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35,000 Decisions a Day, And Most Are Destroying You || Masterminds Podcast EP45 · Masterminds Podcast

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SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Masterminds Podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: My name is Richie Mantor, and I'm your tour guide on this ever exciting journey to sharpen your most powerful tool, your mind.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, today is an episode that we talk about something very, very key and important that most people take for granted.
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SPEAKER_00: Decision making.
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SPEAKER_00: You see, life is a series of choices.
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SPEAKER_00: Life is not about luck, life is about intentionality.
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SPEAKER_00: What we don't notice is that we are consistently taking decisions that shape our lives, shapes our future, shapes our journey, whether you are aware of it or not.
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SPEAKER_00: For instance, did you know that every person averagely takes 35,000 decisions in one day?
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SPEAKER_00: So, how can you assume that you are where you are by luck?
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SPEAKER_00: How can you not realize that the decisions that you are taking all the time, every single day, just think about the compound effect of 35,000 decisions every day.
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SPEAKER_00: Those decisions that you are taking is what has led you to where you are right now and is what is going to take you to the next step when you make better decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: So the key to success, the key to a better life is learning how to take better decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: So in this episode, we're going to go through the kind of decisions you make, the lessons you can learn from the decisions, and how to make better decisions for a better life.
1:28
SPEAKER_00: Before we continue, I just want to remind you that on this journey, on this short life that we have here, one of the most important things, one of the things that will help you to truly enjoy life is to build wealth.
1:41
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1:44
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2:03
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2:14
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2:17
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2:24
SPEAKER_00: So so many people spend a lot of time trying to develop new skills, trying to learn something, acquire some knowledge and everything, and abandon the important skill of how to make a decision.
2:38
SPEAKER_00: And it's a skill that can be learned the same way you can learn how to play football, how to play a guitar, how to whistle.
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SPEAKER_00: You can learn the skill of decision making.
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SPEAKER_00: Because one wise thing I heard is that the only way to know if a decision was right was in hindsight.
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SPEAKER_00: So you need to start studying the decisions that you make.
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SPEAKER_00: You need to pay attention to when I made this decision, what outcome did I get?
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SPEAKER_00: Then through that, you are able to make better decisions the next time.
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SPEAKER_00: Every single thing that we've learned in this life is by learning how to take the right decisions when we took the wrong ones before.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's say when you were a baby and you wanted to learn how to walk.
3:21
SPEAKER_00: You had to learn how to crawl, you had to try.
3:24
SPEAKER_00: You had to, I mean, you looked at adults and thought, let me stand up.
3:28
SPEAKER_00: You tried, you fell down.
3:29
SPEAKER_00: Then you realize, okay, let me put this leg first, let me do this.
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SPEAKER_00: All those decisions that you keep making based on the mistakes you made, the wrong choices you made previously, are what help you grow.
3:42
SPEAKER_00: So you have to develop that skill by being intentional about it.
3:46
SPEAKER_00: The moment you start to shift your mindset to realize that you are consciously making these decisions every single day, you will start to get better at making decisions.
3:58
SPEAKER_00: Nobody's perfect.
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SPEAKER_00: You are never going to make all the right decisions.
4:02
SPEAKER_00: But you start to see a pattern.
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SPEAKER_00: You start to see that, okay, when I talk to my friends this way, this is the result I get.
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SPEAKER_00: When I eat at this time of the night, this is what happens to me in the morning.
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SPEAKER_00: When I wake up at this time, this is how I feel.
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SPEAKER_00: Once you start to pay more attention to the decisions you are making and how it's affecting your life, you will start to make better decisions.
4:25
SPEAKER_00: So sharpen that skill of decision making.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, two different people end up with the same opportunity, but the decisions they make determines how they utilize that position or that opportunity.
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SPEAKER_00: So don't just focus on opportunities, don't just focus on the things available to you in life.
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SPEAKER_00: Focus on what you learn.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's say two people get a job, they're doing the same thing at work.
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SPEAKER_00: One decides to learn management in addition.
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SPEAKER_00: The other one decides to just concentrate on doing their job very, very well.
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SPEAKER_00: In six months' time, there's a job opening for a junior manager.
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SPEAKER_00: And the bosses realize that, oh, this one did a you know six-week course on management.
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SPEAKER_00: He's shown leadership skills with his other colleagues and everything.
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SPEAKER_00: Give him the promotion.
5:16
SPEAKER_00: So that promotion was based on his decision to learn a new skill to improve your decision making.
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SPEAKER_00: Work on that skill.
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SPEAKER_00: So I'm talking about how to make better decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: But every time you're faced with a decision, you are confused on which choice to make.
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SPEAKER_00: You are confused on which direction to follow.
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SPEAKER_00: So you need an anchor that will help you on finding the right decision.
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SPEAKER_00: And the best way to get this anchor is to set long-term goals.
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SPEAKER_00: So now you decide who you want to be in the end.
5:53
SPEAKER_00: You know, I learned one very valuable thing from Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
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SPEAKER_00: They said, write your eulogy at your funeral.
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SPEAKER_00: Write how you want to be remembered at the end of this journey.
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SPEAKER_00: If you want to be remembered as a kind, intelligent, you know, hardworking, impactful, whatever, whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: Look at the adjectives you want to be described as.
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SPEAKER_00: That becomes your long-term goal.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, once you know who you want to be at the end, every decision you take in the short term needs to align with your long-term goal.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's say, for instance, you decide that you want to be the most fun, remember that you want to be remembered as the most fun-loving person ever, as the life of the party, as the person who could make anybody smile, as that funny guy.
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SPEAKER_00: Then now, when it's time to decide between, you know, going to a seminar versus going to watch a stand-up comedy show, you decide and you choose the stand-up comedy show because it's in alignment with who you want to be.
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SPEAKER_00: But if you plan on becoming a financial advisor, becoming a guru who's going to help people through their financial crisis and you want to be fully financially literate, then when you have to choose between a finance seminar and a stand-up comedy show, you choose the finance seminar because that is an alignment with who you want to be.
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SPEAKER_00: So you set your long-term goals to help you make better short-term decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: Most of the bad decisions we make are because we've not set a long-term goal.
7:45
SPEAKER_00: Ask yourself where you want to be when you are 40, let's say health-wise.
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SPEAKER_00: If at 40 you still want to be fit, you want to be able to, you know, run a race anytime that you are thinking about, you don't want to be having health crisis and all.
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SPEAKER_00: Then when it's time to drink that excessive sugar, or when you wake up in the morning and you are wondering, should I exercise or not?
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SPEAKER_00: Or you are full, but you just feel like eating a little more, it becomes easier to make the right decisions for yourself because when you look at yourself in the future, you are a healthy, fit 40-year-old.
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SPEAKER_00: But on the other hand, if you don't care about your health, you don't care about the hospital bills, you don't care about the consequences that can come along the line, that one too is fine.
8:34
SPEAKER_00: But just know that your short-term decisions are what are going to compound to build that future you.
8:43
SPEAKER_00: All those, oh, it doesn't matter.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, life is short.
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SPEAKER_00: All those decisions you make will eventually affect future you, and you cannot go back and reverse it.
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SPEAKER_00: So to make better short-term decisions, always set long-term goals.
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SPEAKER_00: 10 years, 20 years, 30 years.
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SPEAKER_00: A perfect example is anybody, let me give you a simple financial goal.
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SPEAKER_00: Anybody in the world can become a millionaire within 20 to 25 years.
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SPEAKER_00: All you need to do is invest 20 cities a day.
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SPEAKER_00: That's all.
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SPEAKER_00: You just need to invest 20 cities a day.
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SPEAKER_00: And between 20 to 25 years, you will become a millionaire.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you have this in the back of your mind and you have that long-term goal, when you start working at the age of 18, start saving 20 CDs a day.
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SPEAKER_00: And it is guaranteed that by 43 you will be a millionaire.
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SPEAKER_00: But when you don't have that goal in mind, that is when, oh, spending this extra 20 CDs to buy extra chicken for my wache or buy plenty bull fruits, or oh, today I don't want to walk, let me take Uber small.
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SPEAKER_00: You will make those bad decisions because you are not aligned with being a millionaire at 43.
10:07
SPEAKER_00: So set a long-term goal to make better short-term decisions.
10:12
SPEAKER_00: So in the beginning, I mentioned that an average person makes 35,000 decisions every single day.
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SPEAKER_00: In fact, between the time you wake up to when you leave the house to go to work or go to school, you have already made over 2,000 decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: Even food, even the food that we eat every day, we make between 200 and 500 decisions on it.
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SPEAKER_00: What am I going to eat today?
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SPEAKER_00: Where am I going to eat it from?
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SPEAKER_00: When am I going to eat?
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SPEAKER_00: Do I want to buy it?
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SPEAKER_00: Do I want to make it?
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SPEAKER_00: What cutlery am I using?
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SPEAKER_00: Should I finish my work before I eat?
10:50
SPEAKER_00: Like there are so many small, small decisions that you make.
10:53
SPEAKER_00: There's something that we don't realize.
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SPEAKER_00: There is a condition called decision fatigue.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a reason why you get so tired getting to the end of the day.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's not about physical exertion because some of us have very calm jobs that don't involve any physical intensity.
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SPEAKER_00: But the decision making throughout the day, decision making is one of the most mentally draining processes.
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SPEAKER_00: So all those 35,000 decisions you are making is draining you.
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SPEAKER_00: So another way to make good decisions is what we call reduction of your choices.
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SPEAKER_00: So this is what I mean by that.
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SPEAKER_00: You know that when you wake up in the morning, you're about to make about 2,000 decisions before you leave the house.
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SPEAKER_00: First of all, your alarm rings.
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SPEAKER_00: Should I wake up or I shouldn't?
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SPEAKER_00: I'm tired.
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SPEAKER_00: That's the first decision.
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SPEAKER_00: Second decision: should I brush my teeth first?
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SPEAKER_00: Should I go and do this?
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SPEAKER_00: Should I exercise?
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SPEAKER_00: No, should I shower now?
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SPEAKER_00: What am I going to wear to work?
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SPEAKER_00: What colors do I want to wear?
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SPEAKER_00: Should I wear a shirt or wear trousers or wear this?
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SPEAKER_00: All those many decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: By the time you leave the house, decision fatigue has already set in.
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SPEAKER_00: That's why you get to work at 9 o'clock and you're like, hey, it's only 9 o'clock.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm already tired.
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SPEAKER_00: And you don't understand why.
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SPEAKER_00: So something you can do to reduce decision fatigue is make some of these decisions before the night.
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SPEAKER_00: Create, I mean, before the day.
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SPEAKER_00: Create a system.
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SPEAKER_00: For instance, like I mentioned, set an alarm.
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SPEAKER_00: But when you set your alarm, if you plan on running in the morning or going for a walk in the morning, make sure that your running shoes are right next to your bedside.
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SPEAKER_00: So as soon as you're getting out of your bed, you're just wearing your running shoes.
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SPEAKER_00: Pick up your toothbrush, brush your teeth, put on your clothes, out the door.
12:45
SPEAKER_00: It's not now that you're going to go into your wardrobe and hey, which which gym clothes should I wear today?
12:51
SPEAKER_00: Hey, these are my tracks.
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SPEAKER_00: Right now, they are worn out.
12:53
SPEAKER_00: All those decisions that you are having to make is draining you.
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SPEAKER_00: So put systems in place to reduce your decisions.
13:02
SPEAKER_00: There's a reason, if you notice, a lot of billionaires, millionaires, a lot of very wealthy people wear about the same clothes all the time.
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SPEAKER_00: They don't want to have to make those decisions daily.
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SPEAKER_00: It's a very stressful decision to make because when you're about to wear those clothes, you're now thinking about how it's affecting people, how people are going to see you.
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SPEAKER_00: Did I wear this the last time?
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SPEAKER_00: Hey, this meeting I'm going to.
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SPEAKER_00: Have I worn this there before?
13:28
SPEAKER_00: It's a lot of decisions to make, which can be simplified by either having someone make the decision for you, or you simplify the decision by having less options.
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SPEAKER_00: Now I'm talking about making someone make the decision for you.
13:43
SPEAKER_00: Delegation is one powerful way of reducing your decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't need to make every single choice.
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SPEAKER_00: Like we spoke about food.
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SPEAKER_00: Get an assistant, get a chef, get somebody who's going to make decisions for you on food, who's going to arrange the food for you.
14:03
SPEAKER_00: If you are working at a company and you have, sorry about interns and national service people.
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SPEAKER_00: National service people, you know yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: Get an intern to go and buy the food for you.
14:13
SPEAKER_00: Tell them you eat anything.
14:16
SPEAKER_00: Don't stress over it.
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SPEAKER_00: Reduce the number of unimportant, sorry to say, unimportant decisions you make so that you can have more cognitive power to make the important decisions.
14:29
SPEAKER_00: Because let's be honest, if this Tuesday afternoon at work, whether you eat the wache or the gobe, it's not a decision that is going to change your life.
14:40
SPEAKER_00: But that decision you are making at work could change the trajectory of your entire career.
14:47
SPEAKER_00: So once you're able to align and see where you want to be long term and identify the major decisions you are supposed to be taking, start reducing the other decisions that you don't need.
15:01
SPEAKER_00: Create a schedule.
15:02
SPEAKER_00: Take your time and put together a weekly plan, a daily plan.
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SPEAKER_00: One of the most important things in planning is not just the fact that it helps you be on point with your work, it also reduces decision making.
15:18
SPEAKER_00: Because you don't want to have to decide every 30 minutes what you are going to work on next.
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SPEAKER_00: Make that plan for yourself.
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SPEAKER_00: Put it on your calendar.
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SPEAKER_00: Let your alarm ring.
15:30
SPEAKER_00: In five minutes, Richie, prepare your mastermind's talking points.
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SPEAKER_00: Do you get me?
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SPEAKER_00: So that as soon as that time comes, I don't need to make the decision.
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SPEAKER_00: The decision has been made already for me.
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SPEAKER_00: So reduce decision fatigue so that you have more cognitive power to make more important decisions.
15:50
SPEAKER_00: Now I'm still on the topic of making better decisions.
15:53
SPEAKER_00: I know it's hard.
15:54
SPEAKER_00: We're all human, so we'll make mistakes.
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SPEAKER_00: So you need to create decision filters which you can use to guide you in decision making.
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SPEAKER_00: The first decision filter is, like I mentioned, your long-term goal.
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SPEAKER_00: Anytime you are faced with a decision, ask yourself: does this move me closer or farther away to my long-term goal?
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SPEAKER_00: It's a very key filter.
16:22
SPEAKER_00: So let's say, Richie, I've decided to do masterminds.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to impact people's lives.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to teach people what I know.
16:29
SPEAKER_00: To teach people what I know, I also need to learn more every day.
16:33
SPEAKER_00: So now when I'm sitting there and I hear that, oh, a new episode of Wednesday is out on Netflix, versus, you know, Bill Gates just dropped a new documentary on how he was, how he was able to build the success.
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SPEAKER_00: Or there's a new TED talk, and Elon Musk is giving a TED Talk.
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SPEAKER_00: I need to make a decision on what I'm going to do.
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SPEAKER_00: My long-term goal is to impact people's lives.
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SPEAKER_00: In that moment, the Wednesday that I was going to watch, no, how am I going to use that to impact people's lives versus listening to that TED talk or watching that documentary that would help me grow to help other people grow?
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SPEAKER_00: So your long-term goals should be the first filter on any decision you are going to make.
17:22
SPEAKER_00: Of course, please don't take what I'm saying the wrong way.
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SPEAKER_00: You need to have fun in life because sometimes that decision making, too, is I also need to relax my brain because I've had a long day.
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SPEAKER_00: In that case, go and watch your Wednesday like that, okay?
17:37
SPEAKER_00: The second filter is the decision you are making emotional or intentional.
17:44
SPEAKER_00: You know, our emotions are supposed to be a guidance system.
17:47
SPEAKER_00: Our emotions are supposed to tell us how we feel about what's happening.
17:52
SPEAKER_00: We are not supposed to make decisions based on our emotions.
17:56
SPEAKER_00: We are not supposed to react to our emotions.
17:58
SPEAKER_00: We are rather supposed to learn the lesson from the emotion.
18:02
SPEAKER_00: Let me give you an example.
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SPEAKER_00: You've been friends with a girl for a very long time, and everything is just friendly.
18:08
SPEAKER_00: And one day you're walking with her and she meets this guy, and the guy hugs her close and is holding her extra tight, and you start to feel jealous.
18:18
SPEAKER_00: What this tells you, the lesson the emotion is trying to teach you is that you have feelings for this girl beyond friendship.
18:28
SPEAKER_00: Because if you didn't, you shouldn't have felt jealous watching somebody else get physical with her.
18:35
SPEAKER_00: Now, learning this lesson does not mean you have to react to it.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean, okay, punch the guy or move them away or stop talking to the girl because why is she hacking another?
18:45
SPEAKER_00: No.
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SPEAKER_00: It's teaching you a lesson.
18:48
SPEAKER_00: So now you become intentional about it.
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SPEAKER_00: You ask yourself, okay, I'm developing feelings for her.
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SPEAKER_00: Do I want to be in a relationship with her or I don't?
18:57
SPEAKER_00: If I do, maybe I should make a move.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe I should ask her out.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe I should see how she feels.
19:03
SPEAKER_00: So you make an intentional decision.
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SPEAKER_00: If you think that the relationship tool won't work because it will mess up your friendship, then you say, okay, then I need to take my mind off it.
19:13
SPEAKER_00: Let me find a way to distance myself from those emotional feelings that I'm starting to build up before it messes up the relationship.
19:22
SPEAKER_00: So when you get an emotion, still take an intentional decision based on your emotion.
19:31
SPEAKER_00: Another emotion I'll use as an example because this affects a lot of people, is fear.
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SPEAKER_00: When you face fear, it does not mean take a decision to run away.
19:44
SPEAKER_00: It's just letting you know.
19:45
SPEAKER_00: You see, most of the time, fear comes from not having enough knowledge.
19:50
SPEAKER_00: Like, if you are supposed to go skydiving right now, you will be afraid because you've never gone skydiving before.
19:57
SPEAKER_00: But the man who skydives all the time, who knows exactly when to pull the parachute, knows exactly how to land, knows when to jump out of the plane, that man is not afraid because he has enough knowledge.
20:11
SPEAKER_00: So whenever you face a situation where you are afraid of something, don't take a decision based on the fear.
20:18
SPEAKER_00: Use that to make a decision to learn more.
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SPEAKER_00: So that if you are still afraid after learning more, then you take an informed decision.
20:29
SPEAKER_00: Like if somebody is talking to you, we're talking investment, and somebody says, Oh, buy stocks or buy cryptocurrency or go and do bets, whatever it is, and you're afraid, hey, what if I lose my money?
20:40
SPEAKER_00: Yes, you have a right to be afraid because you don't know enough about investing.
20:45
SPEAKER_00: So learn about investing so you can take an informed decision.
20:50
SPEAKER_00: So don't take emotional decisions, take intentional decisions after analyzing that emotion.
20:57
SPEAKER_00: The next filter is will this decision make my life easier or harder in the future?
21:05
SPEAKER_00: You know, when I was young, I didn't care about my health.
21:07
SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna lie.
21:08
SPEAKER_00: I used to just eat indomet at 1 a.m., 4 a.m.
21:14
SPEAKER_00: I don't care.
21:15
SPEAKER_00: Exercise was not a part of my life.
21:17
SPEAKER_00: Like so many things about my health I didn't care about.
21:20
SPEAKER_00: But as I started to grow, the adverse effects started to grow as well.
21:26
SPEAKER_00: I started to feel the repercussions of the wrong choices that I had made when I was younger.
21:33
SPEAKER_00: So I needed to start taking better decisions because when I take certain decisions, it makes my life harder.
21:40
SPEAKER_00: If I decide to sleep at 4 a.m.
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SPEAKER_00: every day, 6 a.m., and wake up at 8 a.m., it's affecting my health.
21:48
SPEAKER_00: If I decide to just relax instead of working hard, if I decide to chop all my money instead of investing, it's affecting my growth for the future.
21:57
SPEAKER_00: So every time you are faced with a decision, Think about will this make my life easier or harder in the future?
22:05
SPEAKER_00: The next filter is what is the hidden cost of this choice?
22:11
SPEAKER_00: You know, there's no such thing as a free lunch.
22:14
SPEAKER_00: Anything that you are getting free, there is a cost behind it.
22:18
SPEAKER_00: That cost can sometimes even be as little as your time or your energy, but it still comes with a cost.
22:26
SPEAKER_00: For instance, making a decision to sit there for 10 hours and doom scroll on TikTok and IG and YouTube, do you understand that you've lost that time?
22:37
SPEAKER_00: You didn't pay for it.
22:38
SPEAKER_00: TikTok is free, YouTube is free, Instagram is free, but you are paying for it with your time.
22:44
SPEAKER_00: Your time, which you could have been using to develop your skills, you could have been using to have valuable communication with a friend.
22:50
SPEAKER_00: You are spending it on free doom scrolling.
22:54
SPEAKER_00: So every choice you make has a cost.
22:58
SPEAKER_00: You have to ask yourself when you are making the choice, are you willing to bear the cost of the decision that you are making?
23:06
SPEAKER_00: The last filter for me is would my future self thank me?
23:12
SPEAKER_00: If you imagine yourself in 10 years, 20 years, and you look at the decision you are making right now, will your future self be proud?
23:23
SPEAKER_00: Will your future self look at you on this day in your life and say, Thanks, bro?
23:30
SPEAKER_00: You looked out for me.
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SPEAKER_00: Or will your future self be slapping you through the mirror?
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SPEAKER_00: You have to ask yourself those questions.
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SPEAKER_00: That last bullfruits that you ate at 1 a.m.
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SPEAKER_00: with the plenty sugar on it when your future self is taking his diabetes pills, will he be thankful or will he be angry?
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SPEAKER_00: That book that you didn't read because oh, I'm reading there here, I'm intelligent already.
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SPEAKER_00: Will your future self be thankful when they don't have enough knowledge and their peers have gone past them?
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SPEAKER_00: Or will they look back at you on all those nights when your friends were going to chill and your friends were just loitering about and you said, I'll stay home today and read, I'll stay home today and learn.
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SPEAKER_00: Which one do you think your future self will thank you for?
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SPEAKER_00: That is the choice you need to make.
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SPEAKER_00: Now, the most important part about decision making is learning from failure.
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SPEAKER_00: Right from the beginning, I told you that we only grow from failure.
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SPEAKER_00: We don't grow from success.
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SPEAKER_00: Succeeding is just learning all the ways in which not to fail.
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SPEAKER_00: So the way to grow is learn from your bad decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: You know, sometimes some people like I had this friend, you know, the days, the artist's life days, where we used to go to the club all the time, had to socialize and everything.
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SPEAKER_00: I had this friend that I would meet in the club, and every day when I meet him, like 11 p.m., he's drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking, my guy, don't you know your limits?
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SPEAKER_00: Like, couldn't you learn?
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, yesterday I took four shots of tequila and I got drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: So tomorrow take three.
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SPEAKER_00: Then the next day, take two.
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SPEAKER_00: If the three also got you drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: The fact that every day I'm meeting you, you are still drunk means you are not learning from your mistakes.
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SPEAKER_00: Because other people are coming out and drinking and going home okay without getting drunk.
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SPEAKER_00: We are all supposed to make mistakes.
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SPEAKER_00: We're all supposed to fail.
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SPEAKER_00: But you need to learn from your failures.
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SPEAKER_00: You need to do a self-assessment, you need to do a review.
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SPEAKER_00: When you get home in the night, think about all the decisions you made today.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, today I was going for an important meeting and I wore t-shirt and shorts with slippers.
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SPEAKER_00: And when I got there, I realized they weren't taking me too seriously.
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SPEAKER_00: So next time I'm going for a meeting, maybe I'll wear a suit and tie.
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SPEAKER_00: Or maybe suit and tie is too formal.
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SPEAKER_00: So you I'll wear shirts, you know, African prints shirt so that they know that I'm representing Africa.
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SPEAKER_00: Assess your decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: When you fail, you try a different approach, different decision.
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SPEAKER_00: If it works, great.
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SPEAKER_00: If it doesn't work, you try another decision until you get it right.
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SPEAKER_00: That is how you succeed.
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SPEAKER_00: You try, you fail, you try again, you fail, you try again, you get it right.
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SPEAKER_00: But you only get it right eventually when you are being intentional and learning from your decisions, growing from your bad outcomes into good outcomes.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody started out as an expert.
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SPEAKER_00: Nobody started out at the top.
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SPEAKER_00: Everybody started out as an amateur, everyone started out failing all the time.
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SPEAKER_00: You look at see uh you look at Cristiano Ronaldo, you look at Messi, you look at Ibrahimovich, and you're thinking, wow, these guys can play football.
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SPEAKER_00: They were always no, they weren't born like this.
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SPEAKER_00: They learned how to play football.
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SPEAKER_00: David Beckham used to cross the ball a hundred times a day after workouts.
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SPEAKER_00: After the team finishes this training, he would now cross the ball a hundred times a day because he needed to keep doing it to learn how to make better decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: Should I kick the ball on this side?
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SPEAKER_00: Should I angle myself like this so it curls?
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SPEAKER_00: How do I position myself so I can get to this part of the of the poll?
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SPEAKER_00: You have to keep trying and learning and learning until you make better decisions.
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SPEAKER_00: If you don't do that, you will never get better and you'll always get stuck in your own way.
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SPEAKER_00: So the moral of this entire story is the most important skill you are ever going to need in this world is how to make decisions because you are making about 35,000 decisions a day.
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SPEAKER_00: So learn that skill, take it serious, and become a true mastermind.
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SPEAKER_00: Thanks again for watching this all the way to the end.
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SPEAKER_00: The fact that you are still here tells me you are somebody who is ready to grow, someone who is ready to become a mastermind.
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SPEAKER_00: So please join the community, subscribe to the channel, and subscribe to the mindset that this is your most powerful tool, and every day we will sharpen it until you become the mastermind you deserve to be.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you.