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Breaking the Validation Loop: Finding Inner Safety with Hannah Rose · Eye Opener Society

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  Hello, friends. This is Hannah Rose, back with another podcast episode for The Sound Within.
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  My platform, The Sound Within, is on the amazing platform, EyeOpener Society,
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  and there are plenty of different platforms within EyeOpener Society that tap
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  into the rawness and the real and the vulnerable.
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  Because a lot of the time, society and people that have been programmed by society, including myself,
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  are expected to stay quiet and stay small and
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  not express themselves in the ways that make themselves feel good and happy,
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  because of fear of being judged or put down.
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  Or maybe it's the fear of being perceived a certain way.
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  And the reason why you're scared
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  of being perceived in this way is because that's how you view yourself.
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  A lot of the time,
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  the issues that I have with other people are projections of the way that I feel towards myself.
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  Now, that's not always the case because sometimes the way that people are seeing
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  me or treating me are projections of the way they feel about themselves.
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  And it can get really tough when it is the people closest to you that you struggle
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  to find neutral ground with because we're all just humans having a human experience.
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  And we're also all just children in this world looking for love and acceptance,
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  and to feel welcomed in the rooms that we walk into,
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  and that's where the power lies being able to,
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  walk into any room and know that your personal power and the true essence of who you are,
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  cannot be diminished by the energy of others,
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  and the tons of disgusting and hard things that we have to deal with In life.
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  Not everything is always black and white, and I struggle with that.
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  And oftentimes when I have a conflict, I lump everyone into this big group.
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  All of a sudden, it's me against everybody else and everybody else against me.
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  But that is black and white thinking.
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  Because, again, we are all just experiencing this life in different ways,
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  and none of it is the wrong way.
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  We are destined to experience life as it comes, and sometimes it's not all that fun.
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  And sometimes I get stuck in my own head and I can't get out of it because my
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  obsessive compulsive brain will not allow me to.
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  The harder that I try to not feel these negative feelings the more I feel them,
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  which is why I find it's important to feel your feelings even when it's rage
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  and anger and sadness and resentment,
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  and even when I feel those feelings I still sometimes harbor some of those feelings,
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  in my body, in certain energy centers.
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  Without knowing, of course. And we all do this.
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  But it's important to find the things that ground you and light you up.
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  Because everyone else is not experiencing what you're experiencing.
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  And you're not experiencing what everyone else is experiencing.
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  Although we all typically have the same kind of goals in different versions,
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  in different forms, we still come face-to-face with conflict very often.
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  And so the real question is how do you create such a safe space within yourself
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  that you can take that space with you everywhere you go,
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  and feel 100 confident and happy within that.
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  And we can sit here all day and say that we don't care what everyone else thinks of us.
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  But a lot of the time, that is just us trying to convince ourselves of that.
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  Because the truth is, we do value and care what other people think of us.
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  It's part of the validation loop that society has looped us into.
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  And a lot of this might just seem like mindless rambling, but this is a lot
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  of what I have been experiencing in my life lately.
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  And when I love, I love hard.
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  And when I hate, I hate just as hard.
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  I'm not a perfect person, so for me, being able to sit here and reflect on that,
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  hoping that it is delivered to someone who needs it.
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  It is grounding for me to reflect upon that but it's also hard because some of that is ugly.
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  And that's where I sometimes feel as if I have imposter syndrome,
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  because I have experienced such negative experiences in my life,
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  and they have made me take it out on other people without knowing.
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  Instead of being angry at myself, it's way easier to be angry at someone else for causing it.
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  But at the end of the day, I have full control over myself and my thoughts and
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  my feelings. I am not my thoughts.
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  I am not my feelings.
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  I am me.
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  Ever since I was a child, I always felt as if I didn't fit in with any group
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  of friends or a group of people.
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  I always felt like the odd one out, as if I was trying to prove myself to people.
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  And a lot of the time that has been my own insecurities rather than,
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  reality,
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  and that's not to say that every single person in your existence is going to
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  like you and align with you and your goals.
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  It's just a reminder that the people that are meant for you will gravitate towards you,
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  and the people that aren't meant for you are not worth your sorrow,
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  it's a huge reflection on who you are as a person rather than who they are.
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  When you feel hurt and you feel pain and you feel sorrow,
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  behind the rejection that you might be feeling,
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  it goes to show where your heart is,
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  All you wanted was to be accepted and to be loved and seen as you are and not
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  as people expected you to be.
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  It's okay to be you.
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  Tune in to Eye Opener Society for more awesome content,
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  and tune in to The Sound Within for more podcast episodes by me, Hannah Rose.
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  Peace out.