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Introducing ‘Love What Matters’ | The Message That Changed Everything · Crime Stories with Nancy Grace

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Speaker 1: Hello, friend, Nancy Grace. Crime Stories here today, I want
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Speaker 1: to share something very different from our normal murder and mayhem.
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Speaker 1: I want to tell you about a podcast that is
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Speaker 1: both heartwarming and full of hope, just what we need now.
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Speaker 1: It's called Love What Matters. And I know that many
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Speaker 1: of you moms, women, everyone tune into crime Stories because
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Speaker 1: you care, as do I very deeply about protecting your family,
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Speaker 1: your children. As crucial as that is, it's just as
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Speaker 1: vital to remember all the good things around us. Love
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Speaker 1: What Matters shares real life stories of resilience, love overcoming
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Speaker 1: tough challenges. These are stories that inspire and remind me
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Speaker 1: that even in the darkest times, there is light somewhere
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Speaker 1: if you search for it. Please listen to an episode
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Speaker 1: of Love What Matters is coming up in just a moment.
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Speaker 1: Follow it on your favorite podcast app. New episodes drop
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Speaker 1: every Tuesday and Thursday. Do listen. It can change your
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Speaker 1: world and now here is Love What Matters.
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Speaker 2: Have you ever received the text message that changed everything
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Speaker 2: how you lived, who you loved, and most importantly, how
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Speaker 2: you view the world. For Autumn Moore, that message arrived
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Speaker 2: on a sweltering July day in twenty nineteen. Those few
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Speaker 2: lines of text would lead her to redefine the very
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Speaker 2: meeting of family and set in motion a journey that
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Speaker 2: would touch not just her life, but the lives of
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Speaker 2: everyone around. I'm Colin balf and you're listening to Love
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Speaker 2: what Matters Today. We're diving into a story that will
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Speaker 2: challenge everything you thought you knew about love, sacrifice, and
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Speaker 2: what it truly means to be a parent. We'll take
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Speaker 2: you on a journey through the complex world of foster
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Speaker 2: care and adoption, where dreams collide with reality, and where
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Speaker 2: the concept of family is stretched, tested and ultimately transformed.
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Speaker 2: This isn't just a story about fostering a child. It's
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Speaker 2: about fostering hope. It's about one woman's lifelong dream, a
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Speaker 2: husband's reluctance, and a teenage girl who had all but
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Speaker 2: given up on finding her forever home. So settle in,
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Speaker 2: because what you're about to hear might just change the
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Speaker 2: way you see the world, and who knows, it might
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Speaker 2: even inspire you to change someone else's. Imagine wanting something
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Speaker 2: with every fiber of your being, not just wanting it,
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Speaker 2: but feeling it call you from the depths of your soul.
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Speaker 2: A desire so strong it becomes a part of your identity,
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Speaker 2: as essential as breathing. This is how Autumn Moore felt
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Speaker 2: about fostering children. From her earliest memories, Autam had dreamed
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Speaker 2: of opening her home to children in need. It wasn't
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Speaker 2: a passing fancy or a fleeting thought. It was a
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Speaker 2: calling that had taken root in her heart, growing stronger
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Speaker 2: each passing year. I have always believed every child deserves
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Speaker 2: to be loved, unconditionally, cherished, and truly seen for who
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Speaker 2: they are. Autumn shares, but dreams, as we all know,
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Speaker 2: have a way of colliding with reality, and reality in
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Speaker 2: this case, wore the face of Autumn's loving but skeptical husband, Josh.
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Speaker 2: From the outside, Autumn Wore seemed to have it all.
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Speaker 2: A loving husband, two beautiful daughters, and a comfortable home
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Speaker 2: in a nice neighborhood. It was the kind of life
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Speaker 2: many people spent years striving to achieve. But beneath the
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Speaker 2: surface of this picture perfect existence, there was an emptiness,
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Speaker 2: a void that couldn't be filled by material possessions or
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Speaker 2: society's expectations. Autumn's dream of fostering wasn't just about helping children,
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Speaker 2: It was about completing her own sense of purpose. This
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Speaker 2: feeling led her to confide in a friend who worked
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Speaker 2: at a local teen shelter. Over coffee one day, Autumn
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Speaker 2: leaned in and said, Hey, if you ever come across
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Speaker 2: a girl who needs a home, just let me know.
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Speaker 2: It was casual, almost offhand, the kind of remark we
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Speaker 2: make without fully grasping its potential to alter our lives forever.
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Speaker 2: But Josh, well, he wasn't so sure. He'd heard all
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Speaker 2: about the horror stories, he'd seen the grim statistics. We
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Speaker 2: have our own children to think about, he'd argue, his
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Speaker 2: voice tinged with concerned. What if she's a bad influence,
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Speaker 2: what if she doesn't fit in? These weren't unreasonable concerns.
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Speaker 2: Fostering a child, especially a teenager, is no small undertaking.
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Speaker 2: It requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to open not
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Speaker 2: just your home but your heart. And sometimes even that
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Speaker 2: isn't enough. Autumn reflects on those early conversations. Josh and
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Speaker 2: I had spoken about fostering many times throughout the years.
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Speaker 2: He and I had even gone to speak with an
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Speaker 2: agency a few years prior so we can learn more
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Speaker 2: about the process. I felt it was my calling. He
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Speaker 2: felt it was not his, But Autumn held on to hope.
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Speaker 2: I truly believed in my heart that if God gave
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Speaker 2: me this man to call my husband, and also gave
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Speaker 2: me this calling tugging on my heart almost daily, that
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Speaker 2: away would eventually be made. Years past, tension simmered between them,
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Speaker 2: Autumn's dream, third but never forgotten, continued to pulse beneath
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Speaker 2: the surface of their otherwise happy marriage, And then, on
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Speaker 2: July fifteenth, twenty nineteen, came the text that would change everything. Hey, Autumn,
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Speaker 2: are you still interested in foster care? Remember when you
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Speaker 2: said to let you know when I thought I had
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Speaker 2: someone who would potentially be a good fit. Well, I
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Speaker 2: think I have someone. In that moment, time stood still.
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Speaker 2: Autumn's heart raced as she read and reread the message.
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Speaker 2: This was it, the moment she'd been waiting for. But
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Speaker 2: was she ready? Was her family ready? The girl's name
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Speaker 2: was Mara, sixteen years old, child on the cusp of adulthood,
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Speaker 2: who had already experienced more pain and disappointment than most
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Speaker 2: people face in a lifetime. She sat in a shelter,
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Speaker 2: surrounded by other forgotten children, one more stop in a
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Speaker 2: journey that already stretched far too long, and As Autumn
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Speaker 2: absorbed this information, a mix of emotions washed over her. Excitement, sure,
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Speaker 2: but also fear doubt. What if Josh was right? What
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Speaker 2: if this was too much for their family to handle.
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Speaker 2: But beneath those swirling thoughts, a quiet certainty began to
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Speaker 2: take root. This was meant to be somehow she knew it.
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Speaker 2: Just days after receiving the text, Autumn attended a Rachel
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Speaker 2: Hollis conference. There, attendees were asked to write down some
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Speaker 2: of their dreams and goals in life. At the top
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Speaker 2: of Autumn's list was fostering The whole weekend, Autumn recalls,
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Speaker 2: all I could think about was this teenage girl sitting
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Speaker 2: in a shelter without a place to call home. I
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Speaker 2: just knew we were supposed to welcome her into our
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Speaker 2: hearts and home, But there was still one obstacle getting
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Speaker 2: Josh on board. The thought of broaching the subject again
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Speaker 2: filled Autumn with a mix of hope and trepidation. How
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Speaker 2: could she convey the depth of her conviction, How could
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Speaker 2: she help Josh see what she saw? What she desperately
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Speaker 2: saw not just a troubled teen, but a child in
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Speaker 2: need of love and stability. The weekend after the conference
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Speaker 2: Autumn and Josh attended church. It was during their annual
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Speaker 2: at the movie series, where the pastor uses film clips
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Speaker 2: to create a theme and message. In that particular weekend,
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Speaker 2: the movie just happened to be Instant Family, a film
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Speaker 2: about fostering and adoption. Autumn, having already seen the movie,
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Speaker 2: found herself uncontrollably sobbing from the very first frame, And
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Speaker 2: as the story unfolded on screen, a story of fear, hope,
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Speaker 2: and unconditional love, something shifted in Josh. He watched not
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Speaker 2: just the movie, but his wife, seeing her transform before
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Speaker 2: his eyes. It was in that moment Josh realized as
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Speaker 2: the depth of Autumn's calling. This wasn't a whim or
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Speaker 2: a phase. This was a part of who she was,
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Speaker 2: as essential to her being as breathing. And as those
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Speaker 2: credits rolled, Josh turned to Autumn, his eyes shining with
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Speaker 2: a new understanding. Okay, he said softly, his voice cracking
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Speaker 2: with emotion. Let's do this. Six days later, Autumn drove
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Speaker 2: to the shelter to meet Mara for the first time.
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Speaker 2: Her heart pounded as she walked through the doors, wondering
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Speaker 2: what this girl would be like, would they even connect,
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Speaker 2: would Marra even want to consider living with them. As
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Speaker 2: they sat in Autumn's car, Mara began to share a story.
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Speaker 2: She spoke of entering the foster care system, of all
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Speaker 2: the different homes she had been in, of the experiences
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Speaker 2: that had shaped her young life. And as she spoke,
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Speaker 2: she picked at her skin, a nervous habit Autumn recognized
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Speaker 2: in herself. I heard for her, Autumn remembers, tears welling
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Speaker 2: up in her eyes. I wish she had never endured
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Speaker 2: so many of the things she had in her young life.
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Speaker 2: In a moment of pure emotion, Autumn stopped Mara mid story.
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Speaker 2: I needed her to know we already wanted her as
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Speaker 2: part of our family. She says, she was already chosen.
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Speaker 2: Tears filled both the eyes as the weight of those
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Speaker 2: words settled between them. For Marra, who had known too
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Speaker 2: much rejection in her young life, it was a lifeline.
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Speaker 2: You're already chosen for Autumn. It was a promise to Maura,
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Speaker 2: to herself, and to the dream she had held for
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Speaker 2: so long. We had a good cry that day together,
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Speaker 2: Autumn recalls, her voice thick with emotion, and I walked
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Speaker 2: away knowing I was capable of loving this girl in
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Speaker 2: the same way I loved my other two girls. Three
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Speaker 2: weeks later, Mara and her caseworker arrived at the More
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Speaker 2: Home with all of Mara's belongings. The family was about
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Speaker 2: to embark on a journey that would test their patients,
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Speaker 2: expand their hearts, and redefine their understanding of family. As
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Speaker 2: Mara settled into her new room, a space hastily prepared
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Speaker 2: and painted colors of her choosing, the reality of the
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Speaker 2: situation began to sink in. This wasn't just about providing
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Speaker 2: a roof over someone's head. It was about healing wounds,
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Speaker 2: building trust, and showing maraa that she was worthy of
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Speaker 2: unconditional love. But as Autumn helped Mara unpack, a realization
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Speaker 2: hit her. Mara had been in the foster system since
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Speaker 2: she was twelve years old, and for four years she
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Speaker 2: had bounced from home to home, never knowing if she
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Speaker 2: would ever find a place to truly belong. Could the
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Speaker 2: Moors really provide what Mara needed? And how would Mara,
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Speaker 2: who had given up on the idea of adoption, respond
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Speaker 2: to this new chance at family. Autumn admits the first week, well,
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Speaker 2: it was a little strange. Mara fit in easily and
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Speaker 2: we all got along fine, but essentially we were still strangers.
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Speaker 2: So while I'd like to say that it felt comfortable
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Speaker 2: right away, that wouldn't quite be true. But as time progressed,
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Speaker 2: feelings of normalcy set in. Mara got a job, excelled
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Speaker 2: in school, and made new friends. She achieved milestones that
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Speaker 2: many take for granted, getting her car permit, then her license,
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Speaker 2: and even her first car. I remember the day Mara
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Speaker 2: got her license, Autumn recall's eyes sparkling with pride. We
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Speaker 2: surprised her with a used car, nothing fancy, but it
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Speaker 2: was hers, and the look on her face it was
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Speaker 2: like she couldn't believe someone would do something like that
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Speaker 2: for her. In that moment, I saw a glimmer of
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Speaker 2: hope in her eyes that I hadn't seen before. The
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Speaker 2: dinner table became comedy central as Mara and her new sister,
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Speaker 2: Kaylee started cracking jokes. Almost every night. Our family loves
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Speaker 2: to laugh and can be a bit sarcastic, Autumn shares,
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Speaker 2: so maraa she fits right in. She's like the queen
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Speaker 2: of fast comebacks. The girl makes me laugh with her
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Speaker 2: incredible wit. But it wasn't all smooth sailing. Fostering is
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Speaker 2: messy and sometimes, as Autumn explains, essentially, you are bringing
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Speaker 2: a child into your home who has possibly called many
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Speaker 2: different places home. They've experienced many different rules and parenting styles,
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Speaker 2: views within the family, and cultural norms religion, so many differences.
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Speaker 2: There were challenging days, days when the weight of Mara's
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Speaker 2: past experiences seemed too heavy to bear, Days when cultural
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Speaker 2: differences led to misunderstandings, days when the fear of rejection
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Speaker 2: on both sides threatened to overwhelm the progress they had made.
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Speaker 2: Autumn recalls one particularly difficult night. Mara had a nightmare.
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Speaker 2: She woke up screaming, and when I went to comfort her,
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Speaker 2: she flinched away from me. It broke my heart to
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Speaker 2: see how deeply her past traumas affected her. But we
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Speaker 2: sat there in the dark until she was ready to
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Speaker 2: let me hold her, and when she did, it felt
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Speaker 2: like a breakthrough. But through it all, the Moors remained committed.
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Speaker 2: They saw help when needed, celebrated small victories, and always
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Speaker 2: always made sure Maran knew she was loved. One day,
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Speaker 2: during a family drive, Autumn had a moment of realization
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Speaker 2: as everyone laughed at one of Josh's corny jokes. She
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Speaker 2: caught sight of mar on the side of your mirror,
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Speaker 2: laughing hysterically. I was overwhelmed with gratitude, Autumn recalls, her
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Speaker 2: voice thick with emotion. While everyone else was laughing, I
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Speaker 2: was crying. I realized that our new normal was exactly
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Speaker 2: how it was meant to be all along. The thought
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Speaker 2: of Maura not being there with us made me sad
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Speaker 2: to even think about. I couldn't picture our lives without her,
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Speaker 2: and I didn't want to. It was in this moment
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Speaker 2: that Autumn knew without a doubt that Marra was meant
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Speaker 2: to be a permanent part of their family. But there
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Speaker 2: was still one crucial decision to be made, and it
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Speaker 2: wasn't up to Autumn or Josh. When Mara was twelve
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Speaker 2: years old, her parents permanently lost their parental rights, making
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Speaker 2: her legally available for adoption. But at seventeen, the decision
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Speaker 2: to be adopted was entirely up to Marra. At this
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Speaker 2: point in her life, she had envisioned aging out of
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Speaker 2: the system. Autumn explains she had given up on the
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Speaker 2: possibility of being adopted before even meeting us. Honestly, I
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Speaker 2: think she had given up on the possibility of people
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Speaker 2: really loving her for who she is. The topic of
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Speaker 2: adoption was a delicate one. Mara had been hurt too
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Speaker 2: many times before, and the Moors were careful not to
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Speaker 2: pressure her. They wanted her to know that their love
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Speaker 2: was unconditional, whether she chose to be adopted or not.
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Speaker 2: After many open and honest conversations, Mara made a choice
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Speaker 2: that would change all their lives forever. She chose to
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Speaker 2: be adopted. She chose to become a more. The day
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Speaker 2: Mara told them her decision, there wasn't a dry eye
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Speaker 2: in the house. Autumn recalls the moment vividly. Mara set
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Speaker 2: us all down after dinner. She was visioning, she was nervous,
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Speaker 2: and then she said, I want to be a more
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Speaker 2: for real forever. I don't think I've ever cried tears
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Speaker 2: of joy like that before. I'm often asked if it
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Speaker 2: was hard to bring a teenager into our home. If
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Speaker 2: I'm answering, honestly, the hardest part self was missing out
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Speaker 2: on the first sixteen and a half years of her life.
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Speaker 2: The hardest part is knowing the pain that she's endured
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Speaker 2: in her young life and knowing that I can't make
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Speaker 2: any of that go away. On May eighth, twenty twenty,
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Speaker 2: via a zoom call necessitated by the COVID nineteen pandemic,
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Speaker 2: Mara officially became a More. Twenty twenty was a difficult
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Speaker 2: year for so many with COVID Autumn acknowledges, but for
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Speaker 2: our family, twenty twenty was a time for us to
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Speaker 2: all grow closer to one another. Twenty twenty was the
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Speaker 2: year we officially went from a family of four to
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Speaker 2: a family of five. The adoption day, though virtual, was
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Speaker 2: filled with tears, laughter, in an overwhelming sense of love.
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Speaker 2: Autumn recalls the moment the judge made it official when
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Speaker 2: he said I now pronounced Mara a legal member of
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Speaker 2: the More family. It felt like my heart might burst.
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Speaker 2: I looked at Mara's face on the screen, saw the
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Speaker 2: tears in her eyes, and I knew this was always
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Speaker 2: meant to be. Today, Marra is thriving. She's working ahead
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Speaker 2: in school to graduate a year early, holding down a job,
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Speaker 2: and saving for her future. Motivated to one day help
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Speaker 2: children who have experienced similar life situations, she tells me
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Speaker 2: she will probably spend the night at least once a
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Speaker 2: week because she will miss us. Autum shares and while
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Speaker 2: some days I feel sad knowing that she will be
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Speaker 2: moving out soon. I'm also excited to watch her blossom
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Speaker 2: into an adult. I'm ready to see what this next
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Speaker 2: season looks like for all of us. She pauses, and
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Speaker 2: then she adds with a soft laugh. You know, sometimes
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Speaker 2: I catch her looking at old family photos, the ones
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Speaker 2: from before she came to us, and she'll say, it's
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Speaker 2: weird to think there was a time when I wasn't
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Speaker 2: a Moore. That's when I know we didn't just change
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Speaker 2: her life, she changed ours. As for the Moors, they
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Speaker 2: hope to continue fostering children. Autumn also has ideas she
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Speaker 2: hopes to turn into action to improve the foster care system.
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Speaker 2: I believe we can do so much better, she says,
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Speaker 2: not only for the youth in our system, but for
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Speaker 2: the biological parents of these youth that are most likely
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Speaker 2: a product of traumatic childhoods they never healed from themselves.
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Speaker 2: As we come to the end of this journey, I
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Speaker 2: want to leave you with a thought. Every day there
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Speaker 2: are children out there waiting for their Autumn and Josh,
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Speaker 2: waiting for someone to see past their trauma, their challenges,
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Speaker 2: their supposed baggage, and recognize the beautiful, worthy human beings
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Speaker 2: they are. Maybe you're not in a position to foster
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Speaker 2: or adopt, that's okay, But maybe, just maybe you can
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Speaker 2: be the person who sends that life changing text. Because
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Speaker 2: here's the truth. It takes a village to raise a child,
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Speaker 2: and for children in the foster system, that village needs
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Speaker 2: to be all of us. Autumn's final words resonate with
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Speaker 2: the power of her experience. Love isn't always easy, it's
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Speaker 2: not always comfortable, but it's always worth there. Marra has
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Speaker 2: taught us that family isn't about blood, It's about choice.
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Speaker 2: Every day we choose each other and every day I'm
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Speaker 2: grateful for the text message that changed our lives. Thanks
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Speaker 2: for listening to love what matter