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Allyssa Anderson - The One That Purred Away · Cats & Pudding with Jennifer Dilandro

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  Speaker 1: It's what that was one of the guys they picked.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely you wanted to like like Bortoloine stalker.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't even know, and it wasn't well received.
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  Speaker 1: Cats in Footing podcast a melting pot.
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  Speaker 3: And now here's jen Everybody.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to this week's episode of Kats and Pudding And
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  Speaker 1: my name is Jennifer Delango and welcoming my guest, Alyssa Anderson.
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  Speaker 3: Look at this gorgeous girl. Oh my god, thank you
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  Speaker 3: so much for what you make me feel like I.
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  Speaker 1: Shouldn't even like have got out of bed today to
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  Speaker 1: even stand next to you, Like, oh my.
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  Speaker 3: You're just like a vision.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're so sweet.
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  Speaker 4: I knoked back like ten last night and I looked
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  Speaker 4: like actual ass.
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  Speaker 2: But thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: You don't look like you don't look anything near ass.
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  Speaker 1: You look like the most beautiful ass that I've probably
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  Speaker 1: anyways ever seen.
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  Speaker 4: Like an injected ass, like a better, oh better, that's
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  Speaker 4: the highest compliment.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you something mel Gibson ass Like that's like a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful ass like that, But you know.
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate that.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you beautiful. So tell me.
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  Speaker 1: I want to know about all about you. I know
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  Speaker 1: you listen I know you're on a show call the
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  Speaker 1: one that got Away, and I hear that you are
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  Speaker 1: the villain on the show.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm one of the villains. There were a lot
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  Speaker 2: of us, Oh.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, I heard you with a villain, that you
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  Speaker 3: a girl with a drama.
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  Speaker 1: I heard it, and I heard it from a little
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  Speaker 1: birdie over here.
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  Speaker 3: I heard it from a little birdie.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's a little birdie. Sounds like a jealous bitch.
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  Speaker 4: So I was definitely one of the more polarizing figures
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  Speaker 4: on the show, just because there were a lot of
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  Speaker 4: things that I said and did that were construed in
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  Speaker 4: a way that was like BITCHI And look when you
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  Speaker 4: watch back some of those moments, and like a lot
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  Speaker 4: of people don't realize, there was like a year of
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  Speaker 4: lag time between us ending the show and the show
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  Speaker 4: coming out, so a lot of that is like, you know,
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  Speaker 4: you do you forget some of the things you say,
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  Speaker 4: you forget what happened, and watching yourself objectively like that
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  Speaker 4: can really just wake you up and make you be like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: I'm kind of a bitch.
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  Speaker 2: And that was kind.
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  Speaker 3: Of because one morning and realized you were a bitch.
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  Speaker 3: I knew I was a bit my whole life.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I knew that got I'm a nice bitch. See,
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  Speaker 1: don't mess with me. Like, if you mess with me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm the nicest person in the world. Like, I'll give
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  Speaker 1: you the show off my back. But once you step over,
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  Speaker 1: like the shame one you we want shame on me
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  Speaker 1: me twice.
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  Speaker 3: Then you do not want to go down that road
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  Speaker 3: with me. That is the worst road to go down.
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  Speaker 3: You know what.
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  Speaker 4: My favorite my favorite quote from the movie to Lauris Claiborne.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, I love that movie.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes the best thing could, the best, the best thing will.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes you need a high writing being a high running
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  Speaker 3: bitch to survive.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I love that, Yes, I love it.
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  Speaker 1: It's all that a woman has to hold on to.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's the quote, being a high writing bitches.
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  Speaker 3: Well, but I would hope that wouldn't be the case
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  Speaker 3: all the time. No, even though I love being a
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  Speaker 3: high writing bitch. Al yeah, because most people some people
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  Speaker 3: deserve it. Yeah, some people do, they and they're asking
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  Speaker 3: for it.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people what a lot of people for it?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, a lot of people get very very weirded out
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  Speaker 4: when I say this, But for most of my life
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  Speaker 4: I've been accused of being too nice, right.
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  Speaker 1: But I could see you being nice though. I feel
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  Speaker 1: that because some people could think they get the impression
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  Speaker 1: of me that I could be, you know, well, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm very boisterous and and i'm you know, I'm very upfront.
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  Speaker 1: You know, they could take me either way.
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  Speaker 3: They could see. But I'm like, I'm like, I have
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  Speaker 3: a very soft heart, and I can see that. I
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  Speaker 3: could I could feel that about here, that you have
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  Speaker 3: that way.
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  Speaker 4: Don't mess with you, it's true. Don't cross me. And also,
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  Speaker 4: you know, and you know what's jealousy?
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  Speaker 3: Why people mess with you?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 3: You know, it's because you are you. I didn't but
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  Speaker 3: I just wanted to be on the record. No, I
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  Speaker 3: didn't say it. I said it.
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  Speaker 2: She said it.
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  Speaker 4: I do come from a mom, though, and I feel
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  Speaker 4: like the girlies who get it get it a mom
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  Speaker 4: who was like, if people are mean to you, they're
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  Speaker 4: just jealous. And I feel like that just changed. That
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  Speaker 4: makes you a different type of girl.
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  Speaker 1: It does, And that's what I have three girls, and
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  Speaker 1: that's what I tell my girls. Yeah, and it's so true,
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  Speaker 1: and it isn't I said, tell my girls that if
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  Speaker 1: they mean to you and the people have a problem
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  Speaker 1: with you, it's ninety nine percent because they're.
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  Speaker 3: Jealous of you.
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  Speaker 1: And that's because I listen, we've all gone through it
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  Speaker 1: in our lives.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Girls suck, they do, They really suck.
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  Speaker 2: Especially like, yeah, I won't say it.
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  Speaker 3: I won't say it, you could say it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't say especially if like when a lot of
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  Speaker 4: girls are like, oh, you stole my boyfriend, but like,
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  Speaker 4: was he really your boyfriend?
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  Speaker 1: You could be stolen if you can be stolen that easily,
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  Speaker 1: or would you want him if he could be.
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  Speaker 3: Stolen that easily.
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  Speaker 1: No, you probably don't want him in anyway, right, exactly, Like, dude,
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  Speaker 1: you can have them if you want them that bad, exactly,
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  Speaker 1: that's you know, like you want them, go ahead, you
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  Speaker 1: could take my you could take my scraps.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and certainly in reality TV, that's that's got its
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  Speaker 4: whole perks. It's got its perks and it's got its
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  Speaker 4: drawbacks of course.
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  Speaker 1: But so tell I want to hear one situation, a
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  Speaker 1: really good situation where you can say they could somebody
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  Speaker 1: could say that give.
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  Speaker 3: You that title villain. I want to hear about.
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  Speaker 1: That situation title fill in yes, like the one situation
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  Speaker 1: that on the show that how it that.
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  Speaker 3: They would they would they would brand you the villain. See,
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  Speaker 3: it's hard for me to be objective just because, like
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  Speaker 3: I will give me a favorite scene that you that
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  Speaker 3: you thought, you know, it was a great you had
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  Speaker 3: a great comeback, you know, or that somebody deserves it.
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  Speaker 4: You know, my great comebacks didn't actually make it and
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  Speaker 4: they were bad. To be fair, a lot of people
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  Speaker 4: are like, you got a bad edit. The edit was
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  Speaker 4: one hundred percent fair, Like I was actually worse, and
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  Speaker 4: a lot of people that.
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  Speaker 1: Were going to was it something that you said that
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  Speaker 1: could be construed as not being should I say politically
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  Speaker 1: correct or I hate to use that word, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I definitely politically correct means to be people need to
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  Speaker 1: get over themselves and get a sense of you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like if you can't laugh at yourself, man, then you
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  Speaker 1: got issues laugh at yourself.
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  Speaker 3: People too soft these days exactly.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that if you say.
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  Speaker 1: That about you, because you're not like that in generation,
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  Speaker 1: you're like to because you were raised by a strong woman.
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  Speaker 3: So that's good exactly, That's why.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, I think that a lot of people
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  Speaker 4: can take it or leave it. Like I like being
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  Speaker 4: able to have people who either love me or hate me.
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  Speaker 4: There's not like a lot of room for very few
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  Speaker 4: people are neutral, and I like knowing where I stand.
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  Speaker 1: With Why would you really want neutrality? Because honestly, people
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  Speaker 1: who are neutral are kind of flaky. They're ambivalent.
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  Speaker 3: I look at them, and ambivalent people I look at
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  Speaker 3: them that they do.
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  Speaker 2: Neutrality to me is like a flacid penis. It's just useless.
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  Speaker 2: It's useless. Why would I need that. I don't need it.
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  Speaker 3: Get out or a credit card with a limit to
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  Speaker 3: thank you. So I agree with you.
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  Speaker 4: But yes, the one instance where I was not totally
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  Speaker 4: PC and I will I'll take one hundred percent credit
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  Speaker 4: for it.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever you know.
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  Speaker 4: In interview after I was visited by a visitor who
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know, an alien like, well, okay, so he
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  Speaker 4: didn't watch the show. It's basically the premise.
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  Speaker 1: Oh I watched the show, Yes, yes, yes, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna lie.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't watch all of it.
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  Speaker 2: It's a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I can't I listen.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have a problem rally on the TV I've
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  Speaker 1: been on. I've been on a few shows. Some shows
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  Speaker 1: I just can't watch all the way through. Yeah, some
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  Speaker 1: of it is a lot for me. I get that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, And I just don't have the attention span.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm like a ferret like on crack when I'm home,
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  Speaker 1: Like I have to like I can watch them for
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  Speaker 1: like ten minutes, and I got to get up and
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  Speaker 1: do something else. So it's like for me to sit
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  Speaker 1: down and watch something and have that attention. Man, it
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  Speaker 1: takes a lot. So it's not just it's and you
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  Speaker 1: really have to hold my attention for me to do that.
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  Speaker 3: But that's just me because I'm not like that.
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  Speaker 1: But I have seen the show, and I've seen episodes
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  Speaker 1: because we have a mutual.
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  Speaker 4: Friend, yes, of course, and I have ADHD too, So
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  Speaker 4: like I didn't watch the entire thing either.
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  Speaker 1: But it's probably hard to watch yourself too sometimes, Right,
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  Speaker 1: do you feel like when you look at yourself, especially,
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  Speaker 1: you probably don't cringe it yourself because you're too beautiful
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  Speaker 1: to cringe it yourself. Oh no, of course there's a
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  Speaker 1: moment like you could be like not showered for like
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  Speaker 1: two weeks and like have the worst bad breath, and
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  Speaker 1: like your toenails could look like like razors, Like you
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  Speaker 1: would still look good.
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  Speaker 4: No, definitely, there were moments in the show where I
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  Speaker 4: look back and I'm like, oh, and I get it
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  Speaker 4: because like.
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  Speaker 1: I doubt that from the beginning. I never see that
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  Speaker 1: you would say, oh my god, I look bit. I
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  Speaker 1: did no trust, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Trust.
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  Speaker 4: After like day one, I don't believe it. I got
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  Speaker 4: over doing my makeup and hair.
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  Speaker 2: I was over it.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't want to like do everything. We got like
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  Speaker 4: three hours of sleep per night. Like it was cold
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  Speaker 4: all the time. I was cold all the time. I
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  Speaker 4: don't think it's a secret. I was drunk most of it.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, after a while, you're like, okay, like
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  Speaker 4: my hair is sticking up whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Well, at this point, you know it is reality TV. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And that's where I think a lot of reality TV
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  Speaker 1: these days lose this sight.
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  Speaker 3: When we when it started, when I was younger.
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  Speaker 1: It was hardcore. That was it that it was real.
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  Speaker 1: Now things are scripted. Everybody's gotta look good. You never
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  Speaker 1: see you ever see a progression of reality store when
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  Speaker 1: they first come on the first season toil like the
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  Speaker 1: third or for season and what.
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  Speaker 2: They want and then they're not relatable.
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  Speaker 1: Then they're not relatably because they because they have that
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  Speaker 1: air about them. It's like, dude, you're still a D
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  Speaker 1: list person. You're not Angelina Jolie. You're not an A
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  Speaker 1: list actor like you're a reality star. You're not an
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  Speaker 1: actor like you're just you're just the person who got
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  Speaker 1: lucky because you got picked out of a line of people.
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  Speaker 3: Like that's it, like anybody.
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  Speaker 1: And I find that a lot of people, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if you find this who do become famous to
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  Speaker 1: reality TV, they don't know how to handle it because
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  Speaker 1: when when you give somebody that theme and they're just
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  Speaker 1: a regular person, it's very very hot to handle.
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  Speaker 3: I think you handled it with with with easily.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you want to know what, what's interesting because you
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  Speaker 4: are I find I was never famous before.
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  Speaker 3: But you could you know what?
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  Speaker 1: But this with the different people that commands attention and
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  Speaker 1: you can handle it.
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  Speaker 3: So there's a difference. So that is certain so much,
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  Speaker 3: but it's true.
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  Speaker 2: I love That's what it.
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  Speaker 1: Is is a certain type of person who can handle it.
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  Speaker 1: If you're used to listen, I don't have to be listen.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to be on TV to command attention
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  Speaker 1: and be in the center of attention, making.
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  Speaker 3: Myself the center.
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  Speaker 4: That's clear, honey, you see, so I thank you.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need anything.
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  Speaker 1: You but that's what I'm saying. So somebody like you
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  Speaker 1: or me could handle that. Somebody who just gets thrust
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  Speaker 1: it upon. It's like, you know, let's let's let's be yes.
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  Speaker 4: And I was just talking about this earlier, like for
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  Speaker 4: some reason, I don't know what it is.
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  Speaker 2: People who go on.
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  Speaker 4: Reality TV and get the villain edit right, A lot
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  Speaker 4: of them are the sweetest people I've ever met, and
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  Speaker 4: they're are really supp community, especially after the show came out.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I was really not handling it well.
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  Speaker 4: I handled it like I mean, I was just drinking
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  Speaker 4: maybe a whole like a bottle of gin per day,
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  Speaker 4: and like would wake up crying like it was bad.
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  Speaker 2: And it was to a point where I was.
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  Speaker 1: So any of gin companies that want to sponsor my
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  Speaker 1: shell just we know, we're not going to say any
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  Speaker 1: any any label.
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  Speaker 4: No name, no name, but yes, I would drink a
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  Speaker 4: whole bottle and then you know, after a while, I
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  Speaker 4: was just like, you know, I need healthier coping mechanisms.
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  Speaker 4: And the villain reality community is small but mighty, and
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  Speaker 4: they reached out to me.
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  Speaker 2: They all opened their arms to me.
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  Speaker 4: They were all super supportive and sweet and they were like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, you'll get.
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  Speaker 2: Through this, and it was. It was great, honestly.
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  Speaker 4: But there were a lot of reality stars and I'm
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  Speaker 4: not going to name names that got super famous, that
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  Speaker 4: treated me horribly, horribly, And I think that it's like
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  Speaker 4: a lot of like, okay, like, who are you to
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  Speaker 4: judge me in any type of way?
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  Speaker 3: Because have you been on any other shows besides this show? No,
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  Speaker 3: this is your first one.
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  Speaker 2: So it was my first show. You know.
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  Speaker 4: Would I be open to doing another one, Sure, but
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  Speaker 4: it would have to the circumstances would have to be right.
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  Speaker 4: Let me take these offers. Let me be real with you, Jen.
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready to be real.
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  Speaker 1: I'm taking Are we ready to be Let's be real,
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  Speaker 1: Let's be real.
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  Speaker 3: I'm ready to hear it.
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  Speaker 4: I think that a lot of people in the reality
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  Speaker 4: community could benefit from a reality check. M M.
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  Speaker 3: I pretty much have to agree with that.
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  Speaker 4: I think you know those I think you know a
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  Speaker 4: few of them probably, Yeah, it's I know a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that it's it's very easy to get
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  Speaker 4: caught up in it. It is easy, and I I
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  Speaker 4: try to be the same person that I was when
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  Speaker 4: it started, even though you know, seeing yourself back on
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  Speaker 4: camera is like looking in a mirror, and.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you don't always like what you see.
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  Speaker 3: And did you feel like that a lot after you
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  Speaker 3: watch the show?
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  Speaker 4: It was hard because I watched it with my boyfriend
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  Speaker 4: who were still together we met on the show, And
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  Speaker 4: it was hard because.
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  Speaker 1: I think that that's what screws a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: up when they look back and look at how they.
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  Speaker 3: Acted or behaved. That's a lot to take in.
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  Speaker 1: That is it's like, wow, you're really like putting that
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  Speaker 1: in front of your face, like I acted like this,
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  Speaker 1: I look like an asshole?
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  Speaker 3: Like yeah, like that would be.
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  Speaker 1: Hard, and then you can never take it back because
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  Speaker 1: it's out there forever forever.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that you'd never take it back.
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  Speaker 4: And listen, I say, like, you know, I never like
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  Speaker 4: to blame editing on anything. But of course you don't
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  Speaker 4: get the full story, right, of course not. You have
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  Speaker 4: to take really everything that you see with a grain
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  Speaker 4: of salt. But when you're looking at yourself objectively, you're like, oh, yeah, shit, it's.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of I see what even with me, when I've
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  Speaker 1: shows I've been on, I can't watch myself because I
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  Speaker 1: want to crank.
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  Speaker 3: Like I'm like, oh my god, I can't believe I
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  Speaker 3: made that face.
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  Speaker 4: Oh my god, imagine your face just literally looking like this,
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  Speaker 4: being just like across like and literally someone kisses me
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  Speaker 4: on the nose and like I make I have the
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  Speaker 4: stupidest little.
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  Speaker 2: Look on my face and it's like everywhere.
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  Speaker 3: Well, let tell everybody what the show is about, so
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  Speaker 3: they get the private of the show. Okay, so we
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: know what to do the villain, which is the most
• 14:20
  Speaker 3: important probably yes, prospect.
• 14:22
  Speaker 2: Of the show.
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: That's all you really but yes, you know she's the
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: villain and a gorgeous villain.
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: It's like Catwoman. It's like beautiful on the show. I
• 14:32
  Speaker 4: was definitely I.
• 14:34
  Speaker 3: Think you're like Halle Bury cat Catwoman.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: Oh I think that's my Halloween outfit.
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you need to We're gonna I'm gonna
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: dress up as a cat to the show.
• 14:43
  Speaker 4: Let's be cats. I love too, We'll sing the whole Broadway. Okay,
• 14:50
  Speaker 4: well definitely, yes, I love it. But yes, the premise
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: of the show is basically six of us, you know,
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: three girls, three guys. We all had people from our past,
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: so not necessarily exes but people that we may have
• 15:08
  Speaker 4: wanted to connect with at some point in our past
• 15:11
  Speaker 4: come through what was called the portal. Right, hilarious concept,
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: but it was beautifully done and they would just come and.
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: So this is an ex relationship that you've kind of
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: left in the past, but they brought it back to light.
• 15:25
  Speaker 3: It's something that like, so it's like the one who
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: got Away.
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: Literally like the one who got away. And for me,
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: a lot of these guys were not anybody that was
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: ever romantically involved with, right, Like.
• 15:36
  Speaker 3: Were you shocked with the person they brought through?
• 15:38
  Speaker 4: Well, the first few people were definitely. It was definitely
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: giving random like Facebook, you know the guy that like
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: goes into your Facebook right messages and just messages you
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: and you're like, when will he stop messaging me?
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: Like, so that was one of the guys they picked.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: Definitely you wanted to like, like Bortle large Stalka.
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: I called him a gnome and it wasn't well received.
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: But to be fair, he did come out of like
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: a fairy forest and I never said that I didn't
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: look like a giant.
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: So you got in trouble for saying no, I don't
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: know why. It's it's a it's a caricature. I mean,
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: it's like calling somebody a fairy godmother. Like people got
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: to stop being so offended.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: It's like being offended and the seven dwarves like.
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: He was vertically challenged, is what you're saying, you know?
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: I mean you are like like six foot so my
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: barometer is very because you have to go out with
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: a basketball play it to like level the playing field.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: I mean when I say, is that what you're dating now?
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: On the show?
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Okay, if you haven't seen it, I want to see it.
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: I want to hepoil it. But oh, do give a
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: little spoiler.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: Come on, a little little spoil. I mean it's been out.
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: If you haven't seen it now then and it's on
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: right Amazon Prime, Amazon Prime Video. If you haven't seen
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: the ball confused, Okay, whatever, it's the spoiler.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: I end up with a basketball player.
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: He's really beautiful and we've been together for two years
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: and you know, sometimes you can find love on television.
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: And we're still together. Yes, yeah, that.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Was this, So now tell me about him. So he
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: came back from the past. Did you how long did
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: you date him? Did you have a date or was
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: just somebody that you were kind of interested in that
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: you never never, never came to pass.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: We did not date in high school.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: It was from high school. Yeah, that's awesome. That's a story.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: That's a great story to tell your children.
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, it was cute, and our families were like friends,
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: so it was it was weird that we weren't more
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: close than we you know, than before we met. But
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: it was just a beautiful unfolding. And there's something to
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: be said about somebody who like comes from your hometown,
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: like we like all the same stuff where our family failure.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's comforting, it's beautiful.
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: It's beautiful. It's a person that feels like huh literally, and.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I mean honestly, most people date well people that are
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: from their familiar, familiar areas, most of them because you
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: do know the person, you know the background, you know
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: where they're from, you know where they want to high
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: And that's a beautiful thing.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: That's a sorry that it was.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: It was like fast, we immediately, that's the way it
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: shipped off. It was.
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: It was beautiful after together. No, no, we're actually a
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: long distance right now.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: Well that's good. It's good.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: I think these days is good because then you get
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: to miss somebody, Yeah, which is nice.
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: How old do you?
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I'm twenty five, you're still it's still a baby, I mean,
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: and it's no offense to a generation. But twenty five
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: to me to what was it was to me was
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: I had a house, I had three kids already I
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: was at I was Yeah, I was at my house
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: at eighteen, Like you know, this just doesn't happen anymore,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, And women, I think have it harder
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: than men because they have to have the whole life
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: map that it's like, okay.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: They have to finish night, so they have to go
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: to college, they have to start a koreer, they have
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: to have they get married, they have to have kids.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: So it is short of period of time they have
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: to get all these things you know done.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: For men, they could be a little bit lax. It's
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: not as it's not as as you know, pressure, it's
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: not much pressure on them is on us, you know.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: And listen, let's be honest.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: To people do have to work these days to get
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: those things, unless you're barring a billionaire, but most people
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: still want to have their own identity and work with
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: let's face it, who want not saying anything bad about
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: the housewives.
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: You know, I don't want I was a housewife too.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: At one point I inspire to be a housewifes.
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: But so but at some point you will still want
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: to have my own idea.
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: I would never want to give a man so much
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: power over me to where you can be like, this
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: is my house.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: You know, this is all my stuff I own.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: You you want to you want to build it together
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: and say I had had participated in and that's and
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: that's but that's a help with the healthy relationship exactly,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: you know. And even though if you are home taking
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: care of the kids, that's a big people don't realize
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: and they say it's old fashioned. That's how you help
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: your relationship, you if you tell them taking care of
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: your children and and and prepare aring them for life
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: and preparing them for the world. I mean, let's face
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: a lot of people homeschooling their kids these days. That
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: is not easy. That is so difficult. So it's a
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: big part.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: And that's where when women and men, you know, they
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: have to compliment each other and they have to do it.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: And I don't think it's old fashioned by saying that.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: And believe me, I'm a strong woman. I still want
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: my door open for me. I still want somebody to.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: Let you treat me like a lady.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: I want my man to pay for dinner.
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: Yes, And I don't think it to be annihilated on
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: the internet for saying it.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Like, yes, I agree with you, and I think women
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: should be women and it's now okay for us to
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: be women and want us because honestly, that's a man
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: putting us on a pedestal and where we should.
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: Be exactly we need to have that, you know, oh.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Where it's not anti feminist.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: No, and no, because it's a feminists today are not feminists.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: They they're men haters.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: And I don't hate men at this point.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: It's not like from the nineteen sixties. It's not feminist.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: It's just it's an ideology that's a bad ideology, and
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I think it's hurting girls today and that's the problem.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: That is a big problem for your generation.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: But I kind of think that the next I think
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: that people in your generation and the next one is
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: starting to realize that, yeah, because it's not it's not working.
• 21:11
  Speaker 3: I think working.
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: We're sick of a lot of the ideals that were
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: kind of force fed to us.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Oh, you don't want to have children. Oh that's not right.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: You need to have a career. No, maybe I don't
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: want to work eighty hours a week. Maybe I want
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: to work thirty and have a nice career, but be
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: home with my kids and make a home and have
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: a family and other passions.
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: But that's what that's what we were created for. I
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: mean that that is our that is our in our dna.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: I mean, that's what we were made. That's why you know,
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: we want to find a mate. That's what it is.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: And every and every aspect of the animal kingdom is
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: that way. You know, you find your partner, you have
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: to raise a family, you have children. I mean that's normal.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: So I think that they thrusting this non normalcy and
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: it's not for women to be you know this. That
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: doesn't mean you're not a strong woman because you don't
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: want to work ninety I was a week and be
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: ahead of a hedge fund. I mean that's you're giving
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: up your life to do that, you know, And then
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: what do you have at the end of the day
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: after you were trying, well, nothing.
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: You're just cuddling your paperwork exactly. You can't cuddle your money, no, exactly.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: And you can't take away, and I cuddled them every night.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: I say, I kiss. I'm very romantically involved.
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: I pleasure myself. It's one of my favorite pasts. I
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: love it.
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: I love it too, It's the best.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I was just saying in my last show, I said
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: I'd like to go shopping more now than having sex.
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: I get multiple. Guess is when I go to Gucci,
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: even though.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: It's just like Perkin.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Oh baby, yes, it gets me. So what what is
• 23:01
  Speaker 3: your favorite designer you are since you are a model.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: Too, Oh my god, I don't want to exclude anyone.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Oh your go to?
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Like if you if you're like, where would you what's
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: the first if you're walking down walking down the street
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: in Manhattan, what would be the first store you would
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: go into?
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: So I'm a really big aliceon Olivia girl. I love them.
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: I mean, listen, nordstrums Burg, Dworfs has my heart. I
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: love multiple designers. Lately, I've just been rocking like my
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: Lakwan Smith jumpsuits. They're my favorite, and I mean, have
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: you seen the collections lately?
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Listen. I love to keep my style simple.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Well that's the way to keep it.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: My grandmother was a designer, and she always said, yes
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: she was.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: She was a designer.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: She worked for Henry Bendel, she worked full with Claiborne,
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: she worked for Oscar Dale Lorenza. And she always said,
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: she said, you don't have to have a lot of clothes.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: You just have to have certain pieces and you can
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: interchange them. And she would hate if we was something
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: that said, like Tommy Hills a girl qua, oh no.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: You're rabbitizing them that she goes it was.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: She thought it was so tacky and so tasteless and
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: to wear to wear that, yes, it kind of is.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: I appreciate this new movement of having just high end,
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: like quiet luxury. Yes, high luxury is my jam because
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: I think, and I'm going to get so much flack
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: for this because my boyfriend loves these. Like there's just
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: like really obvious prints on things, right, like a really
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: big like Gucci print on like a T shirt.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: It's kind of a I don't like it.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: I think it's too much just like saying hey, look
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: at me, look at me, like I have enough money
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: to buy this.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: I'm more inclined to think that it's and most people who.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Don't have money are wearing stuff like this, so it's
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: like it became something that's luxury and they brought it down.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: It's not but everybody high fashion, but it's not for everybody.
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: It wasn't created to be for everybody exactly. That's it.
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: It's created for people who can spend that, you know.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: And if you have a piece, it's like your piece
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: that's like you keep in like your closet and you
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: look at it and you pet it every once in
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: a while and.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: You hold it and you rocket.
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that beautiful and I like and I
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: like simple things too, But I can also rock something
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: that's designer. But yet I can wear you know, a
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: twenty dollars shart and people like and it looks fabulous, right,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: you know, but you can make very very expensive right,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: And like my new affirmation, I am luxury.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: You're the luxury. You're the one you make it look luxury.
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's it has nothing to do with what you're wearing.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Because you can wear something that's designer and it could
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: look like shit, honestly, like literally right, because some things
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: are not meant for certain body types, you know, so or.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: Just you know, if you don't have the confidence to
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: carry it off. I think that you should maybe go
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: to Forever twenty which nothing's wrong with the twenty one moment.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: I loves from twenty one two and I've done it.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: Twenty dollars dresses from Forever twenty one that I can
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: just throw up in literally like.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: And it looks so much different on you than somebody else, honestly,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Like you know, if you're wearing it, they're like, oh
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: you know, I mean, it's who it's who's wearing it. True,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: it's the truth. That's very true. It is true, you know.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: And I find that throughout my life. And believe me, I've,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: like I said, I, I wear from Gucci to Target
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: and don'tkay.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: I go to targ and I love Targ.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I love too too, I like I like Marshals in
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: certain areas too. I'm saying all these names that I
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: shouldn't say. But it's and certain and certain.
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: And but it's sometimes it's just so confusing and everything's
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: just shoved together.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: I get crazy and I think, ADHD. I can't I
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: can't sit in a store like and I don't try
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: anything on.
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: I just take it and I bring it home. And
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: if I don't like it, I hate it. I usually
• 26:51
  Speaker 3: wind up never returning it, and I just give it
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: to somebody.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, why am I going to go all
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: the way back to stand online to return this?
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: It was like twenty dollars, Like there are some to wear.
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: It quite exactly right, Like I hate people will never
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: believe me.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: But I hate shopping that much.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I love shopping, but I can't. I don't like I
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: like to I want that, I want that to begin.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: Put it in the bag. I'm out of here.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: That's it exactly, and that's it. And if I don't
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: like it, either I'll bring it back.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: Or it'll just be shoved in the closet.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you, it was so exciting for
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: you to be here today.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: I was exciting to meet you.
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: I was.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: And it's funny how we actually met because you were
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: on the show with the Mutual Friends, but you were
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: following me before you a show with him, and and
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: then it's like such a small world.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: It was like a dream of mine to actually meet you,
• 27:45
  Speaker 4: which is crazy.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: No, it was a dream of mine to meet you.
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: It's just so beautiful. You are a dream. You're beautiful.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: You're a dream. No, No, you're Oh my god, we
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: just we're just gonna like each other for the.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: Rest of the show, quite literally. I love you to death.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: I love you too, little awesome, and now you got
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: to come to me now, Yes, and we're gonna get
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: margaritas afterwards. I would love to. I would have to
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: drink virgin margarita's.
• 28:08
  Speaker 4: Yes, oh yes, I forget. I'm supposed to be off
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: the sauce, but it's not working.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: For It's all right. You're still young. You could be
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: on the bus. I still have some years left.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: And maybe one maybe one, but one.
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: How old are you get?
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Twenty six, twenty five, twenty you still got time, still
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: got time.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: So I was so happy to have you on the show.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: And I hope you come back again.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: I love to hear, and I hope next time you
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: come back you're either on another show. And maybe you'll
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: be like the the the the not the villain anymore.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: Maybe we'll be the never be the victim.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, which will be the I'll never be a victim. Never.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: No, I'll still be sassy, but maybe just it'll just
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: be like the sassy, classy girl on the.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that would be fun.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: I think it would be fun. You're and you are
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: a lot of fun.
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: You're a lot of fun.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: You want we want to keep compling. I know we
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: have to hang out ot, we have to hang out against.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: We should go shopping, Toga, we should go shopping.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for being on the show, and
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: everybody have a great day.
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: Thanks for having me.