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- 0:00Good morning, we are in some kutsali.
- 0:01Hey, did hey LO yay shave Dimita Nukharisla Shilu Shloba find out
- 0:07also her husband to sit on her bed.
- 0:11Even if she's not, even if she's not, she's not around also lay
- 0:15shave of salsa. Well, just with the with the
- 0:17bed. They say that she's out of she's
- 0:19out of town and when she's not around me, he's like, wait, she
- 0:22went away from there, whatever, But she if she if she's she's
- 0:27out of town or something like that, I'll go over.
- 0:29Also, they shave all salsa aurochemist the dentist and it's
- 0:33also to go ahead and to sit on a long bench, which can shake if
- 0:40it's not attached to the to the wall, so that if it doesn't, it
- 0:45doesn't shake. You don't feel the vibrations
- 0:48from one to the other. You know, the question is what
- 0:50about the so you know, what about you know, no, not that it
- 0:56OK, but it doesn't all right, OK, vibrations.
- 0:59I mean, you can that it doesn't mean it's a seesaw.
- 1:04You can feel you can feel moving a little bit.
- 1:06If you two people would sit on this bench here, you one person
- 1:10would move. You feel, you feel the the you,
- 1:13you feel changing, you know, moving or something like that.
- 1:17You know, I right. I mean, it doesn't have, you
- 1:19know, but Uncle Ponen, the question is, is, is a Shiloh.
- 1:24But what about the about couches?
- 1:28The always it's a if it's if it's a couch, which you know,
- 1:31which is is is not like it doesn't move.
- 1:35Then, you know, then it's very heavy and it doesn't move.
- 1:38So it will be OK, you know, but it but it's you know, it's you
- 1:42know, it just sort of depends. You know, it's hard to give an
- 1:45exact, you know, low plug, but you know, so couches are fine or
- 1:48not because it's probably to say how heavy, how they think the
- 1:52shoe or the big section. Yeah.
- 1:56And there's separate couch pillows and sectional couches.
- 2:00Each thing would have to be asked to Shiloh about in
- 2:03general, like a storm regular couch.
- 2:05You know, you can they're not necessarily so heavy.
- 2:09It's what you know, you know, it's not so much different
- 2:12unless, you know, if you go to a doctor's office often they have
- 2:15these little benches or the chairs attached to each other
- 2:18here, things like that. Those are definitely a problem.
- 2:21So ask me something which is not you know, you wouldn't feel if
- 2:25someone moves, it won't feel on the other side of the of the of
- 2:28the of the of the bench or couch or whatever the issue material
- 2:33Kisha other acrobastic Yoshi banana.
- 2:35There are those who are Matthew and someone else is sitting in
- 2:38between them. The pain Loyale him Ishto by
- 2:43Agola Ajas or Basina Ajas. You should not go on one
- 2:46carriage or one or or or one boat.
- 2:50You hold like rock there to you. If you're going stop for there
- 2:54to you could go the the Guinos Paradise in here to visit about
- 2:59him. Holy may yearly year.
- 3:02It's rough, but if they have they're going, you know they
- 3:04have to go somewhere, you know, in the car or top of the second
- 3:08or, you know on the boat, whatever.
- 3:10Let's talk motor. I'll be sure.
- 3:12I'll be sure who we ish to have Levada Levad she issue with
- 3:16their show eagles ever there right.
- 3:18So the the thing with the boat or with the is that is that
- 3:22something of these things? You know, it rocks.
- 3:23Obviously the boat we're talking about over here is not a cruise
- 3:26ship, right. That's partially that that we're
- 3:28not talking about that talking about something small, which you
- 3:30can feel the the the rocking a bus.
- 3:34A plane also is is not initial on this thing.
- 3:37It's you know, you have to be careful not to touch each other
- 3:40when you're sitting next to each other.
- 3:41You know, depends on squished, you know, depends.
- 3:44You know, some airlines you, you, you, you go in there and
- 3:47you feel, you feel normal. Some airlines, you get in there
- 3:49and you feel, you know, I don't know, sometimes they fit in as
- 3:52many seats as they can. And you know, your knees are in
- 3:55your mouth and your and your and and you and like, you know,
- 3:59sitting like this, you know, OK, you know, you play around to
- 4:03figure something out. You try your best.
- 4:05You have touch with your clothing touches.
- 4:07In that case you have you have to travel.
- 4:10OK, There's you know, you try your best.
- 4:12It's a it's a feel you try not to just can't touch you just you
- 4:16know, it depends. Again, the fear Indian if
- 4:19they're both really big people like Kobe is what to talk about,
- 4:22you know that you know, I don't know if it's asset and I'm not
- 4:26really sure how this asset applies in this case.
- 4:29If you set yourself up there. If they're, you know, two large
- 4:31people, then Kobe doesn't. Yeah, if they're but, but no.
- 4:38And then then, yeah, in a bus. They don't have to sit, you
- 4:41know, 20 year olds apart either. They're clean them up, see them
- 4:46on their own cheetahs, see them on Mac with that the that men
- 4:49and women never don't, don't sit together.
- 4:52See them, see them, see them. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
- 5:02You know, So I don't know. Listen, listen, if they're, if
- 5:08they're going for, you know, the there, there's kulos.
- 5:11But if they're, if they, if they, if it's not intentionally
- 5:15sitting, they're touching each other.
- 5:17It's, it's not like I said, if, if no, if they're touching each
- 5:22other, it's an issue, right? So what they say what they say,
- 5:30So what they say what the police can, what the police can say
- 5:33that they should put something in between her purse.
- 5:35So it's like so they don't, so they don't end up touching.
- 5:38They should put something in between to the block to touch
- 5:40it. I was talking, you know, even on
- 5:42a plane, they put something in between.
- 5:44Is the armrest enough? Maybe I don't know.
- 5:46I can't. I think the person has to judge
- 5:48for himself. It used to be also much more in
- 5:50the car, you know, many years ago he used to be like 1, like
- 5:53one bench. The seat belt, like it wasn't
- 5:55bucket seat wasn't set in the backseat.
- 5:57It's a little bit it's a little bit different, but again, a car
- 6:01is heavy and usually you don't feel, you know, shaking the
- 6:04actual bench. Even if someone like pounds up
- 6:06and down the car could shake the car.
- 6:08I don't know Aquapon. And if you go in the surf,
- 6:11there's what we make along. Again, usually they say you have
- 6:15to put something in between. Better if you can put a kid in
- 6:17between. If you have a kid on a plane,
- 6:19better put the kid in between And that's that's obvious.
- 6:23You know, a person like I said, ever class their own personal
- 6:27shy little fee what they you know, they're how large they
- 6:30are, how small they are and how tight the seats are and
- 6:33everything like that. You know the person has to has
- 6:35to judge above Lo Yishenima Benita.
- 6:39He should not lie down or sleep in the same bed with her in bed.
- 6:44I feel called F of the big day. They know you said this was a
- 6:47Gemara that that's why they the Elio Lenovo, you know and said
- 6:52hi. He was happy.
- 6:53This person, you know, lied because that's ulcer.
- 6:57That's why much ulcer is probably their hair girl and
- 6:59that they can't sleep in one. They can't sleep in one in one
- 7:04bed. I'll go have affiliation to call
- 7:07echo matzo dish. They asked my unit.
- 7:09Each one has their own blanket, their own pillows and their own
- 7:12bottom sheet. Everything like that.
- 7:14Ophelia and Shaifu, they mitais even if they're sleeping in two
- 7:18different beds or a mitais Nuggets of azoo ulcer and the
- 7:21beds are touching each other. It is.
- 7:27It is also because it's considered 1 bed now the set, I
- 7:35said the bottom sheet of topshed.
- 7:37No, but then the second thing. So then what's connect?
- 7:42OK, well it's a technical point because then the next two beds
- 7:47are touching each other, so it doesn't make a difference.
- 7:50So if it's one frame, 2 frame, whatever.
- 7:53If the bed, if the, you know, if you have two beds, you're
- 7:55touching each other, it's an action of like 1, like 1 bed.
- 8:00That could be it's one bed. I don't know.
- 8:02I get I'm an expert on all the beds.
- 8:04There are. If the beds are two different
- 8:07heights, then the aviation is room Lahaco, the discussion
- 8:11about, you know, let's say you know, one's on the floor and
- 8:15one's up there. That's all you know, let's say
- 8:17they have no, they have no space, you know, whatever.
- 8:19So, you know, so the 11 sleeps so the mattress on the floor one
- 8:23sleeps up even if it's touching the legs of the bed.
- 8:25The heart would be fine if they're touching the discussion
- 8:29if they're touching by the feet by the the two beds are
- 8:32touching, you know, by by the feet.
- 8:35So it's also an issue because opposite directions is an issue
- 8:42because they can see each other just for Truman says since they
- 8:45can see each other cover their hair.
- 8:47Good lover. If you're sleeping, had to, you
- 8:50know, sleeping in the same direction, then I guess you
- 8:56know, whatever it says, as long as there's a mashu that
- 8:59according to how Allah along there's a mashu separating, it's
- 9:02not considered 1 bed. There was a takana enacted in
- 9:06Europe 100 years ago, something like that.
- 9:09Everybody in Europe, I don't remember to have an amma in
- 9:15between the beds or enough that they can't just like reach out.
- 9:19Like, you know, if you have like a mushroom between the bed, it's
- 9:22you know that that's not good enough.
- 9:24Again in situate, you know. So you know, therefore, I guess
- 9:27that people have to try to figure out if it's impossible,
- 9:30ask Shiloh. Like I said, could be, could do
- 9:33different and you know, different heights different this
- 9:36I don't remember it's brought down.
- 9:39I don't know, it was a rub in charge, but I think it was
- 9:44Lublis. I think it was a Lublis.
- 9:46I don't remember everybody where they are, but I don't remember
- 9:49exactly. It's it's it's discussed in the
- 9:52in the place. Can they say, you know, they
- 9:55they made a separation and they said you should have a
- 9:57separation of an ammo, meaning basically they want to what they
- 10:01teach the they teach Masada and the other shouldn't arm.
- 10:05Should you know, you're basically when you sleep, your
- 10:07arm shouldn't be able to reach out and and and touch each other
- 10:10easily. I think that was the that was
- 10:12the Kavana. Obviously if there's other
- 10:15trucking and other correspondents in the service of
- 10:17the room and I don't know. OK, yeah, each person has to ask
- 10:21for Shiloh, you know what, what about his beds and what bed?
- 10:25And I, whatever they, you know, cousin Colony and you know, you
- 10:31know, and they should, you know, obviously try their best.
- 10:34It's also different if there's a frame, if there's a wooden the
- 10:36place you can talk, if there's a wooden frame, wooden, but each
- 10:39bed is in a wooden box, separate box, non box springs with a
- 10:42separate box. Also, it also does make it also
- 10:46does make a difference. And then to make it not one bed,
- 10:51the you know, the the Shiloh, the tequila, setting up the beds
- 10:55apart. That's this.
- 10:57You know, your first people, you know your first married, you
- 11:00don't have kids. So then fine.
- 11:02You know what's the big deal apart together, you know, but as
- 11:06you know, people's kids get older, there's what you know,
- 11:11you know, you start moving the beds every time.
- 11:12I know that the, the, my wife said that she, she knew a gun at
- 11:17it or she, she was a gun, that I think she was a gun.
- 11:19I don't remember. So that kid came in to gun
- 11:21everything gone, gone once and said, you know, oh, my mommy's
- 11:24bed. My mommy and Tati's beds are
- 11:26apart. I believe his beds are apart.
- 11:28Yeah. They came out a couple weeks
- 11:29later. Oh, they're together.
- 11:30And then there's a super where they're going.
- 11:33The kids are smarter. Kids notice things more than you
- 11:35realize, unless they're peep their pants.
- 11:37So kids aren't allowed in their room ever.
- 11:39OK, so fine. You know there are there are
- 11:41families where the parents room was.
- 11:44The kids aren't allowed there and they can do what they want.
- 11:47They had an idea. Listen to HRM even they have
- 11:50they have Yeah OK, but to say there but the but the but Uncle
- 11:56Ponny with the beds the bed still of of of of seeing as I
- 12:01did see one of the refreshments say that that that was better.
- 12:06That was always it was better. I mean yeah, you're talking and
- 12:09say it's A1 used to be 1 room apartments, right one room
- 12:13apartments without maybe my pizza, maybe not so very worried
- 12:16about the bed in the middle on the side and then put it by the
- 12:19wall. Whatever you are can say they
- 12:22set. I thought so.
- 12:23The one here said that the apostle you are can say they set
- 12:28better to be in the corner of the house.
- 12:30OK, now that you have a bedroom upon him.
- 12:35So this is you know, and bunk beds.
- 12:38You know the horror, the horror. It's a shy depending on the bunk
- 12:43bed, you know, the old Israeli bunk pens.
- 12:46Those had a yeshiva that like a guy would, would, would, would
- 12:49cough and the whole thing would shake it.
- 12:51What up? That might be an issue.
- 12:53But if you have a strong bunk band, it could be it would be
- 12:56especially if it's attached to the wall and it's that would be
- 12:58OK. It's more of a question of
- 13:00sauce. So not a question of 1M because
- 13:02it's it's really not fine. Zion low.
- 13:08Well, you stock it also the Shiloh about the about
- 13:14headboards, headboards of the the motor.
- 13:16They have one long headboard, but the beds are separate.
- 13:21It's also fine. That's not considered.
- 13:23You're not dealing with Hitler's two of a Tyra and different.
- 13:27And is it attached? Is it 1 clique?
- 13:29That's not that's not really the Shiloh, but Michael Punnin.
- 13:39I also shouldn't change beds in the middle, you know, in the
- 13:41middle of her, you know, of her, of her two men.
- 13:44They shouldn't decide, OK, we're changing beds unless it's like a
- 13:47permanent thing, like, OK, you know what?
- 13:49We're you know, not just like, OK, so now we're sleeping.
- 13:51Now you're sleeping there. That doesn't, you shouldn't do
- 13:53that either, Zion Lo, you stack on the field like Cavo.
- 13:56You can't even you can't look even at her heel Lo McCoy,
- 14:00Marie's Hussain, Shiva, nor in any other uncovered place.
- 14:05So most of these Tacoma Mccoymis are Guluyan.
- 14:08But your person, the husband's allowed to look at his wife's,
- 14:11the places which are gluing, which are open.
- 14:14I'm a picha Nana Miriasa. Even if he appreciates looking
- 14:17at her, look at her face looking, you know, looking at
- 14:19her, you know, her arms, her hands, whatever.
- 14:23It's fine that Misha has, you know, the famous Kula that he
- 14:27said that, that, that over here the the issue is, is that it's
- 14:31Bali de Urre. So in the case situation where a
- 14:34woman walks around, let's say the short sleeves or something
- 14:38come as or her hair uncovered generally durings Van Hetter,
- 14:42therefore is not going to be it's not called the those aren't
- 14:46even though technically copy the oil of the rest of the world.
- 14:49It's called Bakomas Hussain because she's supposed to cover
- 14:52it. Copy her husband.
- 14:53It's called Makomas Gluyen. It's not going to go and hear
- 14:56her. So Misha said there's welcome,
- 14:58there's welcome Mimico that that's called that she can then
- 15:01also during however she walks around during Van Hetter.
- 15:05She can walk around during, during Vanessa, right?
- 15:08It touches the ground. Is that?
- 15:11Yeah, that's what it means here. It's a lotion causal.
- 15:13It's a lotion causal. Usually.
- 15:14It's no, it means a cave. That means a heel.
- 15:18It's touching the ground. Yeah.
- 15:20I don't think it's the part touching the ground.
- 15:21It means they're heel. I don't know.
- 15:22I'll talk about the part touching the ground.
- 15:26And they like someone was talking about it was in the back
- 15:28of the heel. Actually, it's the bottom of the
- 15:32foot. I feel.
- 15:33OK. It could be I don't know, but
- 15:36here's just the lush. It's just the lotion, but that's
- 15:41the test. She's she could be as an Indian,
- 15:50she should have a special some special needle clothing.
- 15:53Not talking about the I don't know if this is bondish the same
- 15:57things that they wore the Shastuma Tahira that that we say
- 16:02that Musaq need a bushkin Asaha, that she has special.
- 16:05You know, it could be, but here we're talking a bit.
- 16:08You know, it's Rory. It's not talking about what she,
- 16:11you know, to it's just Rory that it's her husband and wife that
- 16:14she would, you know, if it's not, she shouldn't walk around
- 16:19with a sign saying Tommy, Tommy that she shouldn't do.
- 16:22She doesn't have to do, but she can whatever.
- 16:25It depends, you know, so the husband and wife remember, maybe
- 16:28she'll change her head covering something in between them that
- 16:31they that they understand. It's Rui.
- 16:33It's not a huge Tess, but Koshi hitirali skashib in Medusa and
- 16:38official Tisana al Baila, the Khazal, the koshi were not here,
- 16:44but they were not here. A wife to keep herself, you
- 16:51know, you know, to keep herself looking nice for her husband
- 16:57because you know, whatever, whatever, you know, whatever you
- 17:01know, whatever has, you know, you know, should be, you know
- 17:04that you know, they should, You know, obviously if her husband
- 17:08doesn't, doesn't care if she makes herself up all pretty in
- 17:11the house and whatever, and you know, doesn't care if she walks
- 17:14around in a housecoat and stuff. And there is my Hatter so-called
- 17:17she can, there is my listener, you know, but but it's mostly
- 17:21for her to make herself up. You'd call malachos Shaisha aisa
- 17:26labaya, neither aisa, aisa low, aisa low, both visiga saccos,
- 17:32Chester Lim zoccos, any malacha the woman can.
- 17:36A woman does for her husband regular burger malacha she could
- 17:42do, except for the ziga saccos. You can see there's three,
- 17:46there's three malachos for a woman that does for her husband.
- 17:53We're not going to get into should she?
- 17:54Shouldn't she? We'll just wait to have an
- 17:56answer for that. But going Kiba of of pouring of
- 18:02like making him a cup of wine or whatever, making his bat,
- 18:06pouring his bat Veragua Veragua. We're washing his hands, face
- 18:14and feet and and and and and setting up the setting up the
- 18:18bed. So here we're talking about so
- 18:20these three things any other Mallahu has motor.
- 18:23But these three things that are show Kiba are asar closely with
- 18:27Ziga Sakoshi or Sir Leems of Akoshi.
- 18:29Can't make him the fun of can't be Mosaic is can't pour him a
- 18:32cup of wine or water. So let's why it's Zika's.
- 18:40It could be also it could be also coffee and stuff.
- 18:42You shouldn't make him his cup of coffee as his you know, and
- 18:46we say therefore we can't, you know, like doing like a special,
- 18:51special thing for him. The fun of that's my mom points
- 18:55out that's that's the fun of but not the fun of you know is it
- 19:01would be would be OK and he told the fun of it and then and also
- 19:05to put it down in front of him on the table.
- 19:07Shuhan Ellen can pass a shoe hecker.
- 19:10He goes shit and he kind of all to the kind of all the Shuhan me
- 19:13at the at small. She put it down in front of him
- 19:15with her left hand all the kind of all the car put it, you know,
- 19:21put it on the chair next to him, all the kisses a field of
- 19:24Yagamina. They put it in a machine where
- 19:27they say even if it's a bit further away, they have to reach
- 19:29over to get it. It's also OK.
- 19:32There's also some sort of some sort of hacker to realize that
- 19:37so that they remember she's in need of, you know, Alice Nasser
- 19:40Alot Si Amit also the fun of it's also to make his bed in
- 19:45front of him. But after peace of Sadinim and
- 19:50because, like put on the we're not talking about we'll see like
- 19:57to put on like the nice sheet and you know, and and set it up
- 20:01nicely. There's that their Kiba about
- 20:03Hazaz Kakari. But to set up the bed used to be
- 20:07the beds were made out of different pillows.
- 20:08Wasn't one big mattress. It was pillows that they put had
- 20:11like a often they would have a board or they would have a like
- 20:15a woven rope. Base and they will put pillows
- 20:19in it. So I doubt now setting up the
- 20:21making the bed itself being setting up the pillows and the
- 20:25pillows and the and everything Shoot tie rock.
- 20:27Hey there he was sorry. She love the she love I don't
- 20:30know call motor. I feel you dare she even salsa
- 20:34some right. So even even nowadays setting
- 20:36the bed, making the beds, making it look neat like everyone every
- 20:40other bed in the house. It's fine if she does.
- 20:43If she usually does something extra for her husband, that's a
- 20:46special pillowcase makes a special something special,
- 20:49especially especially fancy. That's what we're talking about.
- 20:51That would be a a problem. You bathe Asura Lisae Lomayan,
- 20:57Liu Hodspun of Yoda Virago. If she can't pour water in the
- 21:01Klee for him to go ahead and to wash his hands, face and feet.
- 21:05I feel in August. But even if she doesn't touch
- 21:07him, feel like hey, mind suddenly, even if they're cold,
- 21:10Cause also the one of the malefias, which is their Kiba.
- 21:13It's not sure from here that the IT doesn't that their their Kiba
- 21:17doesn't mean is enough. She doesn't actually have to
- 21:20have actually, you know, she wants to be kind that didn't
- 21:23have an answer. She's actually take a cloth and
- 21:25wash his face as long as she puts it in front of him.
- 21:28It's also being a kind of not being a kind of woman to wash
- 21:30her husband's feet with whatever.
- 21:33And I'm not going to go on record and saying she should
- 21:35because but I'm funny. But that's yeah, we'll see.
- 21:39An Evanescer talks about the talks about that.
- 21:42But so, yeah. But if you are sitting up the
- 21:49bed, so, so flopping up the pillow might also be would be
- 21:57that would be yeah, fluffing the pillows.
- 22:00Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's just do your gimmel
- 22:05Chester Leems the glow just like it's also for her to do it for
- 22:11him. It's also also to pour her a cup
- 22:14of the oil fillish lock location Yayin also even to send her a
- 22:18cup of wine, whether it's a but only if it's it says that the
- 22:28Gwar says that he didn't he didn't send her kosher bracha
- 22:34and she and she smashed up his his wine cellar, all the barrels
- 22:39in his wine cellar because of that.
- 22:40So so the person generally shows also during it's von Hector,
- 22:49there isn't a special Indian to to give you rights to kosher
- 22:52bracha from kiddish. Now you know, to have to, you
- 22:55know, pass that to her the coast itself, not, you know, not let
- 22:58everyone know and that should it's a sign of Kiba.
- 23:01I mean Chaisim Haim may also call his Shasta EE about sorry
- 23:05but if they pass it around and everyone takes a sip from the
- 23:07cup and she drinks less Lumba then there's no there's no issue
- 23:12with that.