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What's going on what's going on what's going
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on you now tuned into life in love with And Sean
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here on the got what you need network Hope you
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all doing well today. Hope you all doing well
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We are back. We took some time all doing some
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different things Yeah, I'm setting up some stuff
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Working on some things and not doing shit at
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the same time like so doing a combination of
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both not doing shit and doing shit When it comes
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to media space, but we're gonna get get rolling
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on some media stuff a lot more I know I am and
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then I'm gonna push her to do some more too because
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I got some ideas for her I haven't told her yet
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and we'll probably talk about it over dinner
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or something but I want to push push the media
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stuff more and really really you know really
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shaking big what we have going on but first how
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are you doing today my dear? I'm doing lovely.
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How about you? I'm doing great. She said she's
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doing lovely. That's right. I am lovely. You
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can't get no better than that. I know, right?
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Shoot, man. Well, let's get the show started,
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man. We're doing something a little bit different.
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We're going to start off with a hot topic. That's
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right. Start it off, my dear. Hot topic. Oh,
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Lord. All right. So I'm ruining my sister's engagement
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on purpose because I want her man. Whoa. Yeah.
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So a woman wrote that her sister had always been
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the golden child, pretty perfect, praise for
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breathing. Meanwhile, she was the responsible
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one, the smart one, the you get your moment someday
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sister. Then her sister brought him home. The
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fiance she described him like he was carved out
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of a romance novel kind funny attentive Emotionally
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intelligent the type who remembers your coffee
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order and acts about your day like he actually
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cares she said the first time he hugged her she
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felt something she shouldn't have felt and Instead
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of shutting it down. She fed it Here's where
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the toxicity goes unclear what goes nuclear.
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She admitted she's been slowly sabotaging the
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engagement for months, accidentally telling him
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things her sister said in confidence, planting
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doubts about whether her sister is really ready
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for marriage, bringing up his exes at family
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dinners, suggesting her sisters might be talking
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to someone else, telling her sister that he seems
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unsure, purposely creating tension between them.
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And the worst one, she kissed him and he didn't
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pull away. She said it was quick, a moment, a
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spark, but it was enough to confirm everything
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she'd been hoping wasn't just in her head. He
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didn't tell her sister, she didn't tell her sister,
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and now she's spiraling. The confession ended
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with, I know I'm the villain. I know I'm wrong,
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but I also know he's supposed to be mine. And
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I'm not stopping until he realizes it. Sounds
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pretty bold to me. Yeah, I ain't feeling that.
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That sounds crazy. Yes. That sounds crazy. But
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I think that happens more time than often. I
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think women do that shit a lot. You see somebody
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else in their situation and then you jump you
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Oh, I feel a spark the fuck kind of spark you
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feeling or somebody You don't even know you've
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never met before Right and you all of a sudden
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you got a spark and now this is what we're doing
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now, that's crazy to me But I'm pretty sure it
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happens more time than yes. Yes. I think it does
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So the question is have you ever caught feelings
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for someone you knew you? shouldn't have I don't
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know like I don't know that's weird that you
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shouldn't have um Because you're really I guess
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it depends. Yeah, you know I mean, yeah, you
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know, I mean like I Married someone I probably
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shouldn't have my first marriage like so I guess
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I call feelings for someone I shouldn't have
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but it's not like she was with anyone Yeah, yeah,
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you know I'm saying it wasn't it just wasn't
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compatible enough We'll you know in in the totality
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of things weren't compatible enough. Yeah, but
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just uh I've never been that guy that was like,
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yo, if that's your girl, that's your girl. Like,
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I'm not, you know what I'm saying? Especially
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not nobody I know. You know what I'm saying?
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If I don't know you, I don't owe you anything.
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You know what I'm saying? My loyalty ain't to
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you. You know what I mean? That's her loyalty.
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Her loyalty should have been to you. So that's
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never been the case. But just like any homies,
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I've never paid attention to none of the homies'
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girls enough to even. Yeah. Acknowledge anything
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about them, so. Because that would be breaking
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code. Yeah, that and just. It ain't right. That
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shit's just corny. Yeah. There's too many women
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out here to be eyeballing another man's shit.
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You're right. That's supposed to be your people.
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Yeah. You know what I mean? Absolutely. But y
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'all are snakes like that. Yeah. Yeah. And women
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are snakes. I'm not going to go into details,
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but there have been a time where. I'm not going
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to say catch feelings, because it never really
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was about feelings. But why would you do it?
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I don't know. It was kind of just like a spur
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-of -the -moment thing. So I've kind of been
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dealing with someone who has been with someone
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in my life. Just for a short moment. So I guess,
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like you say, it happens more than you think
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it does happen. And it does. But it's never been
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my sibling or anything like that. I think that's
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- But it was somebody you knew? Yeah, it was
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somebody I knew. It was somebody I knew and somebody
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who I was close with at the time. See, y 'all
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tell y 'all, Snakey done a motherfucker. Now,
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I must admit, for me, okay, yes, we know they
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say, you know, men cheat a lot, okay? But in
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reality, I think it's women who does that the
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most. Because women are more sneakier with it.
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Or y 'all think y 'all are. A lot of times we
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know. I think a lot of dudes know their partner
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and know their partner will do some shit like
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that. If you're willing to overlook certain things
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that you know is going on. I knew my ex -wife
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cheated on me. But at the same time... I was
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cheating on her. So it wasn't really no situation
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where it was like, all right, until we both got
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a little too reckless with this shit, that's
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when it's like, yeah, niggas got too comfortable,
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that's when it was like, all right, we wildin'.
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You know what I'm saying? But outside of that,
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I ain't gave a fuck. You know what I'm saying?
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I say all the time, that's the only relationship
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I was loyal to. I think I can pretty much say
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the same. So, I did a lot of, I ain't really
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a lawyer to nothing but myself for a long time.
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Yeah. So, you know what I mean? I feel that.
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Yeah, shit be real. Yeah, now you're right. Shit
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be real. And that's corny. That can be corny
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as hell, but. It's how corny it is. That's life
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right there. That's life, man. Right. I don't
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think a lot of people will admit that. I don't
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think a lot of dudes will admit that. No, you
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know I'm saying that you know, they were they
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were a lot of people But I'm gonna go dudes because
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I'm a male and I know men I don't think a lot
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of men will admit the fact that they have they
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Probably only had one Relationship where there
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were no infidelity from them like they was true
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like yo, this is why I want to be This is why
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I want to do I think a lot of dudes are front.
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No, man. I've been real to every It's only only
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cheated one time You know, they'll never admit
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that they probably know relationship they cheated
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on everything and then cheating is relative So
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it's whatever you and your partner Dean to be
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cheating So sexually intercourse with someone
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else could be cheating for some they may not
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be cheating for others Having an intimate conversation
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could be cheating for some maybe not cheating
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for others. You know, I mean, yeah So yeah, it's
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different level. Yeah, it's definitely different.
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I guess it all boils down to what you feel about,
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you know, how you think it is. For the most part,
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I try to always be upfront with things. Yeah.
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You know, saying where it was like, you know,
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especially if I haven't really just dated date
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like I've I'm a serial dater. I am that, but
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I've never just. Just stated I like I had long
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-term relationships, but I'm not dating a whole
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bunch of people Yeah, you know I'm saying like
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it wasn't always I'm always in a bunch of relationships
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with a bunch of people You know me and right
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you know me so I've either been in long -term
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relationships that I probably shouldn't have
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been in that so fucking long I should have damn
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exit state right or I was in relationships with
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with a person you know with people or a person
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that just No, they just overlooked everything.
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Yeah, you know I'm saying they overlooked everything
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There was no pushback on nothing. It was whatever
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you want to do You can do type shit and I ain't
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the person to tell that to yeah, could you tell
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me whatever I could do? I can do I'm you know,
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I don't it was a point of time where I'm gonna
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do it and at that time I was around a Mix of
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people well, I could get off whatever I wanted
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to get off. You know, I mean so it's like you
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got it you got like for for myself you got to
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draw that shit in like I Purpose purposefully
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don't be in a whole bunch of places. That's gonna
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that's gonna make me think about doing something
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Wow You know I'm saying yo, you can't put yourself
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in you got you can't do it. You can't put yourself
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You can't put a lion in a den full of fucking
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gazelles and and don't think that motherfucker
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might not eat something He's gonna eat something
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something he gonna bite on I just don't put myself
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around that shit. You're right, you're right.
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I've been in only like, I'ma just say three relationships.
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One, y 'all know I ain't even claiming, but that
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was the first time I ever got married, okay?
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I hate it, but I gotta do it because it is a
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part of my past. So, the second one was where,
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yeah, I was in a close relationship with someone,
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we even lived together. And then, I have this
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one where we are now. It was one more between
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us. No, no, we're gonna count it. You think so?
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I think so, I'm counting. Okay, all right. You
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gotta count it. Okay, just for that simple fact
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then. You gotta count it though. All right, only
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three. We're not doing that. You're gonna count
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it. So before me, it was three real. It was a
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three real before me. You gotta count it. No,
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two. Two before you. Three, you gotta count it.
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You gotta count it. You was with some before
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you left to come with me. You gotta count it.
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Fuck that shit. You gotta count it. You gotta
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count it. You gotta count it. I count all mine.
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You know what I mean? All my real relationships.
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My relationships that I was in the dating phase.
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You know what I mean? I count mine. Two back
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at home, one I spawned a child with. One, I spawned
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a child, my first spawn, you know what I mean?
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And one, which I say shouldn't count, but before
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college, it was like, I'm in college, you know
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what I mean? Okay, boom. That one, then when
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I came to Florida, three, only three. Three in
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Florida. And one, I did two wrong. And one, One
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I married and the other one was like whatever
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Didn't you yeah, so five Like real long -term
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yeah, we doing so yeah, yeah Between those five
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it was some some sketchy Yeah, some clear water.
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No, it was clear to me It might not be clear
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to everybody else, but it was clear to me. I
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played ball overseas, I was out here doing some
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things, such as overseas, came back. Shoot. Okay,
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okay. I'm gonna move on that way. Let's move
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on. All right, so attraction, right? Uh -huh.
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Does it become wrong the moment that you acknowledge
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it? You know that you are attracted to someone.
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Right. Does it come wrong at that moment when
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you realize that? But is it with that person
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that you shouldn't be with? Yes. Yes. Good. Yep.
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Yep. Soon as you acknowledge it, you know it's
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wrong. Because some people acknowledge it and
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still go past that, knowing that it is wrong,
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but still go and do it. I think as soon as, especially
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if both of you acknowledge it, and both of you,
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you've had that conversation, you've already
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done too much now. We have gone to the spot of
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almost no return. because now you both acknowledge
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that there is some chemistry and then that person
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that's close to y 'all, that could be fucked
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up. Yes. Yeah, because there's definitely no
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longer fair for that other person no more. Yeah.
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Yeah, that's crazy. Yeah. That's crazy. Why?
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What made you think about that? What you thinking
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in mind? No, I'm not really thinking anything
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specifically, but it's just the whole thing of...
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Like I say, I know it kind of like happened to
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me once, but now with me being older and like
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really in a relationship that I really care about
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and that I love being in, I don't see myself
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in that state anymore. I don't know, I guess
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it kind of depends on the person. I mean, some
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people are heartless and they want what they
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want, no matter who the person is. Especially
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if you go by that story. That person was easy
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to easy to manipulate others. Yeah. And then
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the others were too easy to accept her manipulation.
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Yeah. That's crazy to me. Yeah. To me, that should
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be OK in our in our marriage. There should not
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be one person that could come in here and manipulate
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you and manipulate me at the same time. I agree.
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They should not be able to come in and manipulate
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us at all. But to come in and and now you You
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die you you um plant seeds of doubt within our
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whole relationship because you over here Yeah,
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one I wouldn't let no one come in that close
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Right to tell me nothing about you. Yeah, that's
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one Especially if we're in the getting married
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stage We've to me especially for luck like us
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we got married We was at that state when we were
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when I proposed and you said yes, and we decided
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to get married we were at that stage to me where
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It was no doubt. This was what we wanted to do.
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That bond was already solidified. Right. Right.
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You know what I'm saying? We've had shaky moments,
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but also once that happened, it was like, boom,
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we hit to let someone come in and to plant seeds
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of doubt to make me think otherwise of you. That
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means to me, this relationship was never on the
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right path from the beginning. It was never set
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to win from the beginning. and you also now they're
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they're they're planting seeds of doubt for you
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and now you're feeding into it now we're beefing
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constantly it's constantly something constantly
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something and now i'm so vulnerable that this
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person comes up and kiss me or you're so vulnerable
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that that person comes up and kiss you and i'm
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just okay with and i'm just cool with it it was
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already some issues there was some doubt there
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already yeah that we didn't hash out before we
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decided that we're gonna make this move yeah
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You're right. You know what I mean? Yeah, I agree.
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That's what it looked like to me from just even
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the story alone. Yeah. When it's too easy for
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somebody to come in and take something from you,
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it probably wasn't fully yours. It wasn't fully
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yours from the gate. Yeah. It wasn't fully yours
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from the gate. Because I know I love you. Right.
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I'm not about to let anybody. Come into this
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it just slide in in the light. I'm gonna do it.
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Yep. We gonna have to fight figure. Yeah me and
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her we gonna have to fight We gonna we gonna
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fuzz right you still ain't gonna get I'm instantly
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cutting people off though. It ain't family or
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not to me that oh damn, it's been That's the
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problem family letting family come in Sister
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brother auntie uncle cousin, whatever come in
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and just automatically Throw shit off. Yeah.
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Yeah, I guess for me. I guess for me. I don't
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have that Sense of I gotta keep family around
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type shit. I don't have that I've never had that
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if any one of my brothers are Detrimental to
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what I'm building Ross. I'm talking your ass
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get the fuck out of here unless you totally see
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something Yeah, I'll just totally miss it. Yeah,
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that's different then you you kiki and in my
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face talking shit and then you all in my lady
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face talking shit you all smoothy woozy and i'm
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looking like what the fuck going on right you
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just told me to watch out for certain shit now
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you all in my lady face like that right that's
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the shit i'm that's the shit i'm not like i don't
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know i'm i'm i'm a family person big family person
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but at the same time i'm not a family manipulated
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person family just can't come in and say right
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Because we're family, you got to get the fuck
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out of here. I built this on my own. You have
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restrict. Yeah. I'll give you a couple of dollars
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or something, but I built this on my own. You
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know, you're not going to have access to none
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of my shit like that. Have restrictions. I love
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you, but you got to stay over here. Yeah, I agree.
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I know everything. Yeah. Yeah. This is me. OK.
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All right. Well, do you think emotional cheating
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can be accidental or is it always intentional?
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Yeah, it could be. I think it would be accidental.
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You could not know you're emotionally cheating.
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Yeah, that's true. You could just get caught
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up in the sauce. Yeah. You can get caught up
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in the sauce. You're right. Our case in point,
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we've talked about our situation before. I just
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got caught up in the sauce in the communication
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with someone. That's all caught up in the sauce.
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We were not nowhere near on the same page. We
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just had our first son. You were going through
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postpartum. I got super into my work just being
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at the studio, nine to five studio, nine to five,
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and then someone came in the picture and I was
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overly talking with this person. Where it could
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have went another way, you know what I mean?
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Something could have happened. That wasn't intentional.
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It wasn't something I'm looking for. A person
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wasn't even my style of person. You know what
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I'm saying? But shit like that happens because
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you let certain emotional things happen where
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you're like, oh shit, you know what I'm saying?
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And you don't then don't look at it in a way
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like that. I personally think that can happen.
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It can be. And especially if you're in a kind
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of emotional state already. not per se vulnerable,
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but when you're not really 100 % into your situation,
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you got some things going on, sometimes it can
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be easy for somebody to come in and just talk.
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Because most of the time, that's what it is.
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You just want somebody to listen and talk to,
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and it's easy for that. But you will never know
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that other person. person's intentions. You know
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yours, and then it just happens to, you know,
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form. Sometimes spiral. You can let it spiral
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and then fuck up. But yeah, no, that's a fact.
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It can be accidental sometimes, yeah. Yeah, I
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think it can. I definitely think it can. That's
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just me. People out there might say they wrong,
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it can, but no, I think it can. Yeah, it can.
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I mean, things happen all the time. When your
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emotions take over and it's just, people be in
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relationships and things don't work out, things
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is not going the way that they want it to go.
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And you're talking to other people, not necessarily
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always pillow talking, but you have someone that's
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always there and they can, You can talk to them
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about things you can't talk to your person that
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you're having a problem with. At the moment,
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right. It'll be easy to fall into, you know,
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a little trap like that. Yeah. Yeah. I can see
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that. I can definitely see that. Yeah. That shit
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happens. Happens every day, B. Yeah, it does.
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Whether you know it or not. Right. Yeah. All
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right. Well, do families accidentally create
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competition between siblings? Hell yeah. It ain't
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accidental. But hell yeah. I don't think it's
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accidental. I don't think it's accidental at
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all. I think certain parents, certain family
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members, it's intentional. Yeah. You know what
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I mean? Yeah. I agree. And then certain siblings
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could fall into the, or cousins or stuff like
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that could fall into the, yeah. I am better.
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I am. I should be the one be praised. I should
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have that. It's my right to have that. It's not
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your right to keep it. You know saying it's a
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sense of entitlement to some shit. That's yours
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Yeah, and there's some family members. Yeah,
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some family members feed into that a sense of
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entitlement Because they don't have to deal with
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that they because but they also feel that sense
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of entitlement They also kind of the same way
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as that person. Yeah We've seen it, we've seen
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it. Yeah, and that happens a lot more than you
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think. That happens a lot, yo. That happens a
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lot. Yep. All right, well, does being the golden
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child or the forgotten child shape how you love?
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Yeah. What you think? I say yeah. I don't know
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about the golden child, but the forgotten child.
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Yeah. I think it can. Because you think your
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your love is only the love that you receive is
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predicated on what you can do for others Yeah,
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then you constantly chasing that love or that
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that that sense of love so you start doing everything
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for others including the people you attach yourself
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to Emotionally start doing shit and then and
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then you're just constantly doing shit, right?
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And then you're realizing you're doing all that
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and it's like for what for what? Yep, and then
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you know sometime you still feel that. Yeah,
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it's not You know where it should be exactly.
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Yeah That's my thought I could be wrong what
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you think I think for me the only I Don't know
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and I don't even know I can say that Shaped the
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way I love I think I kind of Figured it out on
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my own right because like my parents they never
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were married right so the only Relationship that
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I've seen grown up, you know, of course, you
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know, my grandparents right and then you know
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uncles but I Guess when it comes to like father
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and daughter, right? Okay I can say now that
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I have a pretty good relationship with my father.
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And it was times in my life where, cause he does
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have other kids, so it were times in my life
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where I'm like, I'm the oldest, I feel like I
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should get certain treatments too, what others
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get. But I understand they lived in a house with
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him, so. They're basically kind of like automatic
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the first time. But as I got older, I kind of
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realized that. And as I do get older, he does
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realize, too, like what I am to him, like he
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knows and he understands things. And I know that
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he listens to me as well, too, because I see
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it repeats itself. So he does listen to me. But.
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It didn't shape the way that I love. It didn't.
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I think I kind of developed that on my own. Right,
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but you're more grounded. You can case appoint
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your grandparents. Your grandparents helped you
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with that. You know what I'm saying? Made you
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more grounded, made you, you know what I'm saying?
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You know what I mean? Yeah, I didn't have to
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wonder how, do what. I really didn't see too
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much and have to wonder of. is this how you do
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this? Is that how I'm supposed to be treated?
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Or is that how I'm supposed to treat him? Or
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whatever, thing like that. Yeah, I was a little
25:45
more grounded. I know for me I had to figure
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out to be a man. I had to teach myself to be
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a man by watching other men that I wanted to
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be like. And over time that helped me, even fatherhood
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that helped me. My daughter wasn't able to see
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that part of me coming up, do the woes of What's
26:05
in the black community all the time baby mama,
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baby, baby mama, baby daddy shit, you know I'm
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saying And so my daughter wasn't able to see
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that she's able to embrace and see that knowledge
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and stuff now You know I'm saying as um, you
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know from a teenager, you know high teenager
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to you know grown adult right now So she was
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able to kind of see like the man that I am and
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see, you know to certain you know, see the The
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great thing is about me as a father and stuff
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like that. Yeah, you know, Sean Yvonne, their
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whole shaping is me. You know what I mean? What
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they what they see as a man. So what they think
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and what they get firsthand experience. Oh, my
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dad does this. My dad does that. This is what,
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you know, I've seen my father do. I know I got
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to live up to certain expectations. I got to
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do certain things to as a as a man. Like when
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I hear women say as a man you should you're not
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a man. You can't be telling men what they should
27:02
be doing as a man I'm sorry. I don't give fuck
27:05
what your dad used to do ma 'am. I'm sorry I
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just really don't don't care what your dad used
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to do. You can't tell a man what he should be
27:13
doing as a man I'm sorry, you know, I mean, I
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wish I would stop doing that stupid shit, but
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y 'all probably won't Never stop, you know, I
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mean but as another man Can or can't to another
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man or a young man? Hey, this is what we do and
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show it So that's what I do for my boys. I show
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it. You know saying my daughter see how Her father
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biological father is with her stepmother and
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then she see her stepfather how her stepfather
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is with her biological mother. You know what
27:50
I'm saying? And she says all the time, she's
27:52
like, y 'all have similar qualities. Like y 'all
27:55
are actually very similar in many ways. You know
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what I mean? And how y 'all treat y 'all women
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and how y 'all do things. And I think that's
28:03
a great thing that now she's able to see how
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men are from two different perspectives. You
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know what I'm saying? From two different perspectives
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she can see that. So she can say herself, oh,
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I know how I want my man to be what she is carving
28:19
out now. You know what I'm saying? And she don't
28:21
come just always run into her father. She don't
28:23
go, my dad, my dad, my dad. She tried to figure
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that shit out before she called either one of
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us. You know what I'm saying? I know she tells
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me. She says, I try to figure out before I call
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anybody. You know what I mean? Right. She tried
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to figure it out. I can't figure it out. then
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one of my daddies are gonna be able to figure
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this out for me. And that's true. You know what
28:43
I mean? I can respect that. I may not talk to
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the son, and he don't talk to me, but I can respect
28:50
what he's doing. I hope he can respect the same
28:52
on my end. But when it comes to Sean and Vaughn,
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I don't want them to have to go do what I did
29:00
to figure this shit out. I don't want them to
29:02
have to go into the world and Pick pieces and
29:05
try to have the wherewithal to pick pieces from
29:08
men that they see The mold themselves into the
29:12
man that they want to be I don't want them to
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have to do that So I want them to be able to
29:16
look at their dad and say yo with my dad flaws
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I know my dad flaws is I know all my dad greatness
29:21
is I know I love all of this about my dad. It's
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not just enough I have his face. I also want
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to make sure I'm responsible and do what I'm
29:30
supposed to do. You know what I mean? And I see
29:34
that, especially with St. Sean. He's the oldest.
29:38
And I'm starting to feel a little way now because
29:41
I see he's getting older and he is growing into
29:45
such a young man with him helping me in the salon.
29:51
Drilling stuff in a wall for me, you know, or
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you know, he put his own TV and stuff You know,
29:59
he he ain't wait for me No, and we thought I
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thought he was gonna wait for me and try to get
30:03
me to do it But when he took that shit upstairs
30:05
on his own and went to knock it out. I was like
30:07
my boy You gotta see me do it. You know, I mean,
30:10
you know, we got all the tools here He kept the
30:13
screwdriver and all that stuff in his room. He's
30:15
still got it in there And when we're out He was
30:20
like, mom, back away from the door. He opens
30:23
the door for me, and I was like, he's really
30:26
paying attention. My boy. Yeah, he's paying attention.
30:29
That's my boy. So, yeah, you know, you do those
30:30
things and you see it. That little one, though,
30:32
I'm going to have to... Oh, yeah. Knock it in
30:36
his head. It's always one. It's always one. The
30:39
little, small one. I think he's going to be overly
30:43
protective of his woman. Yeah. She's going to
30:46
tell him to stop, sit down. Devon, I got it.
30:50
Because he is overly protected by his mama. Yeah,
30:52
he is. He is, as he should be. I love his mama
30:55
now. I don't know why. No matter how much I'm
30:59
fussing him, I'm telling him, sit down, be quiet.
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He's still. Same thing here. Still want to be
31:04
with him. Come on, give me a hug, daddy. Right.
31:06
That's what he tell me. You just need a hug.
31:09
You angry, you need a hug. Like, shut up, right?
31:13
Angry. Which is for his reason, because he wants
31:16
the hug anyway. So he was like, you need this.
31:19
No, you really want that. Right. Let me tell
31:21
y 'all out there. So our oldest found him a job.
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He's 15. He found him a job. And this one started
31:26
crying when she took him. Because I let her take
31:30
him. I let her take him because he asked me,
31:32
he said, Dad, you let momma take me or you gonna
31:34
take me? I said, I'm gonna let your momma take
31:35
you. He looked at me, he said, why you let momma
31:38
do it? So she gotta go through it, bro. She gotta
31:41
go through it. I would just drop you off and
31:43
pull off. Your mama gonna sit there and watch
31:46
you and stuff, so let her go through it. He got
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in and I sat in the parking lot for a little
31:50
while. I'm going up the street if you need me,
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I'll be back. Shit, I woulda came home, brother.
31:56
I woulda dropped you at the door. I wouldn't
31:59
even win the parking space. I'da dabbed him,
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amen. Good luck, handle your handle. Bring that
32:07
chicken home He doesn't have to work He doesn't
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have to work, but he wants to and I respect and
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love that Yeah, yeah, so anything you want to
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