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How to defeat or win against a narcissist · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of the a narcissist code.
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  I'm your favorite self-aware, narcissist mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face here here, my lovely voice. I'm clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist, and I use my platform on social media to
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  raise awareness for MPD. Get more people into therapy
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  like myself and also validate the victim survivors and
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  thrivers of said disorder, say toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about how to To defeat a
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  narcissist, how to defeat a narcissist y'all.
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  Before we hop in today's episode, make sure you hop over
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  every single video that I do and what not, thank you so much,
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  help you rebuild it. I did it.
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  I didn't rebuild their identity and you know there's self-love
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  that you might have lost before during or after a tight
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  relationship. But yeah, how to defeat a
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  narcissist and this is not like some mythological fight or
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  whatever. I know.
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  Some people going to sit here and see the title of this,
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  you've read the description or, you know, start listen to the
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  first couple minutes of this video.
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  I just like, only hammocks, always talking about how to
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  destroy narcissist, you know, he just adding to the stigma, you
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  know. He just adding the he just doing
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  this. He just saying that.
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  Narcissists are people to blah, blah, blah, boo, boo, boo, bee
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  bee. Y'all know y'all know, my goal
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  is to not add to the stigma of narcissistic People of nurses,
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  all being evil, horrible people and whatnot.
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  You know. My goal is to teach 2 teach
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  people. I want people go to therapy.
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  I say it's a very very beginning of this video.
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  Um but yeah, how to defeat a narcissist?
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  The one thing I think most narcissist out here seek is
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  control and power to the way that you defeat a narcissistic
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  person. Y'all it says take that away
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  from them. It's safe.
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  It's to find a way to strip them of this, of the power and
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  control. Did they have in your life?
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  You doing? Ask yourself, not only ask
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  yourself, how do you away from it?
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  How do you get away? Get away from the nurses, figure
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  out how to defeat an arsonist, ask yourself?
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  What are you getting from them? Figure out what you are getting
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  from them. And you can the answer can't be
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  nothing. But also also ask yourself.
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  What are they getting from? You ask yourself like that.
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  Might be a better question for a lot of people to ask because
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  asking yourself what you get from them, that's it.
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  You dig and dig in deep, you did you can dig and dig and dig
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  deeper and figure out? What are you getting from them
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  and realize that you whatever you getting from them, you can
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  get from yourself or to somebody else in this world can give you
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  the love or whatever you're looking for.
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  What are you getting from them? You yourself or somebody else on
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  this planet can give you her. Get can, yo can you yourself can
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  get it for yourself or you can find somebody to get it from but
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  when you did it with narcissist, ask yourself, what are they
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  getting? I'm from you.
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  Is it money? Is it power?
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  Is it Prestige? Is it?
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  I said finances. Is it sexual connection?
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  Is it intimacy is an intelligence.
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  What are they getting from you? That you feel like keeps them
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  there with you. That's a question you can ask
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  yourself. I know you might not be Adder,
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  it might not be fully functional, like a question
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  answer. Like yeah, it's a.
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  Nope, you can it can be more than one thing.
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  It doesn't have to be Just one single solitary thing that they
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  are getting from you. That keeps them in a
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  relationship with you. You know, me what I'm saying, is
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  ask yourself, what are you? What is the, what is this?
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  Person getting from you, and cut it off and figure out what
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  figure out relieves them of their power, relieve them of
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  their control. Look, cut off the access that
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  they have to you to your life, in your life and what not cut it
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  off. Because you have the power to
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  cut it off. You say you have the power to
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  cut it. Once you cut it off, of course
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  if they're if they are not ready for you to cut off the power or
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  control or whatever they're getting from you they're going
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  to kick and scream and beg and plead snot, you know, throwing
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  up everywhere. They might be they might have
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  lose control of their bowels and wait for before they were
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  whatever it is that they're getting from you, they're going
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  to kick and scream because they don't want they want.
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  They want to keep it doing to keep the ask access to you.
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  They want to keep that power over you.
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  They want to The control of you, they won't all, they want it
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  all, but you have to be able to, you have to be able to cut it
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  off, because if you don't cut it off, you lose.
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  They have power of you, they have control over you.
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  If you want to defeat them, figure out what they are getting
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  from you. It couldn't all you have access
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  to you. You know, I'm saying, you
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  control access to you even if y'all have kids, I know people
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  going to say, I believe know if we have kids, even if you have
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  kids, they don't that just because you have kids or Nobody
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  does it mean that they get access to you they have access
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  to the kids, whatever parents, right.
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  So whatever the situation is they don't mean they have access
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  to you, they'll get to come to your house to watch the kids,
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  whatever it is, whatever power and whatever, they, whatever
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  source of power that you're giving to them, cut it off, you
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  can defeat them. Make them feel like like,
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  narcissist want to be needed, right?
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  That's one of the main another day, another day, the
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  narcissistic people want is they want to be, Needed.
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  We want to be needed so bad by you.
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  So if we, if we can't figure out some simplistic reason why you
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  need us, we will create it. We will create it by by taking
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  things away from you out of your life.
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  Isolating you for your friends and family.
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  So now you need us for companionship, you don't make
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  it, you quit your job because you have male or female
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  co-worker that I don't like. Now, you need us for finances.
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  You see, I'm saying, whatever, whatever they need you.
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  Never ever need that. You have for them or whatever
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  you feel like they need you for, you mean, cut that off y'all.
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  That's how you defeat a dark surfaces, take their power away.
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  A lot of narcissistic people like to try to control you
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  through rage and anger inside the treatment by communication,
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  different different. Methods of communication that
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  narcissistic people will try to use to control you with silent
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  treatment raging, are you stonewalling, you gaslighted,
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  you manipulating you when that stuff.
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  No longer works. You can defeat them.
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  Believe they keep coming back to.
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  Keep coming back and keep coming back.
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  Yeah, just because they keep trying to come back into your
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  life. Does not.
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  If you're not if you're not allowing him back in your life,
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  of course, if you I'm not talk about an on-and-off
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  relationship, I'm talking about the relationship is off, but
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  they won't leave you alone. You there that is still
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  defeating them. That is still a defeat because
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  they keep their licking, their wounds trying to come back into
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  your life, to try to ruin your life.
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  To try to get back at you. Try to hurt you for hurting
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  them. That's what they're Right.
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  Now in this instance right here y'all they're trying to hurt you
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  for hurting them. They're trying to get back at
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  you for getting back at them. You know I'm saying?
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  Just because if you if you cut off access if they if they're
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  calling you is they're calling you from blocked numbers if
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  they're abusing fake phone numbers to reach out to you
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  there, if they're using like a Google messaging.
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  Google numbers, creating fake profiles on Facebook and
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  Instagram or Tick-Tock of something like that, they're
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  making fake Snapchats. You have defeated them.
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  Y'all, you have to feed them, but you have to keep striking
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  them now. Just because you have defeated
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  an Me sometimes you have to keep striking them down there because
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  they Retreat doesn't mean they won't come back.
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  You'll defeat a defeated enemy, wolves can still sometimes come
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  back. This is how happen, as long as
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  you cut off, access to them, y'all you win, but you have to
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  keep cutting. You have to keep cutting off
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  access. If they look if you if you shut
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  the door on them, they make sure you close up all the windows as
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  well. You don't mean you have to be
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  able to shut off access because if you want to defeat them then
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  how you doing yo? Take their power away.
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  The power of their words, the power of their, their body
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  language the powder, the power powder, the power of their
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  subtle forms of manipulation, things like that, Yeah.
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  Things like that, you see I'm saying things like that, that's
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  the situation, that's the dynamic out, that's how it goes
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  strip them of that, and you can win, you can win, but you have
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  to wear, this is right here. Y'all rent, bubble coming.
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  I feel alive. I filled it.
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  Bubbling up. You have to want to win more
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  than they do. You have to have everybody's
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  battle. There's going to be different,
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  some like some people's battles are going to be easier than
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  other people's battles because you might not have Any
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  connections to this person, you might have just got, but this
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  person, the relationship might not have been a long-term
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  relationship. Y'all might have nothing in
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  common, y'all. It might be long distance and I
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  only got to do is block them, but it's still a battle.
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  Your battle is still your battle regardless of how simplistic it
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  looks to somebody else's battle. You don't mean regardless, how
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  much easier quote-unquote easier than it looks in somebody else's
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  about this. Steal your about, you still have
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  to fight it. You still have to fight it.
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  You don't mean, but you have to be willing to fight it some
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  People just give up really no, I'm just tired.
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  It's just easier for me to stay here and deal with it unless I
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  know what's going on is that you have resigned yourself to a life
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  of sadness. A life of not living to your
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  full potential. That's what you have resigned
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  yourself to right now. Is that what you want?
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  If you have kids, do you want your kids to see you?
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  Do you want your kids to grow up and see you and happy as hell?
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  Because that's what happens next, child.
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  That's what's going to happen. Your kids are not going to role
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  model you because they're going to look at you.
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  Oh, damn. I'm a mom or dad.
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  Whoever you are whatever position you play.
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  The life is sad all the time. I don't want to be like them.
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  The kids your kids go. It's going to going to be
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  nothing like you. I don't want to be anything like
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  my parent either one of them. You don't mean but sometimes it
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  is inevitable it. Sometimes your children end up
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  in toxic relationships right there.
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  Y'all, because they see you doing it, you have to become a
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  good model for you. Have to model a good
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  relationship right there. Yo you have to model it for
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  them. You have to show the way healthy
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  relationships. Look like you have to be City.
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  I'm just telling you cut off power, cut off, control, cut off
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  access. That's how you defeat a
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  narcissist. You don't have to outsmart.
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  Them. You just need to Calcutta
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  sometimes. Yeah, that was more time and
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  material which sometimes you do have to outsmart them because
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  there are always trying to think two steps ahead of you
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  especially if you have to divorce them, they might not
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  ever want to divorce you. Yo, you might be, I don't know
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  where it some states or different other.
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  Some countries are different others.
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  You know, sometimes you can force them to get divorced if
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  they keep, if they don't show up, sometimes they have these
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  sure you ain't the divorce process can drag out for years
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  upon years upon years, you know. But you still a long as you get
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  out of it. They still have defeat y'all.
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  If you struggling Long as you don't give up, you still
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  winning, just don't give up. Does it feel like you're
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  winning? You feel like you're in the feel
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  like you're in the trenches getting goddamn bombs, dropped
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  on your head are we're blowing up everywhere you what you want
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  to give up, you want to give in but then guess what happens?
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  I'll the bomb start raining down.
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  You realize like the bombs. It's just it's just a sound of
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  the bomb. The bombs are nowhere near me.
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  They're just the bombs that just so loud.
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  The narcissistic person is putting on such a put it on such
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  a big show that they are. As hell away from me.
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  It makes it makes it seem like they're closer to me
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  perspective. Y'all perspective, you can win
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  how to defeat a narcissist strip, them of the power and
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  control of what do they have going on in your life Lee?
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  I'm a stay-at-home mom or a stay-at-home dad stay at home
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  parent and I don't have any access to financing.
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  I don't know what I can do. Now, it's time to make a plan,
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  there's so many online businesses and things that you
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  can start behind the scene. Um, I had a whole eBay business
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  going on in my in my shed outside.
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  There's so many little things that you can do to create
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  different Sources of income or whatever.
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  You know, mean. They help you out.
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  Just baby steps. I know everybody's situation is
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  different. I made this same way.
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  I made that sound. Like, it was easy.
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  I know it's not easy out, but you are in control.
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  You have the power, you can defeat the narcissistic
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