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Vocal De Frag Episode 197 Who Are You In The Eyes Of Those Who Think They Know You · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: Enjoy that exploration. Hey's hero and this is vocal d
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  Speaker 1: frag vocal dfragging. It's the opportunity for you to ask
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  Speaker 1: the questions and question the answers. And I kind of
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  Speaker 1: giggle at that because this past week in the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: I was with a life coach, a motivator, an influencer,
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  Speaker 1: and I brought up that term dfragging. Shears, What was
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  Speaker 1: that again? I said, D fragging. It's asking yourself the
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  Speaker 1: questions and question the answers, because so many times we
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  Speaker 1: turn to other people for those answers, and what the
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  Speaker 1: hell do they know if they've never walked an engin
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  Speaker 1: your shoes, if they've never even smelled the scent of
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  Speaker 1: your toes inside those musky, dirty, old stained tennis shoes.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if nobody's feet have been in those shoes,
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  Speaker 1: then I think that your focus needs to be on
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  Speaker 1: asking yourself the questions and then questioning yourself with those answers.
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  Speaker 1: Just question it. There is glory in there. And I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to sound like a Southern preacher, because I
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  Speaker 1: am not, But there is something to be said in
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  Speaker 1: those answers that you give yourself and then you turn
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  Speaker 1: around and ask another question. What a pain in the butt? Right? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this is vocal drag. Something hit me while walking through
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  Speaker 1: this forest here in South Charlotte, a very bitter day today.
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  Speaker 1: Oh it's cold, the sky is very gray, like like
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  Speaker 1: a winter. But it ain't gonna happen. This is the
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  Speaker 1: transition between winter right into spring, and you've gotta get
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  Speaker 1: wintered by the nap of the neck and say no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: no no, you're not hanging out with us. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: lead you do what you got to do through a
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  Speaker 1: little tiny two year old fibit. Nah, ain't you ain't
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  Speaker 1: hanging with its? Well, the subject that came into my
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  Speaker 1: heart was based on who are you in the eyes
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  Speaker 1: of the people that think they know who you are?
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  Speaker 1: Whoa who are you in the eyes of the people
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  Speaker 1: that think they know who you are? We face that
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  Speaker 1: uphill battle every single day because we assume that we
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  Speaker 1: know our neighbors. We assume that we know our brothers
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  Speaker 1: and sisters, and you know, don't even go there when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to co workers and other people that may
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  Speaker 1: have heard you on the radio or have read something
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  Speaker 1: on your social media. You know, who are you in
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  Speaker 1: the eyes of those who assume they know you? What
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  Speaker 1: is your hidden craft? For instance, like I could talk
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  Speaker 1: about being a mobile entertainer of thirty four years, and
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  Speaker 1: unless you have been behind that control board and gone
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  Speaker 1: through the evolution of where we've been from doing forty
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  Speaker 1: fives and albums and cassettes into this digital age, and
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  Speaker 1: then you're performing until twelve midnight, you're getting home at
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  Speaker 1: three o'clock in the morning to be back up by
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  Speaker 1: six am. If you've never lived those shoes, who were
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  Speaker 1: you in the eyes of those who assume they know you?
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  Speaker 1: Because those people that assume they know you, oh, those
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  Speaker 1: co workers, even bosses, And let me tell you something
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  Speaker 1: about bosses. I have nothing against those who lead. If
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  Speaker 1: you lead, did you hear that. I have nothing against
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  Speaker 1: people who lead. If you lead, but if you stand
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  Speaker 1: around and you only bark out orders, that's not leading.
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  Speaker 1: What that is you're showing me who you were during
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  Speaker 1: your days of personal growth. You're saying, look, I didn't
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  Speaker 1: like it when they treated me like that. But god
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  Speaker 1: dang it if I'm not going to treat you like
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  Speaker 1: this because I know I got my stuff done. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you got your stuff done by choice, That's what it was,
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  Speaker 1: you know, get a calm down, the boss. I don't
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  Speaker 1: care if it did it did, if it didn't, it didn't.
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  Speaker 1: But then we get into leadership roles, not to lead,
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  Speaker 1: but rather to assume a position where we can tell
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  Speaker 1: people what to do. I have really come face to
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  Speaker 1: face with a lot of blind spots when it comes
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  Speaker 1: to true leaders in this world today, because everybody is
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  Speaker 1: following the leader in front of them. Who is following
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  Speaker 1: the leader in front of them because research says you
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  Speaker 1: should be doing this? And what the hell does research know?
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  Speaker 1: Because by the time it gets to the surface of
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  Speaker 1: everything right now, what is your research six months to
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  Speaker 1: a year late. Seriously, you can take a song, put
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  Speaker 1: it out there right now, people ignore it, but then
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  Speaker 1: in two to three years, they may come back and
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  Speaker 1: call it their favorite song. How in God's name did
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  Speaker 1: something like that happen? It's called personal discovery. It's learning
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  Speaker 1: what your needs are, learning what your likes are, learning
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  Speaker 1: how you're going to incorporate other things outside your four
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  Speaker 1: walls of self to create a stronger Because who are
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  Speaker 1: you when other people who assume they know you are
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  Speaker 1: controlling your issues or trying to tell you how to
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  Speaker 1: get by certain challenges in your life. Well, I would
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  Speaker 1: do this, Well, you're not me. So don't offer yourself
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  Speaker 1: unless you're gonna pay the bill. I mean, if you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna talk to me about taxes and pay my freaking
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  Speaker 1: taxes for me? Okay? Because other than that, who are you?
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  Speaker 1: If you're going to lead, then be a leader? Think
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  Speaker 1: about that? Who are you in the eyes of those
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  Speaker 1: who assume they know you? Who is your secret self?
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  Speaker 1: People don't sit in my podcast studio with me. They
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  Speaker 1: don't know what that lifestyle is like. So when I
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  Speaker 1: say that I have twenty two interviews this week and
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  Speaker 1: it's going to take me over a week to show
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  Speaker 1: prep for it, do you think they know what's going
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  Speaker 1: on now? At that point in time when they hear
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  Speaker 1: how much work is expected, all of a sudden, you're
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  Speaker 1: not that cool guy anymore. And yet I talk to
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  Speaker 1: podcasters all the time who go for the love of God.
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  Speaker 1: I swear to you, there is more stress today in
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  Speaker 1: podcasting because of the unbelievable hours that are required to
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  Speaker 1: do anything you can to get one listen, just one.
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  Speaker 1: Who are you when those around you assume that they
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  Speaker 1: know you, do you really need to bury your soul
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  Speaker 1: and let them on the inside. Is it time to
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  Speaker 1: unveil the wizard behind the curtain. That's a choice, and
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  Speaker 1: that's a question. Those are the questions that you ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: and then you question the answers. You don't give it
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  Speaker 1: to Tommy down the street, who's been your male boy
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  Speaker 1: since you were seventeen years old, and now he's got
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  Speaker 1: a new job. He's the assistant to the male boy.
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  Speaker 1: See we assume, right, Okay, it's called b fragging. Ask
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  Speaker 1: the questions, question the answers. I'm Marilyn