Shiftheads - Ghosts of Relationships Past: The Ex Has a Key. The New Partner Has a Question

Shane Hewitt and The Nightshift · Oct 31, 2026 · 18m

Relationship baggage can be as tangible as an ex's key to the house. Dr Laurie Betito uses that example to make boundaries concrete, with a way to talk about safety while acknowledging shared children and continuing obligations.

Thirteen Years Later, the Words Are Still There

An old partner's words can also remain long after the relationship ends. A remark about finishing a backyard shed resurfaces thirteen years after divorce. What happens when someone else's criticism starts sounding like a personal rule?

An Ordinary Evening, an Unnecessary Lie

A new relationship brings another chance to…