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486: Why Human Design Hasn't Changed Your Business YET · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

• 0:11
  Nicole Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
• 0:17
  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
• 0:21
  Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakable with Human Design.
• 0:24
  Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Lano.
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  Nicole Laino: And today, what I want to break down is something that I notice is that most people want to know what living your purpose will really look like.
• 0:36
  Nicole Laino: They're always asking me, how can I live my purpose?
• 0:40
  Nicole Laino: How can I live in alignment with my design?
• 0:43
  Nicole Laino: I do readings every single week, and in those readings, I always ask, before I sit down with the person, there's a questionnaire that they fill out.
• 0:52
  Nicole Laino: And I always ask, what are your goals?
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  Nicole Laino: What do you hope to get out of this reading?
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  Nicole Laino: And almost always they say something about, I want to learn how to live more in alignment.
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  Nicole Laino: I want to be more true to myself.
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  Nicole Laino: I want to live my purpose.
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  Nicole Laino: There is a sense that they want to live kind of in harmony with themselves is usually what we can boil it down to.
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  Nicole Laino: And I understand, like, that's kind of where we all start.
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  Nicole Laino: We all get drawn into it for that, because that is kind of the promise of human design, is that you're going to live more in harmony with who you are.
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  Nicole Laino: You're going to be who you're meant to be out in the world.
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  Nicole Laino: And that might be that you have a big mission and you're like, I want to know what I want to.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm supposed to.
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  Nicole Laino: Or I'm called to say, or how I'm going to impact people.
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  Nicole Laino: That might be your particular focus, or it might just be, you know, I don't really feel like myself.
• 1:42
  Nicole Laino: I don't really feel like things are easy.
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  Nicole Laino: And I want to know how I can use this system to come back home to what, who I really am, you know, and there's sort of that possibility and baked into that's like, maybe I don't really know who I really am.
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  Nicole Laino: So they want to know, what does that path look like to getting there?
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  Nicole Laino: And then when I have the privilege of working with somebody long term, we can go on that journey together and we can really help you stay on that journey.
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  Nicole Laino: So in this episode, what I'd like to do is I'm going to share a story of a longtime client and her realizations on her incarnation, cross and her design and where she's landed after we've Been working together, I think about two years now.
• 2:29
  Nicole Laino: And we just did her messaging call for Business by Design.
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  Nicole Laino: They everybody gets a messaging call with me.
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  Nicole Laino: And we just did hers.
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  Nicole Laino: And she was sharing with me some of her realizations.
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  Nicole Laino: It's so apparent to me, like, where she's at.
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  Nicole Laino: Like, I'm going to share with you that story, and I'm going to kind of break down the four phases of human design growth, like the stages that we all go through.
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  Nicole Laino: And because I was looking at her and I'm like, oh, you're in that last stage.
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  Nicole Laino: This is wonderful, because I love when people get that far.
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  Nicole Laino: Because so many people do not.
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  Nicole Laino: They don't have the right frame of mind.
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  Nicole Laino: They don't have the stamina, they don't have the guidance.
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  Nicole Laino: A lot of times they don't have someone there to help them stay on the path.
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  Nicole Laino: And she did.
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  Nicole Laino: And she's also diligent and patient, and she approached this the right way.
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  Nicole Laino: And she went through all of the stages.
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  Nicole Laino: She didn't treat this like a quick fix.
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  Nicole Laino: So I'm gonna share with you the four phases that I see every single person go through.
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  Nicole Laino: If they can make it all the way to the fourth stage, but every person goes on this journey and then how.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm gonna kind of tie this in with how the way that you navigate these stages ties in with manifestation and getting what we want and law of Attraction and all of that stuff.
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  Nicole Laino: Like, there is this link with why I find people have trouble with the energetic stuff.
• 3:48
  Nicole Laino: And it's the same problem that they have with why they can't make it through the human design journey.
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  Nicole Laino: It's the same hurdle that they need to get over.
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  Nicole Laino: So that's the breakdown of this episode.
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  Nicole Laino: That's what I'm going to be taking you through.
• 4:01
  Nicole Laino: And before we get started, I did want to remind everybody we do something really cool inside my world.
• 4:08
  Nicole Laino: We have an offer that's been out for a while, and it's our community, our membership community.
• 4:14
  Nicole Laino: I do masterclasses within that community every single month.
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  Nicole Laino: They are jam packed with value.
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  Nicole Laino: You get access to not just the masterclass, but the vip.
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  Nicole Laino: We cover business and human design.
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  Nicole Laino: All of the things are covered in there as far as, like, living in alignment.
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  Nicole Laino: And everything that we're talking about in this episode about being guided on your journey, this is one of those places that will allow you to stay on the path, stay committed to it, stay immersed in the process, because when you're left to your own devices and there's no touch point to come back to, no call to plug into or mentor to check in with or someone to ask questions or hear other people talking about their journey where you are kind of swimming in this human design, so to speak.
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  Nicole Laino: Without that, it's so easy for the not self to take over and just lead you off the path, back to the way it's always been or back to your mental process.
• 5:09
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• 5:28
  Nicole Laino: So all you have to do to get the details on it is DM me the word lab on Instagram.
• 5:31
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• 5:33
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  Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's get into the episode.
• 5:40
  Nicole Laino: Let's break this down.
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  Nicole Laino: So my client, she and I were sitting down, like I said, for her messaging call and at the start of the call, she and I hadn't spoken in a little bit directly.
• 5:48
  Nicole Laino: We talked and she's popped into calls and stuff.
• 5:51
  Nicole Laino: But it was a nice chance.
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  Nicole Laino: The one ones are a nice chance for us to catch up and sort of go a little bit deeper with our catch up.
• 5:58
  Nicole Laino: And she was sharing with me that she's at this point two years in where she's like, so much of the things that you've been saying all along are making so much more sense now.
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  Nicole Laino: And she was saying, she's like my incarnation cross.
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  Nicole Laino: I knew it meant this.
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  Nicole Laino: I knew you were telling me, you know, it's about the joy of life and correcting things and changing things and.
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  Nicole Laino: And I knew the keynotes, I knew the definitions.
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  Nicole Laino: She's like.
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  Nicole Laino: But now I'm like, I get it.
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  Nicole Laino: And there's a difference between knowing and getting, knowing and embodying.
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  Nicole Laino: And she was just talking about how she has, particularly over the last year, which is why I'm always so grateful when people choose to stay.
• 6:44
  Nicole Laino: She chose to renew in business by design.
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  Nicole Laino: And I'm always excited and grateful when I get more time with people and especially at that level where I get to work that closely with people, because I know that's where the magic really starts to happen.
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  Nicole Laino: The momentum really starts to pick up.
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  Nicole Laino: You are a different person in year two than you are in year one.
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  Nicole Laino: Most people, not everybody, most people will come into year one and the first three to six months are like an acclimating period.
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  Nicole Laino: And that's fine.
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  Nicole Laino: No one's doing anything wrong.
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  Nicole Laino: But there are certain things.
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  Nicole Laino: And when I get to the four stages, I. I'll talk about how to make that journey go a lot faster.
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  Nicole Laino: But again, it's.
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  Nicole Laino: It might not be something that anyone can do.
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  Nicole Laino: Sometimes there's just things take time to marinate, to penetrate us.
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  Nicole Laino: Right?
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  Nicole Laino: So she was like, I finally understand.
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  Nicole Laino: She's like, I finally get my incarnation cross.
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  Nicole Laino: I finally, like, I feel it and I'm not thinking about it all the time.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like just there.
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  Nicole Laino: And something that I say all the time is that your incarnation cross isn't something that you can do.
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  Nicole Laino: It's not a destination, it's not something that you can make happen.
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  Nicole Laino: It just starts to show up as you live in alignment.
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  Nicole Laino: And this is a line that I'm kind of obsessed with.
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  Nicole Laino: I wish I could remember where I heard might have been Richard Rudd, but I can't remember exactly where I heard this.
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  Nicole Laino: But I was like, ooh, I'm keeping that because that is the essence of everything I teach.
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  Nicole Laino: And the line is this.
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  Nicole Laino: You are what you contemplate.
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  Nicole Laino: You are what you contemplate.
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  Nicole Laino: Now I'm going to tie all of this back to that manifestation, law of attraction thing at the end.
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  Nicole Laino: Because as I go through these four stages, you'll start to see, hopefully, how all of this stuff clicks together.
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  Nicole Laino: So what my client was describing was that she went from mental understanding to embodiment.
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  Nicole Laino: But here's the funny thing.
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  Nicole Laino: It's mental understanding actually comes from embodiment.
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  Nicole Laino: We think that we will mentally understand something and be able to.
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  Nicole Laino: Like, she could recite the definitions, but she didn't really get it until she started to embody it.
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  Nicole Laino: And now she's.
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  Nicole Laino: Two years in, two years from now, it's going to be wildly different.
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  Nicole Laino: She's going to be like, oh, I knew nothing two years ago.
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  Nicole Laino: I like what I know now in comparison.
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  Nicole Laino: But relative to what I know now, I knew nothing then.
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  Nicole Laino: But she's at this level, which, if I can get people here, magic.
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  Nicole Laino: Because the thing is that you can't think your way to mental understanding.
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  Nicole Laino: You cannot think your way there.
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  Nicole Laino: You will.
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  Nicole Laino: Where mental understanding comes from is when you embody it.
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  Nicole Laino: It's like, oh, I get it.
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  Nicole Laino: You don't have to think anymore.
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  Nicole Laino: It just is there.
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  Nicole Laino: But when someone asks you and when you are thinking about it, you're like, I Get it?
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  Nicole Laino: The understanding, the embodiment.
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  Nicole Laino: That's the difference between having a.
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  Nicole Laino: A way of explaining something, you know, and that's when I hear people just coming back to the keynotes.
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  Nicole Laino: When I hear people coming back to like sort of a by rote definition of their, of the.
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  Nicole Laino: One of their gates, their incarnation, cross, what it means to be a projector, all of that.
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  Nicole Laino: When I hear it coming out a certain way, where it sounds just like the things that we read in books or, you know, see on Instagram or things like that, then I know that they're not there yet.
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  Nicole Laino: They're still in their head, they're reciting.
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  Nicole Laino: And reciting is not embodiment.
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  Nicole Laino: But when you are embodied, those words, you can articulate it, you can explain it.
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  Nicole Laino: The only reason I can explain things the way that I explain them, the only reason I can tell you a hundred different ways, I can explain to you a hundred different ways of how your design can show up.
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  Nicole Laino: The reason I can do that is because I have lived this so deeply.
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  Nicole Laino: And five years from now, that will be even more.
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  Nicole Laino: I'm not saying I'm done or I'm at some culmination.
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  Nicole Laino: I just know that I have command of this.
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  Nicole Laino: Not because I've read the most books, it's because I have lived this, felt into all of it.
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  Nicole Laino: And I am what I contemplate.
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  Nicole Laino: So what's the difference between contemplation and thinking?
• 10:57
  Nicole Laino: Let's break that down, because that's in these four stages of human design growth.
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  Nicole Laino: So the first stage that everybody enters into this work with is usually obsessive.
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  Nicole Laino: There is this obsession, it's mental obsession.
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  Nicole Laino: Human design can do something for me.
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  Nicole Laino: I think that it can deliver this for me.
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  Nicole Laino: What's the answer?
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  Nicole Laino: How do It?
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  Nicole Laino: What do I do now?
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  Nicole Laino: There's just very action oriented.
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  Nicole Laino: And I say obsessive because it's like your mind is obsessing on answer.
• 11:27
  Nicole Laino: Your mind is obsessing, trying to figure out how it can all be done.
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  Nicole Laino: How can I make my life easier?
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  Nicole Laino: Think about it.
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  Nicole Laino: It's where we all enter.
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  Nicole Laino: It's okay.
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  Nicole Laino: It's not your fault.
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  Nicole Laino: The only people that I see bypassed this stage are people who have contemplated and gone through a lot of inner work where they're not at that stage.
• 11:45
  Nicole Laino: But it's very normal for people even who have gone through this to ask questions that sound like that.
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  Nicole Laino: What do I do with this?
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  Nicole Laino: How do I use this?
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  Nicole Laino: How do I live my purpose?
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  Nicole Laino: How does this work?
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  Nicole Laino: Right?
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  Nicole Laino: And the difference between Phase one and phase two of this, you know, four stage process is the first stage is obsessive.
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  Nicole Laino: The second stage is curious obsessive or curious obsession.
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  Nicole Laino: Now that is the lighter touch to the obsession.
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  Nicole Laino: We're still asking those questions and we still want answer but there is less charge behind it.
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  Nicole Laino: We are not, there's a little less of an agenda.
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  Nicole Laino: It's, we're looser with it, there's a looser grip on it.
• 12:28
  Nicole Laino: Now we actually start to get somewhere.
• 12:30
  Nicole Laino: People will start to.
• 12:32
  Nicole Laino: I can see it in them because I can tell when someone comes in to particularly into BBD because we talk so much.
• 12:41
  Nicole Laino: They have a telegram with me.
• 12:43
  Nicole Laino: They're also, you know, we're on calls every single week.
• 12:46
  Nicole Laino: They have the lab, they have aligned brand builder.
• 12:50
  Nicole Laino: So I see these people sometimes six or seven times a month and I'm talking to them in telegram if they're putting things up there and stuff like that.
• 12:59
  Nicole Laino: So lots of contact.
• 13:01
  Nicole Laino: But I can see in that person and I can tell in somebody particularly when they're in those first six months of the like what am I going to do with this?
• 13:08
  Nicole Laino: How do I do this?
• 13:09
  Nicole Laino: How do I get this?
• 13:09
  Nicole Laino: Okay, so I looked this up and you know, I'm trying to figure out like which gate should I be using to write my content.
• 13:16
  Nicole Laino: And that's again not something I'm mad about but it is something that I have to work them out of because we don't get embodiment from that place.
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  Nicole Laino: We don't get it.
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  Nicole Laino: Now it happens to a lot of people in that first stage or even the second stage.
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  Nicole Laino: The second stage is curious obsession.
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  Nicole Laino: We're getting a little like we're loosening the grip but we're still asking those questions.
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  Nicole Laino: And what can happen here is that some people can never make it past these two stages.
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  Nicole Laino: So so either they're so obsessed in that first stage and they stay there looking for the answer, trying to figure it all out.
• 13:51
  Nicole Laino: They're trying so hard that the answers don't come so they put the system down or they get to the second stage and then they get kind of, I don't know if apathy is the right word.
• 14:03
  Nicole Laino: Like they're just sort of like their heart isn't into it anymore.
• 14:05
  Nicole Laino: They're still asking those questions but they're still seeking the question just with less anxiety maybe behind it there's less of like enthusiasm behind it and that can just lead to kind of getting, you know, putting the system down and just be like, I don't really know if that works.
• 14:22
  Nicole Laino: I tried human design.
• 14:24
  Nicole Laino: It didn't really work for me.
• 14:26
  Nicole Laino: And that is a shame.
• 14:28
  Nicole Laino: That's the worst.
• 14:29
  Nicole Laino: I hate this because I know how close they are to magic if they can stick with it to the third stage.
• 14:37
  Nicole Laino: So if you can get over that midpoint, Obsessive, curious, obsessive.
• 14:41
  Nicole Laino: And then that midpoint, that's the real turning point where we can shift you over into just curious.
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  Nicole Laino: You stop looking for the answers, and you're just real curious.
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  Nicole Laino: Like, ooh, I wonder what that means.
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  Nicole Laino: Not, I wonder what that means.
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  Nicole Laino: So I can.
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  Nicole Laino: There's no more.
• 14:59
  Nicole Laino: So I can.
• 14:59
  Nicole Laino: There's a little bit of, like, still wanting to use it, still, like, trying to, like, fit it into your life.
• 15:05
  Nicole Laino: So.
• 15:06
  Nicole Laino: But you're curious, so there's a really light grip here.
• 15:08
  Nicole Laino: If I can get you here, I know how much we can do together.
• 15:13
  Nicole Laino: I know how much you'll be able to do even without me, if I can get you to that stage.
• 15:19
  Nicole Laino: But where the real magic starts to happen is in stage four.
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  Nicole Laino: Stage four is contemplative.
• 15:26
  Nicole Laino: Now we come back to that line that I love.
• 15:29
  Nicole Laino: We are what we contemplate.
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  Nicole Laino: Contemplation has a very different energy to it than even curious.
• 15:37
  Nicole Laino: But curiosity is what allows us to be contemplative.
• 15:41
  Nicole Laino: I was talking to my client and I was saying.
• 15:43
  Nicole Laino: I was like, because you thought about this so much, and then you stopped having the agenda and needing it to be anything.
• 15:50
  Nicole Laino: You stopped needing the questions to all have answers, but you still kept asking.
• 15:55
  Nicole Laino: Right?
• 15:55
  Nicole Laino: That's curious.
• 15:57
  Nicole Laino: We still ask even though we are not actively seeking answer for every question.
• 16:02
  Nicole Laino: We're accepting of the fact that sometimes curiosity is just opening us up to something else.
• 16:06
  Nicole Laino: Right, so you've done that enough.
• 16:09
  Nicole Laino: You've thought about it enough.
• 16:10
  Nicole Laino: You went through all three of these stages, and now contemplative is just sort of like you walk around with all of this in your energy.
• 16:19
  Nicole Laino: You're always contemplating it.
• 16:21
  Nicole Laino: It's always there.
• 16:22
  Nicole Laino: I consider myself constantly contemplative.
• 16:25
  Nicole Laino: I'm inactively thinking about my design or just experiencing my design and.
• 16:33
  Nicole Laino: And being, like, in relationship to it all the time.
• 16:37
  Nicole Laino: I think about my gates, I think about my channels, I think about.
• 16:40
  Nicole Laino: But it's not thinking.
• 16:42
  Nicole Laino: It's not all coming from my mind.
• 16:44
  Nicole Laino: There is this, like, back of my mind when I'm walking down the street, when I'm in a call, when I'm.
• 16:51
  Nicole Laino: It's always just there.
• 16:53
  Nicole Laino: This is where you radically change your life.
• 16:56
  Nicole Laino: If you can get truly the contemplative stage, but you almost have to walk through those other ones in order to.
• 17:02
  Nicole Laino: And you have to have some nervous system work, I find, because it's the nervous system work that's going to allow you to relax into all of this, to relax into your process.
• 17:14
  Nicole Laino: Because if you are thinking about whether this is a response or wondering if that's an invitation or can I send this email?
• 17:20
  Nicole Laino: Or doing this, you're still in your head.
• 17:23
  Nicole Laino: So you're not really living it.
• 17:24
  Nicole Laino: You're not really surrendered to the system.
• 17:26
  Nicole Laino: And you kind of have to go through those phases of.
• 17:29
  Nicole Laino: I think that mistakes and misalignment are the greatest.
• 17:32
  Nicole Laino: Teachers.
• 17:33
  Nicole Laino: Nothing will show you when you're out of alignment.
• 17:36
  Nicole Laino: Nothing will show you what misalignment feels like.
• 17:38
  Nicole Laino: Like misalignment.
• 17:39
  Nicole Laino: Nothing will show you what alignment feels like.
• 17:41
  Nicole Laino: Misalignment.
• 17:42
  Nicole Laino: To know the difference.
• 17:43
  Nicole Laino: It's like muscle memory.
• 17:44
  Nicole Laino: When you go to the gym and you work out with a trainer, if you work out with a trainer, they're going to show you and tell you where you're not hitting the right muscle.
• 17:53
  Nicole Laino: Especially when you go to work.
• 17:54
  Nicole Laino: Like, when you work, like a smaller muscle, you're working a smaller muscle group, like the outer edge of your thigh or your hips or something very precise.
• 18:03
  Nicole Laino: There's going to be a precise way that you have to hold your leg and lift it and do whatever it is the exercise is calling for in order to hit that spot.
• 18:11
  Nicole Laino: You may never know until they readjust you and they say, no there.
• 18:16
  Nicole Laino: Do you feel the difference?
• 18:18
  Nicole Laino: Do it wrong.
• 18:18
  Nicole Laino: Do it right now.
• 18:19
  Nicole Laino: You're like, okay, I get it.
• 18:21
  Nicole Laino: Misalignment does that.
• 18:22
  Nicole Laino: Misalignment teaches you what alignment feels like, and alignment teaches you what misalignment feels like.
• 18:28
  Nicole Laino: You're like, oh, this is what it feels like to be clear.
• 18:31
  Nicole Laino: This is what it feels like to feel my sacral.
• 18:35
  Nicole Laino: Which is why it's an experiment.
• 18:37
  Nicole Laino: Okay, so when we get to this contemplative stage, we are able to really lean back into what this system is meant to do, which is we surrender to it.
• 18:48
  Nicole Laino: We surrender to the process.
• 18:49
  Nicole Laino: We surrender to our process.
• 18:51
  Nicole Laino: And all the while, it's all kind of.
• 18:55
  Nicole Laino: We're swimming in it.
• 18:56
  Nicole Laino: I always get this.
• 18:57
  Nicole Laino: This vision of, like, it's like you're in a tub, you're in a pool, swimming in this energy of yours, these themes.
• 19:07
  Nicole Laino: You are in it.
• 19:08
  Nicole Laino: I used the term this afternoon on a call.
• 19:11
  Nicole Laino: I was like, you know, it's like you're steeping like you are a tea.
• 19:16
  Nicole Laino: If you put a tea bag in Hot water, it steeps over time and then eventually the water becomes the tea.
• 19:24
  Nicole Laino: That's what we're doing.
• 19:25
  Nicole Laino: You have to steepen the stuff and steeping doesn't happen instantly.
• 19:29
  Nicole Laino: That's not how it works.
• 19:31
  Nicole Laino: It takes time.
• 19:32
  Nicole Laino: And the longer it stays in there, the stronger the tea.
• 19:35
  Nicole Laino: So the more you can be contemplative.
• 19:37
  Nicole Laino: Because if you are obsessive, it takes you out of the process.
• 19:41
  Nicole Laino: You're missing it.
• 19:41
  Nicole Laino: You are not steeping.
• 19:43
  Nicole Laino: That's not how it works.
• 19:44
  Nicole Laino: You are like flash frying and that's different, right?
• 19:47
  Nicole Laino: You might be able to get some stuff done, you might be able to get some results because you got answer.
• 19:52
  Nicole Laino: But it's not getting you to what we're talking about here, which is alignment, which is the truth of you, which is understanding the intricacies of your own energy to such a level that you become it, really become it.
• 20:07
  Nicole Laino: So how all of this connects to manifestation.
• 20:10
  Nicole Laino: So when we talk about phase one and phase two, I was saying how you have an agenda, you've got a way that you think this is going to work.
• 20:18
  Nicole Laino: You know, I'm going to live my purpose and that means that my offers are going to be perfect and everybody's going to come to me and it all is going to come from this.
• 20:25
  Nicole Laino: There's like this, there is a plan.
• 20:27
  Nicole Laino: And you're like, if I could just figure this one thing out, the plan will all work.
• 20:31
  Nicole Laino: You're looking for the answer.
• 20:32
  Nicole Laino: It's really similar to what I see when people start doing energetic work and they try to connect with what they want and they are trying to manifest, so to speak.
• 20:41
  Nicole Laino: And they are, they're trying to manifest or shift their life through their energy.
• 20:48
  Nicole Laino: The same problem exists if you're giving the universe a plan and you're saying, this is what I want to happen.
• 20:54
  Nicole Laino: I want to have a perfect launch.
• 20:57
  Nicole Laino: I want it to be six figures and then I want this to happen, and then I want two private clients and then I want a thriving membership.
• 21:06
  Nicole Laino: Like I want all of these things.
• 21:08
  Nicole Laino: If you prescribe it that way, most likely won't happen.
• 21:12
  Nicole Laino: Because there's rigidity in here.
• 21:14
  Nicole Laino: You get to the way that energetic stuff works.
• 21:19
  Nicole Laino: You can want something specific, but it's more about being able to be open to.
• 21:25
  Nicole Laino: Here's ultimately where I want to end up.
• 21:28
  Nicole Laino: Here's what I want to feel like.
• 21:30
  Nicole Laino: I'm open to how it arrives.
• 21:33
  Nicole Laino: It's the same light touch that's required.
• 21:36
  Nicole Laino: And it's the same reason why being rigid with things is contracting.
• 21:41
  Nicole Laino: You and contracting your energy.
• 21:44
  Nicole Laino: It is putting you in the not self in your design, which is keeping you from your true self and embodying your design, which is keeping you from real understanding of what your design is.
• 21:57
  Nicole Laino: So it is this.
• 21:59
  Nicole Laino: You have to lean back a little bit.
• 22:01
  Nicole Laino: The faster I can get people to curious, the faster I know I can move them into all the things that they're looking for.
• 22:07
  Nicole Laino: It's just getting them there and helping them get there.
• 22:11
  Nicole Laino: Because a lot of people quit before it happens.
• 22:14
  Nicole Laino: And it's such a shame because I know what's possible because I have seen it.
• 22:18
  Nicole Laino: And it is magnificent to see with so many people who have gone through and who've had the longevity to get through those first two stages and for really wonderful for the people that make it to the fourth.
• 22:29
  Nicole Laino: Because now.
• 22:30
  Nicole Laino: And like I said to this client, I said, you know what's so awesome is now you just keep going, you keep following, keep doing what you're doing.
• 22:38
  Nicole Laino: Just keep doing what you're doing, girl.
• 22:40
  Nicole Laino: Listen to yourself, listen to your intuition.
• 22:43
  Nicole Laino: So much more is going to show up that in two years from now, your mind is going to be blown.
• 22:48
  Nicole Laino: And then two years after that, it's going to happen again.
• 22:51
  Nicole Laino: There's such peace when you get out of those first two stages.
• 22:55
  Nicole Laino: But like I said, so many people never make it there.
• 22:58
  Nicole Laino: I hope you're one of them who makes it to those final stages and that you get to experience what it really feels like to embody your design, to embody your individual truth.
• 23:11
  Nicole Laino: And I hope that you do that before 2027, when that's going to be even more important.
• 23:17
  Nicole Laino: I think that we'll be called to it even more if you do the work now, when it comes, you just keep doing what you're doing versus it.
• 23:26
  Nicole Laino: Feeling like the rug got ripped up from under you or that you have no time to catch up.
• 23:30
  Nicole Laino: And that's not to fear Monger.
• 23:32
  Nicole Laino: It's just to make you feel really excited about what you're doing.
• 23:36
  Nicole Laino: Because I think that some people, when they're in that obsessive phase, when you're trying to get answer, when you're trying to fulfill an agenda and you're not getting it, then it's like, okay, well, I need something that's gonna get me there.
• 23:46
  Nicole Laino: So what's the next thing?
• 23:47
  Nicole Laino: There is a result with human design.
• 23:49
  Nicole Laino: It's just.
• 23:50
  Nicole Laino: I wish I could explain it to you, but it's going to be different for you than it is for me and every client I've ever worked with the only universal thing is that they feel at peace.
• 24:00
  Nicole Laino: They don't question their direction.
• 24:03
  Nicole Laino: They are aligned moving forward.
• 24:06
  Nicole Laino: And when they learn to sell what they do, they have great success.
• 24:11
  Nicole Laino: It's just that it's the way that it manifests for each person is unique to them.
• 24:17
  Nicole Laino: So I hope that you get there.
• 24:18
  Nicole Laino: If you want to join us in the Human Design Authority lab, all you have to do is DM me lab on Instagram or go to nicolelaino.com lab and we'll send you all the details on the ways that you can stay in touch with your design, to stay connected with it, to stay on the path, give you those touch points where every month there are multiple sessions for you to plug into to stay connected to this work so that you can make it through stage one, stage two, stage three, and then get to stage four.
• 24:48
  Nicole Laino: This is our most affordable and impactful way of being able to deliver this to as many people as possible.
• 24:54
  Nicole Laino: I hope you join us in there.
• 24:56
  Nicole Laino: It's a wonderful group, but until then, I wish you well.
• 24:59
  Nicole Laino: Have a wonderful day.
• 25:00
  Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakeable human.
• 25:05
  Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
• 25:08
  Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
• 25:10
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• 25:16
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• 25:24
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• 25:32
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