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Stunting Men · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: are we stunting the development of our sons by not
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  Speaker 1: letting them grow up fast enough?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's. Mama, Mama, she.
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  Speaker 1: Said, and joining us now our American mama's Terry Edeville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlison. You know, I remember the day I
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  Speaker 1: grew up. I remember the day December seventeenth, nineteen ninety.
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  Speaker 1: That was the day when I stopped being a child
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  Speaker 1: and when I had to start being a grown up.
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  Speaker 1: And now it took a little bit longer to get
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  Speaker 1: better at it, but that was the That was the day,
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  Speaker 1: and it was hard at the time, but I guarantee
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  Speaker 1: you it was important for my development. And that is
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  Speaker 1: the question. Are we giving our young men, especially enough
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to actually be men?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know if it has anything to do with us.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe it does, because I think that parents are enablers,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and I'm seeing that a lot. Lindsay, my
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  Speaker 3: youngest sister just bumped into a friend of hers at
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  Speaker 3: the grocery store the other day, and her son is
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  Speaker 3: the same age as of Shane's. He's twenty six. Years old,
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  Speaker 3: and Lindsay was asking how he was and she said,
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  Speaker 3: he's not doing good. He doesn't do anything. He games
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  Speaker 3: from morning until night every single day. He's not working.
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  Speaker 3: So of course I'm thinking, why, how is that possible?
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  Speaker 3: You work, you're there at home with him. But there
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  Speaker 3: was a study that says right now that this is
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  Speaker 3: a study of eight million teens that eighteen year olds
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  Speaker 3: are now at like fifteen, they are driving less, working less,
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  Speaker 3: and dating less. That they are skipping every adult step
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  Speaker 3: and there's absolutely no maturity that's coming because they are
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  Speaker 3: afraid of conflict, failure, and social risk. I truly believe
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  Speaker 3: this has a lot to do with the gaming industry,
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  Speaker 3: although I think there's a balance and everything.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: You know, if you're tired, you work all day and
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  Speaker 3: you want your time to game. Totally understand that when
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  Speaker 3: it's used as a as a fun thing after you've.
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  Speaker 1: Worked hard, well, and gaming can be a type of entertainments,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like if it's not gaming, it's golf, or
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  Speaker 1: it's you know, tennis, or it's you know, playing cards,
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  Speaker 1: or you know, you just to be watching TV or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: If it's if it's a temporary distraction from the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, I can understand that, but when it
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  Speaker 1: is your day, you're not you're not really growing up
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  Speaker 1: if you're online arguing with twelve year olds.
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  Speaker 4: Well, not only that, and it's not just the gaming,
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  Speaker 4: it's social media in itself. Like they say that the
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  Speaker 4: teenagers of this generation are addicted, as we all pretty
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  Speaker 4: much are. I mean, it's right here at our fingertipic
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  Speaker 4: it's right there, said the addiction to that.
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  Speaker 2: There, this is their connection to everything.
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  Speaker 4: So whereas we had to go out into the world
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  Speaker 4: to see other people and to play the sports and
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  Speaker 4: to thure card catalog to get information, yes, and didn't
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  Speaker 4: have you know, the gaming, We didn't have all of that.
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  Speaker 4: We were forced to go out and find things to
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  Speaker 4: do and keep our minds going and our physical bodies going. Now,
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  Speaker 4: not only this is such just a sad thing. Not
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  Speaker 4: only is the gaming and your social like all your friends,
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  Speaker 4: some of you you've never met your life, but they
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  Speaker 4: feel like you're very best friends. Yeah, but they're saying
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  Speaker 4: that a lot of these boys who are addicted to porn,
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  Speaker 4: that's right there at their fingertips on the phone, very
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  Speaker 4: easy to get that they don't need a woman they're
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  Speaker 4: getting satisfied by viewing these things well.
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  Speaker 1: And there's also not just that it's easier to do
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  Speaker 1: the wrong thing, but sometimes it's harder to do the
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  Speaker 1: right thing. We've made it. This is one of the
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  Speaker 1: things I talk about. The government should make it easy
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  Speaker 1: to do the right thing and hard to do the
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  Speaker 1: wrong thing. And in our society it seems like we've
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  Speaker 1: made it the other way around. It's very easy to
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  Speaker 1: video game, it's very easy to get porn. Is harder
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  Speaker 1: now to get work. Is we keep raising the minimum
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  Speaker 1: wage if you've never had a job before, for your
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  Speaker 1: ability to get that first job. And New York City
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  Speaker 1: wants to make the minimum wage thirty dollars an hour,
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  Speaker 1: I got to tell you, at eighteen years old, you
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  Speaker 1: are not worth thirty dollars an hour to any company.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 1: And then the other part about for men going out
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  Speaker 1: and actually getting a date. Do you know how hard
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  Speaker 1: it is for young men right now to walk up
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  Speaker 1: to a woman in public and say, I think you're attractive.
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  Speaker 1: I would like to get you to know you better.
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  Speaker 1: Can I buy you a meal without being called a predator?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so true.
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  Speaker 4: I had one of my neighbors the most incredible kid.
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  Speaker 4: He went into the military and he came back one
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  Speaker 4: day and we were taught. He came to visit, came
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  Speaker 4: out of my house and you know, I helped raise
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  Speaker 4: this child.
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  Speaker 2: He's our neighbor.
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  Speaker 4: And I said, are you dating anybody? He said, no, ma'am.
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  Speaker 4: He says, you know what he said. This was back
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  Speaker 4: when this all started, the me too stuff. He said,
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  Speaker 4: there's been two of the guys in my group have
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  Speaker 4: had to leave the school, this Air Force Academy because
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  Speaker 4: one of the girls thought that she looked at him
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  Speaker 4: at a bar wrong and she told on him.
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  Speaker 2: So two of them left. He said, I don't look
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  Speaker 2: at them, I don't talk to them.
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  Speaker 4: Anything that we say or do can be misconstrued, mixed up,
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  Speaker 4: and it can ruin our lives. So you still have
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  Speaker 4: leftover from that. So there are men today, young men
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  Speaker 4: today who just decided, you know what, I'm I'll meet
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  Speaker 4: whenever she comes, she comes, she's gonna have to come
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  Speaker 4: to me. I mean, they don't even don't they don't
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  Speaker 4: see it anything.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not biblical.
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  Speaker 4: No, and girls are missing out on the fun of
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  Speaker 4: that part of the flirting. Having a man pursue you
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  Speaker 4: in real time and feeling that, and men have lost that.
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  Speaker 4: You know, Yes, they had to go through rejection, but
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  Speaker 4: they got It's like it was part of that game
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  Speaker 4: where they got more confident and they didn't absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Care as much. You know, if they if the girl.
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  Speaker 1: Said no, it becomes easier.
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  Speaker 2: It's easier to just do it on his phone.
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  Speaker 1: To ask for something if you have to go through rejection.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, we've made it easy to do the wrong
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  Speaker 1: thing and hard to do the right thing, and that's
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  Speaker 1: that's hurting our young men. Yeah, if you'd like to
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  Speaker 1: go and ask our American mama is a question, they
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  Speaker 1: will not call you a predator. Just go to our
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  Speaker 1: Facebook page or American Grab Radio dot com, slash American
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  Speaker 1: Mama's and click on the Mama's button. Terry Nutivoe heet really, brothers,
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you,