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- Lucas: So I want to run something by you that I tried a few months ago, and it genuinely reshaped how I think about boundaries. I put in place what I call a two-week notice blanket. Luna: A two-week notice blanket — like the thing you give when you quit a job? Lucas: Exactly. But for something completely different. It's a personal rule: I do not respond to any work email, Slack, or call within two weeks of a planned vacation or personal retreat. I set it up before I went on a three-week sabbatical earlier this year. Luna: Wait — so you just told people, 'I'm unreachable for two weeks before I leave'? Lucas: That's exactly what I did. I sent a note to my team and key collaborators, put it on my calendar, and set an autoresponder. The idea is that the two weeks before a break are when the most frantic, low-value stuff lands in your inbox. People sense you're about to disappear and they try to get their last-minute asks in. Luna: I can feel the anxiety just thinking about that. How did your team react? Lucas: Honestly? Mostly fine. A couple of people were confused. One colleague emailed me a question that was genuinely urgent, and I didn't see it for three days. She called my manager. But that was the test case — her urgent question turned out to be something that could have waited. It was urgent only because she had delayed it. Luna: Right. That's the classic urgency trap — someone else's lack of planning becomes your emergency. Lucas: Exactly. And I've been guilty of creating those emergencies for other people too. But the blanket made me realise how many of my own pre-vacation emails were just noise. I came back from sabbatical and there were exactly five emails I truly needed to act on. Everything else was either handled by someone else or irrelevant by then. Luna: Five emails out of — what, two hundred? Lucas: About one hundred and seventy, actually. I counted. And of those five, two were follow-ups that had already been resolved. So really three emails needed my attention. That's less than two percent. Luna: That's wild. And yet we all feel this pressure to stay on top of everything right up until we walk out the door. Why do we do that? Lucas: Guilt. And a misread of what 'professionalism' means. We think being responsive equals being good at our jobs. But actually, being responsive to everything means you're signalling that your time is the least valuable resource in the system. Luna: Hmm. So the two-week notice blanket is basically a way to reset that signal. To say, 'My time before a break is as valuable as my time after.' Lucas: Exactly. And I think it works even if you're not taking a three-week sabbatical. I've since started using a mini version before every long weekend. I set an autoresponder that says, 'I will be out of the office starting. To ensure I can recharge fully, I will not be checking email during the two days before my time off. For urgent matters, please contact.' Luna: Does that include Friday before a long weekend? Lucas: Yes. Thursday and Friday before a Monday off. And you know what happened? The first time I did it, I felt incredibly guilty. I literally opened my email on Thursday evening just to check. Nothing. Zero urgent emails. Luna: So the guilt was entirely self-imposed. That's the thing, right? Our managers and teams often respect boundaries more than we think. We're the ones who break them. Lucas: Totally. And that's why I wanted to talk about this today. Because we've covered boundary after boundary on this show — weekly resets, energy maps, commitment audits — but this one is so concrete. It's a single rule you can implement today, before your next vacation. Luna: Alright, I'm sold on the idea. But let's play devil's advocate. What if you're a manager and you truly have a deadline the day before you leave? Like a quarterly report that can't move? Lucas: Great question. The blanket doesn't mean you ignore actual deadlines. It means you plan for them earlier. If I know I'm off the grid two weeks before, I move that deadline up. I tell my team, 'I need this by, because after that I'm in sabbatical prep mode.' It forces better planning. Luna: So it's a forcing function for everyone else to stop procrastinating too. I like that. Lucas: Exactly. And the irony is, the people who resist it most are often the ones who benefit the most — because they're also the ones who always feel like they can't take a real break. Luna: This is reminding me of something we talked about a few episodes ago — the email response time expectation that burns you out. This feels like the practical next step. Lucas: It is. And I want to be clear: I'm not saying everyone should do this tomorrow. But I think it's worth trying once. Set a two-week notice blanket before your next vacation. See what happens. The worst case is you get a few pushy emails. The best case is you reclaim two weeks of your life. Luna: And you learn something about which of your tasks actually matter. That's the real insight. Lucas: Yeah. The blanket is really a test. It tests your organization, your team's respect for your time, and your own ability to let go. I failed the test a few times in the beginning. But every time I did it, I got better. Luna: So it's a muscle. You have to build it. Lucas: Exactly. And the more you exercise it, the less guilt you feel. And you realize that the world doesn't end when you're not instantly available. Luna: That's a powerful lesson. And I think it's one of those things that sounds simple but is hard to do. Which is why we keep talking about boundaries — because they're never just one-and-done. Lucas: Right. And if this show has helped you think through a boundary like this, or even just given you the nudge to try something, we want you to know that we keep it ad-free by design. No commercials, no sponsors, no interruptions. If you find value in that, and you'd like to support the show, you can find us at buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It's a small way to keep this going without ever having to pitch you a mattress or a meal kit. Luna: Yeah, we really believe in that model. And it's listeners like you who make it possible. So thank you for that. Lucas: So back to the blanket — I want to leave you with one concrete challenge. Pick a day, maybe next week, and decide that you will not check work email after 6 PM for two consecutive weekdays. That's your two-week notice mini version. See how it feels. And if it feels okay, try it before your next real break. Luna: And if you fail? Try again. That's the whole point. Boundaries aren't about perfection. They're about practice. Lucas: Right. So give it a shot. And let us know how it goes — we're always around, just maybe not two weeks before our next vacation.