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The Red Flags Of Narcissistic Women · The Mental Healness Podcast

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What is going on today, Beautiful folks y'all know?
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Notice the tone. Today we're talking about the
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signs and traits of a female narcissist.
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Those dastardly devils. Oh yeah, I'll have my own
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experience with them. So this episode, look close.
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Look close to them a little hard, right?
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Look close to them hard. If you're new here, my name is
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Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnose narcissist.
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And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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Let's get it. So Boo y'all, the female
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narcissist. I've no look, I know I'm talking
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the way I'm talking about it right now makes it seem like I'm
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talking about like some type of a succubus, right.
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And that's how some of the you know, the fellas that I've
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spoken with, I've done one on ones with would describe them.
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You know, likely talk you talk more about the female
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narcissist. You know, if y'all notice in my
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content on my on my social media stuff, I I try not to use like
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gender pronouns. I always try to use like day or
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partner or whatever, right, Just so the the fellas, you know, or
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other women can feel, you know, included, you know, 'cause like,
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I know women are narcissist. I know women can be narcissist.
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I have experience with those exact same women.
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So this is not me trying to make it seem like I'm above the fray
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or anything like that. But yeah.
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And some of y'all have narcissistic moms, dads, there's
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narcissist all around, right? It really is kind of like a
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smorgasbord of toxicity sometimes when you're dealing
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with this personality type. So it's something you have to
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prepare for. It's something you have to be
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you have to be ready for as well, right.
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So as you're moving forward to understand that women can be
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narcissist too. I know most of y'all know that
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like you have narcissist mom, narcissistic friends, your
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bestie might be a narcissist, your boss, whoever it is in your
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life that's a woman could be a narcissist, right?
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So we're going to talk about the signs and the signs of it right
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here. You know, of course, the the
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signs of a male or a female narcissist, a lot of them are
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going to be similar, right? But they present differently.
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And this is my own, this is my own perspective.
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Let me get my perspective first, right?
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I truly believe that most women that are narcissist, I want to
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it's weird to keep saying female narcissist 'cause I feel like
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you saying female is just kind of like derogatory nowadays
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because of the red pill crazy shit.
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So women, I'll say female narcissist, but don't take a
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disrespect y'all 'cause this is I'm not trying to make
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dehumanize them, right? Women that are narcissist,
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narcissistic women, I'll say narcissistic women.
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I'll use it interchangeably. I'm not trying to offend people.
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I'm not people get, but narcissistic women to me
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typically are going to be more covert, right?
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They're going to be like the little sneaky snakes, the subtle
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passive aggressive narcissist. Now can you have an overt female
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narcissist? Yes, yes, you can have an overt
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narcissistic. Yeah, you can have an overt
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narcissistic woman that's out and about loud voice, just like
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a narcissistic man, right? Narcissistic person.
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But typically they're going to be covert, right?
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Typically it's going to be kind of wow, because when you're
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dealing with them, they're so subtle and so covert.
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They come off so sweet. They love bomb you.
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Typically they love bomb you with the buns.
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They bomb you with the buns with the cheeks.
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They cheek bomb. It's a cheek bomb, right?
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They bomb you with the cheeks, I'm telling you.
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And This is why so many people get caught up with them, right?
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This is why they get caught up. A lot of the men I do, one of
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the ones with, they just say, yeah, they put it on me.
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And I like, look, I get it. I've had a narcissistic woman
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put it on me too. God damn near drove me crazy.
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Trust me, I I get it, you know, And some of the women I talk to
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there are in women, you know, in, in women on women
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relationships, they say the same thing.
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Like, yeah, this is amazing. I've never had, never had it
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like that. This person we connected on that
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level right there. So they will cheek bomb you.
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They'll bomb you with the buns with the cheeks, right?
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They'll put it on you, you know, because a lot of Yeah, can they
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can they bomb you with money, care, affection, making you feel
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good? Yeah.
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They can do the same thing that narcissistic men do.
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But typically they put it on you.
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You know, they, they connect to you.
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They connect with you on a deep emotional level.
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And then they, they, they bounce on you, right?
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Beyoncé bounce on this shit. Hey, yeah, they bounce on you.
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Oh, but this how it goes. I'm just telling you they
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typically are covert. They're not.
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Covert doesn't always mean shy or passive, right?
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It just means that you're more subtle with it.
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They're subtle with their insults.
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They're subtle with their put downs.
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They're subtle with their manipulations or the
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gaslighting, right? They're super subtle with it.
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You know, you're not, you're not, you're not a real man.
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A real man would do that, wouldn't do this.
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And you like, what the hell? Who are you?
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You love me the real man. You look how weak you are.
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You don't make enough money. Damn.
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Who are you we gonna do? I thought you loved me and you
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like you got around. But this is yeah.
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I'm just telling you, this is the mindset.
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This is what goes into it sometimes.
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The more you're dealing with this abusive, manipulative
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person, the more you understand they're like, they're going to
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get into your psyche. And it's hard.
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Yeah. It's so hard to get them out.
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There's a lot of men I talked to who dealt, who dealt with
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narcissistic women. A lot of them experienced a lot
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of shame. Right.
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And like, some of the women who dealt with them as well, y'all,
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this is not gendered. Like, a lot of them experience
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shame. They're like, man, I can't
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believe I can't leave it alone. Well, I'm embarrassed that I
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keep going back. I don't want to go back.
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This is going to cost me my life.
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You know, this can cost me my job.
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This can cost me my sanity. This can cost me my safety, my
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peace. There it there's a cost.
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It's going to cost you, right? And they still go back.
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You know, if they say on, on average, it takes a victim of
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narcissistic or toxic abuse or domestic violence, takes them
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seven times to leave. That goes for men as well,
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right? That was for men and women.
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It takes up to seven times to leave sometimes, you know, you
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keep going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth until
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something makes you stop. You know, a lot of times they,
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they be wanting to make you stop.
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They make you stop on your tracks because they just, they
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do, they be doing too much. They get into your mind and they
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use you and abuse you and they do all this manipulative crazy
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ass stuff and it just make it can make your damn well, it
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really can make your damn head spin, right?
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It can make you feel like you damn like you're part part of
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the exorcist. You like you going crazy, but
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what in the hell is going on here?
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You know, but that's part of it right there, y'all, And that's a
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part, you know, I know it's, it sucks, but that's a part of
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being in a relationship with a narcissistic woman.
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They get so deeply embedded in her because they're so subtle.
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They're so passive and they just so y'all, they they, they, they
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have, I promise you, they, they when they dig, they're a little
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narcissistic talents in you. It's hard to get them out.
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It's so extremely difficult to get them out of you because you
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just won't love you won't care. You think you found your person
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and then they manipulate the shit out of you.
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They be cheating on you subtly, they be leaving you for taking
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everything you got. They be used like they, they're
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so subtle with it. Y'all.
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They'll use the kids against you.
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And like one of the things, another thing about narcissistic
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women is like, not only would they use the kids against you,
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like they'll they'll have they'll use they'll have kids
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just to trap your ass. I know we talked about a lot
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about baby trapping on the other side of the of the dynamic,
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right? We have women, I mean, we have
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the narcissistic males that baby trap you.
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They get you try to get you pregnant and make sure you stay
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with them, right? But then on the other side of
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it, you have the narcissistic women.
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They will absolutely pop out a baby just to trap your ass.
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No, they don't want a baby. They don't have any.
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They don't really have any kind of deep emotional connection to
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that baby. They just have a deep connection
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to you and to keep your ass bound to them.
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So they will absolutely do this type of stuff to you to keep you
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bound to him and make it can make you go crazy.
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You know they'll keep you kidding.
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I had a man last night on my stream.
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I might post this video tonight where he was maybe tonight or
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tomorrow where he literally she she literally had a baby by him
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and just wouldn't let him see it.
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He he was like I love my I love my baby.
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I'm trying to see my baby. Nope, but she really don't.
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We had no deep emotional connection.
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The narcissistic women, y'all, they be having kids.
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They don't they don't really care about right.
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They use their kids as validation.
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They use their kids as valid. If you if you had a narcissistic
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mom, you know exactly what I'm talking about.
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Your narcissistic parent might have used you as validation for
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their existences like they make you feel like you owe them.
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They make you feel like you owe them something like you may your
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narcissistic mother makes you feel like you owe her for
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birthing you, embracing you or whatever, right?
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This is what they saying. This is typically how it goes
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within a mindset of a narcissist, like a narcissistic
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woman. They want you to feel like you
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owe them something. So because that feel like they
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feel like they keep you there, they keep you stuck, that keeps
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you coming back for more and more and more.
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So as you keep it moving forward.
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Y'all understand that they all here they really are.
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You know, they're subtle. They use the you know, I'm just
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telling they use their bodies, they use their they use their
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actuality, their femininity as a weapon.
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Their little narcissistic nuclear bombs.
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They have bombs in their bodies. They had like bombs.
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They have bombs in the buns. I promise you they use the type
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of stuff to trap you in here and they're so subtly manipulative.
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They are very they narcissistic women are very good at
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triangulating people against each other.
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Express you, you, you see the, the caddy, caddy girls, I'll
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call them caddy, right? They, they call them, y'all call
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them caddy and they keep doing this type of stuff they like
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they like. It's very, very difficult for a
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narcissistic woman to maintain any type of long term
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friendships or relationships because they're typically
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running through friends and family members and stuff like
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that. So it's very difficult to keep
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people around when people hate to be around you, you something
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like like that. I don't like I, I really don't
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like to be around you kind of evil.
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Like shit, you a horrible human, you a horrible human being.
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I don't even like being around you.
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Damn, what's wrong with you? And you know, you like what?
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Nothing. So it's very difficult for
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narcissistic women to keep friends.
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A lot of times they'll tell you, yeah, yeah, I'll probably hear
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this statement before I'm, I'm better friends with women than I
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am with men. You'd be like, huh, Why is that?
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And you like, oh, nevermind. Oh, I I can understand that
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you're trying to be understanding, but they, they,
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they be telling themselves they like, people don't like being
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around them. They be trying to, they be
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trying to fuck they friends, boyfriends and husbands and
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stuff like that. So people don't want to be
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around them. Would you want to be around
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somebody who tried to sleep with your husband or your boyfriend
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or try to try to take your friends or spread rumors to your
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friends about you? This is what narcissistic women
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do. They will spread rumors about
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you to your friend group. They will try to torture you.
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They will try to be manipulative.
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They will try to hurt you and harm you.
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This is what they do. They enjoy some of them get a
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kick out of it. They like, yeah, you can.
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You can. I, I haven't heard of this
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before. You see them in you see them in
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movies. But there could be, I feel like
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there could be a sadistic narcissistic woman, right?
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They were they really, really can, you know, but like you also
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get a narcissistic woman, right, The female narcissist, they're
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up there. They can be addicted to social
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media. They can be obsessed with the
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social status. They'll do anything and
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everything to A to hop the ladder of success.
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Why is there they'll use and abuse people, they'll cheat with
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successful people. They'll just do stuff to expose.
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They'll do. They'll put, they'll put
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themselves in positions of power, power sleeping with
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somebody and threaten to expose them.
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They'll extort people for money, status, fame, whatever it is.
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Y'all see them all the time. You see what I'm saying?
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You see them all the time. They'll get there.
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This is not y'all, don't take this the wrong way, but
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narcissistic women are so obsessed with their appearances
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that they will do do a lot of bodily alterations, right?
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They'll get a lot of work done to their bodies.
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And I said to everybody who does this is a narcissist, right?
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But a lot of them are, right. I mean, not a lot of them.
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Some of them really, really are. And I said they will use those
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bodies, those new newly built bodies as a weapon.
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They care about how they look, right?
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They all, they weaponize their emotions against you.
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They can damn near cry on cue after they've done something
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horrible to you. They can cry on cue and play the
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victim and try to make you feel guilty about what they're doing
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to you, what they have put you through.
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Yeah, I'm just telling you, they can be Mean Girls.
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They're just like narcissist women.
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Just get into here. They're narcissist and you know,
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the average height of a woman is smaller than man.
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So they just they come in a little little smaller packages,
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right? They're a narcissist, but
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they're like a little the rumor doll, a narcissist like you
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crack it open. It's a little narcissist on the
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side right there, right? They will do this type of stuff
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right here, y'all. And a lot of them don't have,
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you know, it's hard for them to keep jobs and stuff like that.
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Just like kind of the follow the pathway of a male narcissist,
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but just a little bit more subtle, a little bit more
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covert. Like I said, they're very
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passive aggressive and manipulative.
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They use their words to harm you because they can't.
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And some of them will get physical.
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Someone will kill your ass, right Them will definitely them.
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You're trying to take you up out of here, but a lot of them are
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more passive aggressive and they use their bodies and weapons as
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weapons and they get somebody else to hurt you.
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You see this all the time. Narcissist women will sleep with
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a man and put the put them buns on a man and get that man and
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alive their husband or their boyfriend or something like
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that. You're like, what the hell?
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Why would you do that for a woman you just start sleeping
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with? I'm just telling you, the
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little, the little, the little bombs and the little nukes, the
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little narc nukes and whatever, right, they're just like male
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narcissists, but a little bit more subtle and a lot of times
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y'all, and please don't take I not keep had to repeat myself.
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People just just just take you out of context.
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A lot of times people are going to believe the women, right?
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Believe women. It's a real thing.
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It's a real movement, right? A lot of times people just they,
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they can make stuff up and try to ruin your damn life because
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they feel like you've wronged them.
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They hold grudges, they do not let shit go.
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They will try to ruin your life 20 years later after you feel
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like you've wronged them a long time ago.
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You ain't talked to them in 20 years but they still got you on
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their minds and they just cannot wait to get back into your life
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or cannot wait to see your ass again so they can ruin you.
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You know what I'm saying? They just plot me for 20 years
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and they see you like finally. But anyways, y'all thank y'all
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