Latest / The WARRBuilt Podcast / EP001 - Why We Built WARRBuilt
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- Dan: Let me ask you something. When's the last time you told another man the truth about how you're doing? Not the highlight real version, not the good man, staying busy, the truth. The two AM, looking yourself square in the mirror, truth. Did you tell him about your finances, how they're held together by duct tape and bubblegum? Or about your marriage? You know, the one that felt more like a standoff than a partnership? How about that your fitness routine, that one that always seems to start next Monday? And that big question that sits on all of our chests, is this it? Is this all that it's supposed to be? Most men never say any of that out loud. And it's not because they're weak, it's because they've got nobody to say it to. That's why this show exists. This is the Warbuilt Podcast. I'm Dan, one of the three men who started Warbuilt. Every other week I'm gonna sit down, sometimes by myself, sometimes with a guest or one or both of my co-founders. And talk about the stuff most men only chew on alone. To give you a little background on us, Warbuilt is a men's group. We've got brothers all over the country, even some internationally. These are all grown men who decided they were done trying to figure out life by themselves. But before we talk more about this podcast and movement, it's important to tell you a little bit about why it even exists. The simple answer is that we, the three founders, we needed it. So, like I said, there are three of us who founded Warbuild. Myself, Andy, and Brad. For lack of a better term, Andy, he's our front man, right? Our Axl Rose. He's the one out there shaking hands, pulling men in, the guy most men meet first. Brad's a little more behind the scenes. He keeps the systems running. He's also a constant presence within the tribe. And I sit somewhere in the middle, front facing with the tribe, but also doing some amount of the work behind the scenes to keep it all afloat. Three different men, three different lanes. One thing in common. Every one of us has walked through a season where we were grinding it out alone and pretending we had it handled. We all came from different backgrounds, but ended up meeting in a men's group similar to Warbuild. Over time, we realized we had aligned beliefs and that even resulted in Brad and I running a podcast for a few years. You might have listened to Untaming Masculinity in the past. That that was us. Anyways, the three of us grew our beliefs over the years and realized we had an obligation to the men we spoke with to provide a place for them to grow and flourish. Hence war built. You might be wondering why there are three of us and not one guy out there with his name and lights. The answer is pretty simple. The whole thing falls apart if it's built on one man. When it's built on one man, that's a guru, right? A guru puts himself on stage and you in the seats. We're not interested in that. The three of us, Andy Brad and myself, we don't always agree on everything, and that's the point. When one of us is off the rails, the other two say so. To our faces. That's what a pack does. And that's what we're offering you. Not three experts who've got it all figured out, but three men who decided we'd rather walk the fires with brothers than look strong walking them alone. None of us claim to be experts. We're all on our own journeys with our own victories to celebrate and demons to cast out. You'll never hear any of us tell guys that we've got it figured out apart from it. But you might hear us say that we've been on the journey for a while and have walked the road that a guy is walking, or even one that he's just starting. We can help him avoid the potholes and the speed bumps, but we can't walk it for him and we sure as hell can't want it more than he does. And we can't do that because there is one lie inherent to every man, and we all believe it at one point or another. I believed it for a long time, and I know Brad and Andy did as well. So this isn't us throwing stones, but that lie is that a real man handles it all himself. And that's just bullshit. The lie, you know, it involves around that needing help is a crack in the foundation. No. That your value is measured by how much weight you can carry without ever setting it down or asking anybody to help. Come on. So many guys believe it though. We carry the weight, whether it's the mortgage, the marriage, the kids, the job, or simply the version of ourselves everybody expects to see. And we walk around like it's fine. The funny part is that it works. Right up until it doesn't. This whole process is called lone wolfing. A term I'm sure you've heard before. It's definitely not something we came up with. But what no one says out loud about lone wolfing is that the lone wolf might look cough out there in the wild. But in reality, man, he's starving. He's the one who doesn't make it through the winter, right? 'Cause the power the power's in the pack. We've all watched good men, smart men, capable men, men with real money and real careers, good families, get quietly destroyed by things they never say out loud to another soul. It wasn't because the problem was too big. It was because they were facing it with nobody in their corner. So we built the opposite of that, the opposite of being alone. We call it the tribe. It's not a seminar or a guy on stage telling you his morning routine, right? It's a group of men who have agreed to do two things and two things only. One, tell each other the truth, and two, hold each other accountable to it. It's really that simple. We build the whole thing on what we call the four totems. You know, these are gonna come up again and again, so get used to right? They're family, fitness, finance, and fortitude. Family, because the people in your house are watching who you are, not who you say you are. Fitness, because you can lead nobody from a body you've put on. Finance, because money handled in shame runs your life, and money handled in the light sets you free. And fortitude, because none of it means anything if you fold the first time something gets hard. And this one's important because it holds up the other three. These aren't cliches or hollow words, right? They're the load-bearing walls that this entire program is built on. If you knock one out, man, the house just leans over. And the show will walk through all four. We'll have honest conversations out on them at any one time. So if you take anything out of the first episode, I hope it's this. A strong man isn't a man without struggles. He's a man who has brothers in his corners when the struggles come. The peace you're chasing can only be found at the end of an honest conversation with a man who's been where you are. You've heard it your whole life and you had it backwards. It was never the strong survive. It's that the lone wolf dies and the pack endures. So here's what I want you to do. My one big ask if you've made it this far. If anything I said hit a nerve. If you recognize yourself in that two AM man looking in the mirror or the one that was questioning, is this it? Then don't do what men always do and file it away and never move on. Instead, come find the tribe. Go to warbuilt dot com and see what we're building. If you got a friend or a brother who's out there lone wolfing it right now, send him this episode. It's thirty seconds on your part and that might change his life. And follow the show, because we're just getting started. Next time out, we're gonna go straight at the biggest lie of them all, the lie of the lone wolf. And I'll show you the difference between willpower and discipline and why one of them always runs out. You don't have to keep carrying it alone. You were never supposed to. Together we rise. Together we are war built. Join the pack.