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Assume Your Specific Person Back Tonight · Neville Goddard Mindset

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The deepest question I have ever been asked in 30 years of
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teaching is this one. Can I really change how another
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person sees me? Can my imagination truly reach
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across the space between two people and alter what they feel?
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I want to answer you directly, without hesitation.
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Yes, without question, without condition, without exception.
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And I will tell you precisely why this is true.
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Not as a promise or an encouragement, but as a fact of
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consciousness that once you understand it, you will never be
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able to Unsee. Every person in your world is a
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reflection, not a metaphor, not a spiritual platitude, A literal
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reflection of the assumptions you hold about them and about
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yourself. The specific person you are
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thinking of right now, their silence, their distance, their
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confusion, their seeming inability to see what you know
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is possible between you is not evidence of their will operating
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independently of yours. It is evidence of your current
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assumption crystallized in the world before you.
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When you change the assumption, the reflection must change.
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It has no choice because you are imagination, and imagination
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creates reality. And I am going to show you
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exactly how to do this tonight. In these 30 minutes, I'm going
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to teach you the specific inner technique for assuming a
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particular person into your life as you desire them, not by
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manipulating them. That is not what this is.
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By changing yourself. By stepping into the state of
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the wishful fulfilled and holding it long enough for the
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world, including this person, to rearrange itself in accordance
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with your assumption. I have taught this principle to
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thousands. I have seen it work in
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circumstances that seemed utterly impossible.
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The person who had cut off all contact, the relationship that
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appeared definitively over the silence that had stretched for
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months or years. None of these conditions are as
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fixed as they appear. They are crystallizations of
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past assumptions and a a new assumption consistently held
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will crystallize a new reality. Everyone is you pushed out.
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Once you truly understand what this means, you will know
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exactly what to do. And tonight I will make sure you
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understand it. There is a principle I taught
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many times that confuses people when they first encounter it.
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I said everyone is you pushed out.
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What does this mean? It does not mean that other
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people are not real. It does not mean that you are
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alone in a hallucination. It means that the qualities,
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attitudes, and responses you consistently encounter in
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specific people are not independent of your
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consciousness. They are reflections of your
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assumptions about those people and about yourself in relation
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to them. Let me be precise about this,
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because it matters enormously for what we are going to do
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together. When you hold an assumption
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about a person, she has moved on.
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He no longer feels the way he did.
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They would never choose me. Now.
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That assumption does not stay inside your mind as a private
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thought. IT projects outward.
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It becomes the atmosphere of your relationship, and the other
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person, without any conscious awareness of what is happening,
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begins to act in ways that conform to your assumption.
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Not because they are puppets, but because consciousness is the
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medium in which all of this occurs, and in that medium, your
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assumptions about others literally shape what they are
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capable of showing you. This is what I mean by everyone
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is you pushed out. Not a dismissal of other
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people's reality, but a recognition that what you
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encounter in them is inseparable from what you hold about them
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within yourself. Now consider what this means for
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your situation, the specific person you want in your life.
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Perhaps they have gone silent. Perhaps the relationship ended
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and they have built distance between you.
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Perhaps you have never told them what you feel and from the
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outside it appears they have no idea.
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None of this is fixed. What is fixed?
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What is rigid is the assumption you currently carry about them,
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and that assumption is producing the reality you observe.
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The question then becomes, what if you change the assumption?
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What if instead of carrying the felt sense that this person is
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distant, gone, unaware, or unavailable, you began to
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inhabit the assumption of the opposite, not as wishful
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thinking, not as pretending, but as a deliberate, disciplined,
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practiced in a state. The answer is that the outer
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world, including this person, would begin to move.
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Circumstances would shift. What appeared impossible would
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begin to find its way to possible, not through any
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manipulation of the person, but through the natural
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crystallization of a new assumption In the world around
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you, I tell you from my own experience, consciousness is the
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only reality. The specific person is not an
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obstacle. The obstacle is always the
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assumption within yourself. And here is what this means.
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Practically, you do not need access to that them.
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You do not need their cooperation.
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You do not need the circumstances to improve before
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you begin. You only need to change the
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state you occupy, the felt, inhabited sense of who you are
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in relation to them. The state you occupy determines
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the world you see. Occupy the state of the person
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who is loved, chosen, wanted, connected, and that state will
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crystallize a world in which you are loved, chosen, wanted,
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connected. This is not a comforting idea.
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It is the law of consciousness operating without sentiment or
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exception. It works for the cynic as surely
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As for the believer. The law does not care whether
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you are convinced. It responds only to what you
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truly, deeply, habitually assume.
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Now let me give you the technique, the precise inner act
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that will change your assumption about this specific person.
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Tonight, in the only time and place where the law is fully
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operative, we have established the foundation.
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Everyone is you pushed out not as poetry, but as a the precise
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description of how consciousness operates.
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The specific person in your world reflects what you hold
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about them and about yourself. Change the held assumption and
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the reflection must change. This is the doorway.
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Now I'm going to take you through it with the actual
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technique, the specific scene, the specific state, the specific
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feeling you must inhabit in the state akin to sleep.
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To shift this situation, you will leave this conversation
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with a precise practice you can begin tonight.
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Not a vague idea, dear, Not an affirmation.
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A real inner act. Stay with me.
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The technique for assuming a specific person into your life
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follows the same structure as all use of the state, akin to
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sleep. But there are specific points of
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emphasis that apply uniquely to this desire.
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The 1st and most important, the scene you choose must come from
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them, not about them. Let me explain what I mean.
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Many people, when they attempt to use imagination to manifest a
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specific person, construct a scene in which they observe that
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person behaving differently. They imagine receiving a text,
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imagine seeing the person walk through a door, imagine the
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person saying the words they want to hear.
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And there is nothing wrong with this as far as it goes.
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But the most powerful scene is not one in which you observe the
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other person acting differently towards you.
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The most powerful scene is 1, in which you are inhabiting the
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state of already being in the relationship you desire.
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The distinction is subtle but critical.
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Observing someone behave differently still carries the
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energetic signature of watching from outside, hoping, waiting,
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inhabiting. The state of the relationship
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already established carries the energetic signature of the wish
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already fulfilled. So do not imagine them calling
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you. Imagine the easy, ordinary,
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natural feeling of talking to them, the way two people talk
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when they are already fully each other's.
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The comfortable silence between sentences, the way they're name
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sounds in your mouth when you are simply happy.
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The quality of a morning when this relationship is simply your
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life. That is the scene.
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That is the state. Now when you enter the state
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akin to sleep and begin to inhabit this scene, there is a
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specific feeling you must cultivate.
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I have already told you it is not excitement, but I want to go
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further because for this particular desire there is often
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a feeling that intrudes and must be addressed.
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The feeling is longing, the ache of wanting this person, the
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bittersweet quality of imagining them while they are not there.
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This feeling, while understandable, while human,
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will undermine your imaginal act if you allow it to be the
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dominant tone. Because longing is the feeling
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of absence, and absence is what will crystallize.
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The practice here is to transform the longing into the
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specific feeling of settled, ordinary love, love that has
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nowhere to go because it is already arrived.
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Not the sharp, aching love of someone who wants, the quiet,
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quiet, present love of someone who has.
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This is not cold. It is warmer in its own way than
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longing, because longing is always pointed outward toward
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what is not yet here. This quality of love I am
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describing is present. It is complete.
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It simply rests in what already is.
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Cultivate that feeling in your scene.
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Let it be the emotional temperature of your imaginal
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act. Now I want to address the
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question that I know arises in your mind because it has arisen
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in the minds of everyone I have ever taught this to.
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The question is, but what about their free will?
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I understand the question and I honor it, but I want you to
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think carefully about what you are actually asking.
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When you are in a difficult relationship, a relationship
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marked by distance or disconnection or silence, whose
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will do you believe is currently operating?
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You will say theirs. They chose to withdraw.
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They chose silence. They choose not to reach out.
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But I've been telling you all along, everyone is You pushed
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out the withdrawal, the silence, the distance.
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These are crystallizations of your own assumption about who
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you are in relation to this person.
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They are not their independent will operating free of your
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consciousness. They are the reflection of the
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state you have inhabited. So when you change the state,
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when you inhabit the assumption of the relationship as already
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fulfilled, you are not overriding anyone's will.
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You are simply changing the reflection.
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You are becoming in your inner life the version of yourself
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around whom this connection is the natural state.
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The other person will respond not because they are forced to,
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but because your new assumption will change your entire bearing,
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the way you hold yourself, the energy you carry, the subtle
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1000 signals that human beings read in one another below the
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level of conscious thought. They will respond to the changed
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you, and they will call it their own feeling, their own impulse,
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their own choice, because it will be.
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This is the beauty and the precision of the law.
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No one is ever manipulated. The world simply rearranges to
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match the assumption, including the inner world of the person
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you love, which is at the level where the law operates, not as
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separate from you as it appears to be.
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Persist in your assumption, and the world must rearrange itself
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to conform. One more thing I must tell you,
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because it is the practice that will determine whether this
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works for you. Once you have done your imaginal
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act in the state akin to sleep, you must not spend the following
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day rehearsing the problem. Every time you tell the story of
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why this is hard, every time you think through what they said,
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what you said, what went wrong, why the distance exists, you are
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returning to the old assumption and planting it again.
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The imaginal act of the night before is not more powerful than
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an entire day of dwelling in the state of want and worry.
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The most important conversation you will ever have is the one
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you hold with yourself. Hold it carefully.
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When the when the mind returns to the problem, gently turn it.
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Not with force. Simply redirect.
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Return in your imagination to that feeling of the relationship
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already established, the warmth of it, the ease you are
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retraining, the habitual feeling that runs beneath your daily
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thoughts. This takes more than one night.
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It takes persistence. Faithful, consistent, undramatic
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persistence, night after night, day after day, until the new
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assumption becomes the habitual state.
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And then, in ways you may not be able to predict or explain, the
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outer world begins to move. You now have the specific
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technique, the scene that comes from inside the relationship
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rather than observing it from outside.
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The feeling of settled love rather than longing, the
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understanding that free will is not the obstacle it appears to
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be, and the practice of guarding your daily thoughts as carefully
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as you guard your nightly imaginal act.
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Now I'm going to take you into a guided experience, experience of
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this state, a practice run for tonight, and then I will close
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with the one final teaching that ties everything together.
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Stay present. We are almost at the most
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important part. Let me be very concrete about
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the practice, because the difference between those who
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succeed with this technique and those who do not is almost
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always a matter of precision and consistency, not effort or
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belief. The scene you choose for a
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specific person should meet these criteria.
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First, it should be small and intimate, not dramatic.
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Not a grand reunion. A small, quiet, real moment that
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could only exist if you were already together in the way you
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desire. The way they look at you across
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a room when there is nothing to prove between you anymore.
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The way their hand finds yours without either of you thinking
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about it. Second, the scene should involve
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reciprocity. Not you pursuing them, not them
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explicably showing up, but the two of you simply being in an
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ordinary moment that is only possible because the connection
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is already established and at ease.
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Third, the scene should carry a sense of the normal, the
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familiar, the already true. This is the hardest part to
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cultivate, and it is the most important.
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Your imagination must settle into this scene the way you
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settle into your own home at the end of a day, not with the
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excitement of a new place, with the ease of the familiar.
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Now, the timing. I have taught the state akin to
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sleep as the primary practice, but I want you to know that the
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technique can also be used in other moments of stillness.
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Brief windows during the day, when you can close your eyes for
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60 seconds and return to your scene.
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The lunch hour, the moment before a meeting, the few
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minutes of quiet before you rise in the morning.
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Use these windows. They compound the nightly
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practice, They deepen the groove of the new assumption.
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They make the feeling of the wish fulfilled more and more
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your habitual state until it no longer requires effort to
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access. There is something else I want
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you to consider. Many people who are trying to
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manifest a specific person become intensely focused on that
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person, on their social presence, their movements, their
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apparent interest in others. Any signal that might confirm or
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deny whether the imaginal act is working.
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Stop this completely. Checking the outer world for
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signs of progress is not the neutral act it appears to be.
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It is a return to the state of uncertainty, of wanting, of not
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yet having. Every time you examine their
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behavior for evidence, you plant the assumption of the result
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being uncertain, and uncertainty crystallizes its own evidence.
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Your work is entirely inner. The outer will report.
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You do not need to check it. When the crystallization of
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assumption is complete, when the inner work is done, the outer
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world will make itself unmistakable.
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You will not need to look for signs.
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The signs will come to you clearly in the form of the
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actual thing you desired. Until then, guard your inner
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world. Do not give your dwelling place
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to doubt or to analysis of the situation as it currently
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appears. The current appearance is the
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crystallization of past assumptions.
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It is already obsolete. You are planting the new dare to
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assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled in this specific
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relationship with this specific person.
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Not because it is certain from the outside.
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It will not look certain from the outside, not yet, But
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because the law of consciousness is certain, because what you
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deeply, habitually assume must crystallize in the world around
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you. That is not a hope.
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It is not a comfort. It is the operating principle of
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the reality you inhabit. And you are imagination, which
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means the operating principle of reality is yours to use.
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Close your eyes, Let the body settle, shoulders down, hands
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open. Breathe slowly once, let it go.
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Now bring to mind the specific person you desire in your life,
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not their face from a distance, the sense of them when they are
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simply near, the particular quality of being with them.
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Now let the scene come, the small, quiet, intimate moment,
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the moment that is only possible because the relationship is
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already complete. Where are you?
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What are you doing? Let it be ordinary, let it be
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simple. Feel yourself inside this
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moment, not watch inside. What is the quality of the air?
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What do your hands rest upon? Now feel the ease between you
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and this person. No distance, no uncertainty,
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simply the ease of two people who are already completely each
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others. Let that ease settle into you
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like warmth. Let it be ordinary, expected,
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normal. This is how it is, this is your
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life, this is simply how it is. Breathe, stay here.
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Let the scene be as real as the room you are sitting in, more
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real even, because what you imagine truly is the only
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reality. Feel the warmth of it, feel the
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ease, feel the normalcy of what is already done.
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Stay as long as you can. And tonight return here at the
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threshold of sleep. You came to me with a question
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that has lived in you for some time, perhaps.
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Can I really change how another person sees me?
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Can my imagination truly reach across the space between us?
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I want to answer you now from the deepest place I know.
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You have never been separate from this person.
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At the level where the law operates, the distance you
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observe is a distance you have been maintaining within your own
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consciousness through the assumption of separation,
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through the felt sense of them being beyond your reach.
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When you change that assumption, when you truly inhabit the state
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of the connection already established, you will discover
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that the distance was never as real as it appeared, that what
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seemed like walls were only crystallizations of a belief you
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no longer hold. Everyone is you pushed out.
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When you change, the push changes.
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When the push changes, what comes back to you changes.
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This is not a guarantee delivered with conditions.
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It is the law itself, operating as it always has, responding to
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what you hold in consciousness. Hold something new.
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Hold it faithfully. Hold it every night at the
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threshold of sleep and in as many quiet moments of the day as
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you can find. Persist in your assumption.
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The world must rearrange itself to conform.
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It has no other choice. Begin tonight.
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Lie down, enter the state, and for a few minutes inhabit the
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scene you have chosen. Not perfectly, Perfectly is not
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required. Faithfully, consistently, with
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the intention of changing not what they feel, but what you
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assume. The most important conversation
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you will ever have is the one you hold with yourself.
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Let that conversation tonight be the one where you decide to no
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longer rehearse the separation. Consciousness is the only
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reality, and you are that consciousness with the full
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power of imagination at your disposal.
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If these teachings call to you, return.
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There is always more waiting here.