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Happy Hour #172: Anney Goes to the ER! · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Anny and Samantha.
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  Speaker 2: I do want to stuff I never told you production of
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  Speaker 2: My Heart Radio. And it is Thursday as this comes out,
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  Speaker 2: so that means it's time for another happy hour. As always,
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  Speaker 2: if you choose to drink or whatever you choose to do,
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  Speaker 2: please do so responsibly. Samantha, are you drinking any.
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  Speaker 1: I'm drinking one of your least favorite drinks, a dr
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  Speaker 1: pepper cherry zero.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I just have coffee. Still. It was quite
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  Speaker 2: cold by now. But anyway, all right, today we've got
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  Speaker 2: a lot going on, so this will be a short one.
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  Speaker 2: I just wanted to talk very briefly about my experience
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  Speaker 2: at the emergency room recently. I'm not going to get
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  Speaker 2: too specific, but if you just don't want to hear
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  Speaker 2: about any of that, I understand. So there's your content warning.
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  Speaker 2: Uh So, the basic, like short version of this is
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  Speaker 2: that I've been having what I'm calling episodes every day
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  Speaker 2: for like a week, and they were getting worse and worse,
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  Speaker 2: and I had made an appointment to go to the doctor,
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  Speaker 2: and uh, it just reached the point that I couldn't
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  Speaker 2: wait anymore and I had to go in an ambulance.
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  Speaker 1: And oh, you called an ambulance. I went back and
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  Speaker 1: forth about asking you that thought maybe you were just
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  Speaker 1: ubered over there.
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  Speaker 2: I was going to but the situation was so bad
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  Speaker 2: I I was like, I'm going to die in this
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  Speaker 2: person's car. But also on top of that, I couldn't
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  Speaker 2: It sounded bad like if I had gotten into somebody's car,
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't breathe. Essentially, if I had gotten into some
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  Speaker 2: car like that, I think they would have been like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: no kidding.
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  Speaker 1: I want to get you from your house. Did they
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  Speaker 1: come in there with a stretcher? Or you did not
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  Speaker 1: tell me any of this, and you made it sound
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  Speaker 1: like you're a doctor's appointment. I want everyone to know this.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, a part of this is because I was
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  Speaker 2: really embarrassed. So one of the things I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: talk about actually does relate to that, because you and
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  Speaker 2: I both said we we wait. We wait until it's like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: something is wrong, I must go. And I I was
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  Speaker 2: going to go to urgent care because, as I've said,
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a primary care physician. They won't accept
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  Speaker 2: you if you have those symptoms. They tell you to
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  Speaker 2: go to the emergency room, go somewhere else. Yeah, So
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  Speaker 2: like I was gonna go to urgent care when I
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  Speaker 2: wasn't experiencing whatever that was, but they wouldn't take me then,
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  Speaker 2: So then I called another number, which is apparently an
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  Speaker 2: where you can call where you're like, should I go?
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  Speaker 2: Should I call nine? With one? And they were like
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  Speaker 2: yes immediately, Why did you wait this long?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you calling us?
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  Speaker 2: I know? And by that part, I could barely talk.
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  Speaker 2: I could barely like see, I couldn't like move my finger.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like even calling was it was. It was bad.
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  Speaker 2: It was very, very bad. But I was embarrassed by
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  Speaker 2: it because I felt like I was like drawing attention
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  Speaker 2: to myself. I was like being a baby, and that
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  Speaker 2: feeling was made worse because I do feel like they
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  Speaker 2: kind of dismissed me. I mostly had a really great
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  Speaker 2: experience with like everybody. Everybody was really kind and listen
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  Speaker 2: to me. But because I was in this like whirlpool
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  Speaker 2: of oh god, this is going to cost me so
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  Speaker 2: much money, Oh my god, I might die at any minute,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm thinking about the money, Oh my God, like
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  Speaker 2: like oh in the clothes I was wearing because it
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  Speaker 2: was morning and I hadn't changed on my pajamas yet
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  Speaker 2: So that was embarrassing and empt with pree hot, which
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  Speaker 2: my mom had a story about when she was in
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  Speaker 2: a car accident and they had to cut off her
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  Speaker 2: clothes and it was her cush and I kept thinking
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  Speaker 2: about that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we had a listener, because I remember that was
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  Speaker 1: my fear. I was like, they're going to cut off
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  Speaker 1: my clothes and the person who our listener was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they do. JUSTI flysy why.
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  Speaker 2: You asked and answer? Well, but by that point I
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  Speaker 2: could have cared less. I was like, I'm about to
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  Speaker 2: die right here, so I don't care you're seeing all
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  Speaker 2: of my body. But I was more embarrassed because it
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  Speaker 2: felt like I did. I didn't want to call. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't want to do any of this. Quite frankly, I
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  Speaker 2: know no one wants to, but I was really putting
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  Speaker 2: it off for a long time. I didn't want to
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  Speaker 2: do it, and they don't know me, right, so to them,
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  Speaker 2: maybe I am just like, I don't know, like a
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  Speaker 2: very a worried person who called at the least at
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  Speaker 2: the first sign of something might be wrong. But it
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  Speaker 2: wasn't that. And so at one point they asked me
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  Speaker 2: if I was stressed, and I was like yes, and
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  Speaker 2: they were like why, and I was like, what world
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  Speaker 2: do you live in? But again, by at this point,
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  Speaker 2: I could barely speak and I could barely concentrate, but
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  Speaker 2: they just basically kind of wrote it off of stress.
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  Speaker 2: After that, They're like, oh, she's stressed, even though I
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  Speaker 2: had all of these other symptoms and I wrote them
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  Speaker 2: down because it had been happening so often that it
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  Speaker 2: was going to show them to the doctor, but I couldn't.
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  Speaker 2: It just all happened so fast and I was so
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  Speaker 2: out of it. I didn't show them any of them.
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  Speaker 2: But it just kind of felt like, again, they don't
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  Speaker 2: know me. I've had panic attacks my whole life, most
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  Speaker 2: my whole adult life, I'll say, and I know how
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  Speaker 2: they feel like, and I know that and be really scary.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm really good at them, actually, Like I'm good
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  Speaker 2: at knowing how to breathe through them. I know how
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  Speaker 2: to do the things, and I have been doing those
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  Speaker 2: things and they weren't working. And that's not to say
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't a panic attack, but it's just I just
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  Speaker 2: kind of felt annoyed that they were so like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: she's just having a panic attack, when I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: this is a serious, Like I even looked up the
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  Speaker 2: ambulance codes later because I remembered them, and I was like, no,
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  Speaker 2: you guys thought this was pretty bad.
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  Speaker 1: Oh really?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they sure did. I was also speaking kind of nonsense,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm kind of worried they think I'm on drug.
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  Speaker 2: But they did a bunch of tests. They took a
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  Speaker 2: lot of blood, and they did they ran a lot
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  Speaker 2: of tests, so I feel like that might just be reprojecting.
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  Speaker 2: But I was kind of like, just randomly I'd be
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  Speaker 2: I'd say something like, did you know most heart attacks
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  Speaker 2: happened at eleven? And then I would apologize it's like,
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  Speaker 2: you know more than about this thing?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe not?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe not, maybe not. They were all very nice about it.
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of this was in my head,
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  Speaker 2: but I was kind of annoyed by We talked about
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  Speaker 2: that a lot when we get dismissed when they come in,
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  Speaker 2: and I just felt like they so quick were like,
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  Speaker 2: you're too young for this to be anything other than
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  Speaker 2: a panic attack, and I'm like, no, that kind of
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  Speaker 2: stuff happens, right. But anyway, I then felt worse, like
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  Speaker 2: I felt like I shouldn't have bothered anybody. I felt
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  Speaker 2: like maybe I was being like over like I'd overdone it,
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  Speaker 2: even though I'd taken all these steps and not even
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  Speaker 2: called that number. And then I was like, I can't
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  Speaker 2: ask anybody about it. But I did finally ask the
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  Speaker 2: nurse and I was like, should I have come in?
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  Speaker 2: And she did say yes, But what else is she
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  Speaker 2: going to say? But anyway, that all has to do
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  Speaker 2: with the kind of insecurity around should I have bothered anybody?
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  Speaker 2: Should I have called? Should I have sought help? Should
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  Speaker 2: I have cared enough about myself to seek help. It
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  Speaker 2: also was a teaching hospital, which I love, but it
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  Speaker 2: was kind of weird to be like they're like, look
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  Speaker 2: at this vein, come over here, no please? But everyone
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  Speaker 2: was super nice. I loved it was fine. It was
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  Speaker 2: really fine. They were mostly women, I will say mostly
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  Speaker 2: it was mostly black women, so that was interesting, and
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  Speaker 2: I did go through fifteen people. It's sort of a
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  Speaker 2: hospital where they like they moved to you, like you're
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  Speaker 2: in one room and they bring their desk and their
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  Speaker 2: equipment into you. So that was interesting. And then another
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  Speaker 2: thing that came up that I think we'll have to
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  Speaker 2: come back and revisit is being a sexual and that
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  Speaker 2: was just kind of strange. To be like, why is this.
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  Speaker 2: I really feel like there are other things we don't
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  Speaker 2: need to worry about the sexual health right now. But
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  Speaker 2: that's that's for a future day. I know a lot
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  Speaker 2: of those questions are standard. Yeah, and I know a
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  Speaker 2: lot of it is. I get why they asked, but
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  Speaker 2: I have to say I was a little like, no,
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  Speaker 2: I'm a little annoyed by this.
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  Speaker 1: This is not what I need.
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  Speaker 2: No, No, I'm actually really I was talking about my heart.
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  Speaker 2: My heart just going wild.
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  Speaker 1: I do not touch penis, leave me alone.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly exactly, but yeah, I'm seeking out fallow up care.
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  Speaker 2: It went. I mean, no news is good news. As
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  Speaker 2: the doctor told me when I came in, She's like,
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  Speaker 2: I hope you never see me again. Like okay, but
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  Speaker 2: so it went. It went fine, and I'm still I
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  Speaker 2: ended struggling with the fought out of the emotions I
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  Speaker 2: have from it. But yeah, that's all. I just wanted
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  Speaker 2: to touch on some of the things that some of
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  Speaker 2: the thoughts I had after this experience.
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad you're okay, and now I'll be texting you
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  Speaker 1: every day to check in on you. You're welcome.
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  Speaker 2: Used to call that the old lady text we had
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  Speaker 2: a name for it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember saying makeing sure you're alive text.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well that was one of the things. They kind
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  Speaker 2: of were like, why did you do this? Because I
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  Speaker 2: came downstairs and they're like, you shouldn't have done that,
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, I was worried I die alone
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  Speaker 2: in my apartment, so I wanted to come out here
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  Speaker 2: and die on the street so at least someone find me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm really it was really bad and I'm laughing at it,
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  Speaker 2: but I promise you it was bad. But but the
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  Speaker 2: test came back and that was nice. It came back
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  Speaker 2: looking in my favor, and I'm going to fall up
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  Speaker 2: and see what it might have been.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you need to reschedule for a
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  Speaker 1: closer date.
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  Speaker 2: Doctor.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna tell you that. Now I got to
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  Speaker 1: on Mike, I'll tell you that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. Yeah, that's a whole other episode is the difficulty
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  Speaker 2: of finding a doctor, because they did really point me
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  Speaker 2: in any direction. They they gave me a lot of resources,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm like, kind just a general doctor. What yes,
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