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Don't Be a Jive Ass Turkey · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically Black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back.
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  Speaker 2: Talk back.
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  Speaker 3: Talk back. Talk back. Yup, what's up y'all? Thank you
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  Speaker 3: for tuning in for a new episode of We Talk Back,
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  Speaker 3: a show dedicated to you niggas and these hoes and
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  Speaker 3: everybody else in between. What's up, girls? Gobble, gobble, gobble, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: Happy Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 2: It's Tam, ma'am.
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  Speaker 3: I love y'all. Thank y'all for joining me for another episode.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't think of shit to say. Fucking gobble, gobble, gobble.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, child? What is going on? Nothing.
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  Speaker 2: How you doing?
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  Speaker 3: I'm well. You know, I've been in the honeycomb hideout
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  Speaker 3: all fucking weekend, bitch, and rejuvenated. I feel young today. Like,
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  Speaker 3: the fucking body is stretched and ready to conquer the world.
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  Speaker 1: When I FaceTimed you on Saturday, you were smiling so big.
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  Speaker 1: Who was you with that had you smiling like that?
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  Speaker 3: Your motherfucking daddy from Chicago. I believe it, too.
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  Speaker 2: I believe it, because he a player, player from the Himalayas. Nah,
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  Speaker 2: whoever you was with.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, whoever you was with had you lit up. Like,
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  Speaker 1: your face was, like, lit up. Child, we was grocery
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  Speaker 1: shopping for... So I made this little thing.
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  Speaker 3: What's... Dates. So if you take dates and you put
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  Speaker 3: whatever kind of nuts you want in the middle and
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  Speaker 3: peanut butter, it tastes like a Snicker. It's, like, low-calorie.
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  Speaker 3: And you dip it in chocolate.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that sounds cute and fun.
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  Speaker 4: It was nice.
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  Speaker 3: Bitch, I was being a hoe this weekend. Let's just
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  Speaker 3: be clear. Okay. What you had going on?
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  Speaker 1: So I went to LA this weekend. I went to
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  Speaker 1: be Simone and Megan Brooks, their podcast.
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  Speaker 2: No, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: They had their very first live show in LA and
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  Speaker 1: I went to check that out and network and meet
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  Speaker 1: some people.
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  Speaker 2: It was a good time. It was a good show.
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  Speaker 2: It was a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 1: So I, you know, I flew out there on Saturday and,
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  Speaker 1: Went to that on Sunday and flew right back this morning.
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  Speaker 2: I'm low-key tired.
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  Speaker 3: Was it nice? Did you see some good faces? Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It was really, really nice. It was a beautiful event.
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  Speaker 1: It was so, like... Oh, it was hosted by Patreon.
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  Speaker 1: Shout out to Patreon. It was a really black event.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody looked so nice. I ran into Quay, at BlameItOnQuay
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  Speaker 1: on Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all know who that is.
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  Speaker 1: He was a lot of fun. He said he's going
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  Speaker 1: to do the show. And B-Samoa and Megan said... They're
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  Speaker 1: going to come on We Talk Back soon.
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  Speaker 3: Pull up.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all be stay tuned for that. That's going to be
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  Speaker 2: a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 3: It's going to be lit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going to be real lit.
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  Speaker 3: That sounds like a good time.
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  Speaker 2: I hung out with her.
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  Speaker 1: Look, after everything was over, we went to Katana for dinner,
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  Speaker 1: a group of us.
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  Speaker 2: That was cool.
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  Speaker 1: And then after that, you know, I went to see
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  Speaker 1: one of my old friends, see how he was doing,
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  Speaker 1: just hang out real quick.
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  Speaker 2: His house was beautiful, AJ. Oh, my God, beautiful house. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: real quick. That was it. No, you laughing. I ain't
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  Speaker 2: do nothing.
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  Speaker 1: It was just like literally just catch up, hang out
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  Speaker 1: a little bit, and then I left.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. Girl, shut up. Child, what we got going on
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  Speaker 3: this weekend? Stupid internet news. One thing I want to
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  Speaker 3: talk about. How they tried to play with Chris Brown,
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  Speaker 3: the American Music Awards this week. It was pretty disgusting.
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  Speaker 3: So I don't know if you guys saw it or not.
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  Speaker 3: So Chris Brown was set to perform a tribute to
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  Speaker 3: Michael Jackson for the 40th anniversary of Thriller this year
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  Speaker 3: at the AMAs. Ciara was also supposed to be a
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  Speaker 3: part of the whole production and all that stuff too.
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  Speaker 3: So allegedly, y'all, ABC's executives were re-evaluating Their decision in
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  Speaker 3: having a convicted domestic abuser pay tribute to an alleged
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  Speaker 3: child molester, current reports claim. This is nasty. This is
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  Speaker 3: real nasty.
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  Speaker 2: So wait, who's a child molester?
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  Speaker 3: So they are, no, Michael Jackson.
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  Speaker 2: Talking about Michael Jackson.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, who was never convicted of abusing any children.
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  Speaker 3: And with the information we know now on how these
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  Speaker 3: people operate, I don't think it ever happened. Now, I
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  Speaker 3: know they extorted some money out of Michael Jackson behind
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  Speaker 3: these alleged child abuse allegations. And these people continued to
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  Speaker 3: have their children around him. And here it is.
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  Speaker 4: How many years has Michael been gone? This is how
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  Speaker 4: y'all going to do his legacy?
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  Speaker 2: Sounds about right.
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  Speaker 3: And then, you know, Chris Brown, they're calling him the
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  Speaker 3: alleged abuser. Chris Brown was 19. 19, 20 years old?
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  Speaker 3: How long is that supposed to run with him? Like,
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  Speaker 3: how long does he have to pay for that situation? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Because him and Rihanna were really young. Wet money and ego.
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  Speaker 3: Shit happens.
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  Speaker 2: And it's old. Like, that woman done had a baby,
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  Speaker 2: a whole family. She done moved on with her life.
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  Speaker 3: And they hung out since then. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So, I mean, why are we still talking about that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. It's pretty nasty.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, you are not allowed to be You can't make
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  Speaker 1: no mistakes out here. You make one mistake when you're
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  Speaker 1: 18 and it follows you for the rest of your life.
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  Speaker 3: If you're a black man, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Right, or a woman.
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  Speaker 3: But, you know, their kids are allowed to grow up
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  Speaker 3: and learn from their mistakes. But not when you're a
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  Speaker 3: black boy. You can't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just trying to think of any, is there anything
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  Speaker 1: I did That's going to, you know, fuck me up later.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, shit. I don't know. We're going to see.
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  Speaker 4: Look, I got some fuck you money to make anybody disappear, though.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all play with me if you want to. Play with
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  Speaker 3: me if you want to. You don't know me no more.
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  Speaker 3: But anyway, so at the awards, so a couple of
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  Speaker 3: people won some good shit. So Beyonce did win Soul
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  Speaker 3: and R & B. Wizkid won an award for Afrobeats.
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  Speaker 3: He won the Afrobeats award. Kendrick Lamar just came through
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  Speaker 3: quietly and swooped artists of the year for hip-hop and
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  Speaker 3: R & B. Nicki Minaj over Glorilla, Lotto, and who else?
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  Speaker 3: Cardi B.
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  Speaker 1: I can't keep up with all these white people trophies
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  Speaker 1: because that's what they are.
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  Speaker 3: Right. Right. Fuck them. Yeah, because Summer Walker was feeling
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  Speaker 3: some type of way. Because she was like, today's R &
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  Speaker 3: B definitely don't sound like yesterday's R & B. And
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  Speaker 3: Beyonce took home R & B album. And Summer Walker
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  Speaker 3: was a runner up. So she felt like she got
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  Speaker 3: that snatch from her.
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  Speaker 2: She got snubbed.
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  Speaker 3: I liked her album. I liked last album better. But
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  Speaker 3: there's a few hits on this year's album too.
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  Speaker 4: Summer Walker.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You guys be Simone revealed that she doesn't shower every day.
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  Speaker 1: And there was a big conversation about it. It sparked
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  Speaker 1: a hygiene debate on Twitter and Instagram. And I was
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  Speaker 1: with her this weekend. She smells, she must've showered that
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  Speaker 1: day because she smelled great. She smelled nice.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I might have some mental health issues. Cause
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  Speaker 3: I literally wash like two to three times a day.
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  Speaker 3: Like right now, If I shower and then I go
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  Speaker 3: to the grocery store right quick, like when I come home,
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  Speaker 3: I got to take another shower before I get in
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  Speaker 3: my bed. I just like to feel like super fresh
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  Speaker 3: before I lay down. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: See, that's the thing. I would just not leave again.
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  Speaker 1: So I would have to avoid that.
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  Speaker 2: Like Instacart.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to the store. So I don't have
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  Speaker 2: to shower again.
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  Speaker 3: Right. Yeah, sometimes you might have to run out for
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  Speaker 3: a reason, for whatever reason. So I just, I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I probably bathe too much.
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  Speaker 3: But if you're not running around funky, like one could
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  Speaker 3: argue that washing less is probably better for your skin,
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  Speaker 3: especially when you're using like all these different products on
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  Speaker 3: your skin. Right. It can't be good.
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  Speaker 1: So I shower every day, but let's say I come
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  Speaker 1: home from work Saturday.
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  Speaker 2: After work, I'll shower twice.
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  Speaker 1: On Sunday morning, I might not shower again until that
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  Speaker 1: night Sunday if I don't leave my house.
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  Speaker 2: That's still daily, though.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, as long as I get one in within the 24.
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  Speaker 2: But I have been, like, depressed. Pussy stank.
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  Speaker 3: I ain't washed for days. Yo. Yo.
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  Speaker 2: Days.
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  Speaker 3: I ain't shower. I was like, fuck it.
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  Speaker 2: I was in a dark space though. I did not care.
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  Speaker 1: So that was the only time I can remember where
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not, I'm not taking a bath
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  Speaker 1: and I don't care.
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  Speaker 3: This straight thugging it like puts the stank. I think
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  Speaker 3: if you're not like just outside, just super stink. Like,
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  Speaker 3: it's just, to me, it's a private thing. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: get up on the podcast and say that I don't
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  Speaker 3: be washing every day because even niggas who don't wash
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  Speaker 3: every day gonna be looking at you sideways like, ah,
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  Speaker 3: she said it out loud. Like, they probably live in
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  Speaker 3: the same way.
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  Speaker 2: Same life.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. But I don't know. I gotta wash every day.
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  Speaker 3: Every day, multiple times a day. I can't feel clammy
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  Speaker 3: at all. But again, to each his own. I don't
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  Speaker 3: think this is like super internet newsworthy and she definitely
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  Speaker 3: is the queen of marketing so I saw she had
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  Speaker 3: like a 50% off shower 50 sale for her.
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  Speaker 1: Products and then that same day she made $ 20, 000, baby girl,
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  Speaker 1: to play with her.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. So shit.
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  Speaker 2: I ain't mad.
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  Speaker 3: Right. So yesterday was Kyrie's first game back since his
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  Speaker 3: recent suspension over some bullshit. And child, a Hebrew Israelites
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  Speaker 3: showed up and showed out. Okay, I don't know how
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  Speaker 3: many of them were out there to essentially escort Kyrie,
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  Speaker 3: make sure he was good. And y'all, this is what
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  Speaker 3: I think they fear. They fear this type of, and they,
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  Speaker 3: y'all can gather whatever, whoever y'all think they are, right?
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  Speaker 3: But this is what they fear. They fear this type.
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  Speaker 4: Of union and unity.
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  Speaker 3: They fear it. You know what I'm saying? We start
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  Speaker 3: really knowing who the fuck we are and pulling up
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  Speaker 3: as such. It's a problem for a lot of people.
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  Speaker 3: So I know the commissioner of the NBA said that Kyrie,
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  Speaker 3: he still has some things to do. But he also
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  Speaker 3: said that he didn't think Kyrie was anti-Semitic. And the
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  Speaker 3: thing that they have done to Kyrie kind of proves
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  Speaker 3: our point.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: About how they run shit. And that's all we be saying.
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  Speaker 3: It's the truth.
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  Speaker 4: It's the truth, and then you do the thing to
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  Speaker 4: flex that you run shit.
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  Speaker 3: I'm confused about what y'all confused about. But anyway, y'all,
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  Speaker 3: that's stupid internet news. Today is Thanksgiving. Gobble, gobble.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to go to commercial, and we're going to
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  Speaker 1: get into a topic about Thanksgiving and how to get
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  Speaker 1: through with your Thanksgiving day. I hope you listen to
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  Speaker 1: this in the morning. But not just Thanksgiving, also your holidays.
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  Speaker 1: But before, I just want to say, Don't y'all post
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  Speaker 1: no picture of your damn food today.
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  Speaker 2: We eating the same shit.
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  Speaker 1: You ain't got to post no picture of your plate.
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  Speaker 3: We'll be right back. Sorry, y'all. It's Thanksgiving Day. And
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  Speaker 3: we know that, you know, holidays are not the same
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  Speaker 3: for everybody, right? Some people have holidays. They really don't
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  Speaker 3: have that much family. They're not around people.
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  Speaker 4: Some people have huge.
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  Speaker 3: Families, and Thanksgiving and Christmas is a big thing. So
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  Speaker 3: we want to get into how do you handle your
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  Speaker 3: family during the holidays to make the best of it?
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  Speaker 3: Because I believe that most people go into it with
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  Speaker 3: good intentions. Like, I'm going to see all my cousins
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  Speaker 3: I ain't seen. I love my cousins. But then you
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  Speaker 3: realize how much you fucking hate their ass once you
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  Speaker 3: get there. Right, like, yo. I'm two seconds off my
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  Speaker 3: auntie ass this year. Right. I guess my family, we
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  Speaker 3: weren't ever really that big. Like our immediate family, like
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  Speaker 3: my mom, my sister, like we would always do something
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  Speaker 3: in the house. But like being and going, like my
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  Speaker 3: family has a soulful restaurant in Charleston. And I can
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  Speaker 3: only count maybe a couple times where we actually went
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  Speaker 3: And congregated with the whole family.
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  Speaker 4: For real.
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  Speaker 3: We do our little small little thing at the house
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  Speaker 3: and that'd be it. We might go to my daddy's
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  Speaker 3: house and eat some motherfucking crabs. That's about it. For
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  Speaker 3: the holidays.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 3: I like seafood Thanksgiving. I don't like all that stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I've done seafood Thanksgiving before too.
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  Speaker 1: We did like one time we did like an Italian
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  Speaker 1: Thanksgiving where we just had like pasta and things like that.
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  Speaker 1: Because I don't want the same shit on Thanksgiving and Christmas.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: It's the same meal. Minus the turkey.
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  Speaker 3: You really only get that same meal twice a year.
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  Speaker 3: I don't be eating all that shit anyway. Ever since
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  Speaker 3: I stopped eating meat, Thanksgiving is just not it for
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  Speaker 3: me for real. I have to do my own separate
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  Speaker 3: collard greens. I'll make the mac and cheese. I'll do
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  Speaker 3: sweet potato pie. I can't really eat all the shit
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  Speaker 3: because everything else got meat in it.
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  Speaker 2: Everything got meat in it. Even the vegetables got meat
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  Speaker 2: in it. So I'll be over.
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  Speaker 3: In the cut with my high vibrational plate.
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  Speaker 1: Boo.
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  Speaker 3: Boo. See, it is a queen's plate. You know, that
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  Speaker 3: whole shit was in time for the holidays. Because just
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  Speaker 3: think about it. I think they say, I forgot the
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  Speaker 3: chemical that's in turkey. And then in combination with all
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  Speaker 3: this other shit for the holidays, especially Thanksgiving, they say
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  Speaker 3: like people are eating like, I don't know, 10,000 calories
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  Speaker 3: in one setting.
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  Speaker 2: For real.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't wait. So, B.
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  Speaker 1: Simone, she was saying over the weekend that she has been,
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  Speaker 1: she hasn't eaten meat for six years now. And she said, like,
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  Speaker 1: the little turkeys, or what she said, pigs and turkeys,
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  Speaker 1: they be, like, crying right before they get slaughtered because
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  Speaker 1: they can hear, like, the pigs before them that are dying.
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  Speaker 2: And they be, like, crying. I mean, for a moment.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, damn, that's fucked up.
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  Speaker 1: And then I went back to like, maybe some of
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  Speaker 1: that trauma make the pork taste better because.
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  Speaker 3: That's the type of shit people need to think about
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  Speaker 3: before they eat meat. Now, I'm not here to be
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  Speaker 3: a Debbie Downer.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, eat your meat. I don't give a shit. It
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  Speaker 4: ain't my body.
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  Speaker 3: But, you know, when people trying to figure out why
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  Speaker 3: they feel like a certain way, like, why am I
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  Speaker 3: depressed today? Why am I sad?
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  Speaker 4: That fucking meat you just consumed, imagine how that animal felt.
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  Speaker 3: And a hog... In particular, releases some type of chemical
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  Speaker 3: in the meat when they feel threatened. So unless you
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  Speaker 3: eating wild boar, eating that farm raised pig is not
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  Speaker 3: good for your fucking health. Unless the animal like died unexpectedly.
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  Speaker 3: Like those animals are stressed the fuck out in them slaughterhouses. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: this is study. Miss me with that.
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  Speaker 1: Miss me with that shit. I'm still eating my bacon.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still eating my honey baked ham. Can't wait to
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  Speaker 1: pick it up on Wednesday.
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  Speaker 3: And how you feel after you eat that shit? I
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  Speaker 3: be sleepy. Sluggish. Sleepy. You don't feel good.
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  Speaker 2: I do feel good. I be happy. I be real happy.
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  Speaker 2: I be high. I be full.
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  Speaker 3: I be happy. Me and my cousins, we gonna race.
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  Speaker 3: My niece, I'm gonna race one of them motherfuckers. I'm
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  Speaker 3: gonna run it off.
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  Speaker 2: Don't worry about it.
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  Speaker 3: And when you get fucking home and get on that scale,
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  Speaker 3: your ass going to be depressed and all fucking watching.
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  Speaker 1: No, I see my trainer Friday morning. That was just
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  Speaker 1: one time I didn't wash my pussy because I was depressed.
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  Speaker 1: We're not going to make it seem like that's every month.
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  Speaker 3: Yo. Girl, fuck you.
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  Speaker 1: So here's 10 ways to cope with difficult relatives during
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  Speaker 1: the holidays.
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  Speaker 3: Hmm.
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  Speaker 1: The first thing you need to do, number one on
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  Speaker 1: the list, and this is important, not just for the holidays,
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  Speaker 1: but just for your life, adjust your attitude. If you're
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  Speaker 1: already anticipating that a gathering will be stressful, your anxiety
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  Speaker 1: may get worse by the time the actual gathering begins.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of worrying about what will happen, choose behaviors that
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  Speaker 1: can decrease your anxiety. Before the event, do something relaxing,
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  Speaker 1: such as practicing yoga, listen to music, smoke a joint, you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, whatever you do. Yeah. You know, I agree with
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: this because if you already like dreading the holidays, how
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: some people do. And as soon as you get to
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: your family's house, like your energy, your energy is going
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: to be that. You know what I'm saying? So you're
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: going to be inviting that shit that you're trying to avoid. So, yeah,
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: be positive about the holiday season. You know, even if
• 17:39
  Speaker 3: last year or the year before was bad, this year
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: is going to be different. This year is going to
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: be good. The Montines ain't going to be asking you
• 17:46
  Speaker 3: about why you ain't married yet, why you ain't got
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: no kids yet. Like, just go in there with a
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: positive mind. Right. All right.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Number two, have realistic expectations. As refreshing as it would
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: be if your Aunt Mary didn't criticize your outfit this year,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: she's probably going to do that. And she's probably going
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: to ask you why you still ain't got no baby.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: But don't expect people to change when they have behaved
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: in the same way for years. Minimize your contact with
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: difficult relatives and spend more time interacting with people you like.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: Tammy, I do agree with this one a little tiny bit, right?
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: So yeah, sometimes you do try to avoid the cousins
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: that you don't fuck with, but them cousins always fuck
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: with you. Them aunts always fuck with you. Like, they
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: literally need your fucking energy. That's why they come around.
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: They love you. Shit, exactly. You know, love and hate
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: is like a thin line. Okay? So, now I agree
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: with this. It says, you know, she probably gonna say
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: something to you. The thing is that, but she's probably
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: still saying something to you because you ain't nipped the
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: shit in the bud all the other years. You might
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: disagree with that. But, If somebody constantly saying some shit
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: about my fucking clothes every time I see you, bitch,
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: this year, 2022, ain't the goddamn year.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: Where's your baby daddy, bitch? Stop asking me what I'm
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: on at. You gonna start shit. You about to ruin
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: these people Thanksgiving.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: Damn right, bitch.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: No, don't do that, y'all.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: Just ignore it. You're only seeing her for the holiday.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: Just wear what you want and forget Aunt Mary.
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: But why she get to get off on me every holiday?
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: She's only getting to get off because you're allowing that energy.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. So why I can't check her
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: this year? No, you're allowing it to affect you. Don't
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: let it affect you. Let it roll off your shoulder
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: like water.
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: I think you should say something this year, then next
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: year gonna be lit. Once you check that bitch this year,
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: she gonna avoid you next year. She's only doing this
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: shit to you because she can.
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: Once you let her know she can't.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: Do that listen okay y'all I'll fight cousins and I'll
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: fight aunts I've been waiting my whole life to fight
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: a fucking aunt especially them older ones the 50 60
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: year old ones like who've been talking shit your whole
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: like childhood yes.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: Y'all hear that AJ wanna.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: Fight a 60 year old woman don't listen to her
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: do not listen to her just ignore Aunt Mary She's
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: jealous of your outfit. She wish she could wear that stuff.
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: That's all that is.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: All right.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Next.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: This is a very important one. Keep potentially upsetting topics
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: off limits. Don't talk about politics. Don't talk about abortion rights.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Don't talk about that shit. Leave that off the table.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: If you got some shit that you want to get
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: off your chest, do it on Friday or Wednesday.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: Leave it alone on Thursday.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Talk about fucking what you saw on TikTok with your
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: cousins or something like that.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: A church.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: Keep it cute.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: And this is for the people who have the questions.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Don't be asking that cousin over 30 why she don't
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: have no kids yet because you're going to be kind
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: of embarrassed when she said, oh, because, you know, I
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: have a big ass fibroid or I have a cyst
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: on my ovary. You know, people have medical conditions that
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: they may not share why they don't have kids yet.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: Stop being disrespectful. Yeah, you want them to unpack their
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: trauma for you real quick.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: And see, I'm the type.
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: I'm going to be like, yeah, I done had two pregnancies.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: You know, I went through the whole little testing my
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: eggs and all that shit just last year. You know,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: God willing, I might get one. You're going to feel
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: embarrassed because now you've forced me to actually answer your
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: fucking question, bitch, about when I'm going to have some kids.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: But religion, keep that. Let's listen, especially on Christmas. All
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: the motherfucking atheists, let's let them people have their God.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Don't be at the table on Christmas, Thanksgiving. See, this
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: ain't even no real holiday.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Y'all celebrating a white man's holiday.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: Listen, just take it as a time to, you know,
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: be with family.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: Don't be making people uncomfortable.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: I do be doing that on Thanksgiving, though. I ain't
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: gonna lie.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: What you be saying, Tam?
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I be like, happy smallpox blanket day.
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I did be saying, I ain't going to do that
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: this year.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: You stupid. Yeah, don't bring Trump up or Kanye at
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: the table, all right? Because you're about to vote Democratic
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: for the damn 60th time. You're going to be mad. Right.
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: And please don't go up there telling everybody how you ate. Oh, goodness.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: Just lie. Just keep that to yourself. If they ask
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: you if you voted in the recent local elections, just
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: lie and tell them, yeah, I voted for such and such.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: If you didn't.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you didn't. Just lie. All right.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: Number four.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: Accept that the only thing you control is your reaction.
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: That's what I was saying. Don't let that shit affect you.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Just let it roll off your shoulder.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: But if I take my hands and put it around
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: your neck, that's still, like, controlled.
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: No that's going to jail trying to go to jail
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: on thanksgiving physical control if you go to jail on
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: thanksgiving you ain't gonna see that judge till monday.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: Damn and i bet you like that turkey and air
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: probably tastes different too.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I heard they give you something to drink in there
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: that make you like not horny really I might be wrong.
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: Somebody might have been lying to me.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: As much as fucking these niggas do in prison, I
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: doubt that very seriously. Oh, they ain't drinking the juice.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: It's called Soft Peter. Yeah.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Google it. All right.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: It's a lemonade.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: My God, that yellow. Y'all yellow fives in it. So
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: it says you can't stop people from bringing up controversial
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: subjects or asking rude questions, but you can monitor and
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: modify your own reactions.
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: So this is some shit I got to work on
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: in life.
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: Yesterday life, today life, Thanksgiving life, like whenever, is to
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: try not to respond. Those people own you at that point.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Right, when they do that. So what can you say
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: to avoid the conversation? All right, I'm your Aunt Mary.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: That show got a lot of cleavage out.
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: You like it? you look like a lady of the
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: night see like I'm automatically like run out what can
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: I say give me some tips what can I possibly
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: say let's not get into that I'm Mary did you
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: listen to We Talk Back today you really should listen
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: to that podcast it's a really good show hold on
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna go over here I'll be right back Mary
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: love you you nice Girl, fuck them people. Like, the
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: next one says don't drink too much. Now, if I'm
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: sober and Aunt Mary come over here with that bullshit,
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: I might be all right. But if I got a
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: few drinks in my system, she in trouble.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Don't drink too much.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: I know you get in family and you like to
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: have your cocktails and your spirits and take a walk
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: with your cousin, come back with red eyes, you know.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: But keep it to a minimum, especially if you know
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: you become... argumentative or aggressive when you're drinking. Some people
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: are happy drunk. Some people are not. If you know
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: you're one of the nots, don't get too drunk around
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: the family.
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: So I'm not like a mean alcoholic. I think I'm
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: pretty fun when I get drunk. So I'll probably be
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: downstairs some shit to like, haha, joke's on you. They
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: may then get mad. I'm not mad though. Like I'm
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: not really wanting to fight. I'm happy. And I'm around
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: family and I'm cussing and acting a fool, but you
• 25:41
  Speaker 3: might be mad after I say what I'm going to
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: say back to your ass.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: Just don't say it.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: Don't drink too much, y'all.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: Number six, get active.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: It's difficult to be drawn into the argument when you're
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: engrossed in an activity that requires concentration, physical activity, or laughter.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: So play a game, go for a walk on the
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: beach or around your mama's neighborhood or watch a funny
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: holiday movie. All that stuff will keep you from getting
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: into an argument.
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: So one thing I want to see on Netflix this Thursday,
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: or Wednesday it is, but it's a show on Netflix
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: called Wednesday. It's actually like Wednesday from the Addams Family.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: It's like a movie coming out about her. I want
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: to see that. So that's a good thing. Everybody can
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: sit down and watch.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: For the holidays.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: But the kids too, because they look lit.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: And it's rated G, so the kids can watch.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: And maybe y'all can avoid talking as much to avoid
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: any altercations. Less talking as much as possible.
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: Right. Number seven, practice gratitude. Now, you don't need to
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: just do this for the holidays. You just need to
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: do this in your life.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: Take time out and think about all you have to
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: be grateful for. Your delicious meal, a warm home, good health,
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: a sunny day, friendship and family gatherings. anxiety can be
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: diminished by focusing on the things we enjoy and we value.
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: So that's important.
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Very important.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: So if you got a group of people at the house,
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: just go around to people that make you.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: Happy and try to avoid the ones that don't.
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: Right. And just, you know, think about all the things
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: that you are blessed with in that day and not
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: all the bullshit.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: You know, even this year, like maybe if you, if
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: you are always have problems with your family of year,
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: maybe you can go over to a friend's house and
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: their families. this year instead switch it up.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Right cause you don't have to be around your family
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: you can go somewhere else if you want to.
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: Friends become family and if a person doesn't know you
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: they probably ain't gonna fuck with you they not gonna
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: harass a friend's friend.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: Right you can't well you never know somebody I'm married
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: they have to be like you ain't got no family.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Where's your family at baby You know, they might be that.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: So you might knock in and avoid the bullshit. Number eight,
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: practice tolerance. We all do things that irritate other people,
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: and we probably aren't aware of it. Try to be
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: tolerant of others' quirks and irritating behaviors, and don't take
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: them personally.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: And nothing else.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Remember, you only have to tolerate the irritation for a
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: little while. So let me tell y'all, last year I
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: was cooking. With my family, and I had my niece
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: in the kitchen because she just wanted to TikTok and
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: be on Instagram and don't want to help.
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: So I was like, no, get your.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: She's 19. I was like, get your butt in this kitchen.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: You need to learn how to cook. Learn how to
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: cook these meals. I was like, how you going to
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: get a man you can't cook nothing? She was like, well,
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: you know how to cook everything. Where your man at?
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: Woo, baby.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I almost took my forearm across the whole county and
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: just ruined Thanksgiving, knocked everything on the ground. I had
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: to grab my glass of Prosecco and walk outside.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: And call Ashley. I got a face on this bitch
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: walking down the street mad as hell visually. Because her
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: niece done told the goddamn truth. You know how to
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: cook all this shit. Where your man at? I beat
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: your ass. But I bet you won't bother her again
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: this year about that shit. You see what I'm saying?
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: She going to be right back in the kitchen with
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: me learning. The fuck? Listen, that baby said these things
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: can be outsourced. I don't gotta know how to cook.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Baby I really y'all I really had to walk up
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: out the house with my little I filled up my glass.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: I said excuse me everybody and left never mind like
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: you need to know how to cook for yourself come.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: On yeah but you know You want to be able
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: to provide nourishment for your family.
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: She's 25 and she doesn't cook. You got to know
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: how to cook some stuff.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: For yourself.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: You can't eat goddamn chicken fingers all the goddamn time,
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: grown woman. I mean, you could, but it wouldn't be
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: a good idea. But I'd be in here eating.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: I could cook, but sometimes cooking for just myself seems
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: like a hassle when I can.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Just outsource it like you say so.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I be in here like eating like real childish
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: like I come home from work and eat a bowl
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: of cinnamon toast crunchy birthday party food.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: I'll put me two glizzies in the air fryer.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Not the glizzy I will eat me two glizzies for dinner.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: Mystery meat what the fuck is it a hot dog deliciousness.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Girl, and I would roll it up in a piece
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: of bread. It don't even have to be a hot
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: dog bun. It'll be like a regular piece of bread.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: I'll take a slice of cheese and split it in
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: half and put it on one piece. Like, if I
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: make two, so the one slice of cheese will do
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: for both.
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: Right, for both. Yeah. Does that really taste good to you, though?
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: Ketchup and mustard. Yeah, I be fucking them up. And
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I'll throw some sweet potato fries in the air fryer. Boom. Dinner.
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: Dinner is served. I enjoy cooking, so I can't, like,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: I like nice, tasty food. I cannot just cook me
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: some bullshit.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: I'll do cereal for dinner, but before I, like, cook
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: some regular bread and a fucking glizzy.
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: I can't do it.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: You know what's another ghetto thing that I, well, I
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: won't say ghetto, but like a I will make cheese toast.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: I will, like, get the Crackle Barrel, sharp cheese, and
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: then butter bread and put it in the oven.
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Now, that right there, like, that's a good struggle meal, okay?
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: Even if you do, like, I like to grill mine
• 32:01
  Speaker 4: on the stove. I'll make, like, honey.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: Butter and put on my bread, grill it with my cheese,
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: and I love it with honey barbecue leaves. That's a meal.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: It's good.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: That's a little quick bullshit meal, though.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: But I will make that real quick too.
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: All right. So number nine says, bring a happy reminder.
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: So looking at a favorite photograph, a funny text from
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: a friend, or anything else that makes you smile can
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: go a long way toward relieving stress. When things get
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: too stressful, plan to sneak away and take a break.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: That sound like a little walk with the cousins right there.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: Go smoke with your cousins.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: Your favorite cousins.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: Everybody come back giggling.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: Right. Eyes read. Where y'all go? Oh, to the stuff.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Who all going? Definitely be the carpool for the weed
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: heads at the Thanksgiving dinner.
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: Thank God my daddy smoked, so everybody be out there
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: in the back, high, drunk.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: Everybody's, yeah.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: No, my mama don't participate in nothing. No alcohol, no weed,
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: no nothing. So I had to keep it cute and
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: act like I'm not doing drugs.
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: Shame.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: I be faking. I'll be like, oh, let me go
• 33:12
  Speaker 2: out here and take this call.
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: Come back in there calm and regular. Ain't nothing bothering me. Right.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: Eyes low. She be knowing. She don't say nothing. All right.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Number 10. Take a deep breath or five. This is
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: a good tip. Can't physically leave a stressful situation? You
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: can always focus on your breathing. Take five slow, deep breaths.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: focusing on breathing in and out, even this short break
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: can have a powerful effect on stress and anxiety. So
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: when you're mad, just take some deep breaths, y'all, and
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: just remind yourself that it's just for today.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and this last part says, keep in mind that
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: you can only change yourself. You can't change what your
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: difficult relatives are going to do. Don't waste your energy
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: trying to change others and accept that You can only
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: control your own actions and thoughts. That's the most important
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  Speaker 3: part of y'all. This list comes from scripts.org. And I
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  Speaker 3: think it's a pretty solid list on how to deal
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  Speaker 3: with those not so fun relatives. But I think the
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  Speaker 3: first one is going in with setting your intentions on
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: like having a good time. Like that should alleviate all
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  Speaker 3: the shit.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And if you can't do that, don't go.
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  Speaker 3: I want to go home.
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  Speaker 1: If you come in there with negative energy, if you
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: know you showing up with that, just don't go.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, stay out of the house. Yeah, because you're going
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: to ruin it for everybody. You're going to be the
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  Speaker 2: motherfucking problem.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Every year. Like big mama house.
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  Speaker 2: Here come Tammy.
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  Speaker 3: Talk about smallpox blanket holiday. I'm AJ. This is Indigenous
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  Speaker 3: Peoples Day. Yeah, because I think most Black people have
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  Speaker 3: removed the original meaning behind these holidays. Now it's just like,
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  Speaker 3: it's tradition at this point. It's just this time of year,
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: this is what we do. Right. So I want to,
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  Speaker 3: for my family, when I create my family, I want
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: to start my own traditions that can be passed down
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  Speaker 3: to the generation.
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  Speaker 2: Like what?
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  Speaker 4: So I'll do my own type of Christmas thing where
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: we do gift giving.
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  Speaker 3: Kwanzaa?
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  Speaker 4: It won't have to be Kwanzaa. It could be something
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  Speaker 4: for my family.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, just your own tradition.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. So this year, on these days, this is what
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  Speaker 3: my family does. You know what I'm saying? So the kids,
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: they won't feel left out when Christmas shit come around
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: because maybe they got their Christmas in June. for my
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: birthday I don't know so yeah I want to do
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: like shit like that for my family we don't you
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: don't have to do these current man-made holidays you don't
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: have to create your own.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Shit well well let's you know closing out this list
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  Speaker 1: tell everybody what you thankful.
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  Speaker 4: For oh number one I am thankful for you.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: Me oh hey friend oh you just to make a
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: nigga shed a thug tear on me.
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  Speaker 3: Whatever. I'm grateful for my family. I'm grateful to be
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: in good health. I'm grateful for this year. I'm grateful
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  Speaker 3: for next year. It's going to be lit. I feel
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: really good right now.
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  Speaker 2: That's good. I love all that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm grateful for these bundles that start to come in
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: the mail. I'm grateful for these Black Friday sales. I'm
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: grateful for you too, friend. I'm very grateful to have
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: you in my life. You're one of my favorite people
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: in the world. I couldn't imagine doing this with anybody else.
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: Like I couldn't think of a soul that I would
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: rather be doing this show with. So I'm grateful for
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: the show. I'm grateful for the listeners. Y'all be telling
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: me y'all love me back in my DMS and shit.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: That shit really, sometimes I'll be going through it and
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: that love really be helping me. So I do appreciate
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: y'all for extending that love back to me. Um, Ungrateful
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: for my family. I'm blessed to have a very close family.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: And I'm just grateful to have them in my life.
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  Speaker 1: And always, you know, let me know that they're proud
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: of me and they love me despite all my flaws.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: Because I can be hard to deal with sometimes.
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  Speaker 4: I know that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm grateful for my future husband.
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: I ain't met him yet. But I'm speaking and I'm
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: manifesting you, baby. I'm grateful for you.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: My niece ain't gonna be able to talk about me
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: next Thanksgiving I'm gonna have a man.
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  Speaker 3: God willing.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm grateful for good health you know I have
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: multiple sclerosis and I'm blessed to be healthy despite that
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: so I'm grateful for that and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Just grateful to be able to laugh and love every
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: day Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Amen. Doesn't that feel good? We should have like a
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: damn gratitude segment. Because I don't think people actually say
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: aloud a lot what they're actually grateful for. A lot
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: of times you focus on the negative shit that's going
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: on in your life. When you focus on those positive things,
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: it just helps more positive shit manifest.
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: When you got an attitude.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: I'm going to say it like, let's do some gratitude.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: Let's say what we're grateful for with your mean ass, bitch.
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  Speaker 3: All right, y'all. We hope y'all enjoy y'all Thanksgiving, okay?
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: We don't want to see them place, like Tam said before. Listen,
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: everybody got the same slop. Especially that shit look. Like,
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: your grandma is not the best cook. Just know, I am.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: I swear to God, I be challenging niggas like, I
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: know I cook better than your mama and your grandmama.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: That's why everybody be having them ugly ass plates because
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: everybody think they the best cook.
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: Put your eyes out.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: First of all, I don't like plates where the foods
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: are touching each other. Me either. I don't like my
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: food touching. I don't want to see that.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: Don't make my plate. I got it. Nobody want to
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: see your chitlin plate, bitch. Keep that to yourself. Ew.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: I'm from the country. They love chitlins. I will not
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: eat that shit no more.
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: And Thanksgiving is not the time to be experimenting.
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: Just make the macaroni and cheese how you usually do it, bitch.
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: Don't add sugar to the macaroni and cheese this year.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Keep it simple. Keep it regular. Keep it mutual.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: One year, my sister made the mac and cheese and
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: she got the evaporated milk, but she accidentally got the
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: sweetened evaporated milk and didn't realize it.
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: She got condensed milk.
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: And it was sweet. And baby, we was about to
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: jump her in there. We was like, put your fist up, bitch.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: You done fucked up the macaroni for Thanksgiving. And ain't
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: nobody else made macaroni like that.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: It's ass-worthy.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: But condensed milk looks way different from... The Vapory. Yes.
• 40:37
  Speaker 3: It's thick.
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  Speaker 4: It's coming out like.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: It come out different.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: It looks sugary and sweet. How you mess that up, sis?
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: How you mess that up? Put your fucking hands up, bitch.
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: Stupid. All right, y'all. Listen, so if you enjoyed this episode,
• 40:52
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• 40:55
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• 40:57
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• 41:00
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• 41:01
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• 41:02
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• 41:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all. It's official TAMM on Instagram. Y'all follow me.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: I love y'all. Remember to speak now.
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: And never hold your motherfucking meat or peace, even for Thanksgiving.
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: Gobble, gobble.