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Los Angeles Traffic Getting Better | Women Quietly Quitting Their Husbands · The Bill Handel Show

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  Speaker 1: You're listening to Bill Handle on demand from KFI AM
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  Speaker 1: six forty.
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  Speaker 2: The other perfect canfie handle here? Oh, yes it is.
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  Speaker 3: It's a Friday, December twelve, Foody Friday, which means at
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  Speaker 3: eight o'clock Neil and I do Foody Friday, and then
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  Speaker 3: at a thirty we go right into ask handle anything,
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  Speaker 3: which is always great fun. Now we'll talk a little
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  Speaker 3: bit about LA traffic. As you know, LA traffic is horrific. Surprisingly,
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  Speaker 3: it is usually the worst in the country, even the
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  Speaker 3: worst in the world. But this year a little bit better.
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  Speaker 3: Why would you think that LA traffic has actually gotten better?
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  Speaker 3: It actually has incrementally gotten a little bit better.
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  Speaker 2: Why do you think that is amy.
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  Speaker 4: Because less people are driving?
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  Speaker 2: Well, thank you, oh god.
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  Speaker 3: This is of course less people are driving is getting
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  Speaker 3: but not necessarily by the way, no, no, I take
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  Speaker 3: that back. That is a reason why it is a
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  Speaker 3: really interesting concept. The reason LA traffic has gotten incrementally
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  Speaker 3: better is because it is so bad it can't get worse,
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  Speaker 3: so the only way it can, the only way it
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  Speaker 3: can go is up a little bit. That is the
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  Speaker 3: main reason why LA traffic has gotten better. Also, there's
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  Speaker 3: something else that happening and that is and there's been
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  Speaker 3: a bunch of cities that have done this. Lowering the
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  Speaker 3: speed limit, forcing people to go slower actually removes congestion.
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  Speaker 3: It's actually better for congestion if you go slower, which
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  Speaker 3: if you think about it makes sense. Why because you
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  Speaker 3: don't have as many crashes, you don't have as many
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  Speaker 3: short stops. It's just it's an easier way for traffic
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  Speaker 3: to flow. Okay, So here's La. We are the home
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  Speaker 3: of Karmageddon, the Sigalart Roads rage all.
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  Speaker 2: Came up here.
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  Speaker 3: And there's a global traffic scorecard from this country in
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  Speaker 3: Ricks transportation analytics firm, And in twenty twenty five, La
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  Speaker 3: was the most congested city, tenth most congestic city in
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  Speaker 3: the world.
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  Speaker 2: Not bad, by the way.
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  Speaker 3: We are fourth in this country now, behind Chicago, New
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  Speaker 3: York and Philadelphia. And throughout the mid to late twenty
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  Speaker 3: tens we were number one in the world as far
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  Speaker 3: as horrible traffic. So why has it gotten better? Well,
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  Speaker 3: commuting habits have changed completely because of the COVID pandemic.
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  Speaker 3: I mean we just drive differently less, we do some
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  Speaker 3: remote working. You also have the struggles downtown with vacancies.
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  Speaker 3: It is a mess downtown with the vacancy rates. For example,
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  Speaker 3: to give you an idea, vacancy rates in.
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  Speaker 2: Downtown LA have gotten worse.
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  Speaker 3: It's up to I think thirty eight percent vacancy rate
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  Speaker 3: versus is a century city thirty eight percent vacancy versus
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  Speaker 3: Century city which only has a seventeen percent shortfall. Big,
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  Speaker 3: big difference. The bottom line is is that LA and
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  Speaker 3: also a lot of it has to do with we
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  Speaker 3: don't know how to drive in LA. When it rains,
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  Speaker 3: it's end of the world headlines. When it rains. You know,
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  Speaker 3: the happiest, happiest people on the planet when it rains.
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  Speaker 3: Personal injury lawyers, the number of fender benders, the number
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  Speaker 3: of accidents that happened. Now, Amy, you lived up in
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  Speaker 3: the Pacific Northwest, right, when you're driving and it's really
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  Speaker 3: pouring rain, do you even pay attention to it? Or
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  Speaker 3: are you so used to it and the roads are
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  Speaker 3: all designed for rain.
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  Speaker 4: You're pretty much used to it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, people know how to drive in It's now when
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  Speaker 5: it snows, it's a mess because we rarely get snow
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  Speaker 5: in Portland.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, fair enough, and because we never see rain here.
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  Speaker 3: The second we see a drop of rain, all of
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  Speaker 3: a sudden, we're in a lot of trouble. By the way,
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  Speaker 3: is it when we talk about the oils on the road,
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  Speaker 3: makes the oil make the roads slippier, slipper slippery or
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  Speaker 3: because the water's hitted?
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  Speaker 2: Is that a myth?
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  Speaker 5: I don't know if it's a myth, but I certainly
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  Speaker 5: think that it's real.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I think. Everybody thinks it's real.
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  Speaker 3: Is that a Is that real that the roads are
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  Speaker 3: slippier slip step, Yeah, you're more slippy the.
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  Speaker 1: First rain after that. Yeah, that would make sense to me.
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  Speaker 2: It does. But is that an urban myth?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? There are such things as gerbils and we know
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  Speaker 3: where can we know where gerbils can't fit in?
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  Speaker 2: And that is an urban myths?
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  Speaker 5: Well, according to the Google, roads are significantly more slippery
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  Speaker 5: the first time it rains after a dry spell because
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  Speaker 5: water mixes with built up oil, grease, and all right,
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  Speaker 5: rubber dust on the surface, creating a slick, hazardous film
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  Speaker 5: that reduces your tires traction.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, experience that, Okay, that's fair.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't I was just asking about that
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  Speaker 3: because there's there are a lot of things out there
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  Speaker 3: that are myths, urban myths that we everybody believes in.
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  Speaker 3: In any case, just to give you some raw numbers,
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  Speaker 3: according to this report, it's in Rix's report, traffic delays
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  Speaker 3: cost the average LA driver US sixteen hundred dollars. That
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  Speaker 3: was in twenty twenty five. That's going to be this
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  Speaker 3: year now, sixteen dollars.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of money.
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  Speaker 3: But when you look at the entire figure the whole city,
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  Speaker 3: eight point six.
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  Speaker 2: Billion dollars is what the delays are.
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  Speaker 3: And we sit in traffic, sitting there with our fingers
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  Speaker 3: up our nose and scratching our nards, mostly men, for
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  Speaker 3: eighty seven hours per year, three full days of just
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  Speaker 3: sitting in traffic, hopefully listening to this show in the morning.
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  Speaker 3: But we're better. We are better than we were last year.
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  Speaker 3: We've gotten better. Tell you what else is going on
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  Speaker 3: the Justice Department. There's a new memo that calls for
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  Speaker 3: a cash reward system. Okay, why it would encourage Americans
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  Speaker 3: to report suspected domestic terrorist activity, which could be inspired
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  Speaker 3: by a number of things.
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  Speaker 2: According to the memo, what is domestic terrorism? Number one?
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  Speaker 3: Opposition the law and immigration enforcement, or support for radical
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  Speaker 3: gender ideology is considered. What is considered domestic terrorism focus
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  Speaker 3: does want to call the Antifah aligned extrese stremism, and
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  Speaker 3: interestingly enough, the violent white supremacy movement is omitted. That
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  Speaker 3: is not a domestic threat. Is, for example, the Proud Boys.
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  Speaker 3: Those are not domestic threats. It's if you are in
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  Speaker 3: support of radical gender ideology. I mean, it's that crazy,
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  Speaker 3: it's just so insane. It's the problematic political and social
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  Speaker 3: agendas that include opposition to law to law and immigration enforcement,
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  Speaker 3: extreme views in favor of mass migration and open borders.
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  Speaker 2: So therefore you are violating the law.
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  Speaker 3: And if you tell if you tell us that your
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  Speaker 3: neighbor is doing that, we'll give you a cash reward.
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  Speaker 2: What does that remind you of?
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  Speaker 3: And the memo was was sent by Pam Bondi, the
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  Speaker 3: Attorney General, to federal prosecutors and law enforcement agencies. Follows
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  Speaker 3: on a Presidential Memory Memorandum which was signed by Trump
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  Speaker 3: right after the killing of Charlie Kirk, and it talks
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  Speaker 3: about what are the causes of domestic terrorism activity quote
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  Speaker 3: hostility towards traditional views on family, religion, and morality, that.
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  Speaker 2: Is the basis for terrorism.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, I mean that's genuine scar that's genuinely scary. And
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  Speaker 3: they're saying, and if your neighbor, if you suspect your
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  Speaker 3: neighbor takes some.
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  Speaker 2: Pictures, call us up. Wow.
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  Speaker 3: And some national security experts are saying, boy, is this
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  Speaker 3: a change in operational shift, because what it does is
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  Speaker 3: direct federal prosecutors and agents to approach domestic terrorism that
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  Speaker 3: is ideologically one sided, and it is. It does not
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  Speaker 3: mention any terrorism that exists among white supremacts.
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  Speaker 2: It does not exist.
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  Speaker 3: For example, President Trump talks about the cities being out
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  Speaker 3: of control. They're all democratic cities. Where do you put
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  Speaker 3: in it? Where do he nationalize the guard in democratic cities?
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  Speaker 2: Why?
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  Speaker 3: Because there is no Republican led city in the United
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  Speaker 3: States that has a problem, not one. If you're not
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  Speaker 3: frightened by that, if you're if you're in Congress and
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  Speaker 3: you're a Republican and most of them are lawyers, and
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  Speaker 3: you're looking at a memorandum that says domestic terrorism, which
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  Speaker 3: by the way, does not exist as a legal concept.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't calling an organization a terrorist organization is true,
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  Speaker 3: a foreign domestic terrorist or a foreign terrorist organization. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: the legal concept of domestic terrorism does not exist.
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  Speaker 2: When you mentioned that it's not in the law.
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  Speaker 3: It's a phrase that's sort of a general use phrase,
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  Speaker 3: like Antiphah. Right, it's not a group, it's it's a philosophy.
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  Speaker 3: It's an ideology, that's what it is. So you say,
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  Speaker 3: we're going after the Antiphah members.
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  Speaker 2: Who who's a member.
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  Speaker 3: Of the Antipha sign up? Who's the president? Where are
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  Speaker 3: they located, Whe're the headquarters? It doesn't exist, and it's
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  Speaker 3: an ideology. And much like the concept of domestic terrorism,
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  Speaker 3: that phrase does not exist. But the scary part is
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  Speaker 3: that memo does. That memo does, and it lays out
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  Speaker 3: in no uncertain terms, terrorism in this country. Domestic terrorism
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  Speaker 3: is the left wing, it is not the right wing.
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  Speaker 3: That does not exist. And we go back to it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't matter what you do. If you are backing this president.
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  Speaker 3: You can overrun the capital, you can beat police officers,
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  Speaker 3: you can rifle through files, you can break into legislator's offices,
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  Speaker 3: and that's all patriotism is what that is. However, the
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  Speaker 3: people outside that are protesting against that, they're the ones
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  Speaker 3: that are breaking the law. I don't know if you're
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  Speaker 3: frightened by that stuff. I'm scared to death, I really am.
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  Speaker 3: I just don't like where this country is going. I
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  Speaker 3: don't like what's happening. I mean, I can't imagine the
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  Speaker 3: government saying, turn in your neighbors. I can see turn
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  Speaker 3: in your neighbors if there's a crime committed. Oh my mistake,
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  Speaker 3: my mistake. There is a crime being committed, absolutely right,
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  Speaker 3: and the crime is being anti administration. There's there's the crime.
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  Speaker 3: Okay story out of the Atlantic I want to share
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  Speaker 3: with you. And this has to do with actually how
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  Speaker 3: rude people are, or employers and employees, and both have
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  Speaker 3: a real complaint. The employer has a real well to
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  Speaker 3: start with, the employer, they offer someone a job, and
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  Speaker 3: that's someone doesn't show up, or doesn't respond to emails
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  Speaker 3: or sends out a second request or sets up an
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  Speaker 3: interview on zoom.
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  Speaker 2: No one shows up.
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  Speaker 3: Employees, potential employees are on the other side. They're saying,
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  Speaker 3: we send out resumes, we don't even get a response,
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  Speaker 3: not even especially with today's algorithms, not even thanks for applying.
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  Speaker 3: Unfortunately the position has been filled, and we'll keep your
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  Speaker 3: file on record, which of course they don't. But there's
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  Speaker 3: at least a semblance of humanity there where there's a
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  Speaker 3: semblance of caring gone. And then I started looking at
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  Speaker 3: this article and it actually gives us a history of
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  Speaker 3: disparity and why today we have financial disparity. Certainly the
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  Speaker 3: rich are getting rich and the poor are getting poorer
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  Speaker 3: and is really widening big time. One of the things
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  Speaker 3: about America which I love, which all of us love,
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  Speaker 3: is we really don't have a class differentiation.
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  Speaker 2: We do in the sense of money. There's definitely.
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  Speaker 3: A thinking that people who have money are in a
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  Speaker 3: different class than people who don't. The other side of
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  Speaker 3: that is anybody can have money because we're the land
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  Speaker 3: of opportunit unity.
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  Speaker 2: You can go there.
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  Speaker 3: You go to countries, you go to Europe, for example,
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  Speaker 3: and the classes are set. You're born in a class
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  Speaker 3: and anybody born in a lower class is never moving up.
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  Speaker 2: And when you talk about class differentiation.
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  Speaker 3: And this is the part that I absolutely love, the
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  Speaker 3: history part is through the eighteenth and nineteenth century in
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  Speaker 3: Europe and America, manners good manners essentially boiled down to
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  Speaker 3: good fences, make good neighbors, We keep apart, We're going
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  Speaker 3: to do just fine.
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  Speaker 2: And how do you avoid class conflict? Well, you avoid
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  Speaker 2: each other is what you do.
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  Speaker 3: You don't talk to people, which actually works for me beautifully,
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  Speaker 3: and anyone associating outside of his or her class was discourage.
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  Speaker 3: Now there was class mixing, because that's just society. People
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  Speaker 3: maintain psychological distance by acting with extreme formality. And there
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  Speaker 3: we go back to the application, which no one even
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  Speaker 3: gives formality. Thank you so much for applying, you know,
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  Speaker 3: a very formal sense, a polite sense, as opposed to
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  Speaker 3: you don't stand a chance get out of my life.
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  Speaker 3: We don't do that, But we don't even do the
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  Speaker 3: formality anymore. That just doesn't exist. So in those days,
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  Speaker 3: people maintained psychological distance with acting extreme formality. Now when
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  Speaker 3: people did clash, the norms dictated that the privileged classes,
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  Speaker 3: in fact, they were awarded the prerogative of violence. And unfortunately,
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  Speaker 3: it's much like what happened in the United States, and
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  Speaker 3: we talk about the extremes prior to the Civil rights movement.
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  Speaker 3: If a black man attacked a white that would be
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  Speaker 3: years and years in prison. If a white man attacked
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  Speaker 3: a black, Okay, no big deal. The same thing with
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  Speaker 3: accusations of any crimes, accusations of improper conduct.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it didn't matter across the board.
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  Speaker 3: Well, that comes from where it did come from, especially
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  Speaker 3: in Europe, the issue of the classes. There's an eighteen
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  Speaker 3: fifty nine guide the courtesy. I love this, and it's
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  Speaker 3: called The Habits of Good Society, and it advised that
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  Speaker 3: if a gentleman were confronted with a dishonest cabman, a
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  Speaker 3: taxi driver, you know, horse and buggy, if he is
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  Speaker 3: confronted with a dishonest cabman, one well dealt blow settles
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  Speaker 3: the whole matter. Now, I think we should take that
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  Speaker 3: to uber and lyft drivers. If uber and lyft drivers
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  Speaker 3: are acting out and you're in the back seat quoting
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  Speaker 3: from the quoting from The Habits of Good Society, one
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  Speaker 3: well dealt blow settles the whole thing.
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  Speaker 2: And since you're behind the driver, it makes it much easier.
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  Speaker 2: So etiquette reminders from those days.
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  Speaker 3: Well, social inferiors are social inferiors. Theoretically we don't have
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  Speaker 3: the here in this country, but in reality we really
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  Speaker 3: do get some money.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 3: All right, we're done with that. That was an interesting,
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  Speaker 3: interesting combination. I really enjoy that all right. Great story
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  Speaker 3: out of the Atlantic, and it's entitled how some mid
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  Speaker 3: life women are quietly quitting their husbands, still stay married,
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  Speaker 3: but are sort of just backing up, just sort of
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  Speaker 3: dropping out without physically dropping out. It's like showing up
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  Speaker 3: in class and just doing the absolute minimum to stay
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  Speaker 3: in class. And Neil and I talked about quietly quitting work,
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  Speaker 3: where you don't want to quit because you're still getting
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  Speaker 3: the paycheck, but you do the absolute minimum amount of
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  Speaker 3: work that you humanly can.
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  Speaker 2: That's quiet quitting.
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  Speaker 3: So now there is this article that came out and
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  Speaker 3: this is a thing, quietly quitting husbands, and they're starting
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  Speaker 3: to look at this in terms of surveys, and it
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  Speaker 3: is surprising how many women quietly quit their husbands. And
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  Speaker 3: they stay married one of the things. And a huge
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  Speaker 3: number of women don't particularly like their husbands. My parents
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  Speaker 3: were married for fifty five years, and they hated each
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  Speaker 3: other for fifty five years. And I was wondering, you know,
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  Speaker 3: as I grew up, but why did they stay together? Well,
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  Speaker 3: because they were expected to stay together. Why did they
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  Speaker 3: have kids? Well, they were expected to have kids, And
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  Speaker 3: that there is the problem.
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  Speaker 2: And today it's a different animal. It really is.
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  Speaker 3: Women are simply not getting divorced, and they're quietly quitting,
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  Speaker 3: not even pretending. So what would you think The number
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  Speaker 3: one reason is that women are quietly quitting and they're
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  Speaker 3: not getting divorced, amy, What would you think the number
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  Speaker 3: one reason.
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  Speaker 4: Is they don't like them anymore?
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, no, but but they're still there. No, but
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  Speaker 2: they're still there, They're still married. They're quietly quitting, So
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  Speaker 2: why are they staying? Yeah, why do you think they're?
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  Speaker 4: Financial reasons?
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  Speaker 3: There you go that you think is the number one reason? Neil,
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  Speaker 3: what do you think the reason people don't get divorced
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  Speaker 3: and they're quietly quitting costs?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you also put costs.
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  Speaker 3: That's and I thought that too, and still until I
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  Speaker 3: started looking at this and the numbers started coming up,
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  Speaker 3: and you.
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  Speaker 2: Know what it is. It's not money.
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  Speaker 3: Money is second or third. Really, a lot of it
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  Speaker 3: is inertia. It is easier to quietly quit and just
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  Speaker 3: keep on going and just I'm just not gonna do
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  Speaker 3: it because it's you know, that's the way life is.
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  Speaker 2: Money is certainly a part of it.
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  Speaker 1: But usually do that though I couldn't do that with
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  Speaker 1: a job. I don't want to be somewhere just for money.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be in a relationship too because
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  Speaker 1: it's comfortable.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, let me ask you this how many people are
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  Speaker 3: in a job just for money and they do not
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  Speaker 3: like their jobs. And especially in this day and age,
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  Speaker 3: especially since there are no jobs out there, you'd be surprised. Neil,
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  Speaker 3: you happen to be very, very lucky. You know, I
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  Speaker 3: really like what you do.
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  Speaker 1: There's a lot of things I like to do right.
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  Speaker 3: And by the way, that is the other reason why
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  Speaker 3: women don't get divorced.
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  Speaker 2: And they quietly quit because their lives are full.
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  Speaker 3: They're filling up their lives with other things, both business
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  Speaker 3: and hobbies. And women used to be barefoot and pregnant
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  Speaker 3: in the fifties.
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  Speaker 2: What'd you do, husband went off to work.
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  Speaker 3: You have the white picket fence, You had a dog
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  Speaker 3: named Spot, You had two kids, or you had two
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  Speaker 3: and a half kids, if one of them were trans
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  Speaker 3: whatever it was, and that was just the way women worked. Well, today,
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  Speaker 3: it's obviously a very different animal. Men haven't changed that much.
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  Speaker 3: Men still wake up and they go to.
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  Speaker 1: Work and very simple creatures.
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  Speaker 2: We are very so.
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  Speaker 3: And then wives are making breakfasts for men. You know,
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: here's a pop tart, leave me alone. Those No one's
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: ever made breakfast for me, mainly because I wake up
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: at you know the crack of.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: The middle of the night, as you do.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: But it is I look at my parents and it
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: was pure inertia.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: They did not like each other.
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: The only thing positive about my parents is, and that's
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: made my dad a good guy, is that he and
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: my mother split the housework. He actually did half of
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: the housework, which is very unusual when you talk about
• 20:55
  Speaker 3: a traditional couple. But that was it. So in the meantime,
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: people are quietly quitting. So there is where was this.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: There's a book called Foreverland by this woman Heather.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Have Risky, have Realisky.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: I'm so good with names, and she says the world's
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: most impossible endurance challenge is marriage. And here's something really
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: interesting she wrote, which I love. If you work at
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: the marriage is not hard.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: It's actually too easy.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: Now that's sort of counterintuitive, right, And here's what she
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: says about this. If you work at the same company
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: for two decades, you're incentivized to make it work.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: You're incentivized by.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: Raises, by promotions, you compete with other colleagues for that
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: corner office. If you don't perform, you get fired. So
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: let's look at marriage. Couples get rewarded at the beginning
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: of their marriage with this pot. I love wedding gifts.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: It's a signing bonus simply for saying I do. Okay,
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: that's such a crass way to look at it.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: I love it. The honeymoon is a vacation that you
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: haven't earned.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: Here have a honeymoon or take a honeymoon once you
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: are married. No higher up supervises your attitude tracks your productivity.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: There's no one there to oversee that.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: Uh, it's both of you as co workers to review
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: your performance, and you never do so. Typically, that kind
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: of self reflection and accountability only comes up when you
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: see a marriage counselor when you.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: Think about it and it's it's it's a job, you know.
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: I mean, you know in sex, you know women have
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: to put up with sex or the husband.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, you do it because you sort of have to, right.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: So was it.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Newly wet? Well?
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: No, yeah, I know, newly well.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: Well, last Sunday, Lindsay goes come on, Bill, I go
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: Sunday I got football, leave me alone. And so the
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: next day it's Monday night football, leave me alone. And
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: strangely enough, the next time it happened was Thursday. Thursday
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: night Football, Leave me alone. Okay, we're none sociological Bill here.
• 23:28
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• 23:34
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