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When Everything Breaks at Once SATURDAY (S5) S19:E1 · Inspirations for Your Life

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So again, welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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This is a series five, which means we're
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Series five, show 19, episode one, how people
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rebuild direction when everything gets disrupted.
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This episode of Inspirations for Your Life with
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myself, John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student,
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passionate lifelong learner.
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And yes, ladies, gentlemen, a published author now
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that I'm very grateful for.
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And what I'm going to do here, guys,
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is I'm actually going to explore with you
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what happens when life forces a full reset
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and people must rebuild direction from instability.
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And I think that's a hard thing for
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a lot of people.
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So this week is about one core reality.
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When systems break, routines, well, they kind of
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collapse.
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And stability, it just becomes non-existent or
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disappears.
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People are not just dealing with disruption.
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They are dealing with identity pressure.
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And I think that's a hard thing for
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a lot of people to understand that.
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Because people want to be right all the
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time.
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I get it.
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But they may not always be right.
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And I think that's a problem for, again,
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a lot of people.
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They think one way, but then they wonder
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why something else is that.
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And I will tell you guys, it's very
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important to understand this, all right?
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So they're dealing with an identity pressure.
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The pressure could be coming from outside.
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It could be coming from themselves.
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But ultimately, they're enforcing the pressure from their
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head.
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Because, ladies and gentlemen, when structure disappears, identity
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is, well, exposed.
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And when your identity is exposed, direction must
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be rebuilt from the ground up.
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There is no set of shortcuts here.
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If you try to do shortcuts, well, you're
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going to be very unhappy because you're going
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to have to keep doing things over and
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over and over again.
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I'm sure you've had that thing, right?
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Where you learn something and you're like, oh,
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you know what?
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I don't know if I know that.
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So I'm going to come back, right?
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But you waste more time doing that, don't
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you, right?
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So most people, ladies and gentlemen, think breakdowns
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are failures.
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You know what, guys?
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It's just data.
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And that data helps us become a better
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version of ourselves.
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So the breakdowns are actually visibility events.
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They show us what no longer works.
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Again, it's data.
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A lot of times, people have a whole
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catastrophe of this.
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But really, it's data that we can use
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to reshape our life over.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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a lot of people to understand, that data
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is something that we can learn from every
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single day.
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But again, it's not the easiest thing to
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learn from, right?
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Because it kind of takes us down a
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few pegs.
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And that can be a real problem for
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some people.
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So I want to say that to you
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guys.
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It can be a problem.
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And you definitely can make changes.
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But again, it's not going to be comfortable.
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That's the thing I want to tell you.
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It's uncomfortable.
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So we have to practice getting comfortable being
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uncomfortable.
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So they show you what no longer works
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or what you need to cut back or
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change or pivot away from.
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And they reveal what was unstable.
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Right?
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If you're doing something, and it's not stable,
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you want to stop it so you can
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be stable again.
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Perfect example I can give you is I
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had a chair a while back.
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But I actually had the chair for a
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while.
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But the chair kept falling apart.
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And literally, about a week or two ago,
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I was almost on the floor.
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I grabbed onto the desk.
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And I kept trying to fix the legs
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for a long time.
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Had a few repair people take a look
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at it.
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And they kept trying and trying.
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And it kept falling apart like three to
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six months later.
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Now, they make the chairs terrible.
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It was a very nice, fancy chair, which
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I'm sitting on now.
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I'm very grateful that the repair people were
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able to fix it.
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And they actually had to make the holes.
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Basically, they had to make the hole bigger.
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And then they put this kind of device
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in there so that it could bite down
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better.
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But my point is that when something's unstable,
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you don't sit on it.
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You don't use it.
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Right?
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I mean, that was obvious.
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I used another chair.
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And they force an awareness where comfort used
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to exist.
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So yeah, the comfort of being able to
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sit on the chair.
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I'm not taking this for granted, ladies and
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gentlemen.
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But I don't want to be on the
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floor.
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Right?
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I don't want to be on the floor.
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So I think that's an important thing.
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So this, ladies and gentlemen, is where the
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real transformation begins.
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It's not instability.
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OK?
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It's not in that fix.
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It's in the awareness.
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I was aware that the chair was basically
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falling apart.
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And my awareness said, hey, John, don't sit
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on that chair anymore.
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You're going to be on the floor.
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I mean, I'm sitting on my chair now.
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And I can tell you, the legs do
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not feel weak.
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I don't wallow back and forth.
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But literally, I was sitting on the chair.
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And the chair was like trying to hold
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me up.
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And I could feel what was going on.
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I could actually feel.
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And I think that's an important thing.
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But I was aware of what was going
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on.
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And I responded to it.
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It took me a while to find somebody
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that could fix the chair.
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But we had a disruption.
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And so when systems stop responding, the first
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reaction is, oh my gosh, confusion.
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What do I do?
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What am I supposed to do?
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Right?
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And I think that becomes a big problem.
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So people try to repeat old methods, expecting
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old results.
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We said this before with Mr. Einstein, right?
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He said, doing the same thing over and
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over again and expecting different results is what,
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ladies and gentlemen, I've said this many times
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before.
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It is insanity.
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Yes, it's insanity.
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Doing the same thing over and over again
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and expecting different results without changing any of
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the variables or any of the ways you
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do it.
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But the environment has already changed.
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So again, sitting on the chair again, I
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would have had a problem.
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So why did I keep getting on the
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chair?
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Well, I kept trying to fix it.
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But then when it got to the point
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where it was of no return and basically
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the leg fell off the chair, I said,
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OK, that's it.
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We're done.
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I'm not trying to fix this anymore.
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We're definitely getting somebody else.
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And we're going to keep calling until we
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get someone.
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I guess there wasn't enough discomfort that I
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needed to do that because the chair was
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still working.
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Now it became, well, non-working.
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So that was a real problem.
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And what used to work no longer produces
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outcomes anymore.
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So I was tightening the screw on the
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bolt.
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It was like a hex.
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And I kept tightening it.
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But then after a few months, it got
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loose.
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And literally, I'm telling you, I'm sitting on
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the chair.
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I'll know within a few weeks or a
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few months the chair was getting loose.
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I'm not trying to wiggle on the chair.
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But I was literally sitting on the chair.
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And I could feel the chair changing how
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it was holding me up.
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And it was a scary feeling.
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And then to be on the floor, like
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I said, I was holding the desk.
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But I kind of went down slowly to
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the floor.
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And I was like, OK.
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And I kind of felt that I knew
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it.
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And I was like, OK, enough's enough.
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We have to fix this.
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So that is the first signal of transition,
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right?
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Routine collapses, like my chair collapsed, literally.
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And predictability disappears.
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There's no way to predict other than the
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fact that I'm going to definitely be on
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the floor, right?
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Yeah.
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So that's important to understand.
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And so control feels reduced.
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Our focus breaks because of the disruption that
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happened.
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The chair broke.
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I was literally getting ready to go on
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the air.
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And I said, OK, get rid of that
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chair.
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Clean it up.
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Let me pull another chair in from the
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dining room.
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And let me sit on that chair and
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move on.
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So energy scatters.
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And decisions slow down.
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And at this stage, most people will feel,
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you got it, ladies and gentlemen.
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They'll feel stuck.
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But the truth of the matter is they
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are not stuck, right?
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When I broke my Tim and Fib, was
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I stuck?
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Well, in my head, I was stuck because
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I didn't know how to piece this all
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together.
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I didn't know how long it was going
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to take.
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I didn't know what the steps were to
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basically go back and be able to walk
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again.
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Now, I had broken my legs before when
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I was a lot younger.
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And the process of learning to walk was
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harder back then.
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This was a little different because it was
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only the one leg.
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But there was still atrophy in the leg,
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not to bore you on that.
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But that whole feeling of just, you know,
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I can't use that foot for a while.
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And then not being able to put on
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clothes the regular way.
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I had things like breakaway pants like you
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use on a basketball court.
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And these are unstructured, right?
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An unstructured system always feels like failure because
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we get stuck in our own mind before
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it feels like an opportunity.
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We don't think we're going the right direction.
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That's basically the truth.
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We don't feel we're going the right way.
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We feel we're going the wrong pathway.
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And then we're not making any changes.
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And I think a lot of people out
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there want to say, hey, John, you know,
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I've been through this.
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I tried to get around it.
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But for whatever reason, I didn't get around
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it.
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And it's not that you can't get around
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it.
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It's the fact that you are basically going
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into panic mode.
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That's probably the best thing to tell you.
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You're going into panic mode.
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And when you go into panic mode, it's
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like, oh my gosh, what do I do?
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Like save me, right?
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Like, you know, like you're drowning if you
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know how to swim.
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And so I think these are important things
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for a lot of people, you know, to
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understand.
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But they're important, okay?
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They are definitely, definitely important for us to
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become aware of.
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So because our identity is built from repetition,
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that should be no surprise to all of
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you, okay?
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When repetition no longer works, identity no longer
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feels stable.
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Thus, we have an identity crisis.
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And that in itself creates an internal friction.
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Like, well, who am I?
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What do I do?
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Where do I belong?
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What's going on, right?
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That creates an internal friction.
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And with that friction, pressure starts to increase.
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And the awareness starts to, let's say, populate.
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Confusion forces an observation.
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Like, hey, what the heck is going on
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to me?
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Like, what are we doing?
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An observation creates the first moment of clarity.
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Like, something's not right.
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Like, you know, we're not in Kansas anymore.
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You remember the movie, right?
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Of the Wizard of Oz.
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Hey, Toto, I don't think we're in Kansas
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anymore.
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Or with the Goldilocks and three bears.
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I just broke the chair.
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Oh my goodness, right?
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So these are all very different things.
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Now, not full clarity happens at that split
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moment, guys.
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Not full clarity.
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Just enough to peak an awareness to begin.
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And so people all begin at different levels,
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right?
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But it's that awareness that helps us compound
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that builds through our sleeve, through our other
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tasks that we do.
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My awareness of breaking my leg and how
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to basically heal.
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Because you see, you don't just sit in
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bed, right?
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You have to get around yourself to live.
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So the awareness was, how do I live
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with a broken leg?
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I can't rely on everybody for everything, right?
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So I was determined to learn, how can
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I live with a broken leg until my
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leg gets healed?
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I knew my leg would heal, but it
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was just a very funny feeling, you know?
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And then like I've told you guys before,
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couldn't take a shower because you couldn't get
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the cast wet.
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So we were taking sponge baths.
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But when I got up in the morning,
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it was very challenging because it wasn't the
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quick take a shower and get going.
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It was, well, let me go have breakfast
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and then let me figure out how I'm
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gonna do a sponge bath and get ready.
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And it was a project because I still
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had full clothes, right?
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And the problem with this was that, how
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do you maneuver, I should say, with the
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leg and stuff?
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And so I used breakaway pants.
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And that was a big godsend.
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At least showing this adaptability, this is where
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it starts.
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It's not through big moves.
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It's from that awareness, but through the small
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corrections and shifts or pivots that we make
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in our life every single day.
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And so when something happens, it's not the
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norm that say, okay, this isn't working right.
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What should I do?
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What could I do?
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What abilities do I have right now?
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And that was what's going through my head.
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So I can get up.
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I can still use the other foot.
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I can hop, right?
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What do I do?
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So tiny adjustments in thinking.
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Another big project was when I got up,
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if I wanted to go outside, I went
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to the wheelchair.
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So it was a process of me kind
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of, and I didn't use crutches even though
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I had them.
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I didn't use crutches.
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I kind of hopped over to the wheelchair,
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got in the wheelchair, got all comfortable, got
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all set up, rolled out of my door,
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rolled outside and lived life.
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It was not easy.
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The tiny adjustments in the thinking, tiny adjustments
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in my behavior, my beliefs, but each day
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it got a little easier, right?
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You know, being able to get a sponge
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bath and do all this myself and be
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able to get breakfast and do things.
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That was such a feeling of accomplishment for
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me.
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You might say, gee, why?
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Well, if you lost that ability, just pretend
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for, I don't know, let's say for a
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month you couldn't walk.
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How would that affect your life?
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You probably wouldn't be able to drive.
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You probably wouldn't be able to use stairs.
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You'd have difficulty getting around, right?
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And maybe you didn't break your leg.
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Maybe you just had some type of issue
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that caused your leg to not allow you
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to walk, some other condition, worse condition.
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And although you were able to change clothes
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and stuff like that, things were still hard
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because the leg maybe didn't have feeling in
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it, right?
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So survival thinking activates first.
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That's how we're designed, survival first.
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But survival thinking is not the destination.
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A lot of people use survival thinking, but
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survival thinking is meant to keep us safe.
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It's not meant to make us successful.
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It is only the entry point because ladies
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and gentlemen, survival creates attention.
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It creates a very centered phase of awareness
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to what's going on.
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And the attention creates a moment for us
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to not only be aware, but to digest
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and to process like, what the heck is
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going on, right?
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And awareness creates a direction.
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Awareness creates a direction.
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And that noise reduces internally.
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So patterns begin to reappear.
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And suddenly it's like, okay, now what do
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I do, right?
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And I'll be honest, the very first day,
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it was like, how am I ever going
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to do anything?
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And then I said, okay, I've got to
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be positive about this.
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Because this entire time, I was lucky to
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have my cleaning lady come every single day
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to keep checking on me.
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But I basically got out of bed, got
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dressed the best I could.
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I mean, had breakfast, had a sponge bath,
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got dressed.
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Did work remotely with my clients through my
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laptop.
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And even went outside.
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And even went to what they call a
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certain kind of meeting for basically people in
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our association whereby they might've had an infraction.
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So we call it like a violation.
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And so there was a board that I
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served on as vice president.
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And I still did this while I was,
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let's say incapacitated.
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So as you know, and then going to
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the doctors, that was another challenge.
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Another God said, luckily I had this ride
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service that was able to pick me up.
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But still you had to schedule the ride.
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You had to go outside, you had to
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wait for the ride.
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They had to bring you up.
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They had to strap you in with the
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chair.
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And it was just, everything took longer.
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So you start seeing what failed.
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That's the first part.
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You start noticing what broke, right?
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In my case, it was my leg.
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And you start understanding why.
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Well, I knew the why.
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And this is where people either rebuild consciously
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or they repeat an unconsciously good or bad
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pattern.
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If they repeat a good pattern, well, they're
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on their way to recovery.
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And remember, it's not just recovery of your
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leg.
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It's recovery of your mind, body, and spirit.
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Because your spirit is just as important as
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your body recovering.
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Repetition of old systems lead to continued failure.
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Failure.
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So a repetition of the old systems.
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And I'm talking about systems, meaning things you
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do, algorithms you do, right?
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If you do those same thing over and
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over again and you break down, well, you're
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gonna lose your will.
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You're going to get very fed up with
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yourself.
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So it's important that you keep your mind
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in alignment.
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You keep your mind in a place where
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you can do things.
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But awareness of failure leads to either resignation
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or a redesign.
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And so when you discover you can't do
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something, like I remember getting to the kitchen
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and I could not get to the cabinets
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to get things on the top shelf.
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So I got a little device.
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It was like a pole.
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I had a hand, I was like a
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gripper.
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And so that little, I don't know, $20,
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$30 device made me, let's say, independent.
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Because the big thing was I didn't want
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to be a hassle to anybody.
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There were sometimes I had neighbors that would
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cook me breakfast or things like that.
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But I was okay.
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I could still cook.
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I could still do things.
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I mean, I could be on the one
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leg for a while.
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So even if I had to stand and
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cook scrambled eggs or something, I could do
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that.
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I could lean on the cabinets or something.
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I could even get a, we had like
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a stool.
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I could even sit on the stool.
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So I had options.
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And at this stage, ladies and gentlemen, clarity
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does not come all at once.
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It comes in, well, trickle layers.
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Small insights first, then a structure slowly returns.
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But again, the structure doesn't happen overnight.
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And people get disappointed because they don't get
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the answers they want now.
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That's probably the problem for a lot of
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people.
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And then ladies and gentlemen, you know what
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happens?
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The decisions become easier.
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When I learned that, you know, I wasn't
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going to be able to put on pants
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every day.
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That was going to be hard for me.
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And I learned what breakout pants where I'm
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like, oh, wait a minute.
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I could do the same thing like the
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basketball players do and put on breakout pants.
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And then they have Basie snaps.
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You just, you could just snap off the
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whole thing or just snap off.
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In my case, all I did was snap
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off the one leg and just snap it
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right on.
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And that worked well.
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So it was just Basie underwear and my
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breakout pants.
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And so the decisions became easier for me.
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And when something happened that was able to
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propel me forward, I got a really good
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feeling that I'm doing this myself.
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Yes, my leg is broken.
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Yes, I can't walk.
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Yes, things are going to take me longer,
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but I had a solution and I could
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still be independent.
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And so the focus sharpens.
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The direction starts to stabilize.
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Again, you're like, okay, I get some hope.
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What most people miss is this.
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Are you ready guys?
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You sure you're ready?
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Okay.
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Breakdown, you with me?
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Breakdown is not the end of structure.
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No, let me say it again.
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Breakdown is not the end of structure.
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Breakdown is not the end of structure.
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It is the beginning of a better structure.
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But only if you choose to respond correctly.
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Because a lot of people will have this
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ego.
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But I just did a couple of things.
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One, I prayed to God and the Lord,
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please give me the strength, Lord, to get
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through this day and to be able to
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live my life and not be a burden
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to anybody and to be safe and to
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be able to do the things I need
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to do and to allow people to just
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give me slack.
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I wasn't looking for sympathy.
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I was just praying that people would give
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me slack because I need it.
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And ladies and gentlemen, if you resist, you
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just extend and complicate confusion.
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There's some people on the earth that just
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want to resist everything.
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Why?
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It's in their nature.
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They're like thick skull.
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And so there were people that were nice
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to me, a lot of people.
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And there were some people.
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I had a neighbor of mine who wasn't
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the nicest.
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And he was not the nicest, but other
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people were nice to me.
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I had another neighbor of mine that was
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nice, but they were only being nice to
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me for, well, kind of a reason that
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what could I do for them?
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Which is sad because usually you don't do
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things for the reason that you're going to
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get something back.
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Otherwise, don't give.
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Don't donate your time.
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Don't give anything.
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If you observe, you shorten things.
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You make them easier because now you become
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awareness of the beginning and the end.
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And now you know where you went off
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track.
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If you adapt, you exit that mode.
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You exit that struggle, right?
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We could talk about this in the army
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or the military, right?
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They're taught to be soldiers and fighters, but
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they're told and taught to be very strong.
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And they are conditioned to be resilient, almost
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without them thinking about it.
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So the reason they do this is if
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a soldier becomes emotional, that training has to
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kick in immediately.
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Whether they're emotional or not, it has to
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kick in like second nature.
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Momentum does not return instantly.
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If you think it does, well, guys, you're
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mistaken.
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It returns through an alignment.
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Alignment comes between awareness, behavior, and an action
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that you take.
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Now, here's the kicker.
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Once those three begin to match again, progress
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restarts, okay?
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It's like an engine starting up.
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It doesn't start at once, right?
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Slow at first, and then it hums and
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it's consistent.
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And then it compounds.
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The example I wanna give you, maybe a
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lot of you remember the mercury vapor lights
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that were in a lot of gymnasiums if
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you had any kind of gym many years
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ago.
25:59
They had these lights.
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And so when you'd go in the first
26:04
time and they would turn the lights on,
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they would take anywhere from 10 to 15
26:08
minutes to come on.
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Now, if you turn them off, okay?
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And they're off for let's more than, let's
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say they were off more than maybe 10
26:17
seconds, and you turn it back on, they
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had to go through this whole cold boot
26:21
up process again.
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If you just turn it off and you
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turn it back on, that was fine.
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But it was off for more than, I
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think it was 10 or 15 seconds.
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It would have to go through the whole
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cold boot up again.
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And then, so now we're talking about the
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compounding, right?
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So discipline, guys, becomes the rebuilding tool, not
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motivation, not emotion.
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Discipline because discipline is what allows structure to
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form when emotion becomes unstable.
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Because ladies and gentlemen, your emotions are going
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to become unstable in your life.
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I've got to let you be aware of
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that.
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And structure is what stabilizes direction when everything
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else is uncertain or it becomes unreliable.
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Focus becomes more important than the speed because
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speed without structure recreates chaos.
27:04
But focus within structure creates progress.
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Focus within a structure creates progress.
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Like if you're taking a subject at school,
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focus within a curriculum creates progress, creates a
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path for knowledge, for learning.
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So attentive people and attention becomes selective.
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Energy becomes intentional and decisions become simplified.
27:30
As clarity returns, identity begins to rebuild.
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Not the old identity that you had, but
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a revised version shaped by experience.
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Stronger patterns, stronger awareness, stronger decision-making, and
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less reaction, more intention.
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Eventually, something important happens and you stop trying
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to restore what was and start building what
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works.
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That shift is the real turning point.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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Have a great one, everyone, and be well.