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There is no absolute in emotions · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey, good morning everybody from
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  the chicken coop so Today, I want to talk to you about the
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  fact that two things can be true at the same time.
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  Now you've heard me probably mentioned this on the podcast
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  before. But today I want to just focus
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  on it because I think it's important for us to understand
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  the Dynamics of it. Two things can be true at the
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  same time, I can be exhausted and I can be completely and
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  totally happy about being exhausted or just about the
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  exhaustion because I did a really great day of work.
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  You know, when I finish coaching everybody at the The day I can
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  be spent mentally, but I can feel really happy about the job
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  that I did or I can be completely in love with my
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  husband and know how much I love him yet.
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  I want to kill him because he said that my son could, you
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  know, go off and put a fish tank into the bedroom.
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  Those two things can actually be true at the same time and we I
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  think we forget that things are not absolutes to things can.
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  Be true at the same time, you know, I was coaching a couple
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  this week and I said to them the very same thing, two things can
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  be true at the same time, you can be in love with each other
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  and you can want to throat punch each other at the same time and
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  they started laughing about it. But it's true and I think that
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  we forget how hard it is to be in interaction with other people
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  when we have our expectations and they don't know them.
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  So it leads to these moments of Scored and moments of discomfort
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  when we are not clear about our expectations and it sets us up
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  to be in conflict in our lives. And if we can remember that two
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  things can be true at the same time, it eases us out of the
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  anger, it eases us out of the frustration.
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  It puts us into a place of awareness that we are very
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  complex. Emotional beings human beings
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  are incredibly complex. Lex emotional beings, you know,
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  it's long, debated aspects of, you know, feelings emotions
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  which comes first, how does one trigger another?
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  And the truth comes down to this, we might understand some
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  of the mechanics around feelings and emotions, but we still don't
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  have Clarity on where they all come from.
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  Where thoughts come from? How does an idea come into your
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  head? There's a lot of gray gray
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  space. If you will, I want to say
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  grace, Honored meaning that that's in the brain but there's
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  a lot of gray space here. Nothing is absolute.
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  There isn't black and white here and just like, you know, we want
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  people to give us Grace. We have to provide Grace for
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  others and in the in the acknowledgement that two things
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  can be true. At the same time we can make
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  decisions from a more graceful place and we can make our
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  actions from a more graceful place but you first have to
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  Allow yourself to recognize two things can be true at the same
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  time and then you have to decide, okay?
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  Well, if two things are true at the same time, which one of
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  those two things do I want to put my focus on which and I'm
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  not saying you ignore the problems, please understand?
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  This is not about ignoring the problems.
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  This is about having Grace with it all, so that you can heal
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  what's not, right? And what you can, you know, put
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  your attention on grows. We all know that, where your
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  attention goes things grow. So you have to recognize that
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  when you are in your state of frustration and you are putting
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  your attention on the frustration, the frustration
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  grows. But if two things are Possible
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  at the same time like I love you and I can't stand the things you
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  do then you have to say am I you know focusing on the fact that I
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  love the person or am I focusing on the problem?
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  And again this does not mean that you don't deal with the
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  issues that need to be dealt with.
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  What it means is that you understand, there is a higher
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  action in mind, and that is the love.
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  The love is always present, so, and I'm using that as the exam,
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  Ah, but this can be done in any of any situation and you can
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  figure out which one is the higher important emotion for you
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  to focus on now. I mean, I'll be the first one to
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  admit my husband and I drive each other.
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  Crazy. There's no question about the
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  fact that we can irritate each other absolutely without
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  question. That's called being in a
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  relationship and we stick it out because we love each other
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  because that's more important to us than anything and we've been
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  some through some really Happy things, let me tell you the
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  crappiest of crappy and we have stuck it out because we love
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  each other and just because we have made stupid choices and
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  said stupid things and done stupid.
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  Things doesn't mean we give up on each other because two things
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  can be true at the same time and you get to process that and
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  consciously think through which is the one I want my energy to
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  go to, which is the one I want to grow.
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  You know, there's that old American Native Americans saying
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  about there are two wolves inside of us and, you know,
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  there's the Dark Side in that light side of the wolf.
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  And then the question is well, which one grows?
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  Whichever one you feed and I butchered that probably terribly
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  but the reality is whatever you put attention to grows, just
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  like I can plant two seeds in the ground.
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  I can give them both the dirt. I can put the seeds in.
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  Both the cups which one is going to grow, which one is going to
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  thrive. The One eye water and the one I
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  feed the other one will stagnate and do nothing.
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  It will just sit in the dirt, a seed in the dirt is not enough.
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  It needs to be nurtured and this is how this works.
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  So I want you to think about this today, two things can be
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  true at the same time what are you two things that you need to
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  put your awareness to and figure out because that's what's going
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  to make the difference in your life.
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  Okay guys I will see you tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day. Bye.