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- Bekah Yawn: Hey Sister Madison, thank you so much for your review. It was a joy to journey with you and serve you and you learning about God's design for your body and how to apply those tools for your marriage and your lifestyle. You guys, I also just want to take a quick moment to read a wonderful review left on Apple Podcast by Christy G. She said, I've only listened to a few episodes, but they have already helped and inspired me in loving God and loving my body. It has helped to sustain my hope. Excited to learn more and further my journey with this resource and community. Christy, wow, that is so encouraging for me to hear that you are being encouraged to love God and love your body more and lean into Him in this journey for your fertility. So I'm so thankful to just be that voice of encouragement for you. Thank you so much for leaving that review. My friend, if you have not left a review yet, wherever you're listening, it would mean so much to me and I would love to read it on the next episode. So feel free to drop in a review and let me know what you think about the show. It encourages me to keep going, y'all, and it also helps others to see these episodes. Also, please forgive if the audio quality is not the best today. I've got to get in this week's episode and all of my kids are sleeping, including where my podcast studio is. So I am in like an open room. but today it's it's about you guys. So let's let's kind of dig in. I'm going to give you a really wonderful resource after I share more about this episode. So in this topic about what you need to know about getting pregnant after a miscarriage, and I just want to dive right in. and just know I have a free resource for you that I will be sharing at the end of this episode. Okay, so tune in. All right, so the number one truth you need to know about getting pregnant after a miscarriage. so the reason why we're talking about this is because my husband and I we experienced three miscarriages, and my doctor did not mention this truth that I am going to share with you. That was so impactful for my healing journey and us having the time and space that we needed to not conceive again so that we could figure out what in the world is going on, why do we keep losing these babies? And we just need a break to be able to heal. I did not want to get on birth control. I didn't know how awful birth control was for my body, but I knew I just had an intuition. AHA the Holy Spirit that was just digging on my heart to not get on birth control. I just didn't feel comfortable with it. But my husband and I we just wanted answers for like okay, how can we keep loving each other in this season but not get pregnant so that we can figure out why we have lost three babies? So it was this truth that God was so good in revealing to us that. gave us such a grace in giving us those things of having a break from getting pregnant and not just that but giving us more answers as to what was going on with my body and what changes did I need to make based off of what my body was telling. So here it is you guys it is learning how to chart your cycle. And when I say learning how to chart your cycle, most people don't truly know what that actually means. What charting your cycle actually means is tracking through a fertility awareness method all the different biomarkers of your body, and not just the biomarkers of your body, but tracking those biomarkers along with how you're feeling and with what your day looks like. so let's let's dig into this, okay? So, first when we talk about charting. it's not just tracking the days of your period on an app. That is not tracking your cycle. It is not going to give you any information to be able to use to avoid pregnancy for a season. Or if you are ready to get pregnant again, it also helps you to know what are the best days to have intercourse for conception. if you're only tracking the days of your period, it's also not giving you any information at all. About your hormones, about your hormone health, about your ovulatory health, and about how your body is doing and recovering post miscarriage. so charting your cycle is tracking from day one of your period all the way until the last day of your cycle before your next period begins. So we're talking like a 24 to 36 day cycle, and and that's in a healthy range, depending On how long each of your cycle phases are. we're not gonna go super in depth to the different cycle phases inside of your cycle. I just want to like bring this awareness to you that if you have not had cycle charting education, you like you gotta get it, okay? Whether you had a miscarriage for genetic reasons or you don't know why you lost your baby, or you do have other root issues going on. I still, in all of those cases, 10 million percent encourage learning how to chart. Because after you go through a miscarriage and loss, it's going to take your body and your hormones a bit of time to rebalance. And when you learn how to chart, you will learn what is a healthy cycle. What are the cycle phases? What are healthy cycle phases? What are signs of healthy ovulation? Of healthy estrogen, of healthy progesterone, what are signs of unhealthy estrogen? What are signs of unhealthy progesterone? And you can literally learn all of those things through learning how to chart your cycle. And it's so helpful after you've been through the horrific, horrific pain and grief of a miscarriage to be able to see how is my body doing. Before we get pregnant again. It's very, very reassuring that I mean, it in my experience and then on all the people that I've helped learn this information and their experiences, it is so reassuring to be able to know, hey, how is my chart doing? What a lot of women struggle with is like they don't want to be controlling, right? at some point you're just like, I'm just trying to control everything, and I'm like, I just need to let God do his thing. And I 1 million percent agree, we should not be controlling. And at the same time, the Lord has given us tools and gifts of knowledge to be aware and to partner with him in this process of preparing our body, which our body is like the garden bed, right? And God is the gardener, he is the one who gives life, and he is asking us to work on our garden and to make and to do what we can do to help. you know, till the soil and add some fertilizer and pull out the deep rooted weeds. And then he is ultimately the one that will give and grow the life that we are praying for. I do think that once we're aware that we have this gift of knowledge, you know, if if you don't if you didn't know about charting, like, I mean, what else could you do? Right? You do the best that you can do. You control what you control. You control what you can control. But when it comes to knowing that you can know so much about your body and you can know how to help help it out with what it needs help with, that's a huge gift to be able to support your body in that way and to partner with the Lord in this life giving opportunity. so so those are some of the basics of it. like I said. It's really helpful to be able to know when you're fertile and when you're not fertile and if you're choosing to avoid pregnancy for a season. my husband and I I think we waited about six months from our third miscarriage until we decided we wanted to try to get pregnant again with our rainbow baby. we call her our triple rainbow baby because we had three losses and then we had her and we waited six months. Just because that's that's how long I needed with the things that I was working on. and it was such a gift to be able to avoid pregnancy naturally and confidently for a season and still be able to have intimacy with my husband. So that's a huge gift and being able to do that. The second thing is when you learn how to chart your cycle through a fertility awareness method, you can learn how to understand what's going on with your hormones and what's going on with your ovulation. especially as you're recovering post miscarriage. Like I said, it could take two to three cycles or more, depending on what you're dealing with, for your body to re-regulate. And then that just it like your cycle charts are an incredible tool to see like, okay, so this is what my first cycle was like after my miscarriage. And this is what my second cycle was like in my third cycle. And you should see improvements through each cycle. you should see each cycle get healthier and healthier and more regular. And if you you're not, it's giving you more information. Your cycle chart is giving you information and feedback for what your body is needing and what continual adjustments to make. and it's just a wonderful aid in your prayer and decision making process with your husband for when is the right time to try again for another baby based off of what this chart is telling you and what your cycle history is telling you. So if you guys are new to the podcast, I I want you to know, like I teach you this. I learned this when I was going through my healing journey, and just learning this information was so life-changing for me that I got certified to teach it. And so this is one of the core things that I teach inside of my program fertility framework. and it's one of the core things. There's three core things that you learn inside of this amazing program that I made based off of my healing journey. The cycle charting is the first core pillar. The learning how to support your hormones naturally is the second core pillar. So I don't just, you know, you're not just learning, like, here's my cycle chart and it sucks. And then I leave you alone. Like, you're gonna learn different tips and tools for little tiny strange tweaks in your lifestyle. Not strange, but like it's strange how helpful little tweaks can be. to actually support your hormones and support any imbalances that you're seeing in your charts. That's the second core pillar. And then the third core pillar, y'all, is a Bible study. We are studying women in the Bible and their fertility journeys and who handled it well and who did not and what can we learn from them and who do we identify with and how can this impact our prayer and our relationship with the Lord as we are learning about all these really cool physical things. We are completely doing this spiritually with the Lord and submitting to him and his guidance in this process. So we are not controlling. We are submitting to the Lord in all of this. And it's it's beautiful. So that's Fertility Framework. If that sounds really interesting to you, I would love for you to jump in. We do group coaching calls twice a month and I love getting to know all of the women and couples. I love it when husbands join in as well in those group coaching calls and supporting you inside of this journey. So you can go to beccayon.com slash course and check it out. Please, please please check it out. And I did promise you a free resource and I'm going to give that to you. so I have an ebooklet for you guys. It's just like a taste of what you get inside a fertility framework. So if you're like, ooh, this sounds really interesting. I'm not ready for like a full program yet or anything, go to Beccayawn.com slash booklet and download my faith-driven fertility booklet. And it is an incredible, amazing taste of tips that you would get inside a fertility framework and it's going to give you hey here's some natural things you can do to support your body to support your hormones and your ovulation and here's how to do it with Jesus in the driver's seat and how to increase your faith in this time too. So if you're looking for something for free that's an incredible resource. Go to Becayan.com slash booklet and print it out and keep it next to your prayer journal and your Bible and use that in your prayer time and read through it and Just pray over it and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you and to nudge you on what you might want to do based off of what you read in there. so you guys, I hope this was so helpful for you. This is something like I want to tell my best friend, like I want to tell my girlfriend in church who has been through a loss. Like, you need a chart, it's so important. and I would love to be that person to teach you. There's lots of incredible teachers out there. I would be honored if you chose me as your coach. So if that's what you're looking for, beccayon.com slash course. but girlfriend, I hope that this episode and this message was encouraging to you. I hope it's got you mulling things over and and and just thinking about this gift of knowledge that maybe you haven't had yet. So let me pray over you. Lord Jesus, I just come before you. I thank you for my sweet sister in Christ and God, I just thank you for this incredible gift of cycle charting that you have given us, Lord, that probably like billions of women before us, they didn't get to have this gift, but you have given it to us, Lord, in the form of fertility awareness methods, and we praise you for it, Lord. We thank you for this gift of knowledge. God, I pray that if my sister, Lord, if she's been through a loss and grieving and she's trying to figure out what's going on, I pray that you would lead her into this wonderful gift of education and knowledge and just understanding what her body is doing. And what she can do to support it and just in feeling more peaceful and confident in trying to conceive again in the future with her prayer to you, Lord, and with her husband. So God, I just pray for a huge blessing over her. I pray you would bless and guide her in this process of learning cycle charting. It's a lot to learn, but it's so beautiful and wonderful. And I pray she would have lots of joy in this experience. I pray all these things in your holy, powerful, awesome, mighty name. Amen.