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See It Before You See It: Choose Vision Over Validation · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm Coach C, your host, and today I want to talk about something that sits at
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  the core of my coaching philosophy, vision.
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  You hear me talk about vision all the time, because vision is vital for victory
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  in this thing called life.
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  I always say you have to see it before you see it.
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  I talk about vision boards. I talk about faith.
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  I reference the good book where it says, without a vision, the people perish.
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  I reference Einstein's quote that imagination is a preview of life's coming attractions. Why?
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  Because all of these concepts point to the same truth.
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  Before anything can exist externally, it must first exist internally.
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  Every invention, every business, every book, every dream, every accomplishment,
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  it all began as a thought, a vision, a glimpse of something that did not yet exist.
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  The beautiful thing is that every one of us has been equipped with the ability
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  to imagine, create, dream, and envision.
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  Yet so many people struggle with vision. I've heard people say,
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  Coach C, that's hard for me.
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  I don't know what my purpose is. I don't know what my gift is.
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  I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing.
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  And my response is always the same. Let's start with the clues?
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  What keeps you awake at night because you can't stop thinking about it?
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  What problem do you wish you could solve? What excites you? What breaks your
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  heart? What are you naturally good at?
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  What do people constantly come to you for? What would you pursue if fear wasn't
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  sitting in the driver's seat?
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  Those questions aren't random. They're breadcrumbs.
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  They're clues. There are signposts pointing toward your purpose.
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  The challenge is that most people never follow the clues because they're waiting on validation.
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  They're waiting for someone to tell them they're good enough.
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  They're waiting for permission. They're waiting for support.
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  They're waiting for applause.
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  They're waiting for someone else to see what God has already shown them.
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  And that's where many dreams die. Not because the vision wasn't real.
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  Not because you're not capable, but because you choose validation over vision.
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  You have allowed the opinions of people with no assignment on their life to
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  become louder than the calling placed within you.
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  Can I tell you something? Everybody is not going to understand your vision.
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  Everybody is not going to support your vision. Everybody is not going to celebrate
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  your vision. And that's okay.
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  Because a vision wasn't given to everybody. It was given to you.
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  The reality is that most people don't need more confirmation. They need more courage.
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  Courage to start. The courage to fail. The courage to learn. The courage to grow.
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  The courage to pursue something before they have evidence that it will work. That's called faith.
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  Faith is often taking the first step before the staircase appears.
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  Vision is seeing the destination before the journey begins. And validation?
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  Validation often arrives after you've already done the work,
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  after you've taken the risk, after you've stayed committed, after you refuse to quit.
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  So on this Motivational Monday, I want to challenge you to stop asking for permission.
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  Stop polling the audience. Stop shrinking your dream to fit someone else's comfort zone.
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  Stop waiting for validation.
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  Make the vision plain. Make it clear. Write it down. Pray over it. Work for it.
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  Pursue it with everything you've got because the people living their purpose
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  aren't necessarily the most talented.
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  They aren't necessarily the smartest. They're often the ones who had the courage
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  to trust the vision before anyone else believed in it.
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  Remember this, you don't need everybody to see it. You just need to see it.
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  And if you can see it, believe it, and pursue it consistently,
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  one day the thing that lived only in your imagination will become your reality.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week's fearless homework is called Vision Audit.
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  I want you to write down one dream, goal, business, career move,
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  or passion project you've been delaying.
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  Under it, answer, what's stopping me?
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  Is it a real obstacle or a need for validation?
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  Whose approval am I waiting for?
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  And then write one sentence that starts with, The vision God placed inside of
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  me is, and then take one action within the next 48 hours.
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  Buy the domain. Register the LLC.
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  Post the content. Sign up for the class. Submit the application. Make the call.
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  End the exercise by saying this. I choose vision over validation.
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  I do not need permission to pursue my purpose.
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  Listen, don't let someone else's lack of vision become the reason you abandon yours.
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  The people clapping today weren't in the room when God gave you the assignment.
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  This is Coach C reminding you that your vision is bigger than anyone else's validation.
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  See it before you see it.
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  This is Real Talk, where we're realizing everyone is always learning and living your full experience.
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  and motivation between episodes.
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.