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The Art of Masturbation: Embracing Self Love · The Diva Details

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  Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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  Just fearless conversations to help you thrive. Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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  Well hello diva cat hello diva
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  mia how are you today great did you have a good
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  week oh we had a good week oh i'm so glad i'm
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  so glad you i had a great week too and the weather is amazing now it's amazing
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  i saw you plant flowers i went crazy yeah i know i need to do that too sometimes
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  you gotta plant a flower that's what they said plant flower and buy fresh i
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  did bought and then once Is it a while it blooms? Yeah.
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  That kind of leads us into today's conversation about masturbation.
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  It's all about blooming.
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  It's all about, yes, blooming very quickly. Yeah.
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  So anyway, today we're going to talk about masturbation and self-pleasuring.
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  Oh, it's going to be great. It is. Yeah. It's going to be a fun day.
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  So masturbation, that is kind of the art of self-pleasuring yourself. Yeah.
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  It has been kind of a negative in society. No, but it's been done for years.
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  It's been done for years.
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  It's actually the safest sex you can have. That is so true.
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  Yes, you don't have to worry about getting pregnant. You don't have to worry
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  about sexually transmitted diseases.
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  It's all about love yourself. Yes. Make yourself happy. Although if you use
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  the wrong toys in the wrong spots, you might end up in the emergency room. For sure.
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  So masturbation, let's kind of cover what it is. So it involves using hands, can involve toys. Okay.
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  It's just a way to self-pleasure. Now, men do it. I know women know men have
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  been doing it for a long time.
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  For a man, they get to learn kind of what they enjoy about their penis.
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  Yeah? It gets them off. Okay.
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  It's also a sleep aid. Is it really? Yeah. So like a lot of guys,
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  especially in their teens, like to do it before they go to bed.
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  They need to ejaculate every so often just to keep their prostate healthy.
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  Is that why the teenager took the long shower?
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  Oh, my teenager takes three or four showers a day. You see?
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  And I'm sure it's not to get clean. Yes.
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  Yeah. Teenagers typically start, especially boys, between the ages of 11 and 14.
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  So if you have a teenager, a boy, they're going to start 11 to 14 because their
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  testosterone is rising.
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  They start waking up with a hard-on. Oh, wow. Yeah.
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  And they have curiosity around sex. I mean, I think the curiosity starts younger
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  and younger because of all the electronics these days.
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  Yeah. The schools also talked about it. I don't know. My eight year old said,
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  I guess Connor can have sex in college. And I was like, what?
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  He's like, well, yeah, because he's a male and he'll know his sex in college.
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  I'm like, no, no, he knows his sex now.
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  But I was like, wow. So he's eight. So but 11 to 14, that's when they start with masturbating.
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  Well, the school staff talked about birth and be in middle school.
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  I remember signing a paper about that. They do. And now, hopefully,
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  they won't be talking about such extreme sexual stuff.
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  I think it's better to have that conversation with a parent. I think so, too.
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  Now, I know some religions think it's a sin, but I have talked to my son,
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  and I have told him it is normal. And I let him.
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  Well, for our culture, it's not normal. We don't talk about that.
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  No. Not even with your children.
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  So Asian culture, you don't even talk to your children. No, we don't talk about that. No.
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  Wow. Sex is a bad thing before marriage. Well, this is self-sex. Self-sex.
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  I'm sure they do a lot of those, but they just don't talk about it. Huh.
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  Uh-huh. Each time they have an orgasm or masturbate, it can take a boy between 15 and 30 minutes.
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  Oh, wow. That long? Well, yeah, because they're still young and spry.
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  They're still young. Yeah, it's so true. They're not like your old husbands. Yeah, too many.
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  Anyway, they can masturbate daily, sometimes two to five times a day.
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  I think that's probably why, yeah. That's probably why he takes four showers
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  a day. Yeah, yeah. Oh, he's going to kick my butt if he ever hears this podcast.
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  That's the average frequency for teenagers. Now, when they get older, it slows down.
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  But when they're younger, yeah, two to five times a day. Well,
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  as long as they keep it clean, I don't care. Yeah.
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  Makes him happy. Yeah, as long as I don't find remnants. Right.
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  And it's in the shower. And in the shower, yeah.
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  And men in their 60s and 70s are still masturbating. They still do, yes.
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  And especially if they're single and men are alone, they still masturbate.
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  They have to. They have to. They got to keep that prostate clean. Yeah.
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  It's actually the best way to clean your prostate. Men do a lot of visualization
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  when they masturbate, and they also do watch porn. The problem with porn today
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  is it's different than what we had.
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  There's a lot of choking involved. There's a lot of abuse of women involved.
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  I hope that that'll get reined in.
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  I know in our state, you can't watch porn unless you're 18 years old,
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  or there's supposed to be some rule that they set up on websites now.
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  But all they got to do is say, yes, I'm 18. Say, yes, I'm 18.
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  And fill in an email, and then they can watch their porn. Yeah.
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  Yeah, I heard some kids do like four or five different emails.
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  They're smarter now. Yeah. Well, and then they should have to pay,
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  too, and then you could track that, maybe. I'm not into porn.
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  I don't think porn is good for children. So I've told my son that I don't care
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  if he masturbates as long as he's not watching porn. Right.
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  Because porn is not healthy for young brains. I don't think so.
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  I don't think it's healthy for older brains, either. Yeah.
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  And see, porn is, have you watched Fifty Shades of Grey? Yeah. That's a porn to me.
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  Well, that's kind of a sensual. It's kind of a love story, you know?
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  Well, for women, I think that is. For men, they just want to...
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  Yeah, they just want to do the action part. They want to finish it.
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  I think for them, it makes them more aroused when they watch porn.
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  They can visualize, like they come up with fantasies when they're watching porn.
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  So the porn for them is they needed to come up with some ideas.
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  The porn when the kids my age were growing up, now this can really date me,
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  but it was like Playboy magazines. Remember that?
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  Yes, the Playboys. But now the porn has really gone all over.
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  Yeah, they all digitize. And I think that's why there's people so addicted to it. It is.
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  And if you're a small man, you might be intimidated by it. And if you're a big
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  man, you're like comparing sizes.
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  So men like that whole size thing. I mean, we've had that whole discussion too
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  in the Size Matters podcast.
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  Porn has some negatives. It can actually cause erectile dysfunction if you use it too much.
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  So your penis actually stops working when it matters. So basically when you
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  try to have sex with a woman. with a real one, your penis doesn't work.
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  And they've done more and more studies because it messes with your brain.
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  You overuse it. No, you just can't get off unless you're visualizing the act,
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  not looking at your partner.
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  So when you're actually doing it, there's like, it changes.
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  And maybe their fantasy is bigger than what the actual act is.
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  I don't know, but It causes erectile dysfunction.
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  It also desensitizes people to excessive violence during sex.
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  Oh, wow. And it can it can make it bad.
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  Right. So you have to you have to be careful. And especially with children.
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  I mean, because they're at the age where they don't really you're still teaching
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  them the right and the wrong. And you don't want them hurting a woman.
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  That's true, too. You know, but with older adults, they get desensitized,
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  too, and they might get more violent in the bedroom.
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  I mean, and we already have enough problems with men that are violent.
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  We definitely have enough trouble with men that have erectile dysfunction.
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  Forget it. Forget it.
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  Talk about like Civil War, World War III in the household.
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  When their dick doesn't work, it's like bad. Oh, my God.
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  The other thing is like i think that men watch
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  porn and they expect they expect a woman to behave like
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  they do on porn and porn is acting yeah they didn't realize extremely
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  loud acting now i'm not saying that i'm quiet but it
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  is a little kind of crazy so when
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  it comes to porn you have to be careful and it is considered an
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  addiction now yes it increases the
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  oxytocin in the brain when you watch too much of it now you
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  get addicted to it just like a video game or food or
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  alcohol yeah you can't even some people
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  that just have to keep watching porn before they
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  have sex with their wife yeah and some people probably fantasize and
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  it becomes an addiction an addiction yeah i block it in my household hopefully
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  yeah we did i don't know if my child's gotten around the blocks but i have blocked
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  it in my household i'm telling you the kid nowadays they're a lot way smarter
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  than i am anyway well i'm done and they've shown that kids that watch a lot
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  of porn Porn become more violent, too.
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  So we need to stay away from that. Honestly, I should be enough porn for the guy I'm dating anyway.
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  But, you know, in moderation, I guess for an adult, it's okay.
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  Some people like to watch porn while they do it with each other.
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  That is another. It's an experimentation, like with masturbation and porn in front of each other.
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  Have you ever masturbated in front of your partner? No.
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  Never? Never. How often do you masturbate? When I have partner,
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  I don't do it. But when I was single, I do it. You did?
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  Yeah. Okay, so you haven't masturbated while you've been married for how many
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  years? 25 years. 25 years, no masturbation. Mm-mm.
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  I know. That's what I'm saying. It's like my second drive going downhill. No.
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  It's just your husband pleasures you enough. Yeah. Your husband does all the
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  right things. Yes. Well, that's wonderful.
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  Well, maybe I'm just very, I need it very little. I don't have much expectation.
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  Not that he's not good, but to me, it's way enough for me.
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  But when I was single, when I was younger, I think I started at like 16.
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  And you know, in our culture, my mom never talked about it. Nobody talked about it. Masturbation? No.
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  Oh, not just masturbation, the whole S-E-X thing is bad.
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  So as a kid, we find our way. We start looking up on our own.
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  And back then, we don't have all this.
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  So did you masturbate when you were younger?
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  Mm-hmm. I think I really do. I do.
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  I don't know compare. I don't want to compare ourselves and stuff.
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  But when you need it, you need it, no? Once or twice a week.
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  That's all I need. I didn't really masturbate when I was younger. Really?
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  No, I had enough sex, I guess, when I was younger. Yeah. See,
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  I was 22 year old. What young girl? I'm happy. Yeah. Yeah.
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  I guess the sex is good. Yeah. Always.
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  I think that's another reason why you. Well, he's a lot young.
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  You remember? Yeah, he is younger.
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  So he's more spry. So I'm sure he keeps you pleasured in many ways.
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  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I can't complain. Maybe I should go younger. I'm telling you.
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  I highly recommend it to everyone. Yeah. Yes. For my experience.
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  And you're 10 years? No, let's say I'm 60 and he's about to turn 55.
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  So five years. So not too much of an age difference. Not too much of an age.
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  So maybe 45 for me. That would be a good age for me. Yeah, my cousin is 10 years. Yeah.
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  My cousin, like, dating the guy, he's 10 years younger.
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  You know, everyone lately, we should have a whole podcast on age,
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  but everyone lately is going younger.
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  But so masturbation is not just, it's kind of adds spice to the sex life.
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  Yeah, I never do in front of him. Yeah, so I did it in front of a guy for the
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  first time ever on a trip.
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  Oh, wow. And it was interesting.
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  I don't know why I felt so sexually free with this guy or comfortable,
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  but I haven't felt that free or comfortable with anyone for a long time.
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  Yeah. You know, I don't know. I just felt it felt right with him.
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  It felt fun. It felt like there was nothing holding me back with him like I
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  could explore new things.
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  So it was interesting. I definitely felt sexually free that I hadn't felt for a while.
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  That's awesome. And I will say my libido has picked up since I got divorced
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  as well. That's awesome.
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  For me, masturbation is like a daily, maybe every other twice a day thing.
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  Diva Mia. Diva Mia in the house. In the house. By herself.
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  Yeah, my sex drive is like off the charts. That's awesome. I've never had such
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  a strong sex drive. See, I went opposite.
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  Yeah. Tell you I could take it or leave it. Okay, so there is a hormone thing
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  that changes as women get older.
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  Maybe. So as you go through menopause, I believe it was like 80% of women have
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  a higher sex drive and 20% have a lower one.
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  Oh, wow. So we have to take that in consideration too.
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  I just had my hydration IV therapy yesterday.
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  Well, you needed it after your whole sex weekend. I guess.
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  Girl, when you don't have your house on your own for the past four months.
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  That's what happens when you have a house guest.
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  Every time you have a house guest, that is not house guest for four months.
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  It's like, and every sec, it's like, do I buy five minutes, you know?
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  So for women, your libido is tied to your estrogen.
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  So as women experience a drop in, sex drive can temporarily increase,
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  but it doesn't always stay.
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  But in some women, it does. And so far, mine has. I mean, it's been a year and
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  a half now, and my hormones are like off the charts.
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  That's awesome. And you know what they said? Maybe you age backward,
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  too. when you feel that way.
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  I do. And my testosterone levels are up because I lift weights so much and that
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  also increases your sex drive.
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  Lifting weights as you get older will help your sex drive, ladies. And men.
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  So you got to keep the muscle on in order to improve your sex life.
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  If you lift weights too much, you might turn into me and have a really crazy
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  masturbation sex life. Masturbation sex life.
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  Yeah. So for women, yeah, it's important too.
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  I think for women, we don't realize that That's all the ways we can have an
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  orgasm. I know. It's such a blessing being a woman, ladies.
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  And the fact that we can have multiple orgasms in an intercourse section or
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  multiple orgasms just for masturbation is amazing.
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  Because we have so many erogenous zones. Yeah, we are. I mean,
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  just think about how wet you get when you kiss a guy that's a really good kisser.
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  Or when he kisses your ears or your neck.
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  Or he goes down to your clit or your alabia or your vagina. I mean,
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  all these erogenous zones can help you achieve sexual pleasure.
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  And if you can't get off easily, you need to learn your erogenous zones better
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  or you're masturbating too much.
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  That's my next question. You masturbating too much is going to hurt your sex
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  drive? I have gotten there.
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  So I understand why too much porn can make someone have erectile dysfunction
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  because I've gotten to the place where I was getting off too much that it took
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  too long for me to get off again. And next thing you know, you don't need no men.
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  I just said that on our podcast. So, yeah.
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  So techniques, you know, it can vary. You can use your fingers.
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  Yeah. I like ice cubes. Ice cubes. You can use sex toys. Uh-huh.
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  And you can use other things. Now, here's my thing, guys. Sex toys are not that expensive. No.
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  Don't use things that aren't designed for sex because people end up in the hospital
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  then. It's true. So not very clean.
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  So I'd say stick to the sex toys if you can. I would.
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  But, you know, women masturbate usually starts late in adolescence,
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  but some don't masturbate until adulthood like me.
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  Yeah. I mean, some people didn't even think about it.
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  No, they don't. I don't think I masturbate until I got married. Really?
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  Yeah. I had enough sex with that and I didn't really. Yeah, you probably have enough sex. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Yeah. Well, and yeah, I had no problems. I was very excitable as a younger person, I guess.
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  So when I was with a man, I'd have orgasms when I was younger a lot.
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  A lot. Now, remember, women need an external stimulation for orgasms.
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  That's why masturbation is such a useful tool.
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  Uh-huh. And some women do masturbation before they have sex because they know
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  their spouse isn't going to get them off. Oh, wow.
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  So they'll go masturbate if they know sex is coming, get off,
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  and then go have sex with their spouse.
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  So they actually got off during the... oh wow it
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  kind of like prepped himself it's prepping and then they because a
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  lot of women need it externally before they do internally but
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  you know personally my thought process is you're not getting your wife off or
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  your girlfriend off every time you have sex you're not doing you're not doing
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  job no that's your job as a man if you're getting off she has to get off at
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  least once right two or three times right if you want to be a really manly man
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  get your girlfriend off Right.
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  If you're not getting her off at every intercourse, you're not doing your job.
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  For sure. And if you come and she hasn't, then you get her off after.
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  Mm-hmm. Or you help her masturbate after or something.
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  Mm-hmm. But the reality is foreplay should be done, and she shouldn't have an
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  orgasm during foreplay. Yeah. Period. Period.
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  That's how you pleasure your men. Some men should not come until you're...
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  Till your woman. Well, and here's the thing. Well, here's the thing is most
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  women don't come from intercourse right away. Right. And some women never come from intercourse.
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  And men need to learn that about women's bodies. Yeah. And they need to really
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  pleasure the woman first. For sure.
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  And once she's satisfied first, give her 10 seconds to 30 seconds or so. Yeah.
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  Relax. She'll be good to go again. Yeah. She's not like a guy.
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  For sure. I mean, a woman bounces back within 30 seconds to two minutes.
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  If you're a solid man and you're not leaving your wife or your girlfriend or
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  whomever's satisfied on every encounter, you're not going to keep her very long. No. Just saying.
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  Yeah. Women want to have an orgasm at every... Otherwise, what the hell are
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  we doing? Right. We're just a hole in the wall.
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  For sure. So just my two cents. But nonetheless, so you can masturbate during intercourse.
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  You can masturbate pre-intercourse. You must be post-intercourse.
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  It does make you learn your body better.
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  Yeah. When you pleasure yourself and you have intercourse with a guy later,
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  you can tell him what you like. Yeah, that's true.
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  I mean, women have multiple body parts, right? We do.
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  To get your sensation, right? Believe it or not, the breasts are more intertwined
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  in masturbation than most people think.
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  Your breasts, your ear, your neck, your legs. Well, for a man,
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  yeah, I don't think I'm messing with my own neck when I'm masturbating.
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  But like your breast, your clit, all those things and external stimulation is very useful.
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  It actually decreases our stress, too. So if you have a woman that's pissed
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  off all the time, you're not bending her enough. Oh, she needs to get laid.
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  She does. We say that all the time, too.
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  If she's pissed and you guys are fighting a lot, you're not having enough sex. Oh, my God. Yes.
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  Because if you have enough sex, it decreases her stress.
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  It makes her a happier person. It gives us oxytocin just like it does men.
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  We used to say that to my mad teacher. She needed to get laid.
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  There's a truth to that. Yeah, for sure. Because when women aren't having enough
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  sex, they are really bitchy. Yeah, they are.
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  It also helps your sleep. If you do it right before bed, it can help your sleep.
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  I usually do it in the middle of the day. And then I can take a nap if I need to.
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  Yeah. I would say it also helps with menstrual cramps or right before.
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  Oh, I think so too. Especially right before your period comes.
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  I think your hormone, you know how you have like very sore napples and stuff?
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  I think that helps. Well, and you know how everybody's working the pelvic floor
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  lately and trying to say you need to tighten your pelvic floor.
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  You need to tighten your pelvic floor, yeah. This is the best way to tighten your pelvic floor.
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  That's true. It is. It's better than any of those exercises.
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  Those are exercises, yes.
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  And I'm not saying you have to masturbate every day if you're single like me,
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  or two or three times a day, sometimes four.
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  That's interesting. I have four as my max in one day. Oh, my God.
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  I know. The next thing you know, you don't need no mandiva meals. I know.
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  You're going to become like redrawn. I need time for myself for one minute.
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  For women, we visualize too.
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  And we visualize being with a man. Sometimes it's a certain man.
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  Sometimes it's just a man in general.
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  I don't do porn, but I do visualize like previous sexual encounters having them again.
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  Because the sex I've had has actually been pretty solid lately.
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  Yeah, you love yourself.
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  I love myself. So I remember back to like a sexual encounter with a certain person. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Yeah. It's a lot of single mom, a lot of brand new divorce.
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  I think they're going to need to do that. Yeah. There is that single mom saga. Yeah.
• 20:33
  It's just hilarious. It's almost like this woman's drooling over a man. It's hilarious.
• 20:36
  Yeah. So, yeah. There's a myth that it's harmful or unnatural,
• 20:39
  but it's completely natural and safe. It's the safest sex, like I said before.
• 20:43
  It can decrease your sexual satisfaction if you overdo it.
• 20:47
  So I will say- You think so? It can. And if you're doing it four times a day,
• 20:50
  you're not going to want to have sex with a person on the fifth.
• 20:51
  So if you're doing it once a day, you can still be really turned on.
• 20:56
  There was one day that I was really excited. I'm going to go into a little bit
• 20:59
  of detail here. You might want to close your ears if you're sensitive.
• 21:03
  The odd diva details. So I was really excited and I pleasured myself.
• 21:09
  Masturbated three times in the day. And then I went and to a guy's place because
• 21:14
  we had been talking and he was saying things that really turned me on.
• 21:18
  And I went over to his place and we had been dating.
• 21:22
  So it's not like it was like a one night thing, but I didn't really need it again.
• 21:26
  But you could fake it though for a woman.
• 21:28
  Yeah, I didn't need to. It's okay. You want me to tell you what happened?
• 21:31
  Yeah, I'm waiting right here. I was like, don't let me like click hang over here. So I gave him head.
• 21:37
  Oh my God. And then I laughed. You laughed and you come back and masturbate
• 21:42
  again or no? No, I didn't need to.
• 21:44
  Because I'd already had it three times. So I was like, fine.
• 21:46
  I think three is my satisfaction level.
• 21:50
  Two, I could still go a third time in most days.
• 21:53
  One, I have to have. I mean, it's at the point where it messes with my mind. Oh, wow.
• 21:59
  Which kind of sucks because summer break is coming and the kids are going to
• 22:03
  be home. Oh, they're going to be home. What are you going to do?
• 22:05
  Nanny! Nanny, I need an hour.
• 22:09
  Can you take the mile for an hour? I need it. Yeah.
• 22:13
  Well, your owner's going to be driving. Your owner's going to be driving soon.
• 22:17
  Here, take your brother to Chick-fil-A.
• 22:18
  I'll say, well, he can't, yeah. But yeah, it's so bad. But I will say, it's like,
• 22:23
  Once a day for me is where my norm is. Twice a day is great.
• 22:28
  Three times a day is more than enough. You said ever since you got divorced,
• 22:32
  your sex drive had been rising up. Crazy high.
• 22:35
  Crazy high. And, you know, I haven't acted on it either. I mean,
• 22:38
  I've had a few people I've gone out with, but I haven't gone crazy.
• 22:43
  Just because to have sex with a person to me is a very, it's a connection thing for me.
• 22:48
  And I don't want to have a connection unless there's a connection.
• 22:51
  I don't want to force it just because I want to have sex.
• 22:53
  Yeah. So you don't do when I stand? No, I don't do when I stand.
• 22:56
  So I can pleasure myself without guilt. But if I went out with a person and
• 23:00
  had sex with them, I don't think I'd be able to look myself in the face.
• 23:04
  This is much safer and much more mentally sound for me. For you, yeah.
• 23:09
  And I don't think we should be afraid. I mean, especially with the toys.
• 23:12
  And we'll have an episode on toys. But the Rose is a wonderful toy. People talk about toys.
• 23:19
  They really need to think about what kind of toys they want and,
• 23:24
  you know, what kind of stimulation.
• 23:26
  When we were in Italy, they have these peanuts they made from the lava wrap or something.
• 23:32
  People actually buy it. It was a hard seller, you know that?
• 23:34
  So I don't know, they use it for like decoration in the house or they use it
• 23:38
  for the toys. Oh, wow. Yeah.
• 23:40
  The peanuts has wings in Italy when we were in Pompeii.
• 23:44
  So I don't know. Wow. Yeah. They had the wings on it and they come all sizes.
• 23:48
  So I think people use that too.
• 23:51
  Yeah. You got to be careful though. Those might hurt you. Yeah.
• 23:55
  You got to be careful that you're sticking in your vajayjay. Yeah.
• 23:59
  In your vulva. Yeah. You have to be sensitive. You know, we are sensitive.
• 24:03
  Yeah. And there's some, there's vulva oil out there too you can get now.
• 24:06
  If you get dry that you can use, that helps with masturbation. Oh, wow.
• 24:11
  And it helps with toys. I've learned something new today. And they have all
• 24:14
  different sizes too, ladies.
• 24:16
  They have small penises. they have big penises they have penises that move in
• 24:20
  circles they have them that vibrate they have them that that plunge in and out
• 24:26
  they have them okay i might have a few toys.
• 24:32
  Yeah. They have all kinds of... I'll never forget one of the Sex in the City
• 24:37
  episode that I watched. Yeah.
• 24:39
  You know, Samantha, the one that did all about sex? Yeah.
• 24:44
  She actually did the lesbian. She became lesbian. And one day, she take too much toy.
• 24:50
  She was, oh, I did it. And she was so hurtful. Yeah. You can hurt yourself.
• 24:55
  Yeah. She can't stop using it. So she was temporarily a lesbian?
• 24:58
  Yeah. She was temporarily one episode anyway.
• 25:00
  Yeah. she had a strap on probably yeah so there's
• 25:04
  all kinds of all kinds of toys you can have but i will say
• 25:07
  for me i still want to have a man even
• 25:10
  though i had a lot of masturbation i still want to have a man yeah those are
• 25:14
  the real deal and i would probably masturbate a lot less if i had a man that
• 25:17
  had a libido that could keep up but i have found that a lot of men they don't
• 25:20
  have as big of a sex drive as me they don't need it every day at our age no
• 25:24
  you don't know yeah that's like i said some men when once they could for you
• 25:28
  have to wait for like next two days for them to get up Yeah.
• 25:30
  See, that's the thing. I've got to find a man that can keep up with me sexually, too.
• 25:34
  That's why you need a younger man. I'm telling you. Somebody that can go every
• 25:37
  day or maybe five times a week.
• 25:40
  I'm not saying there's 20 something, but, you know, that's why the younger guys.
• 25:44
  And I want somebody that made me feel like that one guy did where I could actually
• 25:47
  get off in front of him, too.
• 25:49
  Like I was sexually comfortable with him and to try new things.
• 25:53
  All right, guys. All the listeners, male listeners, we open for an interview. No, no, no, no.
• 25:59
  Anyway. So for women, I think that women start to explore their bodies when they're younger.
• 26:05
  I honestly didn't. When I was younger, I didn't know a lot about my body.
• 26:08
  But I think in our 30s, all the way up to in our 50s, we start to learn more.
• 26:12
  We get more confident, sexually confident.
• 26:15
  Our hormones change, too. Because, you know, here's the thing.
• 26:18
  When we're going through our 30s and 40s, a lot of us are having kids, 20s, 30s, and 40s.
• 26:22
  That's true. And we go through dry spouts where our hormones,
• 26:25
  we just had a kid. We're not wanting to have sex. Yeah.
• 26:28
  In fact, having sex is probably the furthest thing after you have a baby.
• 26:31
  At least for me, it was. Right?
• 26:33
  I'm like, I'm exhausted. I don't want to have sex with you. I don't want to
• 26:36
  look at you. This is what you did to me. Yeah, right.
• 26:39
  I haven't slept for six months. You know what I mean? So, I mean,
• 26:42
  I did have sex, but it wasn't like I had to have it every day. Right.
• 26:45
  But I think I've gotten more sensitive over it as I've gotten older.
• 26:48
  Uh-huh. And that's another thing. I don't want to get my boobs a boob job because
• 26:52
  I don't want to mess with my boots because they're really nice and sensitive.
• 26:54
  Well, that's what I said. A lot of people that have the boob job,
• 26:57
  they might lose their sensitive.
• 26:59
  Yeah. And if you lose it, then I'm like, well, that's a big part of my sex drive is my breasts.
• 27:04
  Because a lot of people, because after you get cut, it gets numb. It does.
• 27:08
  Yeah. Because sometimes it grows back, but a lot of times it doesn't. Yeah. So I don't know.
• 27:14
  I still want to go for a boob job, though. I don't know. I think I don't really.
• 27:18
  Mine is still pretty perky.
• 27:20
  No, I'm not butcher. I just want it to lift, put it where it belongs.
• 27:23
  Yeah, but they move the nipple when they lift, right?
• 27:25
  And then you lose the sensation. Yeah, I don't want to do that.
• 27:29
  I think we're more comfortable in our bodies as we get older, too.
• 27:32
  Yeah. We were looking back at pictures last week of me when I was in high school. Oh, my God.
• 27:37
  And I weighed like 115, 120 pounds. I was so skinny, and I still thought I was fat.
• 27:42
  See? And I was super muscular, gymnast, cheerleader. That picture is you got a frame.
• 27:48
  Yeah, I had a really good. You had to frame that picture. Really good,
• 27:51
  chilling picture. But the reality is, is that I think we're more comfortable.
• 27:55
  And our responsibilities once the kids start to leave are less.
• 27:58
  I mean, I think, how is my sex drive going to be when the kids are gone?
• 28:02
  Right, when you have the whole house by yourself. When I have the whole house
• 28:05
  and I have summers to me, I'm like, oh.
• 28:08
  Oh, that's bad. I might be buying 10 more toys, ladies. Right.
• 28:13
  Yeah, it's sad when your toys run out of battery.
• 28:16
  You have to keep them short. at all times. Yeah, it's just like I run out of
• 28:20
  battery on the tour each week. Anyway.
• 28:23
  Look at you turning beet red. It's pretty funny to talk about.
• 28:27
  Anyway, so it is part of your mental health, too, because I think that if we
• 28:31
  can explore our own bodies and honestly have pleasure ourselves,
• 28:37
  I think it helps with depression.
• 28:39
  Oh, yeah, definitely. It helps with mental illness. It helps with depression.
• 28:42
  And it's kind of part of self-care, I think. Definitely.
• 28:46
  So this is my self-care time. I'm going to write it off as self-care time.
• 28:49
  Self-care. Yep. Self-care time.
• 28:51
  Yeah. You get up. You go work with them. You go work out. Lift your weight.
• 28:54
  Come home. Shower. Then get off. Take care of yourself. And it's perfectly normal.
• 28:59
  And I think people sometimes, they don't realize how normal.
• 29:03
  For you it is. But like I said, our culture, we don't talk about it.
• 29:07
  They think it's a bad thing.
• 29:08
  Yes. You see? And it's not a bad thing whatsoever.
• 29:12
  You see? You know what I mean? I'm here to tell all the ladies that it's perfectly
• 29:15
  normal to masturbate up to three times a day.
• 29:18
  See? After that, you might not want to have sex anymore.
• 29:22
  Listen to diva meas and don't listen to diva meas.
• 29:26
  Wow. It's such a good benefit. I don't know why our culture,
• 29:30
  we chose not to talk about it.
• 29:32
  Yeah. Well, I think that we have such a cultural issue around it. Yeah.
• 29:38
  I think Western society, though, discusses it more than the Eastern society.
• 29:42
  Yeah. like the america is more so than like asia i think there's like a lot of taboo involved with.
• 29:49
  Talking about it i think that you know in the west we're okay
• 29:52
  i i know a lot of it's probably tv and you know electronics and things like
• 29:57
  that what is it if you have if you masturbate too much you'll go blind is the
• 30:00
  old saying yeah that's also yeah yeah so i think men it's much more socially
• 30:05
  acceptable historically with women it hasn't been so i'm here to say it's perfectly
• 30:09
  normal It's really normal.
• 30:11
  And it's perfectly normal to masturbate in front of a man.
• 30:14
  And ladies, it really turns them on. I do. I've never done it before.
• 30:18
  And they watch. And they get really
• 30:20
  turned on. And then you can have sex after. I have to do it. And it.
• 30:24
  Yes. I have to do it with a toy, though.
• 30:28
  Do it with a toy and the rose the other
• 30:31
  thing is is now you can it will introduce toys into your
• 30:34
  sex life if you're comfortable with your husband or comfortable with
• 30:37
  the man use the rose enjoy and it's fun and it was so it made me blush you read
• 30:44
  it right now i when i did it it made me blush because i'd never done anything
• 30:48
  like it but it was so much fun that i would do it again it was very empowering.
• 30:56
  I think as modern thought processes on masturbation change, I think women need to do it more often.
• 31:02
  Definitely. I think that it needs to be part of our health, especially for all
• 31:06
  the single ladies out there that are not having sex.
• 31:10
  I'm sure they do it. No, there's a lot of women that don't masturbate.
• 31:13
  I've talked to women and they just get prudish and mean.
• 31:16
  Really? And I'm telling you, everybody says I'm happy. Well, this is the reason why.
• 31:20
  Huh i have orgasms every single day people and i put it with us at the end.
• 31:28
  This is usually more than one but maybe
• 31:31
  if you well ladies maybe when you wake up all moodies and stuff try that maybe
• 31:36
  make you try it even if you have health concerns i had a health concern where
• 31:40
  i was down for about a week and i didn't feel it you know and and then i had
• 31:44
  that other health concern where i had that menstrual bleeding thing because
• 31:47
  they overdosed my hormones I was down for that.
• 31:50
  And so there was like six weeks where I didn't have an orgasm.
• 31:53
  Oh, wow. This must have been a lot for you. As soon as it stopped, man, I was ready to go.
• 31:57
  I was. I was like, oh, I didn't feel like I needed to. But as soon as I got
• 32:01
  done, I was like, OK, I've been missing something. Yes.
• 32:04
  And so there will be times when you might go a week or two without.
• 32:08
  But it's rare for me now. And there's nothing wrong with you.
• 32:11
  And it will help you determine And if you have problems down there too,
• 32:15
  because we don't, and on our breast, if you're masturbating,
• 32:19
  you're going to, you might find a lump faster.
• 32:21
  That's true. It is healthy. And I think that if you can share it with a partner,
• 32:25
  it's so empowering. It's going to be embarrassing. I will say it may be for me.
• 32:29
  It was the first time I did in front of a person, but I would do it again because
• 32:33
  it was enjoyable and fun.
• 32:34
  Now you have to be confident, confident and comfortable in your body.
• 32:38
  Right. I think life is short.
• 32:40
  And you never know what day you're going to be gone. No. Nobody's going to care
• 32:44
  that this podcast said diva me a mess. Yeah. No.
• 32:47
  Are they going to judge me when I'm dead and gone? No. So nobody cares. Yeah. I don't care.
• 32:51
  You know, it's not like I'm doing harm to anyone else. That's true.
• 32:55
  And I'm just making myself happy. I think we are so stuck in society about what
• 33:01
  other people think and how other people will behave.
• 33:04
  And the reality is, is you need to care more about what you think and your happiness
• 33:08
  than everyone else's. Yeah. Take care of yourself.
• 33:12
  For too long, we've been caring so much about what everybody else thinks and
• 33:16
  taking care of everybody else. Now it's time to take care of yourself.
• 33:19
  The sex toys, I mean, they're smart toys now, too.
• 33:23
  Smart toys. So this fun person I was with, I will just say, I'm going to call him my fun person. Okay.
• 33:28
  He ended up buying a sex toy. I still have it in the box. I still haven't been
• 33:31
  daring enough to get it out. Uh-oh.
• 33:33
  But he downloaded the app on his phone. He could actually turn it on if I told him I had it in.
• 33:39
  Oh wow right from his phone yeah yeah
• 33:42
  and he could he could mess
• 33:46
  with me from his app on his with the
• 33:48
  toy if i left it in oh wow yeah even like long distance even like long distance
• 33:55
  you can do it from distances because it's wow yeah you just connect it you just
• 33:59
  connect it and i was like oh i don't know if i'm ready for that one but you
• 34:04
  can do it there are smart toys out there.
• 34:06
  And they're getting smarter. They're getting, yeah.
• 34:10
  Oh, yeah. I'm telling you, AI is going to take over. And then there's couples
• 34:13
  toys that you can masturbate and pleasure each other to.
• 34:17
  Soon, artificial intelligence is going to get involved and they're going to
• 34:21
  have toys that know your body as well as you do. And they're just going to get
• 34:25
  you off. Now, here's the thing.
• 34:26
  There's something to be said about delayed gratification. So there's something
• 34:30
  to be said Sometimes when the orgasm takes a really long time,
• 34:35
  so like I've been doing it too much, but the orgasm takes a really long time, it's better.
• 34:40
  I don't know if I want AI to interact with me because I like the longer term,
• 34:44
  you know, delayed gratification.
• 34:46
  Yeah, yeah, yeah. You might, you want to pleasure every minute of it. Yeah.
• 34:50
  Yeah. Why rush, right? You have the whole time for yourself.
• 34:53
  You know, masturbation is kind of helping people that are abstinence from sex
• 34:57
  because there are people,
• 34:59
  I mean, we had a listener tell me that he was a 40-year-old version,
• 35:03
  that he has a small penis and that he was a 40-year-old version.
• 35:07
  I wonder he masturbates daily. He masturbates a lot, I'm sure.
• 35:10
  And if he didn't, he could be causing harm to his prostate.
• 35:14
  There are reasons to masturbate. One of the things coming out now is virtual reality pornography.
• 35:19
  Virtual reality pornography.
• 35:22
  And that's where you're actually in a virtual reality game and having sex with
• 35:25
  someone. Oh, yes. And getting off. Yeah.
• 35:30
  Actually, you know, those game things actually have a name.
• 35:33
  They were dating the character in the the game
• 35:36
  yeah yeah and then they also have teledildonics it's
• 35:40
  where it's like a sex toy simulation it's
• 35:44
  integrating with a person like a sex toy and a virtual reality at the same time
• 35:48
  and then you know they have those dolls too that people have sex with yeah they
• 35:52
  also have this thing that's called a pocket pussy for men are you serious it's
• 35:56
  like having sex with something yeah don't be surprised if you have a grumpy
• 35:59
  old man you might want to get for them too.
• 36:02
  Because men get grumpy without of it as well. That's true. I think men get more grumpier.
• 36:07
  And now there's this new technology with autonomous sensory. It's ASMR.
• 36:12
  It's sound, basically, with having sex. And it's supposed to make things more
• 36:17
  erotic and you get you more turned on. Oh, wow.
• 36:20
  So there's a lot of stuff coming with technology. You have to keep a thought
• 36:25
  process going because with technology, I think we're going to be evolving sexually
• 36:29
  for a while and there is nothing wrong with that.
• 36:32
  Yeah, for sure. As long as you're not hurting someone else, there's nothing wrong with that.
• 36:38
  When you're with yourself and you're pleasuring yourself, it's for you and you alone. Yeah.
• 36:42
  When you hurt someone else, that's when it becomes an issue.
• 36:46
  Right. And then become addiction. Is that a problem? I know.
• 36:49
  I, you know, I might be a little sex addicted. I don't know.
• 36:52
  I might have a little bit of an addiction because I do think about sex a lot.
• 36:56
  I didn't used to, not as much as I do now. Yeah. And I want it all the time.
• 37:00
  I think I'm turning back into like an 18 year old. What do you think? 18 year old. Yeah. Yeah.
• 37:03
  That's maybe why they say 50 is the new 30.
• 37:06
  Because I'm definitely, maybe it's the new 20 for me. Because I'm like going
• 37:09
  backwards. I think it all does up and you are going backwards. I'm looking younger.
• 37:13
  Yeah. You are going backwards.
• 37:16
  Wouldn't that be funny? That'd be awesome. Oh, my gosh.
• 37:19
  That'd be great. You know, and the thing was is I missed out on my 20s,
• 37:22
  30s, and 40s to explore different people and have fun with different things. It was very redundant.
• 37:28
  Yeah. Now I feel free and explorative.
• 37:31
  Explorative. Yeah. And then you're free. And I'm free. And you do it the same
• 37:35
  way. You take care of yourself. Go for it. Well, and this is the thing.
• 37:38
  I'm kind of done with dating men that don't get me off first.
• 37:42
  Oh, yeah, yeah. The reason why I make such a big rule about that is sex for me is important, too.
• 37:46
  Of course. And if you're not going to pleasure a woman and I have to masturbate
• 37:51
  myself, it's kind of like, what do I need you for?
• 37:53
  Yeah. Because I have toys, and I don't want a man that just wham, bam, thanks, shaman.
• 37:59
  Yeah. I want a man that's going to show me pleasure, and if not,
• 38:02
  I'm going to self-pleasure. Yeah. The men need to keep your time and pleasure in you.
• 38:07
  Yeah, they do. They need to spend time to spend time.
• 38:10
  Otherwise, then you could take care of yourself. Then you really don't need
• 38:13
  no men financially, sexually and mentally. Definitely not.
• 38:17
  Yeah. Well, and here's the thing, too. So if you have a heart condition, you have to be careful.
• 38:21
  Oh, you don't want to self-pleasure yourself and die. Yeah, that is so true.
• 38:25
  And you do get stronger muscles when you have sex. Yeah. So you tense up and then you relax.
• 38:31
  Yeah, you might get sex toys sometimes.
• 38:34
  So be careful. It might give you a heart attack. It could give you a heart attack.
• 38:38
  Yeah. One of the things that sex does is it increases your dopamine,
• 38:41
  your oxytocin, and your endorphins.
• 38:43
  It gives you a feeling of peace and relaxation and euphoria.
• 38:45
  So that's why I think women that masturbate a lot, they're just happier.
• 38:51
  So maybe that woman in the grocery store that's always happy is just always pleasuring herself.
• 38:57
  Like I said, ladies, if you wake up moody, you might want to try that.
• 39:02
  Yeah. Don't carry moody to go to work or out there in the public.
• 39:05
  Yeah. And if you have a super stressful day, it's also a good thing too.
• 39:08
  Oh, yeah. When you come home, yeah. Yeah.
• 39:11
  Draw yourself a bath, yeah. I will say I use toys probably more often than just
• 39:15
  fingers. What do you do? Well, you don't do it anymore, so you don't know. Man.
• 39:18
  I know, right? I'm missing out on something. I had to try.
• 39:22
  Yeah. You know, there's also the vibrating cock ring that is fun,
• 39:25
  too. If you do have sex, that helps you get off, too.
• 39:28
  See, I've learned something today. And I need to explore it now.
• 39:32
  Yeah. That's why I'm saying maybe something wrong with me. Well,
• 39:34
  no, because your husband gets you off every time before you have sex.
• 39:39
  Every single time. Yeah. So you're always having an orgasm.
• 39:42
  Yeah. You don't have the desire to constantly masturbate because you have a very healthy sex life.
• 39:47
  Even 25 years in. Yeah, maybe either that. I'm getting old, so maybe my sex
• 39:53
  drive going down. There's no such thing as getting old.
• 39:55
  It's all in your mind. See, I love talking to you, diva Mia.
• 39:58
  There is no such thing as getting old. You really turn backward.
• 40:01
  Yeah. Well, here's the thing.
• 40:03
  There's so many supplements out there to keep you feeling healthy.
• 40:06
  Even as we go through health challenges, there's ways around it.
• 40:09
  As long as you're not inundated with pharmaceuticals that are causing side effect
• 40:12
  after side effect. Yeah.
• 40:13
  And you go a healthy route. The gummies. I'm all about gummies.
• 40:17
  Yeah, she's all about the sugary gummies. sugary one yes
• 40:21
  I don't like to take pills. I just like to choose my gummy. You gotta have a sugar coated, you know?
• 40:26
  I've learned something new today, Diva Mia. And here's the thing.
• 40:30
  There was a belief that masturbation could cause blindness or infertility.
• 40:34
  There's zero scientific evidence that says that. That was just an old wives' tale.
• 40:38
  When people were masturbating too much, it was a way to get them to slow down and do less of it.
• 40:43
  And, you know, it's funny they say only single or lonely people masturbate.
• 40:48
  Lots of people in relationships masturbate, And you can masturbate in front
• 40:51
  of each other, and you can masturbate each other.
• 40:54
  It definitely reduces your stress. I know. I think so. And I think it makes
• 40:58
  you feel better about your body.
• 41:00
  It gives you a little level of confidence that if you're a shy person,
• 41:04
  you can learn your body and become more comfortable with it. Yeah.
• 41:07
  Self-confidence is a powerful thing. Which may be why I was so comfortable masturbating
• 41:12
  in front of that guy, because I've been masturbating myself so much.
• 41:15
  Right. I just don't give a damn anymore.
• 41:17
  You just don't give a damn about a lot of things. I know, that's true.
• 41:20
  Yeah. It's such a healthier and happier way to live. Yeah.
• 41:23
  When you get to the point where you realize it doesn't matter what other people think about anything.
• 41:30
  Yeah, once you realize that you're so glowy. You have to also realize most people
• 41:33
  don't give a shit about you.
• 41:35
  They're too wrapped up in their own lives. If you wear the wrong matching shoes,
• 41:39
  they're not even going to notice.
• 41:41
  Nobody cares. Nobody cares. And once you get to that point that nobody cares
• 41:44
  and if they do care, it doesn't freaking matter. Right.
• 41:47
  If they do care, that means they're judging you. So move on.
• 41:50
  Yeah, they're not the type of person you want to hang out with anyway. So it's okay.
• 41:52
  Yeah, that's okay. And then you're free. Yeah. I think having sleep aids are very helpful.
• 41:58
  And, you know, this gets rid of all the melatonin and stuff.
• 42:01
  I mean, especially if you can masturbate before bed.
• 42:04
  I mean, that is the best because you sleep so well. So well.
• 42:07
  It's like perfect i love
• 42:11
  it yeah so you think being a woman masturbating
• 42:14
  between society it makes it harder
• 42:17
  for us to come out i do i think that my conversation is going to shock some
• 42:22
  people today i think that me talking about some of this stuff yeah is going
• 42:26
  to shock some people now there are different holes and different ways to masturbate
• 42:30
  i think that like people play with their nipples for women whereas guy so for
• 42:35
  a guy like when he gets off he's playing with his.
• 42:38
  Shaft and his tip and sometimes his balls and then
• 42:40
  they they have toys that they men can have too now which is
• 42:44
  kind of good yeah so men can have toys to
• 42:47
  get off if they need to for a woman i think we still have restraints
• 42:50
  unless your name is diva mia and uh
• 42:53
  yeah there's there's all kinds of
• 42:55
  toys and now some people are using toys in the
• 42:58
  butt i haven't done that yet but i
• 43:02
  say yet i don't know if I will or won't but they use penises
• 43:05
  for like internally and then they use like a rose
• 43:08
  for an external if you're if you're curious what a rose
• 43:11
  is we will post this on our amazon shopping page
• 43:14
  so you can find it easily but we're going to post all kinds of
• 43:17
  sex toys yeah on our amazon shopping page you can actually shop right from there
• 43:22
  and find oh sure listen and all the toys that me diva mia recommends and some
• 43:29
  of them are good some of them aren't and there's better roses than others because
• 43:32
  everybody's been kind of trying to copy the rose.
• 43:35
  So there's different versions. And I'm going to put on there the one I like the most.
• 43:39
  The rose, it has kind of a suction to it. At the same time, it vibrates and moves.
• 43:43
  Every woman on this planet needs one, literally, because it is just an amazing toy.
• 43:49
  It's more external clitoral stimulation. You can use it on your nipples if you want to.
• 43:55
  But it's got like a little suction as well as vibration in different settings, too.
• 44:00
  So it's there you go christmas list christmas list so if anybody wants to buy
• 44:04
  me a toy i have three roses already but i could always use another i do and
• 44:12
  then they have they have ones that are attached to like plunging oh wow which
• 44:17
  is kind of fun too now i have that one too.
• 44:21
  My collection of toys are available for no just right make sure you keep it
• 44:27
  clean though yeah You got to clean them.
• 44:29
  Oh. So that's one thing people don't talk about. So the sex toys,
• 44:32
  if you're sticking it anywhere down there, even if it's external, you need to wash it.
• 44:37
  Keep them in water every time. And every once in a while, I put alcohol on mine
• 44:41
  that's kind of disinfected to make sure.
• 44:43
  Because the last thing you want is to have a yeast infection.
• 44:46
  And then to keep having a reoccurring yeast infection because you're introducing
• 44:50
  a toy with the yeast on it.
• 44:52
  Or you also don't want to have bacterial infection or a UTI from a toy. From a toy.
• 44:57
  And that can happen. The other thing is, is when you masturbate,
• 45:01
  just like sex ladies, you should be peeing after.
• 45:04
  That's true. Women don't realize that they need to pee after they have an orgasm
• 45:07
  with the toy, but you do just like it was an orgasm with a man.
• 45:11
  Because otherwise you can get a urinary tract infection. So the number one way
• 45:15
  in our age group to prevent, I mean, when we were younger, we didn't get them.
• 45:19
  I don't know what happened, but after you hit about 40 and you have sex,
• 45:24
  I don't know. I don't know. I don't know the science behind it.
• 45:27
  Some people got them all along, whereas I didn't start getting them until my
• 45:30
  40s, where after I would have sex, I'd have to go pee or I could get a urinary tract infection.
• 45:36
  Oh, wow. And so I take cranberry juice often. It's a natural,
• 45:39
  you know, cran stat, I think it's called. And there's different supplements
• 45:43
  you can take to keep your urinary tract cleaned out.
• 45:46
  But bacteria, I think probably after you have babies is the issue.
• 45:51
  Something changes down there.
• 45:53
  Maybe the hole is a little more open. Yeah. But even after you masturbate, you do need to pee.
• 45:59
  You still have to pee and clean. You still have to pee and you still have to
• 46:01
  clean it up. Peeing is great. You could also go take a shower.
• 46:04
  But I still think you need to pee to get any bacteria that enters their urethra out.
• 46:10
  If you're masturbating as much
• 46:11
  as I, because I have gotten a urinary tract infection from masturbating.
• 46:15
  Oh, wow. So I know this for a fact. Mm-hmm. Especially if you're using any type
• 46:19
  of oils or lubricants down there.
• 46:21
  Mm-hmm. you need to make sure that you pee. Yeah. Just like sex.
• 46:25
  If you're getting reoccurring urinary tract infections during sex,
• 46:29
  it's very likely because you're not peeing right after.
• 46:31
  If you get them a lot, you may also want to shower after you pee.
• 46:34
  And then you may also want to preventively take, there's a lot of different
• 46:38
  urinary tract health supplements you can take now to keep things flowing and moving.
• 46:43
  Because as we get older, that is a reoccurring problem that women our age are seeing.
• 46:49
  Men, not so much. But, you know, if it starts to burn when you pee, you might have a UTI.
• 46:54
  And then I always have the problems when as soon as they give me medication
• 46:58
  to kill the UTI, the antibiotics, then I get a yeast infection.
• 47:01
  So you have to keep the cycle, right? Yeah. Yeah.
• 47:05
  I every time I'm on antibiotics, I get a yeast infection. It's just the way it is.
• 47:09
  It's like as soon as I get the prescription for antibiotics,
• 47:11
  I'm like, OK, give me the yeast prescription, too, because I'm like,
• 47:14
  it's coming. It's coming.
• 47:15
  That's why I don't like, you know, pharmaceuticals as well, because it just
• 47:18
  leads to more problems. Yeah. and more concerns.
• 47:22
  So do you foresee yourself trying out any of these techniques with your husband?
• 47:27
  I'm definitely getting the roles.
• 47:29
  You are? Should I get that for you for your birthday? When is your birthday?
• 47:32
  What month? Not till November. I cannot wait that long. You can't wait that
• 47:35
  long. You got to get it for the summer. Yeah.
• 47:37
  No, not summer. Some of the kids are home. Remember, I have teenagers.
• 47:40
  Well, you can send them out.
• 47:41
  Teenagers are easy to send. Go for bike riding. Right. Well, my teenager is driving.
• 47:46
  See, the nice thing about the rose is you can use it on you,
• 47:49
  he can use it on you, and you can use it on him.
• 47:51
  I'm going to tell him that's what I want for the gift, just because.
• 47:55
  Yeah, for an anniversary or something.
• 47:57
  The rose, but watch, he's going to come home with a bunch of roses.
• 48:03
  Honey, that wasn't what I was talking about. I want the rose.
• 48:06
  I'm talking about the mechanical rose.
• 48:08
  And you can get it at sex stores and on Amazon.
• 48:12
  The nice thing I like about ordering sex toys from Amazon is they make them in discreet boxes.
• 48:17
  It's not like, you know, it says dildo on the box or something or the rose.
• 48:21
  They come in some pretty boxes. Well, they usually come in black boxes that
• 48:25
  you don't know what it is. But when they're in black boxes, I'm like,
• 48:27
  oh, the new sex toy showed up.
• 48:29
  So yeah, they come in nice discreet boxes so you don't have to worry about it.
• 48:34
  And I think it's such a good thing to have sex toys.
• 48:37
  It's a wonderful day to live where we have the ability to make ourselves happy all day long.
• 48:43
  Look at you. You're so glowing and turning backward. I am getting that rose.
• 48:47
  You know, that's the funny thing is nobody can tell if I actually had sex because
• 48:50
  I have it every day with myself.
• 48:51
  Right. Because you're like, your eyes lead up, you're glowing, you're red.
• 48:57
  Rose is leading rose. I have so much oxytocin in my body right now. Oh my God.
• 49:03
  I have got to get that rose. I'm telling you. And, you know,
• 49:07
  it's funny because, you know, people that start relationships,
• 49:09
  they may have it all hot and heavy.
• 49:11
  And maybe they don't need it. But over time, sometimes relationships,
• 49:15
  they're not as sexually active as in the beginning. I mean, yours is.
• 49:19
  I should have talked to you before our vacation.
• 49:21
  I know. Well, don't bring your, well, you could bring your rose.
• 49:24
  Just kick us out of the sweet.
• 49:29
  Between your rose and your flatulence. I don't know.
• 49:33
  And my gas bomb oh my god it's gonna be fun vacation i think everybody on this
• 49:42
  show wants to go on our cruise yes.
• 49:46
  It's going to be such a mixed personality, but we're going to have so much fun.
• 49:50
  Yeah. So that's the other thing, traveling with toys when you need to masturbate.
• 49:57
  I was wondering, like for the carry-on, you still had to put two. I checked mine.
• 50:00
  Oh, you did? I'm not running a sex toy through a carry-on. That's what I'm saying.
• 50:05
  A carry-on. Although I have.
• 50:06
  I wonder what the person. That's what I'm saying.
• 50:09
  Person analyze. The Rose is easy. The Rose is easy sex toy. You could put that
• 50:13
  on your carry-on. And most people won't know what it is unless it's a woman checking you.
• 50:18
  Some women might not know. Some women might not, but a lot of women do.
• 50:21
  The rose is pretty well known.
• 50:23
  I see when I travel, I don't check back. I only have a carry-on. I'm going to carry mine.
• 50:28
  I know. I won't be like, oh, no.
• 50:30
  And then when I pick up that. You know what? If somebody opens my bag and finds
• 50:34
  a toy, I'm going to be like, yes, they are mine. And I own it.
• 50:38
  I know, right? I will be like, yeah, let me grab my bag and hurry up.
• 50:42
  No, I'll be like proud and loud.
• 50:47
  No embarrassment here anymore. Oh, my God.
• 50:51
  Yeah. It's important. I think sexual health, again, is as important as physical and mental health.
• 50:57
  And sexual health, ladies, will help with your mental health.
• 51:00
  So if you've gone through any type of breakup, masturbation is key because it
• 51:05
  will help with your mental health. For sure.
• 51:07
  In the beginning, and I speak from experience when you're going through a breakup, Yep.
• 51:13
  Masturbation feels not so fun. Give it a few days. Once a day,
• 51:17
  just give it a few days. Each day, do it again.
• 51:21
  And once you get to the point where you're pleasuring yourself enough,
• 51:24
  you'll be like, I don't really need a man. That's what I'm saying.
• 51:27
  I could have a man, but I don't have to have a man.
• 51:30
  Your libido will be happy. It'll be happy that you listen to this podcast because
• 51:35
  you'll be saying to yourself,
• 51:36
  wow, it is amazing that I let
• 51:39
  someone else have that much power over me oh my god i'm gonna
• 51:42
  it's empowering empowering and when we
• 51:45
  take our power and our control back ladies you will
• 51:48
  find yourself to be a whole new person for sure going forward i think that it
• 51:53
  is spiritual now don't do it in excess i will say that if you're doing it to
• 51:57
  the point of three or more times a day it gets a little excessive but it will
• 52:01
  help with your mental clarity even if you're older even if you're older than us
• 52:05
  Yeah. In your 70s, 80s, it might be something you want to do.
• 52:09
  I personally think the level of hormones may help with some types of mental degeneration.
• 52:15
  So the people that are still having great sex late in life are still keeping their wits about them.
• 52:21
  They may find that the sexual health does have an integral part in your mental
• 52:25
  well-being as you age. For sure. Yeah.
• 52:28
  So if you're not having enough sex, maybe your mind's starting to go as well.
• 52:32
  Yeah. Maybe it's time to ramp up the sex. Yeah.
• 52:35
  Or the self-sex. Yeah. Maybe, you know, just time to release.
• 52:39
  Yeah. You need a release. You need those hormones, those happy hormones.
• 52:43
  Unleash yourself. Unleash. Yeah. Unleash yourself.
• 52:47
  Yeah. I think maybe that's why I feel smarter now than I have for a long time,
• 52:51
  that my mental acuity is better.
• 52:53
  You are. Just because I'm getting my sexual health back as well as my mental health. Yeah.
• 52:58
  That's what it is. I think we've covered everything, diva
• 53:02
  cat i do i think we are but i'll
• 53:05
  definitely you're definitely going to experience it give
• 53:08
  me a rose and to be continued oh i gotta hear about
• 53:11
  this rose when you're done update i want to know who used
• 53:14
  it how you used it and was it fun right you
• 53:17
  know it's funny we talk about stuff on this podcast that
• 53:20
  other people think is a faux pas but i hope
• 53:24
  that listening to someone discuss it with you
• 53:26
  makes it easier for you to talk with your
• 53:29
  friends too yeah don't hold back yeah yeah
• 53:32
  share this podcast with someone that you know maybe they i think so yeah share
• 53:37
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• 53:41
  we love to hear from you to hear from you and you do give us ideas of things
• 53:44
  we can talk about and if there's something you know you want to know more about
• 53:47
  we'll do the research for you yes i am gonna get that rose okay well Well,
• 53:52
  Diva Cat, it was nice seeing you again.
• 53:55
  Yes, nice to see you. You look glowing.
• 53:59
  All right, this is Diva Mia signing off. Signing off. I'll see you later.
• 54:05
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