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Season 2 - Episode 72 - How you say what you say tells the story. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today I have a question for
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  you. Have you ever really paid
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  attention to your language? The words?
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  You use and really just kind of like, monitored, what you were
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  saying? How you were saying it?
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  The inflection in which you were using it?
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  Well, I thought it would be an interesting question to ask all
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  of you because I pay attention to your language all the time.
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  Like my I should say, I pay a lunch tension, very close
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  attention. Two of my clients language all
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  the time and one of the things that's so fascinating to me
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  about it is, I mean, it's kind of a thing now.
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  I'm kind of like focused on it wherever I go, I listen to how
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  people talk and this past weekend, we went out to dinner
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  and there was a group of people sitting behind us and they were
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  talking and I have to tell you I was listening to how these
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  ladies were talking and I was like flabbergasted that they had
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  no clue about how they sounded. Two other people and if they
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  did, they really didn't care. And it just got me thinking
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  about how everything in my world when I'm working with clients is
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  listening to how they talk about things, what they say, how they
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  think comes out in the language and I can I can always find
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  Clues as to what's really going on in their head by their
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  language patterns and I do this for myself too because I will
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  hear myself say something. And I'll say oh wait that came
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  out sounded very very Impatient or snarky, or whatever it might
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  be, because I can catch it in myself now and I'm not great at
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  doing it all the time, but I am good at doing it.
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  I would say, 75% of the time I can catch myself and then there
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  are the 25% of the times that shows up that I have no clue
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  what the heck I'm doing with it and I just it just goes in and
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  then I have to deal with it. But doing an inventory, for
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  yourself is super powerful because you have the control
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  over your life. Which obviously and once you
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  know you have the control over your language and you start
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  paying attention, Everything Changes dramatically because
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  you'll say, oh that doesn't fit the identity.
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  I want, that doesn't sound like the person.
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  I choose to be that sounds like somebody that I once was but not
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  anymore. So this little experiment of
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  monitoring your language really thinking about it and paying
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  attention to it, it's not easy. Let me just say this, it's not
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  easy. You actually We have to think
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  about it, catch yourself, go into the day with the intent of,
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  I'm going to catch my language today.
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  I'm going to see what I'm telling myself, about everything
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  around me. It's, it's part of a great
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  experiment about being Mindful and becoming hyper aware as well
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  because if you're hyper aware, you know, where you're getting
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  hung up. So you can help yourself and
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  participate in your own rescue because ultimately everything
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  comes down to being able to participate in your own rescue,
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  not relying on everybody else to rescue you.
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  But really participating in your Ask you.
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  So I would say one of the most wonderful things that I know for
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  sure for myself is that I have this ability, once I know it I
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  can I can change it, it's just I can't change what?
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  I don't know. So I assume that you're going to
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  feel the same way about this because I feel like once I know
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  it, I have no excuse as to not change something.
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  I just have to know it and then I can work on changing.
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  It, will it be easy to change it?
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  No. But at the same time, Time.
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  It'll be worth it. So I would suggest, you know,
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  you can use the app in your phone, your notes app in your
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  phone, you can use your little voice recorder.
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  You can just take good old pencil and paper and start
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  writing down. Things that you catch yourself
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  saying and look for the things that are repetitive because
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  repetitive things make patterns. So, the more you repeat
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  something, the more, you believe it, the more, it becomes a
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  pattern, whether it's true or not.
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  And I can tell you, I have seen some very Functional patterns in
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  language that have come right out of my own house.
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  When I was a kid, my mother's dysfunctional patterns of how
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  she would say things and I would say every time she saw someone
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  walk into a room, she would look at them and she'd say, what's
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  wrong and that pattern carried over carried over.
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  And I had to catch myself doing it and say, I don't want to say
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  that all the time, there's nothing wrong.
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  Why am I focused on that? But it's language patterns, they
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  really make a difference. So So today, this week the
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  month, however, long you want to do it, if you really want to
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  shift your world, start paying attention to your language.
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  Patterns look right away. See what shows up and figure it
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  out because I promise you, you will learn an awful lot from it.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.