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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Laser Focus of Purpose 6.25.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Are we talking about the concept of how, how important a person
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  is it for a person to know the why of their existence, which is
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  why I'm on this earth. You've heard people sadly say I
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  don't know why I'm here. I don't know what my purpose is.
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  I don't know what why I'm going through this.
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  And we all say when we're going through something why, But he
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  explains man's mission in this world.
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  Name of this chapter, the 1st chapter is very paramount for a
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  person to be focused, which means if I know why I'm here,
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  I'm going to ignore the things that taking me away from my
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  purpose and I'm going to be laser focused on those items
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  that fit perfectly with my focus and my purpose.
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  Now, the only challenge is it's not that defined.
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  It's not that simple. Can't say I was so simple.
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  I should be right to be a Tamika Ham.
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  What does it mean to be a person oppressed?
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  To be all the things that they talk about when they praise the
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  person? Is that why I'm here?
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  Somewhat. But there's also actually more
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  nuances than that. Maybe it's to you know, be
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  better for the people around you to lift them up to help them.
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  Pretty much it really means the why in general is any situation
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  that you find yourself in life to do the best that you can do
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  on that and not get distracted by everything.
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  The world is trying to distract us by the world destruction in a
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  way something unbelievable mentioned yesterday.
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  The world is a polar opposite of your purpose.
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  God and put you on this earth for a purpose.
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  He put you in this world with the perfect ability to fulfill
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  your purpose. Literally no one else can do
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  your job as good as you, and no one else.
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  It in Europe has all the tools necessary around you for your
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  job as you do. That's clear.
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  Get. At the same time, that same
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  world is built in a way that it looks like everything going on
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  in the world is a distraction, is meant to pull us away from
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  the right of living, of life. Which means at the same time,
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  I'm here for a purpose. If I were looking at myself from
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  afar, I would know exactly what to tell myself, what to do, how
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  to use the world around me for the sake of my purpose.
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  Everything is structured perfectly for my purpose.
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  Yet somehow, some way, that same world, the world around me, is
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  also pulling me away from my purpose and doing everything in
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  its power to try to fight me from being who I want to be.
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  This is literally the world we live in.
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  So you have to know the why, and you have to therefore avoid all
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  the distractions. I take you away from that.
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  Why? As he's telling you so the.
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  Only way you a person could look at it really is because it's,
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  you know, it's like you do the kids sometimes, you know, you
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  make these obstacle courses for them and you make them go
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  around. So if you don't really have the
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  perspective that Hashem is, is creating this muscle memory item
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  that's the best for you, that once you survive it, then you've
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  already accomplished a lot, then there's no way you could really
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  have a relationship with Hashem. Because if not, it's all seems
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  like trickery and the and and and deception, yes.
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  It's a. It's a somewhat of a naturally
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  bothersome things. Why do we have you know, he
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  talks about the Itza hara. So why do I have the Itza evil
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  inclination and you can also say all the things in life that seem
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  to take me down right. You know, I'll give you an
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  example this week for me, my schedule changes in the
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  summertime and the certain sense was to be freer supposed to be
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  freer because I don't really have the same she was scheduled.
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  I do my one thing am I learning associated free For whatever
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  reason, this week was by far about one of the most
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  distracting weeks and I'm more tired and more rundown and and
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  have more things to do and it's supposed to be the opposite.
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  And unless I stop and say, hey, you're not catching on.
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  God wants you to figure out a way to turn something into
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  freedom to learn, not just assume that you have it made in
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  the shade and then it's going to be free.
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  Unless I catch on to that. I'm going to be fighting this
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  the whole summer and my whole life.
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  And the same issue with everything.
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  If a person does not recognize that this gets out, all that
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  we're facing, all these things in our world which are
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  distractions are there for us to get past them.
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  If we don't realize that, it's going to be very frustrating
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  because you're going to have in the back of your mind your
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  understanding of why you're here.
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  You're going to say, OK, I'm here to be a good father, may to
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  be a good husband. I'm here to learn.
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  I'm here to pray and May to connect to God.
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  Great. That's why I'm here.
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  Yet everything in my life seems to be the opposite.
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  My kids are my behaving and not allowing me to talk to them for
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  them for me to have an impact on them, right.
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  My my marriage has things. My, my making my, my making
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  money has has issues. My whatever it may be, my
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  relationships have things. And you're saying this, I'm just
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  trying. All I want to do is try to do my
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  best. Why am I facing these things?
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  And the answer is if you solely as a focused on your purpose, if
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  you don't look at these distractions and say to these
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  say to yourself, they really they're fighting my focus, but
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  at the same time, I'm going to go right past them and get to my
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  purpose. If you're lazy, focus on your
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  purpose, you'll not be distracted by these things that
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  are taking you down. So for example, the kids, right?
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  No one. And you know you're here as a
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  father or grandfather to be there for them.
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  You know that you know you're going to raise them and you know
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  that they're making it difficult.
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  So you're saying to yourself, I don't get it.
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  If I'm here for that purpose, why are they making it
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  difficult? And the answer is to get past
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  that, to be able to really raise them, not just do what your
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  parents did and be the person, as you know, the, the, the
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  Father's Day father and the guy who he gives the kids the hug.
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  And that's that nonsense. To really be a person who raises
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  them, raises them means he understands his children.
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  Raises them means he figures a way around the issue and he
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  comes up with a creative concept to make things better on and on.
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  All these things you have to work on, that's real raising.
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  And it only happens when someone is so laser focus on their
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  purpose that they can see past the distraction.
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  The same thing you shoot everything in life.
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  Such an amazing item. Like growing up, right, my
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  quality was as typical Israeli and he didn't do any of that,
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  right? Zero of it.
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  And I thought that I was getting the raw ends of a childhood
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  attack. They can.
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  They went to baseball games, people.
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  They did. We did stuff, but not the
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  typical stuff, right? And only, and and we went to
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  work from like very young age. So, and but only later in life
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  did I get to say, wow, yeah, he made my life easy because I did
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  my toiling right, right, right in my.
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  In my, you know. And, and you get to take the
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  perspective that there's a different path for every person.
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  You know, the kids today get have this FOMO item where
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  everything is, oh, but this guy's doing this.
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  Oh, and they're going here, can we do this?
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  Give it, they go. But that's not for everybody.
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  Yeah, 100%. And by the way, about that,
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  about the FOMO item, which is, I don't know Allah, but I'm
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  finding that it's, it's unbelievably strong thing with
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  all the kids. FOMO, fear, missing out.
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  I got it. How it really means this is that
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  people live in a mindset that they're here and they're worried
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  about not being there and they have this and they're worried
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  about not having that. And if you would look at their
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  life, you would say it's awesome.
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  Yeah, it may have some challenges.
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  Yeah, there might be some worries like everyone has, but
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  it's unbelievably blessed. It's awesome.
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  Yeah. At the same time, you also look
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  at their mind and you say that it's so worried.
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  It's so more than that unhappy. It's so unsettled.
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  It's so like on one leg because they think they have to be doing
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  something else. And it's a very upsetting fact
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  that this exists in the world. But it's a very, very strong
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  dominant mindset that exists today.
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  And yes, as a parent, we want to talk about that.
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  As a parent, our job is to create a way that the child
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  feels so comfortable, his own skin and so happy that he has
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  and content. He doesn't have that foam.
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  Oh, he doesn't have that money so that he wants something else.
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  I mean, good luck trying. It's a very big job.
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  It requires creating a very warm home and requires creating a
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  home that is better than anything else.
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  It's not easy. But the result might not.
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  What I'm saying is the result probably will not be instance.
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  But just know keep on doing your thing with them and they'll get
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  it at their time when they need it to open for them.
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  That's a as apparent to be that 100% right.
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  So he says that's why a man's put in this world or put in this
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  world to do the best that we can do with the tools that God gave
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  us laser focus on our purpose and to live out that purpose.
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  That's the job Now, I guess I said it's vague.
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  So what do you do about the the the vagueness of this reality?
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  I think a person realizes in their life over time why they're
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  here, which means some people want to know why, you know, they
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  always wonder what job should I take, right?
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  Or how should I raise my children and these different
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  things, people will try to learn different things over time.
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  They become some sort of because God put you here on this for
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  this purpose. They become some sort of sense
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  of connection to your purpose, which means you find yourself
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  feeling good in the certain spot.
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  Not good as in feeling good about yourself.
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  That's nice. That's not the point.
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  Feeling right, feeling like you're doing what I sham wants.
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  When you do certain things, when you find yourself doing those
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  things, you end up doing more of those things.
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  Whatever. Maybe every person's got the
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  quote of how much I have to learn and I have to pray.
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  And all learning is good and all praying is good.
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  And you still find even within that, which learning fits you
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  better, suits you, which kind of praying that you do, You know
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  you do long on me, da short on me da, how much you know what
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  you pray, it suits you. And then you also find how you
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  raise your children, how it suits you, what kind of message
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  you get involved in, how that suits you.
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  And those become your sense of purpose.
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  Now, man, keep changing. We can keep changing with this,
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  but it becomes an overall sense of what I should be doing in
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  life, what I should not be doing and what other people are doing
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  is by far the greatest mirage and sketch out there in the
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  world. Even other people doing good
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  things, it's still not you. Someone else doing something
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  great and your mind, it makes you feel a little bit smaller
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  than that because you're not doing what you could be doing.
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  That's not you. You do yours and they do theirs
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  and you keep laser feast of all yours is.
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  And if you can just go to bed every night and say I try my
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  best in all the areas of my life.
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  I try my best to work or try my best with my family, try my best
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  with my children. I try my best to pray and to
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  learn to be a good person and to lift every person I met today.
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  If you try your best in the real areas that matter and you are
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  doing literally tippy top of the best and they have the day of
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  doing your best will make you great.
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  Now you have to avoid distractions, you have to avoid
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  the fights, you have to avoid other people, you know, pulling
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  you down. You have to avoid the
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  influences. Fine, that's a lot.
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  But just saying lay staying lays the focus on your purpose in
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  life will make you the greatest person imaginable.
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  And that has to be a be a person's mindset.
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  And that's how I go on a climb by understanding if I live life
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  the right way and I mainly as a focus.
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  I don't allow these different things.
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  Now wasting time is a distraction, doing something
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  inappropriate, it's 'cause it's definitely a distraction.
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  It's a hurrah saying a hurrah. It's a definitely a distraction.
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  Getting involved in being angry or distraction, being depressed
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  or distraction, these all things that take you away, being
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  jealous of distraction. So there's a lot out there that
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  you got to get past in order to remain this simple definition of
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  a great person that I told you. It's not that simple as I'm
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  saying it. Telling you be your father, a
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  good husband, be a person who's trying for his family, right?
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  Be a good learner, be a good prayer.
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  I'm telling you you're done. That's true, but only because
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  you got past all the different things in life that take you
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  down. And how do you get past them?
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  By remaining laser focused on my purpose in life.
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  And in fact, Kabul is not part of your purpose in life, right?
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  There's nothing for you. All these different, you know,
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  materialistic things, they're not part of your purpose.
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  You know that. And solely, but surely you start
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  to become so clear and you thin the way you skim away all that
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  fat of life and then talk about a person is this clear?
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  Makes sense. It's clear.
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  You have it. And I think it's very doable.
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  It's very doable. And you look at certain people
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  and you look at them and you say, that guy, he's living that
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  way. He doesn't get fazed, he doesn't
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  get bothered. He's not jealous.
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  He's not keeping up with the Joneses, he's not buying
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  everything everyone says. And you know what?
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  He could afford it. Well, even if he can't afford it
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  doesn't make a difference. He just doesn't seem to care.
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  And he seems to have an air about him that makes everyone
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  around you around and feel good around him.
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  Why? Because there's no jealousy,
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  there's no anger, there's no sense of depression.
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  There's no, you know, just there's no over like just
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  something that you get other people nervous.
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  He's just living life his own, doing his own thing.
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  Everyone wants to be like him. And the joke is that he is not
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  jealous of anyone else. And everyone over time wants to
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  be that person because that person has a sense of
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  confidence. Not sketch arrogance.
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  Confidence. You know we always say this all
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  the time. Confidence and arrogance are
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  completely pole opposites. Arrogance is insecurity.
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  Confidence can be humility. Greatest example Moshe Arbeno.
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  Moshe Arbeno was the most humble man ever lived and he might have
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  been the most confident man ever lived there over time.
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  And that is because he made three decisions that were earth
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  shattering decisions that were rather Hashem's consent and God
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  confirmed his decisions that I only remember always two out of
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  three. One was breaking through the hot
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  when he went to Saheta Aega. What kind of decision that is to
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  the hot was the purpose of the world.
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  The hot was the entire world for thousands of years was waiting
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  for this. Was that dangerous on his?
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  Behalf It was a very risky move. Very risky move.
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  You break into the hot. You went out to shaman.
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  God created them his own hands, so to speak.
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  They're miraculous. They're the purpose of the
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  world. They carry the whole total.
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  They're everything. And you just decide, because you
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  don't want to miss out, to receive them once they sink and
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  you think that they're worse off if they receive it, throw it
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  down to the ground, shatter it, and then take it and put it into
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  the fire and melt it into nothing, whatever you do with
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  them. Crazy that would be.
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  Like, let's say now a rabbi is in the kahao and the people are
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  right, and now you, like you pull the plug.
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  You're putting the Torah back in.
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  So much along with the decisiveness and the confidence
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  was the wisdom. And the wisdom was they didn't
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  yet receive it. So I have my moment.
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  They didn't receive it yet they have.
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  It's not really the Torah that the Torah is the Torah connected
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  to the Jew. It wasn't given to the Jew.
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  Here's my couple of seconds, couple of minutes that I can get
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  this done and I can never get this done again.
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  I can never do this. Once they receive it, it's not
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  going to happen, but I can do it before the contract is delivered
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  so to speak. But that took unbelievable level
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  of confidence and yet almost humble man ever lived in God
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  said it himself and Musharraf in the second decision was Hashem
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  gave a sermon IDs or a time for Matanzada.
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  I'll shake the lady today. He had one more day of
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  preparation, pushing off my time to that day.
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  That's also a very, very big deal.
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  And you know the day was preordained.
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  The world was created for that day.
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  Everything was for that day, right?
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  How does that work? And Hashem obviously this is
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  part of Hashem having, you know, man having Bikrida and God being
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  on board. And this is part of that
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  concept. God's original day turns out to
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  be Moshe man. It was chosen day.
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  That takes strength and confidence, yet at the same time
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  unbelievable level of humility. Where lassie's by a shout out
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  they afford him, they rebelled him against him.
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  Unless you have no one up to go try and make Shalom with them,
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  Who does that? Who goes and tries to make
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  Shalom against people that made this ridiculous claim against
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  him? And Sir is a humble man,
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  confident and humble. He's got it.
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  It is the sense of I'm good, I'm living my life, I'm happy with
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  what I have, I'm blessed and I'm good.
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  That level of confidence and it allows a person to remain, leads
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  the focus on life. Whereas a person allows himself
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  to be the original, insecure or both.
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  Then he allows himself to be pulled down constantly.
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  He's running after other people, he's jealous of other people,
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  he's insulted constantly by not being given proper coverage.
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  He's always frustrated by not being spoken about, not being
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  known about and by someone else having something greater.
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  And his whole life is in a tizzy where his life is awesome, but
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  only because he's suffering from confidence, lack of confidence
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  and arrogance, which are one of the same by the way.
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  And because of that, his life is nothing.
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  Because of that, you forget about him being ready to focus
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  on life, forget about him adapting to this, this pedic.
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  So the idea of this pedic is every person should remain clear
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  on what his purpose is and do not allow these things that are
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  meant to pull you down, trying to pull you down do their job.
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  Instead, stop and say to yourself, I see that it's trying
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  to get me. I'm going to hold back.
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  I see that it's trying to get me.
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  I'll push away and you keep these things at Bay.
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  You remain you're you and you go and you go and you go and you go
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  and nobody can stop. You think I look back and they
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  can say, you know, when, when and people are getting married,
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  sometimes they have these families.
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  People are trying to like, why do they all of a sudden their
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  reputation is so beautiful. I'm not talking about families
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  who are well off or famous for that, just famous for their
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  beauty. People wondering like, what is
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  that? That's one of the time you see
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  this when you see people just like them and they just have a
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  certain air of likability and blessed.
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  And that is this because they're doing their thing and nobody
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  else and matters to them and nothing else matters to them.
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  They're just doing their thing the right way.
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  You live life the right way and you do things with your focus of
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  your purpose and this earth. You don't allow distractions
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  take you down. You can go and go and go build
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  and build and no, literally you could just look back at everyone
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  else and say you guys could do your thing.
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  You can fight it out, you can get jealous so you can be busy
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  with yourself. You can do all that stuff.
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  I'm going to mind. I'm the role.
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  That's the idea. A very important to be a mindful
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  like Robbie Diamond story always when he goes and being a rabbi,
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  he goes out of his way. He was pretty nice everybody.
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  So that went and I I've seen a month there.
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  I mean, by the way, it's not he's talking to everybody.
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  He could barely lose and he used to try to help someone with the
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  thing you know, and and that's work because you know, even when
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  you drive with the keypad, like everything you do, right, you
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  have to. So now, now even take that to
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  your home, what your kids see of you.
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  It's almost like you have. For sure.
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  If they see you caring about this stuff, right?
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  They hear a sense in a minute, they see you being have a great
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  day. Because I could wait, brother.
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  It was great, Thomas. It'd be great.
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  Wow. But yeah, it's 100% sure.
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  But that is this is a very hard item.
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  Like, OK, we're here now. OK, this is like a batting
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  practice. So you're in the cage, you're
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  doing everything right. The coaches tell you, hold this
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  one. And then sometimes you go into
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  into the jungle and you're good in the morning.
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  And then at some point of the day you see people that are good
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  people do such like, stupid things, swanky, you know,
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  struggle. That is the struggle.
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  Every person you look at them on their own, almost every person
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  we know, you look at them alone. Just talk to them straight.
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  Beautiful people, what happens, life comes right there, life
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  comes and life and how much light they let life ruin them or
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  affect them is how much they're taking down and how, Which means
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  other people, different things, different issues, and how much
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  they hold themselves strong one way or another is how much that
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  person becomes, that remains and therefore develops into a more
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  beautiful person. It's all about staying on track.
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  We get thrown off all the time staying on track side.
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  Yesterday my wife was.