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S3 #10 Back to the Basics · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: It's a bunch of professionals. This is the Benn and
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  Speaker 1: Ashley I Almost famous podcast with our radio. I'm Ben,
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  Speaker 1: I'm Ashley. Hello everyone. Hey Ben, how you doing on
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  Speaker 1: this Thanksgiving week? I'm so good. My family's in town.
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  Speaker 1: I'm in Denver. I didn't make the trip to l
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  Speaker 1: A because it's time to spend time with the family. Right. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not in l A either. I'm in Virginia with
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  Speaker 1: the family. Yeah. See, I mean so so far, my
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  Speaker 1: family has been in town a few days. One of
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  Speaker 1: the best things actually about my parents being in town
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  Speaker 1: is they come out to Denver and all they want
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  Speaker 1: to do is work on my house. Me too. My
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  Speaker 1: parents do that when they couldn't buy places. It's the
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  Speaker 1: wildest thing. I uh this trip. They drove out from Indiana,
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  Speaker 1: they get out here, and it was in the first
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  Speaker 1: two hours they literally are having me walk around the
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  Speaker 1: house picking out things to say, this is what you
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  Speaker 1: can do this trip. This is what you can't do
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  Speaker 1: this trip, because if I let him have free range,
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  Speaker 1: they're just going all out and changing so many things
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  Speaker 1: about my little house. Oh but I love that. Every
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  Speaker 1: time my mom goes to one of my apartments, and
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  Speaker 1: I say one of them because I'm like thinking back
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  Speaker 1: in like the years. It's like every time I have
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  Speaker 1: a new apartment, she goes in and she's like moving
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  Speaker 1: around furniture and she goes to home Goods to get
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  Speaker 1: cute stuff. She's like, you need a rug in here.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, mom, you can go get me a rug.
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  Speaker 1: It is a love language. I think it is like
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  Speaker 1: it's the parents way of saying, you know, we can't
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  Speaker 1: be around all the time, but we're still your parents.
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  Speaker 1: We still love you, and we still know what's best
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  Speaker 1: for you, and we know where everything goes because I
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  Speaker 1: lose my own stuff all the time. Yeah. Um, well,
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  Speaker 1: well how is um? How is Guatemala? You came back
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  Speaker 1: a couple of days ago, Like what, Oh my goodness
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  Speaker 1: it was. It was really really good. I did have
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of disappointed. So I went to an
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  Speaker 1: island called Rotan, which is an island right off the Honduras.
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  Speaker 1: It's a beautiful and one of the most beautiful places
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  Speaker 1: I've ever been in my life. Um, and I scuba
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  Speaker 1: dive for the first time. Unfortunately. I went down to
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  Speaker 1: Roton to kind of get some sun, to relax, to
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  Speaker 1: kick back for a few days because there's been a
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  Speaker 1: lot going on. And I'm not kidding you. Actually it
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  Speaker 1: rained from morning tonight every day of the trip, and
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  Speaker 1: so I spent a lot of time inside in a
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  Speaker 1: tiki hut looking out at the ocean. Oh well, that
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  Speaker 1: sounds kind of tranquil. It was the weirdest part though.
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  Speaker 1: And this is this is a compliment to you, Ash.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm in Roatan and I'm getting one of those
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  Speaker 1: beach massages that you know, the ones that you know
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  Speaker 1: that people walk up down the beach say hey, you know,
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  Speaker 1: ten dollars for twenty minutes, can we give a massage.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gett a beach massage and this tour tour bus.
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  Speaker 1: So it's the roton is a big island for cruise ships,
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  Speaker 1: and so this cruise ship bus gets off as I'm
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  Speaker 1: getting this massage on the beach and these girls go,
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  Speaker 1: oh bit, hey, hey, they run over well and interrupt
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  Speaker 1: my you know, very calming, relaxed massage, which is super
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  Speaker 1: nice of them. Um. And what they tell me is
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  Speaker 1: they said, we listen to your podcast. We love actually
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  Speaker 1: so much. Can I say good? Good? So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: tell her. So I promised him that I would let
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  Speaker 1: you know all the way from Roatan, Honduras, people are
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  Speaker 1: fans of you. Ash. That is the coolest thing, and
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  Speaker 1: that's so cool. Also shout out to cruise ships everywhere,
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  Speaker 1: because there's nothing more in life that I love more
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  Speaker 1: than a cruise. Uh. Speaking of love, we have some
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  Speaker 1: interesting Bachelor news that I don't know a lot about.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna trust you and your and your you
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  Speaker 1: know knowledge of what's going on in the world to
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  Speaker 1: help me out here. So I have a note here
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  Speaker 1: that says that January Jones went on Cordon the Late
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  Speaker 1: night Show again and I was talking about Nick Vile
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  Speaker 1: and how he reached out to her people, but she
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  Speaker 1: doesn't know why. Correct here? No, Okay, So January Jones
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  Speaker 1: big Bachelor fan. Apparently she's a crush on you and
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  Speaker 1: Nick Um after you did the Um lip sing battle,
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  Speaker 1: I think they reached out to Nick to see if
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  Speaker 1: he'd be interested in also doing his own lipsing battle,
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  Speaker 1: but he thought it would be really funny if January
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  Speaker 1: Jones was the person that I battle because she's a
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor fan and apparently has like maybe interest in me.
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  Speaker 1: So I think Nick or like his agent reached out
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  Speaker 1: to January's people as we were talking about last episode, like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, we'll have my people call your people. You
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  Speaker 1: can set up this. You know this love right? What
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  Speaker 1: a weird world? What a weird world? And uh she
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  Speaker 1: she declined. She said, no, I don't want to do
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  Speaker 1: lipsing battle, and I'm and I think it's because she
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  Speaker 1: said she had like some concerns that he was just
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  Speaker 1: trying to embarrass her or like that it was just
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  Speaker 1: gonna be like I don't know. She said that she
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  Speaker 1: would like to meet Nick, but not in a competitive
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  Speaker 1: environment such as that, and not in ironment where she
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  Speaker 1: can be publicly humiliated on TV. Okay, so what wait? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the bottom line here is that it seems like January
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  Speaker 1: would be totally down to go on a date with
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  Speaker 1: Nick or you. I think if she was just asked
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  Speaker 1: flat out, Hi, January, my name's Nick, my name's Ben.
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  Speaker 1: I would like to go on a date with you,
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  Speaker 1: all right, that's what she's looking for. She's looking for
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  Speaker 1: to not to be rejected. She said, So, yeah, what's up.
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you just ask her? I think she's cute
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  Speaker 1: and I love her show she's on that Will Forte
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  Speaker 1: last Man on Earth Show. Yeah, why don't I just
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  Speaker 1: ask her? I don't know. I mean, I guess you
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  Speaker 1: can ask her right here, so you don't have to
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  Speaker 1: get people involved. Exactly what she was saying she doesn't
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  Speaker 1: want to happen is like this roundabout way of asking her.
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  Speaker 1: How um oh, no, it's direct. How would you do
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  Speaker 1: it if I were to bump into her? How are
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  Speaker 1: you okay? So I'm actually gonna use I'm not great
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  Speaker 1: at the first line or the first intro. Okay. I
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  Speaker 1: really like talking to people and going on dates, and
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  Speaker 1: I don't mind it at all, but the first line
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  Speaker 1: is always hard for me. So I got a little
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  Speaker 1: advice from actually my buddy Nick File on a good
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  Speaker 1: line to use when you meet somebody. Say, hey, you
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  Speaker 1: know what, January, I understand that you're way too pretty
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  Speaker 1: to not have a boy boyfriend, but if you ever
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  Speaker 1: happen to be single, I would love to take you
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  Speaker 1: off sometime. How is that That's nice, isn't it? So
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  Speaker 1: that's probably the line I would use. I actually though,
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  Speaker 1: just because we're on the topic and I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to forget um, I thought about my celebrity crush and
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  Speaker 1: I actually have I have one awesome who Sophia Bush. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that's great and we can do that. We can that. Wait, whoa,
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  Speaker 1: That's not what I was asking for. I was just
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  Speaker 1: saying that is that is that we're working on somebody
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  Speaker 1: who you could actually logistically get with, like not a
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  Speaker 1: Jennifer Anderson Sophia Bush as. I never said that I
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  Speaker 1: was like wanting to get back in the dating field,
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  Speaker 1: so like I didn't want. I was just saying, hey,
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  Speaker 1: like she's really cute, she seems really nice, she seems
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  Speaker 1: to have a great big heart. Um, she definitely seems
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  Speaker 1: like she has a big heart. She does. So I
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  Speaker 1: was like, you know what, that is a girl that
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  Speaker 1: I can admire. Um, so there you go, take it
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  Speaker 1: or leave it, Ashley and Um that that is my
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  Speaker 1: slavery crush. I like it. I like it too. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she has the best voice. You don't have to talk
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  Speaker 1: me into this. I already told you. Okay, Well we
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  Speaker 1: need to give an update on Jimmy Garoppolo because I'm
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  Speaker 1: getting a lot of tweets asking like, Ashley, what's your status?
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  Speaker 1: And well, Amy hasn't told me what my status is.
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  Speaker 1: I think that means that nothing's happened, which is fine
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  Speaker 1: because I think maybe we should just hold off for
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  Speaker 1: the next month and then we will revisit this when
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  Speaker 1: it's the off season. That is exactly what I was
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  Speaker 1: gonna say. It's very challenging for a football player during
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  Speaker 1: football season. Yeah, come February, well for him January, because
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  Speaker 1: the team's only one once. Oh they're terrible. Yeahs are
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  Speaker 1: terrible this year. Yes, so he just won their first
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  Speaker 1: game a couple of days ago. And Ben, please cord
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  Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong. I've been way out of the
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  Speaker 1: football loop this year. Did they beat my giants? I
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  Speaker 1: actually don't know who San Francisco be, but I do know.
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  Speaker 1: Uh that, Ashley, that was a really sweet comment that
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  Speaker 1: you just made about Jimmy saying, Hey, I want to
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  Speaker 1: wait until your life slows down a little bit so
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  Speaker 1: that you can focus. We can focus on each other.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's what you're trying to say. You already
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  Speaker 1: cut down like a girl dating a football player. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: very understandable. It's all that's my new thing. It's all
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  Speaker 1: about the long game. Oh well, I think I've been
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  Speaker 1: playing the long game my entire life. It's a marathon,
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  Speaker 1: not a sprint. Yeah, I know waiting for you. I
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  Speaker 1: know he knows about you, so you gotta keep us
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  Speaker 1: up there though. I mean, this is a really big
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  Speaker 1: deal to me, even to hear you know how this
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  Speaker 1: plays out, and you are right as I look it up,
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  Speaker 1: San Francisco, be your giants, Las ten. That was his
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  Speaker 1: there was their first one of the season and his
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  Speaker 1: first win as a starting quarterback. So I'm gonna let
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  Speaker 1: him ride this out and then we'll revisit in January,
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  Speaker 1: and hopefully by January we have been set up with Sylvia. Well. Hey,
• 9:15
  Speaker 1: speaking of big stories, we have a couple of big pregnancies. Uh.
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  Speaker 1: In Bachelor Nation. Ali Fatowski is announcing that she is
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  Speaker 1: pregnant with their second child. That's a big news for them.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, what a cool couple. I've got to be
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  Speaker 1: around him a couple of times, uh, and I've really
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed watching them be parents. They really seem like great parents.
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  Speaker 1: And along with Ali, you have Sean and Catherine, who
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  Speaker 1: are pregnant again. Um who you know, obviously one of
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  Speaker 1: the most successful love stories to ever come out of
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor Nation. So congratulations to both of them. So cool,
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  Speaker 1: so cute. Love the Bachelor babies and Carly is doing
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  Speaker 1: three months. Oh geez, that's why. Let me look at this.
• 9:52
  Speaker 1: See there's a lot of love. How many bachelor babies
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  Speaker 1: have ye all met? I haven't met a bachelor baby yet,
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  Speaker 1: which is so weird. But I will be meeting Emmy
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  Speaker 1: in January. Ben, have you met our next guest kids?
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  Speaker 1: I have? Yeah, I guess that it's true. Yeah, we
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  Speaker 1: have a next guest who is the o G of
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  Speaker 1: the Bachelorette. Trista Sta will be coming on this show today.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, come on, it doesn't get any better than Trista.
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  Speaker 1: Can you pick up better first bachelorette? Uh than Trista Sta?
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  Speaker 1: She has been uh the epitome of class through this
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  Speaker 1: whole process. And her and Ryan both have two children
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  Speaker 1: of their own. Yeah, they've been married years, isn't that
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  Speaker 1: And they live out here in Vale, Colorado, Colorado, about
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  Speaker 1: an hour and a half from me. I've actually been
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  Speaker 1: up to their house and they welcomed us in about
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  Speaker 1: a year and a half ago to kind of come
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  Speaker 1: in and hang out and see their family. Um. Just
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  Speaker 1: really great people, a really cool love story and in
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  Speaker 1: these Yeah you should tell Trista Ah. Yeah, I remember
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  Speaker 1: seeing Ryan Jaden Tanner's wedding, and I was like, that
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  Speaker 1: guy looks like he could play Superman. He is a
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  Speaker 1: stud and you know what he does. And this is
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  Speaker 1: a trist about it. But when I was with him
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  Speaker 1: a year and a half ago, we were sitting at
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  Speaker 1: his house and I was saying, Oh, Ryan, what are
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  Speaker 1: you up to this weekend? And he goes, oh, I'm
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  Speaker 1: running a race. I said, oh, that's crazy. So when
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  Speaker 1: do you leave? He goes, I'm gonna head out tomorrow morning.
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  Speaker 1: I said, how long is the race? Hundred miles? Hundred mile? Racist? Still?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think he's over forty or at least
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  Speaker 1: is getting close to it. The guy is an absolute stud. Um,
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  Speaker 1: how is that possible? Wait? A hundred hundred miles straight? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: don't you die? No, Astley, I don't think you die,
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  Speaker 1: hope and I hope you don't die. How do you
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  Speaker 1: trade to run a hundred miles? That's like my house
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  Speaker 1: in d C. Halfway to New York. Yeah, well you
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  Speaker 1: should start trying? How already make it? Hey? Uh? Not
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: to change the subject completely, but we are going to
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  Speaker 1: talk to Tristan a little bit, which I'm super excited about.
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  Speaker 1: She's great. Um, I want to hear Ashley Chris soles
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  Speaker 1: Um one of my good buddies, and you know, we
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  Speaker 1: all have been familiar with his his journey over the
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  Speaker 1: last you know, year and a half year and then
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  Speaker 1: kind of what brought him to this point today. What
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  Speaker 1: is the latest with him? I see he is now
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  Speaker 1: on social media. Um, is there any other updates that
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  Speaker 1: you know of? Oh? I don't know any others. I
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  Speaker 1: know that you guys keep in touch with him a
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: little bit more than I do. Just know that his
• 12:21
  Speaker 1: legal team is asking the court to dismiss charge against
• 12:24
  Speaker 1: him about failure to remain. They're fighting that charge because
• 12:28
  Speaker 1: he stayed and attempted CPR and he waited until the
• 12:32
  Speaker 1: paramedics came. Legal news. Okay, interesting, but yeah, he is
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  Speaker 1: back on social He had gotten rid of his Instagram
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  Speaker 1: for a while, but now it's back and he's been
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  Speaker 1: liking posts and commenting. I think so so Amy, What
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  Speaker 1: do you know about I mean, you are familiar with
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  Speaker 1: the situation, Like, what are the next steps here? What
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  Speaker 1: should we are we expecting to hear anything from Chris?
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  Speaker 1: How does this kind of play out? No, I'm looking
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  Speaker 1: up while you guys talk. The date of the next hearing,
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  Speaker 1: which I think is the actual trial. I thought it
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  Speaker 1: was in January, but while you guys talk, let me
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  Speaker 1: look it up. I thought it was in January too. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: did you figure out anything? January? The trial is slated
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  Speaker 1: for January. No date yet, All right, well, we will
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  Speaker 1: update you on that as the time comes. But now
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  Speaker 1: we have Trista Wren, Tristan, it's just the Sutter. Trister
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  Speaker 1: Wren was her old name. Trist Are you there, I'm here.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, trister Wren. Wow, I haven't heard that
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  Speaker 1: in a long time. How crazy is that that? That
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  Speaker 1: just came out of my mouth? No, I didn't. It's
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  Speaker 1: just it was like reflex from like my sophomore year
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  Speaker 1: in high school. Are you sure it wasn't like elementary school? No,
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  Speaker 1: I promised you. I'm pretty darn sure it was my
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  Speaker 1: sophomore year. How are you guys? We're great? How are
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  Speaker 1: you whatever? I am, I'm back for this whole week.
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  Speaker 1: My family came in. I was just tell him Ashley
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  Speaker 1: that today. Actually, my parents came up in met me
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: for lunch and Evergreen so we had a beautiful launch
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: snow one outside. Life in Colorado is really nice. In
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: the winter, it's the best. In the summer it's even better, though,
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  Speaker 1: I have to say, I agree. No, have you started
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  Speaker 1: skiing yet? Yeah? Have you started? You lived there for
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  Speaker 1: fifteen years, but they started skiing this year this season? No. No,
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  Speaker 1: the mountain actually I think it opens tomorrow. Um, but
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you know this about me. We
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  Speaker 1: may have talked about it in the past, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not a huge skier. Um I actually, you know, committed
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  Speaker 1: to moving to the mountains for my handsome mountain man
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  Speaker 1: that I met on a little show called The Bachelorette,
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  Speaker 1: And um I, I'm I'm not into it. You know,
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  Speaker 1: I live here, but I'm more of a homebody. In
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: the winter, I let it um be Ryan and the
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: kids stings. You know. Being able to have a couple
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: of kids who started skiing when they were two years
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: old is pretty cool. So where are you from? Originally? So,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I was born in Indianapolis and then I shot up
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: to Indiana. Girl, look at you guys, you're following each
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: other's split steps. Um Anyway, I was born in Indie.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: I was raised in St. Louis and then I went
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: TAYU and then I went to University of Miami for
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: grad school, and then I lived there for seven years
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: and then moved to l A as Fono, and then
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: came to Colorado. Now, Mcalorado. Girl, what's your masters? What's
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: my master? Then? Yeah, in physical therapy. I was a
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: pediatric physical therapist. Hey, christ I gotta let you know this.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: This is did just call me Christa? No, I said,
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: sometimes they get distracted. Maybe I did. Hey, I gotta
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: let you know. Guess what I'm doing December one. What
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I'm going back to I you to speak about generous
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: coffee with my buddy Riley at the Kelly School. No,
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: you're not. I am how exciting. I actually I have
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: a friend. Okay, So one of my stority sisters at
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Alpha Kai just has her daughter who just started at
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: the Kelly Business School, and so I will tell her
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: that she has to look out for you. Her name's
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: Isabel Connell. I would love to meet Isabel Connell. Please
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: tell her company. And I'm going to stop by Alpha
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Kai because if you remember, um, I actually my my
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: college girlfriend was in the same story you were in.
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: So as a result, I'll stopped by and say hi,
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: because that place I have a lot of great memories at.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: I'm sure, but you couldn't go really exploring because you
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: weren't allowed or were you that? Were you allowed? Like
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: fifteen years after I went to college, When did you graduate?
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I graduated in two thousand twelve. My okay, I'm sorry,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: but you guys are way too young. This is how
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: I deal with other kids these days, like all the
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: other Bachelor kids, I'm like you were born in I
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: don't worry. I'm here. I'm here for you. I think
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I'm older than you. Give me a break. Who visit?
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Not athlete? No, it's Amy sugar Man. See you guys.
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: Amy's famous. So this is what's funny. Trista and I
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: have known each other since she was on the Bachelor
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: fifteen years ago. No, I mean I was on Ryan's
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: Secresh show when he had his like his little talk
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: show save Alan Valentine show. We did tons of stuff. Um.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: I love you, Amy, I miss you. I'm so happy
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: you could come on. Well, I mean thanks for thinking
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: of this, like old Dinosaursson. It's actually perfect for Thanksgiving week,
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: which Ben and Nashley, after we do all our gossiping,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: we'll talk about your book, which is so great for
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: this week. And I love that you wrote it and
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: you know, shared your thoughts and and you know Ben,
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: I'll ask you all about it. Trista, we have so
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: much to talk to you about. UM. I want to
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: start by saying, uh, we started talking about you at
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: the beginning of the podcast, and Ashley and Amy both
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: agreed that Ryan is I think, in Ashley's word, he's hot.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: He took place Superman. I said, he's very Clark Kent
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: s so I call I call him Clark Kent all
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: the time. Oh my guts see you. When I saw
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: him at Jane Taylor's wedding, I was like, that guy
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: could be Superman with the glasses. Well he is to me.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: You know that was really sweet. Yeah, he's I mean,
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: you know, that's one of the reasons why I married him.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I'm not so stupid. I gotta ask, Okay, how old
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: are your kids? Max is ten and blake Sleet is eight?
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: All right, so they know how you met. You've got
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: to tell me how you told your kids the story
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: of how you met. Yeah. So last summer we were
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: visiting Michigan and um we were in a hotel room
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: oddly enough, and I don't know if there was something
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: going on on TV or something, and Blakesley was like,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: how did you meet daddy. I'm like and Ryan wasn't
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: even there, and I'm like, oh my god, what do
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I say? Like, how am I going to go into this?
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Like what do I have to say? So anyway, I
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: just told them that we met on TV, you know
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: day they are very observant of all of the people
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: who you know, asked us for pictures and tell us
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: that they, you know, watched us on television and loved
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: our season and all of that. So over the years
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: they have had to suffer through a lot of UM
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Strangers photos and UM, I just told them, you know,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: that we were on TV. They have not seen the show,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: and I don't know that we'll show them that for
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: quite a while. I don't want them seeing mommy UM
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: dating and times. But um, but we were actually just
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: talking about breaking out the wedding video for UM for
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: our anniversary, because we will be celebrating fourteen years on
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: December six, So um, yeah, thank you think And how
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: cool is it that your kids can watch your three
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: million dollar wedding? Yeah, I mean definitely. I'm hopeful that
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: my daughter doesn't think that she's going to be UM
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: having her parents fork out three or four million dollars
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: for her wife, unless we, of course won the lottery.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: But um no, I mean it's such a such a
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: cool little perk of the show is being able to have,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: you know, and that's one of the reasons that we
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: did ultimately say yes to it is that you know,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: we wanted to be able to have ABC, I mean
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: a major television network filming. Are our memories from that day,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: and um, you know it was awkward at times. I
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: will definitely admit that, especially because I don't know if
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: you guys noticed, but Charlie, who was the number two
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: guy on the show, was actually like a little commentator
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: kind the wedding. Oh yeah, way, um, very awkward. He
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: was like in the room when Ryan and Bob his
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: dad were having their little like last minute talk before
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: they went out. I mean, super awkward. But um, just
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: one of those things that you know, we agreed to
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: deal with because we wanted to be able to have
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: you know, this dream wedding that we could you know,
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: end up showing our kids on a VHS tape nonetheless, Right,
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: My big question for you then, would you, because of
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: all the perks and there are there is a downside
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: we all know it, would you allow your daughter to
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: go on the show. I would because you know what,
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: Um as as you know, I hope that my book
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: kind of shows and my post and everything. I try
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: to be a positive person and focus more on the
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: positive than in the negative and I mean obviously for
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: me and Ryan and the ability to be introduced through
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: a crazy, untraditional way on The bachelorat um, it was
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: the best positive ever. And I would love for her
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: to be able to meet someone. I mean I when
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: I was on the show and when I was asked
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: to do the show after being on The Bachelor, Um,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you know this, this kind of genre, this kind of
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: format had never been done before, and for a woman
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: to kind of take the reins was like unheard of.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: Like people were gasping in the reporting world. Like I
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: remember being called every name in the book and saying
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: that I was going to be sending the women's movement
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: back you know, decades or whatever. And um, just trying
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: to be strong through it because I knew that it
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: could potentially be life changing for me. And so yes,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I would say, and I say to all the people
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: who anyone who asked me if they should do the show,
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: if they should do a wedding, you know, then we
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: talked about it. I feel at one point, um, I
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: feel like, yes, the benefits far outweigh the negatives because
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I have a beautiful family from it. I met my
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: husband who I am still in love with. To the
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Stave and more so and two beautiful kiddos that I
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: are in my life now. So it's interesting that you
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: say people gave you a hard time for being like
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: the female lead and taking feminism back. Um, that's interesting
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: because I think you are in a position of power
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: and like they give you all these options and the
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: guys have to work for you, and then you're the
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: one making the decisions. And I think that is actually
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: a very powerful female role. I agree, but I think
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: it was in a way that they felt like I
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: was going to look like a slut, you know that
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: I was. I had twenty five guys that I was
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: choosing from. And if the guy is doing the choosing
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: and they're like Bob, like he was like the kissing
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: bandit or something, Um, you know, like if they're Bob,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: then every everyone can laugh about them being a kissing bandit.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: But when I was doing it, um like two thousand two, Um,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: I believe our show air and for a girl like
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: now he I swear to god, they kissed every single
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: person on the show. You know, it's not an abnormal thing.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: But when I was on, I literally kissed I think
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: four guys. Um, yeah, I mean I remember This is
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: really funny. Amy. I don't know if you remember this,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: but Jamie blyth Um was one of the guys and
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: we were on this barbecue date and he is like Kendall,
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: like perfect Kendall played professional basketball or wanted anyway, perfect guy,
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: you know whatever, And I just was an inter him
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: at the time and he was like, do you think
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: I could give you a kiss? And I was like
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: maybe on the cheek, Like literally, how crazy is that?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Remember rust Woods being so so sweaty by that fire
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: on like his final night, like it was he was
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: down to the top three, I think, yeah, and he
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: was just profusely sweat Yeah, because that was definitely an
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: awkward We were not getting along at the time, so
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: she was like, oh crap. Like we had Bob on
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: not too long ago, and I do remember one of
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: the guys eating out of a dog bowl. Oh they
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: were okay. So my guys were just like it was
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: like a fraternity house. They had the best time. To
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: this day, I swear we did an interview like a
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: month ago and Ryan was talking about how they wanted
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: to hang out more with each other at the house
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: then go out of dates with me at the in
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: the beginning. They were like, we were having way too
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: much fun together. I mean, I love Bob, I adore
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: him and Um and and all of the guys on
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: my show, but they were great. I was really lucky
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: you keep in touch with from my season. Um. Maybe
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: just Bob, I mean I saw we saw Russ maybe
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: like I don't know, eight years ago or something like that. Um,
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: we've heard about Charlie through friends of friends. UM. Everyone
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: asked me if Alex Michelle, the very first Bachelor, is
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: someone I have ever run into, And the answer is no. UM,
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: I have no idea what had propped off the faces
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: quite a bit. I'm trying to think who else from
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: your season? Bob, Yeah, Bob, Jamie Blite. I've talked to um,
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: but that's mainly it. I mean, and Ryan doesn't necessarily
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: stay in touch with with any of the other guys either,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: But girls from my season, Shannon Oliver, Um, she was
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, and Amy and Zell Um, you know,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I'm sure you both actually and Ben you you know,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: you make life long long friends from it. And it's
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: the connections, um are really what matter afterwards, you know.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, for me, my relationship is priority but
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: I love that we can establish these connections even though
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: there is this huge age gap now like for me
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: and all of you, all the rest of you. But um, well,
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: just as saying that, I want to say that I
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: think you're like the Bachelor Evergreen. Like I think it's
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: amazing that you just said that you and Ryan still
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: do interviews on the regular, you know what I mean.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: So you've never gotten You've never been not relevant in
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: this franchise. And maybe it's because you're the first girl
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: and you're the first marriage out of it, you're the
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: first kids out of it. But I need to ask you,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: why do you think the track record for bachelorettes that
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: you started is better than the track record for bachelor's
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: Because there's only one married bachelor to his winner, which
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: is Sean and Catherine. So why do you think that
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: the girls have more success? Well, Number one, I want
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: to say thank you for saying that. I think that's
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: very sweet because I don't necessarily always agree. I think
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: I'm irrelevant a lot of the time. I'm basically living
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: my life here in Colorado and you know, focusing on
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: the kids and when we get the opportunity to do um,
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: you know, spokesperson rules or partnerships or whatever. We love
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: doing that kind of stuff. We had an HDTV show
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: or pilot, you know, those kind of things are super
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: fun for us, but they definitely don't come around UM
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: on the regular and necessarily. But so anyway, thank you
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: for saying that. And I think that UM, in terms
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: of the bachelors compared to the Bachelor's I think, honestly,
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: it's just the girls for some reason are are And
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I don't know that it's necessarily a girl versus guy thing.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: It's an individual thing. I think that judge, the girls
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: who have come on the shows are just ready for
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: that commitment. They end up finding that person that they're
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: meant to be with. Whether you call it fate or
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: or luck or whatever your belief system is. I think
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: that just the girls ended up being ready for their
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: relationship and um, for whatever reason they ended up and
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: the ending up together, you know, and and making it
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: a reality after reality TV. It is interesting there has
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: not been one bachelor divorce. Yeah, that's true. Well, God
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: God forbid, hopefully is a good. I mean, if you
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: look at statistics of just regular people, you're right, I mean,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: how many do you guys, know how many marriages there?
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, at least there's five or six, right me?
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: Think they got to count Sean, does Jason Molly? If
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: you count them? Yeah, you count them? Um? I count them? Um?
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: Who else? Who am I missing? M Ashley and she
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: got Ashley and j p Well and Carly and Evan,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: Jade and Tanner. Right, true, that's true. And no divorces
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: knock on wood. Let's hope that never happened. Wild, I mean,
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: it is kind of crazy that. I just think even
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: as you talking, there's Trista. There has been a lot
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: to change. What are the biggest changes? And outside of
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: the weddings and outside of the man versus woman, you
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: know what works better? What has changed from the time
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: that you were the bachelorrete to today? Number one? You
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: guys gone way better trips, Like, come on, seriously, I
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: went to Santa Fe and Deadwood, South Dakota. Okay, well yeah,
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: my might might be on my level, but I went
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: to Seattle, and um, and I love Seattle. That's where
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: I fell in love with my husband. But um, Seattle
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: and Cabo was like the farthest we went. Um. I
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: did go to Ali on the very first Bachelor, but
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: come on. I mean, it's like they're traveling the world.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: Can you tell him a little a little jealous? Um? Wait,
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: I want to go back to you falling in love
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: with Ryan in Seattle. What was the moment you know? Um? God? Well,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: so backing up Veil was we came to Veil for
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: his hometown date and then is when I knew I
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: could fall in love with him. He handed me this
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: little note in one of the cars, like none of
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: the cameras were rolling, and it told me I was falling.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: He was falling in love with me. And I was
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: just like, we're I don't know if you know the book, um,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: the Five Love Languages, but I am a words of
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: affirmation girl, like I any kind of words written or spoken,
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: um is my think. So anyway, he hands me this
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: note tells me he's falling in love with me, and
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I was. I was falling for him at the time.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: And then we went to Seattle and besides just the
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: like romantic aspect of who he is, um, there was
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: a lot of passion. Let's just say. I mean we
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: were making out on the couch in our hotel room
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: at the w UM and I remember Jason Carbone do
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: you remember Jason Carbone Amy Sugarman. Um, he was one
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: of the producers on the show, and he was sitting
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: in the hotel room with you know, the cameraman and everything,
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: and I looked at after probably like an hour or
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: two hours or three hours, it was it was obnoxious. Um,
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: And I was like, really, you guys are not getting
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: any more than this, so can you please leave, like
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: just git out of her. We really kind of wanted
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: to have this night to ourselves. So, um, I think
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: I just it all came together there his he I
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: think a lot of people remember us being on our
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: date and the what's I called the space needle, and um,
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: his humor came out and that like they he had
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: never watched the show before. And the date card comes
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: out and I say, okay, do you want to go
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: to our forego our individual seats and go to the
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: fantasy sweet and he goes check please, And people to
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: this day never forget that. And I think his, you know,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: it just all came together for me in Seattle. So anyway,
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: I can't even remember what the conversation was before that,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: but um, yeah, I mean I think it's awesome. You
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: mentioned a great book to The Five Love Language is
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: what a great great book. And then I mean, just
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: looking back on your story, Trista, it is an incredible
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: one one that we've you know, we still see clips
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: from I've loved to getting to meet you and Ryan
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: in person. And and before we move on to to
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: our final topic here, because I want to make sure
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: that we touched on your latest project, I want to
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: give you a little shout out. The first time I
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: met Trista, I was in Denver, downtown Denver with my
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: aunt and my uncle and my my cousins and we
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: had gone out to brunch and I had never met
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: Trista before. I had just gotten off The Bachelor at
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: actually I think The Bachelor was still airing. You had
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: no clue how it ended. And you called me out
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: and you said, hey, I know you And I said, well, hey,
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: I know you too, And you came up and you
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: talked to my family and I for you know, a
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: long long time, and it was such a cool moment
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: for me to get to know somebody who I had
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: watched on TV a relationship ship that I admired and
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: I was hoping to have. Uh. And this for you
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: guys to take the time out just to hang out
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: with us. So that meant a lot to me and
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: it started out my journey then and to be din Bachelor. Um,
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: keeping it in the back of my head the whole
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: time was Hey, these people did it. They're great people. Um,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: there's somebody I should look up too. So thanks Just
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: to thank you Ryan for taking that time out that day.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: You are so sweet. I mean, I was super excited.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: I'm still a huge fan. I just didn't interview this
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: morning and I literally called myself a consummate fan. How
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: many times have I said literally, I mean that I
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: did another interview. That's how relevant you are. Okay, well, well, okay,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: So anyway, so I did an interview and they were
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: they were like, do you still watch the show? And
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: I told them that I have never. I have never
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: missed an episode, whether it is Bachelor, Bachelor At, Bachelor
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: in Paradise, UM, Bachelor Pad, Bachelor Winter Games, I will
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: be watching. I mean honestly, it's and I know you
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: guys feel the same way because I know you have
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: friendships and connections through a show, But it's like a family,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: Like it's I feel connected to people even when I
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: meet them, you know, at brunch, UM, and I've never
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: met them before. I feel connected to everyone and I
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: love that I can, I can have those connections because
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: that really is what life is about, you know, It's
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: about connections and relationships. At least it is to me
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: and UM to be able to have a shared experience, UM,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: you know, in a mutual admiration for people who have
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: been through the same thing. We know what it's like
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: to go through the show. We know what it's like, UM,
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: to experience what we did. UM. It's really really unique
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: and really cool to me. So anyway, that was a
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: day I'll never forget. And I have a fawful memory,
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: but I totally remember you were You were standing there
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: taking a picture of your family, and I totally called
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: you out because I was a fan because I was, well,
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: my family was a big fan to my aunt Sindy
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: standing there going I know that girl, and she was freaking.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you gotta calm yourself down, like
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: I'm doing the same show she did. Before we head
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: out here, I gotta ask you about your latest project. UM,
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: and so you before you answer that question, can you
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: make me one commitment you come back on then? Uh,
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: somewhere mid season for our season, and will you help
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: us dissect everything going on in this and in the episodes? Oh,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: I love to Okay, perfect, So we're booking to come
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: back for some analysis and then so now, please tell
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: everybody listening out there about this awesome new Bookie Road.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: It's called Happily ever After The life changing Power of
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: a Grateful Heart. It's perfect for the Thanksgiving season. Tryst,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: I'll let you kind of take it from here. Well,
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I love that you're bringing it up because it actually
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: I wrote it three years ago, and um I wrote it.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: I wanted to write a children's book. I was one
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: of my kind of dreams. And um I told an
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: agent that I was working with at the time that
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: it was something that I wanted to work on, and
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: she connected me to a literary agent, and the literary
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: agent told me, um, you really should start with an
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: adult book. But people don't have much success with children's books.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: So I thought, Okay, what the hell could I write about?
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: And at the time, gratitude was really important to me.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: It still is. I think, um it's an incredible way
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: for people who are put into the public eye, like
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: like actually the four of us, um, you know, a
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: way to stay grounded, and I think that's really important.
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: I'm you know, from the Midwest. It's those are part
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: of my Midwestern values, is really staying grounded and connected
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: to UM who I am, true to myself and not
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: just two people know me as on television. So UM.
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: I told my agent that I what about gratitude, and
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: she thought, said, I love that. So we went with it.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: And I include stories of UM from myself, from my husband,
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: from my family and friends. I mean, I talked about
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: how my mom was date raped and how I have
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: a half sister because of it. UM. I share stories
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: of watching people across the finish line at the Iron
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: Man and seeing actual will in front of my eyes,
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: you know, mind over matter kind of stuff. UM, and
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: then just share UM. You know, there's some fun stuff
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: in there too. But it was it was such an
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: amazing project to be able to do because I feel
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: like it's a legacy for my kids, you know, when
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: I do pass on. And you know, this summer I
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: actually experienced the seizure and kind of had that UM,
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: that knowledge and reminder that we are all mortal and
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: our our day will come. So whenever my day does come,
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: when I when I'm gone. You know, I love that
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: I am able to leave this legacy of um of
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: gratitude behind for my kids. So thank you for bringing
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: it up considering it definitely is not a new project,
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: but it's definitely a passion project for me and always
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: will be. I mean, that's incredible. Yeah, I mean for
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: the Thanksgiving season, that sounds like no matter if it
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: was written three years ago, if it was written a
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: week ago, it's relevant. And uh and Trista, thank you,
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: thank you for sharing that. And so if you're interested
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: anybody listening out there again, it's called Happily ever After. Wow,
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: what a title, Trista Happily ever After, But you really
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: do have a happily ever aftering. Well, I've been a
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: part of Happily ever After myself, the life changing power
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: of a greatful art of Trista Center. You are the
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: original Bachelor. We appreciate you coming on the podcast. Thank
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: you so much. Thank you, guys. Can't wait to have
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: you back to talk to you soon. Okay, bye, guys,
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: Happy are you Thanksgiving? Speaking of Thanksgiving, the holidays are here,
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: families in town. Time to make some food my parents,
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: Like I said, we'll be rearranging my furniture, cleaning my house,
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: adding pictures, new lights. Who knows what's gonna happen by
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: the time I get home today, So with them being busy,
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: I might need to cook. Blue Apron is the leading
• 42:17
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• 42:19
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• 42:21
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• 42:24
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• 42:28
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• 42:33
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• 42:39
  Speaker 1: is all in under forty five minutes and without a
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: trip to the grocery store. Blue Aprons mission is to
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: make incredible home cooking accessible to everyone. Hey, Ashley, I
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: gotta tell you, um, Blue Apron delivered a box to
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: my house this week. And as I'm up in the office,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: my parents are working around the house. Like I said,
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: they need a lunch. And I'm not kidding you. They
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: pulled out the Blue Apron kit and my mom at
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: a great time. She loves to cook, and I was
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: surprised how much he didn't love to cook. The Blue
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: apron because she got she got to feel um like
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: she was cooking without going to grocery store. So it's
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: a great. My mom loves it too. She thinks it's genius.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: It really is. So I want to tell you all
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: the listeners to check out. These are recipes for November
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: roasted chicken and fall vegetables with cranberry and ginger, Compo butternut,
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: squashed pasta with kale and brown butter walnuts. Is it
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: me or is there something sexy if Ben was cooking
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: dinner for us? Ashley? Oh, I think we've already had
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: this imagery before. Oh that was right? Now are you
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: getting it? I feel like I feel like I'm not
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: throwing the vibes today, so I'm surprised you're getting it
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: on picturing. It's like the fire going and like cooking
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: and like kind of wiping your hands off on a towel,
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: like a drink in your hand. I don't know, I'm
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: really going there. And I see that now, I see
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: that there is something about a man making a steak
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: that is sexy. I do have my white apron that
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: I really do enjoy and blue apron is your first
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• 44:17
  Speaker 1: a better way to cook? All right, Ben? Should we
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: move on to some listener emails? It's my favorite favorite part.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's do it. This is from Renee.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: It says, hey, Ben, Ashley, and Amy. I am a
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: forty seven year old mother of eleven children. The ages
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: ranged from eight years old. Several of my older daughters
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: and I have watched the show together for years. I
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: faithfully listen to your podcasts while I'm cleaning the house. Today,
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: I was listening to the discussion about age difference between
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: men and women. I just wanted to share the experience
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: of my husband's parents. They were thirty two years apart
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: in age. Papa was in his fifties when they when
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: he married Jean, who was in her twenties. Papa had
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: been married before and didn't have children. After they had
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: been married for several years, Papa, the grandfather, became a
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: father at the age of sixty four for the first time.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: My husband came along two years after that, when Papa
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: was sixty six. Because of that union, my husband and
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: I have been married for twenty eight years. I know
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: it was a different era when Papa and Jean were married,
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: but they made it work until he died at the
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: age of ninety four. I thought it would share. I
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: thought I would share a great success story for you
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: on this topic. Thanks for keeping me entertained and have
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: a happy Thanksgiving. That is an amazing story. The cutest
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: picture of all the kids, of all eleven kids. Yeah,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: conceptualizing it, I get it. Yeah, this is amazing. I mean,
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: what an incredible story. Yeah, Renee, were stoked to hear this.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: This is exactly the kind of emails were hoping for, right,
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: I mean one that rocket world a little bit. Yeah.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I was thrown off at the first the first line
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: because it says she is eleven kids, and I'm like,
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: how do the eleven kids play into this? Well, it's
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: because her husband's parents were thirty years is apart, and
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: if it weren't for those parents getting together, then these
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: eleven children wouldn't exist. I like to bring everything back
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: to celebrities, and did you know Catherine Say Jones is
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: twenty five years younger than Michael Douglas. Even though they
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: had a hiccup, they made it work. Oh. I love
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: that they made it work because I love them together.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: They're just sexy together. Sometimes does work. Yeah, very very interesting, Renee. Alright,
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: so then you're so good with dating and breakup advice.
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: You gave the best advice last weekend. I think people
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: are wanting more from you. So this is from Katie
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: Ashley and Ben. Ben seems to be like a person
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: who really values the importance of communication in a relationship.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: I hope he can share his advice with me because
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: I'm lacking a male's perspective on the situation. My three
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: and a half year long relationship ended roughly three months ago.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: I met my ex in my hometown, and after we
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: graduated from college, we moved to Nashville together. We were
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: twenty three, but I was head over heels and love
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: and I had known that I had found my soul mate.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: After two years of dating, he abruptly broke up with
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: me after a bad argument. Y'all. To say that I
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: was devastated was an understatement. I panicked and took a
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: job offer out of state and moved Six weeks later,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: on top of the breakup, I discovered that my X
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: was suffering from an opiate addiction. I can't even put
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: into words how difficult it was to leave behind the
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: person that I was still so in love with, knowing
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: that he needed real help. To my surprise, my ex
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: called me three weeks later after I moved, pleading to
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: give him another chance. He checked himself into an outpatient
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: rehab program, and I decided to move back, get back
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: together with him, and support him. While visiting him on
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: the fourth of July this year, we ended our visit
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: with a massive fight, one which extremely hurt my feelings
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: because of things that were said between both of us.
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: Six weeks later, we finally talked and decided to cut
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: ties over the phone. It wasn't what I wanted at all.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: Two months later, I moved back to Nashville Anyway. I
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: have a great group of friends here and I am
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: so happy to be back in a familiar surrounding. I've
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: been back for a few weeks that it's been amazing.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: This leads me to the question that I have for Ben.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: Is it important to reach out to him and ask
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: for closure or if he cared about me what he've
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: already reached out despite everything we've been through and the
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: love that we shared. Why do you think he could
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: complete least shut me out in the manner that he did.
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: Do you think it's healthy to move on by blocking
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: someone out? Life has been so crazy recently, and I'm
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: hoping to receive some advice from a man who seems
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: like he really has his life together the end, I
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: wish I had my LIFEKA. That's that's sweet of you
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: to to assume. Um. All right, So just a summarize here,
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: Katie and her boyfriend had a very very serious relationship. UM.
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: After some rough spots, not only personally between themselves individuals
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: as individuals. Um, they broke up, end up getting back together,
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: and then broke up again, and now she's looking for
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: some help. So as I'm reading this, I'm thinking a
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: few things. First off, I, UM, I'm sorry to hear
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: about your boyfriend. UM. Opiate addiction is nothing to to
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: take lightly. And uh really, uh, you know, coming from
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: right come in in Indiana into something that's prevalent. It's
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: tough and it's tough to watch and it's tough to see.
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: And the one thing I do know about opio addiction
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: is that it does change your care there, it does
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: change your personality at times. And so some of this
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: to me, kind of the fluctuation in this story kind
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: of seems like something else is going on behind the scenes. UM.
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: And I don't know if that's true or not, but
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: that doesn't change the end result. The result is that
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: now you aren't together and you're looking for an answer. UM.
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: So my my first initial thought is, I don't know
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: if talking to him will ever bring closure. UM. You know,
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: if it goes really well, UM, then you probably miss them.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: If it goes terribly then you're going to be resentful
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: and angry at them. So that's my first thought. My
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: second thought is this, UM, closure comes from within. Closure
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: comes from yourself. And so I know my past relationships,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: ones that have haven't worked out, um, and ones that
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: have been really successful for a long time. UM. My
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: feelings towards the other person and my feelings towards your
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: relationship are affected by how I feel internally. And so
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: as you're looking at this relationship now, UM, kind of
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: on the back end of it and thinking about the
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: good times and the bad times, and thinking about the
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: times that were spent together and the times that you
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: leaned on him and he leaned on you for support advice,
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: and you start to miss him and you just want
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: to get him out of your head. It probably sounds
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: like here you just want to forget about it. Um.
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: You have to come to terms of that yourself, and
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: so one way to do that is to forgive. Make
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: sure you forgive first. I think forgivenesses is the most
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: important step here. You have to forgive him for anything
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: that he said that was wrong, anything he did that
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: hurt you, um, anything that may be stung deep with
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: inside you personally. You have to forgive him. You have
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: to release him from that and you have to release
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: yourself from that that burden. UM. And after you forgive him,
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: you have to hope for the best. And I know
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: that sounds cliche and corny and super light, but you
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: really do. You have to hope that he has the
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: best life possible, because one thing you can't do is
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: control him that this is not it. And so so
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: meeting with him I don't think the smart decision. But
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: if you can forgive, and you can allow yourself to
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: get in a good place mentally on your thoughts towards him,
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: I think then closure will come because you'll be in
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: a better place to move on, either with some to
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: your maybe with with nobody, but you'll at least be
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: able to move on as an individual. And Katie, I'm
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: telling you that is the most important thing right now
• 52:06
  Speaker 1: is you have to find a way to move on
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: as an individual so that you can live your best
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: life possible. All right, I think you said at all.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: I can't elaborate on that. Wow, Yes, Ben, get into ministry.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: I think that you need to be like the next
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: huge minister. No, I like that though he should be
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: the new doctor Phil. You could definitely do that too.
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: That's a great idea, Amy, get on it. I've already
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: trademarked it. You know. I really do enjoy talking about
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: relationships and talking about life. You know. Chester brought up
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: a book called the Five Love Languages, a book that's
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: meant a lot to me as I've tried to explore, Okay,
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: where my my weakness is, where my strengths. Um, we
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: lived in this life that is so rich and so deep,
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: and I find myself so often saying there has to
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: be more right, There has to me more, There has
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: to be more emotion, There has to be more feelings. Um,
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: pain has to feel less at times, and the joys
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: have to feel like I have to feel more joy.
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: And it's just so fun to talk about because we're
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: all in this crazy journey together. And so if we
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: can get these emails in from our listeners and we
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: can discuss it, you're making my life a lot of fun.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: So I appreciate it. Thanks Katie for being super super
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: honest with us. Uh. It is physical touch, actually, I um,
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: background honestly is and I'm not this is not. My
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: grandma told me that as a little baby, when I
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: would cry or would be upset, if you just come
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: in and rub my back real lightly, I would stop
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: crying and I would become peaceful. And my mom said
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: the same thing, and it works today. If I'm stressed
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: out and anybody that's close to me and that loves me, Um,
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: if I'm really stressed out, if I'm really hurting, a
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: hand on my back and just it just calms me.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: And so the physical touch is one way for somebody's
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: show that they care, if they love me, and they're
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: willing to do something that's not exactly benefiting themselves to
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: make my life better and that's that just feels really
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: good a little Ben. Yeah, now I know I Ben
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: always gives us a massage the second he sees as
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: it's like his hug, welcome Mountain. I always just like
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: rub his arm. It's really nice. Thanks Amy. Yeah, an
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: excuse to touch you language. Mine is definitely touched with
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: quality time. It's like all I need of you is
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: to like sit on the couch with anis nuggle for long.
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: All I need is you is all of your time. Yeah.
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: I'm a big touch person too. That's awesome. Well, alright,
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: so we have a few more emails here that I
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: want to read through. Um, I'm going to read this
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: one because to Ashley, it would be weird if Ashley
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: read to herself and then answered for herself. So this
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: is from Patricia. Hi, Ashley. I'm a big fan of
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: both you and Ben, and I think I saw a
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: tweet from you talking about Taylor Swift album and how
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: you like the album but needed someone to be in
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: love to relate forgive me if those are not the
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: exact word, she says. And then I thought, wasn't Wells
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: your getaway car? And probably one of the reasons the
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: relationship didn't go too far. Also, I can totally see
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: in Game as a song for you and Jared, even
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: if not applic cool now, and really, you don't feel
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: like singing gorgeous to Dean, even if he is just
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: a friend. Come on, Taylor probably follows you on social
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: media and created this song. Don't blame me for you, athlete.
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: The song has your name all over it. L O L.
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: You can tell I love Taylor Swift. I relate to
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: every song, even though I don't really relate to any
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: song she has. She's happily married with two kids. And
• 55:44
  Speaker 1: then she says, Ben, I know this about Ashley, but
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: you are truly the best bat. Okay, we're good. Hey
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: what do you think he's trying your coffee? Oh? Yeah, hey,
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: thanks for trying the coffee. I didn't read that part.
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: Trying to coffee is onto my to do list. Hey,
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: everybody out there, generous coffee of you to try it. Yeah.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: I love when people can compare their lives. I mean,
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: that's that's what I do with Taylor. It's honestly, like
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: every two to three years, I have a new diary
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: entry that like I gave her the material for, but
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: then she put together in pretty words and pretty sounds,
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: and she wrapped it up in a gift and she goes, here, Ashley,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: here's your life in music. And I'm so so thankful
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: for Taylor Swift for having this talent in which that
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: she writes for all of us girls. What's interesting about
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: the Reputation album is I do think it's a little
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: bit more specific to her stories and the language isn't
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: as broad. I know, I know, but so yes. I
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: did tweet when the album came out that like, there's
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: a lot of love songs. We're we're used to like
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: moodier songs about Taylor being nostalgic of a past heartbreak
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: and this there's a lot of love songs and there's
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: a lot of steamy songs, and I'm like, Okay, gotta
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: find someone ol so I can relate to this music more.
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: But UM so interesting the way that you are listening
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: to Taylor's album and you're thinking about me for it.
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: That means the world to me. That is like the
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: sweetest thing. Thank you, thank you for thinking of me. Patricia,
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: Don't Blame Me could have been my bachelor theme song.
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: Never thought about Getaway Car with Wells, but I suppose
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: in a sense, yes, Um, endgame. I never think about
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: Jared during that song either, but now I will during
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: a period of time. Um in our past. And Gorgeous
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: I mean you're right. Gorgeous is a song about Dean
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: like the Eyes so blue? Right, Holy moly, all right,
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: but thank you Patricia, UM thoughtful right now? Uh poncho
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: and left by Merle Haggard. Well, it's a good song.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: It's that Um. I also need to give a little
• 57:59
  Speaker 1: plug to myself. The entire I Don't Get a podcast
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: this week is about breaking down the lyrics in Taylor's
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: new album. We have experts from Access Hollywood Oscar Gracie
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: telling us so much of the behind the scenes stories
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: that take part in the album that you would have
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: had no idea about. But these lyrics are decoded in
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: the new I Don't Get a Podcast. Before we move
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: on to more listener emails about fun stuff like relationships
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: and Taylor Swift, we had an email this week from
• 58:27
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  Speaker 1: dot com. Here all right, well we got another email
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: from Meryll, Hey, Ben and Ashley. I've been with my
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: boyfriend for two years and nine months now. A year
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: and a half of that has been long distance after
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: he moved away from New York to accept a job
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: in d C. He recently quit his job, which I
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: thought would enable him to move in with me while
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: he continues to look for a new job in New York.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: But that happened two months ago, and he's still living
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: with his parents in d See, visiting me occasionally. He
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: says it would not go over well with his family
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: if he moved in with me without having a job.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: He seems to always care about his parents opinions a lot,
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: and I often think that they're more important than mine. Well, well, Merrill,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: they probably should be. Um. Another issue that we've had
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: comes with the long distance sex. He has trouble performing
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: when he's tired, or stressed or busy. All of those
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: have little quotation marks around them, which is basically all
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: the time. In the course of staying with me for
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: a week, We'll do it maybe one or two times.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: I can't live like this. I love him, but we
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: should I know I love him, But what's the last
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: straw in this relationship be? We fight a lot, and
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's healthy. I know he's in a
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: tough situation right now, and I want to be supportive.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 1: But what is the time to put your foot down
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: for what you do? But what is the time to
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: put your But what is the time that you put
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: your foot down for what you believe deserve? Okay, well, Meryl,
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: I do wish that I knew your age, because there
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: are like a certain age range in our lives that
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: parents opinions need to be more important than a significant
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 1: others Um Okay, still think that if Meryl Tree, the
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: parents probably need to their opinions are a little bit
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: more important, especially if he's being financially supported by the
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: parents right now, right, I I would completely agree. I mean,
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: I think your parents opinion is incredibly important. I think
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: there is a level too when you make that vow
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: oh yeah no, if we're talking like you guys are engaged,
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: totally different story, I think I think you're completely right.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: I think when you're just considered a boyfriend, girlfriend, and
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: your parents um have a huge role in your life.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: Still you know they really are. And once you decide to,
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: as the good old Bible says, get up and and
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: leave your family through marriage and through that engagement in
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: is it time to take the parents to take a
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: step back. But as I'm reading this, I'm thinking, man,
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: his parents are his best confidence right now. You know,
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: his parents are the people that love him and probably
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: care about him, um the most, even including you Maryland.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: So it's important that he listens to them. Yeah, and Meryl,
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: if he quit his job, and he doesn't have a
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: job right now, and you want him to go you
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: want him to go live in New York. I don't know.
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 1: I mean I don't think you'd like that either. I
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 1: think that he needs to get his own life together
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: before joining joining you. Does that make sense? Does that
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: you agree with that? Yeah? I mean I think before
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: we make too many assumptions on on this relationship, I
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: think there's some things here that really stand out. One is, um,
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: there's obviously unhappiness, there's unsettled anger. Just from reading this
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: emale right there's there's some disappointment. So my first question
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: to Meryll, without saying hey, this is what I think
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: you should feel, is have you asked have you talked
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: him about this? You? Have you brought this stuff up
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: to him? Have you have you asked him about you know,
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: if if sex is important to you and you've both
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: decided to participate in it UM as a couple, uh,
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: and you feel like you're not getting near into the
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: deal or what you would expect if you feel like
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: there's distance there in your physical your physical relationship, have
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 1: you sat him down and talked to him about it?
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: Because if you haven't, that would be the first step.
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: And if you feel uncomfortable doing that, I would ask
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: you why why you have you had a boyfriend for
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: two years and nine months and you don't feel comfortable
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 1: talking to him about some of the basic elements in
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: life and relationships. Yeah, and Ben correct me if I'm wrong,
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: because obviously no expert in this department. But if a
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: guy is jobless and kind of feeling down and out,
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: he's not going to be like super horn dog, right,
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: He's not going to be horny. Yeah. I mean, I
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: don't just you're you're you're spot on. I mean I
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 1: think when when any guy is you know, what men
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: need in life is is to kind of were so fragile.
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: We really are. Most men are so fragile and they
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: can get beaten down so quickly. And so you know,
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: if he doesn't have a job, and if he feels
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: kind of lost and he he's kind of tossing and turning,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: he doesn't feel like Meryl is happy with him, he
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: could feel pretty down on himself and as a result
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: of that, his libido and his his confidence could be
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: way way down. And so Meryl, with that, you are
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: committed to this man as a boyfriend, right, I mean
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: the list. At this point, you're committing to this, and
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: so you have agreed to be with him even in
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: those moments that he is down. And so my job
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: or my advice you Mary will beat in this season
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: of his life. Lift him up, because I hope that
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: he would do the same to you when you'd fell
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: down and out is lift you up. And that's how
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: relationships work. It's a dance. It's like you two are
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: assaulting together, right, You're taking one step back and one
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: step forward, and you're you're pulling each other along. That's
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: a relationship. You're dancing together. And so, hey, Meryl, dance
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: with him a little bit. I agree, And Meryl, you
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: can come visit him down here. It's just a three
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: hour train ride, yeah, I mean never, We can take
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: a train. So hey, Meryl, here's my advice. Thank you
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: so much for writing in. But I think you have
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: some things to talk about with your boyfriend. Um, none
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 1: of this email looks like he doesn't care about you
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: or he doesn't love view, and it doesn't look like
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: you don't love him or care about him. It looks
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: like you guys got to kind of take the step
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: back and go back to the basics. And say, hey,
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: we've been together two and a half or two years
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: and nine months. What are we missing? What are we doing? Well?
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: How can we continue to move forward? Because I love
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: you and I care about you and I don't want
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: to lose you. Think about that conversation. How cool would
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 1: that be is at the end of that conversation, you
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: guys have a big old smooch and see where it
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: takes you. Dr Ben great advice once again. If you
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 1: you guys start a new segment called Dr Ben where
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 1: you just ask bend or relationship advice and then it's
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 1: so good and you're so articulate and you just like
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: understand human being so well. I like it. I understand
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 1: every human being accept myself cannot do um. But no,
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 1: I mean I think, uh, I think this is fun.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: We have a good time talking about this. But let's
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: let's lighten it up a little bit, um and talk
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: about um some celebrities for me to date? All right, well, Ben, Um,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: A lot of people emailed in with celebrity suggestions for
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: possible romance with for you. Are you ready to hear
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 1: who they want you to be with? I'm kind of
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: excited about this. Yeah, I'm very interested. All right, Well
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: we start off with two from the Bachelor franchise, Danielle
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: m and Christina, two girls in the Nashville area, two
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: girls that are seemed very sweet, very humble, and just
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 1: like and I think that you've expressed a little interest
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: in Christina before, so I've expressed into no ever Hello Bentina, Ben? Right,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: that was that thing you shipped that a while back.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: Now she's been you know her and Dean's a great
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 1: buddy of mine. They've been kind of off and on
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 1: or on. I don't really know what's happening with him
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: for a while. That just seems like a place that
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 1: wouldn't be respectful for me to Yeah, okay, I agree there.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: Ben should not data celebrity, but if he does, it
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: should be Nina dough brev. I do think she has
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: a boyfriend, But how do you think about that? Um,
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 1: I don't know who that is, so we should ventire diaries.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: People are going to freak out that you don't know
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: who that is. Emma Watson, maybe single Ben may have
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: a chance. What do you think I Emma Watson and
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: I don't stand a chance. Let's keep going. I can
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: see you with her. How do you feel about a
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 1: foreign girl with a little bit of an accent. I
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: mean she she was my celebrity crush, I think last
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 1: week on on the podcast, so she I've always had
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 1: a thing for m Watson. Um, but she is just
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: like when I would be so intimidated around M. Watson
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: it would not be a good She's smart. Yeah, she's
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: an intellectual. She went to Brown Yeah, I would be intimidated,
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: you guys. Lily James, she played Cinderella in this like
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: the live action Cinderella that came out a few years ago.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: She is stunning and if she's anything like her role,
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: she's perfect for Ben. That's my favorite so far. I'm
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: in let's keep going. January Jones. We already talked about that.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: Britney Snow she's cute. I like her could say that
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: she could Amy, you can definitely do that one. Amelia Clark,
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  Speaker 1: um you know, um klisy Sorry oh geez, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: mean how you know how jealous my buddies would be
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  Speaker 1: of me if I started dating Amelia Clark. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I think every person I know has a crush on her.
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  Speaker 1: She seems like a wonderful girl. I love her personality
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  Speaker 1: and interviews. She is Oh, I like that too. Second favorite,
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  Speaker 1: that's a little high, like that's that's maybe a little
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  Speaker 1: hard to get, okay, Shane Mitchell, she has I think
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  Speaker 1: a long term relationship. I don't know who Alexandra Shari.
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  Speaker 1: I do. She was in Baywatch and she was in
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  Speaker 1: that um earthquake movie with the rock San Andreas, and
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  Speaker 1: she's a smoking hot like I think she had a
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  Speaker 1: flingy fling with a Ehron Okay like me. Then she's
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  Speaker 1: in the Zach. She's not a guy like me. I'm
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: over Zach. Do we talk about how I'm over Zach?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe next week? How about next week? Okay. Lindsay Cox,
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  Speaker 1: who was also pass Bachelorrette, it was uh yeah, Courtney,
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: we're talking about that last week it was yeah, Lindsay Sterling.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know who that is Dancing with the Stars,
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  Speaker 1: the violinist. All right, finally, Ben, there are so many
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  Speaker 1: people that want you to date their sister or they're
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: like best friend. I get tweets all the time, Ashley,
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  Speaker 1: can you set me up with Ben? Amy's reading emails.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody wants you to be with their sister, and that's course,
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  Speaker 1: but of course you know, because Ben is that wholesome
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  Speaker 1: guy that you want to take home to mom and dad.
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  Speaker 1: I won't say who. I won't say who, but I
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 1: did forward one of them to Ben, so oh did
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  Speaker 1: it come with a picture? Didn't come with a photo.
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  Speaker 1: And everybody listening just know that one of your people
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  Speaker 1: has a chance because I did forward. Oh my goodness,
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  Speaker 1: and she loved pretty pretty right on, and I knew
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  Speaker 1: I don't want any more. Ben. Did you like her?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Did I see it? You have to
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  Speaker 1: dig through your emails. I sent it like a few
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  Speaker 1: days ago. Okay, I don't know if I've seen it.
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  Speaker 1: That's super nice with people. I mean it is. That's
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  Speaker 1: actually you did not get. I was going to say,
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  Speaker 1: like nobody too. You got Aaron Rodgers, which I think, Oh,
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: I was gonna say, nobody wants me to date their brother.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: Not yet, but I mean they'll come flooden now. But
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  Speaker 1: and Tim Tebow a lot of football players I think
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: because of Jimmy. Yeah, I mean Tim, I don't need
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  Speaker 1: like I need somebody with a little bit more experience.
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: If you couch from a door, if he like yourself, um, possibly,
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  Speaker 1: we don't know. It's unclear. Now. I think that Tebow
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  Speaker 1: seems like really sweet dude. I think he's like, I
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: just need like more of an alpha, more of an alpha,
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  Speaker 1: and then I wouldn't imagine that on your wedding night,
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  Speaker 1: like earthquakes would occur, like the heavens would, fireworks would
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: go off of the imagery is too gross for me
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  Speaker 1: to imagine. Me feel so awkward, Aaron Rodgers. That that's
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  Speaker 1: all I can think about is if you and Tebow
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  Speaker 1: did happen to get married, that literally it would the
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  Speaker 1: heavens would would open. I don't do it too soon.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: I want this world to last a while. I'm having
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: to get Oh my god. Um, speaking of Tim Tebow,
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 1: if you're out there and a fan of the Almost
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 1: fame this podcast, we're really trying to get you with
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 1: Tanya rad from Ryan Seacrest show, you guys would be
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: the perfect pair. Hey, Um, actually have big Thanksgiving plans.
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  Speaker 1: Actually not not really. It's just gonna be my family
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  Speaker 1: of four plus you know, my best friend Naz, a
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 1: friend of yours and a friend of all of ours.
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  Speaker 1: She came to Virginia and it's just gonna be the
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  Speaker 1: five of us. And then my aunt and my cousin
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  Speaker 1: are going to come down the next day for like
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Part two. That's awesome. Now, I hope it is
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 1: a great day for you, um, and I also hope
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  Speaker 1: it's full of a lot of memories and a lot
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 1: of wine cooking. Wait, Ben, who's cooking? Your who's cooking? Are?
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  Speaker 1: I think we're having a big group Thanksgiving. So actually, Um, Friday,
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  Speaker 1: we're celebrating Thanksgiving and we're gonna go up to my
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  Speaker 1: buddy's house, the Fullers, who people out there followed quite often.
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  Speaker 1: So we're all going to get together at the Fuller's
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  Speaker 1: house and the whole Fuller family and my family and
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of friends are going to get together and
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: we're going to celebrate Thanksgiving and all kind of a potlux.
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  Speaker 1: So it's gonna be really fun. That's really nice, Hey Ben,
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  Speaker 1: guess what my parents decided to do? What's the hat?
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 1: They're catering it? Like, my parents do everything they possibly
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 1: can to get out of cooking. So when we insisted
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  Speaker 1: that we don't go out to dinner because my dad
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 1: wanted to go out to dinner for Thanksgiving, they try
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 1: to pull us every year and my sister and I
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  Speaker 1: won't have it. We're like, no, no. So my dad
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  Speaker 1: just told us this morning. He's like, here's the receipt
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: for the catering that we got for Thanksgiving. So all
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 1: he's gonna do is make the stuffing and everything else
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 1: is delivered. Hey, you know what, that's not a terrible idea, actually,
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  Speaker 1: I mean I get where your dad's coming from. Because
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  Speaker 1: you want to focus on the memories. You wanna focus
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  Speaker 1: on the people there. You want to focus on the
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  Speaker 1: relationships and not have to focus on the stress of
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 1: cooking a good dinner. So I like your dad style.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 1: I think there's more to that than we might just see.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: And and the one thing you can also do. If
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 1: you want to cater in food, you might as well
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 1: cater in some some alcohol. So Ashley, what is the
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: most common alcohol for Thanksgiving? To those Americans say they're
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: most likely to drink? What do you find? Yea wine,
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: beer or liquor. This is the perfect time of the
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• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: nobody's trying to go to the grocery store during the
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving rush to buy just wine. So you know, if
• 1:14:52
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's the best thing. And so okay,
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving is a few days away. After you listen to
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 1: this podcast, it's gonna be posted. Um. And if you
• 1:15:03
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• 1:15:30
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• 1:15:36
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• 1:15:51
  Speaker 1: to the grocery store to get some beer or a
• 1:15:54
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  Speaker 1: can I take a second? Amy, I'm gonna take a
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 1: second here, and I need um to talk about something
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 1: that I am involved in this week of Thanksgiving and
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: it means a lot to me. UM. So here's the deal.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: I've talked about generous coffee quite often in the podcast.
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 1: A lot of you have ordered the coffee and I
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 1: appreciate that, and we I was just in honderous seeing
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: kind of the results of what's been going on, and
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 1: it really is incredible, and I hope all of you
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 1: can come with me on a trip sometime. UM. If
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 1: you're interested, make sure you email Humanity and Hope United
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 1: UM to find out when we're going and when I'm
• 1:16:33
  Speaker 1: going UM. But we came up with a different idea
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 1: for the holiday season, one that we we hope UM
• 1:16:40
  Speaker 1: will make a huge impact. We've partnered Generous Coffee Company
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 1: has partnered with a brand called go X Apparel. Go
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: X Apparel makes all the T shirts out of recycled
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: water bottles, UM or recycled bottles, I should say, so
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: a lot less waste. It's good for the environment and
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 1: and their profits. Just like Generous Coffees profits. Their profits
• 1:16:56
  Speaker 1: are going to children all around the world. So here's
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 1: the deal. Give the gift of opportunity to children. Buy
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 1: the gift. That's our that's our mission, that's our statement.
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 1: We have one week and we're trying to sell five
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  Speaker 1: thousand shirts and it will support too. If we sell
• 1:17:09
  Speaker 1: five thousand shirts, it will support two thousand UM children
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  Speaker 1: in school and countries like Honduras, Haiti, India, Lolly and Ethiopia.
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: So I'm telling you please go out there. The link
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: is in my bio on Instagram. We really are giving
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 1: all profits away. This is just an avenue to raise
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: a bunch of money for kids who uh maybe haven't
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: had the opportunities of the rest of us have and
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 1: have been born into situations at a little bore desperate.
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 1: So please go out there, buy a shirt, buy some coffee. Um,
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 1: let's choose to do good this holiday season together. And guys,
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 1: the coffee is delicious. It was delivered to me this week.
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: You're going to enjoy it and you're doing something good
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 1: at the same time, which is always amazing. Thanks. I
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 1: appreciate that. So you're if you are killing it, you're
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: killing it like you are. You're truly the most generous
• 1:17:55
  Speaker 1: person I know. So, I mean, it really is. It's
• 1:17:58
  Speaker 1: been a lot of fun and um, you know, I
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 1: think there's a level to life when so many things
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 1: go really good for you, like the show and like
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: a podcast that I really enjoy doing, and they feel
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 1: very they very they uplift my spirits that then all
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 1: of a sudden, you go, wow, life has been so
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: good to me. I have to give back. And you
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 1: do the same, Ashley. And it kind of comes back
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 1: to the statement that an old man once told me
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: to bar um. And we'll close with this, uh, And
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 1: we'll close with this this holiday season because I think
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 1: it's important and this is not my advice to anybody
• 1:18:26
  Speaker 1: it's it's it really does become an old man sharing
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 1: a glass of bourbon with him, and he said to me, Ben,
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 1: if you die one day, which you will, and people
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 1: remember you as somebody that took less then they gave back,
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 1: then your life was a success. And so I'm gonna
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: stick with that because I believe that came straight from
• 1:18:48
  Speaker 1: my God above. So hey with that song, Uh, everybody
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 1: listening Astley, and I appreciate you, actually, I appreciate you
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 1: this holiday season. I'm very thankful for you and for
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: this pod will for you and Amy. We are so
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: thankful for you and everybody else in that room over
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 1: there in l A. Thank you so much. I've been,
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 1: actually i've been been, and we'll talk to you very
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 1: very soon. Followed the Bennon Ashley I Almost Famous podcasts
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