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Episode 2: Self Acceptance · Just Be True ~ A Soul-Led Podcast

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  Welcome to Just Be True, a soul -led podcast.
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  I am your host, Summer, and I am thrilled that
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  we are here together today to discuss a subject
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  that is near and dear and very personal to me.
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  It's self -acceptance, the freedom to accept
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  who you are unconditionally, right? I mean, this
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  can be very personal and it's universal at the
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  same time. It's all about learning to see yourself
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  with kindness, about coming home to who you are
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  beneath all the expectations, fears and stories
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  that you've been told. So truly allowing yourself
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  to be true to you and Be within your own self,
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  right? I mean, that's amazing thing to consider
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  and start to doing. So let's start with the illusion
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  of perfection, right? How many of you have changed
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  your dress, the way you dress, your hairstyle,
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  the way you act or claim that you like something
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  or dislike something because of someone else?
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  because of someone else's opinion of you, because
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  someone else's expectations of you. I know I
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  have. And for much of my life, I've tried to
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  become better. Better at fitting in, better at
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  pleasing others, better at hiding the parts of
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  myself that I thought were just too much. Like
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  too much for other people to accept. I measured
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  my worth on how others saw me. I was doing such
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  a disservice to myself when I did. For me, this
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  mostly took place in my spiritual gifts. Me hiding
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  my gifts and not truly owning them so that others
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  wouldn't think that I was crazy or weird. Well,
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  guess what? I'm weird and maybe a little bit
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  crazy, but that's perfectly fine. I mean it took
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  me a long time to truly step into owning my spiritual
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  gifts. I was brought up in a Southern Baptist
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  home and spirituality just wasn't spoken about.
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  You know the gift of mediumship was not something
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  that was shared with me. I didn't know what a
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  psychic was until I was in my 30s oh my goodness,
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  and I do it now for a living go figure Right
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  I did not and I was always told to Do right fit
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  in make sure that you look a certain way to be
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  accepted by a certain way oh my gosh, I remember
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  growing up that We had to look perfect when we
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  steps outside of that The hair had to be perfect.
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  The clothes had to be perfect. Everything had
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  to be perfect. But inside the house, it was a
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  total mess, right? But we showed a perfect side
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  of ourselves so others would accept us. So others
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  would, you know, have a different opinion of
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  us. I'm going to tell you, I am so much happier
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  now that I am living my true authentic self.
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  And I have set aside the expectations of others
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  and of pleasing. I am no longer in the game of
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  pleasing. Look, it is what it is, right? I mean,
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  if you're living your life to please others,
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  you're living for others and you're not living
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  for you. Another area that I also did this in
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  was how I dressed. I had such a difficult time
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  with fashion and trying to fit in. I never really
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  fit in. And when I did dress to fit in, I felt
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  awkward. I felt like somewhat of a misfit. Like
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  it just, I was wearing clothes that belonged
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  to somebody else and not to me. Well today, I
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  dress how I want to. I don't worry about other
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  people's opinion because their opinion is just
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  that. their opinion and it's none of my business
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  with someone else's things or how somebody else
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  believes right especially about me I'm the one
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  that has to live with my choices I'm the one
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  that has to answer to the things that I do and
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  I'm the one that has to wear my clothes I'm the
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  one that has to be comfortable so guess what
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  I go out of my way to be comfortable and I make
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  sure that whatever I'm wearing suits me and my
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  personality I don't care about others, right?
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  You gotta be comfortable. How many ladies have
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  you worn those high heel shoes just to look cute
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  so somebody would think that you were cute? Right?
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  You did them for fashion. Did you do it because
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  it was you? Maybe so. And great. That's absolutely
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  wonderful. But did you do it to get somebody
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  else's attention? Did you do it to get somebody
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  else's approval? You know if so there's a better
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  way of doing that look I wear wear shoes My favorite
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  shoes are the vibram five -fingered shoes the
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  ones where all your toes have a little slot in
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  them People laugh at me all the time. They tell
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  me they're the weirdest shoes. They've ever seen
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  but guess what? They're the most comfortable
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  issues that I have and I wear them daily And
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  I don't care literally. I don't care what anybody
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  thinks why it's my feet shoes. I do what I want
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  to do because I'm gonna be self -acceptance of
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  me, right? I'm not gonna care about other people.
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  I'm gonna tell you during this process of fitting
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  in I lost connection with who I truly was and
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  I'm sure you do too. Maybe you felt that too
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  much pressure to live up to someone else's version
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  of you. a silent exhaustion of pretending to
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  be what the world expects instead of you just
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  being what your soul desires. And when you can
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  step into being and living what your soul desires,
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  everything is simpler. Everything is simpler,
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  right? When you let go of other people's expectations
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  of you, you free yourself. You really do, right?
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  So, you know, self -acceptance isn't about becoming
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  perfect. It's about releasing the need to be
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  perfect. It's about truly being you unapologetically.
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  Truly being you unapologetically. So for me,
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  there came a point in my journey when I realized
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  I couldn't keep chasing approval. I mean I spent
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  years living up to everyone else's expectations
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  and yet I still felt unfulfilled and I felt like
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  I was living a lie and not being true to me and
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  at a point I kind of like lost who I was you
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  know and then you really feel kind of lost and
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  then I finally stopped and when I allow myself
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  to just be that's when I begin to feel peace.
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  I began to feel peace inside, right? The true
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  healing came the moment I started honoring my
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  truth instead of hiding from it. I mean, yeah,
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  you can go on hiding from it from here on out,
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  but you're never gonna truly know who you are
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  and anyone around you is not gonna know truly
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  who you are. You're only going to see the part
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  of you that is living up to their expectations.
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  And that's not helpful for you or them. I mean,
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  I'll be honest. This sounds a whole lot simpler
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  than what it actually is. It took practice to
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  do what felt right. It took courage to allow
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  people in the world to see the real me. And when
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  you show up true to yourself, you also show vulnerability.
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  Now, however, I must say being vulnerable does
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  not mean you're weak. It does not show your weaknesses.
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  It is a strength and a courage and can be extremely
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  powerful. I think the definition or the meaning
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  around vulnerability is misleading. When you
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  can show someone your vulnerable side, you're
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  showing them that you're human. What I've learned
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  from vulnerability, sorry, kind of tongue twister
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  there, is that people respect and look up to
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  you more for being vulnerable. And it shows everyone
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  else that you are human too, that you're not
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  this some perfect machine that doesn't ever make
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  mistakes or doesn't have feelings, right? The
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  first time that I showed vulnerability, I was
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  a manager and I showed it to my team. And it
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  actually helped bring me and my team members
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  closer together. Because yes, even though that
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  they needed to follow directions for what I gave
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  them to do, and that they had to live up to,
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  you know, they had to do what was expected of
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  them. They still understood that I had emotions
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  and I had feelings too. And that showing my vulnerability
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  side let them see the human part of me, not just
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  the supervisor part of me. So, you know, embrace
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  that vulnerability and let it show through and
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  let people see the true, real you. And this is
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  a part of self -acceptance as well. You know,
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  so take steps each and every day to show and
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  to step into your true, authentic self and own
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  your self -acceptance. I mean, own it and discover
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  the moment When you can whisper to yourself,
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  I don't have to prove anything. I am already
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  enough. I'm going to say that one more time.
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  I don't have to prove anything. I am already
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  enough. And when you can say that and believe
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  it in that moment, you'll be able to finally
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  breathe again. You'll be able to let it all go.
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  Who cares what other people think? Right? I mean,
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  truly, you know, who cares about one person or
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  that small group of people? You may not even
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  have to live with those individuals the rest
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  of your life. You have to live with you for the
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  rest of your life. You know, nobody else is going
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  to be around you from birth to death except for
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  you every single moment. So, you know, what does
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  self acceptance really mean? It doesn't mean
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  that you stop growing or learning It means that
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  you love yourself through the process It means
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  holding compassion for your past self gratitude
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  for your present self and hope for what you're
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  still becoming Because you will continue to grow
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  Through this whole process, you know, I think
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  life is a is a continual Growth and continuing
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  looking at ourselves and seeing how we can be
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  truly authentic to ourself how we can accept
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  ourselves and how we can Step into that space
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  of unconditional love everywhere right so You
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  know you're still becoming And when you look
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  in the mirror instead of seeing flaws or mistakes
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  you begin to see a soul Strong, wise, beautifully
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  imperfect. We're not meant to be perfect. We
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  are meant to be loved, and we are meant to be
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  self -accepted. When you realize you don't have
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  to fix your reflection, you only have to love
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  it. Love it open -heartedly and with unconditional
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  love. It will change your life. I promise you
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  So I would like to invite you to take a challenge
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  and This is something I would like for you to
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  do every single day until you feel that it's
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  no longer needed Right, and I still do it today.
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  Now. I don't do it every single day But I still
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  do it from time to time, and it's a beautiful
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  reminder, right? So what you need to do is you
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  stand in front of a mirror, and when you first
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  do it, like be fully clothed, stand in front
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  of a mirror, look into your own eyes, like literally
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  look, look into your own eyes, right? That's
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  the seat of the soul. And say to yourself out
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  loud, I see you. I love you. Thank you for being
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  exactly who you are. Yep, you'll say it out loud
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  to yourself, eye to eye. I see you. I love you.
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  And thank you for being exactly who you are.
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  Now as you do it, notice the emotions that rise
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  up. and allow them to flow. It doesn't matter
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  if you find yourself in tears, laughing, or feeling
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  overwhelmed with love. Don't judge those emotions.
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  Just let them be seen and sit with them. You
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  might feel like you need to journal. You might
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  feel like you need to do a vlog for it. Whatever
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  you need to do, feel free to do so. But this
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  is what self -acceptance is. It feels like a
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  gentle, raw, honest, and real emotion. Now, after
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  you've done it for a while, I would like for
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  you to step it up a little bit and do it with
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  no clothes on. Look at your full body. Embrace
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  the full body of you. say those same things I
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  see you I love you and thank you for being exactly
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  who you are and you are perfect in every way
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  now I promise it's not gonna be easy it's not
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  gonna be easy but it's gonna be worth it If you
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  stick through this, every day you will change.
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  You will change how you feel about yourself,
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  which in return will change how the world sees
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  you, and will offer you the ability to fully
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  accept who you are, the perfect imperfection
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  in which you are, right? So this journey of self
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  -acceptance isn't about becoming someone new
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  it's about remembering who you are It's about
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  learning to just be true You know, that's how
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  I came up with the with the name of my business
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  and The lead of this podcast just be true is
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  learning to be truly who you are and accepting
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  who you truly are I mean it's a beautiful gift
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  and one that only you can give yourself because
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  when you honor who you are you create a space
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  for everything meant for you to flow into life
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  effortlessly, naturally, and divinely. So I hope
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  this message resonated with you. I invite you
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  to read my full blog The power of self -acceptance
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  and healing is on my website. As you can see,
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  my website just-be-true.com
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  And you can see my blog there. The power
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  of self -acceptance and healing. I also have
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  another blog on the air called mirror work and
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  the mirror work does talk about looking at yourself
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  in the mirror and saying those beautiful words
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  and truly accepting who you are. And it's a powerful,
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  powerful tool for self healing and self acceptance.
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  So I invite you to check both of those out. Also,
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  if you're in the Atlanta area. I also do work
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  at The Inner Space. I do classes there and I
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  also do readings there. I hold a channeling circle
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  once a month. Messages through the veil also
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  once a month. And then you can also go to my
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  website and you can schedule a one -on -one reading
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  with me. So they would be... Clear point reading
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  our channel message reading and so please feel
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  free to schedule an appointment and we'll see
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  you soon. I hope that this podcast has resonated
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  with you and Please feel free to share this episode
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  with someone who needs a reminder of how wonderful
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  they are and that they are enough Until next
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  time Stay gentle with yourself and keep shining
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  your authentic light, and I will see you soon.
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  Bye