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#1744 Your Internal Sat-Nav - Harps · The You Project

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  Speaker 1: I'll get everyone. I hope you're greats Now if I'm
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  Speaker 1: doing my maths right, well, I'm recording this on the
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  Speaker 1: twenty third. I think most of you will hear this
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  Speaker 1: on the twenty fourth Christmas Eve or at some stage
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  Speaker 1: what I've decided to do over this period time. Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: I need a little bit of a break. I need
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  Speaker 1: I've done is I've got a collection of let's call
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  Speaker 1: some of it is from Life the podcast that I
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  Speaker 1: did for two hundred episodes last year at Daily Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: And I think it's kind of all apt and relevant
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  Speaker 1: for the end of the year, the start of a
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of education, a little bit of inspiration,
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of reflection, a little bit of provocation.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, because I'm me. But anyway, I hope you
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  Speaker 1: enjoy I hope you have a good break. I hope
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  Speaker 1: you find some downtime and maybe a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: time to reflect about as I record anyway this year
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty four and what you might do be create, change,
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  Speaker 1: learn in twenty twenty five. Anyway, it's always a pleasure.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate your loyalty as listeners. I appreciate your feedback,
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  Speaker 1: tribe that we've created over six years and one thousand
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  Speaker 1: and seven hundred and something episodes. We're always learning here,
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  Speaker 1: We're always trying to do our best. I'm always trying
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  Speaker 1: the wheel. But you know, the same principles and the
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  Speaker 1: same ideas and the same strategies and protocols to an extent,
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  Speaker 1: are always going to be relevant. Think better, do better,
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  Speaker 1: create better, self awareness, self regulation, self management, taking ownership
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  Speaker 1: of what we do and what we don't do. And
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  Speaker 1: as always, next year twenty twenty five, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: be cheering you on. Without further ado, here we go.
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  Speaker 1: So today I'm going to talk about a thing that
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  Speaker 1: I've spoken about many times on the You project, I
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  Speaker 1: haven't spoken about it for a little while. Is this
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  Speaker 1: idea of having an internal sat nav? We all have?
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  Speaker 1: This is a term I use. I don't know if
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  Speaker 1: other people do. I'm sure they do somewhere, But for me,
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  Speaker 1: my internal sat Nav, and I believe we all have
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  Speaker 1: a version of this. My internal sat NAB is really
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  Speaker 1: the kind of the combination of my values, my beliefs,
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  Speaker 1: my dreams, the things that matter to me, and my
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  Speaker 1: I guess intentions like who I want to be, how
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  Speaker 1: I want to be, what I want to do, be, create,
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  Speaker 1: how I want to live my life, the things that
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  Speaker 1: matter to me. That is kind of that is what
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  Speaker 1: makes up my internal sat nav. So for me, the
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  Speaker 1: internal sat Nav is kind of that wisdom that knowing.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost that higher level of consciousness that I think
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  Speaker 1: inhabits all of us where we know that we should
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  Speaker 1: do something or we shouldn't do something, even if we
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  Speaker 1: don't intellectually in the moment know why, even if it's
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  Speaker 1: not really perhaps a logical conclusion that we've arrived at,
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  Speaker 1: but rather it's a gut instinct. It's a deep seated
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  Speaker 1: knowing it's something that we're aware of from a cellular
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  Speaker 1: level up. So for me, when I talk about my
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  Speaker 1: internal sat NAB, I'm often just really that's almost analogous
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  Speaker 1: with me talking about my values, my values being the
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  Speaker 1: things that matter to me. I believe that when we yes,
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  Speaker 1: we need to use our brain, and we need to
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  Speaker 1: use our intellect, and we need to be strategic, and
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  Speaker 1: we need to make great decisions, and we need to
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  Speaker 1: be very aware and practical with choices and behaviors and
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  Speaker 1: actions and reactions. But I also think that sometimes we
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  Speaker 1: need to be still in present and aware of what
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  Speaker 1: is what do I know? What do I instinctively and
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  Speaker 1: intuitively know? What is that deep down kind of awareness
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  Speaker 1: or knowledge or truth that I am aware of that
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  Speaker 1: I need to tap into. I mean, I don't know why,
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  Speaker 1: but for example, for me, when I was young, I
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  Speaker 1: had an awareness do not even know why I had
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  Speaker 1: this awareness, but I had an awareness that boos and
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  Speaker 1: drugs were not for me. Booze drugs and cigarettes. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I know that seems like an obvious thing to say,
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  Speaker 1: but I grew up in a place where virtually everybody drank. Eventually,
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  Speaker 1: a lot lot of people smoked, especially at the time
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  Speaker 1: when I grew up, more smoked than didn't, including both
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  Speaker 1: of my parents. Both of my parents drank. Both of
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  Speaker 1: my parents smoked daily on both accounts, and more and
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  Speaker 1: more as I grew up, more and more people used drugs.
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  Speaker 1: And it wasn't that I ever had some terrible experience
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  Speaker 1: or some incredible encounter or some light bulb moment, But
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  Speaker 1: I always knew, and I had an instinctive kind of
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  Speaker 1: I guess understanding that if I personally this is what
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  Speaker 1: I think, if I ever opened the door on drugs
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  Speaker 1: or booze, I think it could have fucked up my
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  Speaker 1: life because I'm pretty manic, I'm pretty I can have
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  Speaker 1: an addictive personality. And even though I didn't intellectually process
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  Speaker 1: it like that, I feel like if I had ever
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  Speaker 1: opened that door, it would have been trouble, all kinds
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  Speaker 1: of trouble for me. So when I think about coming
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  Speaker 1: back to you know, what are my values? My values
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  Speaker 1: are kind of they're the platform, I guess, or the
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  Speaker 1: basis for my internal sat NAV. So for me, it's
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  Speaker 1: things like which sounds a bit naff, doesn't it, But
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  Speaker 1: it's true kind of service learning, helping others empowering others
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  Speaker 1: health physical, mental, emotional health, being of value to other
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  Speaker 1: people using my potential, being a lifelong learner, unlearning shit
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  Speaker 1: that I need to unlearn, but not wasting what I've
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  Speaker 1: been given. I feel like I've never been I was,
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  Speaker 1: never am not the person who is hugely talented. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't have incredible potential. I was not a brilliant student
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  Speaker 1: or academic. I was not genetically gifted. But what I was,
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  Speaker 1: or what I am is I'm quite driven. So I've
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  Speaker 1: always been excited about human potential. I've always been excited
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  Speaker 1: about possibilities. I've always been excited about what I could do, be, create, change, learn,
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  Speaker 1: unlearn if I got out of my own way. So
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  Speaker 1: your internal that NAB is for you, it is hopefully
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  Speaker 1: it's going to be the platform from where you make
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  Speaker 1: a lot of the big decisions in your life. For
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  Speaker 1: me and for most people that I've really kind of
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  Speaker 1: observed around this, when we have a life, and by
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  Speaker 1: that I mean the choices that we make, the decisions
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  Speaker 1: sorry the paths that we choose, the actions that we
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  Speaker 1: lean into, the relationships that we build, the words that
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  Speaker 1: we use when we have a life, which is consistent
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  Speaker 1: with and reflective of our internal sat nab, that intelligence,
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  Speaker 1: that wisdom. We tend to live experientially in a more
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  Speaker 1: aligned place. And what that means is if I could
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  Speaker 1: It sounds a bit weird and creepy, but if I
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  Speaker 1: could watch you, if I could observe you do life,
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  Speaker 1: If I could observe you do relationships and business and
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  Speaker 1: work and interactions and you know, self management. And so
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  Speaker 1: if I could watch you, I would have a really
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  Speaker 1: good idea of who you were, how you are, and
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  Speaker 1: what your values are. Now, if you were living in alignment,
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  Speaker 1: I could watch you without even talking to you, and
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  Speaker 1: I could accurately predict what your values are because how
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  Speaker 1: you live, what you do, choices, actions, behaviors, how you
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  Speaker 1: treat others, conversations, words, all of those things would be
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  Speaker 1: reflective of what matters most to you, your values. So
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  Speaker 1: what are your values? What are the things that for
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  Speaker 1: you really matter? So I think one of the great
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  Speaker 1: exercises that we can do is to hit the pause button,
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  Speaker 1: either metaphorically or literally, you know, find a quiet place,
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  Speaker 1: turn off the phone, turn off the computer, get away
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  Speaker 1: from the noise, get in nature, get by yourself somewhere.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter as long as you have the ability
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  Speaker 1: to be present and aware of the focus and to
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  Speaker 1: think about your current operating system. We all have a
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  Speaker 1: current operating system with your life, with your business, with
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  Speaker 1: your health, with your marriage, with your career, with all
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  Speaker 1: of the things that are the components of your operating
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  Speaker 1: system on planet you, and as much as possible objectively
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  Speaker 1: have a look at all of that stuff and say,
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  Speaker 1: does that stuff align with who I want to be
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  Speaker 1: and how I want to be? Is the way that
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  Speaker 1: I do life reflective of my values, my internal sat nav.
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  Speaker 1: Is the way that I do food and fitness and health.
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  Speaker 1: Is that reflective of who I want to be and
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  Speaker 1: how I want to be? Is the way that I
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  Speaker 1: treat others? Is the way that I manage money, and
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  Speaker 1: so on and so on, And that gives us it's
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  Speaker 1: almost like doing a stock take on our life. And
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  Speaker 1: when we can get that clarity, I mean, it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to get clarity. That's the other thing, because it's very
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  Speaker 1: hard to be objective about the thing that you're in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of, right because it's your life, Like very
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  Speaker 1: it's impossible for you to be objective about you because
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  Speaker 1: you're you. Possible for me to be objective about me,
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  Speaker 1: because I am me, of course, and that's a silly
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  Speaker 1: thing to say. But what we're trying to do is
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  Speaker 1: we're trying to find a little bit of space between
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  Speaker 1: the groundhog daaness of what we do every day and
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  Speaker 1: how we are every day and how we think every day,
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  Speaker 1: trying to get a bit of space between that and
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  Speaker 1: us in the moment and say, Okay, what's going great,
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  Speaker 1: what's not going great? What's that internal wisdom that, what's
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  Speaker 1: that intuition, what's that internal sat nav saying to me?
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  Speaker 1: What's going great? What's not going great? And what do
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  Speaker 1: I need to change? Right, We're going to take a
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  Speaker 1: quick break. We'll be back. I'm going to ask you
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  Speaker 1: a question when we're going to wind up. Alright, we're back,
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  Speaker 1: We're back, We're back. Lots to think about today. I
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  Speaker 1: hope that resonated for you. I think sometimes, of course,
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  Speaker 1: it's really important that we are logical and rational and
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  Speaker 1: strategic and practical creatures because we live in a world
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  Speaker 1: that requires that. But on a deeper level in terms
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  Speaker 1: of deep satisfaction and happiness and joy and the absence
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  Speaker 1: of anxiety and being the calm and the chaos, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: the question that we need to ask ourselves, and this
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  Speaker 1: is my question for you today, is what really matters
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  Speaker 1: to me? What really matters to me, like really really
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  Speaker 1: really matters to me when I get through all the bullshit,
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  Speaker 1: what really matters to me? And is my life evidence
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  Speaker 1: of those things that really matter? Am I living in alignment?
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  Speaker 1: Love your guards, have a great day, see tomorrow.