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Forging Strength from Pain: The Journey to Resilience and Purpose with Yane Sneed · Is Your Way In Your Way?

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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Good day out there to all of my listeners.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Welcome to Is your Way In your Way podcast, and I'm your host, cassandra Crawley-Mayo, and for some of you, the new listeners that are on, just so, you're aware that my book corresponds with the podcast.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: The name of my book is Is your Way In your Way.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: It's a self-discovery guide for women on how to restore yourself, learn from your experiences and be your true self again.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And also this podcast for my listeners who are ready to move forward in their lives.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They feel like they're stuck, they're just in a stagnated mood and they just want to come out and be their best self.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And also we want to mitigate those self-imposed barriers that's preventing you from living your best life on your terms.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And I have a special guest today and one of the topics for the new listeners.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: The topics we talk about are usually business or personal development, and also this creates an opportunity for you to self-reflect.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And so we have our special guest today by the name of Yane Sneed, and I'd like to welcome Yane to the stage.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How are you, yane?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I'm doing very well.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Thank you for having me.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Yeah, I'm glad you're here and I love the topic that we're going to talk about the power of resilience through relentlessness.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: That's a lot of R's and can get twisted up, but we know what resilient is and keep it moving.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And relentless not letting go.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Keep it going.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Before I start my new listeners, I read the bio of my guest so that you'll get a little tidbit of what she's all about before we delve into the questions.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So Yane has faced numerous trials, each offering valuable lessons for her growth.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Her journey, marked by challenges, is a testament to resilience and strength.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: She refuses to let experiences define her, always seeking the silver lining in every hardship.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: In 2022, she established Relentless Phoenix, an author manifest, your canvas, sharing insight on overcoming adversity.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Her mission is to guide individuals through adversities to unlock their full potential.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: We definitely want to hear about that right listeners.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: She's guiding individuals through adversities to unlock their full potential Wow.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Well.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So, yane, before we really start delving in, I want you to share some specific aspects of your backstory that empowered you to start this work.
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Yanee Sneed: Yeah, so I had a troubled childhood.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't really have a lot of support growing up and I was emotionally and mentally abused in my family dynamics.
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Yanee Sneed: I was also sexually abused as well by my dad, who I call a sperm donor.
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Yanee Sneed: Throughout my childhood I really lost my identity or sense of purpose and it wasn't until I started getting to college where I started finding my belonging.
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Yanee Sneed: I started doing mentorship and really helping other individuals with their life diversity.
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Yanee Sneed: So I started finding my purpose during that moment and really finding where I belong and the balance within my pain and my struggles and helping others.
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Yanee Sneed: I was using that to motivate myself and help them overcome their struggles.
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Yanee Sneed: And in college I did social work and I didn't feel like I was getting given back in social work, nor was I really.
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Yanee Sneed: I was struggling a lot in college, but I did manage to get a degree in social work and overcome those adversities with believing that I can overcome.
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Yanee Sneed: And then I had children.
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Yanee Sneed: After my second child during my time I had my second child in 2022, I started a business called Witness Phoenix as a life coach because I wanted to use more of my background, my life experiences, to continue helping others and also, like my bio said Bright, manifest your Canvas, which is talking about the ways in which I use motion, resilience, mental clarity, empowerment in my daily life to help others as well.
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Yanee Sneed: So it's been a full circle journey of using my story to help others overcome their challenges, right so it sounds like you are an entrepreneur, solo entrepreneur now, yes, so are you doing social work?
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Yanee Sneed: I am using my social work degree for my life coaching business, so not much social work one-on-one with a client more than I am doing with my life coaching.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Okay, okay.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Now, what is it about you?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Based on your background, your backstory, whereas individuals there's some individuals that have very similar instances or circumstances as you do, as you did, and they're having trouble.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Some of my listeners are having trouble getting out of it.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They're stuck with it.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You know they're still in their past.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What did you do, or what is it about you that had you to pivot and say, hey, I'm going to do this thing.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I understand what happened to my past and I'm not going to let that define me.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So what happened?
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Yanee Sneed: So I just want to say that I get a little.
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Yanee Sneed: I get.
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Yanee Sneed: I get shy when I say something about you, because I feel like everyone can do what I can do if they really put their minds to it.
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Yanee Sneed: I just want to make sure that I'm not a exception to the rule.
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Yanee Sneed: I am the rule.
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Yanee Sneed: I can do what you can too and I want to help with those skills.
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Yanee Sneed: I want to provide that.
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Yanee Sneed: But to answer your question, one thing was when I was in college, I challenged those thoughts that I had, that was built inside of me, that I had that was built inside of me, and I re-challenged those negative thoughts.
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Yanee Sneed: Because one thing I understood about myself when I started challenging these thoughts was that most of my thoughts, my negative thoughts, wasn't my own.
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Yanee Sneed: My thoughts were chained towards somebody else's thought of how they perceived me.
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Yanee Sneed: I believed that I couldn't be this way.
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Yanee Sneed: I believed that I had a lot of self-doubt.
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Yanee Sneed: Those wasn't my thoughts.
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Yanee Sneed: Once I started challenging them, I started looking for the positive that I have done already in my life up to that point of college, and I started challenging more of my negative thoughts.
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Yanee Sneed: I also started looking at the things that I have overcame when I was in college, I felt a presence and I heard the presence said I'm doing it.
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Yanee Sneed: And when I repeated it it was kind of like epiphany, like I am doing it.
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Yanee Sneed: So I have to make sure I'm in the moment as well when I'm going through this stuff, so I won't feel stuck like I don't know which way to go.
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Yanee Sneed: It's being a moment and look at your obstacle as the, as the obstacle is a problem more than you are.
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Yanee Sneed: So I started really trying to focus myself and ground myself.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, today, I'm starting to use meditation now in order to really focus it and be more positive, harder, because when you do go through something like that, it's hard to really come out of it.
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Yanee Sneed: So those tips right now is what I do and I continuously do Just plant that seed of not letting it.
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Yanee Sneed: It's not what they tell you, it's kind of what you tell yourself, it's kind of what things I tell my, my clients.
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Yanee Sneed: So really reprogramming yourself in your, in your head, to really challenge some of those thoughts and your, your perception.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Is that easy to do?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Could my listeners take that, that nugget that you just gave, or could you share with them like well, with them, like well?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How do you really do that and how long did it take?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Did it happen?
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Yanee Sneed: I know it didn't happen overnight no, no, no, I've been out of college for a while now, um, so it doesn't happen overnight.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, what happens is well, for me, it's consistency.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, it's not like a light switch you, you turn it on and you don't have self-doubt or insecurities or your self-esteem is high.
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Yanee Sneed: Now, it doesn't work that way.
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Yanee Sneed: You're kind of like bacon in the oven, if you will.
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Yanee Sneed: It's a slow process.
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Yanee Sneed: It's a very slow process to rewire a lot of things that you self self-doubt, and for me it was graduating.
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Yanee Sneed: Say, for instance, you're trying to graduate, you have self-doubt about getting there.
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Yanee Sneed: Well, for me, I look back, I was like well, I finished freshman year, I finished sophomore year.
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Yanee Sneed: So I'm proving to myself that me saying I'm not going to graduate is senseless when I've already proven I can pass one year, I can pass two years.
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Yanee Sneed: That's what self-doubt of graduating.
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Yanee Sneed: Or if it's in you being a parent, I got two kids.
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Yanee Sneed: Well, the first one was a little bit edgy, you know you make your mistakes.
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Yanee Sneed: But the second one, because you learn from those experiences with your first child.
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Yanee Sneed: Now you have some building blocks to work with.
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Yanee Sneed: So you're not a bad parent, you're just a parent that's trying to prove.
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Yanee Sneed: There's no handbook in that, so giving yourself grace as well.
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Yanee Sneed: So just trying to rewire that, to look at the positive, because sometimes, when we're in a tornado, we can only think about the negative, because that's where we're at, we're all in a tornado, but we, we try to focus on a positive, which I call it, you know, we all call the silver lining in a situation that helps you focus more on something positive to get you through that dark tunnel, you know, and and survive, which is like resilience, trying to find ways to adapt to a situation, or a stretcher, um, a stretcher, a stressor, I'm sorry, a stressor um another way is to um, to joke about things probably just sound weird, but make a light of a situation and don't be so hard on yourself when something happens.
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Yanee Sneed: Accidents happen, but it's the way in which you can proceed yourself when you make an accident or a bad judgment call, you know, just learn from it, grow from it, but don't be so hard on yourself.
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Yanee Sneed: That's one.
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Yanee Sneed: Also, a trait of growth as well is being really down on yourself.
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Yanee Sneed: So those are just some of the tips you can use to um, get yourself out of that, those nuggets so in words it's like give yourself some grace.
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Yanee Sneed: Yeah, in different ways.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Yes, yeah, yeah, you talked about empowerment.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What does empowerment mean to you?
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Yanee Sneed: When I think about empowerment and it probably sounds really cliche, but I think about MLK I really do, because he was very authentic.
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Yanee Sneed: He spoke up for what he spoke up even when it was just him speaking up about it.
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Yanee Sneed: And that's what you have to do when it comes to yourself.
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Yanee Sneed: You have to be your true, authentic self.
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Yanee Sneed: Even if there's no one in this world who's going to love you, no one in the world who's going to speak up for you.
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Yanee Sneed: You have to be your own best friend.
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Yanee Sneed: That's what I think of empowerment Speak up to what is true to you, regardless of what it looks like, but you have to love yourself at the end of the day.
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Yanee Sneed: So that's what I think of empowerment.
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Yanee Sneed: Even when it goes against speaking up for others, you're being true to yourself because you are the community.
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Yanee Sneed: The community is you.
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Yanee Sneed: You.
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Yanee Sneed: So just being authentic and what is right and what is wrong and speaking up for it okay, okay.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So, um, you have clients, you indicated, and so how do you empower others?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Because you, you have that innate gift, you know.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You know what to say to yourself, what to do.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Um, reverse that self-talk, that negative talk, you know, because we think 20,000, the statistics say that we have 20,000 thoughts a day and 70% of those are negative, right, so you've taken a while to kind of what you would call to not only to empower but to develop yourself.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So, as you're working with other people, how, what's your methodology to empower them?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What do you?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What do you?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How do you start that?
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Yanee Sneed: process.
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Yanee Sneed: So, whatever challenge, it is safe and easy.
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Yanee Sneed: We'll go back to self-doubt.
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Yanee Sneed: I have them do more of a self-reflection.
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Yanee Sneed: You know, look upon their life, start seeing what they can pull from it.
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Yanee Sneed: So if they're saying you know I'm worth nothing or I don't feel love, or something like that, well I start challenging that.
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Yanee Sneed: Is it true?
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Yanee Sneed: Can you think of a moment in your life that you know you?
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Yanee Sneed: Just you felt the opposite.
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Yanee Sneed: You felt love, or anything like that.
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Yanee Sneed: Usually they can pick up one or two things.
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Yanee Sneed: So I started trying to breaking down those walls, because sometimes we give ourselves a narrative that's not true.
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Yanee Sneed: So I start challenging them, doing their own self-reflection and once I start giving them that epiphany that some of the things they thought wasn't true, we start building up other barriers or take away the limited beliefs on different situations.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Now, how can you tell whether a person loves themselves?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How can you tell that?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Because one of the things you talked about is, first of all, you want to make sure, first of all, people have to love themselves.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: First of all, you want to make sure, first of all, people have to love themselves.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So what are some of the characteristics you found where people do not love themselves?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: It said, yeah, like one of the first commandments was, you know, to love your neighbor as yourself, and if you don't love yourself, it's going to be difficult to love your neighbor as yourself, and if you don't love yourself, it's going to be difficult to love your neighbor.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So how can you tell if a person loves themselves or not?
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Yanee Sneed: um, it's the way you can kind of really put a nail in the head.
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Yanee Sneed: It's kind of really how they treat themselves when it comes to others.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, how you, how your posture, how you see things, how you see the world.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, I mean, there are black and whites like racism.
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Yanee Sneed: That's not love, neither for you or because or the other neighbor, because that's not bringing peace.
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Yanee Sneed: There are subtle ways in self-sabotaging uh, possibly, um, drinking alcohol.
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Yanee Sneed: That's not really some loving yourself or others, especially if you have children.
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Yanee Sneed: So it just depends on the influence of a positive influence that promote your, your mind state.
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Yanee Sneed: That's how I know yourself, your loving yourself and others.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So you talk people through how to love themselves.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I mean, like, if somebody comes to you and do you automatically know that based on their behavior, and if so, what are some of the things you do or support them with so they can start loving themselves?
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Yanee Sneed: Well, self-love comes from a lack of void or self-esteem, lack of self-esteem, lack of confidence.
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Yanee Sneed: So we have to get that first situated before we can even say we love ourselves.
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Yanee Sneed: Because when it comes to that, it comes with shame, it comes with defeat.
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Yanee Sneed: If you've been through some trauma, you're thinking it's yourself, so you don't have that love within you.
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Yanee Sneed: So we have to build.
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Yanee Sneed: We have to build from where they're at.
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Yanee Sneed: So if they're coming in with a little type of still love, low confidence, then we have to prove well, not me, I come, I get had them come to the realization of proving themselves that they have that within them.
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Yanee Sneed: So when it comes down to helping them with love, you can bring them to the ocean and have well, the river and give them a drink, but it's kind of like that scenario.
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Yanee Sneed: They have to see that within them.
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Yanee Sneed: So I can't say, hey, let's walk through a moment where you felt that you wasn't loving yourself in this moment, and then I kind of reprogrammed them.
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Yanee Sneed: Okay, well, maybe you give yourself, like I said that word grace and look at this a different way, not asking these.
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Yanee Sneed: I said that word grace and look at this a different, different way, and I asked him these questions.
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Yanee Sneed: Hey, well, you could have been nice to yourself, yes, you could have been more forgiving to yourself, yes, but through that, did you ever ask yourself how you're doing in that moment?
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Yanee Sneed: So I started building those those things that, if they don't have that, I started building those things up within them to to have those, those skills, those stepping stones for them.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So they can do it on their self.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So it sounds like you know, based on what you've been through, you've had a lot of personal growth.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Where did that personal growth come from?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How are you getting that?
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Yanee Sneed: My personal growth came through wisdom.
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Yanee Sneed: That's the only way I can help myself and my clients is through my wisdom.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't learn as an old book, not at all.
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Yanee Sneed: How I can speak is through what I've been through and that's how I can help them.
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Yanee Sneed: So it's basically just all on wisdom, and that's a lot, because not a lot of people can look back on their lives and say they learned something.
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Yanee Sneed: So that in itself was self-reflection.
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Yanee Sneed: A lot of self-reflection because I did make mistakes but in order to grow from them and help others, you have to know what it looks like to get to the other side.
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Yanee Sneed: You really can't talk through with a client if you don't know what it looks like on the other side.
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Yanee Sneed: So a lot of self-reflection, a lot of uh growth through it all uh, what triggers your clients to come to you?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: what's their trigger?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What's like a common denominator why they come to you?
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Yanee Sneed: so the main stressor is a lack of purpose.
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Yanee Sneed: That's the, that's the theme.
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Yanee Sneed: I'm trying to think of all of them.
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Yanee Sneed: That's the theme a lack of purpose.
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Yanee Sneed: They come with I don't know the next stage in my life, or I'm stuck deciding between, um what my family wants, or what do I want when it comes to school.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, I have clients that come in and say that my kids are grown now and they out of um the house.
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Yanee Sneed: What do I do next?
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Yanee Sneed: So it's a lot of finding purpose.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, there's some identities, but more, when you get down to, it's about belonging somewhere, trying to find a purpose, another meaning, after they already fulfilled what they thought was their original purpose.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So it's more of of that type of thing okay, um, now a lot of people are into um and I remember myself.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I'm like what is my purpose?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Throughout the years, what's my purpose?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And you found your purpose out of what you've been through.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You were clear on that was your purpose.
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Yanee Sneed: So originally it wasn't about what I've been through.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know that is what I was going to arrive at.
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Yanee Sneed: When I decided to do life coaching.
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Yanee Sneed: I was even talked down about doing life coaching by a lot of my I call them fake leaders.
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Yanee Sneed: At this point I had leaders that I tried to look up to define my purpose because I didn't know.
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Yanee Sneed: I don't think they knew.
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Yanee Sneed: They tried to tear me away from life coaching and try to point out my flaws, try to make me embarrassed about already speaking up about my, my life story.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, so it took me a while to even get to this point.
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Yanee Sneed: So I always questioned why I was going through what I was going through.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know why.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know about what, what clues?
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know anything.
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Yanee Sneed: I just knew that I was going to arrive at that at some point because I knew that during that time I was religious.
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Yanee Sneed: So I knew that God would put more on me than I could bear.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know why he put that much on me.
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Yanee Sneed: I just knew I can get through it.
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Yanee Sneed: So I just kept with the why, why me?
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Yanee Sneed: Why am I going through this?
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Yanee Sneed: Until I started getting sparks of it.
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Yanee Sneed: Um, when I started mentoring and I was like, okay, I'm helping this individual because I've been through it, so I know how to guide them.
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Yanee Sneed: In a way, I know how to get them to a realization of what they need to see in this moment for themselves.
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Yanee Sneed: So I started getting a lot of those and I was like, okay, well, let me go into social work, um, so I can do more of that.
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Yanee Sneed: I didn't know like life coaching was existing during that time, but I arrived at that much later, after college okay, um, your your mission is to guide individuals through adversities in order to unlock their full potential.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Use me as a client.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What would some of the things you do to support me or empower me to unlock my full potential?
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Yanee Sneed: Okay.
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Yanee Sneed: So I don't want to ask your age or anything, but so, in order to help me unlock your full potential, you'll get stuck, and that means that there is a crossword, there's a void, there's something that you're uncertain about doing, because if you're not stuck, you'll make a decision.
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Yanee Sneed: You'll know what it is.
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Yanee Sneed: So say, for instance, you're working and you're stuck at a job.
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Yanee Sneed: You don't know what you want to do.
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Yanee Sneed: At this point, the first question I would ask is what makes you happy?
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Yanee Sneed: What makes you feel like you, you belong?
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Yanee Sneed: What is, what is that?
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Yanee Sneed: It You'll give me?
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Yanee Sneed: You want to give me an answer, you can give me an answer, but usually it is well.
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Yanee Sneed: I do this, or I play this sport, or sometimes when I read, or X, y, z, this, makes me feel happy.
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Yanee Sneed: So we start looking at any connections to what can be out there for you to explore.
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Yanee Sneed: We go down that road.
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Yanee Sneed: Sometimes if you're younger, I ask the question of when you was younger.
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Yanee Sneed: Well, what did you want to be, you know, ballerina, astronaut, whatever that case may be.
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Yanee Sneed: So we look at that.
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Yanee Sneed: We start exploring those things and seeing how that can fit in, what you can do.
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Yanee Sneed: So we start really where the client is and we kind of work around that.
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Yanee Sneed: It depends on the age as well, but it definitely depends on what makes you happy.
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Yanee Sneed: I start there first because that's usually where I can get someone to really think.
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Yanee Sneed: When you're stuck, you're like I got 550 many things to think about.
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Yanee Sneed: I have no clue which way.
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Yanee Sneed: Let's start with what makes you happy first.
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Yanee Sneed: What does that look like for you?
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Yanee Sneed: And get everyday life when we start there?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Well, I ask that because the podcast is Is your Way, in your Way?
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: There are a lot of listeners that number one they want to change jobs, they want to be promoted, they want to get out of a relationship, but they're struggling with that.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They want to start a business.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You know a number of things, whereas they'll get in their way from doing those things, they have that self-doubt, those negative beliefs doing those things.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They have that self-doubt, those negative beliefs.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Also, comparison, social media.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They're so busy trying to compare themselves to social media.
22:59
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: It's a lot of things that's preventing them from living their best life because they're in their way.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Like you mentioned, procrastination.
23:04
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I can recall myself.
23:06
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I know there's certain things I need to do when I was supposed to have been writing my book but I would find everything else to do.
23:13
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: But that Also self-sabotage, imposter syndrome.
23:18
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So that's why I asked that question about how do you guide them to their potential, because that's a lot of my listeners are ready to move forward and do something.
23:29
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: They're uncomfortable, they're unsettled and what it is that they're doing and they want to do something different.
23:35
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So that's why I asked the question for my listeners to find out, you know, to help them, like you said, maybe ask them what makes them happy, and there's some of them that that might not even know, you know yeah, because the reason I asked that is because, although it's a simple question, when you put that in context of what to do next, it's it's hard to connect those two.
23:56
Yanee Sneed: Because what makes you happy for me?
23:58
Yanee Sneed: I love poetry, but poetry is not going to pay the bills unless you're a good writer.
24:02
Yanee Sneed: So we have to start connecting your passion first and then give a 10.
24:06
Yanee Sneed: I can't help say, okay, these are the steps I would like you to take if you're not passionate about it.
24:12
Yanee Sneed: So what makes you happy For me?
24:14
Yanee Sneed: I guess my client is a way to think on a more positive note to do that, because you mentioned a lot of things.
24:41
Yanee Sneed: But if you don't have passion behind doing something, then it's kind of irrelevant.
24:45
Yanee Sneed: You're going to stay stuck.
24:46
Yanee Sneed: So having that drive definitely helps.
24:49
Yanee Sneed: Yeah, social media we've got a lot of different things going on.
24:52
Yanee Sneed: Well, all that is distractions.
24:54
Yanee Sneed: But if you have passion, you have intent behind it, you have a purpose behind it, then you can get rid of all of those distractions.
25:00
Yanee Sneed: So starting from what makes you happy for me opens my client's eyes up to well, let me see what I can do, cause sometimes we in a job just for the checks.
25:08
Yanee Sneed: So what makes you happy Can start finding that purpose.
25:11
Yanee Sneed: Let me find out what I can connect with in this world and then you know that goes to attention.
25:18
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How has your spirituality impacted you?
25:25
Yanee Sneed: Greatly, greatly.
25:26
Yanee Sneed: Um.
25:27
Yanee Sneed: I think my spirituality saved me in a lot of situations, um, because of how I perceived life when I was younger.
25:41
Yanee Sneed: It it saved me from a lot of things that I could have done worse for my um to myself, um, it, it, um, it.
25:49
Yanee Sneed: It balanced me out.
25:50
Yanee Sneed: It helped me clear um, find clarity in certain situations that I didn't really have a strong understanding on.
25:57
Yanee Sneed: Um.
25:58
Yanee Sneed: Meditation has definitely helped because it allowed me to de-stress in a lot of situations that may be um triggering.
26:04
Yanee Sneed: So really leaning into that to help manifest what I want in this world instead of letting the world define me.
26:12
Yanee Sneed: So the spirit challenges really put a balance and a calmness in me to really move forward with what I need to do, which is get back.
26:20
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Right, right.
26:21
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So you talked about wholeness.
26:25
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How do you be whole?
26:29
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You know the W-o-l-e, you know um, and and what.
26:34
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What does it look like to be whole?
26:39
Yanee Sneed: yeah, um.
26:39
Yanee Sneed: So two questions.
26:42
Yanee Sneed: The first one what it look like be whole is be one with yourself in the midst of the troubles.
26:47
Yanee Sneed: So so you're not scatterbrained, you're balanced and you know what to do during a situation.
26:53
Yanee Sneed: The stressor is not stressing you out or is not causing you to be discombobulated, not focused on the actual goal, which is dealing with the stressor head on and not freezing up.
27:03
Yanee Sneed: That's what it looks like.
27:05
Yanee Sneed: How you can get there is a lot of self-reflection, a lot of meditating, a lot of grace and forgiveness.
27:12
Yanee Sneed: These things, I'm saying sounds simple, but it's really not.
27:16
Yanee Sneed: Meditating for 10 minutes is not something that's simple, because we're so in constant interaction with something.
27:23
Yanee Sneed: To stay still is not simple at all, but it is rewarding Grace and forgiveness.
27:27
Yanee Sneed: Not simple at all, though I'm just saying it like that.
27:30
Yanee Sneed: It's not simple at all, especially when you have to do the inner work and come to terms with the reality of the situation that you may have caused a lot of self-sabotage in your life.
27:39
Yanee Sneed: That's not an easy feat to have at all, especially with me I'm not speaking from personal experience.
27:44
Yanee Sneed: It's not an easy feat to say you know what.
27:46
Yanee Sneed: I may have caused some harm to myself.
27:48
Yanee Sneed: I need to show some forgiveness.
27:50
Yanee Sneed: That's how I can move on from this situation.
27:51
Yanee Sneed: Now it's all easy.
27:53
Yanee Sneed: Also, it's a lot of hard work, but when you're consistent with it all, it really does pay off.
28:04
Yanee Sneed: It really does pay off.
28:06
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What does Yanni's day look like?
28:09
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Like who?
28:12
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Like?
28:12
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Yeah, it's because you have children and you want to maintain where you are now and you know how do you do that man, oh man, oh man.
28:22
Yanee Sneed: So it varies depending on if the kids wake up one time.
28:26
Yanee Sneed: So the first thing I do is I do wake up at least 30 minutes earlier.
28:34
Yanee Sneed: I do try.
28:35
Yanee Sneed: The 20 minutes is the minimum I have afforded to me.
28:39
Yanee Sneed: So I'll use that time to meditate, or I'll just sit on my couch, listen to instruments, to soft music, to get my mind in a mind state of giving back.
28:49
Yanee Sneed: I'll be grateful.
28:50
Yanee Sneed: I'll wake up with a thanks.
28:52
Yanee Sneed: All the time.
28:53
Yanee Sneed: I say thank you to myself and I also say thank you to myself and I also say thank you to the world to wake me up again.
28:58
Yanee Sneed: They didn't have to.
28:59
Yanee Sneed: I could have been six feet under yesterday, but I'm not, so I'm grateful for that.
29:03
Yanee Sneed: So I come in with a first grace Thanks for myself as well for actually making it here, because I could have been written off and had my life overcome me, but I overcame it.
29:12
Yanee Sneed: Then I wake my kids up, get them going.
29:16
Yanee Sneed: My daughter I also do the same thing to her.
29:19
Yanee Sneed: I also ask her to do three things that she's proud of in the morning.
29:22
Yanee Sneed: So I get her in that same mindset.
29:24
Yanee Sneed: My little one she's still two.
29:26
Yanee Sneed: She can't really do that.
29:28
Yanee Sneed: But we wake up with a good head on our shoulders, we get together.
29:31
Yanee Sneed: You know school, know school.
29:33
Yanee Sneed: Come back, help out my clients.
29:36
Yanee Sneed: Um, I do have a podcast coming up um carl on this fan podcast that would be out um shortly, so I start doing videos for that.
29:44
Yanee Sneed: So in between the mix of those two things, um, I'm also authoring another book.
29:49
Yanee Sneed: So pretty hectic um day I do have sometimes, depending on what'm doing, pick the kids up and I'm with them, so I transition many hats throughout the day as well.
30:02
Yanee Sneed: So it depends on other life situations, but the general aspect of it, that's basically what I do.
30:08
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Yeah, Cause I asked that?
30:10
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Because we all have things to do.
30:13
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: We got to have relationships, especially as women.
30:17
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: We have to take care of the kids, take care of the bills, take care of the inside of the house.
30:23
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You got to cook, you got to buy the groceries.
30:26
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Here you are an author, Now you're an entrepreneur.
30:30
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So that's why I'm asking, because there's so many people that are just overwhelmed.
30:36
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You know, they're just burnt out.
30:38
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So that's why I asked the question, because I'm sure my listeners like, wow, she's doing a lot.
30:43
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What does her day look like?
30:44
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How did she start her day?
30:45
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What is going on?
30:46
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Oh, my gosh, you got two kids, you know.
30:48
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So that's why I wanted to pose that question to you Now, as we wrap up, and congratulations on starting a podcast.
30:58
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What's the name of your podcast going to be?
31:00
Yanee Sneed: It's going to be.
31:01
Yanee Sneed: I'll name my business Relentless Phoenix.
31:03
Yanee Sneed: Okay.
31:06
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Right, because the title of this podcast is Power of Resilience Through Relentlessness, and that's something that has definitely resilient and you're going to keep it moving.
31:19
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You're going to let go.
31:20
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You're not going to let go and that's good.
31:22
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And just your testament demonstrates to my listeners wow, she's been through a lot.
31:28
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: We don't know all the specifics of her life, but we do know that she had some experiences, like we all do in our childhood, but yet she was able to pivot and bounce back and and serve.
31:42
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So you're an entrepreneur, but you're a serve.
31:44
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You're not a product entrepreneur, you're a service entrepreneur, so that's a good thing.
31:49
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So what I'd like for you to do is because I talked about how my listeners are unsettled.
31:56
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Some of them, a lot of them, have come a long way with the trajectory of their lives.
32:03
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What message would you provide them that is ready to change the trajectory of their lives?
32:10
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: To my listeners, to my listeners.
32:18
Yanee Sneed: Two things and this is what I tell my clients as well, is a quote of mine that I use daily Age does not determine your maturity.
32:21
Yanee Sneed: It's what you learn from your experiences that justifies your growth.
32:24
Yanee Sneed: The second thing is the past is not here.
32:27
Yanee Sneed: The future is gone.
32:28
Yanee Sneed: You only have right now.
32:29
Yanee Sneed: So stay right now because you're telling your story.
32:32
Yanee Sneed: Both of those, I think, is really important, because it demonstrates that you have to be in the moment at all times and not be distracted about what happened in the past or what's going on in the future.
32:45
Yanee Sneed: You're right here, learning an exact moment, changing your story.
32:50
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Now, what was your first one?
32:51
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: You had two, and I didn't understand what the first one was the message for the listeners.
32:57
Yanee Sneed: Yes, the first one is age does not determine your maturity, but what you learn from your experiences justifies your growth.
33:05
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Okay, okay Great.
33:06
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: What a great message.
33:08
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: How can my listeners contact you?
33:13
Yanee Sneed: Yes, so I have a website, yadnesneedcom that's Y-A-H-N-E-S-N-E-E-Dcom.
33:21
Yanee Sneed: My social media handles RelentlessPhoenix00.
33:25
Yanee Sneed: And I'm also from this recording.
33:29
Yanee Sneed: I am sharing one free copy of a chapter in my novel called Manifest your Canvas.
33:36
Yanee Sneed: You just have to inquire more on my web page or my social media.
33:40
Yanee Sneed: So you say you have a page on your website.
33:42
Yanee Sneed: No, I am going to be offering a free chapter of my novel Manifest your Canvas.
33:49
Yanee Sneed: You have to inquire about it on my website or my social media.
33:54
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Okay, okay, my website, or my um, my social media, okay, okay.
34:00
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Well, um, thank you so much for being on, is your way, in your way, and um, continue your resilience, and you're already relentless.
34:05
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So I, I applaud you for what you're doing.
34:08
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I applaud you for giving back.
34:10
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Um, it's better to to um give than receive, so I'm certain that you will be gifted for what you've given out.
34:19
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And again.
34:21
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: So, my listeners, resilience is the word and be relentless with it.
34:27
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And again, yane, thank you so much and God bless you, and I also tell my listeners bye for now.
34:35
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: I don't say goodbye this podcast.
34:39
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: If you found this to be of value and you have some friends or individuals that you'd like them to hear this, please share it.
34:48
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And it's okay to replay it, because this is going to be on all podcast platforms and also this is going to go live on my platform in June.
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Cassandra Crawley Mayo: And so, again, thank you, bye for now, and God bless you.
35:06
Cassandra Crawley Mayo: Thank you, yanni, bye.