  Speaker 2: right away.
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  Speaker 3: But can we at least admit that it seems like
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  Speaker 3: the most plausible of all of the things.
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  Speaker 2: I actually don't know if it's the most possible.
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  Speaker 3: Really, you're very sweet, Well I do.
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  Speaker 2: I just would hate for their mind to jump to this.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, this is awful. This is what's happening.
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  Speaker 2: Who's it happening with? Kind of like path before me.
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  Speaker 2: My advice is have the conversation. I mean, you found
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  Speaker 2: it in a place. This is different than finding on
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  Speaker 2: its phone. If you found on its phone or a computer,
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  Speaker 2: it gets really hard because then you're like, hey, I
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  Speaker 2: was kind of like looking into your stuff. I had
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  Speaker 2: a reason to look into your stuff. I intentionally was
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  Speaker 2: trying to find something. I'm assuming here with his underwear door,
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  Speaker 2: you weren't trying to find anything that was going to
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  Speaker 2: be bad.
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  Speaker 3: You're probably putting laundry away.
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  Speaker 2: You probably putting laundry away. You found this, and so
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  Speaker 2: I think you go, hey, what is this? Like you
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  Speaker 2: just have to ask the question now, like what is this?
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  Speaker 2: I found these and you could. I think in this situation,
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  Speaker 2: the best statement to make is I trust you, and
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  Speaker 2: so I don't want my mind to jump to like
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  Speaker 2: worse possible scenarios, but it's hard for my mind not
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  Speaker 2: to jump there, and so I want to ask you
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  Speaker 2: what this is so that you can tell me and
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  Speaker 2: if it is, if it is worst case scenario, I
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  Speaker 2: want you to be able to tell me that too,
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  Speaker 2: because that's only fair to both of us. I think
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  Speaker 2: going in with that is helpful because it won't lose
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  Speaker 2: trust if it is maybe a mistake, like hey, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I've had it there for three years. I totally forgot
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  Speaker 2: I was in there, not a thing. I promise whatever
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  Speaker 2: you not attacking right away, not making assumptions right away,
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  Speaker 2: will still hold the value of trust in your relationship
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  Speaker 2: and allow them the space and kind of the calmness
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  Speaker 2: in your voice and your tone to tell you also, hey, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I have been messing around. And then you can get
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  Speaker 2: as mad as you want. Really, you can fire away,
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  Speaker 2: or you can be forgiven for it. Which it was
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  Speaker 2: a whole different conversation, but you got to go into
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  Speaker 2: it like take up deep breast, be very calm about it,
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  Speaker 2: vary at peace about it before kind of like jumping
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  Speaker 2: down the throat and making all the assumptions. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's just having that conversation in a calm way, leaving
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  Speaker 2: the space open for the two of you to actually
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  Speaker 2: have a conversation, even if that conversation isn't going to
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  Speaker 2: go in a path, that is what either of you
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  Speaker 2: maybe want. And so just tell them, hey, I found this.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want my mind to jump. I trust you
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  Speaker 2: what is this? And then allow him the space to
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  Speaker 2: tell you.
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  Speaker 3: Our next question is from Ginny. My friend always has
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  Speaker 3: negative feedback about my plan. I have this friend whom
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  Speaker 3: I always support and I give her all the advice
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  Speaker 3: that she needs. When she has a planner is asking
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  Speaker 3: for some ideas. She wants to start a business, a
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  Speaker 3: business that I have already, but because of some reason
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  Speaker 3: I stop, and now she wants to try that thing.
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  Speaker 3: She asked me about it, and I share with her
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  Speaker 3: almost everything. And then when the time comes that I
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  Speaker 3: want to start a different business, I ask her for
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  Speaker 3: some ideas and everything she says is negative, and now
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  Speaker 3: I have doubts if I will continue my plan.
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  Speaker 1: Or what.
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  Speaker 3: I know that I can do it myself. But I'm
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  Speaker 3: just thinking, is she going to be here to encourage me?
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  Speaker 3: What do you think? Should I continue my plan and
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  Speaker 3: start the business or just listen to her? Okay? So, Jenny,
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  Speaker 3: I'm just trying to get this straight. You want a business,
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  Speaker 3: you have an idea for a business, and she keeps
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  Speaker 3: poopooing the idea, but then she also kind of wants
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  Speaker 3: to take on the idea and do it herself. Ben,
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  Speaker 3: Is that how you're interpreting this.
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  Speaker 2: How I'm interpreting this is that Ginny has a business
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  Speaker 2: right now that her friend also wants to start a
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  Speaker 2: similar business too.
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  Speaker 3: When she says that sounds like a copycat.
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  Speaker 2: She wants to start a business, a business that I
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  Speaker 2: have already, but because of some reasons, I stopped the business,
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  Speaker 2: and now she wants to try that thing. So Ginny
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  Speaker 2: had this business, she has stopped it because of some
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  Speaker 2: reasons that she's not telling us. Her friend now to
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  Speaker 2: start a similar business, and Jenny is sitting there now
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  Speaker 2: kind of without a job. I'm assuming and going, hey,
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  Speaker 2: I want to start a new business, something that was
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  Speaker 2: not like my old business, and her friend is kind
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  Speaker 2: of poopooing the ideas and giving her negative feedback.
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  Speaker 3: Like, is she even just somebody to trust with throwing
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  Speaker 3: out ideas too?
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  Speaker 2: Is yeah?
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  Speaker 3: I think we're Yeah, I mean probably not. Do you
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  Speaker 3: have another friend that you can talk to you about
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  Speaker 3: ideas because it seems like one she kind of stole
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  Speaker 3: your idea and two she's not even really supportive, So like,
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  Speaker 3: find someone else to talk to, is my advice.
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  Speaker 2: I always come with the simple advice, Ben, I actually
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  Speaker 2: think she's been a good friend. I want friends when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to especially business. I know the saying is
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  Speaker 2: business is business. I think I'm not like.
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  Speaker 3: I don't love mixing business with friends.
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  Speaker 4: It's not always the best.
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  Speaker 2: But I mean I'm saying I actually do like mixing
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  Speaker 2: business with friends. You know, most of the things I
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  Speaker 2: do are with friends. I think business is business is
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  Speaker 2: the saying. I don't think that's always true, but I
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  Speaker 2: do think there is a world in which it is true,
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  Speaker 2: meaning it's not true when you are hurting somebody else
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  Speaker 2: in the pursuit of your success. I don't think business
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  Speaker 2: is business. Then I do think business is business when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to honest feedback and opinions from people you trust.
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  Speaker 2: And love and that love you. I can't tell you
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  Speaker 2: if you should start this business or not. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what this business is. I don't know the plan
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  Speaker 2: you have, I don't know the model you have, and
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  Speaker 2: I don't know your skill set. And if you are
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  Speaker 2: built to run this business, I don't think you should
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  Speaker 2: just jump to find a friend that's just going to
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  Speaker 2: be your yes person. That's why good boards exist within
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  Speaker 2: organizations is because the boards should never be the yes person.
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  Speaker 2: They should always be the one asking the questions, digging
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  Speaker 2: a little deeper, being critical, making you answer some of
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  Speaker 2: the thoughts and ideas that they have, because it's only
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  Speaker 2: going to make you better or more prepared for the
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  Speaker 2: difficult situation.
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  Speaker 3: The reason that I say that like she hasn't been
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  Speaker 3: supportive in like a she's she hasn't been critical in
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  Speaker 3: a good way is because she ended up just stealing
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  Speaker 3: the idea and taking over the business, which makes me
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  Speaker 3: like worried about her morality here you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but if I had a business, Okay, for example, podcasts,
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  Speaker 2: If I have a podcast almost same as podcasts, this
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  Speaker 2: podcast stops and then you go on to do another
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  Speaker 2: similar show on your own without me, am I going
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  Speaker 2: to lose my trust in you as a friend, not
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  Speaker 2: at all. It's not going to be easy. Maybe I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to be like I'm gonna have questions for you,
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  Speaker 2: of course, like, hey, what's going on here? Why don't
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  Speaker 2: you you know, why don't you ask me to be
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  Speaker 2: a part of this? But you have every right to
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  Speaker 2: do that. And it's not you being a bad friend.
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  Speaker 2: It's you seeing maybe a gap or a hole in
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  Speaker 2: what we have here almost famous, and saying I think
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  Speaker 2: I could do this better on my own without Ben,
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  Speaker 2: and then you do it. And that's okay. That's not
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  Speaker 2: a like, that's not a morality issue. That's just you saying, hey,
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  Speaker 2: there's only one way this model works in my mind
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  Speaker 2: right now, and that model works with you know, Ashley
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  Speaker 2: and Jared co hosting it together, or you and somebody else,
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  Speaker 2: or are you doing alone. I'm not against this friend
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  Speaker 2: saying hey, you stopped doing this business and now I
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  Speaker 2: think I want to do it because I saw what
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  Speaker 2: you went through and I disagreed with you on some
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  Speaker 2: of your decision making, and I felt like I could
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  Speaker 2: find success in ways that you didn't. So I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to take it over and I'm going to try it
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  Speaker 2: my way now because I learned from you. I want
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  Speaker 2: to give you the credit for learning from you. But
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  Speaker 2: I learned from you, and you know, I think I
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  Speaker 2: can do this thing. I don't have a problem with that.
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  Speaker 2: And I also want to have a problem with some
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  Speaker 2: friend being critical of whatever pursuit you have next. Starting
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  Speaker 2: a business is not easy. It's not just fun and games.
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  Speaker 2: It's really hard. It's oftentimes going to cost a lot
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  Speaker 2: of money, and your success is going to be dependent
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  Speaker 2: on how you handle chaos and how you get launched.
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  Speaker 2: And so I think your friend hopefully is coming from
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  Speaker 2: a spirit of love and support, but asking questions that
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  Speaker 2: they have on their mind to maybe poke holes in
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  Speaker 2: what you're trying to build, so either you can adapt
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  Speaker 2: and evolve or you don't do it so you don't
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  Speaker 2: end up on the back end of a really bad pursuit.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's a respectable answer. Thank you, Ben for being
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  Speaker 3: so understanding.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I have friends, I mean, when you know, when
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  Speaker 2: I start something, I have friends that I trust deeply
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  Speaker 2: who have told me no, don't do it. Like what
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  Speaker 2: are you thinking, like this isn't going to work? Like
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  Speaker 2: have you thought about this, and this and this. Those
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  Speaker 2: are the friends I would still call tomorrow if I
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  Speaker 2: had something going on, because hopefully, at some point in
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  Speaker 2: their life too, they've been in They've said no, I
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  Speaker 2: think it's a good idea. Let's run.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: This is from Joey. Me and my girlfriend are in
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  Speaker 3: college and we've been dating for over a year now.
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  Speaker 3: During her honeymoon phase, we would spend almost every moment
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  Speaker 3: and every night together and we would never fight. I'd
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  Speaker 3: say six months down the road. After summer and the
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  Speaker 3: next year started, we would tend to argue and fight more,
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  Speaker 3: but we would still spend every moment with each other.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel like it's unhealthy because she gets frustrated
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  Speaker 3: or mad whenever I try to do something with my
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  Speaker 3: friends or if I want to do something on my own.
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  Speaker 3: Her best friends and her have recently been in a
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  Speaker 3: huge fight for months, and it's looking like they won't
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  Speaker 3: be friends again because she has put so much energy
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  Speaker 3: into me and not her best friends, which has resulted
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  Speaker 3: in her not having any more close friends other than
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  Speaker 3: me and two other people she just started recently hanging
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  Speaker 3: out with me. On the other hand, I still put
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  Speaker 3: effort and hang out with all my best friends and
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  Speaker 3: when it comes it but it comes with a price
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  Speaker 3: every time right now, in an argument, whether it's me golfing,
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  Speaker 3: watching sports, or just wanting to go hang out with friends,
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  Speaker 3: it results in an argument and it's getting very frustrating.
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  Speaker 3: I tried to set boundaries with her by sleeping on
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  Speaker 3: my own once a week, but every time it came
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  Speaker 3: to that, it would result in a fight. I'm not
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  Speaker 3: sure if anyone has dealt with a girlfriend who has
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  Speaker 3: separation issues, but it's to the point where, even if
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  Speaker 3: we are not in the same state for summer, she
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  Speaker 3: constantly feels like she has to have me on FaceTime
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  Speaker 3: all day long. For example, last night, we were on
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  Speaker 3: FaceTime for two hours and I told her I'm going
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  Speaker 3: and I told her I'm going to smoke weed and
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  Speaker 3: watch a show, and she got very mad at me
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  Speaker 3: because I felt like I didn't even talk to her
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  Speaker 3: even though it's been two hours. It's the point where
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  Speaker 3: I'm not if I'm not with her or doing something
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  Speaker 3: without her, she gets very upset and starts a fight.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just looking for advice and other people's opinion on this.
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  Speaker 3: You down a bad cycle, my friend. I don't know
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  Speaker 3: where it went wrong, but it did, and now she's
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  Speaker 3: that girl. I understand your frustration there. I have a
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  Speaker 3: best friend that when we became best friends, she became
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  Speaker 3: very possessive to the point where like she got very
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  Speaker 3: jealous every time we would I would hang out with
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  Speaker 3: another friend and it really upset me. And it was
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  Speaker 3: a short term thing and she got over it and
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  Speaker 3: blah blah blah. But I just remember being very upset
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  Speaker 3: about the frustration that would come when I'd be like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I can't hang out today I have I'm gonna hang
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  Speaker 3: out with so and so. That's so the closest comparison
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  Speaker 3: I have, And this is way deeper. This is your
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  Speaker 3: girlfriend who you've been with for like about a year
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  Speaker 3: and a half.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 3: It's not a good It happens a lot that people
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  Speaker 3: end up distancing themselves from their friends when they're in
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  Speaker 3: a new relationship. So she's now dependent on you for
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  Speaker 3: the friendship element as in addition to the romantic relationship element.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't know how you go back, because it
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  Speaker 3: sounds like if you're going to bring this up to
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  Speaker 3: her that she's just gonna get very she's gonna get heated,
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  Speaker 3: She's gonna deny it all.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's you're right. It's not going to get better.
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  Speaker 2: This is not going to magically fix itself and it Honestly,
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  Speaker 2: I've never known of a scenario where talking through it
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  Speaker 2: fixes it either. This feels like a personal growth moment
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  Speaker 2: for your girlfriend and probably yourself too. Both of you
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  Speaker 2: need to grow. I'm not saying grow up, mature all those.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying you're not that. I'm just saying this
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  Speaker 2: feels like a moment where the two of you are
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  Speaker 2: no longer compatible, compatible as a couple, and you aren't
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  Speaker 2: making each other your best selves. Because few hints one
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  Speaker 2: she's lost friendships being with you. That doesn't mean that
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  Speaker 2: you've caused it. It just means that she's lost friendships
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  Speaker 2: during the time of your relationship. That's not healthy for
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  Speaker 2: anybody to be losing people that you love and that
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  Speaker 2: care for you because you are now with somebody else. Also,
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  Speaker 2: you you sound exhausted, You sound resentful. You from the
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  Speaker 2: message that you say, it sounds like you are constantly
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  Speaker 2: walking on eggshells to not be in trouble. So here's
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  Speaker 2: my advice. It's not going to get better. You've got
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  Speaker 2: to make the decision of what you now foresee your
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  Speaker 2: life looking like, do you want this as a partner forever?
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  Speaker 4: Like?
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  Speaker 2: Do you want to continue this path where as you
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  Speaker 2: get married? You know what, You're never able to hang
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  Speaker 2: out friends. The two of you are together all the time.
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  Speaker 2: You have very little freedom of your own. For me,
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  Speaker 2: I read this and I get anxiety because as an
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  Speaker 2: introvert myself, there's many moments where I have to be
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  Speaker 2: away from Jess. Doesn't mean I'm going to hang out
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  Speaker 2: with friends necessarily, but I'm going away like I'm doing
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  Speaker 2: my thing. I'm going to lunch by myself, or I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to a movie by myself or whatever. She just
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  Speaker 2: understands that. She accepts it, she loves it, she appreciates it.
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  Speaker 2: She just knows that's going to make me my best
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  Speaker 2: version of myself. I think your girlfriend needs to ask
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  Speaker 2: herself how is Joey going to be the best version
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  Speaker 2: of himself? For himself, for us, for his friends, for
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  Speaker 2: his family, whatever. And she has to kind of, as
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  Speaker 2: we said early, she has to commit to allowing you
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: that space. You have to also ask that for herself.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: For her, say, how is she going to be the
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: best version of herself? In this relationship. So here would
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: be my advice. Honestly, this is hard advice. You got
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: to take a break. You've got to cut communication for
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: a period of time so that both of you can
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  Speaker 2: kind of take a deep breath and grow on your
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: own without each other, rebuild maybe past relationships, commit to
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: a period of investing into friendships, and then not give
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: up on the idea that they're in the future could
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: still be a potential for the two of you to
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: get back together. But before you do that, you gotta
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: grow because right now the two of you, at least
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: from this email, your girlfriend is very dependent on you,
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: and having that dependence to that level will never go
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: well in the long term. You can't be her everything
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: all the time at every moment. We're not made for
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: that as humans. Has to take some time to invest
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: into herself, to invest into things outside of you, to
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: ask yourself, to question why she's so dependent, and then
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: maybe you can get back together as that growth has happened.
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  Speaker 2: Because I've seen that happen, I've just never seen it
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  Speaker 2: a couple continue on this path and it get any
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  Speaker 2: better at any moment. Very good.
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  Speaker 3: I'm surprised, actually, Ben, I thought you were going to
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: have an alternative a fix but I but like in
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: my but the anxiety that is built from this story
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: between you and I.
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  Speaker 2: You know too many people you've known too. We've all
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: heard so many moments of this is in college too,
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Like if this was in your twenty twenties, who like
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: twenty six, twenty seven to going up to thirty, you'd
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: be we'd all be reading this like, WHOA something really
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: weird it's happening here. This is a very common thing, Joey,
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: Like when you ask have you ever heard of this before? Yes,
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: all the time, and every friend's relationship in college that
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: I've ever had, one of the people were questioning why
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: I'm not spending as much time together, you know whatever,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: It's not uncommon. I've just never seen it continue without
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: there being some break to kind of revisit who what
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: they care about and who they are is people outside
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: of their relationship. So that's my opinion.
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: All right, Well, guys, that has been almost good advice.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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