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S 2 Ep 20: Your Feelings Make Me Uncomfortable · The Imperfect Impulse w/Bree O'Connor

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Imperfect Impulse with Brie O'Connor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Brie O'Connor.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, today is our 40th episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right, two seasons, 20 episodes apiece.
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  So after today,
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  I'm going to be taking a little break from recording and
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  releasing.
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  SPEAKER_00: There may be a few surprises that I'll release during the interim,
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  SPEAKER_00: but suffice it to say that you've got a lot
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  SPEAKER_00: to listen to 40 episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's quite a bit.
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  So I want to start with a little rabbit hole that I went down
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  in this past week.
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  Something led me to a Reddit thread that was actually ongoing a
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  few years ago.
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  And I read through this entire thread and it really made the
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  hairs on the back of
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  SPEAKER_00: my neck stand up and it activated like all of my
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  SPEAKER_00: nerve endings and I felt like, screamy and punchy and angry.
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  And upon a little bit of self investigation,
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  I came to a bunch of realizations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let me back up and talk a little bit about this threat.
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  SPEAKER_00: The original poster said something to the effect of,
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  SPEAKER_00: pardon my paraphrasing,
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  SPEAKER_00: I cannot watch a play.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cannot watch people act live and in person.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hate, hate, hate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hate everything about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hate it.
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  afterwards were a bunch of people agreeing with this poster's
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  opinion and and then
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  of course a bunch of people who were triggered like I was and
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  were responding with
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  well you just don't get it and you're blah blah blah blah blah
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  and there was a lot
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  of flinging accusations back and forth about whether the
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  original poster had ever
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  SPEAKER_00: seen decent theater in their lives and
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  SPEAKER_00: What was wrong with it and why they couldn't appreciate it as,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: trying to come up with all kinds of faults.
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  Most of those faults being the original posters,
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  intellectual inadequacy or emotional wrongness.
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  SPEAKER_00: I found that disturbing,
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  although that was my original response because it's really hard
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  to hear people
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  SPEAKER_00: denigrate something that,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: you've dedicated your life to.
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  And it's really easy to fall into this porcupine defense and
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  wanting to shoot back
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  SPEAKER_00: and poke at this person.
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  So I slowed myself down and I went to an internal place to
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  figure out what might
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  SPEAKER_00: cause me to feel that kind of distress.
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  There are plenty of things in my life that cause me that kind
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  of distress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things that crawl up the back of my spine and make me blind with rage.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of them being...
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  SPEAKER_00: misophonia.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now for those of you who are not familiar with this,
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  SPEAKER_00: well,
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  SPEAKER_00: quote unquote condition,
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  SPEAKER_00: there is definitely some debate on what misophonia is.
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  But my experience of misophonia is that certain sounds can
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  trigger an intense
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  SPEAKER_00: emotional response.
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  SPEAKER_00: Honestly, when I go back to edit this episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to hear myself breathing.
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  I know that there's a lot about my current physical situation
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  that's cut me off
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  SPEAKER_00: from my lower body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I know I take deeper inhales.
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  SPEAKER_00: I often dump breath.
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  All of these things that I spent a lot of money to train myself
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  not to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here I am doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while that bothers me from a technical perspective,
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  SPEAKER_00: there are other sounds that go even deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wet mouth noises drive me to distraction.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to hear spit in anyone's mouth.
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  Occasionally I will hear it in these recordings and I want to
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  crawl under the
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  SPEAKER_00: floorboards and hide.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hate ASMR.
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  SPEAKER_00: That makes me ball my fists up and want to punch, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So what's happening when I'm having these intense automatic responses?
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a nervous system issue here.
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  There's something about these sounds that trigger repulsion,
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  that trigger a sense of disgust.
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  And I'm not sure if I necessarily feel unsafe because I don't
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  feel myself in danger
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  SPEAKER_00: necessarily,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I do feel
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  have an intense automatic response to punch things so in that
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  sense I do understand
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  the poster's response from a physiological perspective like
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  that's a feeling that
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  I've encountered I've just never encountered it with that
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  stimulus so I started
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  SPEAKER_00: traveling down several different rabbit holes and
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  SPEAKER_00: to explore this phenomena.
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  And I think a lot more of us have this response than we care to
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  necessarily address or admit.
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  I think when it comes to experiencing story in concert with a
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  bunch of strangers
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  SPEAKER_00: and the immediacy of that story being unedited,
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  SPEAKER_00: unfiltered,
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  SPEAKER_00: right in front of you,
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  SPEAKER_00: where a certain,
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  SPEAKER_00: not really permission,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's something asked of you when you step into a theater.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are required to suspend your disbelief in order to...
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  SPEAKER_00: Sorry,
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  SPEAKER_00: there is a truck outside my window.
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  You're required to suspend your disbelief in order to engage
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  with the story in front of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are going to have to accept that these actors
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  SPEAKER_00: aren't really brother and sister or husband and wife or,
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  or a giant rabbit or whatever it is they're asking you to
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  believe that they are.
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  And there's some discomfort about being in a group of people
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  who are buying into
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  SPEAKER_00: that circumstance for the sake of enjoying the story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I can see where that would cause some discomfort
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  And I'm going to be projecting quite a bit here because I don't
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  know this poster
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  and I can only guess at what's operating on their system when
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  they think about
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  SPEAKER_00: going to the theater.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I mean,
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  SPEAKER_00: enough so that they had to,
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  SPEAKER_00: unbidden by anyone,
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  SPEAKER_00: post on Reddit their complete dislike of this experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: That had to have been intense, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like they had to have been thinking about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was not a whim.
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  They did not just wake up bored thinking about 10 million other
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  things and then
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  SPEAKER_00: suddenly think,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know what,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to randomly talk about how much I hate the theater.
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  SPEAKER_00: No,
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  something has been bothering them and perhaps they've had some
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  pressure from other
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  SPEAKER_00: people in their lives and
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  SPEAKER_00: They had to let that escape, you know, give it a little release valve.
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  And I'm thinking about all of the things that theater requires
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  of you and how our
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  SPEAKER_00: society is really set up to divorce us from that experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hang with me, because this is going to take a little bit of a journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Over my lifetime, I have definitely seen danger in public vulnerability.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now,
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  it may seem silly to suggest that sitting in an audience with a
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  bunch of strangers
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  SPEAKER_00: experiencing story together requires vulnerability,
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  SPEAKER_00: but
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to suggest that it does.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have been turning toward entertainments,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially since COVID,
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  SPEAKER_00: for the express purpose of numbing ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: So imagine,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you will,
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  if you are continually looking toward art to bring you comfort
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  and anesthetization
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  SPEAKER_00: from the difficulties of modern life.
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  then you are going to find it extraordinarily difficult to sit
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  in a room of 20,
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  SPEAKER_00: 50,
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  1500 people all giving themselves over to emotional impulse.
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  SPEAKER_00: In order to do that,
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  SPEAKER_00: it requires a certain amount of trust that your feelings are okay,
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  SPEAKER_00: whatever they may be.
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  And I think we are now living in a world in which we are
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  training ourselves to be
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  SPEAKER_00: afraid of feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's some interesting study that I've read,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: that murder is very popular these days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lots of people going toward true crime as a way to regulate themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm going to explain this inexpertly because I am not an expert.
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  But what I do understand is that when we are in a moment of
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  extreme stress and
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  SPEAKER_00: strain,
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  that sometimes we seek out more of that stimulus to push us in
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  that further in that
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  SPEAKER_00: direction that we can right ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times we will seek out
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  really difficult stimulus,
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  and I do have a certain theory about the rise of horror.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of slasher flicks tend to become very,
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  SPEAKER_00: very popular during time periods of extreme financial uncertainty.
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  It ends up being a release valve for us to go ahead and
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  experience the absolute
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  SPEAKER_00: worst,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: the biggest nightmares that we can imagine.
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  And somehow that helps us breathe a little bit of a sigh of
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  relief when we come
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  SPEAKER_00: back to our own difficulties,
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  SPEAKER_00: our own personal difficulties.
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  If we're not going in that direction,
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  you know,
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  we might go toward cat videos.
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  And let's face it,
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  cute aggression,
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  which if you're not familiar with this concept,
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  SPEAKER_00: Cute aggression is when you find something so,
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  so damn adorable that you just want to squeeze the freaking
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  life out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so cute.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's cute aggression.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of us definitely have that experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is also a way of writing ourselves is feel something way,
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  SPEAKER_00: way,
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  SPEAKER_00: way,
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  SPEAKER_00: way,
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  SPEAKER_00: way on the end of the spectrum.
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  And there's a certain amount of similarities between that
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  violent cuteness and
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  SPEAKER_00: between wanting to murder scantily clad
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  SPEAKER_00: teenagers engaging in premarital sex, which most slasher movies do.
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  We're using entertainment to right ourselves as opposed to
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  explore our world.
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  The amount of effort that it would take to extend ourselves
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  emotionally and
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  intellectually to explore our world and expand it is just not
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  within our capacity
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  SPEAKER_00: right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Interestingly enough,
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  SPEAKER_00: we have social media,
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  SPEAKER_00: we have binge watching,
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  we have all of these solo activities that are designed to keep
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  us isolated and
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  SPEAKER_00: hyper-engaged and addicted to these dopamine hits,
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  SPEAKER_00: to this anesthetizing experience.
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  which we are once again sold this idea that somehow the outside
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  world is terrifying.
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  SPEAKER_00: And everyone who is out there is a racist, a misogynist, a Nazi.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone out there is dangerous.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your neighbors are dangerous.
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  SPEAKER_00: The people in the next state over are dangerous.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you should hate them.
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  This is designed to keep us solo,
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  to keep us alone and separated,
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  controllable.
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  SPEAKER_00: To further this design,
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  SPEAKER_00: defunding arts support,
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  SPEAKER_00: which was,
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  SPEAKER_00: let's face it,
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  in this rather large country of ours has been minimal to begin
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  with by making sure
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  SPEAKER_00: that certain voices are not
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  SPEAKER_00: elevated,
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  SPEAKER_00: that certain stories are not told,
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  SPEAKER_00: that we go back to a very,
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  very narrow prescription for existence that makes a
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  statistically very small number
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  SPEAKER_00: of people more comfortable,
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  SPEAKER_00: keeps us isolated and afraid.
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  The more isolated we are,
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  the more dysregulated we are,
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  the more easy it is to sell us products.
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  SPEAKER_00: to help ease our discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a self-fulfilling cycle to stay on the phone.
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  We're seeing the effects of it as we watch our public
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  experiences start to suffer.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many times have I,
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  SPEAKER_00: in New York City,
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  SPEAKER_00: gone to see a movie on a Friday night in a near empty theater?
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  SPEAKER_00: in a city of over 8 million people.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is problematic.
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  SPEAKER_00: And granted,
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  I don't necessarily want to make an enemy out of technology or
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  out of Silicon
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  SPEAKER_00: Valley.
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  SPEAKER_00: But listen,
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  we look at who is the face of these mega corporations that are
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  now controlling our
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  SPEAKER_00: social lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: We call him Mark Zuckerberg.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we look at his ability to relate to the camera,
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  SPEAKER_00: to audiences of people,
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  SPEAKER_00: to the Senate committee hearings,
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  SPEAKER_00: and we look at this,
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  SPEAKER_00: person who,
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  SPEAKER_00: at least on the outset,
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  SPEAKER_00: does not appear to have the most amazing set of social skills.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are we making these people the arbiters of our American social life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why are they in charge of how we are relating to one another,
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  SPEAKER_00: how we engage with one another,
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  SPEAKER_00: how we meet one another?
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  SPEAKER_00: We are not engaging in the public sphere anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean,
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  SPEAKER_00: yes,
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  SPEAKER_00: I recognize that as a really gross,
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know,
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  SPEAKER_00: exaggeration is not the right word,
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  SPEAKER_00: but it's maybe an overstatement.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, the trend lines are pretty clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean,
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  if we've read these articles lately about men using their
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  female partners as really
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  SPEAKER_00: their main thing,
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  SPEAKER_00: friendship, that they are not socializing outside of the home.
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  They go to work,
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  they have whatever time they have at work,
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  and they come home
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  and spend time with their female partners and place a lot of
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  emotional weight on
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  how that relationship is going and how that socialization
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  becomes their everything.
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  We are becoming a society that is buying a narrative that
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  everyone is going to hurt you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or worse, that you are in danger of hurting others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anecdotally,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the years after George Floyd and there were a lot of movements in,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially in the independent theater world,
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  to flatten organizational structures and look for these more
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  egalitarian means of
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  SPEAKER_00: doing things.
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  And that somehow,
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  you know,
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  a certain mode of operations was looked down upon.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, even I tried to flatten my organization.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a whole other story.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can get into that at another time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It didn't work.
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  The thing is that I was involved in a production shortly after
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  George Floyd.
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  SPEAKER_00: And,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  there were some of us who were familiar with one another and
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  some of us that were
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  SPEAKER_00: strangers.
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  And we had some discussion about how to handle conflict before
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  there ever was any.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can get into the social science of it to a small extent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I'm not an expert, but I do enjoy learning a lot about it.
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  It turns out that trigger warnings and all of those things that
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  were well-meaning
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  and meant to save us from emotional anguish actually signaled
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  to us that we were
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  SPEAKER_00: incapable of handling things.
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  This played out in this group was interesting because I walked
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  into this group
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  SPEAKER_00: feeling like,
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  SPEAKER_00: okay,
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  SPEAKER_00: I am,
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  SPEAKER_00: that I was one of the few white people in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when discussions were had,
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  I was even hearing from people of color that they were afraid
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  of hurting their
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  SPEAKER_00: peers with their thoughts and opinions.
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  SPEAKER_00: They just wanted to do their work.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the atmosphere had made things really heavy for everyone involved.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was expecting, you know, that that would be a fear only from my side.
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  But to find that it was across the board in that particular
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  instance was educational.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm not saying that's true in every single instance.
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  That could have been just,
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  you know,
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  that number of people that I was engaging with at the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: But even so,
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  I think there is a moment of reckoning where we have half bits
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  of information about
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  SPEAKER_00: one another and
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  and it feels dangerous to get more it's easier to sit and think
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  that that all of
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  these people are um to assume that everyone is a threat
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  including you to be sure i
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  don't want to negate the fact that we live in an america where
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  a lot of racist and
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  SPEAKER_00: problematic behaviors are proliferating but what you focus on grows
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  I think this serves once again to isolate us and keep us
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  anesthetized and small.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our feelings are great.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're really lovely to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even the ones that are painful, they're part of being alive.
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  And one of the things that going to a film or reading a book,
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  going to a play does for us
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  SPEAKER_00: is that we learn how to be both vulnerable and strong at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_00: We get to road test difficult feelings with low stakes,
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  SPEAKER_00: because as we walk out of the theater,
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  SPEAKER_00: none of those things really happen to us,
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  SPEAKER_00: even though our systems have kind of been through that obstacle course,
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  SPEAKER_00: through the course of the story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is a valuable experience that we're losing to solo pursuits.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm concerned.
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  So where I leave you today with this 40th episode is how often
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  do you get invited
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  SPEAKER_00: to go to a party or a bar or a
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  You find yourself overwhelmed and flooded with feelings that
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  are uncomfortable and
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  SPEAKER_00: you decide to stay home in your pajamas instead.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, sometimes that's valid.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we are burnt out and we need to decompress.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing wrong with that.
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  But if that becomes your default setting,
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  is that really how you want to live your life?
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  We've been granted this amazing existence and feelings are part
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  of that existence.
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  And no matter how bad your feelings are,
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  the feelings themselves cannot do you harm.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's your choices about those feelings that can do you harm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Convincing yourself that you are and always will be alone, is that true?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or are there places you can go?
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  SPEAKER_00: No one is unlovable.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're all worthy of our feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're marvelous.
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  They're so marvelous that we have thousands of years of human
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  exploration to point to.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have poetry.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have music.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have plays.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have films.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have literary masterpieces.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have grand comedies.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have this whole beautiful world built on human emotion.
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  And we have to ask ourselves if we really want to spend our
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  lives anesthetizing
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  SPEAKER_00: ourselves from those experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is safety really worth not experiencing life?
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  SPEAKER_00: I too fall into the cracks of, eh, not today.
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  SPEAKER_00: That sounds like work.
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  SPEAKER_00: That sounds a little hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't want to adult today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I don't think that we should give in to that so readily.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are benefits.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the amazing thing is,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more often we go outside,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more often we engage with other people,
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  the more often we find ourselves face to face with people that
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  we aren't afraid of
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  SPEAKER_00: and find out that we don't need to be feared either.
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  SPEAKER_00: The world is actually,
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  SPEAKER_00: I know this is hard to accept in this moment in time,
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  SPEAKER_00: but it's actually a beautiful place.
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  And the weirdest thing is that as a Minnesotan who fled
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  Minnesota to see the people
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  SPEAKER_00: who raised me behave
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  with such conscience and dignity and bravery as we've seen over
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  the past few months
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  SPEAKER_00: has shocked me into myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: My perception of who these people are and were
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  SPEAKER_00: is a little skewed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it behooves me to go out in the world and reinvestigate.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can survive it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can survive that investigation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I am willing to bet dollars to donuts that you can too.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in this little hiatus, I am going to challenge you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go feel some feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Skin your knee.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bump your elbow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get mad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get happy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Experience all the things.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's what we're here to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go live your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: With that in mind, we'll be back.
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  SPEAKER_00: with a season three of The Imperfect Impulse,
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  I'll drop a few little mini episodes to let you know what's
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  cooking in the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, thanks for joining me on The Imperfect Impulse.