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Focus on Yourself: Train Your Mind and Unlock Your Power · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: The brain is the most powerful weapon in the world.
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  Speaker 1: And it's it's crazy how a kid that wasn't real
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  Speaker 1: smart I was forced to go only internal external had
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  Speaker 1: to go away, the external world had to go away.
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  Speaker 2: And living so deep inside myself. It was me in
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  Speaker 2: this brain and figuring out how this thing works. And
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  Speaker 2: it's so many people are doing exactly that.
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  Speaker 3: The supplements to this, to that, I agree it helps.
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  Speaker 3: But once you figure out your your.
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  Speaker 2: Brain, you become unstoppable to almost anything.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you can't beat death, you can't whatever. Whatever.
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  Speaker 2: Your brain is amazing once you feed it the right conversation,
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  Speaker 2: the right mental nutrients, the right mental supplements, the right
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  Speaker 2: the right internal dialogue at the right time, with the
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  Speaker 2: right hit, with the right proof of what you've done
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  Speaker 2: in the past, and you send that right to the
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  Speaker 2: right circuit.
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  Speaker 3: Dude, you're a fucking beast. A beast.
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  Speaker 2: But once again, you just can't read about it. You
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  Speaker 2: can't sit back and be a theorist. You have to
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  Speaker 2: be a practitioner.
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  Speaker 3: And in that practice is where that becomes proof positive.
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  Speaker 2: And what I'm saying is like, God, like David got
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  Speaker 2: He's blowing my mind.
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  Speaker 3: What is this? He's not crazy? And so many people.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people have listened to me in the
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  Speaker 2: right way, and they come back and they're like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: totally on board.
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  Speaker 3: It happened. It happened. I'm like, it'll keep going, man,
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  Speaker 3: if you keep doing it. But that is it, man.
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  Speaker 2: There's no son, there's no glory, there's no carrot, there's
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  Speaker 2: no victory. But there is all of it in one
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  Speaker 2: I can't explain it real well to people, man, But
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  Speaker 2: what you get the other end is something that you're not.
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  Speaker 3: You're always found. You're never lost anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't mean the journey's easy, doesn't get any easier, but
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  Speaker 2: you're always found. I'd learned how to hold myself accountable,
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  Speaker 2: and I knew I could take a man's soul in
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  Speaker 2: the heat of battle. I had overcome many obstacles and
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  Speaker 2: realized that each of those experiences had calloused my mind
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  Speaker 2: so thick I could take on any challenge. All of
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  Speaker 2: that had made me feel like I dealt with my
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  Speaker 2: past demons.
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  Speaker 3: But I hadn't. I've been ignoring them. My memories of abuse.
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  Speaker 2: At the hands of my father, of all those people
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  Speaker 2: who called me didn't vaporize after a few victories.
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  Speaker 3: Those moments were anchored deep in my subconscious. As a result,
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  Speaker 3: my foundation was cracked.
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  Speaker 2: And a human being, your character is foundation. And when
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  Speaker 2: you build a bunch of successes and pile up even
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  Speaker 2: more failures on a foundation, the structure that is the
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  Speaker 2: self won't be sound. To develop an armored mind, a
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  Speaker 2: mindset so callous and hard that becomes bulletproof, you need
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  Speaker 2: to go to the source of all your fears and insecurities.
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  Speaker 2: Most of us sweep our failures and evil secrets under
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  Speaker 2: the rug, But when we run into problems, that rug
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  Speaker 2: gets lifted up and our darkness re emerges, floods our
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  Speaker 2: soul and influences the decisions which determine our character.
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  Speaker 3: My fears were never just about the water.
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  Speaker 2: And my anxieties toward Class two hundred and thirty five
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  Speaker 2: weren't about the pain of first phase. They were seeping
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  Speaker 2: from the infected wounds I've been walking around with my
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  Speaker 2: entire life, and my denial of them amounted to a
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  Speaker 2: denial of myself. I was my own worst enemy. It
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  Speaker 2: wasn't the world, or God or the devil that was
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  Speaker 2: out to get me.
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  Speaker 3: It was me.
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  Speaker 2: I was rejecting my past, and therefore rejecting myself. My foundation,
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  Speaker 2: my character was defined by self rejection.
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  Speaker 3: All my fears came.
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  Speaker 2: From that deep seated uneasiness I carried with being David
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  Speaker 2: Goggins because of what I'd gone through. Even after I'd
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  Speaker 2: reached a point where I no longer cared about what
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  Speaker 2: others thought of me, I still had trouble accepting me.
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  Speaker 2: Anyone who is of sound mind and body can sit
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  Speaker 2: down and think of twenty things in their life that
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  Speaker 2: could have gone differently, where maybe they didn't get a
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  Speaker 2: fair shake, and where they took the path of least resistance.
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  Speaker 2: If you're one of the few who acknowledge that want
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  Speaker 2: to callous those wounds and strengthen your character, it's up
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  Speaker 2: to you to go back through your past and make
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  Speaker 2: peace with yourself by facing those incidents and all of
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  Speaker 2: your negative influences and accepting them as weak spots in
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  Speaker 2: your own character. Only when you identify and accept your
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  Speaker 2: weaknesses will you finally.
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  Speaker 3: Stop running from your past.
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  Speaker 2: Then those incidents can be used more efficiently as fuel
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  Speaker 2: to become better and grow stronger.
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  Speaker 3: Right there on Mom's couch, as the moon burned its
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  Speaker 3: arc in.
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  Speaker 2: The night sky, I faced down my demons I faced myself.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't run from my dad anymore.
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  Speaker 2: I had to accept that he was part of me,
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  Speaker 2: and that his lying, cheating character influenced me more than
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  Speaker 2: I cared to admit. Before that night, I used to
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  Speaker 2: tell people that my father had died rather than tell
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  Speaker 2: the truth about where I came from. Even in the seals,
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  Speaker 2: I trotted out that line. I knew why when you
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  Speaker 2: get beat up, you don't want to acknowledge getting your
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  Speaker 2: ass kick.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't make you feel very.
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  Speaker 2: Manly, So the easiest thing to do is forget about
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  Speaker 2: it and move on, pretend it never happened, not anymore.
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  Speaker 2: Going forward, it became very important for me to rehash
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  Speaker 2: my life, because when you examine your experiences with a
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  Speaker 2: fine tooth comb and see where your issues come from,
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  Speaker 2: you can find strength and do it in pain and abuse.
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  Speaker 2: By accepting Trunni's goggins as part of me, I was
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  Speaker 2: free to use where I came from as fuel. I
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  Speaker 2: realized that each episode of child abuse that could have
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  Speaker 2: killed me made me tough as hell and as sharp
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  Speaker 2: as a samuraized blade. And that's why I talk about
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  Speaker 2: the warrior mentality, and that's why so many people are
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  Speaker 2: lost when I start talking.
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  Speaker 3: You have the right.
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  Speaker 2: You're lucky that you don't have to think like warriors think.
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  Speaker 3: You're very privileged.
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  Speaker 2: I chose this world to be a warrior, and I
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  Speaker 2: would choose it again if I came back to this world.
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  Speaker 2: But the mentality of a warrior is very different than
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  Speaker 2: norm mentality.
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  Speaker 3: You must be that person.
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  Speaker 2: On that door, Oh, get ready to open it, thinking
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  Speaker 2: to yourself if I die, so be it. The only
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  Speaker 2: way you can go in that door is knowing there's
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  Speaker 2: a great chance you're gonna die. Like being a you
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  Speaker 2: trained with live ammo, you jump on an airplane, everything you.
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  Speaker 3: Do, you could die. So to be a warrior, why
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  Speaker 3: people don't understand me? I'm glad you don't understand me.
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  Speaker 3: Merry Christmas.
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  Speaker 2: Good on you, because being a warrior takes a whole
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  Speaker 2: different mindset, a whole different mindset to know that there's
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  Speaker 2: a great chance.
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  Speaker 3: I may not be in a like I was in
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  Speaker 3: for twenty one years. I'm lucky.
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  Speaker 2: I'm very lucky that I'm alive, able to talk to you,
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  Speaker 2: able to still run. But when you sign up on
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  Speaker 2: the dial line to be a set like a seal,
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  Speaker 2: your mentality changes I may not live. You accept that,
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  Speaker 2: and that's the mentality you have. I remember it as
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  Speaker 2: a kid, no matter how up our life was, my
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  Speaker 2: mother always figured out a way to stock our damn
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  Speaker 2: cookie jar. She'd buy wafers and oreos, Pepperidge Farm milanos
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  Speaker 2: and chips ahoy, and whenever she showed up with a
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  Speaker 2: new batch of cookies, she dumped them into one jar.
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  Speaker 2: With her permission, we get to pick one or two
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  Speaker 2: out of the ten. It was like a mini treasure hunt.
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  Speaker 2: I remember the joy of dropping my fist into that jar,
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  Speaker 2: wondering what I'd find, and before I crammed the cookie
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  Speaker 2: in my mouth, I always took the time to admire
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  Speaker 2: it first, especially when we were broken Brazil, I turn it.
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  Speaker 3: Around in my hand and say my own little prayer
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  Speaker 3: of thanks.
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  Speaker 2: The feeling of being that kid locked in a moment
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  Speaker 2: of gratitude for a simple gift like a cookie came
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  Speaker 2: back to me. I felt it viscerally, and I used
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  Speaker 2: that concept to stuff a new kind of cookie jar.
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  Speaker 2: Inside it were all my past victories, like the time
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  Speaker 2: when I had to study three times as hard as
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  Speaker 2: anybody else during my senior year in high school just
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  Speaker 2: to graduate that was a cookie, or when I passed
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  Speaker 2: the as Baptist as a senior, and then again to
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  Speaker 2: get into books two more cookies. I remember dropping over
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  Speaker 2: one hundred pounds in under three months, conquering my fear
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  Speaker 2: of water, graduating buzz at the top of my class,
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  Speaker 2: and being named enlisted honor man in Army Ranger School.
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  Speaker 2: All those were cookies loaded with chocolate chunks. These weren't
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  Speaker 2: mere flashbacks. I wasn't just floating through my memory files.
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  Speaker 3: I actually tapped into.
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  Speaker 2: The emotional state I felt during those victories, and then
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  Speaker 2: so doing access to my sympathetic nervous system once again,
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  Speaker 2: my adrenaline took over. The pain started to fade just enough,
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  Speaker 2: and my pace picked up.
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  Speaker 3: I began swinging my arms and lengthening my stride.
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  Speaker 2: My fractured feet were still a bloody mess, full of blisters,
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  Speaker 2: the toenails peeling off almost every toe, but I kept pounding,
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  Speaker 2: and soon it was me who is slaloming runners with
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  Speaker 2: pain expression as I raised the clock. From then on,
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  Speaker 2: the cookie jar became a concept I've employed whenever I
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  Speaker 2: need a reminder of who I am and what I'm
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  Speaker 2: capable of.
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  Speaker 3: We all have a cookie jar.
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  Speaker 2: Inside us, because life, being what it is, has always
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  Speaker 2: tested us. Even if you're feeling low and beat down
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  Speaker 2: by life right now, I guarantee you can think of
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  Speaker 2: a time or two when you overcame odds and tasted success.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't have to be a big victory either. It
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  Speaker 2: can be something small. I know we all want the
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  Speaker 2: whole victory today, but when I was teaching myself to read,
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  Speaker 2: I would be happy when I could understand every word
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  Speaker 2: in a single paragraph. I knew I still had a
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  Speaker 2: long way to go to move from a third grade
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  Speaker 2: reading level to that of a senior in high school.
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  Speaker 2: But even a small win like that was enough to
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  Speaker 2: keep me interested in learning and finding more within myself.
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  Speaker 2: You don't drop one hundred pounds in less than three
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  Speaker 2: months without losing five pounds in a week.
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  Speaker 3: First, those first five.
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  Speaker 2: Pounds I lost were a small accomplishment, and it doesn't
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  Speaker 2: sound like a lot, but at the time it was
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  Speaker 2: proof that I could lose weight and that my goal,
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  Speaker 2: however improbable, was not impossible. You're in a rocket ship
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  Speaker 2: does not fire without a small spark. First, we all
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  Speaker 2: need small sparks, small accomplishments.
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  Speaker 3: In our lives to fuel the big ones. Think of
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  Speaker 3: your small accomplishments as kindling.
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  Speaker 2: When you want a bonfire, you don't start by lighting
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  Speaker 2: a big log. You collect some witch's hair, a small
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  Speaker 2: pile of hay, or some dry dead grass. You light that,
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  Speaker 2: and then add small sticks and bigger sticks before you
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  Speaker 2: feed your tree stump into the blaze, Because it's the
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  Speaker 2: small sparks which starts small fires that eventually build enough
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  Speaker 2: heat to.
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  Speaker 3: Burn the whole forest down.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't have any big accomplishments to draw on yet,
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  Speaker 2: so be it. Your small victories are your cookies to
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  Speaker 2: save her, and make sure you do savor them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I was hard on myself when I looked in the
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  Speaker 2: accountability mirror, but I also praised myself whenever I could
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  Speaker 2: claim a small victory, because we all need that, and
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  Speaker 2: very few of us take the time to celebrate our successes. Sure,
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  Speaker 2: in the moment, we might enjoy them, but do we
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  Speaker 2: ever look back on them and feel that win again
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  Speaker 2: and again. Maybe that sounds narcissistic to you, but I'm
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  Speaker 2: not talking about droning on and bullshitting about the glory
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  Speaker 2: days here. I'm not suggesting you crawl up your own
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  Speaker 2: ass and bore your friends, with all your stories about
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  Speaker 2: what a badass you used to be, nobody wants to
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  Speaker 2: hear that. I'm talking about utilizing past successes to fuel
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  Speaker 2: you to new and bigger ones. Because in the heat
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  Speaker 2: of battle, when it gets real, we need to draw
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  Speaker 2: inspiration to push through our own exhaustion, depression, pain and misery.
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  Speaker 2: We need to spark a bunch of small fires to
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  Speaker 2: become the mother inferno.
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  Speaker 3: But digging into the cookie.
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  Speaker 2: Jar when things are going south takes focus and determination
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  Speaker 2: because at first the brain doesn't want to go there.
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  Speaker 2: It wants to remind you that you're suffering and that
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  Speaker 2: your goal is impossible. It wants to stop you so
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  Speaker 2: it can stop the pain that not. In San Diego
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  Speaker 2: was the most.
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  Speaker 3: Difficult night of my life physically. I never felt so broken,
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  Speaker 3: and there were no souls to take. I wasn't competing
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  Speaker 3: for a trophy, there.
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  Speaker 2: Was no one standing in my way. All I had
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  Speaker 2: to draw on to keep myself going was me. Never
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  Speaker 2: pick the easy road, never never, And it always goes
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  Speaker 2: back to kind of that the hero mentality. Never pick
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  Speaker 2: the easy road ever in your life. That is the
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  Speaker 2: one road that is doom. It is doom if you
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  Speaker 2: want something like six minute abs all these different things.
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  Speaker 2: If you want it so fast, you may achieve what
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  Speaker 2: you wanted, But you want the permanent fix.
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  Speaker 3: The permanent fix comes from the hard road.
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  Speaker 2: The hard road gives you permanent results.
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  Speaker 3: The easy road gives you the quick fix.
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  Speaker 2: You will go back to where you started on the
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  Speaker 2: easy route. That hard route is so permanent that it
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  Speaker 2: ends up callousing you everywhere, everywhere. Keep a six pack forever.
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  Speaker 2: Keep it because you know the work that goes into it.
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  Speaker 2: HM