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Sex With Emily’s Dr. Emily Morse · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my love, it is Lala Kit. Welcome back to
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  Speaker 1: another episode of my podcast, Give Them La La. What's up,
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  Speaker 1: miss Jessica Walter?
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  Speaker 2: There are times to charm. I think you've said it
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  Speaker 2: three times like that, and it's cheap.
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  Speaker 3: So I love it when you say Walter, I can't
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  Speaker 3: even say it.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even say it.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing's up.
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  Speaker 4: We're just chilling in your bedroom, yep, on your bed.
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  Speaker 1: I have a full house right now. I have my
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  Speaker 1: little brother who was supposed to leave after his birthday
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  Speaker 1: and he was like, I don't want to go home.
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  Speaker 1: I said you should stay. He said, maybe I'll leave Thursday.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, why would you leave Thursday?
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  Speaker 5: Right?
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  Speaker 1: Like right, get home for right, get home for one
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  Speaker 1: day of work, and then the weekend hits like just
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  Speaker 1: stay through the weekend. So he's here. He brought his
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  Speaker 1: friend out some of all the goings on. It's fun.
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  Speaker 1: I love it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I love jam packed house.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, yes, yeah, it's like a comfortable family fun.
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  Speaker 1: I like it too. Yeah. So we're in the bedroom
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  Speaker 1: because Easton and his homies are downstairs watching The Tinder Swindler.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, watching the Tinder Swindler.
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  Speaker 4: How are you doing, Laala? Since we last spoke. Oh
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  Speaker 4: this podcast, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling excited and happy.
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  Speaker 1: We have doctor Emily Morris from the podcast Sex with Emily.
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  Speaker 1: She does a lot of other things. I'm super excited,
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  Speaker 1: super horny these days, and I'm like, I'm like, can
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  Speaker 1: we let's talk about it please?
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 1: I'm feeling amazing, and you know, I have people that
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  Speaker 1: I'm speaking to and I'm like getting to that point
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  Speaker 1: where I'm like I could let him hit it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I'm like nervous and not just nervous, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get very vulnerable with Emily today. Tell her
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  Speaker 1: where my head's at because I need her to like
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  Speaker 1: spit mad knowledge on me. Yeah. But one of the
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  Speaker 1: reasons I'm nervous is like, so I have an IUD, right,
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  Speaker 1: no hormones, I get migraines. But like there is a
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  Speaker 1: huge difference between like, Okay, I've got my IUD and
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  Speaker 1: people just assume like, oh, but I don't ovulate her.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I have my IUD or I'm taking a pill.
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  Speaker 1: So like I'm good. I need to know what my
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  Speaker 1: body is doing at all times, right, I cannot have
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  Speaker 1: any slip ups, any what the fuck, where's my period?
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  Speaker 1: You know, if I'm gonna start banging it out, I
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  Speaker 1: need to know no children are going to be on
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  Speaker 1: the way, right.
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  Speaker 2: This isn't a guessing game.
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  Speaker 1: This is not a guessing game. So I found this.
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  Speaker 1: It's like a thermometer. You download an app. It's called
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  Speaker 1: Natural Cycles. I stick it in my mouth green lets
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  Speaker 1: me know I'm good to go, And that obviously means
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  Speaker 1: like you're not ovulating.
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  Speaker 2: So you do the natural cycles thing. With the IUD.
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  Speaker 1: You should always know what your body is doing, whether
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  Speaker 1: you have an IUD or you're taking a pill, like,
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  Speaker 1: know what your body's doing, don't rely on it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: So with Natural Cycles, the reason I do it is
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  Speaker 1: because like that I know, it's like I'm a virgo,
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  Speaker 1: So I use everything perfectly obviously, and if you use
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  Speaker 1: it perfectly, it's ninety eight percent effective. And when you
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  Speaker 1: give me a number like that, I'm fucking using it right, right, right,
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  Speaker 1: So that thing has been in my like I'm checking
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  Speaker 1: all the time, yeah, because who knows when I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to like, hey, let's slip it in right.
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  Speaker 4: Are you a fan of period sex, because that could
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  Speaker 4: be a good way to track like.
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  Speaker 2: Like, do you have sex on your period.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like that's such a Some women are like, no,
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  Speaker 4: absolutely not, and others are like absolutely just that's.
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  Speaker 1: What I'm howl down. And I know I'm really safe.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm fine with it because I just think
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  Speaker 1: it's like, I am a woman, yeah who has a period, right,
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not going to be ashamed of that. Now,
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  Speaker 1: Like some dudes may not be into it. I've had
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  Speaker 1: most dudes that are like, I don't give a shit,
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  Speaker 1: let's get it pop in yeah, and then you know,
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  Speaker 1: you just do it in the shower exactly, don't look down.
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  Speaker 4: But I was gonna say that is that could be
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  Speaker 4: a good way to even if you're not having sex,
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  Speaker 4: or it's just a good way to track your period.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like I should do that. I know
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  Speaker 4: Kyle tracks my period because he like wants to know
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  Speaker 4: when I'm going to be extra emotional or like when
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  Speaker 4: I act like a monster.
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  Speaker 2: Heah looks down at his app.
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  Speaker 4: And he's like, oh, okay, great, she's this is why
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  Speaker 4: right then he's like, you know, brings me chocolate or whatever.
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  Speaker 2: But like, I feel like I should do that. That's smart.
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  Speaker 1: It is smart, And like I said, because I get
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  Speaker 1: the migraines. Like I cannot have any sort of hormone.
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  Speaker 1: It heightens your risk of strokes. Oh yeah, I know that.
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  Speaker 1: I learned that a while back. So I have a
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  Speaker 1: copper IUD which no hormones. Mix that with my natural
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  Speaker 1: cycles and I'm like, I'm golden, you know. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so that's what I love about it. And because there's
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  Speaker 1: no hormones in my IUD or with the natural cycles, like,
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't stop your ovulation, so you continue to have
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  Speaker 1: normal periods, continue to have your normal ovulation cycle. I
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  Speaker 1: just I you know me. I love a plan B.
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  Speaker 1: I know you. I love a plan B plan A
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  Speaker 1: B C.
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  Speaker 2: Like you love a good.
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  Speaker 1: Good, yes, good backup plan. That's what I live by. Yeah, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I'm I'm feeling in great spirits. And this weekend I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna see one of the boys.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, one of the boys. Yeah, how are you
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  Speaker 2: feeling about that?
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  Speaker 1: I get nervous?
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  Speaker 2: You do, yeah, you get Butterfly.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, And he's the one that I can get like
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  Speaker 1: emotional with and like if I cry if we have sex,
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  Speaker 1: because I probably will cry. I'm gonna ask Emily about that.
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  Speaker 1: Think you should have you ever cried?
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  Speaker 2: During sex, Jess, No, because I'm not a crazy No,
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  Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. Oh my god, you guys, I'm kidding.
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  Speaker 4: Nervous, of course, I cried when I lost my virginity
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  Speaker 4: to my long term boyfriend at the time.
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  Speaker 1: But it was sweet. I thought, I mean, why'd you cry?
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  Speaker 3: Though?
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  Speaker 1: Why'd you cry?
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  Speaker 2: Because I felt like it was such a big moment.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I was lucky.
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  Speaker 4: I had a nice I had a nice Like when
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  Speaker 4: I lost my virginity, it was like with someone special,
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  Speaker 4: and it was not that go was your virginity, do
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  Speaker 4: whatever you want to whoever. It could be a one
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  Speaker 4: night stand like you do you do you. But for me,
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  Speaker 4: I was like, it needs to be special and all
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  Speaker 4: this shit.
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  Speaker 1: I don't agree with that now.
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  Speaker 2: But so I cried because I was like so stupid.
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  Speaker 2: But I was like, oh my god, I'm like a woman.
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  Speaker 2: I think this is such a big moment in my life.
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  Speaker 1: I'm better remembrance forever.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but not in a negative way. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: this is such a big moment in my life. It
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  Speaker 2: was just a lot of emotions.
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  Speaker 4: I cried too, Yeah, and you cried the first time, Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: And I felt that I was safe.
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  Speaker 2: I think if I had.
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  Speaker 4: Done it with someone who was like new or I
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  Speaker 4: was like, oh, let me just it's a one night
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  Speaker 4: stand type of thing, I wouldn't have cried. I would
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  Speaker 4: have like kept it inside because I would have been like,
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  Speaker 4: this is gonna look really weird, which I don't agree
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  Speaker 4: with now, but at the time, and but I felt safe,
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  Speaker 4: So I was like emotional and I got you know,
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  Speaker 4: I got like a hug and a sweet like whatever.
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  Speaker 4: But but why do you think, I mean, because you're
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  Speaker 4: not losing your virginity, I am, but you feel like
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  Speaker 4: you are.
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  Speaker 1: I also think it's I also think that it's going
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  Speaker 1: to be like it'll be a happy cry. But you know,
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  Speaker 1: when there's so much emotion going through you, whether it's happy, sad,
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  Speaker 1: all the feels, and you don't know how to process it,
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  Speaker 1: so you cry. Yes, yes, yes, that's what it's going
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  Speaker 1: to be. Like. Yeah, who knows. I could bang it
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  Speaker 1: out and just be so slyly and not cry at all,
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  Speaker 1: but I want to be prepared. And I feel like
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  Speaker 1: with this dude, if I were to cry, like he
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  Speaker 1: would hug me after and like make me feel all
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  Speaker 1: special and sweet.
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  Speaker 2: That's that's nice.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and safe and safe the word of life. Feeling safe. Yeah,
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: speaking of period sex again, that takes me back to
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  Speaker 1: a time where like, I was dating this football player.
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  Speaker 1: He was playing at USC and then he got drafted hot,
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  Speaker 1: he was super hot. No, he was flying okay to
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  Speaker 1: the Seahawks in Seattle. So he flies me out to
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  Speaker 1: see him. Keep in mind, I'm young. I'm so young.
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  Speaker 1: I think I was like twenty two, okay, and you're
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  Speaker 1: like impressionable at twenty two, especially when you're dating this
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  Speaker 1: guy who's now in the NFL and you're kind of
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  Speaker 1: intimidated and you're like, oh my god. Okay, Yeah, we
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  Speaker 1: had had sex before, So I fly out to see him.
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  Speaker 1: We bang it out once right that night, and it's
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  Speaker 1: like two seconds because I'm so good at what I do, right,
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  Speaker 1: and he was like upset about it. Right Okay, He's
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  Speaker 1: like I can do better than that. I can do
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  Speaker 1: better than that, So he wants to go again. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I am just wrapping up my period. The first the
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  Speaker 1: first time we did it that night, we were good.
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  Speaker 1: The second time is when it was like, Okay, something's happening,
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  Speaker 1: right and I don't know him like that, Where do
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  Speaker 1: I warn him? Because you know when you're wrapping up
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  Speaker 1: your period. Yes, I'm so. We're getting real real, right, No,
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  Speaker 1: this is great.
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  Speaker 2: This is what get real when you're so you're wrapping up.
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  Speaker 2: You're not about to start.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's like the tail end of it, okay, and
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  Speaker 1: you're about to wrap up, but you think you feel
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  Speaker 1: it like, oh my god, there's more done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah I thought it was more done than it might be. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: so that happens. Okay, he is not about that life
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  Speaker 3: at all. I'm mortified. He goes to practice The next morning.
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  Speaker 3: I washed the sheets and everything.
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  Speaker 1: I start getting a migraine because I'm so stressed out
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  Speaker 1: about what had just happened. Now i'd be like, fuck you, motherfucker. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I got a period.
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  Speaker 4: That makes me really sad for you and makes me
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  Speaker 4: want to look this Seahawks man in their face and
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  Speaker 4: be like, grow up. I've said it two weeks in
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  Speaker 4: a row now, just for different reasons, but like that's
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  Speaker 4: my thing lately.
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  Speaker 1: Grow grow up right right?
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  Speaker 3: Me? Sad?
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  Speaker 2: What a loser?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? So he comes home that night, I've like washed
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  Speaker 1: everything whatever, we're laying down. We had banged it out again,
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  Speaker 1: so we obviously wasn't that Oh okay, okay, yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: he sees a small little sp on the bed and
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  Speaker 1: he goes, couldn't get this out, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm never talking to you again. I cannot wait to
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  Speaker 1: get the fuck out of here.
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  Speaker 5: What a little shit.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I've never had a man be upset.
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  Speaker 1: I was on my period.
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  Speaker 4: The only thing that's happened, I don't know if this
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  Speaker 4: has ever happened to you, is that I had a
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  Speaker 4: tampon in one night and I was drunk, and I
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  Speaker 4: knew I had my period, but I was like, it
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  Speaker 4: was just like we were drunk and we started having sex,
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  Speaker 4: and I was like, like, almost as the sex was
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  Speaker 4: almost done, I was like, I didn't take out my tampon,
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  Speaker 4: and his venus has been all the way inside of me,
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  Speaker 4: so that tampon is up there.
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  Speaker 2: I had to go to the guy no and get
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  Speaker 2: it taken out.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, good for him, it was that big. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Well, like I think I was also just like I
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  Speaker 4: get like weird and queasy about like my blood getting
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  Speaker 4: taken and like if I have to put my leg
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  Speaker 4: up on the toilet. I think I fainted multiple times
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  Speaker 4: the first time trying to put a tampon in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's a lot. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I was like, I'll just go get it taken out.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm the same way when I see blood. Yeah, automatically,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm gonna So I got botox for
• 12:09
  Speaker 1: the first time in a long time. Okay, how did
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  Speaker 1: that go? So it went great? Obviously I love my bowtoks.
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  Speaker 1: But they didn't do numbing cream this time because I
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  Speaker 1: was on a tight schedule. I was like, we don't
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  Speaker 1: have time to numb today. Okay. They had to tilt
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  Speaker 1: me back and I can feel it coming on the
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  Speaker 1: second he was poking. I was like, okay, legs are
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  Speaker 1: going numb. You gotta tilt me back like I could
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  Speaker 1: feel like working up my body to where my I
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  Speaker 1: was gonna be knocked out. Okay, So I should have
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  Speaker 1: just had them numb me because the amount of times
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  Speaker 1: they had to tilt me back.
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  Speaker 2: So wait, what do you Why are they tilting you back?
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  Speaker 1: Does that hit the blood back to you so you
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  Speaker 1: don't faint or it just so you don't faint? Yes? Okay.
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  Speaker 1: And doctor Diamond, by the way, there is no better
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  Speaker 1: doctor to make you look natural. He's very conservative. Right
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  Speaker 1: mm hm. I learned to go to him after some
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  Speaker 1: not so great moments of injection. Right, Okay, yes, he
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  Speaker 1: is an artist when it comes to the face, so
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  Speaker 1: I only trust him with my face. But he knows
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  Speaker 1: at this point like Walla has Faintie's mouth, so like
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  Speaker 1: tilt back and of course like in comes the nurse
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  Speaker 1: with my little juice box and like the little cookie.
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  Speaker 2: So you must have you ever given blood?
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  Speaker 1: Yes? And I don't like it?
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  Speaker 5: No?
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  Speaker 4: Do you faint every time?
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  Speaker 1: Most of the time they have to tilt me back
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  Speaker 1: and bring in the juice, bringing the juice, tilt.
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  Speaker 2: Me back next time, numbing cream.
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  Speaker 1: I will never do it again without numbing cream. And
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: by the way, the lips are the hardest.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, wait, this is gonna be a weird question. Then
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  Speaker 4: did you faint when you were giving birth? If like
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  Speaker 4: you faint from like blood and maybe like pain.
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  Speaker 1: So I was worried about that. Yeah, I would be
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  Speaker 1: because doctor Bart who delivered Ocean, said do you want
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  Speaker 1: to feel? And do you want to feel? And I
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  Speaker 1: was like no, because if she's here, like I'll pass
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  Speaker 1: out if it's if it just isn't you know, like
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  Speaker 1: if I realize what's happening to my body it's when
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  Speaker 1: pain is involved or poking that I'm like, I associate, oh,
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  Speaker 1: there's blood because this is happening. Yeah, oh my god, yes,
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: you know, period blood totally fine, I'm good, right, But
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: with Ocean, I feel like I was so just chilling.
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  Speaker 1: Really yeah.
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  Speaker 4: See that's so good because I always assume, like like
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  Speaker 4: when when Courtney Kardashian gave birth to and she pulled
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  Speaker 4: and had the mirror down and she just pulled him out.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 1: I looked and I saw Ocean coming out like the
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  Speaker 1: tail ends. Oh you did. Yes, so fun fact about
• 14:48
  Speaker 1: my birthing experience. Okay, So they give me the epidural
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  Speaker 1: and I'm freaking out because I feel like an egg.
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  Speaker 1: My legs are gone. I am humpty fucking okay, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, is this gonna go away? Like I can't
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  Speaker 1: feel anything. I cannot feel like it starts fucking with me. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And they're like, do you want something for the anxiety
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  Speaker 1: because I was starting to panic and I was like no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sober. I don't take anything. Keep in mind, remember
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  Speaker 1: I never had an issue with pills, drugs. Alcohol was
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  Speaker 1: my thing. Okay, That's why I go to AA. Nothing
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  Speaker 1: else ever interest interested me, never dabbled in anything. Alcohol
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  Speaker 1: was where it started and ended. So I tell them
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  Speaker 1: this and they're like, okay, good to know, because sometimes
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: they put fetanyl in the epidural, right, you can opt
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  Speaker 1: out of it. And I said, I don't want that.
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  Speaker 1: I do not want that. So cut to like three
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  Speaker 1: in the morning and I'm like, maybe sooner than that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, the epidural's not working anymore. I'm feeling a
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: lot of cramping because I'm in labor. Yeah, and there's
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  Speaker 1: a new guy that's doing the epidural. So he comes
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: in and does it, and I'm on cloud night. I
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: was like, I don't feel shit. The best sleep I've
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: ever gotten. It was definitely before three am because I
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: slept so great. Really, Jessica, get to the point where
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: they're like, we're gonna break your water. They break my water.
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  Speaker 1: They come in, they're like, we're gonna change the bed
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  Speaker 1: sheet because there's a lot of water. I said, just
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: leave it. I can't feel shit. I'm so tired.
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  Speaker 2: So do you think that then there was fentanylon that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, they come in later and they were like, there's
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  Speaker 1: an issue, oh, because they were worried because I told
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: them I was sober, and I said, I don't want
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: you to worry. It's all good. If you would have
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: injected vodka into my spine, maybe a different story. But
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: we're all good. We're all good. That's crazy. So my
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: birthing experience was fantastic and you didn't faint. No, Wow,
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: I was in it. Six am. They're like, she's here,
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: don't push another second. Did I tell you that?
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: No?
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: They were like, push so we can just see where
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: we're at. Because she comes in and she's like, oh,
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: we're there. We're out of ten.
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: When you say, when she says we're there, does that
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: mean like the head's starting to come out?
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: Well? When I pushed, she goes, do not move until
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: doctor Rothbart gets here, because I'm looking at her head
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: right now.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: What Yeah, that is wild.
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: See I think about that and I'm like, I'm I
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: will faint when they say that.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: They say, oh, I see your head. I'm done.
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: My sister took my sister to get her belly button
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: piers She got it pierced and got wobbly.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: I was down down. That would knock me out too.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: Belly button peers, I'm telling you, when you give birth,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: and they say, we're there. I see the head. You
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: are not gonna faint. You're gonna be like, this is
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: like you're gonna meet Like I'm getting emotional. You're gonna
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: meet your baby. Yeah, you won't faint.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because you don't know what they look like.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: You don't know like anything. They've just been living in
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: you for nine months. And they're finally coming out. And
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: someone says you can see her her head or his head,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, I can't wait. That's
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: you know, yeah, like let me fucking push, yeah, her
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: out of there. She's ready to so I can hold
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: her on her mom. I know, speaking of that, it's
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: almost a year.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: I know, how do you feel about them?
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited.
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: You're a little water baby.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: My little water baby is going to be one next month.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: It's it's so much fun. I thought I would be
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: so sad about it, and I look back on pictures
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm so sad about this, But I'm
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: not so sad about this because she is so much fun.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: She's so cute.
• 18:32
  Speaker 4: She's like she's a baby, she's like a I look
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: at it.
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: I'm like, you're a human. It's wild.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she's my little person, my little mini all right.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: So now with all of that sex talk, birth control talk,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: period talk, let's take a little break and we'll be
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: back with doctor Emily Moores. We are back with a
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: guest that I'm super excited to have on. We have
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Emily Sex with Emily. So Hi Emily, first and foremost,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: thank you for being here.
• 19:06
  Speaker 5: Hi Ella.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: So, I became addicted to you and your podcast when
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: I was lucky enough to go to dinner with a
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: girl by the name of Camilica Bao and she is
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: obsessed with you, and I was like, I have to
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: get on this train, and then I have to have
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: her on the podcast because I'm kind of venturing into
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: new territory when it comes to sex.
• 19:32
  Speaker 5: Okay, I love it.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: So I want to have you first explained, like to
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: people who maybe are living under a rock and not
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: familiar with you, what your podcast entails, what you're into,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: and then we're going to dive into all things sex.
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: All right, Well, thank you for having me on. I'm
• 19:48
  Speaker 5: so glad that you found your way to sec to Themily.
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: We've been doing this podcast for over fifteen years. It's
• 19:54
  Speaker 5: our seventeen Beer and I actually shout it up. I
• 19:57
  Speaker 5: know it was one of the first podcasts ever, and
• 20:00
  Speaker 5: it was the first sex podcast. So I've been doing
• 20:03
  Speaker 5: this for a long time. I love what I do.
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: I answer people's questions, I help people. My home mission
• 20:08
  Speaker 5: of Sex with Emily and now it's everything. It's you
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: can find me sex with Emily and on social media,
• 20:12
  Speaker 5: and I have books, and I teach and I speak
• 20:14
  Speaker 5: products all the things. But really my mission is to
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: get people to prioritize their pleasure and liberate the conversation
• 20:21
  Speaker 5: around sex. It's so taboos still in so many circles.
• 20:24
  Speaker 5: Maybe not here in Los Angeles. You can do it
• 20:26
  Speaker 5: with their friends and Camala is going to say, check
• 20:28
  Speaker 5: out this sex podcast. But in a lot of places
• 20:29
  Speaker 5: in the world, we are not comfortable talking about it,
• 20:32
  Speaker 5: and we don't think about pleasure. We think of sex
• 20:34
  Speaker 5: as being this kind of a lot of ways, especially
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: for a lot of women, we feel like we have
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: to be more performative, we have to please our partner,
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: but we don't really know our own bodies. We kind
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: of shame ourselves. And so it's really about opening up
• 20:46
  Speaker 5: that conversation. And I release two podcasts a week, and yeah,
• 20:49
  Speaker 5: it's really just about every topic you can think of
• 20:52
  Speaker 5: answering questions I've guessed sometimes.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I am so into it. And actually, so that's where
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I am right now, because when I think about I
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: almost get nervous. And I don't get nervous because I
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: think it's the other person's gonna be bad. I'm worried
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: that I'm gonna be bad. So like I'm not even
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: worried about if I get off, I'm worried about if
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: the other person gets off. Like I'm all about the
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: other person. Please help me and other women or men
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: who are going through that same thought process.
• 21:22
  Speaker 5: Well, okay, so let me tell you this all. I
• 21:24
  Speaker 5: love that you've said. This is so good because here's
• 21:27
  Speaker 5: the thing. The best sex is when everyone's having pleasure
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: and everyone gets off right or everyone feels good. And
• 21:35
  Speaker 5: so I'm gonna say, I'm gonna twist this a little
• 21:38
  Speaker 5: bit and say, you're gonna be fine with whatever lover
• 21:41
  Speaker 5: you have next as long as you were truly having pleasure,
• 21:44
  Speaker 5: you're in your body, you know what feels good, and
• 21:48
  Speaker 5: so that's the sexiest lover in the world is a
• 21:50
  Speaker 5: woman or I always say on my show, I don't
• 21:52
  Speaker 5: use gender, I say volva owners and penis owners, but
• 21:54
  Speaker 5: we'll just say is a woman a velva owner? A
• 21:57
  Speaker 5: lolva is the external part of vaginan you can say
• 21:59
  Speaker 5: vagina blah blah, who knows her body, knows how to
• 22:03
  Speaker 5: move it, knows what feels good. So I feel like
• 22:06
  Speaker 5: this is a lot of people come into my show
• 22:07
  Speaker 5: and they're like, tell me how to not make a
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: weird orgasm phase or how do I get better blow jobs?
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: And all that can come, but first you have to come.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: I love that because I think a lot of people
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: do get in their head about that. I mean more
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: times than not, Like I'm not getting off because I'm
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: so in my head about you know. And when you're
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: with the same person for a really long time, then
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: you become like almost comfortable with the dynamic.
• 22:37
  Speaker 5: You know, Yeah, exactly.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: It's mostly just like a chore.
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: The chur check you out the list. And I don't
• 22:42
  Speaker 5: want that. That's my mission is. I don't do not
• 22:44
  Speaker 5: want sex to be something that is another item mind
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: your to do list. And so and I mean I
• 22:49
  Speaker 5: started this show to give you the history, Like I
• 22:51
  Speaker 5: started the show over fifteen years ago because I was performative.
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: I was like, what's he going to think of me?
• 22:55
  Speaker 5: How do I give a blow jump? How do I
• 22:57
  Speaker 5: look sexy when I'm giving it? How do And I
• 22:59
  Speaker 5: was faking orgasms like I was doing all the things
• 23:01
  Speaker 5: that I find out that I was not alone, But
• 23:03
  Speaker 5: at the time there was nobody else talking about this.
• 23:06
  Speaker 5: I felt there was nobody else like talking about the
• 23:08
  Speaker 5: reality of it. So I had to do my own
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: work and figure out what feels good to me. I
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: had to bring back my master, but I like really
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: get into my masturbation. I had to learn to communicate
• 23:17
  Speaker 5: with my partners and say, like, this is what I'm
• 23:18
  Speaker 5: into because here's the thing. Well, the reason why most
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: women are more performative or they're like just wanted to
• 23:24
  Speaker 5: get over with is because we don't really know because
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: sex is so focused first off on penetration. Here's one
• 23:29
  Speaker 5: of the reasons penetration can feel amazing. Nothing about penetration.
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: But that goes back to religion and the patriarchy saying
• 23:36
  Speaker 5: that sex is good about penetration because that's where babies
• 23:39
  Speaker 5: are made. The majority of women or volva owners are
• 23:43
  Speaker 5: not going to have an orgasm with anything to do
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: with the penis, so I'm not gonna have the most
• 23:47
  Speaker 5: pleasure with the penis, and maybe you do. Only twenty
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: percent of women have orgasms during penetration. That's first off,
• 23:52
  Speaker 5: And now that that's not important, that's amazing, But most
• 23:55
  Speaker 5: of them need a warm up, they need oral sex,
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: they need to make sure that the kitchen clean or
• 24:00
  Speaker 5: like they finish their items on the to do list.
• 24:03
  Speaker 5: So there's like all these factors that go into really
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: pleasurable sex. So the first thing is realizing that maybe
• 24:09
  Speaker 5: you need a lot of oral like I know I do,
• 24:11
  Speaker 5: Like I need a lot of warm up, I need foreplay.
• 24:13
  Speaker 5: I need to know that my partner and I've connected.
• 24:15
  Speaker 5: And so it just kind of understanding that sex is
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: more complex than just like getting it over with and
• 24:21
  Speaker 5: the old in and out.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Right, Like we're not jack rabbits, let's like make this
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: a fun event. I totally guys, I'm trying to get
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: back into that headspace. Now, back to what you said
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: about the faking of the orgasms.
• 24:35
  Speaker 5: Okay, let's do it.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Do you think that people should do that? Do you
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: think that people should fake an orgasm?
• 24:42
  Speaker 5: I don't think people should fake orgasms, but I know
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: that they do. But we fake them because we're afraid
• 24:46
  Speaker 5: we're not going to get there. We want our partners
• 24:48
  Speaker 5: to feel We don't want them to feel bad, right,
• 24:51
  Speaker 5: we are embarrassed that we can't. I'm just gonna get
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: over with We know, we know it's not going to happen,
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: and all these reasons. But what we're doing is, first off,
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: we're setting these and I think it's mostly with men
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: that we fa get to. Let's just say that we're
• 25:02
  Speaker 5: setting all these penises off in the world thinking that
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: they're great lovers, their masters of the universe, and like, well,
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: no woman's ever faked it with me. I'm like, I
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: guarantee you all the time that like more than half
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: have faked it, probably because it usually doesn't happen the
• 25:15
  Speaker 5: first time you're with someone. Like there's just all these factors.
• 25:17
  Speaker 5: So no, I think it's a disservice to your partners,
• 25:20
  Speaker 5: first off, for the future partners that they're with, but
• 25:23
  Speaker 5: also it's a disservice to ourselves. And even if you
• 25:25
  Speaker 5: stay with them forever, they should know how to please you, right,
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: you can know how to please you and you're not.
• 25:31
  Speaker 5: Then we're almost like we're deciding in that moment we
• 25:34
  Speaker 5: fake it that their pleasure is more important than ours.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I mean at the very beginning of this,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I said that I like, if they get off, then
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I know I did my job. Like, I'm more concerned
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: with that.
• 25:43
  Speaker 5: That's what we're switching that I think I have to
• 25:47
  Speaker 5: we're doing it so into the switchingness for you.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Do you feel like vulva owners are more in their
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: head when it comes to sex than penis owners?
• 25:58
  Speaker 5: Think that we're all in our heads, to be honest,
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: And I got to say this my podcast audience is
• 26:02
  Speaker 5: that it's half men and half women. It always has been,
• 26:04
  Speaker 5: so it's never been like, which is you know, interesting?
• 26:07
  Speaker 5: But I think it's just I know this because I
• 26:10
  Speaker 5: get all big questions all the time. We're all in
• 26:12
  Speaker 5: our heads. That women are our heads. Ulva owners are
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: at our head. Thank you for having me here. Veva
• 26:16
  Speaker 5: owners are in their head and they're worried that is
• 26:20
  Speaker 5: my left boob a lot bigger than my right boob?
• 26:21
  Speaker 5: Am I doing this right? Or the kids going to
• 26:23
  Speaker 5: come in the door? Is my roommate? Can they every
• 26:26
  Speaker 5: roommate hear me? Is this weird? Whatever was in our mind?
• 26:29
  Speaker 5: Am I doing this wrong? Am I not going to
• 26:31
  Speaker 5: get there, And then I think that penis owners are
• 26:33
  Speaker 5: in their head equally wondering like is she going to
• 26:35
  Speaker 5: get there? Why aren't I hard enough? I'm going to
• 26:37
  Speaker 5: lose my direction, I'm going to come too quickly. So yes,
• 26:39
  Speaker 5: I think we're all in our heads. And so that's
• 26:41
  Speaker 5: how we could just really do a lot of work
• 26:43
  Speaker 5: around getting out of our heads. I can give you
• 26:45
  Speaker 5: some tips on that too.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: So for me going back to being out there like
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: that again, and obviously I practice safe sex always first
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: and foremost. I think it's important to be an educated
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: lover and a smart one at thought. But I fully
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: intend on going and living my best life, Emily, I'm
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: not even going to lie do it. And what are
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: some tips that you can Number one, let's talk about
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: getting out of the head, Like, what what do you
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: recommend for people in my situation where it's like this
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: is new territory again, like I used to be great
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: at what I was doing, but am I still Like
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: how do I get myself to be like you're freaking awesome?
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, Well, first by saying that you're freaking awesome
• 27:32
  Speaker 5: because you are freaking awesome and knowing that, but there's
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: a few steps that happen here, because if you if
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: you lie, if you leave it up to your thoughts
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: to do that for you, it's just not going to happen.
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: So we just start where did you get ahead of it?
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: We need to be more proactive and retraining our brains
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: and retraining our thoughts so we can really get ourselves
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: more for sex. Now, getting out of our head. The
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: first thing is do you ever do any meditation or
• 27:54
  Speaker 5: mindfulness work or anything like that?
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: No, but teach me. I watch a lot of friends.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Is that mind work?
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: It's like a little bit of distraction that's good, gets
• 28:04
  Speaker 5: you out of your head, but then you're in someone
• 28:06
  Speaker 5: else's head. Right, you know, here's simple tons of mass
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: to say. Masturbation. That's important too. Meditation. One of my mantras,
• 28:15
  Speaker 5: by the way, is meditate, masturbate, manifest. So the meditation
• 28:18
  Speaker 5: thing is really just about being present. How do I
• 28:20
  Speaker 5: be Because when you're when you're thinking, when you're in
• 28:22
  Speaker 5: your head, you're usually worrying about something that can happen
• 28:25
  Speaker 5: in the future or something that happened in the past.
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: But I really want to train people is to stay
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: in the moment, is to anchor yourself in the in
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: the moment, and that would be like, okay right now
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: when I find myself tripping, and I still like, don't
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: get me wrong, I'm not like perfect during sex. I
• 28:39
  Speaker 5: worry about things too, and this is my job. So
• 28:41
  Speaker 5: what I do is I think about the five senses. Right,
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: You've got sight, you've got sense, you've got taste, you've
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: got hearing, you've got touch, And I think, what are
• 28:52
  Speaker 5: the five that?
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: What are the like?
• 28:54
  Speaker 5: Okay, So if I'm thinking I'm tripping, I'm like, usually
• 28:56
  Speaker 5: I just take a deep breath and like, okay, what
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: am I hearing right now? I'm like okay, because when
• 29:01
  Speaker 5: we breathe like a deep breath during sex, not just
• 29:03
  Speaker 5: like a shallow breath. But if you do like a
• 29:05
  Speaker 5: deep into my public floor breath and you do five
• 29:07
  Speaker 5: of those, that's going to anchor you in the moment.
• 29:10
  Speaker 5: So I'm like, I'm hearing my breath? What am I?
• 29:12
  Speaker 5: And they're like what do I smell? And I always
• 29:15
  Speaker 5: light the same candle when I have sex. I like
• 29:16
  Speaker 5: this nice vanilla like candle. What am I hearing? Like
• 29:20
  Speaker 5: I'm hearing their breath? Maybe I'm hearing my breath I'm
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: touching them. What am I feeling? Okay, my hands are
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: on their body. Oh my god, look at their body.
• 29:27
  Speaker 5: It feels really good. And sometimes I can do that
• 29:28
  Speaker 5: for a few minutes. What am I hearing? What am
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: I smelling? What am I tasting? Like I'm tasting their lips.
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: You are immediately present, and then in that moment you
• 29:36
  Speaker 5: can start to think about breathing, what am I feeling like?
• 29:40
  Speaker 5: What am I actually feeling in my body? Like, oh, okay,
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: actually she feels good, like like if your head goes
• 29:46
  Speaker 5: to I'm worried, like I'm not feeling anything. Okay, Well,
• 29:48
  Speaker 5: how can you start to feel more? Like how can
• 29:51
  Speaker 5: I send up moving a way that feels good? Like
• 29:54
  Speaker 5: just just sort of And you can practice this during
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: masturbation if you do masturbate. I hope you do, of course.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 30:00
  Speaker 5: Lube is important to I have a lube on every
• 30:02
  Speaker 5: night stand, this luba during masturbation, Luba on the nights
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: stand because we're worried, like, am I too dry? Am
• 30:06
  Speaker 5: I too wet? Am I? Lubricant will keep you neutral,
• 30:09
  Speaker 5: make sure that you are can actually feel what's going
• 30:12
  Speaker 5: on in the moment, because I don't leaves a whole
• 30:15
  Speaker 5: other thing. So being present in the moment, that's part
• 30:18
  Speaker 5: of it. Being with partners, even if it's a one
• 30:20
  Speaker 5: night stand and you're having fun, which is great, but
• 30:23
  Speaker 5: it's like making sure that you're getting your like you are,
• 30:27
  Speaker 5: I mean, just asking you for what you want, not
• 30:30
  Speaker 5: faking it, like really like if you need oral sex
• 30:32
  Speaker 5: or you want someone to slow down. I mean I
• 30:34
  Speaker 5: think that a lot of times we're with partners who
• 30:35
  Speaker 5: just kind of rush through things. So let them know
• 30:38
  Speaker 5: that I wanted to take this a little bit slower.
• 30:40
  Speaker 5: And I think affirmations are really helpful. And in fact,
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: we're just posting this today on our Instagram, but I
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: was just like, looking at this, it's the full moon, right.
• 30:47
  Speaker 5: I love the full moon because there's like full moon
• 30:49
  Speaker 5: rituals where you can just like think about what you
• 30:51
  Speaker 5: want to release in the past and what you want
• 30:53
  Speaker 5: to have in the next month or so. So I
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: this is like my full These are affirmations for an
• 30:59
  Speaker 5: earth during sex life, and I have these are my
• 31:01
  Speaker 5: notes on my phone, and it's like I'm free to
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: explore my sexuality and explore my desires. I am balancing sexy,
• 31:08
  Speaker 5: I deserve pleasure and satisfaction. Pleasure finds me wherever I go.
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: I'm endlessly grateful for my body that provides me with
• 31:18
  Speaker 5: sexual pleasure. I am filled with love and sexual energy.
• 31:22
  Speaker 5: I mean, if your thoughts are negative in telling you otherwise,
• 31:25
  Speaker 5: if you have a daily ritual breeding affirmations, even if
• 31:27
  Speaker 5: it's five of them, even if it's ten, you affirm,
• 31:30
  Speaker 5: you meditate, you just kind of get yourself in the
• 31:32
  Speaker 5: mindset like I am a sexy, smart, incredible woman. And
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: it's a practice, and I think it also helps women
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: being with women men that they feel safe with. Right
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: we are not going to have Listen, no Volva owners
• 31:47
  Speaker 5: have their best sex when they don't trust somebody when
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: it's new, and it's that's why we fake it too
• 31:53
  Speaker 5: sometimes like that I don't know this person, it's new.
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: I want them to like me. So then it's also
• 31:58
  Speaker 5: okay to slow it down, like we don't need to
• 32:00
  Speaker 5: rush right into sex, maybe just for play for a
• 32:02
  Speaker 5: while or making out like the more that I'm not
• 32:05
  Speaker 5: one of these like wait, three dates, so you're permitted, Like, no,
• 32:07
  Speaker 5: go have sex with someone the first night too. But
• 32:10
  Speaker 5: I think if we're talking about pleasure and being more
• 32:12
  Speaker 5: in your body and being less in your head. All
• 32:16
  Speaker 5: these things matter again being with somebody you feel, you trust,
• 32:19
  Speaker 5: that you feel safe with, even if it's been a
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: few dates. Like is this a good person because it's
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: your body you're giving to them, so we know this
• 32:26
  Speaker 5: if they're not a good part like we kind of know.
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: And when you're with someone who's safe and who's nurturing,
• 32:32
  Speaker 5: and you're going to feel comfortable, more comfortable being yourself
• 32:37
  Speaker 5: and acting and letting them know, like this is new
• 32:39
  Speaker 5: for me. I haven't been with anyone in a while.
• 32:41
  Speaker 5: Let's slow it down. Like the penis orders you're with
• 32:44
  Speaker 5: and I hope you're going to be with in the future,
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: are going to want to be incredible lovers to you.
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: They want that. They don't want women, folks, they're Voda
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: owners faking and they don't. Yeah, they want a great sex,
• 32:55
  Speaker 5: but they most importantly want to see a woman in
• 32:57
  Speaker 5: ecstasy and a woman having pleasure at their in their
• 33:01
  Speaker 5: it's their hands, like on their dime, you know.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Right of course. Yeah. I think I get into my
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: head a lot. And you know, I think back to
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: when I was in my twenties and I was like
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I just was like so into every part of my body, right,
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: And it's crazy to me that in your twenties, or
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: for me at least in my twenties, is when I
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: felt like I was just I owned my sexuality so hardcore,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: and maybe there was a little bit of you know,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: liquid courage to my ownership. Cut to you know, thirty
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: one years old, where I am now, and I'm questioning everything,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: like the thought like I feel like I'm going to
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: be losing my virginity for the first time, like this
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: not losing my virginity again, like I have forgotten to
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: like how to have sex.
• 33:52
  Speaker 5: Well, you know what, this makes sense because you're sober now, right,
• 33:55
  Speaker 5: you were not soberer for so obviously you're summer now.
• 33:58
  Speaker 5: You were drinking your twenties, and so I know, a
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: lot of work, a lot with a lot of people
• 34:02
  Speaker 5: who are have recently gotten sowhere of a lot of
• 34:04
  Speaker 5: friends who got sober, and it's almost is like a rebirth.
• 34:07
  Speaker 5: It almost is like a virginity because the reason why
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: a lot of people drink, and you probably know this
• 34:11
  Speaker 5: is because it's liquid courage. It's because we're so afraid
• 34:14
  Speaker 5: to talk to that boy in high school or in
• 34:15
  Speaker 5: college and then we're just drinking. Weally can't imagine having
• 34:19
  Speaker 5: sex without alcohol, and so that's congratulations to you, Like
• 34:23
  Speaker 5: that's huge that you stopped drinking first thing. And then
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: now like just honor Like I have friends who got sober,
• 34:29
  Speaker 5: and I remember when she first got sober, she would
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: bring me on dates with her. She Emily, We just
• 34:34
  Speaker 5: like I think I like this guy, but I'm mute,
• 34:37
  Speaker 5: like I can't even I can't even use word, and
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: she's the most she is the most outgoing person and
• 34:41
  Speaker 5: it came back and now she's married as kids, but
• 34:44
  Speaker 5: like at the time, she's like I don't even know
• 34:46
  Speaker 5: how to who I am, you know, and you're probably
• 34:48
  Speaker 5: going through some of that. So I just want to
• 34:49
  Speaker 5: like like honor that and know that, like it's okay
• 34:53
  Speaker 5: for you to share that too. And maybe we've been
• 34:55
  Speaker 5: told like, oh, guys won't think that's sexy, and you
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: still may be still associate as like La La, but
• 35:00
  Speaker 5: this is like the hotter, better version of Lalla right now,
• 35:04
  Speaker 5: who's being more mindful and respectful of yourself, And like
• 35:06
  Speaker 5: what guy wouldn't want to be the one that's like
• 35:09
  Speaker 5: helping you with your sexual I don't love the word virginity.
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: We all use it, but like it's more of a
• 35:14
  Speaker 5: like your sexual debut, I think is a much better
• 35:16
  Speaker 5: way to part it. Like I love that, like this
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: is your debut world, Like you're out of a bad relationship,
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: you're sober, Like this is not this is more than
• 35:24
  Speaker 5: like even our conversation, like who are you? Like look
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: at I mean I would also recommend like and I
• 35:28
  Speaker 5: recommend this to a lot of Volva owners is like
• 35:31
  Speaker 5: look in the mirror, like when you're masturbating in your
• 35:33
  Speaker 5: home and like walking around naked and like because someoney
• 35:36
  Speaker 5: was a shamer on our bodies. And there's something called
• 35:37
  Speaker 5: the exposure exercise where you're literally like in the mirror,
• 35:40
  Speaker 5: you're naked. You're like looking at it, like what's going
• 35:42
  Speaker 5: on between my legs? You're walking out yourself. Well like
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: when we get or we get turned on, we put
• 35:48
  Speaker 5: a vibrator there and everything, it's like you see like,
• 35:50
  Speaker 5: oh my my laby has swells, my clitteriest swell like
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: you just we're amazing creature. So the more you get
• 35:56
  Speaker 5: to know who you are right now as a sexual
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: being in this state, if you're life at thirty one,
• 36:01
  Speaker 5: it's going to be a lot easier for you to
• 36:04
  Speaker 5: be in the bedroom with someone because you're going to
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: show up as she is part of you, like the
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: kick ass, badass business woman talent that you are. It's
• 36:11
  Speaker 5: also this sexual dynamo that you're starting to get to know,
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: and we want to incorporate all those together. It's not like,
• 36:18
  Speaker 5: now's the bedroom part. Now's the part where I go
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: to dinner with them. It's like, you want to bring
• 36:22
  Speaker 5: her with you everywhere? Does that make sense?
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, yes, I want to. I'm looking forward
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: to getting into that headspace of just feeling myself again
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: and getting out of my head and remembering you give
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: a killer blow job. Blah lah, like you know how
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: to do this. It's like riding a bike.
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: It's like riding a bike, it really is.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I know. And then then I go there and I'm like, well,
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: if I got on a bike, what I even know
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: remember how to ride one? Like it's like a rabbit
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: hole for me, and I know that I'm not the
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: only one going through this.
• 36:54
  Speaker 5: So many people go through this, whether that's the first time,
• 36:56
  Speaker 5: whether so many women, so many bubba ow, there's so
• 36:59
  Speaker 5: many people are so worried that well, I'm with somebody
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: who has more experience than I do. They're gonna be constantly,
• 37:05
  Speaker 5: They're gonna be lying there thinking about all the other
• 37:06
  Speaker 5: blowjobs as it come before. It's so not true. I
• 37:10
  Speaker 5: never hear this people like, oh my girlfriendts was better
• 37:13
  Speaker 5: than that. Like it's the the stories that we create
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: our heads to keep us down. So here's the great news.
• 37:18
  Speaker 5: Every time we are with a new lover, every time
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: is my best tip for you is to pay attention
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: and to be present with that penis, with that volva
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: for whatever body parts you're with, because it's telling you
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: something like you're gonna know if you're paying attention, is
• 37:37
  Speaker 5: there you know, is your partner's breath quickening? Are they
• 37:39
  Speaker 5: turned off? Like are they comfortable? Like someis I look
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: at it? Partners, you can tell them they're like lay that, like, hey,
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: you need a pillow, like making sure that they're comfortable.
• 37:47
  Speaker 5: Go in and you want to like tease their light.
• 37:48
  Speaker 5: You want to like have some massage lotion or some
• 37:50
  Speaker 5: lube on the table and you're like, we know you
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: like to be warmed up. I like to be warmed up.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: If I could be warmed up, yes, but.
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: Like I believe that penis owners do too. Like I
• 37:59
  Speaker 5: used to go right in and like start with the
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: blow job. I'm like, no, I'm gonna like massage or
• 38:02
  Speaker 5: inner thighs, I'm gonna tease a little, I'm gonna kiss them,
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: I'm going to like slow it down. And then you
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: just like start to lick and you start to like
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: see like are they responding? Do they like this? You know?
• 38:12
  Speaker 5: And you just you know, like it's just when you're
• 38:15
  Speaker 5: really focused. And probably in the past you weren't as
• 38:17
  Speaker 5: much because maybe you were drinking. It was more like
• 38:20
  Speaker 5: in the moment you were more like just kind of
• 38:22
  Speaker 5: doing what you've always done. But now you get to
• 38:25
  Speaker 5: kind of learn with because every penis is going to
• 38:26
  Speaker 5: want something different, every volva is gonna watch something different. Right,
• 38:30
  Speaker 5: You're gonna.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: Know obviously there are people that maybe don't think they're
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: great of sex, are nervous to have sex because it's
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: been a while all over the board, Right, do you
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: have like a go to move that you could be
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: a rookie or you could be the baddest at what
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: you're doing that is just like a go to move
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: where it's like that's the game changer never saw a
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: penis or vulva that didn't like this.
• 39:00
  Speaker 5: Honestly, I would say it's lube. I would say that
• 39:04
  Speaker 5: there is such a do you. I don't know if
• 39:05
  Speaker 5: you use lube all the time, but there is such
• 39:07
  Speaker 5: a bad rap lube gets because first of all, there
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: was a study that you Indiana University, which is like
• 39:12
  Speaker 5: the Kissian Institute, the leading place on sex in the country,
• 39:16
  Speaker 5: in the world, and they showed that when you added
• 39:18
  Speaker 5: a few drops of lube to any sexual situation, that
• 39:22
  Speaker 5: BOVA owners were eighty percent more likely to orgasm. Like basically,
• 39:27
  Speaker 5: so even if you're like, here's the thing about our
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: wetness level is not an indicator of arousal. Like you
• 39:32
  Speaker 5: could be wet and not turned on. You could be
• 39:35
  Speaker 5: so turned on and that wet, or maybe you're wet
• 39:37
  Speaker 5: the first five minutes and then you're not wet later.
• 39:40
  Speaker 5: Just having a blube on your nights in like something
• 39:42
  Speaker 5: beautiful like uber lub makes a really sexy bottle. It's
• 39:44
  Speaker 5: a glass bottle or some flavored lube whatever, and you
• 39:47
  Speaker 5: just put a few pumps on it. Penises love it
• 39:49
  Speaker 5: when you're giving a handog or a blowdop, because sometimes
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: I'm always worried, like is drive enough salva? What it
• 39:55
  Speaker 5: I I'm always like, I will not masturbate. I will
• 39:58
  Speaker 5: have any sex unless I like pump pumped the loube
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: so to me and for penises too, it feels amazing.
• 40:04
  Speaker 5: Like every guy I've been with is like like at first,
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: there's all this like, oh it's weird and shapel because
• 40:09
  Speaker 5: I didn't turn around enough, or why do you need lube? Right?
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: It has a stigma that's exactly where my head goes.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: Like for me, I'm like, you start using lube when
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: you're like older and things are not as wet down there.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: So even if your cookie gets super freaking wet, the
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: lube is always a must, always a must.
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a start, it's a starter. It's like, even
• 40:34
  Speaker 5: if it's a few drops, put it on his penis
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: at first, just when you first start touching it, but
• 40:39
  Speaker 5: use it. Put it a little bit inside of you
• 40:40
  Speaker 5: because even if you're wet at the beginning, sometimes if
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: sex schools a lot longer, right, we just don't stay
• 40:46
  Speaker 5: as wet and that could cause terrors that could cause
• 40:48
  Speaker 5: and if you're using condoms too, it just is a
• 40:51
  Speaker 5: safe to put the lube over the condom.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: Wait, and what lube? What loube do you recommend?
• 40:55
  Speaker 5: I love luber lube, you be er usually have it
• 40:59
  Speaker 5: in my in my desk, and I love pure lube. PJ.
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: You are like you want to get like the lube
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: that you could like breathe the ingredients that are inside
• 41:07
  Speaker 5: of it, because you're gonna be putting in your vagina.
• 41:08
  Speaker 5: So like buying stuff at the drug store, I don't
• 41:11
  Speaker 5: always recommend.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: Well, I have a rookie question, then I can lube, Like,
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: if you put this on your partner, can their fun
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: parts go in your mouth? After? Yeah?
• 41:20
  Speaker 5: Get a flavor? Those two System Joe, Yes, with those
• 41:23
  Speaker 5: they can. But System Joe makes the most delicious flavored lube.
• 41:27
  Speaker 5: It's called System Joe. And you can find this all
• 41:28
  Speaker 5: on my website. It's sex with them me dot com
• 41:31
  Speaker 5: or google System Joe. But they like cremboulet mint chocolate.
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: It's unbelievable, and.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: I just I'm gonna be like, forget the dick. I'm
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: staying home all night exactly.
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: I usually have it on my desk. I'm like, I'm
• 41:46
  Speaker 5: just like eating it and Little Day like it's delicious,
• 41:49
  Speaker 5: So use some flavored lube. But honestly that other loobs,
• 41:51
  Speaker 5: they don't taste bad. Coconut oil woom wore play makes
• 41:54
  Speaker 5: a really good one. It's called Wuo more Play. It's
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: coconut oil and it has some it's not great with kinda,
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: but it's a good massage lubricate and it's cocad oil
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: and taseic cinnament like vanilla cinnamon. So I would say
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: that that's a good thing. I would say making noise
• 42:09
  Speaker 5: during sex is another important thing, like letting your partner
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: know that you're into it.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: But if you're not into it, do you stay silent
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: or do you tell them like, hey, can we like
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: switch it up because this is not doing it for me?
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Because then you don't want to kill their heart on.
• 42:21
  Speaker 5: I would just say, yeah, that's the thing. I would
• 42:23
  Speaker 5: just like kind of pull back. That's the thing. It's
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: like we think we keep going. I don't know about you,
• 42:27
  Speaker 5: but I would start so many sexual situations and thinking
• 42:30
  Speaker 5: like I can't stop them because I'm a bad lover.
• 42:32
  Speaker 5: I'm leading them on. We can It's o kay to say,
• 42:35
  Speaker 5: you know what, babe, let's take a beat for a minute,
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: because they need reinforcement. Too, because if you stop in
• 42:42
  Speaker 5: the middle, they're like, what I do and it's over
• 42:44
  Speaker 5: because sex is so charged and we ever we talk
• 42:46
  Speaker 5: about sex. The reason why my whole mission is communication
• 42:49
  Speaker 5: is a lubrication is because whenever people talk about sex,
• 42:52
  Speaker 5: we go into fight or flight. We think that something's
• 42:55
  Speaker 5: wrong with us if our partner says we need to
• 42:56
  Speaker 5: talk about our sex life, or like, oh shit, what
• 42:58
  Speaker 5: I do wrong. So in the middle of sex, if
• 43:00
  Speaker 5: you want to stop it and de escalate whatever's happening,
• 43:03
  Speaker 5: just be like, put your hand on their heart and
• 43:05
  Speaker 5: just say breathing is really important and say, oh, this
• 43:08
  Speaker 5: is so hot. I'm getting really turned I just need
• 43:11
  Speaker 5: a moment, like can we just take a beat, Can
• 43:13
  Speaker 5: we go back to kissing? Okay, slow it down, I'm
• 43:16
  Speaker 5: just seeing it some water, and then you can kind
• 43:18
  Speaker 5: of like regroup and say I really like going slow
• 43:21
  Speaker 5: or this is kind of going fast for me, or
• 43:24
  Speaker 5: whatever it was that you were liking. Maybe you were like, like,
• 43:27
  Speaker 5: I really like talking. Can we just go back to
• 43:29
  Speaker 5: the talking part for a minute.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, it's the way.
• 43:32
  Speaker 5: It's our tone, talking about our words, write tone and
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: look into the eye and using your hands and say
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: this is great. I don't want you to like freak out.
• 43:39
  Speaker 5: I've just seen them beat. I'm getting back in sex
• 43:41
  Speaker 5: shape like and whatever. It is right, but we don't
• 43:44
  Speaker 5: own anything. I think we were told like, oh, don't
• 43:47
  Speaker 5: leave them with blue balls, like growing up, Like it's
• 43:50
  Speaker 5: all bullshit. Everyone's gonna be fine if they don't come,
• 43:52
  Speaker 5: like if they have an direction and we walk away, like,
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: no one's gonna die, Like why do they tell us that?
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: I know? I know it's all about, like I don't
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: leave him with blue balls.
• 44:01
  Speaker 5: He's going to be fine. No one's showing up the
• 44:03
  Speaker 5: hospital blue balls. There was Dick's falling off because blueballs.
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: Now I have a question that I'm super concerned about.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: I am worried that when I decide to go and
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: have sex again that I could possibly cry because when
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: you're feeling so much emotion, the only way I know
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: how to process a lot of emotion is sobbing. Okay,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: if that happens, Yeah, what do you like do I need?
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not saying it will. I think there's
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: a high chance that it could. And this guy that
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: I'm talking to, who I do feel safe with, Okay,
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm definitely gonna fuck him for the first
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: one because I'm like, if I cry, like he'll hug
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: me after, right, Like I know that, but like do
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: women cry if they haven't had sex for a cry?
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: I do, so that's like a normal thing.
• 44:56
  Speaker 5: Yes, I did have sex for a while and have
• 44:58
  Speaker 5: a boyfriend for it. I was like, I cry the time,
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: and the guys that I'm with are fucking down. They're like,
• 45:03
  Speaker 5: that's so hot, You're so into it. Like I don't
• 45:05
  Speaker 5: want to be the guy. I don't. I'm not afraid
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: of catching feels anymore. I'm not trying to be the
• 45:09
  Speaker 5: cool girl. I spent my whole life trying to be
• 45:10
  Speaker 5: the cool girl and trying to be whatever, and like,
• 45:12
  Speaker 5: I'm not interested in that. That is to get you anywhere.
• 45:15
  Speaker 5: I don't play games. If I have an emotion, I
• 45:17
  Speaker 5: better be with someone who can handle emotions. Doesn't mean
• 45:20
  Speaker 5: that I'm crying because I'm so in love with you.
• 45:22
  Speaker 5: You can inform them that I tend to be crying,
• 45:24
  Speaker 5: that they're going through a lot because sex listen, sex
• 45:27
  Speaker 5: is so connected to so many things, like pleasure and
• 45:31
  Speaker 5: pain are so closely related, which is why like people
• 45:34
  Speaker 5: like BDSM or spanking like it's pleasure and its pain.
• 45:37
  Speaker 5: Sex is like stimulating all of these nerve endings and
• 45:41
  Speaker 5: all these emotions come up. It's all related, which is
• 45:43
  Speaker 5: why we can cry after during and usually I'm just
• 45:49
  Speaker 5: feeling like I'm so what I think when I cry
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  Speaker 5: during sex, I'm like so happy to be feeling again
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  Speaker 5: and to be in my body again and to be
• 45:55
  Speaker 5: feeling deep pleasure that it gives me so much joy
• 45:59
  Speaker 5: and it's not necessary, and usually it's not about the
• 46:01
  Speaker 5: person I'm with. It's like, oh my god, and we
• 46:03
  Speaker 5: welcome back to yourself, welcome back to sex, welcome back
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  Speaker 5: to like feeling so good. So I think it's a
• 46:10
  Speaker 5: great litmus test. You want to be with someone who
• 46:12
  Speaker 5: knows how to handle that. Again, that's such a you thing,
• 46:15
  Speaker 5: Like that's so beautiful. I think it's beautiful when a
• 46:17
  Speaker 5: woman emotes, and that older, older version of us or
• 46:20
  Speaker 5: the younger version of us is like, oh my god,
• 46:22
  Speaker 5: he's gonna run. Like I always say if a guy
• 46:24
  Speaker 5: leaves you because it's something weird, or you make a
• 46:26
  Speaker 5: weird noise in the bedroom, or you cry like he
• 46:29
  Speaker 5: just did you a favor.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: Right like goodbye, right bye, not your guy, not your guy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Like it would be that feeling, like a very euphoric
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: feeling if I start crying. It has nothing to do
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: with like me being upset or think about anything other than,
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like I'm so reconnected to myself in
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: a way that I haven't been connected in a while.
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  Speaker 5: That's a great thing to say to me when you
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  Speaker 5: can use that too, you know, And all these hormones
• 46:52
  Speaker 5: that are released, like listen, when we have sex and
• 46:55
  Speaker 5: you probably have it, done it, you have it in
• 46:56
  Speaker 5: a while. We release oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, all those feel
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: good hormones which relate to happiness, to joy, to like
• 47:05
  Speaker 5: optitosin is a cuddle hormone. And so we react to
• 47:09
  Speaker 5: these changes by tearing up, by thinking how we act
• 47:12
  Speaker 5: like we have all these hormones also like once a
• 47:15
  Speaker 5: month when we're menstruating, So it's kind of the same
• 47:17
  Speaker 5: thing with their all being activated at once. So you know,
• 47:20
  Speaker 5: some people get really hungry after sex, they fall asleep
• 47:22
  Speaker 5: after sex. Ite's all related to the hormone surge.
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, You've just spit so much knowledge on me,
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: and I'm going to go out there and give them
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  Speaker 1: my best bang.
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  Speaker 5: So you can also text it can realize my number two.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, I got you girl.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm definitely going to do that. And where where
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: can people that live under a rock who have just
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: come out find you?
• 47:42
  Speaker 5: The podcast and everything is sex with Emily. You can
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  Speaker 5: find it on all podcast platforms where ever you listen
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  Speaker 5: to podcasts, and all social media. It's just sex with Emily.
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  Speaker 5: And if you've a question, if this sparked interest, you
• 47:52
  Speaker 5: can just the best way to do it is feedback.
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  Speaker 5: It's sex with Emily dot com.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, You've been amazing. I know, like this is the
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: first time that I've really own opened up about not
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: having sex in a while and being very nervous about
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: like venturing into that territory again. And I couldn't think
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: of a better person to open up too than you.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much, of course, thank you for having
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: me on.
• 48:14
  Speaker 5: And I wanted to thank you for being so vulnerable
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  Speaker 5: to your audience right now, because this is going to
• 48:19
  Speaker 5: be so helpful. Like I didn't know that you hadn't
• 48:21
  Speaker 5: talked about it before, but there's so many people that
• 48:23
  Speaker 5: are in the exact position that you are, and that
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  Speaker 5: by you being such a leader and they're listening to
• 48:28
  Speaker 5: you and your advice, so it's so brave and it's
• 48:31
  Speaker 5: going to really provide a great service to your followers.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: So I appreciate you so much and you will be
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: hearing from me.
• 48:38
  Speaker 5: I got you. Well, we're all this together, you know.
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you. You're amazing, Emily, we'll talk soon.
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: Best guest.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: Thanks, I mean