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Courage in the Chaos: What Built the Woman You See Today · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: We are talking about courage and the chaos.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is something that I don't think I have ever talked about before on here, or I definitely haven't talked about it to the level that I want to dive into this today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because while you see a system right now that has ease, that feels effortless, and did not start that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: The nervous system that I have now is something that was built, it is something that was created.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was not born this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just stayed longer in those moments where I could have caved, where I could have, you know, chosen to dim my power.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember those moments where I was nauseous before posting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where I literally felt like I was gonna throw out the posting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially posting things that are like controversial or different, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're here to do big things, so you're doing things the world has never seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're gonna feel a little.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember that feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: I see you, I get that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember what it was like performing, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying to wait to be chosen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember doing the little dances, you know, talking about health symptoms.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you scroll back, you can see all of that on my feed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, clients talked to me, like, how Liv, how are you so convicted?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you so confident when you talk?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you're just so sure of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, Yeah, but there were times where I was shaking.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember the times where my voice would crack on stories.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was cracking and shaking before I was roaring.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you're seeing the after.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to go see the before, you scroll far back enough my feed, you'll see it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll see a very different woman.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right, there are moments where I remember feeling in the void.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The proof wasn't there yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had every reason not to do it, not to go through it, no result yet, no proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: But how did I do it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I built the power inside my nervous system to do it anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you've probably heard this, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Choose, decide, do it anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: But how do you actually do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you need the nervous system to be able to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because otherwise, your nervous system is gonna take you out.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not gonna allow you to move forward, it's gonna make you shrink, it's gonna make you be small, it's gonna take you out of your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, there's like these little moments where you're still flinching, where you're still bracing, where you feel that pit in your stomach, that nausea, that oh, I can't.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why you have to build the system first.
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  SPEAKER_00: That conviction is built, that power is built.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just stayed longer.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I leaned in.
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  SPEAKER_00: In those big moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the moments where people were trolling me and making content about me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't change my voice, I didn't change what I did.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I kept my heart open in times where clients would love bomb me and then suddenly start defaulting on payments and ghost me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I kept my heart wide open in times where there were no proof yet, and I could have gone to like, I don't know, lowering my prices or doing this or you know, doubting.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I let anyways.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where friends who were supposed to love me started threatening me, where my power became too big for them, and I was moving so fast, and success was growing so fast that I was outgrowing the rooms that I was in, and the people around me could not hold me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The relationships around me couldn't hold me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right, and luckily that's not my fiance now, but I had past men who couldn't hold the depth of my success, who were triggered by it, who I was too much for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as a little girl who grew up always being too much for everyone around her, I kept going.
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  SPEAKER_00: I let go of every little part in my system that told me to shrink, that wanted me to be palatable, that wanted me to be chosen, that wanted me to be enough, that wanted the validation so that I could finally, you know, feel like I was fitting in, like I was part of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know what it's like.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know what it's like to sit in that in-between.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you know you're letting go of those people who can't hold you, and the new people haven't come in yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where suddenly your success dissolves any excuses that people have for themselves because it just naturally shows them what they're capable of.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had people smile to my face and then talk shit about me behind my back.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had friends steal from me, emotionally manipulate me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had exes emotionally manipulate me, gaslight me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And still I stayed, and still I walked, and still I let all of those moments and leverage them to build an even stronger nervous system, so that what I do experience now is ease, is effortless.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when those things happen, it doesn't take me out of the game.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how I became unstoppable.
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  SPEAKER_00: It wasn't in the easy moments, it wasn't in, you know, the when the money is coming and you know, all its sunshine, rainbows, and it wasn't in all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was in those challenging moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was in the spaces that you are in right now, the moments you are in right now, it was in those.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone paying me death thousand dollars, oh my god, how am I gonna do this?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then feel like I need to give them an organ on the other end.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So when I speak of that feeling of having to give someone an organ because they're paying you a lot of money, it's because I know what that was like.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like somehow it's shocking to be paid a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And luckily, that's normal now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we just had someone sign up for private coaching for three months, 30k, pay in full, just like it's another Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's clean and it's light, and there's no obligation, there's no pressure around it.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's no overgiving or over-delivering.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I remember when I used to over-deliver.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember being in then what was boxed and before Telegram.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember overgiving and being getting burnt out, not having the capacity to hold the clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I built the capacity, and I stopped being a people pleaser, and I stopped being a perfectionist.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I kept my heart wide open, and every time I was burned, and every time it went wrong, and every time I had the reason not to, heart wide open led anyway, heart wide open, lead anyways.
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  SPEAKER_00: I grew my relationship with money so that I felt supported by money.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I let money move in devotion to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there was a time where my business was running on dopamine hits with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or oh my god, someone pay me a lot of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, let me love resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel a high.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, we gotta keep this going, we gotta keep this going, we gotta keep this going because oh my god, if we don't, the shoe is gonna drop, the momentum is gonna slow.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we'll use a 30k painful example, it's grounded.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean that there's gratitude, there's reverence, but it's grounded in my body.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels completely different than like four or five years ago when I would get a dopamine hit with money, and then oh my god, I need to show everybody that I got paid and see, look how good I am, look how good I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm good enough, someone told me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got validation from the yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, someone validated me, someone paid me, someone told me I was enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: No.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because after the dopamine, there was a crash, and when the proof wasn't there yet that I didn't have anything to run my business from.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I became the woman who was unstoppable by building that woman without the proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so now when I get paid, it's like an of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a byproduct of who I decided I was and who I became in the space between, the space between the moments, the space between, you know, when no one has bought yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: The space between when someone hasn't paid you yet, and someone's telling me you you're too expensive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now, yes, there'll be always people who tell you're too expensive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we just had someone who came in, wasn't even following me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she came in, she's like, Hey, do you do private?
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Yeah, the options, like, alright, I'm all in for like full proximity, daily telegram, weekly calls, give it to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Send her the link.
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  SPEAKER_00: She like, I sent her the link one night by the morning, she paid in full.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it, done.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I cannot tell you how absolutely freeing it is to build a nervous system like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it is not the result that regulates you, and there's no amount of strategy that can cover up the inner work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you can make money and not feel at peace with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could be making money, but then scared it's not gonna last, or when is the shoe gonna drop?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can have all this success, but feel like the people around you don't get you, don't see you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You kind of feel like you have to hide who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might even feel like guilt for wanting more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, is it bad to go bigger?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, I'm already bigger than everyone around me.
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  SPEAKER_00: How am I gonna go bigger?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who am I to want this level?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who am I to do these things?
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  SPEAKER_00: So on the other side of building this conviction and this power, it's just a release.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a relief that you get to live by.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the most freeing thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you don't want the money if it comes with the cost.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't want the money if it comes without the peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I remember when I used to think that the result was gonna regulate me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember like, okay, if I hit this income, when I make the millions, when I hit this, you know, XK month, whatever it is, then I will feel that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But then I hit it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh, that didn't solve the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's when I did that nervous system work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now I no longer need anything outside of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is the woman that the world wants to validate.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the woman that money wants to pour into, is the one who doesn't need anything outside of her, is the one who is solid in who she is no matter what room she walks into.
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  SPEAKER_00: She can be in a room with anyone at any time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she's solid.
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  SPEAKER_00: People can behave, and the way that they're going to behave, you're never gonna be able to control other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you can't take responsibility for you and your system.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can decide to be the woman who anchors in peace, who becomes convicted, and who stands in her power, and makes zero exceptions to those around her who were learning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you still say soft.
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  unknown: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't become cold, you don't numb out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am still heart wide open.
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  SPEAKER_00: The moments made me softer.
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  SPEAKER_00: They didn't make me bitter or resentful or angry.
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  SPEAKER_00: I still send love and I still pray for every single one of those people who deeply hurt me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what you see now, the ease and the effortless, was how I led myself in those moments of doubt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Was how I led in the moments of heartbreak.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the nervous system that I built to be able to do it with ease.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I even remember the first time I got an email, my first celebrity client, and I had to sign an MDA, and I was like, this person wants to work with you, and you decide an NDA, like, would you be open to this?
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh my god, holy shit, don't throw up.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I anchored my power, and by the time I I was like, I think three or four days after I got on the first call with the person, and obviously there's an NDA, so I can't say who, but let's just say you and your mom would know who they are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was anchored in my power and I was grounded and I was at peace, and I was like, oh, wow, this is what that feels like.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't let my after confuse you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't fool yourself into believing that I didn't once shake, that I didn't once crack, that I wasn't once a mess and dysregulated and grasping and chasing and thinking the money was gonna solve the problem or this was gonna solve.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, I I've got done all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's how I used those moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't manifest this, I created this by who I chose to become.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm very proud of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not just the life I've built, but it's my experience of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where I can still be met with challenge and experience it as bliss and ecstasy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the moment for you where you get to decide to become the woman who is convicted, to master that frequency of conviction, to build the most unshakable levels of personal power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where you get to hold it all and have it all, and it feels light as a feather.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like I said, don't be confused.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I was stripped of everything, and it was only when I was stripped of everything that was an illusion that I actually received everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything I could have wanted and more.
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  SPEAKER_00: My fiance Kurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: The people in my life right now, hand on heart, I can say, the women in my life right now, they are my high standard women.
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  SPEAKER_00: The clients I have are incredible.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are like the dreamiest, most incredible humans.
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  SPEAKER_00: The peace I feel, the way I feel that money moves in devotion to me, all of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's available to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have the courage in the chaos, if you have the courage to become that woman, and the truth is, she's in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really more of an unbecoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in those moments, those are the moments that make you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where your power lies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your power is not in the result.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your power is not even in the income that you make.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your power is in who you are in the in-between.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you are in the void.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you are when the room is quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you are when people can't see the vision yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you are when people don't understand you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you are when people are talking bad about you, who you are when people are defaulting, who you are when people are making content about you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's who you are in all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the woman that's unstoppable.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then that's the woman who's gonna create a life behind her wildest, wildest dreams.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like this conversation was big.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like you needed to hear this because you needed the reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: That in the moments where you're bracing now, where you're flinching, right, where you feel like you need to do more, where you feel like you need to perform or earn something, or just do a little more, or just work a little harder, all of these patterns you're stuck in.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been in them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now it's time that you rise above them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You break out of those loops, you break out of those patterns, and you remember that the woman you see now is the one who walked in the fire again and again and again.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I continue to every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean that every day is challenging.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a standard that I hold.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a choice that you make on every level that you expand to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know it because you can feel it in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can feel it right now, like right in here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you know you're meant for more.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know you're meant for big things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't mean to tell you that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now, you get to also feel the ease and the freedom of a nervous system that is convicted and in her power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because as you've heard me say before, there is nothing more powerful on this planet than a woman who is convicted in who she is, what she's here to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And nothing derails her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you anchor that, you literally can't lose.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love you, and I will see you in the next live.