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Doing things right · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I would like to discuss with you.
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  The theory of doing things right?
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  Because boy oh boy as human beings, we have a lot of rules
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  and I know because I have a lot of rules to trust me.
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  If you're in my house, my husband will attest to the fact
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  that there are right ways and wrong ways to do things that I
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  have come up with. And my way of folding, the
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  towels is the right way. In my way of loading, the
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  dishwasher is the right way, and he looks at me like, I'm insane.
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  And yes, I Probably I'm insane. When it comes to certain things
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  like this and these are the the gifts and the curses of being a
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  human being. Well, I want to discuss with
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  you. The rules that you've come up
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  with about doing things the right way and how those things
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  affect other people around you. So is it okay to have rules
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  about how to fold the towels or where to park the car, or how to
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  load the dishwasher, whatever it might be full?
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  Close. You know when you come in where
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  you put the mail, there's so many of these thousands of these
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  little tiny things that we have are our way of doing it and
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  these little like Enthusiast parts of ourselves that we pass
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  on to others and expect them to hold the line.
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  So is it okay to have them? Yes, it's 100%.
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  Okay, to have them, there's actually gifts in it because
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  it's kind of like they give you certainty little things in our
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  lives. Give us certainty when we're
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  doing them, the certain specific way.
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  So think of it this way, if you are someone that likes to be
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  prepared and that's part of your emotional makeup.
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  You your, you never fly by the seat of your pants.
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  You always like, to be prepared you.
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  And I'm using myself as an example right now, in my head,
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  because this is 100% Who I Am. I like to make sure I have stock
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  on everything. So, I'm on my phone all the time
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  with clients and Use earbuds. Well, I will not use the
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  wireless ones because I burned them out so quickly, so I use
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  wired ones. Well, if you open the drawer of
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  my desk, I have six brand new sets of wired Apple headsets
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  because I burn them out, they go in my pocket.
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  They're in the laundry. Sometimes they get washed and do
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  I want to just get them one at a time?
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  Nope. I'll have six, which might
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  family thinks, is me saying, why do you buy them like that?
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  Because I like to be prepared. And this is part of my Need for
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  myself, my little habits. If you will rituals whatever it
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  is to be stocked because that gives you something that gives
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  me something in the process. And for me it's doing it, right?
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  If I'm prepared for my business, I'm doing it the right way.
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  Now do I have to put those rules on other people and other
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  aspects of the life that we lead?
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  No I don't but we end up doing it.
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  We end up doing it and often it's the Jumping off point for
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  anger issues in our, in our world, in our homes, and our
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  businesses, with our employees. Everything.
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  We have a way we do it. And the hardest part is, when we
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  don't convey it and we don't say it.
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  So in your personal World in your family, this is a sensitive
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  spot because usually our partners are not necessarily
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  well informed of how we like it. They just know when they did it
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  wrong. Because we show up and say,
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  well, why did you do it this way?
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  And we get snippy about it, and we'll say, well, the right way.
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  Is this way or this is the way I do it.
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  Well, everyone has to be comfortable living in the house.
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  Now, that's a line that I actually heard from my husband.
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  He said to me, listen, it's our house.
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  And this goes back many years, and we should be comfortable
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  doing this together. I can't just be all your way
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  with this stuff and he's, and he was completely right, and I just
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  never thought of it. That way and I'm like, no, he
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  deserves to be comfortable in his own house too.
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  So I have to back off on my rules with this or or and this
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  is more what I do. I can't ask for help with those
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  things that I am rigid on. So you know what, I don't ask
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  him to fold the towels, I don't ask him to unload the dishwasher
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  or load the dishwasher up even though he does it.
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  If I have a problem with it I can go back and I can redo it if
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  I'm that uptight about it and I have that many Rules around it,
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  then great, you keep your rules, but you go back and fix it
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  yourself without attitude, without being pissy about it
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  without showing somebody that they did something quote unquote
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  wrong because you did it quote unquote, right?
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  And it's really important because if you really want to
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  take yourself to the next level, you have to get past these
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  things that cause conflict and cause Discord in your world.
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  Now, when it comes to business, this is what's interesting.
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  If you're creating a business World teams, you have something
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  where you have employees, you're allowed to have rules on this
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  stuff, absolutely allowed to have rules, but you have to
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  figure out how to convey them in a way that other people
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  understand them, they have to know what the expectations are.
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  And then you have to make sure they live up to them.
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  You have to teach them how to live up to them.
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  You can't just make a decision that says, oh, yeah.
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  Well, this is what I'm going to do and this is how I'm going to
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  do. It and then nobody else is
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  nobody else is going to be able to live up to it and it's going
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  to get all confusing for everybody.
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  You have to make sure they can live up to it.
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  You have to make sure you teach them and then if they can't, or
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  they're not willing that's a different story.
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  You can then say, Hey listen, Maybe This isn't right for you.
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  You have to go, but you have to give them the ability to live up
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  to it. You have to give them the
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  ability to attain it. So today your challenge is to
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  figure out for yourself. You know, where are these
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  hiccups? In your head where are you just
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  stuck on doing things right and because you're so stuck on doing
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  them right. It holds you back from getting
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  anything done at all because one you're just so rigid with the
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  rules that you haven't allowed anything else to take place.
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  So, I hope you guys have an amazing day and find your spots
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  and let go of some of what's right?
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  I'll talk to you soon. Bye.