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297 - Conscious vs. Unconscious in Human Design · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and today I want to talk about a really
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  fundamental piece of human design that I think often gets overlooked.
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  And I don't think a lot of people talk about it necessarily, or not
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  talk about it maybe in the way that I'm about to present it to you, but
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  it really can hone your awareness into why some things happen for you.
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  And I think that's one of the main benefits of human design is that we
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  start to understand how we tick and why we do the things that we do.
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  I think that's what we're all interested in.
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  Why do I have this problem?
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  Why do I always feel like it takes me a long time to process things?
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  Why do I feel like I don't really identify with some aspects of my definition?
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  I ran my chart, it says I have a defined identity center, but I don't really feel
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  like I have a defined identity, or I don't feel like I have a defined ego.
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  I All of these things can be tied back a lot of times to this piece.
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  Human design opens us up to the possibilities for us, what our gifts
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  are, where we might be held back, where we might be holding back.
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  And it starts to illuminate a new way for us to look at ourselves with greater
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  compassion, and with greater curiosity.
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  And when we start to understand why some things happen, I was saying
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  this in a group this week, I do think that understanding why, and it's
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  been my experience, that it does help people surrender more to what is.
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  And when we stop fighting ourselves, then things just get easier because
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  so much of the resistance that comes up for people is us fighting the
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  resistance that maybe is natural for us.
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  That we're just trying to run through the wall and we don't see that
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  there's a door just around the corner.
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  That's the power of human design.
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  And I was teaching the Unshakeable Human program, I did a Q& A for those people
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  that were in that course, it's a program that I did purely on human design, so
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  none of the business stuff necessarily was in there, but this was about
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  getting into alignment with your design.
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  That is available, by the way, if you just DM me Unshakeable Human, those two
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  words on Instagram, we'll send you the link for it if you're interested in that.
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  But the Unshakeable Human Program, I did a Q&A for these people.
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  And this was something that came up over and over again.
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  Cause I taught some new modules for this round.
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  And one of them was on this topic of the conscious side
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  versus the unconscious side.
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  And while I'm always fascinated with this stuff, it's always
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  interesting to me to see what people are lit up by when I teach this.
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  And people had their socks knocked off by this.
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  They were just blown away by looking at their charts through this aspect.
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  Through looking at it this way was a really eye opening thing for them.
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  So, that's what I wanna bring here.
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  Because this can tell you everything that I was just talking about, maybe
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  why you're burned out, maybe why you're feeling small, where you're meant
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  to play big, why some of this stuff, I know it to be true, but I don't
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  know why I can't identify with it.
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  It doesn't feel real to me.
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  All of that can really be tied to this aspect.
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  Which is conscious versus unconscious.
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  So let me paint the picture here for you.
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  And if you don't have your chart, please run one on our website.
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  We give you an advanced chart.
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  So we give you a lot of information that other charts will charge you for.
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  If you go to nicolelaino.com/chart, you can run it there.
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  You can DM me the word chart on Instagram.
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  I'm at Nicole Laino official, and we'll send you the chart link right there.
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  but run your chart.
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  We also send you a little intro video as well to get you acquainted with
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  your type if you run it from our site.
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  But when you look at the chart you're going to see the body graph in the middle.
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  And then on the right side, you're going to see columns,
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  usually it's little squares.
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  If you're running it on our site, you'll see squares running down the
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  right side with numbers in them.
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  And then you'll see squares running down the left side in
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  a column with numbers in those.
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  The right side is what we call the conscious or
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  personality side of your design.
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  This is what you identify with.
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  And if you're running that there and you see the color running
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  down the side, it'll be the color on the right side of the chart.
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  It'll match with whatever gates are colored in on your chart.
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  So if it's green, you'll notice that it's the green lines on your chart.
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  And if it's purple, it's purple lines on your chart for the other side.
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  So there is some definition that is personality.
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  That you identify with.
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  That is more in alignment with how you see yourself.
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  That's the right side of the chart.
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  That is going to be the stuff that when someone asks you about it and
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  I tell you in a reading, you have this energy, you have these potential
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  gifts, this probably shows up for you.
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  A lot of people are nodding their heads going, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's me.
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  I totally relate to that, I totally see that, that's absolutely me.
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  They identify with it.
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  Now you go to the left side of the chart.
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  That left side of the chart is actually what we call your unconscious design.
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  This is another calculation that we do.
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  And this gives us unconscious, or the body side.
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  This is the automatic parts of you.
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  The energies that are just working without you necessarily doing anything.
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  Now, We get mind and body together with these two pieces, but
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  here's the kicker Each side does not know the other one exists.
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  So it's not like internally your soul's looking at the two sides and being like oh
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  I've got gate 16 on the unconscious side.
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  Maybe I'll just talk to my unconscious design and get
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  us to get on board together.
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  It doesn't do that They don't know they exist.
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  So what that creates within us for some people, and everybody's design
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  is different, some people are going to be very defined on one side and
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  maybe not defined at all on the other.
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  Now, obviously there are gates defined, but they're not going to have any centers.
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  We had this happen with quite a few people in the Unshakeable Human program,
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  and they were just like, oh my god, my mind is blown by this whole thing.
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  It explains so much why I feel so open.
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  So some people have a very defined unconscious or body side, like myself.
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  I have four channels in my design.
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  Three of those channels are unconscious design.
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  They're
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  the left side of the chart.
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  So I don't actually identify with any of them.
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  I don't identify with being a manifesting generator because on my
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  design side, if you take that away, if you just have my personality, I am
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  an emotional generator and that's it.
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  One channel.
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  It's all about the channel of mating.
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  That's the only thing that I identify with.
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  So I identify with being emotional.
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  I identify with being somebody who bonds with people.
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  It's how I went through most of my life, certainly up until the point
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  of when I was in my 30s, where I was, really bonding with people and
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  really trying to make connections.
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  That was my personality.
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  But I had all this other stuff on the other side that I really couldn't
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  figure out how it all worked.
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  If you have the design side that has more definition than the conscious side.
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  If most of your centers are defined through the left side of the chart.
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  What you end up getting is a feeling that you know some things to be true about
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  you, but you just can't quite touch them.
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  You can't quite figure out how to use them.
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  When I first read my chart and I saw that the channel of talent and the
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  channel of surrender, which is all about transmitting a message, it wasn't until
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  I saw them on the chart that I started to identify with it, and I'll talk
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  a little bit about the nuance there.
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  I still didn't feel like it was me, but I looked at those aspects of myself and
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  I said, oh, I do know that to be true.
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  I just don't know how to use it.
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  I don't know how to access my talent.
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  It doesn't feel like it's not a natural thing for me to do, but here's the thing.
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  It's actually very natural for us to do, but the personality gets in the way.
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  Cause the personality says, I don't really identify with it.
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  And the mind gets in the way, and this is part of where mind comes in and starts
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  to mess with the way that we operate.
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  The inevitable next question is, what do we do about this?
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  How do I bring both sides of my design together?
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  Because, truthfully, we have personality, we have design.
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  We have conscious, we have unconscious.
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  Those are two synonymous things.
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  Conscious and unconscious.
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  But we are not just these pieces.
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  We are the quantum.
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  This is where if you've heard quantum human design, I believe this
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  is where she got that term from.
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  But the quantum version of you is both sides of these
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  actually operating in harmony.
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  Getting access to all of your potential and not just part, not
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  just what you can identify with.
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  Some people have a very defined personality and they've got talents
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  and gifts on the design side that are going completely unused or
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  slipping into shadow because you don't know how to connect with them.
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  Some people have the opposite where they have no definition on one
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  side of the chart or the other.
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  So they have one side that's doing all the work.
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  I had a client yesterday, did a reading with her, and I pointed out, well,
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  your entire definition is unconscious.
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  So that might mean that you don't identify with all of the definition in your chart.
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  And on your personality, you might feel like a reflector.
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  You might feel more open than you are.
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  Now, I want to be very clear here.
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  There is some confusion because I have heard people talk about this, in programs,
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  and in podcasts, and online, where some people start to say, your personality
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  determines your strategy and authority.
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  That's not true.
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  Your strategy and authority is the quantum, and here's why.
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  It doesn't mean that you're a reflector.
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  If you're like my client is, where she's a reflector on her
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  personality side, it does not mean that she operates like a reflector.
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  That's not the game.
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  The game is to operate as all of you to bring those silent sides up from the
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  unconscious side and give them a voice.
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  And how do we do that?
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  That's where strategy and authority comes in.
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  Strategy and authority is listening to our body, not our mind.
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  Giving our body its say.
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  Telling us what our connection is to our intuition, to what is correct for us.
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  Not just what the personality thinks it is.
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  So this is why people like me are always beating the strategy
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  and authority horse to death.
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  Where we're telling you, you gotta wait for a response if you're a generator.
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  You have to be following your invitations and really digging into
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  your invitations and your splenic hits if you're [splenic] projector.
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  There's a reason that we come back to that all the time.
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  And one reason for it.
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  Is that all of the questions about, is this the conditioning of this center,
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  I'm wondering if this is my open root, or if this is my shadow of my unconscious
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  mercury, there's so many questions that just put you back in your mind.
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  The one thing that will always take you back to the truth, without
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  having to understand anything, is strategy and authority.
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  That's one reason.
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  The second reason that strategy and authority is so crucial to living
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  in alignment and why we see such shifts in ourselves is because we're
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  finally giving our intuition a voice.
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  We're bringing our personality, our mind, together with our unconscious,
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  our body, the instinctual parts of us.
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  What feel like sleeping gifts,
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  [sometimes]
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  . We are bringing them together and we are allowing them to be used out in the world.
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  This is how you are a greater potential than when you are trying to do it on your
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  own, through thinking about things and doing what you feel you identify with, or
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  trying to change your identity constantly to try to up level yourself, when really
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  everybody's design is different, But really what you have to do is be able to
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  look at your chart and say, what parts of me need to be brought to the forefront?
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  For me, it was how do I see this gift as something that truly is
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  part of me and not try to engineer it, not be like, how do I use this?
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  There's some of exercising it.
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  Sure.
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  A lot of that is just recognition, understanding, and awareness of
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  it and saying, no, this is me.
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  Even if I can't always feel it.
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  Even if I don't know what to do with it, maybe I don't need to do anything.
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  What happens if I follow strategy and authority?
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  Suddenly those gifts that you didn't know how to use before start showing
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  up in your life very naturally, because that's what the design side does.
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  And this can work for both sides of the chart.
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  It really depends on your chart.
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  If you really want to dive in deep
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  on
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  your chart, book a reading with me.
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  You can just DM me reading on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial.
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  We'll send you the link for that.
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  And I'm giving you a lot of links in this one, but there's a few that apply here.
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  If you want to go deep into your human design on your own journey,
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  Unshakeable Human Program is for you.
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  It's a very in depth program.
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  People really loved this.
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  If you need to run your chart, DM me chart on Instagram or
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  go to nicolelaino.com/chart.
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  And if you want a reading, if you want to dive in and have me personally walk you
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  through your chart and what is the most important things for you to focus on as an
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  individual, then book a reading with me.
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  The readings are awesome.
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  These really in depth dives and I pull out exactly what is important for you to know.
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  It's not a cookie cutter strategy.
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  So book that by DMing me the word reading on Instagram and
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  I'll send you the link for that.
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  Okay?
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  I hope you enjoyed this.
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  I hope that this inspired you to become the quantum you, and
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  see your hidden potentials.
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  And where it's not even necessarily that you're holding yourself back,
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  it's just ,you're potentially not allowing parts of you to shine.
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  And no amount of effort could do it, it's just a shift that we have to make.
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  And I hope it inspired you to follow your strategy and authority more,
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  and show you exactly why we do that and how powerful it can be.
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  So thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you as always.
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  Thank you for making it all the way to the end of this episode with me.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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