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Stop Drifting: How Small Daily Decisions Shape Your Future · Live 100 Podcast with Jason Yarusi

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  SPEAKER_00: And the greatest danger in your life isn't it's just usually the failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that you drip.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, today let's just talk about all the reasons why people honestly just never become the true person they're capable of becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to be a better husband, a better father, a better leader, a better steward, a stronger man.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your future isn't created by this massive breakthrough.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's built by these daily deposits.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thousands of compromises absolutely do change your life for the worst.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're tired, not feeling fit, tired, just not having a focus, tired, just not having the life that you deserve.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the place to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Jason Your City today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's just talk about all the reasons why people honestly just never become the true person they're capable of becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I would ask you, right, why would this be?
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  SPEAKER_00: You would think it's lack of talent, lack of opportunity, even just the lack of hard work.
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  SPEAKER_00: But ultimately, it's just your inability to push forward after that true one goal because you compromise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those compromises, right, they really change your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But thousands of compromises absolutely do change your life for the worst.
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  SPEAKER_00: The worst thing about it is that a compromise or just multiple compromises, they don't really feel dangerous, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: They feel reasonable, justified, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You can feel it's earned, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, you know, I worked out today, so I can eat ice cream tonight, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You tell yourself you'll start next week, or you'll go after having that one conversation that you just need to have, whether it's with your spouse, your boss, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyone, even that conversation with yourself, you'll put it off the next week.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll save after you just make this one more purchase for, you know, that new suit or those, you know, that purse or whatever is that part.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you have some slowdown in your business, then you'll start getting back into shape.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what happens is that next week becomes next month, and you replace that thing that you want to do with another project that you put off, and suddenly years have passed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the greatest danger in your life isn't it's just usually the failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's that you drift.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think of these times and these examples, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You think about the Roman Empire.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, many historians point to a series of small decisions over centuries that increased government spending, political instability, or military dependence on outsiders and currency, it debases, internal division, and you don't see this collapse in just one day.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you do see it that it weakened one compromise at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this each decision just made in the moment, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That when you look at these decisions collectively, create the failure of an empire.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you look at them over the course of just one at a time, uh it doesn't seem like that big of a deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, the same thing happens in our life.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't usually wake up one morning unhealthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't wake up financially stressed at the middle of the night.
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  SPEAKER_00: We arrive through years of spending decisions that were made poorly.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't suddenly lose a marriage or a friendship or a relationship with our children.
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  SPEAKER_00: It happens through the course of inactivity or the inability to commit.
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  SPEAKER_00: They erode through neglect, it's distraction, missed opportunities.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what is the lesson?
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  SPEAKER_00: What destroys us is often gradual.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what builds us is gradual too, which is the hard thing to put into our mind, is that the building, it takes time, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: They usually say Rome wasn't built in a day, but it also wasn't destroyed in a day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about, you know, just a great example of the transcontinental railroad.
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  SPEAKER_00: When the railroad connected America back in 1869, crews weren't laying out hundreds of miles of track every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: They were laying out sections.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is just one rail, one tie, one spike, day after day.
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  SPEAKER_00: The final achievement gets remembered.
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  SPEAKER_00: America connected.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that a victory was created through thousands of small actions that nobody talks about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's just how meaningful achievement works.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your future isn't created by this massive breakthrough.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's built by these daily deposits.
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  SPEAKER_00: And research, it backs this up.
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  SPEAKER_00: A study from the University of College of London found that the habit formation takes an average of about 66 days, not 21 days, like many people believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: The key it wasn't finding how quickly habits formed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was that consistency mattered more than perfection.
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  SPEAKER_00: The people who succeed weren't perfect, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That they just simply kept showing up.
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  SPEAKER_00: My workouts every day aren't perfect, but I do them daily.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what's happened from this daily performance of getting out there, even when I'm sore, tired, just don't feel like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But just going through that has made this that this is a consistent aspect of my life, and that's why my health has improved daily.
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  SPEAKER_00: The encouraging most people quit is that they quit after just missing a few days, thinking that they failed.
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  SPEAKER_00: But success is for the people who understand that when things fall off for a few days, you have to get back going again and again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Warren Buffett once said that most people overestimate what they can accomplish a year and underestimate what they accomplish in a decade.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Over 10 years, you know, of just reading every day, 10 years of investing, 10 years of exercising, improving your marriage, 10 years of becoming a better parent, the results are just extraordinary.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you try to cram this all into one year, let me just make it happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it doesn't happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want 10 years in 10 weeks.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life just doesn't work that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compounding doesn't work that way, especially true in finances.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you invest$1,000 and earn 10%, that's$100.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not very exciting.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you do that over time and over time, the results over the course of a decade, 20 years, 30 years is just astonishing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Albert Einstein repeatedly uh referred to compound interest as the eighth wonder in the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether he actually said it or not, it just doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The principle is true beyond means.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compounding works in money, in relationships, in health, in leadership, and unfortunately, negativity compounds in that same fashion.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few extra pounds becomes 20.
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  SPEAKER_00: A few small debts becomes a financial burden.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't get a bond.
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  SPEAKER_00: A little resentment becomes a broken relationship, and everything compounds.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, what stood out from reading through an article or a write-up from uh Mark Pincus was his reflection on creating a vision for your future self.
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  SPEAKER_00: Many people, they know what they don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: They know what's not good for them, but they can't clearly define what they do want.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you ask yourself many times, what do you want, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone can tell you, well, I don't like this, don't like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, that's not the question.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: And there is a way to establish what you want by establishing what you don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: But so many times we focus on what's the problem, and our mind continues to go there each and every day, and our decisions become negotiable because we're trying to avoid the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every distraction gets equal consideration.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every opportunity looks attractive.
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  SPEAKER_00: A simple, shiny object just pulls us completely off course.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when I think about my my own life, I had business ideas that have derailed me from just focusing on the true course for business.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when I got back to the strategy of just complete focus on what I want, what happened?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, positive results.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to be a better husband, a better father, a better leader, a better steward, a stronger man physically, mentally, financially, sp uh emotionally, spiritually.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of those things are goals that aren't achieved daily.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're identities that I have to build daily.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every decision is either reinforced into that identity or weakens it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Navy CEOs have a saying, under pressure, you don't rise to the occasion, you fall to the level of your training.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's is the same truth that is within all of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: When life gets difficult, we don't suddenly become more disciplined.
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  SPEAKER_00: We just rely on the habits that we've already built to.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want to truly see how someone has prepared themselves for life, put them in a stressful situation and see what the reaction is.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why your small decisions matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: But eventually, life, it's just gonna text you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna put you in a position where business is gonna be hard, the market's gonna blow up on you, your health is gonna scare you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to decide to just really focus on your future self today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine right now it's 2036.
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you living?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you living?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's your health like?
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  SPEAKER_00: How does your marriage look?
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  SPEAKER_00: How have your kids grown up to be?
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  SPEAKER_00: What kind of freedoms do you have?
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  SPEAKER_00: What kind of constraints do you have?
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  SPEAKER_00: How much are you impacting your future?
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  SPEAKER_00: How much are you creating around you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now ask yourself, what would your future do today?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you need to change right now to look forward to meet those goals to aspirations that you have in 2036?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your life is truly a component of your daily actions and your daily choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: And don't think that if you just compromise today, that you can stop tomorrow because you ask and look back into the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: A decade ago, the choices you've made, they've put you to where you are today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this where you want to be?
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, that's what we have for you today.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Liver Roger Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Jason Rossi.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's do this.