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The Happiness Gap · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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Speaker 2: who talks.
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Speaker 3: What's up?
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Speaker 1: Y'all's your girl?
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Speaker 3: A j Holiday, What's hey y'all? A TMV? And my
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Speaker 3: love y'all so much? Thank you for coming back again
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Speaker 3: this week. How was your weekend? Girl? My weekend was wet.
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Speaker 3: I was outside. You did have a good weekend work?
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Speaker 1: Anytime I go outside, people be messaging me like, oh
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Speaker 1: you was outside, yes, bitch, because it's very I'd be
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Speaker 1: doing shit. I just don't want to share all the shit.
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Speaker 1: But yes, this weekend was very lit. Okay, I was
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Speaker 1: very drunk Friday night at Jeezy concert, started standing on
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Speaker 1: furniture and security had to tell me to get down
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Speaker 1: the time. I mean, he said, y'all might as well
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Speaker 1: take y'all shoes off and get on the chairs. So
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Speaker 1: I was the only person who did it though.
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Speaker 3: I love j Z Man. The fucking concert was super lit.
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Speaker 1: If y'all haven't went to Vegas yet to check out
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Speaker 1: gez black Tie Affair, it's a big ass formal family reunion, Okay,
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Speaker 1: I need to go, Yes, Yes, yes, yes, and I
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Speaker 1: did get to meet Jeez. I feel like I met
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Speaker 1: Jez before a long time ago, like in Colombia, you know,
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Speaker 1: like Colombia always been a hub. He said he's born
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Speaker 1: he was born in Charleston. The whole time, I thought
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Speaker 1: he was born in Columbia.
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Speaker 3: I always thought it was Augusta.
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Speaker 1: No, I knew it wasn't Augusta. I thought it was Columbia.
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Speaker 1: But he said, no, he was born in Charleston.
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Speaker 3: M Interesting. But yeah, Jez was a good time, y'all.
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Speaker 3: And did y'all stay the whole weekend?
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Speaker 1: Yes?
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Speaker 3: We went to Mary on Saturday.
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Speaker 1: Are y'all know if I what y'all was talking about
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Speaker 1: by Mary and how she be up there resting Because
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Speaker 1: I'd be delusional sometimes, so I did like prepare my
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Speaker 1: throat just in case, like she needed me to swap
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Speaker 1: out and come, yeah, do a low one too, in
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Speaker 1: my mind, like I was gonna get caught up on
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Speaker 1: stage to do that. But Mary did her thing. Okay,
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Speaker 1: y'all got to remember, Mary's fifty five years old or
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Speaker 1: some shit like that, like this is not a young woman.
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Speaker 3: But when I tell y'all, Mary.
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Speaker 1: Is fucking beautiful. She's beautiful.
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Speaker 3: She looked real good.
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Speaker 1: She looked she looked blissed. Okay, if she need a break,
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Speaker 1: I heard h You didn't know she need a break.
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Speaker 1: She needed she needs to get the break.
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Speaker 3: Like can you perform for two hours? It depends on
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Speaker 3: what we're performing.
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Speaker 1: Not not that type of oral two hours worth. The
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Speaker 1: oral is wild singing or.
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Speaker 2: Secondf I'm not Corince Stephan shout out to career.
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Speaker 1: You know my job fucked up, Yiah, you get a
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Speaker 1: good I don't even want to say ten minutes out me,
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Speaker 1: I'll be like getting off of it and doing shit
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Speaker 1: like that.
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Speaker 3: Can y'all hear it cracking right now? No, we can't
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Speaker 3: hear it. Y'all can't hear that cracking on the dick.
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Speaker 3: But man, Mary looks so good like she.
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Speaker 1: She didn't for some reason, she didn't sing all of
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Speaker 1: like the super She did a lot of the good songs,
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Speaker 1: but then she like skip a couple and then like
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Speaker 1: she had them playing, had the DJ playing them like
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Speaker 1: during the interlude, girl wanted to sing them songs. Allowed
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Speaker 1: with you like perform those particular songs. But probably one
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Speaker 1: thing I was feeling while watching Mary is that women
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Speaker 1: we really got to know our fucking power.
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Speaker 3: Like Mary J.
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Speaker 1: Blige been that bitch her entire life at this point,
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Speaker 1: but imagine in relationships with men who have like ciphered
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Speaker 1: her energy and it took her to fifty five years
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Speaker 1: old to realize that she that bitch right. Because you
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Speaker 1: have had men like not treating you like you that
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Speaker 1: bitch right, you kind of internalize it and based off
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Speaker 1: how you're being treated like as you're as if you're
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Speaker 1: not worthy or deserving. All I can see, all I
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Speaker 1: could think about is like how people have utilized her
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Speaker 1: divine feminine energy for yes, yes man, and you know
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Speaker 1: she just you know, she started singing no More Drama
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Speaker 1: and all that stuff, like I could see the you
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Speaker 1: know going through the songs like My Life was a
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Speaker 1: great album, but this ship did teach us like pain
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Speaker 1: and that this is where relationships are and it's just
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Speaker 1: not or yeah, like it did help people get through
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Speaker 1: things because it's relatable. But man, I'm telling y'all, relationships
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Speaker 1: do not. When I tell y'all, my nigga just be
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Speaker 1: like built in security and be letting me while out
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Speaker 1: like a badass fucking kid.
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Speaker 3: We together.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he was there, yes, like for real, man
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Speaker 1: through the airport. You're gonna carry all my ship, bitch.
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Speaker 1: I just get to skip around like a badass kid.
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Speaker 1: I love that. And that is how like if you
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Speaker 1: was somebody who's not fucking treating you like a goddess,
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Speaker 1: get out of there, right, because that's how it's supposed
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Speaker 1: to be.
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Speaker 3: Like real men know.
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Speaker 1: The real value of women and what we are on
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Speaker 1: this planet. That's all I'm gonna say. But that's how
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Speaker 1: I felt this weekend watching Mary. I love her so much.
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Speaker 3: And did you get to meet her at the end? No?
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Speaker 3: I didn't. We didn't. I ain't meeting nobody.
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Speaker 1: Apparently she had a meet and greet earlier that day,
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Speaker 1: and she had to show Friday and Saturday, and like
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Speaker 1: she she worked all fucking weekend. And another thing I
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Speaker 1: thought about was these niggas be still having to work,
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Speaker 1: like people think, just because they're millionaires. Like shit, they
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Speaker 1: have more bills now, right, so they paycheck. The paycheck
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Speaker 1: look a little different from ours.
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Speaker 3: Right, But it's the ship, just a different scale, exactly
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Speaker 3: same ship. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Well, this weekend I celebrated my birthday and we should
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Speaker 2: have started there.
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Speaker 1: I need birthday, big tam bam, thank you tell all
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Speaker 1: those cancers out there. Yeah, all the cancer cancer season
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Speaker 1: over though the twenty third, so by the time you
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Speaker 1: hear this, it will be Leo season.
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Speaker 2: Shout out to Leo. Every year, I typically go some
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Speaker 2: to some island with somebody's son.
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Speaker 3: This year I did not do that, and I did
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Speaker 3: not even care to do that.
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Speaker 2: Because even if it was like last minute, I just
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Speaker 2: picked a son and go with them.
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Speaker 3: But MEI money ho.
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Speaker 2: Catch your nigga bias toe, But I didn't even feel
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Speaker 2: like being bothered with nobody's son. This year, I got
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Speaker 2: me and my sisters. My sister lives in My older
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Speaker 2: sister lives in d C. So I flew to DC.
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Speaker 3: My Aaron and Janet.
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Speaker 2: Shout out to them. They flew in, and Tanya, my
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Speaker 2: little sister, flew in pregnant. Erran's pregnant, so.
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Speaker 1: We went to really m h I didn't know that,
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Speaker 1: So we went to the African and when they all
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Speaker 1: post war, not me now, but when bitch is gonna
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Speaker 1: be posting, they'd be pregnant.
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Speaker 3: Not me that, but that's what people were thinking of pregnant.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because we were recorded, I was as big as
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Speaker 1: a fucking the house.
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Speaker 3: That's about it, but no weekend. I'm saying, I don't
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Speaker 3: want to hear about it exactly.
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Speaker 1: Were fighting if you say something.
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Speaker 3: So we went to the African American History Museum. I'd
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Speaker 3: never been.
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Speaker 2: Everybody else had been a few times, but I'd never been,
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Speaker 2: so I wanted to go.
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Speaker 3: We did that.
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Speaker 2: We did Saturday. We went to the SPA that morning
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Speaker 2: and we stayed till six at night.
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Speaker 3: It was amazing. Valley and Springs.
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Speaker 2: If you're in the DC area, you visit, try that spiral.
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Speaker 2: It was like so many different rooms and so much
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Speaker 2: to do that you could just literally be there all day.
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Speaker 3: It was so great someplace like that, Yeah, it was.
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Speaker 3: It was. It was excellent.
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Speaker 2: All the saunas, all the different led light room and
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Speaker 2: salt room and relaxation room, and they had one room
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Speaker 2: was like it looked like you were in an aquarium, Like
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Speaker 2: it was just like fish and like you just like
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Speaker 2: in the center of an aquarium.
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Speaker 3: It was just so great. That sounds so tranquil, it was.
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Speaker 3: It was. I went to sleep in there. I was
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Speaker 3: in that snore.
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Speaker 2: I woke up, motherfuckers looking at me, like this is
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Speaker 2: supposed to be in a peaceful space.
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Speaker 1: All right, that dried up spit on the side right exactly.
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Speaker 2: Then that night we went to a dog One, which
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Speaker 2: is like an African fusion cuisine, new place in DC.
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Speaker 2: When I tell you that food was so good. Oh
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Speaker 2: my gosh, it was so so good. If y'all go
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Speaker 2: to DC, go there dog On. They just opened. It
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Speaker 2: was hard to get a reservation there, but we made
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Speaker 2: it happen. So if you go there, try their food.
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Speaker 2: And then on Sunday I went to Park and do
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Speaker 2: you remember the twins that went to Benedict with us?
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Speaker 2: Jeremy and I can't.
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Speaker 3: Remember the older twins. The other twins one was big,
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Speaker 3: remember Lee and Lost?
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Speaker 1: I remember them big niggas from Philly or Jerseys.
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Speaker 3: They I remember they were from the DC area. But
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Speaker 3: it was bad. I can't remember, like there was bad.
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Speaker 1: Bro. Why when I walk up to Park, I hear
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Speaker 1: somebody hollering my name, like, who the fuck is that?
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Speaker 2: It's the police? I said, oh, Ship, that's the police.
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Speaker 2: It was one of the twins. They're both police officers.
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Speaker 2: Now I couldn't believe it.
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Speaker 3: I was like, y'all were so awful and now y'all
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Speaker 3: are law enforcement. That's crazy. Now they get to be
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Speaker 3: bad with a badge.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really how you're supposed to do it.
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Speaker 3: If you're gonna sell drugs, just be a police officer.
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Speaker 1: You can steal drugs and sell them at the same time, right.
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Speaker 3: And stealing money. And that was a good time.
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Speaker 2: They had like bombless, like food was bottomless.
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Speaker 3: Most is bottomless. Yeah, like you could just keep eating.
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Speaker 2: But you got a two hour time limit there, but
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Speaker 2: we was in there like three hours and change, you know,
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Speaker 2: but it says each table is two hours. But they
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Speaker 2: didn't put us out because my sister pay for them
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Speaker 2: to put like a big sign up that's a happy birthday,
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Speaker 2: tam bam. And it was just a nice time with
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Speaker 2: my girls and my sisters.
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Speaker 3: So that was it.
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Speaker 2: It was very no clubs. We ain't do no clubs,
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Speaker 2: We ain't do none of that. It was just more like,
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Speaker 2: I mean, park is kind of like a club. Ish
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Speaker 2: is food, you know how brunch is. It was good
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Speaker 2: and I.
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Speaker 3: Did not get laid. That was the only thing that
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Speaker 3: didn't happen. But it's okay. I don't have to I think.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like I have went a couple
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Speaker 1: of times on a birthday with our sacks now, but
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Speaker 1: just go to sleep.
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Speaker 3: I didn't even do that because, yeah, I slept with
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Speaker 3: my sister. It would have been weird. Your sister would
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Speaker 3: have put your ays to fuck out? Yes she would.
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Speaker 1: Hell's wrong with you? That's sex for harassment. Yeah, all right,
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Speaker 1: let's get into this. And y'all know how I have
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Speaker 1: said on this show multiple times that if you are
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Speaker 1: in the job market, if you are trying to enter
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Speaker 1: the workforce, you better not put that you are black
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Speaker 1: slash African American, like they haven't listed on the applications.
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Speaker 3: You better put that you're white. I put either I
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Speaker 3: do white or I do Indian, like when I was
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Speaker 3: in the job market.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 1: But work Day is the AI software that most of
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Speaker 1: these companies use now their HR software, and it has
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Speaker 1: they've they've basically been.
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Speaker 3: In court since last year.
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Speaker 1: A black man by the name of Derek Mobley filed
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Speaker 1: a lawsuit against him and it's now it's a class
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Speaker 1: action lawsuit for discrimination. Basically, he was rejected from one
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Speaker 1: hundred jobs using work Day's platform, often within minutes of applying.
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Speaker 1: He said he would get like, you know, rejection letters,
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Speaker 1: like in the middle of the night, like how did
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Speaker 1: anybody review my shit that soon to reject my application,
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Speaker 1: so I probably he probably just got fed up, like
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Speaker 1: what the fuck? We already know like this is happening.
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Speaker 1: So they're using AI software right to discriminate against people.
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Speaker 1: And you see, like the housing market, houses cost half
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Speaker 1: a million dollars. Who's getting the income to pay for
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Speaker 1: these things? We aren't even when we're qualified because our
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Speaker 1: application isn't even getting in front of the hiring manager, right,
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Speaker 1: it says. Court filing suggests one point one billion job
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Speaker 1: applications were rejected through work Day system during the relevant period.
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Speaker 1: More than eighty percent of US employers now use some
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Speaker 1: form of AI, and of course black eye applicants so
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Speaker 1: race age, so they were kicking out people who were
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Speaker 1: over the age of forty.
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Speaker 3: That's our generation that we have all a student loan debt.
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Speaker 1: Y'all told us to go to fucking college, and now
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Speaker 1: you won't give us the jobs to pay the money
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Speaker 1: back because all student loans is is a cash advance
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Speaker 1: on your future paychecks because they don't have enough money
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Speaker 1: to let everybody go to school. So essentially it's just
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Speaker 1: a cycle of bullshit, and then y'all not employing us,
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Speaker 1: Like what the fuck is up with that.
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Speaker 3: And they wonder why a nigga'll become a police to
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Speaker 3: sell CREC.
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Speaker 1: Or where all my scamming ass nigga is that?
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Speaker 3: Because you have to right what you're gonna do, what
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Speaker 3: you're gonna do. Yeah, so fuck you workday right work
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Speaker 3: pase Yeah yeah adp. For sure.
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Speaker 1: They were trying to get the course to throw it out,
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Speaker 1: but the judge in California, where the case is currently
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Speaker 1: in federal court, said hell.
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Speaker 3: No, I'm gonna hear it. I'm good, yeah, because that's
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Speaker 3: just terrible.
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Speaker 2: But I mean, just more of the same, just finding
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Speaker 2: new ways to just come in.
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Speaker 3: This is as lazy as fuck.
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Speaker 1: Now. I want to get your application and see your
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Speaker 1: email address a holiday styles at gmail dot com.
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Speaker 3: Right, how they're making robots racist nigger y'all.
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Speaker 1: I any chance I get to push back against the establishment,
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Speaker 1: I take it. So when I was coming back from
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Speaker 1: from either I was going to or coming back from
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Speaker 1: Costa Rica, like I never do the facial recognition shit
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Speaker 1: in the airports, and one of the TSA people at security, Uh,
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Speaker 1: you know, you got to go through customs. One of
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Speaker 1: the customs agents was like trying to give me a
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Speaker 1: hard time, like making me try to make me feel
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Speaker 1: like I'm being like like because you could opt out, right,
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Speaker 1: but then they always make you like go through a
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Speaker 1: longer line or something stupid shit. Right, I got pre check,
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Speaker 1: so I shouldn't have to go through all all the
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Speaker 1: bullshit pre check and global entry, so I shouldn't even
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Speaker 1: have to go through all the bullshit. And when you don't,
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Speaker 1: let them do your biometric testing, because that's what they're
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Speaker 1: doing is scanning your face, which that ship is racist
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Speaker 1: as fuck because they'll line you up for a crime
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Speaker 1: you don't commit based on how your eyes slanted, just
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Speaker 1: based on.
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Speaker 3: The skin, the skin color.
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Speaker 1: So that's the problem with AI because humans are still
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Speaker 1: programming these things behind the scenes.
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Speaker 3: It's not like AI is just doing its thing.
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Speaker 1: It's it's it's it's programming, it's coding that's done by
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Speaker 1: a human for now, until AI starts writing its own code.
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Speaker 2: Let me tell you something exactly, and then that's when
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Speaker 2: the apocalypse will begin.
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Speaker 3: Let me tell you that fucking machine at the airport.
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Speaker 2: If I don't smile, it flags me every time I
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Speaker 2: have to slide. If I just stand there and look,
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Speaker 2: they'll they'll definitely be like, oh no, you have to
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Speaker 2: go over here and they have to check you.
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Speaker 1: You just asked to opt out. You don't have to
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Speaker 1: do any of those things. You can ask to do
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Speaker 1: it the traditional way, the way that the government is
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Speaker 1: able to do things is because the people are complicit
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Speaker 1: and we don't question shit. Okay, it's gonna be people
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Speaker 1: like me that make sure some of us live.
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Speaker 3: You remed it your mic, Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because you feel like it's saving your time. But
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Speaker 2: oh now I can just show my face and now yeah,
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Speaker 2: because I mean they already got my shit all over
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Speaker 2: the place. Now I'm doing it all on Facebook.
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Speaker 3: But the thing is, if they already got our faces,
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Speaker 3: why we got.
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Speaker 1: To do this every time? You see what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: If the thing is that, oh they got our DNA
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Speaker 1: or they got our faces, why do we have to
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Speaker 1: do these things every single time?
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Speaker 3: Then if that were.
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Speaker 1: The case, to make sure it's you, they type me, Man,
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Speaker 1: you got my I can give you my driver's license
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Speaker 1: and my passport and my flight ticket.
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Speaker 3: That's all you need. Don't need me to scan my
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Speaker 3: fucking eyes into some shit.
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Speaker 2: Right baby, We're on the way to them chipping everybody,
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Speaker 2: so they already chipped us.
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Speaker 1: The cell phone is a chip. We can't do nothing
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Speaker 1: without it. You ever tried to go a day without
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Speaker 1: like having the phone?
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Speaker 3: They don't have to.
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Speaker 2: Physically, you can't even order food at a restaurant no
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Speaker 2: more without a phone.
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Speaker 1: You need a QR code. They see a mini and
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Speaker 1: I don't know, y'all. We can go onto the next step.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this one last thing. They some people
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Speaker 1: are fucking chip. That was talking to a guy in
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Speaker 1: the airport about this because he tried to like say
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Speaker 1: some slick shit to me. He was like, you already
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Speaker 1: got nano boxing your body. I said, I am not vaccinated,
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Speaker 1: because that is how those nano bots were placed in
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Speaker 1: some people's body. Do some research on mRNA Moderna, that
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Speaker 1: particular company, and how the tech they first had the
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Speaker 1: vaccine named as technology. They go to archives dot org
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Speaker 1: and you can see the original heading on their website,
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Speaker 1: which has now been taken down.
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Speaker 2: Well, I ain't take that shot, all right home, listen
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Speaker 2: to this this creator on social media, all right. This
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Speaker 2: creator has gone viral after sharing her experience of being
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Speaker 2: catfished by her ex boyfriend, who used her photos to
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Speaker 2: solicit new images from men.
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Speaker 3: Wow.
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Speaker 1: She became with catfit. He was using her to catfish
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Speaker 1: men men.
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Speaker 3: Yikes.
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Speaker 2: She became suspicious during the relationship and decided to look
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Speaker 2: through his phone, believing he might be cheating. Although she
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Speaker 2: initially didn't find much, just some dating apps, she discovered
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Speaker 2: that her own photos were being used in a profile
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Speaker 2: where he was pretending to be her. He had been
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Speaker 2: sending her intimate pictures in exchange for new photos from
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Speaker 2: men on these apps.
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Speaker 3: Damn. She has since fiut a report and he was
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Speaker 3: arrested for the unlawful use and distribution of photos. Can
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Speaker 3: you imagine?
18:54
Speaker 1: I couldn't if you actually if y'all see this online
18:58
Speaker 1: and she's actually telling what happened, like on TikTok and
19:01
Speaker 1: some shit. She said that she had already filed the
19:04
Speaker 1: police report and they were going like to this just
19:07
Speaker 1: this just happened fourth of July. She said they were
19:10
Speaker 1: going to his family's house for Fourth of July and
19:12
Speaker 1: she had the police come near to pick him up
19:13
Speaker 1: because she needed She was already like you know, getting
19:16
Speaker 1: her own place and all that stuff. She needed him
19:17
Speaker 1: away to do what she what she needed to do.
19:20
Speaker 1: And now his family is harassing her talking about this
19:23
Speaker 1: could have stayed in house. You like, well, the whole
19:26
Speaker 1: world gets to see my pussy, so no, it can't
19:28
Speaker 1: stay in house, right right, and your son has violated me.
19:32
Speaker 1: This is why I prefer niggas mama to be the
19:34
Speaker 1: ancestors unless they're good people.
19:38
Speaker 2: Unless they're good But I like you, I like as
19:40
Speaker 2: you've changed it to unless they're good people, because before
19:43
Speaker 2: it was matter no.
19:44
Speaker 1: I would say unless they're in a healthy relationship. Okay, yeah,
19:48
Speaker 1: I would always say that. Now the mama's and sisters,
19:50
Speaker 1: they gotta have their own nigga because this mine, this
19:52
Speaker 1: is my nigga, this is my fish. So yeah, she
19:55
Speaker 1: was saying how she had his ass picked up at
19:57
Speaker 1: his mama's house basically at a cookout, and you know
20:00
Speaker 1: he would She said he was acting like leading, like
20:05
Speaker 1: she knew what was going on, like she she could
20:08
Speaker 1: have been acting some way towards him, but she said
20:10
Speaker 1: any little thing she did, just acting normal was annoying
20:13
Speaker 1: the fuck out of him because he don't really like women.
20:16
Speaker 1: And this is what we'd be saying when men are
20:19
Speaker 1: abusive towards women, is because y'all be battling, not y'all
20:22
Speaker 1: not saying every man, right, But those men are battling
20:26
Speaker 1: their sexuality and so they can't show up as them
20:29
Speaker 1: real self. So now getting you're getting mad at the
20:32
Speaker 1: weaker link that's closest to you, basically, like you feel
20:35
Speaker 1: like that that woman's weaker, so you're taking it out
20:37
Speaker 1: on her instead of just being your fucking self.
20:40
Speaker 3: There's this woman on TikTok. Now.
20:42
Speaker 2: She is from Columbia, South Carolina, and her husband died.
20:45
Speaker 2: She didn't say how he died. He was in his seventies.
20:48
Speaker 2: But she is reading it's called blue panties and bourbon.
20:51
Speaker 2: I think that's what's called. Uh. And she's reading emails.
20:54
Speaker 2: She's been going through her husband's emails. He was gay
20:58
Speaker 2: for a long time and he was soliciting sex for
21:00
Speaker 2: men for a long time.
21:02
Speaker 3: And she just was reading all the emails.
21:04
Speaker 1: She never knew how did he die?
21:08
Speaker 2: That's what I don't know. Okay, she seems to she
21:12
Speaker 2: like in her fifty she's like fifty four. He was
21:14
Speaker 2: seventy one. And she said, I'm reading these emails, y'all.
21:17
Speaker 2: I can't afford therapy. So here we go and she
21:20
Speaker 2: just reads all the emails, and I'm telling you it
21:22
Speaker 2: goes there. He was really having a good time, and
21:25
Speaker 2: like people from Forrest Acres, South Caro, Columbia are like
21:29
Speaker 2: upset with her because apparently he was like well respected,
21:34
Speaker 2: well respected figure in the community and now.
21:37
Speaker 3: She's a churchgoer, right, tarnishing his name?
21:40
Speaker 1: But no right because he should have been himself.
21:44
Speaker 3: You see.
21:45
Speaker 1: The thing is is that you're putting somebody else's life
21:48
Speaker 1: in your hand.
21:49
Speaker 2: You need to be exposed, right, I agree? And he
21:53
Speaker 2: said he was a verse bottom. Y'all if y'all know
21:55
Speaker 2: where that is, please tell Auntie because I don't know
21:58
Speaker 2: what that means. We got to act chat GPT. What
22:00
Speaker 2: is a verse bottom? That mean he could do like what?
22:05
Speaker 3: Maybe he can do it on a handstand in reverse?
22:08
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, what is a verse bottom?
22:12
Speaker 3: Verse? Bottom?
22:14
Speaker 1: Verse is short for versustile, referring to a person who
22:17
Speaker 1: enjoys both giving and receiving during sex. A verse bottom
22:21
Speaker 1: or sometimes versatile bottom, means the individual prefers to be
22:24
Speaker 1: the receiver the bottom, but it's open to or enjoys
22:30
Speaker 1: taking the giving top position on occasion he was getting fucked,
22:36
Speaker 1: I ain't ready to give too, But that wasn't his preference.
22:39
Speaker 1: His preference was being a bottom.
22:44
Speaker 3: That's so scary.
22:45
Speaker 1: I don't know that makes a difference. My niggas a
22:48
Speaker 1: bottom versus the top, like doesn't make a difference. Remember
22:54
Speaker 1: for black girls, what's the movie not for black girls?
22:57
Speaker 3: Girls? Oh yeah? Oh you doing the bendon yes, entrant girl. Mm.
23:06
Speaker 3: This world is terrible, man, and you just never know
23:09
Speaker 3: who you're laying next to. It's kind of scary. It is,
23:13
Speaker 3: it is.
23:14
Speaker 1: It's very much so scary.
23:19
Speaker 3: So y'all.
23:21
Speaker 1: So Spain was recently beat in the FIFA World Cup
23:27
Speaker 1: by excuse me, Argentina was recently beat in the FIFA
23:31
Speaker 1: World Cup by by Barcelona, Spain, and since then, this
23:37
Speaker 1: particular restaurant has been going viral. It is called it's
23:43
Speaker 1: a restaurant in Argentina called Big Nigga Burger. Big Nigga Burger. Okay,
23:50
Speaker 1: the name of this restaurant. The controversy centers on a
23:54
Speaker 1: burger restaurant in Lovo Lovo Lovio, a suburb of Buenos
24:00
Speaker 1: that operates under the name Big Nigga burg And that's nigga.
24:05
Speaker 1: The restaurant goal has gone viral and internationally because it
24:09
Speaker 1: uses one of the most offensive racial slurs in English
24:13
Speaker 1: as its brand name, along with a black Burger, along
24:17
Speaker 1: with black Burger buns, hip hop aesthetics, and menu items
24:23
Speaker 1: incorporating the same word. So many people, particularly in the
24:28
Speaker 1: US and other English speaking countries, view the restaurant branding
24:32
Speaker 1: as using a highly offensive racial slur for marketing, commercializing
24:38
Speaker 1: black culture while using stereotypes attempting to generate attention through
24:43
Speaker 1: shock value rather than cultural appreciation appropriate appreciation. The restaurant
24:50
Speaker 1: social media videos spread rapidly across TikTok x and Instagram,
24:54
Speaker 1: leading to a widespread criticism and disbelief that a business
24:57
Speaker 1: could openly use that name. I don't know how tutissm
25:00
Speaker 1: and maybe just be a meme. Somebody said one is
25:02
Speaker 1: being open in Atlanta, Big Nigga Burger Atlanta, Big Nigga
25:09
Speaker 1: Burger at l Burn that place down. If Nigga's open it,
25:15
Speaker 1: I'll see what the burger is hitting from.
25:19
Speaker 3: So it says some argent You see the picture.
25:25
Speaker 1: That should burn the fuck up? Yeah, okay, y'all gold
25:29
Speaker 1: man Jesus Christ. Some Argentines have argued that the owners
25:34
Speaker 1: may not fully understand the historical weight of the slur.
25:37
Speaker 1: The historical weight the slur carries in the United States,
25:41
Speaker 1: American hip hop has made the word uh familiar, has
25:45
Speaker 1: made the word familiar familiar Jesus Christ internationally, even where
25:51
Speaker 1: its history isn't always understood. Argentina uses the Spanish word niggro.
25:57
Speaker 1: And this is what I thought. Why didn't they call
25:58
Speaker 1: it big niggro burger that means black? Why do they
26:02
Speaker 1: use big nigga n I g g a burger? They
26:04
Speaker 1: know exactly what the fuck they're doing, it, says Argentina.
26:08
Speaker 1: Argentina uses the Spanish or nigro in many contexts that
26:12
Speaker 1: don't directly translate to American racial dynamics.
26:15
Speaker 3: We know negro, and we understand that is the black
26:22
Speaker 3: were always being gas lit by everybody. I mean, it's
26:26
Speaker 3: it's just a.
26:27
Speaker 1: Weird people so obsessed with us because we the gods. Man,
26:32
Speaker 1: we are the gods, got a voultron up against us.
26:36
Speaker 1: Where's the big cracker burger? Right, A white ass fucking
26:42
Speaker 1: I don't know, sultine.
26:48
Speaker 3: A big ruskin burger, I don't know, is always us goodness? Yeah,
26:56
Speaker 3: I don't even want to say the other words.
26:58
Speaker 1: But yeah, because I mean crackers pretty you know, predominant
27:02
Speaker 1: and predominantly used in the US. But everybody chinkspect all
27:06
Speaker 1: these other words. Why are we always under attack like that? Yeah,
27:11
Speaker 1: it's the weirdest thing. And y'all know, like the the
27:15
Speaker 1: indigenous people from all these places are black.
27:18
Speaker 3: Okay, they have whitewashed South America.
27:22
Speaker 1: So imagine these damn colonizers playing the playing in our
27:25
Speaker 1: face the sand much.
27:27
Speaker 2: To look good though, y'all, I'm hungry.
27:32
Speaker 3: Nothing called no big nigga burger. I haven't think about it.
27:35
Speaker 3: That big nigga who'll be dancing in the restaurants.
27:38
Speaker 1: Yeah, well he ain't even dancing out often no more
27:41
Speaker 1: after they tried to kill that man. Yeah, I haven't
27:45
Speaker 1: had I didn't have breakfast and it's after lunch.
27:49
Speaker 3: And that was like a big, bigger burger right now, yo,
27:53
Speaker 3: big black ass.
27:55
Speaker 1: But yah, I wanted to talk about, uh, howess okay?
28:01
Speaker 1: Is there a happiness gap right now? Like there's Is
28:04
Speaker 1: there a happiness? Is there a gap between you know,
28:07
Speaker 1: accumulating all this stuff and how we actually feel? Are
28:14
Speaker 1: you getting Yeah? All right, we'll be right back, all right, y'all,
28:24
Speaker 1: and we are back. And I want to ask a question.
28:29
Speaker 1: Why do we have more stuff, more things than ever
28:33
Speaker 1: we got more access to things, We have more products
28:37
Speaker 1: and services for convenience, all this stuff, but I feel
28:41
Speaker 1: like most people still feel like less fulfilled. I mentioned
28:46
Speaker 1: one time on the show. It was a post uh.
28:49
Speaker 1: These two dudes was talking on a podcast and was like,
28:51
Speaker 1: what would you do during What would you do if
28:54
Speaker 1: the world start coming to and like during a zombie
28:57
Speaker 1: apocalypse or something like that, And he was like, man,
28:59
Speaker 1: I'm gonna just lay down.
29:00
Speaker 3: I don't feel like it.
29:02
Speaker 1: And everybody in the comments was like ready to die,
29:06
Speaker 1: like they were ready to just give up.
29:07
Speaker 3: It seemed like they only needed one reason to give up.
29:10
Speaker 1: I am such a fucking warrior bitch. I'm gonna survive
29:13
Speaker 1: this shit and and I'm gonna live to tell the
29:16
Speaker 1: next people about it. Since y'all ready to go so bad,
29:18
Speaker 1: it's like, you might as well go today. Why are
29:20
Speaker 1: you gonna wait for some bad shit to happen?
29:24
Speaker 3: Go today?
29:25
Speaker 2: Because what I'm not trying to ever go? Yeah, I like,
29:29
Speaker 2: I'm gonna live forever, So I don't know.
29:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, It's just it's just the weirdest thing to me.
29:33
Speaker 1: So with all the all the things that we have,
29:36
Speaker 1: all the i mean, our lives right now, like, though
29:40
Speaker 1: it is harder in some ways, it is not as
29:44
Speaker 1: hard as our parents had it. It's just not like
29:49
Speaker 1: our parents ain't have time to think for real. A
29:51
Speaker 1: lot of them, a lot of people. We talk about
29:53
Speaker 1: the fifties.
29:54
Speaker 2: And like, by had a house. When our parents bought
29:58
Speaker 2: a house, was just alive, easier. Yeah you can have Yeah,
30:03
Speaker 2: you can have a house.
30:05
Speaker 3: You could have the quintessential American dream. Mm. Now most
30:10
Speaker 3: people are renting.
30:12
Speaker 2: Like I was watching this band and he was son,
30:16
Speaker 2: his son really talks really bad to him, and he
30:20
Speaker 2: like he's only five, but he says what he thinks
30:24
Speaker 2: mm hmm. And he was like, he told his daddy
30:27
Speaker 2: to build him, uh, build him something in his bedroom
30:31
Speaker 2: or he would beat him.
30:33
Speaker 3: Right, he said, I'm renting. I can't build you anything house.
30:41
Speaker 3: This ain't even my shit. And that's like most of us.
30:45
Speaker 1: It's just I think most of us can afford a house, right,
30:49
Speaker 1: because most of us can afford rent. We have other
30:52
Speaker 1: things that are against us that our parents didn't have. Like, yeah,
30:55
Speaker 1: they did have discrimination, obviously, right, there was redlining all
30:58
Speaker 1: that shit, But you could get a house in the
31:01
Speaker 1: in most areas, most places, right, because my mom the
31:07
Speaker 1: house my mom lives in. It used to be more
31:09
Speaker 1: black families around there, but it was mixed. It was
31:11
Speaker 1: a black and white neighborhood, right, And and they bought
31:15
Speaker 1: their house in the eighties, which I guess maybe in
31:18
Speaker 1: the fifties it.
31:18
Speaker 2: Was a little bit harder, but by the after, like eighties,
31:22
Speaker 2: it was probably the best, easiest time.
31:24
Speaker 3: But I might I don't know, but I just feel like.
31:28
Speaker 2: Niggas was putting five dollars down on the house.
31:31
Speaker 1: Yeah, but now we have all these they are they
31:33
Speaker 1: just don't want us owning anything.
31:36
Speaker 3: That's all that this is about.
31:37
Speaker 1: This is about us having twenty dollars, a car, a job,
31:43
Speaker 1: a place to stay, and that's it.
31:44
Speaker 3: They don't want.
31:45
Speaker 2: Us and always owing money. They want consistently working and owing.
31:51
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's that cultureself hate.
31:53
Speaker 2: I love my iPhone, but I also hate iPhone because
31:56
Speaker 2: it's like I'm always gonna owe you money. I'm all, God,
32:00
Speaker 2: I have to pay you for music every month. I
32:02
Speaker 2: have to upgrade my phone.
32:04
Speaker 3: My phone.
32:05
Speaker 1: Another episode I wanted to have, actually about when the
32:08
Speaker 1: fuck did the subscription culture come along?
32:10
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like I have.
32:11
Speaker 2: To pay every month for this fucking phone only to
32:15
Speaker 2: need when I'm done. By the time I'm finished painting
32:17
Speaker 2: it off, it's another one come out, and I have to.
32:21
Speaker 2: I have to because this one will soon start working.
32:24
Speaker 3: Well.
32:25
Speaker 1: I got a twelve Promax, but I just got this
32:29
Speaker 1: as a replacement.
32:30
Speaker 2: It'll glitch, it'll start like working slower, and then eventually
32:34
Speaker 2: the software will no longer work.
32:36
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't even I can't even download the most
32:39
Speaker 1: recent software. But that's when I buy a new phone,
32:41
Speaker 1: when this phone completely dies. I don't give a damn
32:45
Speaker 1: about the phone in that way, Like I don't have
32:46
Speaker 1: to have the newest of anything, even the cars they
32:49
Speaker 1: coming out with. Now you gotta have a subscription to
32:51
Speaker 1: play a fucking radio, and you gotta buy the four tires.
32:54
Speaker 3: You can't just buy one tire. It's all type of
32:56
Speaker 3: weird ass shit.
32:57
Speaker 1: But I think we cause the cell phone stuff right
33:00
Speaker 1: because people used to complain about having a contract. But
33:02
Speaker 1: you didn't have to pay for the phone when you
33:04
Speaker 1: had a contract, and you'd have a contract anywhere, I mean,
33:06
Speaker 1: you would have the phone anyway, So why complain about
33:09
Speaker 1: the two year contract?
33:10
Speaker 3: I never understood. But now you still.
33:12
Speaker 1: Got the two year contract, and now you're paying a
33:14
Speaker 1: thousand dollars plus for a cell phone, So we'd be
33:17
Speaker 1: finessing ourselves a lot of times and don't realize it
33:20
Speaker 1: because now you financing a phone that's added onto the
33:22
Speaker 1: cell phone bill every month, that's all.
33:24
Speaker 2: What about paying a bill to pay a bill? Like
33:26
Speaker 2: why gott to give you five dollars to pay my bill?
33:30
Speaker 2: That shs me so bad.
33:33
Speaker 1: I was paying Dasha's vet bill, or I was paying
33:36
Speaker 1: for the stool sample, so to use my debit card,
33:39
Speaker 1: they want to charge me three percent?
33:41
Speaker 3: And I said, but do y'all not realize this is Yes,
33:44
Speaker 3: it is.
33:44
Speaker 1: A convenience for us, but it also offers y'all the
33:46
Speaker 1: opportunity to get more transactions, more than y'all would usually
33:49
Speaker 1: get if somebody had to go get cash, So y'all
33:52
Speaker 1: should Why are y'all passing these fees onto the consumer? Girl,
33:57
Speaker 1: It's just such a fucking scam.
33:59
Speaker 3: Girl.
33:59
Speaker 1: Being a Vegas is past weekend really was pissing me'all.
34:03
Speaker 1: I got all type of charges on my debit card.
34:04
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to like go sort out and see
34:06
Speaker 1: like what are what are?
34:08
Speaker 3: What is charge you? What the fuck? Like the hotel
34:12
Speaker 3: charged me three hundred and something like, what are I
34:13
Speaker 3: paid for this in advance? What the fuck is happening?
34:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, why do I still owe you three hundred dollars
34:18
Speaker 2: after I've already.
34:19
Speaker 3: Paid for this shit?
34:20
Speaker 1: The bottle water was twenty dollars, girl, a bottle water,
34:26
Speaker 1: and they didn't have those signs saying that they were
34:28
Speaker 1: charging for it. I thought it was complimentary, because usually
34:31
Speaker 1: hotel shit is complimentary.
34:34
Speaker 3: Twenty dollars. I drunk both two of them.
34:36
Speaker 1: Forty dollars worth of bottle of water and the coffee
34:39
Speaker 1: sixteen dollars for the coffee that comes in the room.
34:42
Speaker 3: Yikes, girl, that's the liner at my stress.
34:48
Speaker 2: We should have collectively overthrown the government by this time,
34:53
Speaker 2: not just black, not just white, everybody.
34:57
Speaker 1: I think that's what we had in And that's the
34:59
Speaker 1: silverl or right, because I think this is the first
35:02
Speaker 1: time in history.
35:02
Speaker 3: Because if you didn't.
35:03
Speaker 1: Realize with the last election that there are no sides,
35:07
Speaker 1: it is one fucking it's one thing. It's no there's
35:11
Speaker 1: no Democrat, there's no Republicans. So if you're still one
35:14
Speaker 1: of those people that's thinking like this separate, its fucking
35:17
Speaker 1: not right. But I do think like this time right now,
35:21
Speaker 1: is the first time. Everybody is man like, everybody fed up.
35:26
Speaker 1: Everybody we tied of y'all fucking with kids, Okay, we
35:31
Speaker 1: tied are like the heavy ass inflation to breathe, the
35:35
Speaker 1: gas prices, like we all fucking tired.
35:38
Speaker 3: Everybody tired.
35:39
Speaker 2: Everybody's fucking tired, black, white, green, and everything under the umbrella.
35:43
Speaker 2: Tired of kids getting shot in school, were tied in
35:46
Speaker 2: the fucking prices of everything, can't have a house. I'm
35:49
Speaker 2: tired of these motherfucking concert kids. I don't know if
35:52
Speaker 2: I'm seeing Chris Brown, Raymond and Brown.
35:57
Speaker 1: Concerts like that anyway, Like usually, yeah, I didn't have
36:01
Speaker 1: to pay for him.
36:02
Speaker 3: That's what I mean.
36:03
Speaker 1: And the big arena concerts, Like I kind of felt
36:05
Speaker 1: a little bit of full mo about jay z concert
36:07
Speaker 1: just because I saw a post that said, you broke
36:09
Speaker 1: if you ain't been there, like if you missed this shit,
36:15
Speaker 1: like you ain't shit in life for real, That's how
36:17
Speaker 1: they was saying it. But I don't really like the
36:19
Speaker 1: big arena shit because I believe in energy harvesting, you
36:23
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like people be feeling weary after
36:25
Speaker 1: they leave these shows, and she's like that tired like, yeah,
36:29
Speaker 1: you don't know what happened during the show, all type
36:31
Speaker 1: of little weird shit you got all of these people.
36:32
Speaker 1: If y'all don't think black magic exists, I don't know.
36:35
Speaker 1: I don't know what to tell y'all, because shit, black
36:39
Speaker 1: people in particular in America have been under spell for
36:41
Speaker 1: a long time.
36:42
Speaker 2: There's only one time I really, like really subscribe to that,
36:46
Speaker 2: and that was at Drake in twenty one Savage concert YEP,
36:49
Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't know about this. I
36:51
Speaker 2: don't think my God is happy with what I mean.
36:54
Speaker 2: I felt my body, my soul was my spirit felt bad.
36:57
Speaker 2: What's the dude from Off White, the designer Vergin? Yes,
37:02
Speaker 2: they had the big ass statue of Vert. What is
37:04
Speaker 2: that They have now deified him?
37:07
Speaker 1: Right?
37:08
Speaker 3: They killed him.
37:09
Speaker 1: That man did not die like of natural causes, right,
37:13
Speaker 1: so they sacrificed him and now they like have him
37:15
Speaker 1: up the same thing they do with Martin.
37:16
Speaker 3: Luther King, Like it's the same thing.
37:19
Speaker 2: They had a big ass grim reaper flying with a
37:22
Speaker 2: with like a bloody knife. I mean he was flying
37:26
Speaker 2: across the room.
37:27
Speaker 3: They had blood on him on his outfit. Yeah, like
37:29
Speaker 3: he had on like a butcher outfit. I was like,
37:32
Speaker 3: this is kind of dark. I just wanted to I
37:35
Speaker 3: don't God, what was his God's plan, God's planning me?
37:40
Speaker 3: That's what I came for.
37:41
Speaker 1: But that might be God's plan. You just have to
37:43
Speaker 1: question who these people's gods is. Everybody is not serving
37:47
Speaker 1: the same God. Yeah, and that's what people need.
37:50
Speaker 2: Maybe I was at the bar and then consume spirit,
37:54
Speaker 2: you know, right, So here's.
37:58
Speaker 3: That so yep.
38:00
Speaker 1: So we're living in a time now where it's more convenience,
38:03
Speaker 1: more entertainment, more technology, more opportunities than any other generation before.
38:09
Speaker 1: But yet we have the most anxiety, loneliness like yes, suicide, dissatisfaction,
38:19
Speaker 1: dissatisfaction with life in general. I just I want to
38:24
Speaker 1: know why, Like why is that? Why is that even happening?
38:27
Speaker 1: I guess we've kind of touched on some of the things.
38:30
Speaker 3: Right, It's just that we are doing a lot to
38:34
Speaker 3: get a little bit mm hm. And so that there
38:39
Speaker 3: we don't have a middle ground.
38:40
Speaker 2: There's no balance, Yeah there is, and the rich people
38:47
Speaker 2: are richer and the pot like there is no middle
38:51
Speaker 2: class anymore, either you want or the other.
38:54
Speaker 1: Yeah, So like the millionaires are now our middle class
38:57
Speaker 1: and everybody else's is just we are below pack poverty
39:01
Speaker 1: poverty level for real.
39:02
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, you can afford to do
39:03
Speaker 3: the I won't. I'm saying that.
39:06
Speaker 1: Collectively, right, because if you manage your money properly, you won't.
39:10
Speaker 3: It won't be all like you know good today, but
39:13
Speaker 3: that you have to build wealth. You do have white people,
39:16
Speaker 3: some people who.
39:16
Speaker 1: Were born into it, but new millionaires.
39:20
Speaker 3: You have to build wealth. It's not going to happen
39:22
Speaker 3: over not unless you win the lottery.
39:24
Speaker 1: And I think that a lot of times people who
39:26
Speaker 1: get super desperate, those are the ones who are playing
39:29
Speaker 1: lottery ard at all of damn time. I don't know
39:33
Speaker 1: this was this you or maybe somebody saw on social media,
39:36
Speaker 1: but they said the one thing people who when when
39:40
Speaker 1: cars are be repossessed, the one thing that they noticed
39:42
Speaker 1: about all these repossessed cars is that they be full
39:45
Speaker 1: of fucking lottery tickets.
39:46
Speaker 3: So these people be down on a last and they
39:49
Speaker 3: spending last dollar on lottery tickets hoping to hit the list.
39:54
Speaker 1: Come up and need a MAXI willan yeah, And it's
39:58
Speaker 1: just not so U. Millennials in particular, we definitely wassold
40:03
Speaker 1: a formula. Right, you graduate get your job, buy a house,
40:07
Speaker 1: get married, work hard, retire and be happy. At this rate,
40:12
Speaker 1: we probably we are dying earlier then our parents' generation.
40:17
Speaker 3: For real.
40:18
Speaker 1: Yeah, heart attack, but also who wants to wait until
40:22
Speaker 1: they sixty seventy to retire and then just die a
40:26
Speaker 1: couple of years later.
40:26
Speaker 3: You've now worked your entire life. That is not my
40:29
Speaker 3: That's why I just don't given.
40:31
Speaker 2: The fuck no more, like all these things like that
40:33
Speaker 2: I was chasing and like all this, Like I still
40:37
Speaker 2: want those things, but they just don't define me in
40:40
Speaker 2: a way that they used to. It did not like
40:43
Speaker 2: my idea happiness is no longer centered around the things
40:48
Speaker 2: that I have like it was when I was younger,
40:52
Speaker 2: and it is.
40:52
Speaker 3: Like it felt like that's what social media have.
40:56
Speaker 2: Yeah, like that's what it looks like, you feeling like
40:59
Speaker 2: that if I don't have these things, I ain't gonna
41:02
Speaker 2: be happy. If I don't have a bunch of designer
41:06
Speaker 2: bags and shoes and uh you know, I mean I
41:10
Speaker 2: go to Target and get a bag. I don't even
41:12
Speaker 2: give up fuck no more. They have cute shit in
41:14
Speaker 2: there too. I'm gonna be a bad bitch with it.
41:15
Speaker 3: Ever, whatever I got on, like girl, the outfit I
41:18
Speaker 3: had on Saturday.
41:19
Speaker 1: I got it from fashion Ova, but it had just
41:22
Speaker 1: dropped on the website, so and it's tray. I an't
41:25
Speaker 1: put it in the trash now today because it's a
41:27
Speaker 1: one time where I keep going there and put a
41:31
Speaker 1: put a review.
41:31
Speaker 3: For real, it's a one time.
41:33
Speaker 1: Where because even if you spot clean it, the black
41:35
Speaker 1: is fucking draining into the white. It's a street bullshit.
41:39
Speaker 1: But it was for exactly one time where. But I've
41:44
Speaker 1: never gave a fuck about like the material things like
41:47
Speaker 1: I make the thing look look good. I never cared
41:50
Speaker 1: about like tags, labels, none of that ship like like
41:56
Speaker 1: I don't do that good black bat black belt. I've
42:00
Speaker 1: been looking for some like some good black brand purses
42:03
Speaker 1: and stuff like that.
42:05
Speaker 2: I don't know a lot of them, but I'm sure
42:07
Speaker 2: there are plenty of y'all dms. If you got a
42:10
Speaker 2: black brand bag, a black brand clothing, so.
42:14
Speaker 3: We can buy so many y'all shit.
42:15
Speaker 1: But if you got Alo prices for your legs, don't
42:18
Speaker 1: send that shit to me, right because I shot by
42:22
Speaker 1: material because I will go right on Amazon and find
42:24
Speaker 1: that same material that Alo is selling, that Skims is selling.
42:29
Speaker 3: But if you don't get this.
42:30
Speaker 1: As haines, this ain't shit, but Hanes, why isn't that high?
42:34
Speaker 1: But this ain't shit but Ali baba, yeah, act shallow
42:38
Speaker 1: with three letters on it and now it's one hundred
42:40
Speaker 1: and forty five dollars here?
42:42
Speaker 3: Did alo even come from the depth of jail? As
42:45
Speaker 3: far as I'm concerned, it's a.
42:55
Speaker 1: All right.
42:55
Speaker 2: This guy that I used to talk to, and he's like,
43:00
Speaker 2: you know, I really been wanting to like take you
43:03
Speaker 2: on a date, but I have to be honest with you.
43:07
Speaker 3: Right now.
43:07
Speaker 2: My money is so tight, and I'm trying to rebrand,
43:10
Speaker 2: I'm trying to restructure, and I want to see you,
43:14
Speaker 2: but I just don't want to come.
43:15
Speaker 3: I want to come correct. But y'all I appreciate because
43:20
Speaker 3: don't come on with him with broke. I want to
43:24
Speaker 3: hang out.
43:25
Speaker 2: I was like, look, we can go get and I
43:27
Speaker 2: said this, y'all, so this is how I know I'm changing.
43:29
Speaker 2: I was like, we can go get a retisserie chicken,
43:34
Speaker 2: some Hawaiian rolls, and a cheap bottle of champagne and
43:38
Speaker 2: let's put a blanket down in the park when the
43:40
Speaker 2: sun goes down.
43:42
Speaker 3: Let's just catch up. He was like, you would do
43:44
Speaker 3: that with me, and I'm like, yeah, let's go. He
43:48
Speaker 3: was like, twenty twenty six women don't want that. That
43:51
Speaker 3: is not true. That's what he said.
43:53
Speaker 1: Man, if a woman likes you, you really can come
43:56
Speaker 1: with nothing. And that'd be the worst part, because I
43:58
Speaker 1: feel like any man that would show up to a
44:00
Speaker 1: woman with nothing he doesn't really like her.
44:03
Speaker 3: Women knock on.
44:04
Speaker 1: Men are not going to show up and in complete
44:07
Speaker 1: to the woman he really really likes.
44:09
Speaker 2: Well, that's why I feel like he's like trying to
44:11
Speaker 2: express that he want to be able to take me
44:14
Speaker 2: to like some five start dining and do all the things,
44:17
Speaker 2: and right now his money can't afford it.
44:20
Speaker 3: Nigga, let's go get a chicken from Whole Foods. Yeah,
44:24
Speaker 3: and we can pull.
44:25
Speaker 1: Pieces out the bag and lick our finger Like yeah,
44:31
Speaker 1: I think women. I told you my first day one
44:34
Speaker 1: time was to Whole Foods. You know, granted I did
44:36
Speaker 1: get some groceries, but well that was expensive, bitch o paycheck.
44:41
Speaker 3: But you know, I think that I don't know.
44:45
Speaker 1: I think men have a misconception of a lot of
44:48
Speaker 1: women because again of social media, you do have people
44:51
Speaker 1: on social media who'll be like nigga, sent me thirty
44:53
Speaker 1: dollars fifty dollars for lunch girl, Okay, ad whatever, how
44:56
Speaker 1: much are you about to be eating lunch first?
44:58
Speaker 3: Eating it's lunch now?
45:01
Speaker 1: If you uber eat and all that, it might go
45:03
Speaker 1: up with fees and shit to seventy five dollars. But
45:06
Speaker 1: added to it, like he just saved you, you either
45:08
Speaker 1: gonna fucking save me money or you know you will
45:13
Speaker 1: meet me halfway somehow. It's not gonna never be nothing.
45:17
Speaker 1: I'm for a man saving me money, absolutely so I
45:21
Speaker 1: got I got the other part. If you can give
45:24
Speaker 1: me this percentage, thank you. I'm always appreciative man. And
45:28
Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe those are that stills are just
45:30
Speaker 1: like niche social media's where people have are now building
45:35
Speaker 1: a brand off of, you know, being fucking snobs essentially,
45:39
Speaker 1: And a lot of those women still don't know how
45:41
Speaker 1: to translate popping that pussy into getting money anyway. They
45:44
Speaker 1: just on the internet acting like they get stuff out
45:47
Speaker 1: the men. Y'all don't even know the art of getting
45:50
Speaker 1: money at the men for real. You're just talking about it, right,
45:55
Speaker 1: talking about it because it ain't about how much money
45:57
Speaker 1: he make and how much money he has, about.
46:00
Speaker 3: How much he's willing to give you. Is it a
46:02
Speaker 3: generous man, right, y'all?
46:05
Speaker 1: Be y'all be fucking rappers, and they give you nothing
46:07
Speaker 1: nothing on NBA players, they give you nothing but a
46:10
Speaker 1: wet ass.
46:12
Speaker 3: Mm hmm. My grandma always said a dry person a
46:16
Speaker 3: wet ass don't match. Right, So happiness versus peace, be peaceful.
46:26
Speaker 1: Most days now, the things that I think about in
46:29
Speaker 1: the back of my hair all the time is like, bitch,
46:30
Speaker 1: I need to lose thirty pounds by tomorrow. That's one
46:33
Speaker 1: thing that nags me in the back of my neck.
46:36
Speaker 1: I do old fucking taxes, I do old student loans.
46:41
Speaker 1: I want to buy a Mercedes tomorrow. You know, it
46:44
Speaker 1: is usually associated with like some type of debt, right,
46:48
Speaker 1: kind of nags at you a little bit, the bitch
46:51
Speaker 1: when I get it, when I tell Y'a'm gonna drop
46:53
Speaker 1: a bunch of nickels on these motherfuckers, I don't look, y'all.
46:55
Speaker 2: I don't even let that stress me. No more fucking
46:58
Speaker 2: fucking bills. I don't even I don't I don't care.
47:03
Speaker 3: I mean neither, because I don't bare minimum until I die.
47:08
Speaker 1: And that's why I feel like people be telling me
47:10
Speaker 1: I don't look my age and people who actually get
47:12
Speaker 1: to know it the truth.
47:14
Speaker 3: And I think it's because I really don't be giving
47:16
Speaker 3: a fuck about none of this ship no more. I
47:18
Speaker 3: don't care. I don't let it stress me.
47:21
Speaker 1: I don't G's why I said it be in the
47:22
Speaker 1: back there, you know, when I think about it, when
47:24
Speaker 1: I when I get a piece of mail, or when
47:26
Speaker 1: I get a fucking email ask about some ship, like,
47:29
Speaker 1: that's when I think about it.
47:30
Speaker 3: Like otherwise, No, I don't know a fuck.
47:33
Speaker 1: If you have high industrate credit cards, just stop paying
47:36
Speaker 1: them ship right now, because credit ain't even real and
47:40
Speaker 1: I can help you fix your credit well credit card ship.
47:44
Speaker 3: My ship was real good and it ain't the same.
47:46
Speaker 3: No more. I stopped. I stopped giving the fuck I
47:50
Speaker 3: really did, Like so it bes help. It's not awful,
47:56
Speaker 3: but it ain't like how it was, for sure. But
47:58
Speaker 3: I really I just don't be caring no more.
48:01
Speaker 1: See, those are like the student loan debt medical stuff
48:06
Speaker 1: I don't really have, Like I have one credit card
48:08
Speaker 1: and I'm still trying to pay off. But for the
48:10
Speaker 1: most part, like I don't it's a student loan shit
48:12
Speaker 1: that's like over my fucking head for real, But I
48:17
Speaker 1: really don't plan on ever paying y'all back all that money.
48:19
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pay the bare minimum forever. Fuck you, honestly,
48:25
Speaker 1: because that money didn't exist in the first place. Show
48:28
Speaker 1: me where you deducted one hundred thousand dollars from your
48:30
Speaker 1: total balance.
48:31
Speaker 3: It never happened.
48:32
Speaker 1: Y'all pull one hundred thousand dollars out of thin air,
48:34
Speaker 1: and now you want me to pay it back. No,
48:36
Speaker 1: America's built off a fucking debt. Why would I pay
48:40
Speaker 1: it back? America in debt?
48:42
Speaker 2: Right, That's what I'm saying. America, I got more bitter
48:44
Speaker 2: than me. Y'all credit score a bitch, right, y'all won't
48:49
Speaker 2: give my shit. Right as far as bidding it concerned,
48:55
Speaker 2: I really need to see y'all email about why I
48:57
Speaker 2: shouldn't have to pay y'all shit.
49:00
Speaker 1: You know, we could started class acting lawsuit against them
49:02
Speaker 1: because those those loans off of the bank that President
49:07
Speaker 1: Swin owned were very predatorial towards eighteen year old young
49:13
Speaker 1: adults who didn't know what the fuck they were signing
49:16
Speaker 1: up for, okay, and the way we were treated even
49:20
Speaker 1: going through the process, Like, bitch, do you realize if
49:23
Speaker 1: you don't get my financial age street. You're not getting
49:25
Speaker 1: a paycheck like they would treat us just like cattle
49:28
Speaker 1: and like little kids.
49:30
Speaker 3: I feel like we miss but I just don't want.
49:33
Speaker 3: I don't want to take my HBCU down.
49:37
Speaker 1: That's the only thing that's keeping me from they trying
49:39
Speaker 1: to take us down. That open door policy took a
49:42
Speaker 1: lot of people down. No, damn well, an't pos to media.
49:45
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's a lot of people that should have never
49:47
Speaker 3: made it to college.
49:48
Speaker 1: You remember Briggs, he was retarded off off of Bowl Street,
49:52
Speaker 1: a grown ass man standing in the dorms with kids.
49:56
Speaker 1: He had just got out of Bowl Street. The Yes,
50:02
Speaker 1: it was fun though, but this was a grown ass man. Okay,
50:05
Speaker 1: he was like forty seven years old. We was our
50:07
Speaker 1: fucking eighteen nineteen years old.
50:09
Speaker 3: Know who that is? Never heard of that person scenario?
50:13
Speaker 3: If you listening, you remember Briggs. All of them know
50:17
Speaker 3: exactly what I'm talking about.
50:23
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't know, man, It's just I think
50:27
Speaker 1: on a day to day basis, I'm happier, I'm more
50:30
Speaker 1: at peace, and that piece for me comes from just
50:33
Speaker 1: like being I like being quiet. I know, as we
50:36
Speaker 1: talked back, I'm a gemini. I do talk a lot,
50:39
Speaker 1: but I do enjoy shutting the fuck up nowadays. I
50:43
Speaker 1: literally be in here, no TV on, no radion sometimes
50:48
Speaker 1: or usually with you know, music on, but sometimes I
50:51
Speaker 1: mean complete silence that is peaceful to me and not
50:55
Speaker 1: thinking about shit.
50:57
Speaker 2: I think What's brought me so so much peace as
51:00
Speaker 2: I've gotten older is I stopped comparing. Comparison was my
51:08
Speaker 2: greatest thief of joy. And I mean I can remember
51:14
Speaker 2: like being jealous, you know, feeling not I've never felt
51:21
Speaker 2: like looked at anybody saying why them and not me?
51:25
Speaker 2: It was never that, but it was always like when
51:28
Speaker 2: is it my turn? Why don't I have these things?
51:31
Speaker 2: Where are my kids? Where are my husband? Where is
51:33
Speaker 2: my mansion?
51:34
Speaker 1: You know?
51:34
Speaker 2: And I would like be in these spaces and I
51:36
Speaker 2: see it for someone else, and I would feel jealous.
51:39
Speaker 2: I can admit that, you know, I can admit that
51:41
Speaker 2: that was a feeling that I can control. I felt it,
51:45
Speaker 2: and I remember like crying about it, like driving from
51:48
Speaker 2: my friend mansion crying really yes, yes, yeah.
51:54
Speaker 3: And I see people doing things like the.
51:57
Speaker 1: Lavish vacations, all the shit. It's just all especially people
52:01
Speaker 1: that I'm in close proximity to. It is just always
52:04
Speaker 1: confirmation for me that I too can have that thing.
52:07
Speaker 1: And I know why I don't those people have more
52:10
Speaker 1: discipline than me, they take action. I don't even think
52:13
Speaker 1: that probably, I don't even think it was that because
52:16
Speaker 1: some of it was just handed to some people, you know,
52:18
Speaker 1: like it was. Some of it's just favor, you know,
52:21
Speaker 1: like I don't know, or some of its like even
52:24
Speaker 1: if they had to suck a lot of dick. They
52:26
Speaker 1: went through a lot of dick sucking to get to
52:28
Speaker 1: that man. But I don't think it got nothing to
52:31
Speaker 1: do a favor. A lot of times it is it
52:33
Speaker 1: is positioning, right, it is. And because I don't think
52:37
Speaker 1: those people have more favor than you, you.
52:39
Speaker 3: Know what I'm saying. Yeah, I get what you're saying.
52:42
Speaker 2: But now you know, there was a there was a
52:44
Speaker 2: time in like my early thirties when I felt like that.
52:47
Speaker 2: But now you know, because I can look at you know,
52:51
Speaker 2: everybody's journey is their journey, like you know, and there's
52:55
Speaker 2: even right and there are highs and lows that comes
52:58
Speaker 2: with everybody's life, even if they have all the things
53:01
Speaker 2: and they don't.
53:02
Speaker 3: And I think, you know, I had to.
53:06
Speaker 2: Witness hides and loads for everybody, including myself, to understand
53:11
Speaker 2: that comparison was just not the right thing to do,
53:15
Speaker 2: because there's never gonna be nobody's story like my own.
53:19
Speaker 2: It comes with imagine or not, it's still my story.
53:22
Speaker 2: And I need to be grateful for all the things
53:24
Speaker 2: in it.
53:25
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And you got to be grateful and show gratitude
53:28
Speaker 1: for every step.
53:29
Speaker 3: Of the weight. You're not gonna get more if you're
53:31
Speaker 3: not grateful for what you currently have.
53:34
Speaker 1: When I tell y'all, when I tell you all, I
53:35
Speaker 1: thank God one hundred times a day for the time
53:37
Speaker 1: I feet hit the floor. My boyfriend now he knows
53:40
Speaker 1: anytime I sigh like that, thank you, God is coming next.
53:46
Speaker 1: It's just it's just almost because I know, like the breath,
53:49
Speaker 1: that's the that's God. Your breath is God's. As long
53:53
Speaker 1: as you're doing that, you are doing good. That is
53:57
Speaker 1: how you find happiness. You happiness and piece only comes
54:01
Speaker 1: via gratitude and being grateful for the things you have
54:05
Speaker 1: and just knowing the things that you want and you
54:07
Speaker 1: might not even need the things that you think you want,
54:10
Speaker 1: you get those things. It's like and I got it now,
54:13
Speaker 1: no what I'm saying, it's not even nothing spectacular for real,
54:17
Speaker 1: once you actually get the thing right. But yeah, and
54:21
Speaker 1: then I've been seeing a lot of shit about like
54:23
Speaker 1: jay Z on nine, like people talking about him at
54:26
Speaker 1: the shows and like his little rap freestyle and all
54:29
Speaker 1: this stuff, and like there's a whole conversation, yes, conversation
54:32
Speaker 1: about target and capitalism and all these things. I'm trying
54:35
Speaker 1: to figure out what other type of system would y'all
54:37
Speaker 1: want to exist in, because y'all should probably check some
54:39
Speaker 1: of the countries that have, you know, socialism, okay, and
54:44
Speaker 1: what that actually looks like because the rich is still
54:46
Speaker 1: always the rich. They just they really giving you twenty
54:49
Speaker 1: dollars and you know that's all you're getting. In a
54:52
Speaker 1: capitalistic society, we all do have the opportunity to make
54:57
Speaker 1: some shit, right. We bought into the idea of jay Z.
55:02
Speaker 1: That's why he is who he is today. You can't
55:05
Speaker 1: then get mad at him for reaching this certain level
55:09
Speaker 1: of success. It's fucking weird to me. Is crabbing a
55:12
Speaker 1: bucket mentality to me? Because I see J's I don't
55:16
Speaker 1: need a billion dollars, but I would like, you know,
55:19
Speaker 1: a good like Charlamagne for example, Charlamagne got this big
55:23
Speaker 1: ass deal you know recently with iHeart and all that stuff,
55:29
Speaker 1: and that is an opportunity to put more people on
55:32
Speaker 1: because that's what he does with any any deals and
55:36
Speaker 1: opportunities that he gets, he puts other people into position.
55:39
Speaker 3: Now, if you're not doing that a.
55:42
Speaker 2: Real boss when you can lift, elevate other people around you,
55:45
Speaker 2: if you're the only one getting money, you're.
55:47
Speaker 3: Not in a boss for real exactly. And everybody's not
55:50
Speaker 3: willing to do the hard work. We just got to
55:52
Speaker 3: be honest. Oh yeah, niggas is not ready willing to
55:55
Speaker 3: do the hard work to get what you what you
55:57
Speaker 3: really think you want or think you deserve. Yeah, because
56:00
Speaker 3: you're comfortable.
56:01
Speaker 1: I just I literally was just thinking the other day,
56:04
Speaker 1: like what the fuck am I doing in this apartment
56:06
Speaker 1: in Charleston.
56:08
Speaker 3: I really thought that. But I love I love my city.
56:11
Speaker 1: But you know, our twenty year plan is over right,
56:16
Speaker 1: We are at the twenty year plan mark, like the
56:18
Speaker 1: end of it.
56:18
Speaker 3: And what have you done?
56:20
Speaker 1: Is what? You know, the things when I'm evaluating, like
56:23
Speaker 1: my goals and where I want to be in the
56:25
Speaker 1: next five to ten years or whatever. But if you
56:28
Speaker 1: haven't actually done the work, why do you expect a
56:30
Speaker 1: different outcome right stop and fall out the sky.
56:34
Speaker 3: You know, you gotta do the work.
56:35
Speaker 2: I mean, I think that comes when it comes to finances.
56:38
Speaker 2: But some of the like that's part of your like
56:40
Speaker 2: what you plan for you can you have no control
56:42
Speaker 2: over it. Like if you're plan to be a mother
56:45
Speaker 2: some shit like that, you just can't control what you got.
56:49
Speaker 2: You can't be fucking with a condom if you try
56:51
Speaker 2: to be all you know, like that or your body,
56:55
Speaker 2: you know, rejecting motherhood, Like it's just some shit you
56:57
Speaker 2: can't control. But I mean when it comes to like
57:00
Speaker 2: where you at financially, sometimes you can't even control that shit.
57:04
Speaker 2: You could have done everything that you said you were
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Speaker 2: gonna do in your twenty year plan and then get
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Speaker 2: laid off.
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Speaker 3: Yes, you know, I've been there. I've been there.
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Speaker 1: I've lost my my early twenties within i'll say two years,
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Speaker 1: my early thirties within a couple of years. It started
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Speaker 1: at thirty three, and that's the end. That's the age
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Speaker 1: usues crist with sacrifice at age thirty three, when I
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Speaker 1: tell you all, my life is in fucking turmoil. Almost
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Speaker 1: went to prison, I lost my fucking job, I lost
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Speaker 1: my car, I was in a fucking stupid ass relationship,
57:37
Speaker 1: like shit can it's just the ebbs and flow, and it.
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Speaker 3: Just that was the season I was in.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and now I'm working really hard to never to
57:46
Speaker 1: never have to experience that season again, because there are
57:49
Speaker 1: things that I could have done differently that would have
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Speaker 1: prepared me better for that season, because you're gonna go
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Speaker 1: through it, but it's just how you know preparedness. What
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Speaker 1: you're gonna do now, just in case that happens again.
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Speaker 1: Are you gonna spend every penny you got or are
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Speaker 1: you going to invest.
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Speaker 3: More when you get that paycheck?
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Speaker 1: Or you're gonna off Amazon every paycheck because bitch, my
58:11
Speaker 1: Amazon should be stupid.
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Speaker 3: Mind. I'm we're so sick of all the shit we
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Speaker 3: keep doing.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, but yeah, so I just wanted to
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Speaker 1: I guess we basically touched on all the things and
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Speaker 1: I don't know, Uh, I know you can't buy happiness, right.
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Speaker 3: Well, I mean kind of, yeah, kind of. I was
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Speaker 3: just about to say, because most of them.
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Speaker 1: So my homegirl is a therapist, right and anytime she's like,
58:43
Speaker 1: you know, she can't obviously can't hippa, she can't tell
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Speaker 1: me like her about her patients for real, but sometimes
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Speaker 1: she will like tell like a story or whatever, and
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Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what I'm hearing is most of
58:53
Speaker 1: these people need to fucking lose weight and figure out
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Speaker 1: how to get more money. That is mostly the reason
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Speaker 1: why you depressed.
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Speaker 3: You broken fat.
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Speaker 1: I know I've been there, so you gotta focus on one.
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Speaker 1: I feel like for people who have Batman bat and
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Speaker 1: like weight loss and they wait the entire life. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna tell you man, I really feel like that shit
59:12
Speaker 1: is directly tied to your success. Your mind is different
59:17
Speaker 1: when you get disciplined in your diet. Once you conquer
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Speaker 1: your fucking diet, you could do anything you want.
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Speaker 3: Is in like this nigga looked like an action figure
59:27
Speaker 3: like he is. Yeah, you're gonna feel good doing it too.
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Speaker 2: And that's what he always says, Like your success is
59:34
Speaker 2: directly correlated to your health and how you treat your body.
59:38
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, he's obsessed though it's like his muscles got muscles.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, you won, nigga, got So why was this
59:48
Speaker 1: nigga hiding the fact that he been back in the gym,
59:50
Speaker 1: Because you know, I was urging my boyfriend and like,
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Speaker 1: go back and start back working out because I felt
59:55
Speaker 1: like him, like coming to Charleston was the reason why
59:58
Speaker 1: he wasn't working out of the as much, so he
1:00:00
Speaker 1: was like shrinking like this. Nigga was big as hell
1:00:03
Speaker 1: when we first started dating, so I thought he got
1:00:06
Speaker 1: to like cut his hair or something like that because
1:00:07
Speaker 1: he said he had a surprise for me. But no,
1:00:09
Speaker 1: that Nigga was back in the gym, so for real, bodyguard,
1:00:13
Speaker 1: he was looking good.
1:00:15
Speaker 3: Yes, I love that.
1:00:23
Speaker 1: We're playing a game or no, are we getting out
1:00:25
Speaker 1: of hair? He said, let's go, oh okay, all right.
1:00:30
Speaker 3: Anyway, I don't know. Uh, you gotta a last last
1:00:34
Speaker 3: for the people.
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Speaker 2: I guess my last last would be that happiness is
1:00:44
Speaker 2: a choice, so choose it every day. Find a way
1:00:49
Speaker 2: to choose it on purpose. That's what I tell people.
1:00:52
Speaker 2: I tell people have a good day on purpose, because
1:00:55
Speaker 2: you gotta be intentional about your your joy and your happiness.
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Speaker 2: That's my last last.
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Speaker 3: See a therapist right now.
1:01:07
Speaker 1: Therapists are not going to solve your problems. They will
1:01:10
Speaker 1: try to give you the tools so you can solve
1:01:12
Speaker 1: your own problems.
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Speaker 3: If you are.
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Speaker 1: I think happiness is fleeting right. There's a lot of
1:01:22
Speaker 1: bad shit that's going to happen in life. And then
1:01:24
Speaker 1: you have spirits of happiness and the goal is is
1:01:28
Speaker 1: to have just more happiness than stupid shit, right right,
1:01:32
Speaker 1: And like Tammy said, being happy is literally a state
1:01:35
Speaker 1: of mind.
1:01:36
Speaker 3: Being in love is a state of mind.
1:01:37
Speaker 1: So you got to do things every day that's going
1:01:40
Speaker 1: to help you maintain the happiness. So of losing the
1:01:43
Speaker 1: ten pounds, women, we carry all of our stress and
1:01:48
Speaker 1: our abdomen, right, the visceral fat, and that's what it's called.
1:01:54
Speaker 1: And they all have visceral fat run your organs. So
1:01:58
Speaker 1: there are things we can do every day to maintain
1:02:02
Speaker 1: our happiness.
1:02:02
Speaker 3: You just got to do them. Discipline that part, all right.
1:02:07
Speaker 3: That's my last last did that was that? It last last?
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Speaker 3: That was one.
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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, I'll be talking to myself. That was
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Speaker 1: the last last I'd be talking about really be saying
1:02:20
Speaker 1: these things for me for real.
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